Relationships and Marriage,

                                            RELATIONSHIPS, DATING, & MARRIAGE

I've had A series of questions asked of me over the years on this topic, by both single men and my fellow Dom's. In the past, the single men these women and my self were seeking to hook up with or date have on occasion asked, "Are you in a relationship?" This was expected from time to time, but it didn't happen that often so it wasn't really a need to address. Back then things were different and most guys were just looking for the sex, if a relationship started, so be it! If the question ever arose most women said NO, or I'm in an open relationship and most of the time all was good. Over the years it appears that more guys are asking this question. My guess is that it has to do with the tremendous increase of women seeking sex outside their relationship, be it dating or marriage. But not just from this lifestyle, Swingers and vanilla women as well are seeking sex from single males. While the number of Dominatrix/Mistresses have increased drastically, its not just this that has impacted the increased rise in questions from single men. These days, a lot of involved women are cuckolding, seeking "BIGGER" better and longer sex from single men, while they enjoy the love, comfort, support, and security, of their relationship. Of course who could blame them, women are intelligent no matter what lifestyle they live. So why wouldn't women who know nothing about this lifestyle (or just to scared about social conviction from friends, family, or co-workers) want to enjoy cuckolding, taking his paycheck and having the best sex they can. With all in consideration, a single guy looking to find a relationship or hook up is far more likely find that she is already in some sort of commitment with someone else than find a true single female. So a single male in the field has over time discovered that the majority of the women he has talked to or hooked up with is in fact spoken for in some manner, especially if she is attractive or fit. Thus the rise in questions from these single men if "YOU" are in a relationship or married. Most Women that have been in this lifestyle for years can deal with this easily enough as we always have. However with the rise of new women joining our ranks so quickly with out proper training or information on how to deal with being a women of power, she is unsure what to say, or how to react. Also the question has arose from time to time here lately, "Do I have a moral obligation to answer truthfully?"

Well here is the truth, if he asked you if your in a relationship or married, he is meaning in the conventional sense, husband and wife like vanilla's do. Meaning having regular, normal sex, day to day intimacy, living as equals with equal power and say. Which in his mind says that he has no hopes for anything other than a one time hook up or a few casual encounters at best. Even worse a husband or boyfriend that would beat him up or damage his property. But that's not you, you don't have that type of marriage or relationship, and you don't want that type. If you are in this lifestyle, you do not have a conventional relationship.....Especially if you are married. Sex and intimacy is not even in your vocabulary with your sub and it shouldn't be. You don't want your bitch for sex, and frankly you don't want him to have anything to do with your pussy, or any pussy. You want him as a bitch, your submissive, cock loving bitch. You surely don't want him as an equal, and honestly his only purpose is to serve and obey you, to make your life better. So in reality, you are looking for a boyfriend or lover to date, to give you the better sex you want, spend time with and even more with the right guy. Just because you are married does not mean you can't be a Mistress/dominatrix and have things your way or that you have to suffer sexually because of this commitment. In fact, the fact that you are married gives you even more of the power and your only commitment to your partner is to love only him, to stand by him, and care for his well being until death due you part. It has nothing to do with sex or who you have sex with and it surely doesn't mean he is granted sex or that you ever have to give sex to him at all. On the contrary, being married means you say when sex happens and how or what type of sex happens. Sex can be anything you allow, like him in a chastity licking you off for hours, allowing him to jerk off once a month, him sucking on a big cock (real or not) or him getting pounded by a big cock (real or not).  So if a single guy asks, the answer to his question should truthfully and always be NO, you are not married or your in an open relationship.

You at some point were oblivious to this lifestyle, you didn't realize the power, and the pleasure you could have. But you knew and even saw in other relationships that women gave orders and the men would obey, especially with the threat of no sex. Deep down inside, the longer you were married you knew you were the boss, that you made the rules, and that he would do what you said or be refused sex. So you obviously didn't marry him for the sex, even if it was OK or good sex, you married him for everything else as I said above. Let me ask you this, purely talking sex and no thought of a relationship or marriage; knowing what you know now about cock size, sex, pleasure, and orgasms, would you have even had sex with your husband or would you laughed turning him down for sex? My bet is that you would have denied him from the start, just like your denying him now. At first sex with him was new, probably good (before you knew what good sex was) and maybe even passionate, it was an emotional bonding time. But eventually (even though you might of had OK orgasms) it was just to make him happy. But the sex is dull and quick, or he can't keep it hard. By now you really don't ever think about sex with him, but you do think about having sex with other well endowed men. Am I right? Now that you have had great sex and long powerful orgasms, there is no way you want to to give that up. You probably aren't even sexually attracted to him, and are more turned on by the thought of him being your bitch and serving you then having that tiny, pathetic excuse for a dick inside you. So, you know you didn't marry him for the sex, you married him for the same instinctive reason 95% of women marry the men they do, because you can control him, because he is good to you, because he is a good father and a good supporter for you, and because you love him. None of these has to do with sex or your pleasure and thus why you have chosen to take your natural place as the boss and authority. To have him take his natural place serving at your feet, to date and get the sex you love and deserve.

You see, your husband has been domesticated, it happens naturally as it is his natural biological place to follow orders from his dominant wife when she takes control of her pussy and his will. It happens to 99 % of married men. This happens out of this lifestyle, on a much milder level, but often leads to women joining the lifestyle when she feels the power and control she has. He can't help it, pussy is very powerful as are the urges he has, to get it. Over time, or in the hands of a very dominant woman, his will to a mild degree has become yours and he finds himself doing things to please you, obeying, and buying you what you want. This is to get your approvals and possibly the graces of sex. The more this becomes routine, and pleasing you is his only access to sex, the more submissive he becomes. The so called marriage papers and the act of doing so were nothing more than the signing and proof of ownership, to you the WIFE. This is all great for the vanilla woman (like you use to be) but the problem with a domesticated male is he becomes lazy, the sex is dull and quick (but quick is probably a good thing though) he still has the ability to argue or become unruly and your sex life suffers greatly. However, being a Mistress or Dominatrix has taken his domestication to a whole new level. The Mistress/Dominatrix women uses this power and defines it, making it stronger and him weaker. She is dominant, aggressive, and ruthless towards him. She doesn't just take control of his will, she breaks it to destroy the male part and create a submissive, a slave, a bitch. She doesn't suffer from lack of sex, she makes him suffer from continual tease and denial and never an orgasm. She embraces her sexuality and the ability to have hot, erotic sex and mind blowing orgasms with whoever she wants, when ever she wants. She gives him strict rules, chores, and enforces them with severe punishments, especially for back talk, questioning, or disobeying. It is her commitment to getting what she wants that gets her what she wants. Her actions, demeanor,  attitude, punishments, humiliation and extremely active cuckolding dictate his submission level and willingness to obey.   

 Domestication doesn't happen to single males, you have to be owned via marriage (or long term relationship) having regular access to pussy. A dominant woman and the threat of loss of that pussy brings it out. They can be submissive, especially ones that were in a previous relationship where the female was very dominant. However,  in general single males are more less wild, and thus better sex partners or lovers. Not so much in the relationship sense though, there is a reason they are single. Men are very simple creatures, as you would expect from something meant to serve females. They really only require SEX, food and sleep to keep them happy, with sex being the majority part of that. It is a proven fact, through study after study; Males think about sex  most of the day and a males main goal is to deposit his semen, he has a biological urge to do so. While he may get some weak pleasure from the act of sex, it is the climax of ejaculating sperm into a pussy that yields 95% of his pleasure. This climax is relatively felt the same no matter the pussy.  So any pussy will do, thus why a male is turned on visually. It is very different for a woman, as you know. We enjoy the act of sex and the building of the orgasm as well as the intensity of the orgasm. We enjoy sex as a whole and as such the difference in size and shape gives of various types of pleasure, with regards to the bigger and thicker the cock the better the sex and the orgasm. So by definition not just any cock will do. We were meant to have a variety to have the best sexual experiences, not just one small or less than average cock. This is why they make so many types and sizes of dildo's for women and why most of the sex toys are for women. There may be several manufactures of pocket pussy's but the hole is all the same with the only factor of being which one feels more real. Pussy toys only try to mimic the feel and sensation of the real thing, while some cock toys try to mimic the same, most (even life like cocks) are made to pleasure a woman by SIZE, THICKNESS, including, TEXTURE, HUMPS, GROVES, RIDGES, or what ever. We were meant to experience different kinds of sex. This is the best part and the main reason women choose to be a Dom and take their rightful place as the authority and queen, to fuck whom ever you want when ever you want. You should always be actively searching, flirting, dating, and fucking.....Every thing else with the lifestyle is just a bonus!