BDSM - the sadist within the femdom lifestyle part 2

                                           Female Sadist 

                                                               Part 2 

As a Dom, being a female Sadist is very important, it is your highest quality as a Dom, the internal compass that focuses your power and is the source of pleasure which drives you to be dominant, ruthless, and aggressive. It is also key to being a successful Dominatrix and maximizing his submission to the fullest you deserve, and you deserve to be served and obeyed!!! Because of this, it is extremely important that you let out that side of you and embrace it, be the woman you were meant to be, the women you need to be, his mistress. You will need to change your whole demeanor and attitude towards him, for it is your interactions with him that emphasizes your place and authority. It is the way you speak to him, and how you treat him that reinforces your power and authority over him. A strict, aggressive, and dominant Mistress will get much further with a submissive than an innocent, quiet speaking, and polite, wife will ever get and that is fact.  

A Mistress is not nice or polite to her bitch and she definitely is not reasonable, accepting, or respectful towards him. She is a strict, demanding, cruel and ruthless, bitch and she doesn't care about what he wants, what he likes, his thoughts or feelings on anything. Why should she, It will be her way always, she does not request, ask, or negotiate, she demands and commands, she gives orders and expects complete submission. I can not stress it enough, YOU are the only key to your success and to be successful you need to demand respect, obedience, and submission. NEVER accept back talk, unruly behavior, or disobedience, doing so reduces your control and gives him power. You must be dominant, cruel, and very strict, extremely hard core, as they say, so you don't look feeble and weak. Never give the impression he can control anything as there should be no question who the boss is and he should fear displeasing you. Your going to need to be aggressive, relentless, very cruel, and do things you may never thought you could.....Things he never thought you would or could do. Things that are very humiliating and emasculating to him, like licking clean all cum messes, peeing on his face (if you really want to show dominance, piss in his mouth, maybe even drink a little of it), spitting in his face, or better in his mouth (which is actually no different than kissing except you don't get any of his saliva), posting ads on bi-sexual and gay sites to have him used sexually (always chastity on), Make him knell in public, address you as mistress in public, admit that he obeys you in public, even make him stand in a corner at the mall, etc. Things that are cruel and degrading like keeping him in a dog cage and only allow him to eat from dog bowels on the floor, making him (actually forbid him the privilege of using the toilet), use the restroom in kitty litter box in his cage (even if he is allowed the privilege to be out of the cage he must go in and use the kitty litter box), make him worshiping your feet and ass hole with his tongue, make him wear a collar at all times possible and even walk him around on a leash. Forbid him from getting off his knees while in your presence. Clean the bathroom with a toothbrush, make him wear his sissy panties 24/7 or lingerie and fuck a dildo, then break out the camera and record it and  post it on a gay or bi website to have him used sexually. Use your mind and do every thing you can think of to humiliate, degrade, and emasculate him, no mater how bad or terrible you think it is, that is the point!!!!! 

You will need stop thinking like a wife and equal partner, let go of being a wife with a vanilla life and conventional marriage, this is not how you want it, not how its supposed to be, and its not your natural place. You cannot be his friend, or allow him to be your equal, make any decisions (and I do mean any at all) have an opinion, give input, or speak with out permission for that matter. You must realize his true purpose is to kneel at your feet, to to please you, make your life better, to serve and obey you, to simply be your bitch! You need to take your rightful and natural place, be the Dominant and strict authority, the Boss, the Mistress! You don't need a husband, and deep inside you don't want a husband, you will have something far more valuable, much better and more satisfying. A submissive sissy bitch that will worship the ground you walk on, give you all the securities of a husband (with out all the bullshit that comes with it), hand over his pay, do all the chores, run errands, clean up after you, serve and obey you. Plus as I said, you get none of the negative issues of having a husband, like him questioning you, bitching at you, having to answer to him, cleaning up after him, chores, made to have unsatisfying sex, and do things he wants. Instead you will come and go as you please, do as you want with no questions, no compromising, spoil yourself, and best of all have the best sex of your life while you date and fuck whom ever you want when you want.

A Dominatrix is an intelligent woman and she knows very well how to get what she wants. Her mind is her strongest tool, it is built to control, to rule over her bitch, and it is the strength to keeping control. Her body is her weapon, she will use her body and her hormones (copulins) to seduce and hypnotize her bitch and keep him happily in his place. A Dominatrix is proud of what she is, and takes pride in her position, she is the superior sex. She is exalted, she is privileged, she is female and she will be served, obeyed, and worshiped as a mistress. She should never be shy, timid or embarrassed, about her position and authority. She will flaunt her power and position over him, she will demand complete submission and respect. She should be extremely pissed off for (the three D's) disobedience, disrespect, and dissatisfaction. A sexy dominant and sadistic women could have anything she wants, she could even rule the world or at least rule the most powerful men in the world and many women do. A sadistic Dom is especially important with the more extreme sides of femdom like cuckolding and sissifying. I'll explain; When cuckolding you don't want sex with your bitch, you probably don't even want to touch his clitty and you really don't care that he will never feel the pleasure of pussy or have an orgasm again. that is part of your sadistic side,  and that side will also want to humiliate him about those facts and how his little clitty is pathetic.  You are sadistic and think its funny that *****  will also humiliate him by telling your girlfriends and boyfriends )ones that know of your lifestyle) As a sadistic Dom, you also don't care about his feelings on anything or how often, when and where you have sex with other men or your BF, its truly is none of his business. Why should it be, its your pussy, your sex, your pleasure and that is exactly how its supposed to be. Your the Dom and he's the bitch, the only thing he should be focused on is serving and obeying you, right? Absolutely! That is also your sadistic side enjoying your power and freedom, and loving his obedience and humiliation of being cuckolded. However the real sadist fun starts when you date a boyfriend full time, and your bitch truly becomes a cuckold. That's when you really get pleasure and the extreme humiliation starts. This is the time the extreme sadist needs to come out, extreme humiliation needs an extreme sadistic Dom. Your going to train for and permanently lock away his clitty, you will also take pussy completely away from him as it now rightfully belongs to your BF. Of course your going to verbally humiliate him from the start but that's not good enough for a sadistic Dom. Your going to rub his fucking face in your much better sex life. not only will you tell him all about how much better the sex is, positions, how many orgasms, how you love his much bigger cock and how he reaches places the bitch never could. But you will also force him to aid in your and your BF's pleasure. You might hive him worship your feet or ass while your getting fucked (accommodating positions to make that possible) or maybe you want to put him beneath you so he can see up front and personal as that big cock spreads you wide open, only to have him clean the mess as your BF's cum drips from your freshly fucked pussy directly into his mouth. While the both of you humiliate him and you finger feed the rest to him (warning this will need training and a mouth spreader the first 2 or 3 times) If at all possible you might make him watch and serve your BF as well, sucking that big cock hard for you or having your BF cum directly into his mouth as you bitch is locked kneeling (also requires training and a mouth spreader the first 2 or 3 times). Regardless to rather this is a show and tell BF or not, you will make him smell your sex through your used panties or directly when you make him do clean up duty and then humiliate him about how pathetic he is and how he could never make you cum and will never feel pussy again. The humiliation can never be extreme enough...

But you want more, you want to satisfy that deep desire with in you...His penetration! His sissification! You want to feminize him and make him your cock loving sissy bitch. You love the power you feel when you fuck him with that big strap-on cock making him moan and scream turning him into a sissy. You love making him suck your dildo's and beg for your big cock, but the sadist inside you say's that's not good enough, your deep desire is the power to transform him into a real cock slut. You want him craving and begging to be fucked, but you want it done by real cock! You want to watch him kneel and suck a real mans cock, then get fucked by it while you masturbate, maybe even joining in the fun with your strap-on. You probably even want him submitting to a real man, any man for that matter, any man that will use him good, especially men that loves it or knows how to make him submit. You not alone, sissy training is the most popular among Femdom women, and they use it to make their bitches completely submissive so they never disobey or interfere with their ability to date real men.

You don't ever want to stop fucking your boyfriend or go back to a vanilla life, and you really don't want to fuck that little clit of his. So your going to do what ever it takes to keep him submissive and humiliated, your going to make sure he knows his place. Your future and success greatly depends on your ability to take your place to its fullest, because eventually he will rebel to some degree or another. The chastity, lack of sex, and you enjoying all the great sex you want, will get the best of him, it will cause him to question you, to argue, to fight, in order to destroy his place or your power over him. You will not let that happen, you will be the Mistress he needs you to be in order to accept his place, you will be the sadistic Dom.

You want to extremely humiliate him, make him weak and submissive, the kind of submission that only comes from you fucking other men on a regular basis. Your going to go out and meet guys, and get all the cock you want. Your going to humiliate him about it while you make him lick clean the mess and your going to love how submissive it makes him. Eventually you will find a hot guy that really turns you on, one with a big cock that you love to fuck, a lot. You will want to take your pussy completely away from the bitch as you make a more serious relationship with the new BF. So your going to need your sadistic bitch to ensure you get what you want. After about 2 weeks of dating your new BF, your going to whip your bitch into a cuckolding submission of your new BF, your going to make sure he knows he has no choice or input of you dating. Again your going to love how submissive he becomes because of it. Your going to welt up and bruise his ass while you make him beg you to get fucked. As you whip his ass red and swollen, your going to tell him that your going to start dating full time, that your new boyfriend owns your pussy. You will continue to whip as you tell him its none of his fucking business who you fuck or how often your BF gets pussy, that he is never permitted to ask questions. You will make him acknowledge this and then tell him he is never to ask what time you will be home, or expect anything when you do get home. you will reinforce that he is to never touch your phone. You will whip him for at least 30 minutes, making sure that he is begging and pleading for mercy and drive it into his head that he has no say so and that his only place is serving and obeying.

Now your sadist side is shining but the fun has just begun, the first time you make him clean up the mess (you will always make him clean up the mess), tie him down, positioned and ready to be whipped, then use your fingers to scoop out the cum or empty the condom into a dog dish or a small plate and place it in front of him. As he is looking at it, tell him about the sex, how many times he made you cum, how he fucked you long and hard, how much you enjoyed his bigger cock. Tell him to smell it as you put the fingers you used to scoop out the cum in front of his nose, then tell him to smell the cum in the dog dish as you force his nose into it! Tell him he is going to lick it up, but not until he begs you to do it. This is the fun part, he is really humiliated thinking about having to lick it clean especially from a dog bowl and not from your pussy. He won't beg to do it, at least not yet but that will change shortly. Now your going to start whipping his ass with out a break and tell him you will stop when he begs you to lick it up. When he does, your not going to allow him to lick it until you whip his ass good and welt it up, you see the key is, you want him truly begging and pleading to lick it up. During which time you going to tell him you will stop whipping him when you feel he truly wants to lick the cum up to please you, when he has sincerely begged you good enough and when you allow him that PRIVILAGE he had better lick it up like he loves it, like his ass depends on it or you will whip him even longer. Once you have whipped him good enough and he is really begging to lick it up (remember he must be saying, "Mistress may I please have the privilege of cleaning up the mess!!") then you will command him to lick it and be aggressive saying "lick every fucking drop you pathetic bitch and thank me for that privilege (make sure he thanks you that way). As he is licking it up hit his ass a few times and say, "that's a good bitch, lick it all up, soon you'll be getting it straight from the cock!" Now, the next time he will be eager to clean up the mess but if not to your pleasure then repeat this. He will eventually find pleasure in pleasing you this way, but as I said you may need to whip him a second or third time if he is not doing it eagerly enough for you or if you just love the excitement (he should be licking it like a runny ice creme cone getting every last drop). From there you will do your regular training but remember after you return from fucking not to remove his chastity, he is only allowed his pussy play (fucking him), and remember to be cruel and very dominant.

During your entire relationship with your BF, you need to make it extremely humiliating for him, you need to constantly tell him how much you enjoy the cock, how the BF gets it often, and how he will never feel pussy again or cum through his clitty. It is important to keep your bitch in the mix, tell him all the details of how many times he made you cum, how he took a 20 minute break and fucked you again, how he woke you up in the middle of the night and fucked you, how you gave him a BJ in the morning, or how he fucked you in the break room at work or you left work early to meet him for sex, those are the things that will really humiliate him. Your also going to need to come up with ways to humiliate him physically like forcing him to suck on the used condom (if you fuck at your house). Eventually you will want stop using condoms and then you'll have to blind fold him and drip it into his mouth finger feeding it to him. Allow him to smell the sex first to really build his arousal and your pheromones (copulins). You will have to let out your sadistic side, see him as a bitch, and force him to do sissy things like sucking other cock, fucked by other men, find a Master or Bull for him to serve and service on a regular basis (possibly when you stay the night or weekend at the BF house). Keep this in mind though, when it first starts off its going to be new for him, humiliation that also turns him on is a very powerful submission tool. It will be exciting and arousing, forcing him deeper into submission than ever before. BUT as weeks turn into months and he is denied sex, orgasm, and all access to pussy while you flaunt your sex, fucking this much larger cock on a regular basis, the cuckolding angst may get the best of him. Excitement may turn into jealousy, and the humiliation that also turns him on will be more humiliation than a turn on. Not of the BF, but because he is getting pussy (if your doing it right, very often), and your bitch is not getting anything. Obviously being a true sadistic Dom, you don't give a fuck how humiliating it is, what he wants or how he feels about it, and you shouldn't, your going to keep fucking your BF and your going to do what ever it takes to keep it that way! He will never have anything to do with pussy, his dicklet will not get touched and you have no sympathy for him, even if he cries about it. He is your bitch, that's his purpose to you and what you want him to be, in fact, its turning you on more now that he realizes he can do nothing about it, that he must submit and his place is serving you from now on, especially since he is at his most submissive state and very eager to obey you because of it! However, he may start to rebel...While you should do things to keep it exciting for him as much as possible like pegging him every 3 or 4 times you get fucked, letting him hear on the phone, watch (close up) if that's possible or even included in to enhance your sexual pleasure, used sexually by other men to change up the humiliation, or what ever works. However, sooner or later there is a chance he will become very unruly, induce fighting, cause an argument, or any other excuse to end his submission or or worse simply not want to do it anymore.

First off, if your being the proper strict and aggressive Dom, utilizing your sadistic side with discipline and punishments from the start, then the temper tantrum (or any temper tantrum for that matter) will be Far, FAR less likely to happen and a lot easier to deal with if it did!!!! You need to always handle the outburst or fit correctly (meaning don't fall for it and maintain your control). A smart Dom knows she has the power, thus she doesn't need to yell or scream at him causing the fight or argument to spin out of control. A smart Dom doesn't fight or argue, she knows fighting is bad and makes her look weak, that ANGER is the enemy and the only chemical release that will kill his submission. Its all about how you handle the situation and bring your bitch under control, try to punish him immediately for it if possible, if not then punish him for it later. Be calm but speak in a firm voice saying, "shut your fucking mouth now and get in your place!" snap your finger and point to the floor in front of you. If he tries to speak again, immediately  repeat the step, If he doesn't listen and continues then say "we will talk about it after you take your fucking place" Note* 90% of all arguments, fights, or outburst happen when he is standing or sitting and rarely if he is in his place, thus the reason he needs to be in his place as much as possible when he is not serving or doing chores.* If he is still trying to speak or is not in his place say, "you already have a sever punishment, do you want to make it worse?" As I said if you have been doing your job from the start, he will fear those words and get in his place, if not then you have not been doing your job and you will have to calmly work through the outburst but try to get him back into his roll and on his knees as soon as possible.

Again if you would have been the proper Dom and using your sadist side during training and punishments the temper tantrum probably wouldn't happen in the first place as he would fear the severe punishment from it. No its not the same and would have no effect if you suddenly decide to punish him correctly after he wants to stop the lifestyle or you to stop having sex with other men or your boyfriend, or what ever the reason. Because at that point the angst or anger has already built out of control and you won't even get him into the dungeon let alone the position to be tied down to take his punishment. It is the discipline you follow, the type of control you yield, the fear he has, and the severe punishments he endures through out training and 24/7 that will keep him in check, keep him from having a temper tantrum, and returning to the bench for his punishment when he does get mouthy or rebels. Trust me nothing is worse in femdom then having to stop fucking a hot guy that you really like, with an awesome cock, that fucks you really good because you didn't do what you were suppose to this whole time. Because you were lazy, not dominant, and aggressive enough, and did not punish every time he disobeyed or broke a rule. Ask yourself, what do you really want, picture it in your mind, and then do everything you need to make it happen.

As a Dom you you want to be successful, you need to embrace your sadist side, you need to let it out and let it consume you. Feel its power, enjoy it, feed off it and let it give you pleasure as you use it to break him and force him to be the perfect submissive bitch. Let it guide and evolve you into the  powerful women you are meant to be. Use it to make him fear you, use it to give him extreme humiliation, use it to force his submission. Enjoy his torment, and make him suffer for you, break his will and force him to do things for your pleasure and laugh at him because of it. Use it to emasculate him, to feminize him, to make him feel weak and submissive. Feel the rush of power, excitement, and ecstasy as you whip his ass bright red, extremely welted, that last for days. Listen to him scream out, pleading for you to stop, telling you he will be a good little bitch and beg to serve you...You get wet from hearing how submissive he is, you want more, you want to see him crying like a big sissy baby, you want him to suffer and know you have the power and he will never disobey you again. Take it slow and make it lengthy as you want this to be remembered, you don't care of the pain he endures, his screams or begs you to stop. No, on the contrary you love it, it so turns you on, gets you wet, and has you thinking about sex with your boyfriend because you know you will have his cock as long and often as you want because you are letting out your sadistic side. Because you have whipped him and humiliated him into submission. You love that you hold the power to stop when you see fit and it makes you even wetter to hear him scream begging you to stop, knowing he will be your bitch for it, that he will be completely submissive and do what ever you say when you finally stop. That he'll suck that cock when you command or drop to his knees in public...You will break him and create a submissive bitch forever serving and obey you. 

Being sadistic is not only about making him suffer pain and punishments, its also about his humiliation. In fact 90 % of being a sadist is about how you humiliate him and make him suffer through out the day and nights when he isn't being punished or tortured for you amusement. This is through the use of your voice by humiliating him, and the use of physical acts by forcing him to do things that humiliate him. This can be anything from having him knell in a corner sucking a dildo, having him do clean up duty every time you fuck, to making him serve another person or pleasure another male. You should make him eat and drink from a dog dish, ask permission to do anything, spit in his face and mouth (spit is the same thing as french kissing so its the act that is humiliating) cage him at your desecration, stand him in the corner at the mall while you shop, walk him around your house on a leash, don't allow him to speak in public (you will order his food). Remember, he is your bitch, you should not care of his thoughts, feelings, or desires as he is there to serve you, to obey you, and suffer for you. It is your way always, you are the female, his dominatrix, the only authority and he has no say so, at all!  No real Dom would ever put up with with attitude, backtalk, disobedience, demands, lectures, interrogations or questions. Let your sadist side show him you will not put up with it, make him regret is unruliness and make sure he is less likely repeat it. Make him suffer extreme humiliation, turn him sissy, have him used, suck cock, shave hair off his body, wear panties bra's, stockings, wigs, heels, service other men while your out, swallow cum, serve in public, serve in front of your select friends, what ever humiliates him do it, break him and put him in his place. What ever turns you on, what ever excites you, for him to be what you want him to be and how you want him to behave, always push him deeper and think of new ways to humiliate him.

Some questions and remarks I get all the time from women; Is there a limit to how you treat you sub, if there is anything to humiliating, or out of reason for punishments? or How hard is to hard for whipping, are the whippings online real? My husband is to manly, there is no way he will submit to me! My man would never admit he was wrong let alone submit to a beating for it! My husband would leave me if I tried to fuck another man! Let me start with the easy one, Yes I assure you those are real beatings by real Doms, on their subs. Every thing you see on websites, porn hub or where ever is real, you can't fake that type of stuff and trust me I've been involved with some of it, selling vid's for cash. Some are women who are punishing their domestic sub (husband) and some are women punishing owned subs. Owned subs are men that the Dom has no prior relationship ties with, and used for his services or they can be men (usually single men) who pay or support Doms to be used and owned. Most of these video's show women releasing their sadistic side and punishing for what ever the reason or just for fun. It is the norm and reality of punishments for subs who disobey or have a mistress fond of breaking her male slave down to nothing but serving. These are very common, even the extreme ones. I personally use crops, canes, and whips/leather straps for punishments. I use a slapper crop, a flat end crop, a 3/8 cane, a 1/4 cane, a cat of nine leather tails, leather strap, and a leather whip. I use firm strokes that are fairly hard, but not to hard (I judge by his yelps) so that I can whip for long periods of time with out major skin damage as I want his punishment to be long and remembered. The marks and damage will come in time and will hurt longer the more time you spend whipping. I spend at least 20 to 40 minutes of time whipping him (depending on his punishments). I start out with 100 to 150 hits before I give the actual punishment whippings and I whip him in a series of 10-20 consecutive strokes, take a few seconds break and repeat, after a few series of whippings I hit one at a time for 10 or 20 strikes (harder than normal to really bring out the stinging pain), then I go right back to my series of 11-20 strokes, mixing it up during the entire punishment. During this time I scold him, humiliate him, spit in his face, crop hit his balls, slap his balls, squeeze his balls, pull his hair. When I'm done I leave him there for a few minutes before release, then command him to knell in the corner to reflect his punishment, then I make him thank me for it. Punishments can also be acts, positions (such as put into the corner) extra chores, loss of free time, lost of allowance/money, loss of pleasure, what ever you want especially if it is humiliating. You may also do with whipping him, before or after whipping him, use CBT, bondage, candle wax, electric tens unit, toppings (icy hot) or roots in the anus like ginger or radish. The only limit is nothing that involves minors, family, or friends (unless they are lifestyle friends)

Now, Is there anything to humiliating or out of reason, NO, unless against the rule above. Many women use sissy training, to turn him into a sissy and that is one of the most humiliating types of subs. Its so humiliating because it involves transforming your male into a sissy, he is not a man or a girl but a male that has been feminized and trained to serve both. This is humiliation on two fronts as ONE, it is extremely humiliating to serve and obey a man, pleasing real cock by sucking or being fucked, (Bull, boyfriend, a gay or bi-male). TWO its also very humiliating to serve and obey another female, as she now has knowledge that the sub is a sissy bitch, has a little clitty, wears a chastity, is completely denied sex and takes cock and cock whipped....Not to mention if she humiliates him because of it or he is used to enhance their sex via licking ass, sucking on toes, tits or what ever. I use mostly gay or Bi-men as they really get into using him for their pleasure. Note* the first few times should be with your bitch tied down with necessary toys to carry out the scene) your imagination is your only limitation. I've seen women who are very talented and imaginative to humiliate their subs, some using tattoo's or branding, chemical castration, feminizing with forced cross dressing, forced transvestite (extreme sissy) public humiliation, being receiver of gay male orgy/train, and just about every use of submission you can think of.

Is there a limit to how you treat your sub, NO, what you do to him and how you want him to behave is up to you and only limited by your imagination, amount of training, and your ability to commit and make it happen. If it excites you or turns you on then go for it as long as it doesn't break the above rule. I'll tell you about mine; My slave is always to kneel in his place when he comes home and await orders (unless done via text) he must always kneel at my feet when he approaches, and must always ask for permission to speak. He must ask for permission to do anything, including the bathroom. I treat him 100% as a sissy bitch, he must wear panties 24-7-365 (I have removed all but 5 of his undies for just in case moments). He must shave his ass, his balls, his pussy and clit area every other day. When we eat, I eat first, then he is allowed to eat on the floor from the dog bowl, and drink from a dog bowl. if we go out to eat, I order for him he is not permitted to speak or look at te server. Again I eat and then box his up to return home and put into the dog bowl. He must shave and shower every day and scrub his chastity (he wears the chastity 24-7-365 only removed for extra cleaning) At night he is to sleep on the floor with a small blanket and a pillow (unless being punished) He must always address me as mistress or "M" around other people. He is given chores to do every day, when I go out I lock him in a dog cage, when I have males or my BF over he is also locked in the dog cage (the dog cage is in basement) he is allowed to hear me fuck most times (unless being punished) and the cage is brought up to the spare BR at those times. He is given a bowl of water and a container to urinate in, until his release (if it is an emergency he may break the plastic dish to get the key to release himself with a sever punishment on that chance) He must open all doors and slide my seat if possible.

The point is to embrace your sadist side, to train him how you want him trained, and to enjoy the pleasures of having sexual freedom and a bitch to serve!

BDSM - The sadist within the femdom lifestyle part 1

                              FEMDOM SADIST 

                                                                    Part 1

BDSM stands for; Bondage - Discipline - Sadist - Masochist. In the female domination lifestyle (Femdom for short) BDSM is an aspect of the lifestyle, just as cuckolding, sissification, and various other fetishes are. MAKE NO MISTAKE, this is a 24/7 lifestyle and the natural way of order.  

Bondage is not just about physically tying him down or binding him in certain positions or places. It is also a metaphor that means much more as it represents the entirety of Femdom as a whole, and a lifestyle. Bondage is a display and use of your power, it is forcing him to kneel and obey, to follow rules, orders, and a routine of service and chores. It is a belief that you are the superior sex and should always be in control, the authority, the Mistress. Its your power-his weakness, your authority-his submission, your freedom-his servitude. You controlling his actions, his body and even his mind. Bondage is forcing him and changing him to become what you want, training his body and mind to submit and obey with out question, thoughts, or balk talk. It is you replacing his wants, needs and sexual desires to yours, making him know and believe his place is serving and obeying you, the Mistress. Bondage is physical restraint and more importantly strict mental control......Breaking his will, emasculating him, feminizing him, making him weak and forcing him to submit, to serve and obey. But it is also about your pleasure, your desires, your sexual freedom, doing what you want, whenever you want. It is taking your place as his mistress and forcing him into his, using your power over him and creating the type of submissive you desire and deserve! 

Discipline is not the same as punishments although the two go hand in hand. Discipline is a strict act or practice of training your male to follow a routine of service, to submit and obey, to follow rules and orders, using severe punishments to correct and deter disobedience. Discipline is breaking him down, emasculating him, feminizing him, forcing him into his natural place and bringing out his submission and desire to serve you. It requires you doing your part, being strict, aggressive, controlling, cruel, dominant and doing whatever it takes to get the submission you want and deserve. You must be serious, and extremely committed, put in the time and effort to get what you truly want and deserve. Discipline has no morals, no discrepancy, no bottom line, no point to far, and is unyielding to extract the perfect submissive....You simply do what you must in order to achieve a perfectly trained sissy bitch servant. Discipline and the use of punishments have no mercy, no sympathy, no regret and should always be aggressive, relentless, ruthless, humiliating, and demanding. Discipline with punishments is to be feared, to be dominant, to be sexy, to be idolized, and to be worshiped as a Mistress and superior. It is using control, humiliation and severe punishments with a forceful aggressive like demeanor and attitude to achieve the desired submission.    

Sadist is a female who gets sexual pleasure or excitement from the humiliation, pain, and punishments of her male submissive. She loves the power, the control, and servitude of her male while she has the freedom to have sex with whoever she wants and do as she pleases. She loves to use humiliation to deepen his submission and control him. She enjoys teasing him with her sexuality, her body, her voice, while denying him any access to her body, especially pussy, and sexual relief. She loves to destroy his masculinity, forcing him to surrender and accept his submissive place....Bowing his head in humiliation because of it, as he begs to serve her. More so, it pleases her to inflict pain to force his submission and obedience to her. She loves to flaunt her sexual freedom and affairs in his face, humiliating him about his inadequate size, performance, and how pathetic he is. She gets excited and even wet when she hears him screaming and begging her to stop as she inflicts pain from punishments, especially after his ass is severely welted, marked up, and bruised, insuring he won't soon forget he is there to serve and obey.  She loves to hear the begging turn into screaming out, crying, and pleading for her to stop, because she knows this is true power and he will be extremely submissive because of it. She loves seeing him on his knees, obeying her and it greatly excites her to turn him into a sissy cock loving slut and hear him moan from her cock, submitting to it, craving it, transforming him into a cock whipped bitch. She loves and enjoys the power and control over her submissive with no regard or care of his thoughts, feelings, wants or needs. He is not her equal, he is not a man, he is her sissy bitch who's only purpose is to pay for pussy and serve and obey. He is not her mate, or husband, he is simply there to serve, to obey, and to worship her as his superior, his Mistress.

Masochist is a male who has been broken or near broken and emasculated, disciplined and converted to derive pleasure and even sexual gratification from his submission to his Mistress. You forcing his loss of masculinity, freedom, pleasure, sex, orgasms, and sexual enslavement has changed how he achieves pleasure. He has lost all normal means of pleasure, been placed in chastity, dominated, controlled and exposed to heavy humiliation through cuckolding, pegging and/or sissified. Usually he is cuckolded because of his small penis size and poor sexual performance, which ironically leads most Mistresses into the lifestyle. The cuckolding inflects extreme humiliation, especially when done properly, which furthers and deepens his submission, a cycle that creates mental enslavement and forced submission.  As a cuckold, he has complete loss of orgasms, is permanently denied sex, and usually denied anything at all to do with or associated with pussy. This means he is denied any real physical pleasure that would grant him a penis orgasm, thus keeping him dependent on her sexual affairs/cuckolding, pegging, and cruel acts for pleasure. He cannot resist being turned on by a cruel dominant, aggressive female, in fact he is naturally submissive to this demeanor. Some of her strongest power and control over him is being cruel, humiliating and degrading him and treating him like a bitch, forcing him to be just that. To show she does not care about what's done to get his submission, or the extremes she does to keep him submissive. He is now simply "a sissy bitch", whose only purpose to to pay her bills, serve and obey!   

       🅰️mistress truly believes that she is the authority, and was meant to rule over her bitch and control everything. She knows his natural place is kneeling at her feet with the sole purpose to hand over his paycheck, serve and obey her. He is owned and her property, existing only to amuse and please her. She will do anything and everything in her power to make that happen, there is no other way of life, and nothing more important than keeping her sissy bitch in his place. She will never let anything get in the way of her belief, her desires, and the femdom lifestyle. She will never return to the social norm of mutual respect, and equality of conventional marriage. This is not the natural way, it is an illusion conspired by small dick men trying to control sex with women and keep them powerless. She will never go back to the short, dull, chore of unsatisfying sex, as she knows SEX is for women's pleasure, given only to endowed males, worthy of her pleasure. Her sissy bitch is not meant for sex, he doesn't even deserve sexual pleasure of any kind, in fact he wasn't meant to have anything to do with her pussy, and deserves to be locked in chastity permanently. Her marriage is that of a Mistress/Dominatrix and a submissive sissy bitch, a marriage of female dominance and superiority, and her devoted obedient sissy bitch. She desires and wants nothing more than a real man to fulfill her sexually and a sexless submissive sissy bitch to serve and obey her. 

She wants a marriage that better suits her, one of her making, her choices, and her decisions. One that sets the natural order of the domesticated male and superior female, that has no concern for his feelings, thoughts, wants, or needs. She makes the rules and enforces them with strict discipline and harsh punishments. She must be dominant, aggressive, sadistic, cruel, and ruthless, she must be feared! She will not be questioned or disrespected and she will not allow disobedience. She will not accept anything less than complete submission. She has had a taste of  power, how life is meant to be, with the natural placement of Female dominance and authority, and a sissy bitch on his knees worshiping her, cleaning up after her, serving and obeying her. She has experienced excitement, passion, with the thrill of unbelievable sex, and powerful orgasms from real men with the servitude and obedience of her devoted submissive sissy bitch. She indulges the freedom to go and do as she pleases with no questioning or explaining. She is the Dominatrix, a woman that loves the power, embraces it, and uses it to make her life better. She is not shy, timid, or embarrassed about who she is, what she wants, or what she does to achieve it. She is proud to be a Dominatrix, a women of dominance and power, a mistress ! She has all the power as she is the essence of sex and pleasure and knows sex was meant for her pleasure. She has the power of her mind and body to control and command her sissy bitch. She will be relentless, take complete control over her submissive, his body but especially his mind. She wants him to know he is powerless to resist, that he was meant to serve and obey her. He has no choice as this is his natural place, this is a gift from her, a privilege to be on his knees serving and obeying his mistress. She is divine, erotic, captivating, sexy and the beauty that is female, his Mistress.  

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                                                                                                                     -Mistress Annabelle-
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 As a Mistress, you must fully live the femdom lifestyle IT CAN NOT BE PART TIME. It has to be second nature to you, constantly think about it and always in the back of your mind with every decision made to reflect it. You have to think and act like a mistress, it is the way you carry yourself that shows your power, this includes your attitude, dress, actions, and especially how you speak to your bitch. A mistress demands, she speaks with authority in a firm voice. She dresses sexy at all times and most of the time she wears a DOMINATRIX outfit when training. You must embrace your power and It must be lived 24/7/365, this is not a suggestion, it is vital, a must and the only way to succeed, anything less and it will fail. As a Mistress you are no longer a wife and equal partner, you must be the the Mistress at all times, there will be no question or doubt that you rule, no confusion that you are the authority and in complete control. You don't have a husband, you have a submissive sissy bitch, so start treating him the way you should be. You must be very strict and aggressively dominant to rule and force his respect and obedience of your authority. You must be sadistic, mean, and cruel to force his submission. You must emasculate, degrade, and humiliate him constantly and punish severely for his disobedience. He must  respect you as his mistress and fear you, he must fear repercussions of disobedience. 

As a Mistress, it is your rightful place and your responsibility to do what you want, to spoil yourself, to date and fuck whomever, and to be worshiped as a Mistress by your sissy bitch. If you are not doing all of these things, then you are not doing what you need to do, and you are not indulging in the euphoric and blissful life of a dominatrix. You are not being the Dominant that you must be in order to succeed. It is also your responsibility to be very aggressive, ruthless, and humiliating as well as make the rules, and enforce them with severe punishments. It's your responsibility to keep your sissy bitch in the correct atmosphere, to always treat him as a sissy bitch and keep him in his place no matter whos around. You deserve to have the hottest, erotic sex and mind blowing pleasure and orgasms, plus have a devoted, obedient sissy bitch to serve and obey you, to clean up after you, do the chores of the house, and to hand over his pay for the privilege of serving you his mistress. This is how it should be, how its meant to be, and how you want it. You will teach him this, and teach him it is a privilege to serve and obey you, that his true and proper place is serving, obeying and worshiping you always. You must do what ever it takes to make it happen, I mean anything! Be the Mistress you should be, use the power and let out the cruel, sadistic, Dominatrix inside you out! 

A Mistress will not accept anything less than complete submission and obedience. However its not just going to happen because you put on a leather Dominatrix outfit and shout orders. This type of commitment takes a very strict Dominatrix, strict training, extreme humiliation, strict discipline and severe punishments on your part. PLEASE read that again, and again if you need to because if you believe nothing else,believe that!!!! You are training your pussy whipped male to be your bitch, but not just any bitch, your perfect sissy bitch, to serve and obey you properly and follow your rules, beg to be on his knees and worship you properly. You must understand that he has been biologically and socially programmed to want, need, and get pussy. You probably even gave it up anytime he demanded it, you gave him pleasure he did not earn and definitely didn't deserve, and got nothing or very little pleasure out of it. Not to mention everything else that is the flawed married male, like laziness, selfish, thinks he is king of the castle and makes the rules, or that he wasn't meant to do house work. Meaning you have been married for however many years prior to taking control? This is all wrong and bad mental conditioning, so you must correct his thinking of the male monch bullshit that he gets pussy anytime he needs it, or that he even deserves pussy at all. As well as his thinking that he's the boss and doesn't have to do house work. It's already deeply rooted in his simple mind that he owns your pussy and it's his right to have it when he wants it, rather your pleased sexually or not. So it's not as simple as denying him pussy, getting him horny, saying a few humiliating comments, and fucking his asshole then calling it a day. It requires you to take total and full control and not just during training, it must be 100 percent of the time, even in public and you will reprogram his mind to the proper way of thinking. As i've said, this requires you to be very strict, aggressive, cruel and dominant at all times, again not just in the bedroom!!!! You will have to be sadistic and very cruel and do things that you never thought you could do or probably never even thought about doing. You absolutely must treat him as a sissy bitch full time, and again, not just when you have the time, or it suits you, ALWAYS 24/7.  You will need to put in the time to train him the correct way to extract the sissy bitch you want him to be and that you deserve. Think about that for a minute, what is it that you really want, what do you really desire? Don't you think you deserve to be pampered and obeyed, worshiped as his mistress, and paid for that privilege including the most erotic pleasurable sex you've ever had???  You should not just know that you truly deserve a submissive sissy bitch to obey you, you should believe it and make it happen. It is your right and your natural place to rule over your sissy bitch and be as mean and cruel to him as you can be. He will not only love you for it, he will be happier than he ever knew he could be, all you have to do is train him and re-programme him to the way you want him to be. You are female, superior in every way, you deserve a sissy bitch to cater to you, to clean up after you, to pay your bills, to serve and obey you without hesitation or back talk and he should beg for the privilege to do so. He should get nothing and never expect anything for the privilege of taking his rightful place kneeling at your feet. The amount of time you put in depends on how hard you train, how strict and cruel you are, how much you humiliate, and how well you discipline and punish. Obviously, the more strict and harder you are on him as described through out this post, the faster the training time (2-3 months). Think about what you want, what you deserve, how bad you want it, then make it happen with no excuses, because it really is as easy as being a cruel sadistic and dominant bitch 24/7, training him to be a sissy bitch, and giving sever punishments for disobedience. His natural place is serving and obeying you, but you have to make him realize this and bring it out of him. You need to train him, YOU WILL NEED TO FORCE him into his place and this will require you to do mean and cruel things, as i've said thing you never thought you could do, didn't think about doing or maybe even embarrassed to do them. Trust me, you could never be to strict, to controlling, and especially never to sadistic, do whatever it takes to break him and train him to get what you want. You must use your mind and your body to control him. You must be cunning, ruthless, sadistic and very cruel....Experiment, try new things, and definitely try everything at least twice to put him in his place, especially if it turns you on. AGAIN being a successful Dom requires you to be sadistic, ruthless and extremely cruel, and you must punish severely and mercilessly. You must drastically humiliate him... break his will.... crush his ego... destroy his manhood... emasculate and feminize him to strip him of his masculinity. He is your sissy bitch with a fucking puny pathetic clitty and his only purpose for you is to hand over his pay, (pay for pussy and the privilege of serving) serve and obey you, PERIOD!!!! He is there for your pleasure, and your amusement, so use him to relieve stress and anger (humiliate, beat and torture him) it really does work. You must put him in his place physically and mentally, take away all his free time and privileges, strip him of everything, even what it is to be a man, and replace all these with chores, service, routines, commands and all that it is to be your submissive sissy bitch. Transform him into the perfect sissy bitch you deserve and want serving you.

You are in a Femdom relationship as mistress, and like any relationship, the success of it depends on the commitment to it and how you live it. You must be dominant AT ALL TIMES!! You can not skip on training (its a must, at least once day for at least 1 hour is acceptable), you can not be lazy or make excuses for you not doing and living as it should be. You can't lax on rules, chores, submissive positions, and you cannot threaten punishment and not follow through, it makes you look weak. You must punish severely for every rule breaking, back talking or disobedience. He needs discipline, punishments, strict domination and submissive reinforcement, he needs to fear you, see and feel your power and for you to take it very serious. Because things done to him through training like humiliation, edging, taking away his ability to masturbate via chastity, denying him pussy and orgasms, will cause chemical changes in his brain. This is natural and necessary to bring out his true submission and chemically change his thinking process to what you want. This is very powerful to him as he is unable to control it or do anything about it, he is essentially powerless, making him feel weak and submissive as the chemicals build. This is because nature has programmed him to need to ejaculate into pussy, and to need release. After a certain point of being locked in chastity without sex or an orgasm, and his hormones are building up, he will not be able to deal with it, he will eventually become mouthy, disobedient, and rebel against you. He will try everything and anything to get pussy or at least an orgasm, including fighting, crying, or down right refusing to be your bitch (DO NOT GIVE IN, DO NOT GIVE HIM EITHER!!). This will happen UNLESS you are the strict, dominant, cruel, and sadistic bitch you need to be, with extreme humiliation and severe punishments from the start. He needs forced submission, strict training, strict discipline, and extreme unyielding punishments. I promise he will rebel at some point, he will try anything to get pussy or release if you are not the strict Mistress you need to be. It must be on your mind constantly, you must live the lifestyle, be the dominatrix, become it 24/7/365! 

So let's recap, you must become Mistress and sissy bitch from here out. This means you are not a couple anymore, not husband and wife, not friends and especially not equals. You have your place as his mistress and he has his as your sissy bitch servant. The love and commitment will always be there, but it will be there as its supposed to be, as Mistress and sissy bitch and it does not affect what you want, what you deserve, or your belief that you should rule and control him. It does not affect how things are meant to be and It will not affect your training of him, your punishments, or the way you live. You will not live as a couple, act as a couple, or talk and function as a couple, this is beneath you. Every thought you have, every action and decision you make, everything you do will be as HIS MISTRESS. His thoughts and actions will be of those that please you, to serve and obey you, to be your sissy bitch and you will train him that way. You must live it and keep him in the correct atmosphere so that he can thrive as the submissive sissy bitch you want and deserve. It is vital and imperative that you do not care about his feelings, his thoughts, or the pain he must endure to accept his permanent place. You will not care of his preference, his pleas, his misery or his tears. This is the way he needs it, how it must be, and what will make it easier for him to submit to you. You will not care that he is cuckolded, sexless, orgasmless, and permanently lock into chastity. You will not allow him input or questions. You will not care if he is uncomfortable, horny, bruised, angry, aggravated, upset or crying! In fact, you want it to be as hard on him as you can make it, you want it forced and for him to feel despair, but especially helpless to do anything about it, welted, bruised, and crying in order to break his will, accept his natural place and transform him into the sissy bitch you want and deserve. You want him helpless to resist, helpless to do anything about it, you want to break him and destroy his will, make him fear you, break him down to build the perfect obedient sissy bitch. When he does cry from lack of sex, edging, pain and torment, or from punishments, be more aggressive, strict and humiliating, show no mercy and explain that it will be this way from now on and he has no choice but to accept his place. He will start to accept it when he realizes he has no choice, but you must make him believe he has no choice. Once he does you will reprogram him to be the sissy bitch you want and deserve and you will see that not only will you be happier and have the best life and sex ever, he will also be extremely happy and never want to stop serving you. You will deeply satisfy him sexually in ways he never thought possible, through your sex (as it should be) through his submission to you and through the pleasure of your big cock and any cock that uses him. Soon you will shift his pussy whipped submission into a cock whipped submission. This has a greater advantage as a cuckolding Mistress with special perks.   

Start using your sadistic side, embrace it, and use it to unlock your power and his deep submission. You will find that once you free your mind and body, you will get turned on, excitement, and even pleasure from punishments and making him suffer for your enjoyment. This is how a SADISTIC mistress should be; A sadistic Mistress will always wear Dominatrix outfits during training and sometimes in the house when not training for full effect. She will wear a strap-on in the same manner, and force him to suck it periodically but especially prior to fucking him with it. She will always make him beg to get the privilege of her big cock. Always make him beg for the privilege to serve his mistress and force him to acknowledge it and accept it. She will humiliate him constantly about his puny clitty and make him acknowledge he doesn't deserve sex ever. She will humiliate him about how pathetic he is to be turned on by being her sissy and begging to sever her just to get her cock. She will make him ask for permission to speak, to move, to use the restroom, to eat or drink, make him him ask permission to do anything! She will make him eat and drink on all fours, out of dog dishes in his cage (labeled BITCH) or on the floor. She will walk him with a leash around the house and make him crawl on his hands and knees at all times, but especially to fetch things. She will keep him in a dog cage as necessary, but especially when out on dates, and on times he is not permitted to see or hear sex with her boyfriend or bull, and sometimes when the boyfriend or bull sleeps over night. She will make him use kitty litter in place of the restroom (kept inside his cage) and clean it out when needed. She will stand him in the corner of every store she shops in at the mall and make him do humiliating things in public like kneeling at her feet in rest areas or food courts at the mall. She will scold or humiliate him in public, make him wear a collar in public. She will return from dates with doggie bags or take home boxes of food that wasn't ate and dump it in his dog bowl for his dinner or make him go till morning to eat. On nights he is allowed to accompany her to dinner, she will order his food and drink for him and make him wait till he is home to eat it out of the dog bowls. He will walk behind her (and boyfriend) in public with his hands behind his back, he will also open all doors for her. She will take all free time away from him, no games, no nights out with the guys, no sports, nothing but serving her. She will keep him on his knees at all times possible, even in front of her boyfriend, until she is ready to put him to bed. Sometimes she will force him to sleep on the floor. He will always sleep on the floor when her boyfriend is staying over or sleep in his cage on nights she wants privacy. She will kneel him in the corner when she wants rid of him or his wandering eyes. he must knell in the corner or on all fours - face on the floor, when she will be undressed or naked. He is never allowed to look at her face unless ordered to do so. She will force him to worship her feet legs and ass, sometimes licking her asshole to orgasm as she uses a toy OR while being fucked by her boyfriend. 

She will force him to accept her boyfriend as the alpha male and serve her boyfriend on his knees. She will force him to call her boyfriend "Master or SIR" (whatever is approved by the BF). She will force him to orally pleasure the BF's cock to get it hard and ready while they make out or sometimes give a full blow job to please her boyfriend. She will cuckold him often and because the boyfriend is the alpha male (if he is into pegging your sissy) he will be forced to accept being used by the boyfriend and even finished inside of, then made to kneel over a plate and then clean up the cum after it runs out. She will use him in whatever way sexually to enhance their sex with no limits or rules to his use. She will punish him in front of her boyfriend (if the BF is okay with watching you bruise and welt his ass) then leave him tied up while they go make hot passionate love and return to force him to lick the cum in a humiliating manner. She will make him shave off all pubic hair (body hair if she desires it) make him wear panties 24/7/365, and make him wear lingerie and force him to wear maid outfits to clean. She will turn him completely sissy and force him to be used sexually. She will find him a bull or master to serve in front of her while she watches or send him off by himself while she stays the night with her boyfriend. She will find a girlfriend that will help humiliate him or help in training and use him for cleaning or whatever is needed. She will spit in his face and refuse him to clean it off or spit in his mouth. She will force him to do clean up duty in whatever way pleases her and make him clean up his own cum messes. She will smack his balls, smack his face and pull his hair at home or in public. She will make him suck dildos often, even in front of friends or her boyfriend. She will piss on his face or in his mouth and even occasionally force him to drink some of it. She will use him to lick her clean after she pisses in the bathroom, even at friends house. If he is not permitted anything to do with pussy, he must close his eyes during the entire time of cleaning up. She will place him in humiliating positions for her amusement: example-face on the floor ass in the air hold his ass spread to expose his pussy, or holding a dildo or butt plug inside his pussy. She will have a crop and cane handy at all times so she can spank his balls or ass solely for her amusement and to hear him yell or cry.  This is about you using your power, being cruel and sadistic to him, to emasculate him to destroy his ego, and his masculinity. You don't want a man, you want an obedient sissy bitch to serve and obey you. You must be dominant, strict, ruthless, and cruel to your submissive bitch at all times even after he breaks, and especially after training is completed. This is a must, a requirement, this is absolute and not a request or a preference, it is the way and the life of a true Dominatrix. To be successful you will have to take your place, and forcefully put him in his. To be successful you must punish and be unyielding with it. Your rules and orders must be followed and obeyed exactly the way you want them and you must punish severely for rule breaking, disobedience and back talking. You should be feared, worshiped, and obeyed! It is the only way to get what you want, what you deserve!

I know I've gone over things again and again and there is a lot of redundancy in this post, but I need you to understand just how crucial this is and I want this to soak into your mind to help you. You must treat him as you should 24/7, keep him in the proper atmosphere, and train him properly. You must break him, be sadistic, cruel, strict and dominating as this is what works and what forces him to realize his natural place as well as yours! You must punish for disobedience, rule breaking, and back talking every time! You must not care of his thought, feeling or allow him input or say so! You can not appear weak, uncertain, or forgiving. You must train him hard as often as possible! You must flirt and go out and meet new guys at least once a week until you have a full time BF or a few sex partners or both! You must have sex at least 3 to 4 times a week and take care of yourself, do what turns you on! You can not be shy, embarrassed, or hold back what you want, what you need to say, how you need to act, or what needs done!!! A submissive male will be truly submissive to a female that takes control and is extremely dominant to him, he will be helpless and can't resist her power or authority  especially if she is strict, cruel, and sadistic!!! Until part two....