This is a big topic in all lifestyles of BSDM but especially Femdom, in fact its a growing topic outside the lifestyle for vanilla women as well. For vanilla women it could be a kinky tool for sex games and to spice things up or a way to prevent unwanted sex from her small dick husband. Yes, believe it or not, alot vanilla women get on the forums stating so along with other reason to want a chastity and asking what is the best or most secure device. For Dom's however, it's much, much more, it's a tool to take control, prevent masturbation, and bring submission from her bitch. However its used, It is a powerful tool and statement for the women who yield it. Ironically, the chastity is also part of why many women seek out BDSM and eventually switch to a femdom relationship. Facts;
The numbers don't lie, no woman wants a small dick and most prefer bigger than average even though they state they would settle for for less with the right guy. Most all women who learn of this device get turned on by what it represents, and next to the cane, it is the most used tool no matter what side of the lifestyle your into. It is known as the dick slayer, bitch maker of even the toughest of men, and has a unique effect on the domesticated pussy whipped male....extreme submission when used correctly. However *USER BE WARNED* Studies indicate that prolonged wearing of a chastity device will result in shrinking of the penis and erection difficulty. Also long term or permanent chastity (many months or years) wearing can cause a loss of ability to fully ejaculate and orgasm, ranging from a weak ejaculation and orgasm to none at all depending on length of time in the chastity.
MASTURBATION
This device by its very nature is CONTROL and adds to your power and dominance over him. The truth no matter what your told or believe, ALL males masturbate, especially when denied pussy, and studies show the average male does it 2-3 times a week and believe me, a sexually denied bitch left unchecked and uncaged will do it when you least expect it. FACT, if you remove the cage and he is unsupervised, he will eventually masturbate no matter what he tells you, that means never leave it off unless you have the ability to keep tabs on him. Also, more than likely if he told you he didn't, then he is probably lying.** NOTE** If you want the truth if he has masturbated or if you want to know anything else out of him, use "THE COPULINS" technique to get it. Remember using copulins is also part of how you reprogram him to do and behave as you want....The simplest way is get him extremely horny through edging and then put your pussy in his face bare/naked (use a blindfold if you need to). Spread your lips open and use your fingers or a toy to get the copulins flowing so he can absorb as much through smell as possible. You can increase there effect by keeping his arousal level high by licking his clitty, playing with his balls or even prostate play. Then wait until you can tell he is under the influence of your copulins (usually about 6-8 min). How you can tell if he is under the influence of your copulins, he will be real quiet at first then mumble something like; he feels weak, submissive, feels funny, or your pussy makes him lose control, something along those lines. He may also start to repeat what you say, and even agree to anything you say even if it's something you know he wouldn't want, and finally he will be very submissive. The copulins will make him feel weak, unable to resist commands, sorta high and hazy so as they start effecting him and he tells you he feels week or funny don't worry it's natural. The effect usually last up to an hour or so, depending on how long you use the copulins and how long he has been denied sex and orgasm. Then, simply ask him what you want to know, or start the reprogramming you want him to follow. Copulins work sorta like going under at the dentist office so the best part is he wont even remember you asking him or anything you say/do to reprogram him as its all absorbed subconsciously. To him, he will just mysteriously (but actually subconsciously) start accepting or feeling at ease with things you want (even if he didn't want them) or put into his mind. Whatever you want, want him to feel, how to behave, or want him to accept, just speak it to him in a firm demanding voice and make him repeat it, do this over a few days time and he will mold to your input. *Note* His remembering is relative to how deep he is under your spell, so if you want him to be brainwashed quickly and it buried deep in his subconscious with absolutely no memory of any of it, make sure you spread your lips open, hold them open and finger your pussy to allow greater copulin absorption. Also remember to have your pussy 3 to 5 inches away from his face for at least 10 minutes. Then he is like clay, ready to be molded to your desires. Read the copulin training section of my blog for more a in-depth training and other stronger copulin training techniques.
Masturbation is bad on many levels but especially for submission, as you want his arousal level high to keep him submissive, eager to obey, and a willing cuckold. The chastity's main purpose is to keep the chaste male from masturbating, from having sex, or even touching his clitty, but it also trains his penis not to get hard. Studies show what would normally arouse men to get hard like, porn, seeing a woman naked (strip club), rubbing his penis through his pants or even another women touching his penis has no effect on a chastity wearing submissive male. As I said, chastity's train the sub's penis not to get hard, but there is also a psychological effect as well, especially with a sissy bitch submissive. Through proper training with constant humiliation, emasculation, dominance, control and discipline, the male takes his natural place as a submissive bitch/sissy and servant to his mistress with no need for an erect penis as sex of any kind is not his purpose and strictly prohibited. His body will naturally recognize this and respond physically and chemically to your training of him and his true purpose. Don't believe me or need proof? Put in a porno and see if he gets hard, or if thats not enough for whatever reason or you want concrete proof....Take your bitch to a strip club, take off the chastity in the car, take him in and watch how aroused he becomes then check his clitty through his pants....Not hard, not even a little chubby, nothing but a soft tiny clitty, need more proof, get him a lap dance and check again. No real man would remain soft especially after a lap dance. This will also affect his ability to get hard or maintain an erection for sex with another woman, especially a trained sissy bitch. How's that? A sissy has been humiliated, trained, conditioned, and reprogrammed to be turned on or aroused by other means. The number one, and one of the most effective in forcing his submission is cuckolding. YES, cuckolding him will not only humiliate him and make him submissive, it will turn him on and eventually next to a big thick cock be what turns him on more than anything. This is why your sex becomes his sex and why its so important to include him in some manner. Eventually this will be the only thing that turns him on along with other fetishes you have subjected him to like bondage, feet and ass worship, servitude to his mistress, but especially cock sucking and pegging as a sissy's purpose must include pleasuring cock. For this reason normal sex and vanilla women will do nothing to arouse him let alone get his clitty hard (I found that out during our short time as swingers which lead me to researching about it). When you are dominant and aggressive, control his ability to get hard and deny orgasm, you have ultimate control and power over his mind and his body. Your Mind is your power, your pussy is the tool to take control, use them!
BLUE BALLS
Men have a biological driven need to ejaculate, they have no control over it, its strictly controlled by their hormones like testosterone and even your copulins. The higher the level of hormones which relates to arousal level (how horny they are) the more intense the need to cum. However, it takes time to build, about 2-5 days (depends on age) before the need to cum overwhelms them and they must get release. That time and the intensity of the need to cum can be shortened and compounded by arousal factors, like viewing sexual content, (strip clubs, porn video and magazines) seeing his wife or girlfriend naked, or something that turns them on like a fetish. Which is all controlled by you his mistress, just as you control his ability to orgasm or not. As it goes, if sex is not available or denied, men instinctively turn to masturbation. If males can not masturbate they get what's called "Blue Balls" which is a slight pain in their testicles with an intense need to cum. If enough time passes without an orgasm, the pain increases as does the intensity for the need to cum. At first the pain feels like the after effects of a light flick to the testicles, but if unresolved can increase to the after feeling of getting a firm smack to the balls. It is described as a dull aching pain, but don't worry its nothing they can't handle when forced to. There is only one thing that can alleviate blue balls and its effects entirely, and that is an orgasm. Unfortunately for him, that is not an option, EVER! Milking can reduce the intensity, but it doesn't fully cure the need for relief, only the hormone prolactin which is release directly after orgasm, alleviates it. When forced to wear a chastity, blue balls helps force their submission as they are unable to do anything to relieve it. This is one of the reasons why it is very important for the mistress to be so dominant, strict, demanding and especially cruel. As this builds it becomes very difficult for the male, not in a harmful way but more of a nuisance and aggravation and he can do nothing to stop it. Plus as the Testosterone builds it chemically forces anger and him to become disobedient and mouthy. This aggressive, strict, and cruel demeanor towards him helps keep the male docile, so he can properly submit to your control and relinquish any thoughts or feelings he will ever be allowed the pleasure of pussy. This demeanor with punishments also keeps the submissive male in check with attitude, back talk and disobedience. This in turn makes him submit and accept his natural place of servitude which doesn't actually ease the effects of blue balls but more less forces his attention on serving and obeying his mistress. This can feel as though the effects of blue balls are less, thus making him feel like serving and obeying is a reward and proof that this along with denying him pussy, is natural. Not to mention that he really has no choice and there is nothing he can do but accept it and submit and that is they way you want to train him and make him believe. So it is vital that you not only treat him as your servant and bitch but be very mean, cruel and aggressive with it and punish as well. A Vanilla wife and Mistress Bitch do not mix together, you can not be both you must pick one or the other and follow that path!!!!
PEGGING and SISIFICATION
This brings up another aspect of chastity and humiliation; Pegging and wearing panties. Pegging and panties go hand in hand with forced chastity, but especially with permanent chastity as most Doms who do permanent chastity, also do sissy training and forced sissification. Sissification or sissifying is the transformation and reprogramming of the male mind and body (using hormones like copulins and estrogen, with emasculate training) to be feminine, but more importantly to the mistress, to desire/crave and serve cock. This allows Dom's to force the sissy's focus and desires from her pussy to her cock (or any cock), which reinforces her complete denial of pussy and this further forces sissy modification. Permanent chastity wearing causes the start of his natural sissy modification on its own because you are taking away his manhood (use of his cock and pleasure) plus prolonged wearing of a chastity causes an increase in sensitivity/nerve endings around the anus opening, canal and prostate making it very pleasurable for the male. Eventually it completely takes pussy out of the equation further enforcing permanent chastity so that the Dom can focus her energy and sexual satisfaction on a real cock, AKA her boyfriend. It also helps, (key word being helps) with jealousy once a mistress has found a full time boyfriend as her sissy would be submissive to getting cock (a pleasure she is allowed) as a reward for her obedience, to the point she would beg to be cuckolded. So Dom's use the addiction for cock to make the sissy beg her to fuck her boyfriend in hopes the sissy might be rewarded the privilege of the mistress's cock (or any cock) when she returns. It also teaches the bitch to serve and obey the mistress totally as her sissy bitch, wearing french maid outfits (from Amazon) and all. Once fully trained as a sissy, a sissy bitch is the most obedient and dedicated of all submissive's, especially to that Mistress as it is her hormones and pheromones that does the chemical changing part, and after all, she controls the sissy's pleasure. Most Doms pick this type of training for 3 reasons; first, she wants total control over everything without input and totally complete submission from her bitch. Second, she is aroused or extremely turned on by forcing and watching her sissy suck and take cock even forcing the serving of her boyfriend or Bull. Third and most important, she desires to have a permanent or full time boyfriend and she has that bonus effect of never having to deal with the tiny clitty after a night of great sex with her boyfriend or bull. A sissy will eventually, with the proper training and hormone replacement (copulins training) literally beg the mistress to fuck and date (even on a serious level) just to be allowed the privilege of her cock. This is actually a natural effect of sissy training, loss of penile orgasms, and forced chastity but also something known as the "alpha effect". The alpha effect is several things in depth but basically it's when your sub/bitch becomes docile and submissive to your boyfriend or bull and not just to the act of cuckolding (the alpha effect is a must read and can be found here in my blog). An intelligent Mistress will also involve another male (straight, bi, or totally gay) for her sissy to submit to and get fucked or used by to increase his submission and need for cock. This particular male is known as a Cock Master or bull and his job is to help force cock submission, switch the focus from pussy to cock, and complete the sissy transformation. His looks, education level, career, or height doesn't matter, only his willingness to use your sissy but cock size should be considered.
A sissy bitch will be male only by her gender, but she is no longer a man and should never be treated as a man or male for that matter. You must teach her and she must know and understand her place, there can be no confusion and uncertainty, her place must be explicit and valid. She should be addressed as sissy, bitch, cum slut, or my favorite "cock slut". She is a sissy, trained for the sole and only purpose of serving, obeying and amusing her mistress (Master, Bull or BF) what other purpose could she have? She must give all income, funds, and assets to her mistress and forced to accept her natural place. She is forever completely denied penile sex, heavily restricted or in some cases completely denied access to pussy (except for clean up duty which is mandatory) with the sole sexual purpose of pleasing and serving cock as the mistress allows and directs. She has no free time, no TV, no video games, no sports, no night out with the boy's, nothing, only kneeling and serving her mistress for life. She is not permitted input of any kind (excluding kids/family) including the house, finances, decisions, and especially the mistress's affairs and sex. If she is not doing chores or serving her mistress in anyway, she is always on her knees in front of her mistress. Again, she should always be addressed and treated as such, never anything else as there will be no confusion of her place, purpose, and what she is. This treatment includes dress attire like panties, french maid outfits for cleaning the house and sissy lingerie for humiliation and sex with you or her Cock Master (shoes, wigs, and all can be purchased on amazon, aliexpress, alibaba, DHgate). The treatment also includes feminine practices like shaving ALL body hair (Cock Masters prefer sissies with no hair), with hair and nails done (clear fingernail polish), and especially sexual practices including pegging, sucking real cock and your strap-on dildo, also very important is cleaning up all cum messes, even his own pre-cum and milking mess. All cum has valuable hormones (like testosterone and estrogen) in it that help chemically transform him and keep him submissive, especially cum that is not his (remember to read my Alpha effect section of my blog for more info on this). Not to mention the humiliation and submissive factors, so make sure he cleans every mess every time, again even when milking her clitty. Eventually with the proper training and after being denied pussy long enough, the sissy will find clean up duty a turn on as its one of the rare times she is that close with smell and taste of pussy, even with a load of your boyfriends cum inside it. A sissy must also maintain a clean shaven clitty at all times, this is a shaved landing strip, a shaved triangle, or completely shaved/bald pussy, whatever you find more humiliating and emasculating. Sissy training is the ultimate in submission, dedication and servitude from a submissive in the femdom lifestyle and it requires a very aggressive, strict, and dominant, but especially cruel and sadistic mistress to fully complete the training and transformation. Trust me, being as mean, cruel, and degrading as you can be will not only make you feel powerful but also free your mind, and body, plus it will get you the sissy bitch you deserve. Your sissy will not be happier, completely respect and worship you while loving her life as your sissy bitch.
Femdom and submissive training usually involves some pegging, which is an allowed form of pleasure for the submissive male, but with sissy training, pegging is a forced daily practice. It is forced every day at least once a day or more. At first, the sissy in training is extremely humiliated, resist, fights it and pleads not to be taken (lose his virginity) especially by a much bigger cock then his. He is uncomfortable and extremely humiliated by the practice of being forcefully penetrated. The loss of normal sex and orgasms wears on him, and the chastity adds to the frustration both with preventing masturbation and the ability to even get hard. Eventually the prolonged wearing of the chastity and loss of penile pleasure and orgasm causes an increases in sensitivity and pleasure around his anus and prostate. Just rubbing around the outside of his hole gives him heighten pleasure. He is losing part of his masculinity everytime he is fucked, Every time he is bent over he gets more submissive to it and with every deep thrust of your cock, he is emasculated and becomes more and more accepting of it and the undeniable pleasure it offers. Eventually the moaning starts, as he loses his will and the last bit of masculinity. He can't resist, he is to weak and submissive, he has given into the persuasion of pleasure. After days and weeks of force penetration, he has finally succumb to your cock, he can't help it or resist it as it is now his only source of pleasure and it is a pleasure that far exceeds what his tiny clitty gave him. Soon he is excited to have it, and even turned on and aroused by the sight of it. He eventually becomes addicted to its pleasure, he needs it, and will beg to have it. He will even beg you to cuckold him and fuck your boyfriend in hopes that you will grant him the privilege of your cock. He is what they call cock whipped, and ready to be trained to be your sissy bitch, dedicated to serving and obey you, HIS MISTRESS!
Pegging is used with verbal, chemical (copulins, semen ,etc.) and physical reprogramming of his mind to switch his desires and need from pussy to wanting, desiring and craving cock. Which is an irresistible, uncontrollable and natural urge for a sissy as you permanently lock her clitty away and force her to accept pleasure the way she was meant to have it. Your sissy was meant to be a cock slut, all the way from her tiny clitty to the way she enjoys that big cock stretching her pussy, but she needs to be trained and transformed to open up her natural desire for cock. Once you've forced her to let go of her masculine side and accept being your sissy, she will be grateful to you for the pleasure of your cock. As I said, she will beg you to date and fuck your boyfriend just for that special privilege of your cock (or real cock). However, it must be understood that she is still male in gender making it impossible to remove or abolish her biological craving or need of pussy. But don't be disappointed because you don't want that anyways, you still want her pussy whipped, weak, and surrendering to the mere sight and smell of pussy, which is why cuckolding is so powerful. Remember pussy is the tool or source of your power, limited only by your mind and ability to use it to get what you want and deserve from all men, not just your sissy. You are merely redirecting and refocusing his biological craving and need for pussy to a more natural pleasure for her place and purpose. You are granting her a pleasure she could never achieve through her pathetic clit dick. There is more on sissy training in the sissy section of my blog. If you are training your submissive to be a sissy, you must force her to wear sissy panties 24/7/365 for humiliation as this promotes submission and helps emasculates her. Sissy panties have a specially made pocket or open area for her chastity cage, and the best kind of sissy panties are the ones with the ass out (sorta like a jock strap or crotchless panties) so she can be made to wear them at all times possible. This will include during training, pegging, anal sex with a bull/boyfriend, anal play (prostate stimulation) and even some physical punishments (except spank/canings). You will need to purchase at least 7 or more of them for each day of the week and make her hand wash them same as she does your panties. As humiliation is the main point, they should be as girly as possible in style and color (with lace, pink, purple, etc.) and don't forget to add a few garters, stockings, and heels to your list for the added humiliation, emasculation, and times she must remove her panties (like spankings etc.)*NOTE* When you receive her panties, gather all of her normal underwear and lock them away in a chest so that she must/can only wear her panties, which further enforcing her submission.
CLEANING
Chastity devices are usually worn 24/7/365 and are only removed for training, cleaning, or play time. This means they get very dirty from sweat and urine and must be washed daily for obvious reasons (smell, yeast, rashes, etc.) so you must make it a punishable rule for him to shower daily NO EXCUSSES! They also need a good scrubbing with antibacterial soap or alcohol (use a scrub brush) every 3-5 days to get the deep down dirt out and kill any bacteria and yeast. This can be done two ways; first is to unlock the chastity and remove it while the sub is in the shower, hand it to him ordering him to scrub it while you watch so that he doesn't play with his clitty as he washes it. While it is free you can inspect it for scrapes, cuts, bumps, etc. and address as needed. Use antifungal cream for yeast or fungus issues, and Neosporin or triple antibiotic cream for cuts, scrapes, and soars. Always Use petroleum jelly or baby oil to insert the clitty into the chastity. This time also allows him to properly shave his genitals to your liking. Once he is finished, simply lock it back on, even if you plan on training shortly after. The other and preferred method is during a training night when the chastity is removed, have a second chastity already cleaned ready to put on him after training, then he can clean the other chastity after training to reinstall on the next swap out. With this method, you will need to clean his clitty with a soapy rag or germ killing agent, and shave his pubic hair to your licking, so keep a razor handy. Again To reduce the chances of rash or yeast, NEVER use lube to install the chastity, always use a Vaseline, non-fragrance and hypoallergenic lotion, or baby oil as the lubricant to slide his clitty inside the chastity.
CHASTITY DEVICES
There are 2 main types of chastity devices. The first is a chastity belt which is made of stainless steel so it won't rust, this is the most secure device and virtually escape proof. There are several different types and styles but usually they lock around his waist, around his testicles and/or through his legs to secure under his testicles and back to the rear of the belt. It is impossible to get his clitty out or get it off without the key. Because of this many Dom's prefer this type of device and definitely switch to this type of device when they start dating a boyfriend full time or when they initiate permanent chastity. The down sides to this device is that it can't be worn through metal detectors, it's not as concealable (not a big deal), it's sometimes uncomfortable, can't hide it under swim trunks, and harder to install on a regular basis. This is why this belt is used mostly for permanent chastity or extended nights away from your sissy. There is also a prince albert stainless steel device that doesn't use a belt as it locks through the piercing to secure it . The second device is called a cock cage and is made of different types of materials; stainless steel, polycarbonate, bio-resin, and plastic. This device locks his clitty inside a tube that also locks behind the base of his clitty and clamps his balls, keeping him from removing it. There are several types of these chastity's that are less secure than others potentially allowing him to pull out his clitty. Typically the smaller you sissy's clitty the easier it is, however chastities with a rear tongue, or anti-pull out makes it far more difficult. This is why the newer designs have a rear guard to prevent pull out. Cages with openings in the tube are also good as the skin (when dry) grasp the edges of each opening making it difficult to pull out. Longer tube type cages are also good (when dry) as there is more area for the skin to grasp preventing pull out. The earlier nub type devices known as the V1 and V2 were horrible as there were no tongues or rear guards to prevent pull out, however the newer devices the V3 and newer V4 have since corrected this issue. Regardless to what type of device you use on him, never make it obvious or suggest that he could potentially pull out, Subs by nature are oblivious to this especially the well disciplined and punished bitches and tend to focus more on the humiliation and act of being confined then the ability to pull out. Besides a severely punished slave would be to afraid to risk pull out for fear you would find out (through copulins training). You should always keep a close eye on him anyway especially in the shower and check his device daily. These devices are more affordable and come in many styles and colors. Most all subs have a small or micro penis so you should purchase one that fits his size and the look your going for or your needs, but one that can be worn 24/7/365 without any real discomfort or problems. Some discomfort is acceptable and good for submission. These types of devices are also more hidden under clothing and go through metal detectors un-noticed. I practice permanent chastity and have a boyfriend so I personally use several stainless steel chastity belts for work and home, and several pink or purple (for sissy's) polycarbonate or bio-resin, for travel, events with friends, or play time (like pegging) with other males. *IMPORTANT * YOU also need to have several types and styles on hand to switch them out and change it up every 2-3 days for cleanliness, wear and tear on the device, and to prevent sores, scrapes, and cuts on the genitals as they all wear differently. I rotate them as they need cleaning and for different purposes like when i need the electro chastity for shock play or punishment. I buy mine from Amazon because they are usually shipped quickly and are priced reasonable, but Alibaba or Aliexpress has a bigger selection at the best price. There is always new designs and materials out so keep checking back for updated devices. YOU should be the one who purchases it as this is a sign of authority and he wears the chastity until you decide he takes it off! This is usually when your doing a training session, for a good cleaning of the device and his genitals, or some women even give free time as a reward. The length of time he wears it is always up to you but at the very least he should have it on anytime that he is out of your presence, like in travel, work, or at home alone. Almost all dominatrix prefer the 24/7 routine which means it only comes off for training, cleaning, play time etc.! Then permanent chastity is where it is rarely removed, but I'll get into that later. NOTE* ONLY YOU put it on and remove it, never allow him to touch it or the key. It is also a serious offense if he removes it for any reason and should always be dealt with harshly if he removes it, no matter the reason.
The longer he wears the device mixed with your proper control, denial of sex/orgasm, humiliation, and punishments, the more submissive he is. Because he is not able to relieve himself or the dull pain of blue balls he is forced to serve and obey you to earn the privilege of release, or other sexual activities like pegging. However, most all Dom's forbid any type of conventional sexual release or penis orgasm not only because he doesn't deserve to have pleasure this way but also due to its refractory time. Which is the release of prolactin in the male brain that causes loss of arousal level, ability to get hard and orgasm until the body has time to reproduce more sperm. Men can only cum once in a given period of time, usually once a day or longer depended on age (there are exceptions like pills) back to the rule of men's orgasm, no sperm to shoot, no reason to get hard or orgasm! Men are biologically programmed to get aroused from sight and smell and as I said before are driven to need to cum. So this is nature's way to prevent males from to much sex or meaningless sex. Remember men's only reason for orgasm is to cause muscle contraction to ejaculate sperm. So if there is no sperm to ejaculate, there is no reason for men to have an orgasm or to even get hard. This is why nature created the release of prolactin after sex for men, so they wouldn't over procreate. Which is another reason women are the superior sex as we were meant to have sex solely for the pleasure of it and we have the only organ made for pleasure and sex "the clit". Also more proof men were meant to only have one sex partner while women to have several. Women do produce prolactin but not after orgasms, it is for other functions in the body like the menstrual cycle. The refractory time also has his loss of his energy, loss of submission and the willingness to submit, serve and obey, which is very bad for Dom's. The refractory time is caused by a release of prolactin immediately after orgasm. Prolactin is a hormone released to reduce and dissipate the rise in dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and testosterone. These hormones in elevated or high levels (also mixed with female hormones like copulins) are what causes a males submission, the higher the levels the more submissive he is. So prolactin is bad for submission and energy and again why most Dom's don't allow sexual release or orgasm, not to mention he doesn't deserve to have an orgasm. It usually last for 1-5 days (depending on the male) until the hormones build back up. FYI, most of his hormones are produced by his testicles and some by other glands which are activated by the level of hormones in his testicles. Again the higher the level the more submissive he is. *NOTE Remember, you should be the one to purchase the chastity and also keep looking for newer styles and better designs of chastity devices.
PEGGING POWER
The second method used to give slight relief is "Pegging", which is a tool on its own for deepening his submission and creating a sissy slut, as I said before going hand in hand. Short periods of time pegging (15-20 min) will relieve blue balls for about an hour depending on how well you edged him the day prior. Long periods of pegging (30 min to an hour or longer) will cause an over flood of hormones oxytocin, dopamine, and testosterone in the brain. This flood of hormones will, for a short period of time (up to a few hours) transform your sub into a somewhat mindless, completely submissive bitch willing to do anything to be your sissy bitch (especially if copulins were used), just to keep getting the pleasure of your cock. This behavior and his commitment to the pleasure of your cock is retainable, and also trainable, meaning you will force him to want your cock and he will become dependent on your cock for his pleasure, thus earning the title and term "cock whipped". The more you fuck him the more he will become dependent on your cock for pleasure and the more cock whipped he becomes. Oxytocin is the hormone responsible for muscle contractions, specifically with pegging, anal muscles that contract around the prostate forcing pleasure waves which release dopamine resulting in what's called a sissygasm. Dopamine is the pleasure hormone released at peak sissygasm climax. Dopamine is very addictive thus the act of pegging becomes very addicting, again causing him to be dependent on your cock for pleasure and cock whipped. Loss of normal sex and orgasms mixed with prolonged pegging many weeks or months can transform your male into a sissy cock slut, especially with the proper training, humiliation, and punishments. The result is a very submissive, cock whipped sissy bitch programmed to serve your cock or whom ever's cock you choose. As long as occasional training, strict discipline, and severe punishments are maintained, he will beg to be there kneeling at your feet and be your sissy bitch for life. This is power and control and this will ensure you are free to date whoever you want as long as you want and he will sincerely beg you to do it. Males do not experience high levels of dopamine release during normal sex, but with pegging the pleasure builds (just like when we have sex) releasing small amounts of dopamine until the sissygasm climax which releases 2 to 3 times his normal release. Again causing the addiction to pegging, more specifically your cock! Since the majority of Dom's completely deny their bitch pussy (mostly for cuckolding reasons) they use his cock whipped addiction as his reward for serving and obeying, which has to be worked into his training. They term it "serving my cock" and use it as a humiliation factor as well. For more info on pegging like technique and the how to, read the pegging section in my blog.
CHASTITY DESIGN
Each type of chastity devices are designed specifically, and for different purposes. Some allow teasing through spaced out bars, some apply mild but painful pressure on the balls, some cause pain as his clitty struggles to get hard, while others force his clitty to recess inside its own shaft making the clitty disappear. Size is an important factor as well, you want the proper fit for the size of his clitty so it doesn't fall off and its kept secure. Although escape proof is usually not to much of a worry as the submissive males are actually ignorant to its security or lack of. Chastity weak points you see like maybe easy to break, wiggle out of, or take off is not the same thing he see's or feels for that matter. He is simply to submissive and oblivious to how secure the device really is and is more focused on the effects of wearing it. However don't take any chance, you should still try to purchase one that fits correctly, is secure, and if starting permanent chastity or start dating a boyfriend, buy a stainless steel chastity belt for a true escape proof chastity. Chastity's also have another feature/purpose, all chastity's are designed to keep his testicles/balls away from his body. This has two effects, first it makes it very difficult for him to be able to orgasm while wearing it, and second it prevents the testicles/balls from warming up to body temperature. Testicles/balls only have 1 purposes, to produce sperm and hormones (testosterone) and there is a reason his balls hang in a sack away from his body instead of just being inside it. His ball sack has its own movement not controlled or changeable by the male. It literally has a mind of its own, who's job is to regulate the testicles/ball temperature. Normally they are constantly moving to 1. keep the balls out of harms way, and 2. keep hormones and sperm under control, and 3. to help aid in ejaculation. But when wearing a chastity, ball movement is restricted and forced to do your bidding.
How it works; The closer to the body the warmer the balls, the further they hang the cooler the balls. Lets talk about the ejaculation part first; As a man builds to ejaculate, his balls draw up into his body, this shortens the ducts and preps the muscles that contract to discharge sperm. This is why Doms use rope or other contracting tools during training/edging to keep his balls securely away from his body to help prevent orgasm. Note* While this helps prevent him from ejaculation/orgasm, this is not full proof, over stimulation can force the muscles to bypass regulatory control and expel sperm thus giving him an orgasm. So pay attention and edge him properly, if your feel his clitty pulsing, stop the edging for a few seconds. If you edge your male you should work your tongue and fingers slow, avoid putting the clitty fully into your mouth and only use lip or licking contact (fingers are ok) Now lets talk about damage; His balls are very sensitive so the balls sack can thicken or draw up. Once they feel trauma they naturally draw up tighter to thicken the skin (scrotum) to help protect them. This is also why Dom's use restriction tools or rope to keep the balls from drawing up and hanging outside the body during ball torture, so that he feels the full effect of pain. Note* Some men can have a forced milking from to much trauma to the testicles through prolonged, fast, and steady hitting of them (even with the use of restricting tools). This is done by standing over the male, one leg on each side of his hips, your ass facing him, and then hitting them with a crop directly and evenly as possible on the bottom of his ball (the side that would be facing the wall towards his feet. In fact, some Dom's use this as a quicker and less effort method to milking their sub male. But this is usually midway through training or after training is completed as this method while very painful does sometimes grant a quick but very mild orgasm sensation. This sensation is not an actual orgasm feeling but usually gives the effects as fulfillment because the trauma forces the muscles to ejaculate and tricks the balls to feeling like they would have been through normal orgasm. This does release some levels of prolactin (varies by male) which may take a day or two to get out of his system. All said, this is a very good method for sadistic Dom's who prefer the pain aspect of forced milking as opposed to the pleasure he would receive from the normal milking method or she doesn't want to spend the 20 to 40 minutes with conventual milking. The mild climax/fulfillment can even be eliminated for the most part by stopping the smacking of his balls at the first sign of discharge, waiting a couple minutes and then repeating the process until the balls are fully emptied. This also has a more sadistic side as when the milking is over you can keep beating the balls. Now lets discuss the temperature part, the balls must regulate temperature (about 94 deg.) to keep production of hormones and sperm in balance. The warmer the balls the less they create sperm and testosterone, the cooler the balls the more they produce. All Chastity's by design keep his balls hanging and prevents drawing up to warm the testicles. This causes a slow over production of sperm and hormones which in turn increases the males need for orgasm, which also makes him more submissive. So by its very nature, a chastity forces submission through chemical control, not just physical control. So permanent chastity is not just about never having to touch his pathetic dicklet again, or allowing him an orgasm, it also ensures that as long as you are strict maintain discipline and severe punishments you will always be able to be in control, do what you want, have sex with whom you want, even without using pussy. *Note, you can do all types of punishments without removing the chastity, spankings, electric play, urethra play, ball slapping or stretching and most all other CBT play so there is no need to remove the chastity unless wanting to.
PERMANENT CHASTITY
Permanent chastity also called "PC" is when you force your sissy bitch to wear (with a few exceptions) the chastity 24/7/365. When training is nearly completed doms start practicing permanent chastity, however PC is mostly started much earlier through cuckolding when the mistress decides to date a boyfriend or Bull full time. This is also the same time she will permanently restrict his access to her pussy. Doing this prevents her from having to deal with her subs clitty when she doesn't feel like it, like after she is exhausted from a late night out or a long night of great sex. It also separates his rewards and focuses his true purpose for her, which will always be handing over his pay check and serving and obeying her. Nothing says submissive sissy bitch like having to serve and obey a Mistress while permanently chastised and completely denied pussy, all for the pleasure of her strap-on cock or cock of her choosing. Either way, permanent chastity is done as a plateau to get free of handling or touching his clitty (except as needed) and to force her submissive further into the sissy role for full dependency on cock for pleasure. This dependency can and most often, eventually leads to real cock and the finial stages of sissy training if you choose that route. *Note when doing permanent chastity, it is extremely important that you are very dominant, cruel, strict, and punish, but also include you bitch in the cuckolding as much as possible described below.
Know that permanent chastity does not mean you put it on and throw away the key, although you want it to be as close to that as possible. Because the penis needs washed for good health and hygiene as described above, it is near impossible to lock it on and throw away the key. Plus, even though you are done with training OR started dating seriously, you still need to give his clitty some stimulation from time to time (at least once or twice a week) to maintain high levels of hormones, ESPECIALLY if you are not keeping them up by having sex frequently enough (3 or more times a week) and allowing him to participate in some manner. His participation at a minimum is watching or listening, but can occasionally be just hearing about all the details when you return home. Telling him the details gives him a mental picture and shows your excitement for dating your boyfriend, but you must be explicit. Participation can and should if at all possible be sexual related like fluffing your boyfriend, pegging him, licking your ass and feet during sex, even kneeling naked with panties on in the room (corner or foot of the bed) or serving your both before-during-after sex. Regardless to how you include him, he should always be made to clean up the after mess in some manner, again because the copulins are very valuable to keeping him horny, submissive, and begging to be cuckolded.
Remember, permanent chastity means you will force him to wear his Chasity 24/7/365, you never take it off except for 2 reasons; First, the few times a month for clitty edging to build and maintain arousal and second, for a good deep cleaning and inspection of his genitals on the same days as edging to reduce time out of the chastity. You remove it, wash his clitty or allow him to, shave it, inspect for problems, preform the edging during training, then put it back on immediately. Other reasons can be for training or when doing Cock & Ball Toucher (CBT). Note,*It is possible with most chastity cages to do ball torture without removing his chastity. You can do ball stretching with a ball stretcher or various rope stretching, ball squeezing, ball smacking or using a crop, electric play/ pads or lassos on balls (some chastity's have built in electric play), ice or hot wax play, suction cup play, and Wartenberg pinwheel/needle pinwheel.
Again permanent chastity is enacted for a couple of reasons, First is once you get him trained to be the sissy bitch you want him to be and he has completely submitted and accepted his place as your sissy bitch. Basically he is fulfilling his purpose to you as your servant and sissy bitch and he does it for the privilege of serving his mistress and the reward of cock. Second but mostly sooner, is after you have found a full time boyfriend and given him full access or control of your pussy to him (like you would normally to your boyfriend). Which is also the time you would completely deny your sissy bitch any access to his pussy. Rightfully so, you don't want to ever touch his pathetic clitty unnecessarily if at all and you certainly wouldn't allow a sissy bitch to have any access to your boyfriends pussy. Plus its very demeaning for a mistress to interact with a servants clitty. With PC there is no clitty touching or stimulation before or after you get fucked by your boyfriend or bull (unless you want to), he simply serves and obeys yet expects nothing. Again, his reward is the privilege of serving you and when you allow it the pleasure of cock. Also to do PC you want him to the point where he gets his sexual fulfillment by watching or hearing you get your pleasure by fucking your boyfriend or lovers, again at the very least he is told in detail about the events and how much you enjoyed the much bigger cock, positions he fucked you in, how many times you had an orgasm and how strong they were. For the extra humiliation you can compare sex with your boyfriends big cock to his pathetic clitty. He must act and behave as you have trained him (the way he should act) and he needs to fear you. He will also still need occasional training, strict discipline, and extreme punishments for rule breaking. Any additional or on going training is done with the chastity on, you don't need to remove it for pegging, most CBT as described above, including punishments.
TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS, you MUST do the following or have already completed the following; Taken a boyfriend that you have had sex with for a few weeks and made the relationship full time or serious but also allowed your sissy bitch interaction with your sex (seeing, hearing, etc.) as I described above. Or if doing PC because your finished with training; Have made him so horny and weak that he would do anything you say, NOT for a night or two, but on an every day submission level. Also MADE him terrified of you and your punishments that he is to scared not to obey. But also broken his will so that he has become completely and totally submissive to your will and authority. Emasculated him so that he wants to serve you 24/7/365 and truly believes it is his purpose and gets horny and excited about doing it. Plus make him weak from your power and sexuality, that he gets very aroused and horny by your pleasures (the fact that you are having sex with your boyfriend or other men on a regular basis and generally flirting with and fucking whom ever you want and all while gloating and humiliating him about it). He must be pushed to his limits, and have things done to him he wouldn't believe you could or would do! Keep him wondering what's next, how far you will go, how hard you will punish him or how extreme you will humiliate him!
IMPORTANT!! THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND; The penis is his highest sense of pleasure and directly linked (via his testicles) to keeping his chemicals and hormones elevated to keep him in a horny/aroused and controlled state. But its now locked up through PC so it is very, very, important that you keep him horny through other means like licking/sucking his balls and watching you have sex. He must remain extremely horny for this PC-365 to work properly. These means are as I described above, you having your pleasure regularly but also giving him anal play and sissygasms, ball play (licking, sucking, rubbing) and even nipple play (licking, sucking, rubbing). Then there is always making him watch porn, talking dirty to him (about past or future fucking with your Boyfriend/s, how good it was, how big, how much you can't wait to feel it again etc.). Also you should use your sexual power just like strippers do, like I've talked about in other sections of my blog, by moving, touching and displaying your body in sexy ways, wearing sexy outfits (lingerie or Dom outfits) Letting him see pussy (up very close and spread open) on rare occasions 2 or 3 times a month in you have a BF, normally (2 times a week) just an outline through your panties. *MOST IMPORTANT* Bend over and make him worship your ass (make him tongue your hole while you use a vibe or dildo on yourself) and feet by kissing and licking them. Blind fold him and let him smell your lovers pussy. One thing I found that's almost as good as him watching me get fucked is, I record (hide the recorder) a fuck session with my boyfriend (or have him record it) from time to time and make him watch it on the TV while I humiliate him about how much better, bigger, and last longer than him...that I can't wait to get it again. Come up with your own ways to keep him aroused, use his hypnoses state (the point where he is really weak and begging to serve you from being so aroused during a training session) to extract info from him like what turns him on the most (and do it) or implant what you want to start turning him on (just like you did when you got him to get very turned on by watching you fuck your lovers) Also remember to keep up on your humiliation, discipline, and punishments. I recommend that once you start PC, that you switch to a full metal chastity belt of some kind, make sure it locks around his balls in some manner. They are are sold all over the internet on BDSM sites, but they are reasonably priced on Amazon, Alibaba, Aliexpress, and eBay. As his mistress only you will be the one to place it on him and the one to take it off and this must be done while he is tied down or in the shower for cleaning. He is never allowed to touch his clitty much less install the chastity. You should install it on day 1 of training, even if he tells you he won't masturbate, trust me he will and not tell you. Remember ALWAYS put his chastity back on him no exceptions, no mater what he tells you!!!!!!!
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