Sunday, January 1, 2017

Serving Two Dom's,

                                SERVING TWO DOM'S


My story is probably not unlike yours, as I think every dominant woman has to find the power inside to take her natural place as the authority in the household. For me it took about a year to realize to get what I wanted from him I had accept that I needed to change my whole demeanor and outlook on what our relationship use to be, to how I really wanted it. This was just as important as training in order to help bring out the submission in him. I had to stop looking at our relationship as a married couple with equality and treat it as a matriarch, me as the Dominant and him as the submissive. I had to envision that I wanted him on his knees serving me, but also serving me properly, and there is a major difference in being properly served. To get that I had to become the ruthless bitch I read about from so many other Blogs by Dominatrix. I wanted him to show his submission to me every minute of the day, open doors, pulling out my chair, calling me Mistress, bowing his head as I spoke or stood up in his presence, rubbing and worshiping my feet etc. I didn't want any back talk, or him questing me, and I certainly didn't want to have him interfere with who I fucked. Yes just like many thousands of other women in this lifestyle, I got a taste of power and great sex and I never wanted to give that up. But as much as I love the bigger dicks and great sex, and I mean I do love it, I love the power side of it just as much. I love to hear him beg to serve and scream in pain from punishments, and I love to see him kneeling naked in front of me with his tiny worm penis locked in his pink chastity. So to get what I wanted I was going to have to be mean and strict, controlling and dominant. I was also going to need enforce the rules I laid out and to punish him severely for every rule he broke with out going easy on him, and boy did I! After I made those adjustments and really enforced the rules and chores, I noticed a big change in his attitude and willingness to submit. I followed all the Dominatrix guides of training, no pussy, chastity, etc. and changed the cuckolding theme by adding a Bull to the list of guys I would fuck on a regular basis.

There was a big difference in his submission when I started fucking other men a few times a week, especially if he was able to see or hear it. However, adding the Bull to mix made a significant difference, that's when I really noticed a major change in in how submissive he would be, not to mention how powerful it made me feel and how much it really turned me on. There is no real way to describe the impact of being able in inflict humiliation on that level that only a bull can bring. I'm talking everything from verbal and watching us fucking up close to forced oral and sex, to even punishments. Of course we had to build up to the serious humiliation aspects of it, especially the first time he was made to lick another mans cum up. At first John (my Bull) and I took it slow by doing basic stuff like me humiliating him about how small his dick was, especially compared to Johns, I always tied him down one way or another, sometimes allowed to watch and sometimes being blind folded only able to listen. He would also fetch us drinks and towels for after sex, and even made to buy lingerie for me to wear for John and Condoms for John to fuck me with (that helped add to the humiliation). After the forth play time John and I both started humiliating him, and I would put my sub in one bondage position or another with a mouth spreader in and John would fuck his mouth for a bit prior to sex with me. After 4 or 5 more times of forced oral and hard training which included him sucking my dildo added with a mixture of 125 hard leather strap and caning lashes while shouting orders to suck that big dick and please it like a good little bitch, as well as other humiliation. It was also explained and drilled into his mind that he would be sucking Johns dick promptly when ordered. Then I explained that resisting an order to suck john would result in the mouth spreader being inserted and forced to do it anyway followed by 250 leather and caning lashes. He realized there was nothing he could do but accept sucking Johns dick especially after repeating this the next 3 days. Now we started forcing him to suck John hard prior to our fucking, I would of course have the cane in hand for him to see as he was ordered to suck. Shortly there after we occasionally made him service us before, during or after sex especially for clean up duty. After a month or so, John was ordering him around as much as me, and I must say it really turned me on. John would have me wear my strap-on and have him suck it while he smacked his ass and we both humiliated him about becoming a sissy and being a bitch. He would then have him suck his cock as I caned him, and then order me to fuck him. Hearing my Sub moan while gagging trying to suck Johns cock turned us both on immensely, which lead to some hot passionate sex with me and John!

As one month turned into two months, John and I started fucking with out condoms and by now my Sub was very submissive and quite the little sissy. He was no longer allowed to see or touch Johns pussy, he wore panties and served John with equal amounts of submissiveness as he would me. I would even take him to Johns house to clean or wash his car as we fucked with the bedroom door open so he could hear me scream with every mind blowing orgasm, and I had many of those every time we fucked! Regardless who's house we were fucking at, after we would finish, John or I would call him in to first kneel at our feet and thank John for pleasing me the way he never could and for taking away pussy from him so that he could serve better. Then he was ordered to smell the cum spot on the sheet, then lick the sheets clean as we both humiliated him and degraded him about how much of a pathetic bitch he was and that this would be his place from now on. Then John would have him suck the pussy juice and cum off his dick as I would kiss John and use my fingers to scoop out as much cum as I could and hand feed it to him in lieu of him licking my pussy clean since John forbid him to touch or see it. We would use him every way we could think of to enhance our sex, humiliate and degrade him, and punish him. He would be kneeling naked with his little chastity on, at our feet while we watched a movie, or ate dinner (he would cook or pay for it and serve it) or just had foreplay before sex. This turned me on so much, but what really turned me on was when John started fucking my sub.

John knew it humiliated my sub to be treated as a bitch by us, but to be fucked by him when ever he wanted, really made him feel humiliation on a different level especially when he was informed that his tiny pecker would be permanently lock away and treated like a sissy slut. We both knew this was the no turning back point for my Sub to take his place from then on, and I really wanted it. I wanted him serving me, and I wanted to fuck whom ever I wanted, when ever I wanted with him being the perfect little sissy, cleaning and serving me the whole time. John made sure he knew we owned him and that anal pussy of his. From the first time John fucked him with out a condom, and told him why. Cause we owed his ass, and his ass was there to give his big dick pleasure, no different from his mouth. The first time my sub was not very vocal, and didn't really enjoy it. He was very humiliated at being taken by a much larger dick than his and knowing this would be his fate on a regular basis. He was now a true sissy slave, and his only purpose would be to serve and obey me, which is exactly what I wanted. John did not wait for his tight ass to accept his dick, he slid it in slowly and immediately started fucking. He would however start off slow before he starting pounding him. It really turned me on watching him get taken for the first time, but even more so in the days to come as my sub eventually started accepting Johns cock. He would moan and scream as john fucked his ass into submission, having my sub scream out when he said, who's bitch are you?, "Your bitch Sir!!", You want me to own that ass, don't you? "yes sir, please own my ass!!" It really turned me on to hear him scream and moan while listening to the lock on his chastity smack back and forth from the intensity of John pounding him.

John would smack his ass hard as he pounded him, telling him to squeeze his pussy muscles tight on his dick, sometimes he would stop fucking him, grab him by the hair of the head and tell him, "this isn't for your pleasure its mine now squeeze those pussy muscles harder and hold it tight for me", followed by a series of hard ass smacks and my sub saying "yes sir" . I could tell he was squeezing johns cock with all he had because his face was squinting and he wasn't moaning as loudly. John would pull out and cum on his ass, the bed or my tits for him to lick off. Eventually it became the norm that my Sub would obey John and routinely suck and get fucked by John. This was great because I had stop ped touching his tiny member and locked it away permanently, so getting fucked by me or John, or whom ever I said, was his reward for becoming my lifetime sissy bitch. This was the best kind of reward because fucking him would build his need for release as it teased him because anal fucking does not give orgasm only pleasure that builds and goes no where. I also started dating a another female (I didn't mix her with John), and believe it or not, she was more strict and humiliating than John was. She was especially cruel and degrading, finding was to humiliate and make him suffer, like; fucking him with a ice dildo - icy hot on his balls - a ball stretcher with pins in it- spitting or pissing on his face- making him run ads on bi/gay web sites and then made to service these guys - instead of milking him she would tie him all four limbs to bed post and spank his balls with a crop steadily and firmly until they released cum(I didn't even know that was possible) - use ice on his balls until they were numb then drip hot candle wax on them to burn back the sensation - make him shave all pubic and under arm hair - She would use ginger root in his ass while she mercilessly used a cane on his ass until his bottom was black and blue - and even doming him in public when the three of us were out. Of course he was also never allowed to see or touch her pussy, he did lots of oral on her strap on dildo. This ended up with us girls tying him down on all four's with a butt plug in, a blind fold on and made to suck a dildo while we fucked each other and played. We almost always finished by making him lick the dildo's clean, as we took turns fucking him. She just another level of fun with my sissy, and I still play with other men, and John. I could never go back to a husband and wife life because I couldn't be more happier or sexually satisfied than I am now. Besides, even though it took some time to show him his natural place, my bitch is just as happy and sexually fulfilled participating in my sexual fulfillment. Who knew welting his ass up severely and being a cruel, dominant slut would make me this happy and give me the best life with the best sex I ever had. Looking back my only regret is that I should have done this sooner, and wish I would have realized it was my own fault that I didn't use my power properly or be the dominant I should have been. With that said, if you don't have your slave/bitch obeying you properly or find him rebelling or resisting your control, its YOUR fault because your the one with the power to make it happen!  

Thursday, December 1, 2016

The Science Behind the Power

A special thanks to Susan Anderson for sharing this with us. Susan works for one of the worlds leading private research facilities and specializes in sexual behavior and psychology. she has a PhD in psychology and a masters in neuroscience and biomedical research.  

Sexual Control is using the brain's own chemicals to take control and modify actions, behavior, feelings, and thoughts of the male. This process is called mental subjugation and is achieved by building and maintaining a high arousal state for a repeated, extensive amount of time causing the over production of testosterone and neurochemicals through out the brain. This forces the break down of specific brain functions associated with thought, behavior, and reasoning as well as other parts of the brain that control emotions and muscle control. This action puts the male into a submissive, trance or hypnotic state which makes him amenable and susceptible to reconditioning and control. In this state he's unable to reason, think for himself, and resist commands or training making him submissive. There are several levels of this trance like state ranging from low to completely hypnotic depending on the amount of time spent and the level of build up in the brain. The Neurochemicals produced also control and activate key parts of the brain like the pleasure circuit. This circuit is activated by stimulating erogenous zones/nerve endings on the head of the penis, anus and prostate. When active the pleasure circuit releases dopamine, another neurochemical. Dopamine is the brains own erotic feel good drug, it is addictive and most of the reason he will repeat submissive acts and find pleasure in yours. Dopamine activates the pleasure center of the brain called the nucleus accumbens which rewards you for having sex. The increased production of Dopamine puts the circuit into over drive effecting reasoning and thought, boosting the submissive state.  Through normal sex or the continued stimulation of the correct erogenous zone, orgasm is achieved giving the release of Endorphin's, Oxycontin, Dopamine, Adrenaline, and other chemicals that are associated with climax which dissolve and eliminate the build up of key neurochemicales. For this reason it is highly recommended that he never obtain orgasm. Only the head of the penis and anal/prostate stimulation is given. The nucleus accumbens is also responsible for addictive things like cigarettes and drugs. This is also the section of the brain which remembers pleasure and causes you to repeat pleasurable things (like having sex). This is a key part of the brain used in reconditioning of the male and why strict disciplined training is so important as you will chemically imprint on his brain that serving and obey you, is sexually satisfying to him thus changing what he use to derive his pleasure from to what pleases you. So even though he won't be rewarded with actual sex acts his brain will be tricked into thinking that obeying and serving you is a sexual reward. Which is why you may see his penis get a full or partial erection watching you have sex, being humiliated, by doing chores or obeying you.

 During this process and at the same time as building the arousal state, the Dominatrix will refocus his attention and desires of sex towards obeying and serving her as well as how he perceives pleasure (This is the actual ongoing training part). This gives the Dom the ability to implement her rules, control and commands, making her will his own and her pleasure his only priority. This entire process involves *edging* (testosterone build up) the repeated prolonged genital, anal, and prostate stimulation. The stimulation is done by building and keeping him *on edge* to just before the point the orgasm occurs, this is the state when arousal and neurochemicales are highest and when he is most susceptible to control and reprogramming. This edging procedure, is done daily over weeks and months, is what builds up and maintains the build up of neurochemicals and testosterone. The excessive testosterone levels boost his energy and are what drive the desperate need for orgasm. The use of a chastity device is needed to prevent definite masturbation. Elevated amounts of testosterone can causes an aggressive like sexual behavior (especially in single males) but when excessive amounts are produced without orgasm, it actually does the opposite causing the male to become submissive. When denied, the inability to orgasm forces the brain to over react and release more neurochemicls that control the emotional part of the brain which only deepens his submissiveness. After approximately a month or so (varies by male) of this daily process along with strict training and discipline, the male may lose emotional control. He may act out, BEG or even cry with tears for release. This means the process is working,  DO NOT GIVE IN or feel sorry for him. Now is the most important time to be dominant, mean, and aggressive towards him, strongly humiliate and enforce your rule over him. This is another reason why strict discipline training is so important because at this point he can become an emotional fire ball causing problems with your training. The longer the stimulation of the male gentiles and the longer the time at which its done, the more the buildup and retention of the neurochemicals. This build up combined with verbal and physical reconditioning and enforcement of desirable behavior, ( also called training) forces the male to be at a submissive and controllable state. Training is reinforced with severe punishments to the point where the entire process has completely reconditioned and reprogrammed the male to your desired submissive state which leads to the finial phase of sexual control. This phase is called the acceptance phase, and is where the male has accepted his place as her submissive. He wants to serve and obey the mistress and now truly believes that it is his place and purpose. He now understands his place and his only purpose to you. He has been chemically, mentally, and physically emasculated to the point he has been broke, his male ego, will, and resistance to your authority is gone. He now gets sexual pleasure from serving and obeying his mistress and accepts she is being pleased sexually by a better more endowed man. He understands that he cannot in no way satisfy pussy and that the pleasure of pussy is only gifted to a better longer lasting, more endowed man and he looks to please pussy in other ways. He no longer thinks of pussy as an equal or pleasure he can ever attain but a power that is completely off limits, and meant to serve. He is now truly your SLAVE! At this point training is far less often but still required (once or twice a week) but rule enforcement and severe punishments are especially continued to keep control. You may choose to permanently chastise him and take a lover or boyfriend to completely replace him in bed. What ever you choose its your way from now on!  

Sexual Control is actually a natural event unknowingly exercised by women on a smaller scale every day and by all aspects and ages of women. It is effective only with men, predominately married men. The Sexual control procedure described above is exploiting and taking advantages of the natural chemical submission process mainly found and undergone by married men although some single males are effected the same way. This procedure requires uninterrupted and consecutive training days/weeks/months and strict guidelines which include complete loss of orgasm, restricted penis stimulation (head only), cuckolding, pegging/strap-on, bondage, and the use of a chastity device. The requirements call for a dedicated, demanding, strict woman (referred as a Mistress or Dominatrix) and the use of severe punishment and reward system to distinguish between acceptable and non-acceptable behavior and actions. Feeling sorry, pity, or going easy on the male will have adverse effects towards training and desired attitude of the male. Rewards never include sex and vary by Dom depending on her type of training, but can include seeing, licking or smelling pussy, watching the Dom have sex, and free time. Any deterring from the course including Drama, fights or arguments will cause the release of counter acting neurochemicls greatly diminishing the submissive state. this will cause undesired effects and delays in training time and could ultimately cause failure of the process. This is why daily training, being a very strict dom, and extreme punishments are so vital for mental and physical change of the male.

After about 5 days of *edging* the male begins to be chemically hypnotized by the prolonged build up and surge of neurochemicals. After a few weeks to a month of correct stimulation and training the male will begin to experience mental loss of control or helplessness and a deeper hypnotic state. This is greatly expedited by verbal (small penis and his bigger penis) and physical (watching you have sex) humiliation. This is mostly because the orbito frontal cortex section of the brain is shutting down. This is the front section of the brain that controls thought, behavior, and reasoning. This section of the brain can be clouded because of extreme libido/horniness making him easily manipulated or even controlled, this is how trained sexually seductive women (like strippers) procure money from men. However it normally only completely shuts down during orgasm. It is the prolonged, extreme build up of the right neurochemicales that force the cortex to shut down, with out orgasm. This is the highest level of trance like- hypnotic state he will achieve. At this point he will have feelings that he is week, unable to control himself or the situation, submissive and unable to resist anything you say or command. He simply can't at this point, and he will agree to anything you say or submit to anything commanded of him, This is the time the dominatrix will implement forced bi-sex acts if she is pursuing sissy training. At this point you will create his new purpose to you and tell him what he is and how he will be, you will tell him whats expected of him and his proper place. This is the point you want to build him to daily and keep him there for as long as possible. At least an hour after build up and for a minimum of 2 or 3 months or until you see he has completely been broken and submitted fully to anything and every thing you say or command. Everything you train him for is eventually what he will want, he will believe that his natural place is serving and obeying you. He will want nothing else as it will feel natural and pleasing to him. He will remain sexually loyal to you, with out the ability to cheat, in fact he will have trouble getting/keeping an erection with out your participation or interaction. His sexual fantasies and pleasure will revolve around you having sex and what pleases you....His happiness will rely on serving and obey you.

As mentioned, it is the flood and build up of neurochemicals that force parts of the brain to over load and stop functioning or go into over drive giving you the ability to train him. This however is not long term and only happens after the build up occurs daily and only after the build up period has reached around 5 days. The chemicals will steadily build as long as the above mentioned process is done (min one hour) daily or at least within 24 hours of the last training time. Any longer than that, the build up will steadily decline. When done properly, with time, and with strict training, the level of build up will continue till he is unable to handle the euphoric feeling and lack of release, causing him to completely accept his submission and your authority over him. Like any drug it will wear off in time so it is vital that you remain strict, demanding, and always punish severely to reinforce the training from now on. It is also highly recommended that before, during, and after daily training, you keep him focused on his submission, purpose, rules, and chores with out interference (like unneeded communication, arguments, or stress). Keeping the levels high as possible day in and day out for months will make him submissive and chemically rewire his thoughts and reasoning process to the way you train him. With proper training and punishments he will get aroused by doing his chores and obeying you and it is this that will help keep the cycle going after training is over. During and especially after training you must keep his sexual energy and libido high to maintain a certain level of neurochemicls. This is easily achieved by simply being sexy, acting your part, enforcing rules, humiliating, and being sexually promiscuous or cuckolding.

*Caution* at no point do you want to allow your male release through his penis. Release/orgasm with his penis releases another neurochemical called Prolactin, which relieves sexual arousal and loss of interest and libido. This greatly diminishes submissiveness and the build up of the key chemicals that control his thoughts and behavior. Thus you should watch closely for any signs of ejaculating leading to orgasm. It is near impossible for an orgasm to come from anal/prostate play or pegging alone with out penis stimulation. It is also harder but not impossible to reach orgasm through the stimulation of the penis head alone. However if stimulated together, the chance of orgasm is more likely. To be safe watch closely and limit stimulating both at the same time. The male actually reaches higher levels of pleasure through anal and prostate play which is possible because the the greater number of nerve endings and nerve transmitters to the brain. This makes it possible for increased submissiveness and quicker build up time.  Prostate milking the male is recommended 2-3 times per month to reduce the back up of seminal fluid into the bladder and other heath risks. This does lower the testosterone level for a short period of time lowering the libido mildly, but it is quickly recovered during the next training session. However it does prevent the loss of neurochemicls which is longer and harder to recover and greatly reduces the possibility of orgasm during stimulation of the penis. Many Dominatrix use the milking in a humiliating way and sexually humiliate the male during the process. This is further accomplished by demanding he lick and consume the discharged fluid.

This process has been studied and documented by myself and a small group of 7 female colleagues for over 3 years using a selected group of 220 males and 40 females. The males came from various work back grounds, education levels and varied in age from 25 to 45. The females were not asked, and varied in age from 21 to 41. The group consisted of married couples, dating couples, and singles. Our purpose was to see if there would be any difference with age or education of the males when studied. We used structural magnetic resonance imaging, various MRI's, electroencephalography, and various techniques including ATLUM, and Brainbow combined with constant supervision and documented everything. 

The results were conclusive and varied slightly from male to male with each controlled group, but the facts and findings were the same across the groups; Men can be, under the right circumstances and process, be sexually and physically controlled and reprogrammed. During these tests we found a few unexpected results as follows; The men in the sexual control groups were more sexually content or satisfied, even when denied sex altogether versus men not assigned to control groups and allowed sex twice a week. This was especially the case with men in groups where the women and submissive were married or long term dating plus were very strict and controlling, with harsh punishments. We believe that this is because even though men allowed access to sex are satisfied after orgasm, its short lived because the urge for release builds back after a short time. However, men in the control groups without orgasm were physically and chemically reprogrammed and trained that serving, obeying and watching their mate have sex was their pleasure. Thus being rewarded "sexually" multiple times through out a day, but the biggest gain of sexual reward being had while allowed to watch his mate have sex. These same submissive men were also more and in some cases only sexually aroused by their female Dominants versus being allowed to interact sexually with other non dominating women. This was evident to the point most could not even achieve or maintain an erection with out involvement from their Dominant partner. We found all evidence was more supportive with married men as apposed to single men as a whole. This evidence also supports the "domesticated theory" of men in long term marriage of 5+ years I posted last year. *a must read* 

We also noticed that at the same time the women in these control groups were more blissful and lively with a higher libido than women who were not in the control groups and had only one sex partner, married or not. They were also much more sexually euphoric, and eager to have sex more often when pared with multiple sex partners while denying their mate. This in particular was not a surprise to us because of prior research done by another university, summarized as follows; Women with multiple sex partners were more sexually satisfied having a higher quality of orgasms and experienced them more frequently and multiple times during intercourse versus women with only one mate. They found that women experience pleasure/orgasms on many levels, (far surpassing that of men) each from different erogenous zones on their body and that larger penis size does play a role in the higher level of orgasms they experience.....Specifically thickness over length. They also found that women enjoyed and preferred the quality and variation of sex as well as the level of orgasm its self, using both to judge their overall sexual satisfaction. Where as men (especially married men) were more focused on the climax and judged their overall sexual satisfaction based on how many they achieved per week. Meaning men in general were sexually happy with only one women giving them sex regularly or as wanted and women in general were sexually happier with multiple sex partners which attributed to higher quality of sex itself. The study also found single men or men with out regular access to sex, instinctively had more tendency to sexually please women (more/longer forplay, lasting longer etc.) than married men. Which suggest that men with out regular access to vaginal sex try to please the women in hopes he may be offered return visits. It also found that married men on average, especially 5+ years drastically lacked the ability to sexually satisfy his mate with problems ranging from Impotence, pre-mature ejaculation, stamina, to even size. All of this in conclusion means several things; That men experience and relate to sex/pleasure mostly (not entirely) through the simple act of climax/orgasm and not the act of sex its self,  regardless of how its achieved or who its with and all men are limited to the level of pleasure that climax gives. They experience sex about the same every time no matter the sex partner and it is the frequency of the orgasm that matters most to them. So contrary to earlier biased male publications and lies, its not the number of women men need to have sex with to be sexually fulfilled or happy, its the number of orgasms a male has in a given period reguardless if its one women or several. This by design means men were meant to have only one sex partner were as women derive pleasure from the sex acts, sexual experience, and variation as well as the climax for full sexual satisfaction.....all only provided by multiple sex partners. This also is supported by the ability for most women to have multiple orgasms and men have only one, among other things.

Over the past 40 years the study and publication of sexual behavior between men and women has been biased. Its been favorably altered to suit male interest or believes and fears despite actual scientific findings. This was done because of fear for loss of power or authority in the household leading to the natural place of married men as servants to their wives....but also sexual control of women for easy access to unearned sex. Female interest and desires have been suppressed or lied about to persuade public belief and more specifically the women them selves, that women are more monogamous preferring one sex partner to be sexually happy and are sexually passive while men are more dominant and wanting multiple sex partners to be happy when it comes to sex. While that may be somewhat true in some cases or small percent, evidence supports the opposite for the mass majority of men and women. Research shows that women are the more powerful sex, the drive and sexual energy when it comes to sex, this is why so many ads depict women sexually to sell product. It also shows that women (if not sexually suppressed) have a higher sex drive then men, its just used and focused differently. True men may have the drive to have sex more frequently, but that's not the same as sexual power and that can be accomplished by one woman with any size or shape vagina. Its also true that women desire being pursued, variation, and quality of sex which only multiple partners can give, and they also desire fulfillment that only larger penis size can give and most often that's not with their mate/husband. Studies also show we were also built for pleasure via having the only organ built specifically for sex (the clit), over triple the amount of nerve endings over men, ability to experience orgasms in all three erogenous zones and on multiple levels delivered through multiple pathways. Its been in recent years that researchers and scientist have actually began to study and publicize unbiased findings and its our goal to do the same. This practice of male sexual control has been around for thousands of years and its been the very skilled women who have used this art to get what they want in life, women have used this skill to control some of the most powerful men in history, like Cleopatra. I have been in this lifestyle myself for years and wanted to know the reason why men verses women were so easily controlled. This is why I started this study, to see how deep the male could go and be controlled and why.


Tuesday, July 5, 2016

How to be a Strict and Demanding Mistress

Words of wisdom from a good friend
"It is very crucial and vital that you are an aggressive Dominant. That you are demanding, strict, and unyielding when training, punishing and treating your slave as you should be 24/7."  

"That's your main job making sure he stays submissive and in his place. His complete submission and commitment to serve you, depends on you treating him like the bitch you want him to be. Constant, strict discipline and punished severely for any rule breaking. That's the key to getting the begging submissive that waits on you hand and foot, never back talks and begs you to get fucked."
                                                                                                               -Miss Quinn 2015-

Being strict and demanding is easy, you just need to have the right attitude and mindset for it. Its finding ways to do it in public or around friends and relatives that can be a challenge. There should be no excuse on your part for not being a proper dominant and taking your role serious. A good Dominatrix knows this and plans for everything. She knows what she wants and she does everything to make it happen. So why is it so important and vital to always be strict and demanding, and to punish severely for unruliness? Well for one it sets his place so that he knows exactly where his place is, whats expected of him, and the consequences for disobedience. Also, so there is never any doubt of where his place is and he never confuses his place as an equal to you. That's what this is all about, him being in his place, serving his mistress and this is what you want so make it happen. This is not a part time lifestyle, or an on again, off again commitment, this is 24/7/365 and anything else will result in failure. Being a strict, demanding dominant also sends a clear message to him that you are and will be in charge, the boss, and only authority. This shows you are serious and will take no bullshit or excuses from him which will further your control over him.

But the main reason to be a strict and demanding bitch is thats what works to get results and it will also pay off in the long run. You see the first few weeks, the urge to orgasm is low but building with intensity, this is the beginning phase and the easy part. After a month or so of training, no pussy, and no orgasms, the elevated hormones will put him in a sex craved frenzy and cause him to rebel or possibly explode with a temper tantrum to find a reason to have sex. If you haven't done your job and put him in his proper place this whole time he will respond in negative ways and say he doesn't want to be the submissive anymore. He will pick fights or argue to ruin all your work to get you to give in and have sex with him. This is not his fault, its the surge of elevated chemicals in his brain that makes him lash out and become emotionally disruptive. But if PROPER, strict, and demanding training has been done, those same surge of chemicals will have a reverse affect causing the fall to a submissive state, feeling helpless to do anything about his situation, but surrender and submit to your authority. That's the power of punishment yielded by a smart Dominatrix and thus why being so strict and demanding at all times is so vital. Reinforcing back talk, unruly behavior, or disobedience with severe punishment is the way to get the obedient submissive you desire, and it works. There is absolutely nothing that will change an attitude and bring out submissiveness in a disobedient slave like a severe round of 100 spankings with a mix of paddle, crop, belt, and cane across his ass. I'm talking beating to tears type of spanking that will leave welts and bruises that he will feel for a week every time he kneels. It will reinforce that he has no say so or choice, in all matters, rules, chores and especially sex. It will help maintain your power and authority on days when training has lapsed for what ever reason and it will shorten the training time for him. Plus it forces him to be submissive to you because he will fear you thinking back to the beating he felt the last time he got mouthy. It also helps in reinforcing that his place is serving you, all of which will keep him from back talk or questioning you or your motives (especially if he is punished severely for those acts, which he definitely should be).

There are many ways and practices used in the lifestyle to dominate or rule your slave, but they all use  punishments and the proper tone and aggressiveness when speaking to or training, the male slave in order to be successful. If you also want to be successful regardless of the rules and training path you choose, your going to have to take your role as his Mistress serious and enforce your rules. When I speak to give an order I say it in a firm voice, "get me a soda" I sometimes say "NOW" at the end of orders to help motivate him faster. With that same mind set, you should never ask him to do anything and if he is slow moving obeying orders, then speak in a louder tone and repeat the order or say "do it now". Being strict means you make him follow every rule, always! If you are in public or places that would prohibit normal submission, come up with other ways that would allow him to show his place as your submissive, like opening all doors for you or you ordering his food. Either way, ALWAYS make him follow the rules and be the bitch you want him to be.

One girl told me she treats her Sub like a dog. She always speaks in a firm, demanding voice and uses simple phrases or one word orders like knell or shut up. She snaps her fingers and points to the floor and he knows what to do. She makes him eat on the floor out of a dog dish or plate designated as his dish. He sleeps on the floor and is treated like a bitch at all times, of course he had to be trained this way. She also uses words like good boy, with a little rub on his chastity area when he has done whats expected. This is on track as the slave term "BITCH" actually originates from that sort of practice. However you need to be more than this, more aggressive and take no shit stance. You need to be a ruthless mean bitch, and your attitude and demeanor needs to reflect that your in control. Another girl told me that she treats her bitch like an unruly child, calling him bitch or a girly name, and having him dress like a sissy. She uses corporal punishments and corner time just because she can and its 10 fold worse with disobedience. Again this is in line with how things should be, but the best way I've heard is from a dominatrix that said she treats her sub hubby like a stranger with no emotional ties. She has completely deferred his status and purpose as her husband to his more suited status as her bitch and his only purpose is serving her. She doesn't let feelings or emotions get in the way of how she treats him or punishes him, in fact she is down right ruthless towards him especially with regards to punishing him for disobedience. She said that while she loves him dearly, it doesn't change his place as her bitch and how he should be treated. He is after all her bitch, which is exactly what she wants him to be and is in the place she wants him to be. His begging and tears from brutal spankings do not cause her to go easy on him, it helps her to know she's on the right track, especially by how truly submissive and eager he is to please her the next few days after a good hard beating, I completely agree....

I look at it like this, and you should too, my relationship has changed to the way I want it, I'm the boss and he obeys me period. I dont care about his thoughts and feelings on the matter, it wouldn't change my choice anyway. I don't want an equal, I don't want his input, I don't want sex with him, and I really don't want to hear anything out of him but yes or no mistress or begging to please me. Actually, I don't even want our relationship to consist of husband and wife, I want it to be more of how it should be, "Mistress and bitch". I mean that's what he is here for, to serve and obey me, to be my bitch. That aside from his money is the only thing I want out him and when it comes to sex I want a real man not a bitch with a little penis who can't last more than 4-5 minutes. I love him deeply, and would never choose anyone over him but I don't let that get in the way of his purpose to me, his training, and punishments. I want him to know his place and beg to be there. I want him to accept being my bitch and his submission to me. I want him to accept that his little clit doesn't please me the way I deserve and is locked away 24/7 to focus on his real purpose, serving me they way he should, and I deserve. His only purpose for me is serving, following commands, and obeying with out back talk or question. He is here for the sole purpose to please me in any way I see fit and make my life better. He is never to ask or question me about whom I'm fucking, where I'll be, or when I'll come home or anything else. To do so would be a punishment so severe he wouldn't ever forget it. And because I control him like that he is always submissive and eager to obey. I do what I want, when I want to and that is how it should be.

My sex life is none of his business, but I do tell him the juicy parts to humiliate him. I want him to be humiliated about his little clit and inability to please me. I want him to be humiliated about me thinking about and fucking real men with bigger cocks that can last longer. I also want him humiliated that he isn't allowed anything to do with pussy, and that I truly prefer fucking other men over him. I also want him humiliated that he has to wear panties and get fucked like a sissy bitch to get pleasure. Notice I said PLEASURE, because when I allow it, that's all he gets as he is never allowed to cum or feel an orgasm. Fucking him with my strap-on will only give pleasure as its impossible to cum from just fucking him with out penis stimulation. Humiliation is the second strongest tool and form of control, that brings out his submissiveness and forces him to take his place. It actually makes slaves more submissive and eager to please being thought of and treated just like the bitch he is. The more you and I are cruel, humiliating, strict, and demanding, the more they are submissive and eager to obey, especially when punished severely for not doing so. The more I get fucked, the more submissive he is and willing to serve and obey me. Being this way towards him and fucking other men several times a week makes him very submissive and willing to do anything I say or want. He understands he must do what he can to please me because I am definitely being pleased sexually by other men which further reinforces his only reason and place. Its an erotic, blissful cycle, one I never want to give up or go back to the way it was!

He will never have an orgasm with his penis again or put his tiny worthless worm in pussy again. In fact he isn't allowed anything to do with pussy and I mean nothing except for the rare times he watches me get fucked, allowed to smell pussy through my panties, or when he's licking my clit as i'm getting pounded by big cock....All of which I do in humiliating ways. That's how I want it, that's how it is, that's how its going to be. I keep it this way because its a form of control, it works best, and it really turns me on. Being strict keeps him submissive, and keeps him under control. Being strict is keeping him on his knees and making him do things to serve and obey you. When you demand his submission and punish for all his failures or rule breaking he will fear not obeying you, he will fear you and always do as he is told. Making him follow the rules full time keeps him in check and keeps him submissive. He is happy serving me and even happier that I treat him this way and so am I. All slaves and bitches feel this way, Trust me, even yours. They would rather serve and watch us have sex then have sex them self. In fact, after trained properly they are almost not even capable of getting an erection with out our devious input or interactions. They really don't look at other women and will not desire sex with another women. They only desire their the pleasure the way we give it. They have come to realize that its better for them this way and that they reach levels of satisfaction they never knew possible.  

 Being strict and demanding is a must but it means nothing if you don't back it up with punishments or make him follow the rules and obey orders.  Punish harshly for rule breaking, back talking, asking inappropriate questions, speaking with out permission, or even failure to show his submission. Do not take any bull shit from him and punish if he gives it. If you want things different and you want them your way, follow my advice above and you will never regret it. Once you do it for a few days to a week you will see a change in his attitude and submission, and you will see a bitch that longs to serve and obey his mistress.  

Monday, July 4, 2016

Proper Pegging and Technique

Pegging is just the proper word in the BDSM community for fucking your man in the ass with your strap-on. At first he will resist, begging you not to, and even think its gay. There is nothing gay about it and it will become one of your most valuable tools to keep him submissive. It will wipe out his ego, help turn him sissy,  and drastically reduce the male moncho attitude to get what you want out of him. Eventually he will love it and even beg for it. It's also the only way to transform him into a sissy bitch, if you want to go that route. Pegging is also a mental training, meaning it will help to rearrange his thinking process and increase the need to obey you. Once you start locking up that little dick and take away orgasms, this will switch his pleasure zone from his dicklet to his ass. He will become dependent on your big cock and you owning his ass for his pleasure. When he becomes dependent on your cock, that means he has more less accepted that he will not be allowed pussy and give in to the only pleasure you allow him. Which he has no choice if he ever wants to feel sexual pleasure again, even though it will never lead to orgasm.

The prostate when stimulated grants him intense pleasure, even more so than penis stimulation. Although it is a different kind of pleasure than penis stimulation, and it can't lead to orgasm with out also stimulation of the penis. What makes pegging such a powerful tool for a dominatrix is the humiliation aspect of it and men can not orgasm from pegging alone, this allows you to constantly keep him on edge and stimulated. Also men were not meant to experience that intense of pleasure nor for the duration as they do when getting pegged. Which is why the prostate is inside his ass, hidden. Experiencing this pleasure from a dominant woman with the combination of chastity and loss of orgasm can bring powerful feelings of submission from him. Men don't have the sexual capacity or nerve path ways to deal with that pleasure like women do, even though its still not as intense as what we experience. Sex for them is not the same as it is for us as they actually experience 90% of the total pleasure they have from the orgasm. When they do experience the prolonged intense pleasure, they become very submissive and can basically loose control including, moaning, screaming loudly, and sometimes even crying, with willingness to obey any command. Seeing him this submissive and loose control like this and is very arousing and intoxicating to a dominatrix, and this is the time you want to humiliate and show your authority . The submission comes from not being able to handle that amount of pleasure for that amount of time and his mind and body going into euphoric shock. Also the psychological effect of you literally forcing that pleasure through penetration at which they have no control. You see, with his penis he could loose interest and go limp, but when you force pegging on him, he not only has no control physically, but also mentally as there is no going limp and he is forced to take the building pleasure leading to his moaning and screaming.

Before you peg it would probably be better if you watch several videos, this is to get a view of the actual act and the basics. While its pretty straight forward, there is actually a technique to doing a good job, even though the videos might not show it but I'll get into that a little later. Once you get an understanding of whats actually going on, and how to go about it visually, you should be ready to do it. Your first time take it slow and remember he probably isn't excited about taking your cock. He is more than likely dreading it and nervous, thinking its going to hurt, and it might if you go to fast. You don't want it to hurt, you want him to enjoy it, to love it, to need it and to become depended on it. He is also humiliated that your forcing him to be fucked by a cock, and one thats bigger than his. Thats ok, humiliation only adds to his submission and mind control, especially down the road when he is begging you to fuck him.

After the first time, he is no longer a virgin, and unknowingly taken a big step to being your bitch. He has been mind fucked as well as ass fucked because of this; He has been forcefully penetrated by a larger cock than his little dicklet and ended up enjoying it. He has now lost part off his manhood and humiliated that he was forced to take it, but even worse he started to enjoy it and wants more. This humiliation is good because its the first step to breaking him and wiping away his manhood which you drastically need to do in order to get the true submissive you want. Once he realizes he has no control and admits to his self that he gets great pleasure from it, he will accept it, as well as other humiliating submissive acts. Once he accepts that his pleasure now only comes from your cock he will actually loose more of his manhood and take another step towards being your perfect bitch. As the pegging becomes more of a reality he will start to get more pleasure because of not fighting it. The humiliation doesn't stop there, once he does accept it and wants/desires your cock, he will be humiliated that he can't help himself....That he needs it and is willing to beg for it and eventually do anything to get it. Even more so if he is made to do other humiliating acts to be granted that privilege. If he only knew what was coming.*BIG GRIN*

Before your first time you will need to make sure his horniness is built up for several weeks. During that time you will also need to start using toys and your finger to manipulate his prostate. This will break the barrier from virgin ass to pegging and get him use to something going into his ass as well as the pleasure his prostate is capable of giving, and even a finger or 2 can have him moaning like a little girl. Also no pussy or orgasms at all, as you should have already started switching his pleasure from his penis to his ass. This way those areas are far more sensitive and easily stimulated. Take sometime time to play before you insert a finger or toy into his ass. Get some lube and Rub/message his ass hole and perineum (the area between his ass and balls) independently and at the same time. You should also take some time to lick (only, not suck) the underside of his head and lick his balls. After a few minutes he should be loving it A LOT! His ass hole its self will give him a lot of pleasure now that he has not been getting orgasms, and this pleasure will lead to him wanting you to stick your finger in, and eventually your cock. This is now his only erogenous zone and soon the trick to have him begging for your cock. It is the most important place on his body, for him and you from now on, especially if you wish to turn him sissy. Soon that will be the only place he gets pleasure, and the only place he will think about. After playing with his special spots for a while, go a head and slowly stick one finger in. Move it in and out a bit and then start to rub his prostate gently. Use finger motions to rub, example; figure 8, side to side, circles-little o's and big o's, the come hither (come here movement), back and forth, or any combination of the above. pay attention to the ones that make him moan louder as those are the ones that touch that special spot. Again take some time here and there to lick his balls and the underside of his head. Now its time to really get him moaning,  pull out and get some lube on 2 fingers and slowly slide them both in. After playing with his prostate for a bit and then using 2 fingers, the pleasure is probably more than he can handle, so be sure not to touch his dicklet very much as you don't want him to orgasm. Just keep teasing his head now and then and he will be begging to serve you. after you have had your fun and he is good and horny, now its time to roll him over.

Time for Pegging
He should always be tied down when training but also when pegging and its always best to get him horny before. Always use a finger to loosen up his ass or butt plug at some point during training before you go shoving your cock in his ass. As time goes on this may not be necessary or at best just a finger or two right before will do the trick to loosen him up. The best position for pegging is doggy style (especially for the first time) and it allows you to pull his hair and smack his ass through out the pegging. After a few times when he is use to getting your cock, you will want to change it up now and then by putting him on his back for pegging, standing him up bent over the bed or other ways. Always use a condom on your dildo, unless its only used for his ass. Use plenty of lube and keep it lubed if needed.

Start out slow giving his ass time to adjust to the size (the bigger the dildo the longer he may need). Slide it in inch by inch taking a few minutes in between until he can take it all (hit bottom) and then give him a few minutes to get use to the whole cock in his ass (the first few times you may need to ask feed back from him). Now slowly pump in and out with short strokes giving his ass time to adjust to the motion. After you see that he is relaxing and accepting the cock you can use longer strokes and slowly start working your way to fucking him fast and hard. Use his reactions to judge by how fast and hard you slam it in him. You will learn his body reactions and better technique the more times you do it, As time goes on he will eventually start moaning and screaming like a girl when pleasure is at its best for him, and may even try to back up on it as you fuck him. This is a good time to laugh at him and tell him things like, "my little bitch loves that cock doesn't she) Make him answer and ask him who's bitch he is as you smack his ass hard 3 times, then keep humiliating him!

Use your hands a lot, grab his hips pulling him back firmly towards your cock as you fuck him. This teaches him you have control. Pull his hair, smack his ass hard and loud, leave deep red hand prints to show as ownership later after the fucking. Smack it off and on during the whole time and occasionally grab his balls by the base and pull. Play lightly for short amounts of time with the underside of his little dicklet (that is until you start keeping it in the chastity full time) but never stroke him in a jacking off motion as he will orgasm/cum. To much stimulation will cause him to cum so keep it minimal. Ideally you will want to fuck him just like you like getting fucked doggy style, driving that cock in good and hard. *NOTE* Its very important in making his ass feel owned and thus the smacking of the ass leaving the hand prints for visual after. This is a mental training as well as psychical. You want him to believe you own his ass but more importantly you want him to want you to own it.

 From time to time go slow and use your hands to really spread his ass cheeks far apart while you fuck him, let him feel his ass crack spread which puts more sensation on his ass hole. You should also do this now and then when fucking him faster as well. You should be very verbal, this is the perfect time to degrade and humiliating him about how much of a bitch he is (and sissy if you want) and how much he loves your cock. Say things like, "you like my big cock taking this ass, don't you?" After he says yes, and he will, tell him"you want my cock from now on don't you?" this is a great time to make him feel like your submissive little bitch, and to want to be your bitch. Also remember to take time here and there to pull his hair and smack his ass very hard while humiliating him. Use other toys and tools from time to time when fucking him, I like to tie a rope around the base of his balls and cock and pull it snug to tie off at the bottom of the bed. This keeps him in position and every time I slam it in he gets a little squeeze of pain, especially when I give the rope a little pull by hand. I also like to take 2 small wooden pins (get at the local hardware store) and push his dicklet inside its self, putting the pins squeezed together with rubber bands at the end to keep the head from poking out, then roll it up like a hose, then use another rubber band to rap it around the new penis ball and his balls to secure it in place. This does 2 things, first it almost eliminates penis sensation which help keep him from orgasm through penis and it gives more sensation on his prostate because it forces the corpora cavernous down closer to the prostate, grouping the nerves closer. You could also just force it inside its self as far as you can and use a heavy duty pin or clip to hold it inside its self.  Remember you want to be very verbal your self, humiliating him about this being the only pleasure he will get, and how he is being a good bitch taking your cock (what ever else you want to say to humiliate him) Make him beg for it or you will stop, have him tell you he wants to be your bitch from now on.....What ever you want, and have fun with it. Trust me the more you make him feel like your bitch, the more he will want to be your bitch.

After he is trained to need cock, I always make him beg for my cock on his knees and then suck my cock first before I put him into position and sometimes I make him suck it after he is in position before I fuck him. Regardless of what rout you go with him, you should always or at least most of the time make him suck a big dildo while you fuck him. Buy a dildo holder and place it in front of him while you peg him and demand he suck it. Make sure he does a good job and smack his ass really hard if he fails, also use this time to humiliate him about it and this is his place from now on, especially if you plan to turn him sissy and suck real cock. If you decide to go the sissy route, make him wear panties and stockings and leave them on while you fuck him.

Remember playing with his little dicklet to much during fucking him will cause him to get off and cum, only touch his dicklet here and there as needed. *NOTE* It is very rare that a man can orgasm by fucking him in the ass, (he may have some cum ooze out, but that's not an orgasm). The feeling he gets is a lot like a pre-orgasm (much like you feel when your getting close to getting off but don't quite reach that stage, only not as intense as you feel). This is why pegging is so valuable to Dom's as a great tool to make him submissive, you get all the perks but he gets none of the glory. Its is the best tease you can do to him even with out you doing penis stimulation on him and why its works great for long term chastity or permanent chastity. Every time he gets fucked, the sensation builds and he feels like he may cum, but it never happens. This leaves him unsatisfied, still horny(only worse), and begging for more, with the added benefit he feels more like your bitch and wants to please you to get your cock again. After a certain point, he will be hooked on your cock, begging to do anything you ask and please you to feel that cock in his pussy/ass. If you really want to push his boundaries, make him take your lovers cock.

Have fun!!


Thursday, June 9, 2016

The Guide to sexual freedom "by Mistress Quinn"


                 If your here on this blog, and reading this you must be looking for something more than the vanilla life and dull sex. Your looking for something more, something far more beneficial and rewarding to you than just sex with your man. You seek power, control, and your man's unyielding submission. You want the ultimate in sex and authority, to make the rules, to give orders and have them all obeyed with out question or backtalk,while you do as you please. But most of all, you want sexual freedom and the best sex you've ever had that comes with it. You want to be satisfied, you crave the pleasure only a big dick can give. You want to fuck hot, attractive, well endowed men with out fear of repercussions or questions from your man. You simply want to fuck who you want, when ever you want. Am I right? What girl in her right mind wouldn't want this. You keep reading about this lifestyle, and searching for help and answers on how to achieve this. Hearing tails of the elusive submissive male begging to serve and pamper you like the queen you are, begging you to get fucked and even turned on by it. Well its true, they do exist and your man can be turned into that perfect bitch you want. Your not alone, many women have felt this way and reached out, taking the necessary steps to train their man to do as they are told, take their place at the women's feet, and accept it as a way of life. In reality, It really is the natural place for him.

You know what you want, you just need knowledge and the know how, but you also need the will and the drive to do it.  You have to put forth the effort.....With out the drive and commitment, you will waist your time as it is not exactly quick but it is easy. I can help with the knowledge part, but you have to do your part and make it happen. Yes, your going to need to put forth the effort and right now from this point you have to decide if your willing to do what it takes to get what you want. You need to commit and follow thru with training, humiliation and punishments to make it happen. With that said, you also have to be willing to break his will, destroy his male ego and punish him to tears, with out reluctance, guilt or remorse. You can't be shy or embarrassed about what you want or what you need to make him do. Your going to have to treat him like a bitch, and be strict, firm, and demanding. Your going to have to punish, torture, and humiliate him to the point he begs and cries. He will need this from you in order to transform into the bitch you need and want him to be. You also need to enjoy it, get satisfaction from it, and even crave it.....But most of all you have to do it every day, this is a lifestyle, not a role playing game.

This is a very real lifestyle, this lifestyle and guide will really change your man both physically and mentally (which is what you want, if you really want whats described above). This is because this kind of training involves the build up of naturally produced hormones in his body. Following this guide and lifestyle will effect his thinking process, reasoning, and alter how he perceives things, and achieves pleasure. Prolonged exposure to this treatment as directed by this manual will result in permanent reconditioning of his mind, attitude, demeanor, and desires. This will most likely lead to confusion and emotional distress, leading to withdraw from the lifestyle if not handled properly as described in this guide. This process also involves the use of chastity devices which can and most likely WILL result in erectile dysfunctions (which really shouldn't bother you as again its exactly what you want if your truly want this lifestyle).

IF your willing to commit, and agree with the warning lets begin....

Male and female 
      Not that I have to convince you, but our bodies were made to have sex, lots of it and with different men....Lets start with the facts of all Males. All males are mostly visual creatures, meaning the sight of naked women rather on TV such as porn or in person such as your self or strippers arouses them. Once aroused, mental stimulation can work its magic to deepen their sex drive. 97 % of all Men are one time shooters (unless they have drug aid) and the average married male last about 6 minutes (20 min for non-married men). This means that they can only cum once with out a given amount of time which varies from male to male and age. Males are also highly sexually motivated, especially married males. On average males thinking about sex 30-40 times a day. All men are also programmed chemically and hormonal to need sex, the longer they go with out it, the more it builds. So much so, that if they don't get it after a given amount of time (also varies with age) they must self relieve by masturbating. Also their one and only purpose to have sex is to inseminate/deposit sperm, thus why they have only 20% of the nerve endings we have and why they really only get satisfaction during orgasm. After they achieve orgasm (from sex or masturbating), their sex drive drops drastically and takes on average 2-3 days or longer to build back up. Last but far from least, men are subconsciously submissive, easily controlled, with a natural desire to please women. Men know if they don't make the women happy or please her, sex is not happening. Studies also show that because a women is meant to have multiple sex partners, the mans penis (more specifically the head) is shaped to force out or pull out sperm (from the previous male) to ensure his sperm seeds the egg.
       Now WOMEN, we require more mental stimulation and then the visual and physical stimulation does its magic, this is completely opposite of men and for a reason. Men can be stimulated easily, (with out sex) which creates a quick deepen desire to please the women. Women are designed to have multiple orgasms, thus to have multiple male partners versus one partner for the male. We are designed to have many males to satisfy our sexual needs and desires while men only require one female to give him that one and only orgasm he needs every 3-4 days. Women have a limited sex drive, meaning we need the variety of several men to keep us interested in having sex, (Think about it, whens the last time you really wanted to fuck your man) but he only needs one naked women as his sex drive is built on seeing that and having that one orgasm. We also experience sex on a different level then men, and have far better orgasms as our nerve endings in the clit alone(8000) are more than double of the males (4000). In fact our clit is a sex organ, with its only purpose to give pleasure and is linked to over 15,000 other nerve endings in the women's body designed to give us pleasure through out our body before and during sex. Our eggs drop on their own, only once per month, we have sex for the purpose to get pleasure and get pleased. We are built to have sex and get pleasure from that sex, Men have sex to deposit sperm, and mostly only get pleasure from that one orgasm while it happens. Women's bodies age slower with the more sex partners she has, also our breast stay perkier longer and we actually get necessary nutrients and hormones from sperm by swallowing or absorption through the vaginal walls. The main problem is we need clean drug and disease free sperm, and now a days its hard to trust anyone.


Please bare with me as I'm doing this manual in my spare time, more to come.....

Sunday, May 29, 2016

Ginger punishment

Ginger for Punishment or Punishment enhancement (also known as figging)
While there is still controversy as to the origins and reasons to figging, it is fairly well agreed upon that it dates back to the Victorian era. 
Caning, a very popular form of punishment for hundreds of years was elevated to an art form itself during that time. There is evidence that figging actually had it’s beginnings during that era as ginger was used in a caning or spanking victim’s anus to prevent clenching the buttocks during punishment. Clenching reduces the effects/pain one experiences when spanked. However, clenching of one’s butt while ginger has been inserted causes a very intense burning sensation that keeps getting worse the longer you clench. Even with out clenching, the ginger cause an uncomfortable burning that gets worse and worse the longer it's left in. This results in the male submissive to endure the full aspect of pain from the spanking or caning, but also the burning sensation of the ginger in between spankings.
Ginger, in its natural state is sold and called a "hand", it’s called a hand because it somewhat resembles one. The protuberances from the hand are called fingers. It is these fingers that will be used to bring undeniable submission and probably even tears from your male submissive. Unfortunately, many supermarkets now precut the hand into fingers and package them as convenience. Try avoiding anything precut less than 4 inches, unless you’ve had enough experience to safely play with small fingers. Find a place that sells a full hand. If the supermarket doesn’t have any, try a different one or visit any oriental grocery store. Buy the largest hand you can find and scurry it home. Keep the entire hand in a cool dry place until you are ready to use it. The sooner you use it, the better the effect will be unless you age it properly which I’ll get to later.
Cut a finger of ginger from the hand. Unless the fingers are very long, do not cut the finger off at the joint of the hand. Remove the finger by cutting down into the palm of the hand so that you get a long, uniform width finger. Use a finger no smaller than 4 inches. Longer is better. Take a paring knife or vegetable peeler and remove the brown skin. Make sure all the skin is off as well as insuring that all the bumps and knots are cut off and smoothed as well. Try not to remove too much meat underneath the brown skin, as you want to retain as full a finger as possible for thickness and the juices are best in the meatier part.

Take your time and don’t rush this step. As you work, rinse it under cold water periodically to help wash away pieces of skin. Ginger is fibrous and sometimes takes a little time to prepare properly. If you’re into oriental cooking, you’ll love the delicate ginger aroma that is released as you do this step. The smell is a great stimulus for the submissive male as well while he is tied down, and it is brought into the room and placed on a table or bed near him, just before insertion. It heralds things ahead, especially once he becomes to recognize and associate the smell with or as his punishment.
After you have the skinned root all nice and smooth, you now have to perform the tricky bit. With the paring knife, a little over two-thirds of the way down, carve a concavity around the finger. This will act as a retention device to keep the root from falling in his anus, just like a butt plug. use the picture above as an example.
Make the ring no more than a half-inch wide. Remember; do not taper the finger all the way down to the end. You want full circumference of the finger two-thirds of the way down, a half-inch retention ring and then full circumference continuing down to the end of the finger, like the picture above. Do not carve out too much however, as this will weaken the finger and increase the possibility of breaking it while incerting it in the submissive male. You don’t need a very deep ring for retention.
After you have carefully completed this step, rinse the finger off and dip it in cold water. Make sure the tip of the finger is sufficiently rounded, use a knife or a peeler to accomplish this. Now it’s ready to insert. Unlike your own finger, you *do not use lube* with a ginger finger. Lubricant acts as a sealant and prevents the ginger moisture from releasing which will hinder the burning sensation he feels. Instead, use the cold water to keep the finger wet. Slowly insert the finger into the submissive male’s anus. Don’t rush at this point. Take your time. Wet ginger is slick enough to slide in with care. When the anus finally opens and accepts the ginger, slide it in up to the ring and let the submissive male close around it. The beauty of ginger is that it takes a little while for the effects to take place. This gives you time for stern taunting, humiliation, and other preparation for training or punishments like nipple clamps or ball stretcher etc.. Once it begins, it builds steadily. Directly after insertion and before the fun begins, go wash your hands. You don’t want to touch your eyes or your submissive male’s eyes by accident with ginger on your hands.
After a few min or so you should hear a change taking place from your sub and that's your cue that with in a few more minutes its time to begin, now its time enjoy your work. Or, as the Victorians did, start your caning or leather straping. Most submissive males will become rather vocal as the ginger works its magic. Depending on the fortitude of the submissive male, the potency of the ginger and the mental attitude you projected will give you a variety of reactions. Most submissive males report that the effects were far greater than they imagined.
To increase the effect, squeeze your submissive male’s buttocks together and hold them for a minute or two. This causes a big boost in burning sensation and if done every so often, keeps your submissive male in better agony. The effects of the ginger will last approximately twenty minutes or so, after which, the effects diminish rapidly.
The nice thing about ginger is that no matter how intense the effect on the submissive male, you won’t hurt him and it is short-lived. Once the sensation ceases, remove the ginger.
Apply ginger to the genitalia while the ginger plug is in place and watch to see if it brings him discomfort as well. I have experienced some of the most stunning results with submissive males using this technique. I don’t have a perfect scientific explanation as to why ginger cause such an effect but suffices to say it works. You can also just use ginger as a punishment or combined with any other punishments, just remember to secure your bitch as he will try to remove it once the burning gets rough.

"Ageing ginger
Using your ginger soon after you buy it will assure potency. Strong ginger, unprotected, for long periods of time will loose its “zip”. However, if you have any ginger fingers left after playtime, place it in a sealed, plastic bag and place it in the veggie bin in the refrigerator. Check on it daily until mold forms. The mold is harmless and does not penetrate the tough, fibrous skin of the root. Wash off, Peel and prepare the ginger as before and play as usual. But look out! The juice of the ginger has increased dramatically in potency. If you think you had a good time when the ginger was new, wait till you play now. Any unused ginger should be discarded after this time.

I have also heard of a cream or topping that does the opposite. When applied directly to the anus it quickly builds to a burning or stinging sensation that is eased with the clenching of the anus. I heard about it from a male Dom during a social event. He said that it is used when he fucks his male and female subs. It forces them to clench giving him a tighter, better feeling on his cock but also makes them focus on clenching which forces them to loses pleasure. I'll look into it further to find the name of this cream and post back here with the information.


Tuesday, February 16, 2016

For you the Bitch

Your probably reading this because your Mistress or Ma-am has given it to you, you may be probing the internet for her, or came across it  searching for information on the BDSM lifestyle. Either way, you have the right information in front of you. This was meant for you to read, to understand, to accept, and live by. Its time you stop fooling yourself and take your place kneeling at her feet!

You are a married submissive male, it is your natural place to be submissive to your wife and to accept her as your boss. As the woman, she is naturally your boss and if you really thought about it you would realize its your place to obey her. Deep down inside you feel the urge to obey as she commands. Don't fight that urge, embrace it and worship your goddess. You were meant to serve her, to obey her, and worship the ground she walks on. As the man you are inferior to her, you are hers to command. As you read this you know its true, you can't help but obey her when she shouts out orders. You feel your heart race, your penis stiffen at the though of kneeling at her feet....You are aroused at the fact that you can't help but want to serve her. As the man, you need to bring out her true dominant self, accept her control over you and do as your commanded. Its your place to serve her, to clean up after her, to clean the house, and any other chore needing done while she has free time to do what she wants.

The only way you can please your mistress is by serving and obeying her, you were not meant to please her any other way. Think about it, when was the last time she wanted sex? You were always the one who asked for it. When did you ever hear her scream or even moan for that matter? you've watched porn, you know the screaming and moaning i'm referring to, or maybe you've seen her with a lover. You have never really satisfied her. Especially they way she wants, or needs! Look at your penis, look how small and pathetic it is. Get it hard, and then look at the women getting sex in porn, or your wife's lover even. There is a big difference, isn't there? Go a head and measure it. Not a big surprise there is it? What are you 5 1/2 to 6 inches? or even worse, under 5. The true is, if your 6 or under you should never have had the ability to stick that puny thing in her. She deserve more, she deserves a real penis, one that will actually give her the pleasure she needs, and wants. You were selfish for even making her suffer through the 3-5 minutes of sex with you that did nothing but get you off. You don't ever deserve pussy again, it should be locked away for good and you should do every thing she commands to please her.

She should be enjoying real dick, by real men, not a submissive bitch who should beg her every day to be allowed the privilege to serve her and be inches away from her beautiful, warm, wet, pussy!
you need to accept your place, get on your knees and ask her what she truely wants, and what she wants from you. If she tells you in a serious manner, that she wants your on your knees, chaste and serving her from now on and the ability to fuck who ever she wants, its done! you know then what she wants and what you need to do. It is your place to serve her, and she knows you know its your place to serve her. accept whats in your heart and whats in hers and serve your Mistress!