The Science Behind the Power

A special thanks to Susan Anderson for sharing this with us. Susan works for one of the worlds leading private research facilities and specializes in sexual behavior and psychology. she has a PhD in psychology and a masters in neuroscience and biomedical research.  

Sexual Control is using the brain's own chemicals to take control and modify actions, behavior, feelings, and thoughts of the male. This process is called mental subjugation and is achieved by building and maintaining a high arousal state for a repeated, extensive amount of time causing the over production of testosterone and neurochemicals through out the brain. This forces the break down of specific brain functions associated with thought, behavior, and reasoning as well as other parts of the brain that control emotions and muscle control. This action puts the male into a submissive, trance or hypnotic state which makes him amenable and susceptible to reconditioning and control. In this state he's unable to reason, think for himself, and resist commands or training making him submissive. There are several levels of this trance like state ranging from low to completely hypnotic depending on the amount of time spent and the level of build up in the brain. The Neurochemicals produced also control and activate key parts of the brain like the pleasure circuit. This circuit is activated by stimulating erogenous zones/nerve endings on the head of the penis, anus and prostate. When active the pleasure circuit releases dopamine, another neurochemical. Dopamine is the brains own erotic feel good drug, it is addictive and most of the reason he will repeat submissive acts and find pleasure in yours. Dopamine activates the pleasure center of the brain called the nucleus accumbens which rewards you for having sex. The increased production of Dopamine puts the circuit into over drive effecting reasoning and thought, boosting the submissive state.  Through normal sex or the continued stimulation of the correct erogenous zone, orgasm is achieved giving the release of Endorphin's, Oxycontin, Dopamine, Adrenaline, and other chemicals that are associated with climax which dissolve and eliminate the build up of key neurochemicales. For this reason it is highly recommended that he never obtain orgasm. Only the head of the penis and anal/prostate stimulation is given. The nucleus accumbens is also responsible for addictive things like cigarettes and drugs. This is also the section of the brain which remembers pleasure and causes you to repeat pleasurable things (like having sex). This is a key part of the brain used in reconditioning of the male and why strict disciplined training is so important as you will chemically imprint on his brain that serving and obey you, is sexually satisfying to him thus changing what he use to derive his pleasure from to what pleases you. So even though he won't be rewarded with actual sex acts his brain will be tricked into thinking that obeying and serving you is a sexual reward. Which is why you may see his penis get a full or partial erection watching you have sex, being humiliated, by doing chores or obeying you.

 During this process and at the same time as building the arousal state, the Dominatrix will refocus his attention and desires of sex towards obeying and serving her as well as how he perceives pleasure (This is the actual ongoing training part). This gives the Dom the ability to implement her rules, control and commands, making her will his own and her pleasure his only priority. This entire process involves *edging* (testosterone build up) the repeated prolonged genital, anal, and prostate stimulation. The stimulation is done by building and keeping him *on edge* to just before the point the orgasm occurs, this is the state when arousal and neurochemicales are highest and when he is most susceptible to control and reprogramming. This edging procedure, is done daily over weeks and months, is what builds up and maintains the build up of neurochemicals and testosterone. The excessive testosterone levels boost his energy and are what drive the desperate need for orgasm. The use of a chastity device is needed to prevent definite masturbation. Elevated amounts of testosterone can causes an aggressive like sexual behavior (especially in single males) but when excessive amounts are produced without orgasm, it actually does the opposite causing the male to become submissive. When denied, the inability to orgasm forces the brain to over react and release more neurochemicls that control the emotional part of the brain which only deepens his submissiveness. After approximately a month or so (varies by male) of this daily process along with strict training and discipline, the male may lose emotional control. He may act out, BEG or even cry with tears for release. This means the process is working,  DO NOT GIVE IN or feel sorry for him. Now is the most important time to be dominant, mean, and aggressive towards him, strongly humiliate and enforce your rule over him. This is another reason why strict discipline training is so important because at this point he can become an emotional fire ball causing problems with your training. The longer the stimulation of the male gentiles and the longer the time at which its done, the more the buildup and retention of the neurochemicals. This build up combined with verbal and physical reconditioning and enforcement of desirable behavior, ( also called training) forces the male to be at a submissive and controllable state. Training is reinforced with severe punishments to the point where the entire process has completely reconditioned and reprogrammed the male to your desired submissive state which leads to the finial phase of sexual control. This phase is called the acceptance phase, and is where the male has accepted his place as her submissive. He wants to serve and obey the mistress and now truly believes that it is his place and purpose. He now understands his place and his only purpose to you. He has been chemically, mentally, and physically emasculated to the point he has been broke, his male ego, will, and resistance to your authority is gone. He now gets sexual pleasure from serving and obeying his mistress and accepts she is being pleased sexually by a better more endowed man. He understands that he cannot in no way satisfy pussy and that the pleasure of pussy is only gifted to a better longer lasting, more endowed man and he looks to please pussy in other ways. He no longer thinks of pussy as an equal or pleasure he can ever attain but a power that is completely off limits, and meant to serve. He is now truly your SLAVE! At this point training is far less often but still required (once or twice a week) but rule enforcement and severe punishments are especially continued to keep control. You may choose to permanently chastise him and take a lover or boyfriend to completely replace him in bed. What ever you choose its your way from now on!  

Sexual Control is actually a natural event unknowingly exercised by women on a smaller scale every day and by all aspects and ages of women. It is effective only with men, predominately married men. The Sexual control procedure described above is exploiting and taking advantages of the natural chemical submission process mainly found and undergone by married men although some single males are effected the same way. This procedure requires uninterrupted and consecutive training days/weeks/months and strict guidelines which include complete loss of orgasm, restricted penis stimulation (head only), cuckolding, pegging/strap-on, bondage, and the use of a chastity device. The requirements call for a dedicated, demanding, strict woman (referred as a Mistress or Dominatrix) and the use of severe punishment and reward system to distinguish between acceptable and non-acceptable behavior and actions. Feeling sorry, pity, or going easy on the male will have adverse effects towards training and desired attitude of the male. Rewards never include sex and vary by Dom depending on her type of training, but can include seeing, licking or smelling pussy, watching the Dom have sex, and free time. Any deterring from the course including Drama, fights or arguments will cause the release of counter acting neurochemicls greatly diminishing the submissive state. this will cause undesired effects and delays in training time and could ultimately cause failure of the process. This is why daily training, being a very strict dom, and extreme punishments are so vital for mental and physical change of the male.

After about 5 days of *edging* the male begins to be chemically hypnotized by the prolonged build up and surge of neurochemicals. After a few weeks to a month of correct stimulation and training the male will begin to experience mental loss of control or helplessness and a deeper hypnotic state. This is greatly expedited by verbal (small penis and his bigger penis) and physical (watching you have sex) humiliation. This is mostly because the orbito frontal cortex section of the brain is shutting down. This is the front section of the brain that controls thought, behavior, and reasoning. This section of the brain can be clouded because of extreme libido/horniness making him easily manipulated or even controlled, this is how trained sexually seductive women (like strippers) procure money from men. However it normally only completely shuts down during orgasm. It is the prolonged, extreme build up of the right neurochemicales that force the cortex to shut down, with out orgasm. This is the highest level of trance like- hypnotic state he will achieve. At this point he will have feelings that he is week, unable to control himself or the situation, submissive and unable to resist anything you say or command. He simply can't at this point, and he will agree to anything you say or submit to anything commanded of him, This is the time the dominatrix will implement forced bi-sex acts if she is pursuing sissy training. At this point you will create his new purpose to you and tell him what he is and how he will be, you will tell him whats expected of him and his proper place. This is the point you want to build him to daily and keep him there for as long as possible. At least an hour after build up and for a minimum of 2 or 3 months or until you see he has completely been broken and submitted fully to anything and every thing you say or command. Everything you train him for is eventually what he will want, he will believe that his natural place is serving and obeying you. He will want nothing else as it will feel natural and pleasing to him. He will remain sexually loyal to you, with out the ability to cheat, in fact he will have trouble getting/keeping an erection with out your participation or interaction. His sexual fantasies and pleasure will revolve around you having sex and what pleases you....His happiness will rely on serving and obey you.

As mentioned, it is the flood and build up of neurochemicals that force parts of the brain to over load and stop functioning or go into over drive giving you the ability to train him. This however is not long term and only happens after the build up occurs daily and only after the build up period has reached around 5 days. The chemicals will steadily build as long as the above mentioned process is done (min one hour) daily or at least within 24 hours of the last training time. Any longer than that, the build up will steadily decline. When done properly, with time, and with strict training, the level of build up will continue till he is unable to handle the euphoric feeling and lack of release, causing him to completely accept his submission and your authority over him. Like any drug it will wear off in time so it is vital that you remain strict, demanding, and always punish severely to reinforce the training from now on. It is also highly recommended that before, during, and after daily training, you keep him focused on his submission, purpose, rules, and chores with out interference (like unneeded communication, arguments, or stress). Keeping the levels high as possible day in and day out for months will make him submissive and chemically rewire his thoughts and reasoning process to the way you train him. With proper training and punishments he will get aroused by doing his chores and obeying you and it is this that will help keep the cycle going after training is over. During and especially after training you must keep his sexual energy and libido high to maintain a certain level of neurochemicls. This is easily achieved by simply being sexy, acting your part, enforcing rules, humiliating, and being sexually promiscuous or cuckolding.

*Caution* at no point do you want to allow your male release through his penis. Release/orgasm with his penis releases another neurochemical called Prolactin, which relieves sexual arousal and loss of interest and libido. This greatly diminishes submissiveness and the build up of the key chemicals that control his thoughts and behavior. Thus you should watch closely for any signs of ejaculating leading to orgasm. It is near impossible for an orgasm to come from anal/prostate play or pegging alone with out penis stimulation. It is also harder but not impossible to reach orgasm through the stimulation of the penis head alone. However if stimulated together, the chance of orgasm is more likely. To be safe watch closely and limit stimulating both at the same time. The male actually reaches higher levels of pleasure through anal and prostate play which is possible because the the greater number of nerve endings and nerve transmitters to the brain. This makes it possible for increased submissiveness and quicker build up time.  Prostate milking the male is recommended 2-3 times per month to reduce the back up of seminal fluid into the bladder and other heath risks. This does lower the testosterone level for a short period of time lowering the libido mildly, but it is quickly recovered during the next training session. However it does prevent the loss of neurochemicls which is longer and harder to recover and greatly reduces the possibility of orgasm during stimulation of the penis. Many Dominatrix use the milking in a humiliating way and sexually humiliate the male during the process. This is further accomplished by demanding he lick and consume the discharged fluid.

This process has been studied and documented by myself and a small group of 7 female colleagues for over 3 years using a selected group of 220 males and 40 females. The males came from various work back grounds, education levels and varied in age from 25 to 45. The females were not asked, and varied in age from 21 to 41. The group consisted of married couples, dating couples, and singles. Our purpose was to see if there would be any difference with age or education of the males when studied. We used structural magnetic resonance imaging, various MRI's, electroencephalography, and various techniques including ATLUM, and Brainbow combined with constant supervision and documented everything. 

The results were conclusive and varied slightly from male to male with each controlled group, but the facts and findings were the same across the groups; Men can be, under the right circumstances and process, be sexually and physically controlled and reprogrammed. During these tests we found a few unexpected results as follows; The men in the sexual control groups were more sexually content or satisfied, even when denied sex altogether versus men not assigned to control groups and allowed sex twice a week. This was especially the case with men in groups where the women and submissive were married or long term dating plus were very strict and controlling, with harsh punishments. We believe that this is because even though men allowed access to sex are satisfied after orgasm, its short lived because the urge for release builds back after a short time. However, men in the control groups without orgasm were physically and chemically reprogrammed and trained that serving, obeying and watching their mate have sex was their pleasure. Thus being rewarded "sexually" multiple times through out a day, but the biggest gain of sexual reward being had while allowed to watch his mate have sex. These same submissive men were also more and in some cases only sexually aroused by their female Dominants versus being allowed to interact sexually with other non dominating women. This was evident to the point most could not even achieve or maintain an erection with out involvement from their Dominant partner. We found all evidence was more supportive with married men as apposed to single men as a whole. This evidence also supports the "domesticated theory" of men in long term marriage of 5+ years I posted last year. *a must read* 

We also noticed that at the same time the women in these control groups were more blissful and lively with a higher libido than women who were not in the control groups and had only one sex partner, married or not. They were also much more sexually euphoric, and eager to have sex more often when pared with multiple sex partners while denying their mate. This in particular was not a surprise to us because of prior research done by another university, summarized as follows; Women with multiple sex partners were more sexually satisfied having a higher quality of orgasms and experienced them more frequently and multiple times during intercourse versus women with only one mate. They found that women experience pleasure/orgasms on many levels, (far surpassing that of men) each from different erogenous zones on their body and that larger penis size does play a role in the higher level of orgasms they experience.....Specifically thickness over length. They also found that women enjoyed and preferred the quality and variation of sex as well as the level of orgasm its self, using both to judge their overall sexual satisfaction. Where as men (especially married men) were more focused on the climax and judged their overall sexual satisfaction based on how many they achieved per week. Meaning men in general were sexually happy with only one women giving them sex regularly or as wanted and women in general were sexually happier with multiple sex partners which attributed to higher quality of sex itself. The study also found single men or men with out regular access to sex, instinctively had more tendency to sexually please women (more/longer forplay, lasting longer etc.) than married men. Which suggest that men with out regular access to vaginal sex try to please the women in hopes he may be offered return visits. It also found that married men on average, especially 5+ years drastically lacked the ability to sexually satisfy his mate with problems ranging from Impotence, pre-mature ejaculation, stamina, to even size. All of this in conclusion means several things; That men experience and relate to sex/pleasure mostly (not entirely) through the simple act of climax/orgasm and not the act of sex its self,  regardless of how its achieved or who its with and all men are limited to the level of pleasure that climax gives. They experience sex about the same every time no matter the sex partner and it is the frequency of the orgasm that matters most to them. So contrary to earlier biased male publications and lies, its not the number of women men need to have sex with to be sexually fulfilled or happy, its the number of orgasms a male has in a given period reguardless if its one women or several. This by design means men were meant to have only one sex partner were as women derive pleasure from the sex acts, sexual experience, and variation as well as the climax for full sexual satisfaction.....all only provided by multiple sex partners. This also is supported by the ability for most women to have multiple orgasms and men have only one, among other things.

Over the past 40 years the study and publication of sexual behavior between men and women has been biased. Its been favorably altered to suit male interest or believes and fears despite actual scientific findings. This was done because of fear for loss of power or authority in the household leading to the natural place of married men as servants to their wives....but also sexual control of women for easy access to unearned sex. Female interest and desires have been suppressed or lied about to persuade public belief and more specifically the women them selves, that women are more monogamous preferring one sex partner to be sexually happy and are sexually passive while men are more dominant and wanting multiple sex partners to be happy when it comes to sex. While that may be somewhat true in some cases or small percent, evidence supports the opposite for the mass majority of men and women. Research shows that women are the more powerful sex, the drive and sexual energy when it comes to sex, this is why so many ads depict women sexually to sell product. It also shows that women (if not sexually suppressed) have a higher sex drive then men, its just used and focused differently. True men may have the drive to have sex more frequently, but that's not the same as sexual power and that can be accomplished by one woman with any size or shape vagina. Its also true that women desire being pursued, variation, and quality of sex which only multiple partners can give, and they also desire fulfillment that only larger penis size can give and most often that's not with their mate/husband. Studies also show we were also built for pleasure via having the only organ built specifically for sex (the clit), over triple the amount of nerve endings over men, ability to experience orgasms in all three erogenous zones and on multiple levels delivered through multiple pathways. Its been in recent years that researchers and scientist have actually began to study and publicize unbiased findings and its our goal to do the same. This practice of male sexual control has been around for thousands of years to some degree or another and its been the very skilled women who have used this art to get what they want in life. Women have used this skill to control some of the most powerful men in history, like Cleopatra. I have been in this lifestyle myself for years and wanted to know the reason why men verses women were so easily controlled. This is why I started this study, to see how deep the male could go and be controlled and why. Be warned this is real, the practice described above does work and the effects if done correctly are long term and can be irreversible if done for long periods of time. So if your not truly wanting a servant, slave, submissive, bitch, or what ever your training for DO NOT CONTINUE THIS PRACTICE FOR LONGER THAN 6 MONTHS. 

                    

How to be a Strict and Demanding Mistress

Words of wisdom from a good friend
"It is very crucial and vital that you are an aggressive Dominant. That you are demanding, strict, and unyielding when training, punishing and treating your slave as you should be 24/7."  

"That's your main job making sure he stays submissive and in his place. His complete submission and commitment to serve you, depends on you treating him like the bitch you want him to be. Constant, strict discipline and punished severely for any rule breaking. That's the key to getting the begging submissive that waits on you hand and foot, never back talks and begs you to get fucked."
                                                                                                               -Miss Quinn 2015-

Being strict and demanding is easy, you just need to have the right attitude and mindset for it. Its finding ways to do it in public or around friends and relatives that can be a challenge. There should be no excuse on your part for not being a proper dominant and taking your role serious. He isn't just going to start out as the perfect bitch or simply obey all your commands. You need to work at it and your going to have to force him, control him and break him. It is your responsibility to keep him in the proper atmosphere, make him follow the rules and punish if he doesn't you will have to train him to be the perfect little bitch you envision through training nights. This means you make time, you plan, you make it happen, you see it through. He needs to see the dominant, take charge side of you to open up and start submitting. Not the "I'm to tired, your in trouble tomorrow", or other excuses you have used, Its lame, and it will never work! A good Dominatrix knows this and plans for everything. She knows what she wants and she does everything to make it happen. So what do you really want? A true submissive bitch that never back talks, asks questions, obeys every command and begs you to get big cock OR a mouthy, semi submissive when he wants, who ask questions, and forces his input husband.....Because you will get out of this what you put into it and you will only have yourself to blame 3 months down the road when he wants no part of it! So why is it so important and vital to always be strict and demanding, and to punish severely for unruliness? Well for one it sets his place so that he knows exactly where his place is, whats expected of him, and the consequences for disobedience. It will make him fear you and shorten the training time. Plus when you do find that hot guy you really like, whom fucks the shit out of you, it will keep and jealousy problems from happening (and trust me even if he is not the jealous type, he will be when your fucking this guys 3-5 days a week and he gets nothing). Also, so there is never any doubt of where his place is and he never confuses his place as an equal to you or that he has any say so. That's what this is all about, him being in his place, serving his mistress and focusing on your desires. This is what you want, Right? So make it happen and don't waste your time. This is not a part time lifestyle, or an on again, off again commitment, this is 24/7/365 and anything else will result in failure. Being a strict, demanding dominant also sends a clear message to him that you are and will be in charge, the boss, and only authority. This shows you are serious and will take no bullshit or excuses from him which will further your control over him and bring out the submissive you need making it easier to train him.

But the main reason to be a strict and demanding bitch is thats what works to get results and it will also pay off in the long run. You see the first few weeks, the urge to orgasm is low but building with intensity, this is the beginning phase and the easy part. After a month or so of training, no pussy, and no orgasms, the elevated hormones will put him in a sex craved frenzy and cause him to rebel or possibly explode with a temper tantrum to find a reason to have sex. If you haven't done your job and put him in his proper place this whole time he will respond in negative ways and say he doesn't want to be the submissive anymore. He will pick fights or argue to ruin the work you did do, to get you to give in and have sex with him. This is not his fault, its the surge of elevated chemicals in his brain that makes him lash out and become emotionally disruptive. But if PROPER, strict, and demanding training has been done, those same surge of chemicals will have a reverse affect causing the fall to a submissive state, feeling helpless to do anything about his situation, but surrender and submit to your authority. That's the power of punishment yielded by a smart Dominatrix and thus why being so strict and demanding at all times is so vital. Reinforcing back talk, unruly behavior, or disobedience with severe punishment is the way to get the obedient submissive you desire, and it works. There is absolutely nothing that will change an attitude and bring out submissiveness in a disobedient slave like a severe round of 100 spankings with a mix of canes and whips across his ass. I'm talking beating to tears type of spanking that will leave welts and bruises that he will feel for a week every time he kneels. It will reinforce that he has no power, no say so or choice in all matters, rules, chores and especially sex, and more importantly your sex and when, how, and who you have it with. It will help maintain your power and authority on days when training has lapsed for what ever reason and it will shorten the training time for him. Plus it forces him to be submissive to you because he will fear you, thinking back to the beating he felt the last time he got mouthy. It also helps in reinforcing that his place is serving you, all of which will keep him from back talk or questioning you or your motives (especially if he is punished severely for those acts, which he definitely should be).

There are many ways and practices used in the lifestyle to dominate or rule your slave, but they all use  punishments and the proper tone and aggressiveness when speaking to and training the male slave in order to be successful. If you want to be successful, regardless of the rules and training path you choose, you must take your role as his Mistress serious and enforce your rules as well as punish for disobedience. You must change your old roles and old lifestyle of "husband/wife" to what you really want as the Dominatrix/slave lifestyle. When I speak to give an order I say it in a firm voice, "get me a soda" I sometimes say "NOW" at the end of orders to help motivate him faster. With that same mind set, you should never ask him to do anything and if he is slow moving obeying orders, then speak in a louder tone and repeat the order or say "do it now". Being strict means you make him follow every rule, always and he should always be on his knees, naked! You have no excuse, and there is no excuse for not being the dominant you need to be and forcing him to be the slave you want him to be and your success depends on it. If you are in public or places that would prohibit normal submission, come up with other ways that would allow him to show his place as your submissive, like opening all doors for you or you ordering his food. Either way, ALWAYS make him follow the rules and be the bitch you want him to be.

One girl told me she treats her Sub like a dog. She always speaks in a firm, demanding voice and uses simple phrases or one word orders like knell or shut up. She snaps her fingers and points to the floor and he knows what to do. She makes him eat on the floor out of a dog dish or plate designated as his dish. He sleeps on the floor and is treated like a bitch at all times, of course he had to be trained this way. She also uses words like good boy, with a little rub on his chastity area when he has done whats expected. This is on track as the slave term "BITCH" actually originates from that sort of practice. However you need to be more than this, more aggressive and take no shit stance. You need to be a ruthless mean bitch, and your attitude and demeanor needs to reflect that your in control. Another girl told me that she treats her bitch like an unruly child, calling him bitch or a girly name, and having him dress like a sissy. She uses corporal punishments and corner time just because she can and its 10 fold worse with disobedience. Again this is in line with how things should be, but the best way I've heard is from a dominatrix that said she treats her sub hubby like a stranger with no emotional ties. She has completely deferred his status and purpose as her husband to his more suited status as her bitch and his only purpose is serving her. She doesn't let feelings or emotions get in the way of how she treats him or punishes him, in fact she is down right ruthless towards him especially with regards to punishing him for disobedience. She said that while she loves him dearly, it doesn't change his place as her bitch and how he should be treated. He is after all her bitch, which is exactly what she wants him to be and is in the place she wants him to be. His begging and tears from brutal spankings do not cause her to go easy on him, it helps her to know she's on the right track, especially by how truly submissive and eager he is to please her the next few days after a good hard beating, I completely agree....

I look at it like this, and you should too, my relationship has changed to the way I want it, I'm the boss and he obeys me period. I dont care about his thoughts and feelings on the matter, it wouldn't change my choice anyway. I don't want an equal, I don't want his input, I don't want sex from him, and I really don't want to hear anything out of him but yes or no mistress or begging to please me. Actually, I don't even want our relationship to consist of husband and wife, I want it to be more of how it should be, "Mistress and bitch". I mean that's what he is here for, to serve and obey me, to be my bitch. That aside from his money is the only thing I want out him and when it comes to sex I want a real man, not a bitch with a little penis who can't last more than 4-5 minutes. Don't get me wrong, I love him deeply, and would never choose anyone over him but I don't let that get in the way of his purpose to me, his training, and punishments. I want him to know his place and beg to be there. I want him to accept being my bitch and his submission to me. I want him to accept that his little clit doesn't please me the way I deserve and is locked away 24/7 to focus on his real purpose, serving me they way he should, and I deserve. His only purpose for me is serving, following commands, and obeying with out back talk or question. He is here for the sole purpose to please me in any way I see fit and make my life better. He is never to ask or question me about whom I'm fucking, where I'll be, or when I'll come home or anything else. To do so would be a punishment so severe he wouldn't ever forget it. And because I'm so strict and control him like that he is always happily submissive and eager to obey but more importantly, turned on by it. I do what I want, when I want to and that is how it should be.

My sex life is none of his business, but I do tell him the juicy parts to humiliate him, more detailed when training. I want him to be humiliated about his little clit and inability to please me. I want him to be humiliated about me thinking about and fucking real men with bigger cocks that can last longer. I also want him humiliated that he isn't allowed anything to do with pussy, and that I truly prefer fucking other men over him. I also want him humiliated that he has to wear panties and get fucked like a sissy bitch to get pleasure. Notice I said PLEASURE, because when I allow it, that's all he gets as he is never allowed to cum or feel an orgasm. Fucking him with my strap-on will only give pleasure as its impossible to orgasm from just fucking him with out penis stimulation. Humiliation is the second strongest tool and form of control, that brings out his submissiveness and forces him to take his place. It actually makes slaves more submissive and eager to please being thought of and treated just like the bitch he is. The more you are cruel, humiliating, strict, and demanding, the more they are submissive and eager to obey, especially when punished severely for not doing so. The more I get fucked, the more submissive he is and willing to serve and obey me. Being this way towards him and fucking other men several times a week makes him very submissive and willing to do anything I say or want. He understands he must do what he can to please me because I am definitely being pleased sexually by other men which further reinforces his only reason and place. Its an erotic, blissful cycle, one I never want to give up or go back to the way it was!

He will never have an orgasm with his penis again or put his tiny worthless worm in pussy again. In fact he isn't allowed anything to do with pussy and I mean nothing except for the rare times he watches me get fucked, allowed to smell pussy through my panties, or when he's licking my clit as i'm getting pounded by big cock....All of which I do in humiliating ways. That's how I want it, that's how it is, that's how its going to be. I keep it this way because its a form of control, it works best, and it really turns me on. Being strict keeps him submissive, and keeps him under control. Being strict is keeping him on his knees and making him do things to serve and obey you. When you demand his submission and punish for all his failures or rule breaking he will fear not obeying you, he will fear you and always do as he is told. Making him follow the rules full time keeps him in check and keeps him submissive. He is happy serving me and even happier that I treat him this way and so am I. All slaves and bitches feel this way, Trust me, even yours. They would rather serve and watch us have sex then have sex them self. In fact, after trained properly they are almost not even capable of getting an erection with out our devious input or interactions. They really don't look at other women and will not desire sex with another women. They only desire their the pleasure the way we give it. They have come to realize that its better for them this way and that they reach levels of satisfaction they never knew possible.  

 Being strict and demanding is a must, but it means nothing if you don't back it up with punishments or make him follow the rules and obey orders.  Punish harshly for rule breaking, back talking, asking inappropriate questions, speaking with out permission, or even failure to show his submission. Do not take any bull shit from him and punish if he gives it. If you want things different and you want them your way, follow my advice above and you will never regret it. Once you do it for a few days to a week you will see a change in his attitude and submission, and you will see a bitch that longs to serve and obey his mistress.  

The Guide to sexual freedom "by Mistress Quinn"

           THIS MANUAL IS BY MISTRESS QUINN AND SHE IS SHARING IT WITH US PER MY REQUEST, PLEASE BARE WITH HER AS SHE WILL COMPLETE IT IN HER SPARE TIME.

                 If your here on this blog, and reading this you must be looking for something more than the vanilla life and dull sex. Your looking for something more, something far more beneficial and rewarding to you than just sex with your man. You seek power, control, and your man's unyielding submission. You want the ultimate in sex and authority, to make the rules, to give orders and have them all obeyed with out question or backtalk,while you do as you please. But most of all, you want sexual freedom and the best sex you've ever had that comes with it. You want to be satisfied, you crave the pleasure only a big dick can give. You want to fuck hot, attractive, well endowed men with out fear of repercussions or questions from your man. You simply want to fuck who you want, when ever you want. Am I right? What girl in her right mind wouldn't want this. You keep reading about this lifestyle, and searching for help and answers on how to achieve this. Hearing tails of the elusive submissive male begging to serve and pamper you like the queen you are, begging you to get fucked and even turned on by it. Well its true, they do exist and your man can be turned into that perfect bitch you want. Your not alone, many women have felt this way and reached out, taking the necessary steps to train their man to do as they are told, take their place at the women's feet, and accept it as a way of life. In reality, It really is the natural place for him.

You know what you want, you just need knowledge and the know how, but you also need the will and the drive to do it.  You have to put forth the effort.....With out the drive and commitment, you will waist your time as it is not exactly quick but it is easy. I can help with the knowledge part, but you have to do your part and make it happen. Yes, your going to need to put forth the effort and right now from this point you have to decide if your willing to do what it takes to get what you want. You need to commit and follow thru with training, humiliation and punishments to make it happen. With that said, you also have to be willing to break his will, destroy his male ego and punish him to tears, with out reluctance, guilt or remorse. You can't be shy or embarrassed about what you want or what you need to make him do. Your going to have to treat him like a bitch, and be strict, firm, and demanding. Your going to have to punish, torture, and humiliate him to the point he begs and cries. He will need this from you in order to transform into the bitch you need and want him to be. You also need to enjoy it, get satisfaction from it, and even crave it.....But most of all you have to do it every day, this is a lifestyle, not a role playing game.

**Warning**
This is a very real lifestyle, this lifestyle and guide will really change your man both physically and mentally (which is what you want, if you really want whats described above). This is because this kind of training involves the build up of naturally produced hormones in his body. Following this guide and lifestyle will effect his thinking process, reasoning, and alter how he perceives things, and achieves pleasure. Prolonged exposure to this treatment as directed by this manual will result in permanent reconditioning of his mind, attitude, demeanor, and desires. This will most likely lead to confusion and emotional distress, leading to withdraw from the lifestyle if not handled properly as described in this guide. This process also involves the use of chastity devices which can and most likely WILL result in erectile dysfunctions (which really shouldn't bother you as again its exactly what you want if your truly want this lifestyle).

IF your willing to commit, and agree with the warning lets begin....

Male and female 
      Not that I have to convince you, but our bodies were made to have sex, lots of it and with different men....Lets start with the facts of all Males. All males are mostly visual creatures, meaning the sight of naked women rather on TV such as porn or in person such as your self or strippers arouses them. Once aroused, mental stimulation can work its magic to deepen their sex drive. 97 % of all Men are one time shooters (unless they have drug aid) and the average married male last about 6 minutes (20 min for non-married men). This means that they can only cum once with out a given amount of time which varies from male to male and age. Males are also highly sexually motivated, especially married males. On average males thinking about sex 30-40 times a day. All men are also programmed chemically and hormonal to need sex, the longer they go with out it, the more it builds. So much so, that if they don't get it after a given amount of time (also varies with age) they must self relieve by masturbating. Also their one and only purpose to have sex is to inseminate/deposit sperm, thus why they have only 20% of the nerve endings we have and why they really only get satisfaction during orgasm. After they achieve orgasm (from sex or masturbating), their sex drive drops drastically and takes on average 2-3 days or longer to build back up. Last but far from least, men are subconsciously submissive, easily controlled, with a natural desire to please women. Men know if they don't make the women happy or please her, sex is not happening. Studies also show that because a women is meant to have multiple sex partners, the mans penis (more specifically the head) is shaped to force out or pull out sperm (from the previous male) to ensure his sperm seeds the egg.
       Now WOMEN, we require more mental stimulation and then the visual and physical stimulation does its magic, this is completely opposite of men and for a reason. Men can be stimulated easily, (with out sex) which creates a quick deepen desire to please the women. Women are designed to have multiple orgasms, thus to have multiple male partners versus one partner for the male. We are designed to have many males to satisfy our sexual needs and desires while men only require one female to give him that one and only orgasm he needs every 3-4 days. Women have a limited sex drive, meaning we need the variety of several men to keep us interested in having sex, (Think about it, whens the last time you really wanted to fuck your man) but he only needs one naked women as his sex drive is built on seeing that and having that one orgasm. We also experience sex on a different level then men, and have far better orgasms as our nerve endings in the clit alone(8000) are more than double of the males (4000). In fact our clit is a sex organ, with its only purpose to give pleasure and is linked to over 15,000 other nerve endings in the women's body designed to give us pleasure through out our body before and during sex. Our eggs drop on their own, only once per month, we have sex for the purpose to get pleasure and get pleased. We are built to have sex and get pleasure from that sex, Men have sex to deposit sperm, and mostly only get pleasure from that one orgasm while it happens. Women's bodies age slower with the more sex partners she has, also our breast stay perkier longer and we actually get necessary nutrients and hormones from sperm by swallowing or absorption through the vaginal walls. The main problem is we need clean drug and disease free sperm, and now a days its hard to trust anyone.

 




Please bare with me as I'm doing this manual in my spare time, more to come.....

Ginger punishment

Ginger for Punishment or Punishment enhancement (also known as figging)

While there is still controversy as to the origins and reasons to figging, it is fairly well agreed upon that it dates back to the Victorian era. Caning, a very popular form of punishment for hundreds of years was elevated to an art form itself during that time. There is evidence that figging actually had it’s beginnings during that era as ginger was used in a caning or spanking, put into the male anus to prevent clenching the buttocks during punishment. Clenching reduces the effects/pain he experiences when spanked. However, clenching of his butt while ginger has been inserted causes a very intense burning sensation that keeps getting worse the longer you clench. Even with out clenching, the ginger causes an uncomfortable burning that gets worse and worse the longer it's left in. This results in the male submissive to endure the full aspect of pain from the spanking or caning, but also the burning sensation of the ginger in between spankings.

Ginger, in its natural state is sold and called a "hand", it’s called a hand because it somewhat resembles one. The protuberances from the hand are called fingers. It is these fingers that will be used to bring undeniable submission and probably even tears from your male submissive. Unfortunately, many supermarkets now precut the hand into fingers and package them as convenience. Try avoiding anything precut less than 4 inches, unless you’ve had enough experience to safely play with small fingers. Find a place that sells a full hand. If the supermarket doesn’t have any, try a different one or visit any oriental grocery store. Buy the largest hand you can find and scurry it home. Keep the entire hand in a cool dry place until you are ready to use it. The sooner you use it, the better the effect will be unless you age it properly which I’ll get to later.

Cut a finger of ginger from the hand. Unless the fingers are very long, do not cut the finger off at the joint of the hand. Remove the finger by cutting down into the palm of the hand so that you get a long, uniform width finger. Use a finger no smaller than 4 inches. Longer is better. Take a paring knife or vegetable peeler and remove the brown skin. Make sure all the skin is off as well as insuring that all the bumps and knots are cut off and smoothed as well. Try not to remove too much meat underneath the brown skin, as you want to retain as full a finger as possible for thickness and the juices are best in the meatier part.

Take your time and don’t rush this step. As you work, rinse it under cold water periodically to help wash away pieces of skin. Ginger is fibrous and sometimes takes a little time to prepare properly. If you’re into oriental cooking, you’ll love the delicate ginger aroma that is released as you do this step. The smell is a great stimulus for the submissive male as well while he is tied down, and it is brought into the room and placed on a table or bed near him, just before insertion. It heralds things ahead, especially once he becomes to recognize and associate the smell with his punishment.

After you have the skinned root all nice and smooth, you now have to perform the tricky bit. With the paring knife, a little over two-thirds of the way down, carve a concavity around the finger. This will act as a retention device to keep the root from falling in his anus, just like a butt plug. use the picture above as an example.

Make the ring no more than a half-inch wide. Remember; do not taper the finger all the way down to the end. You want full circumference of the finger two-thirds of the way down, a half-inch retention ring and then full circumference continuing down to the end of the finger, like the picture above. Do not carve out too much however, as this will weaken the finger and increase the possibility of breaking it while incerting it in the submissive male. You don’t need a very deep ring for retention.

After you have carefully completed this step, rinse the finger off and dip it in cold water. Make sure the tip of the finger is sufficiently rounded, use a knife or a peeler to accomplish this. Now it’s ready to insert. Unlike your own finger, you *do not use lube* with a ginger finger. Lubricant acts as a sealant and prevents the ginger moisture from releasing which will hinder the burning sensation he feels. Instead, use the cold water to keep the finger wet. Slowly insert the finger into the submissive male’s anus. Don’t rush at this point. Take your time. Wet ginger is slick enough to slide in with care. When the anus finally opens and accepts the ginger, slide it in up to the ring and let the submissive male close around it. The beauty of ginger is that it takes a little while for the effects to take place so give it about 5-10 min before you start using your cane. This gives you time for stern taunting, humiliation, and other preparation for training or punishments like nipple clamps or ball stretcher etc.. Once it begins, it builds steadily. Directly after insertion and before the fun begins, go wash your hands. You don’t want to touch your eyes or your submissive male’s eyes by accident with ginger on your hands.

After a few min or so you should hear a change taking place from your sub, soft words, a discomforting low moan but that's not what your waiting for, give it a bit more time. Soon the burning will intensify and that moan will be louder and the begging to pull out the ginger will follow and that's your cue its time to begin caning. now its time enjoy your work. Or, as the Victorians did, start your caning or leather strapping. Most submissive males will become rather vocal as the ginger works its magic. Depending on the fortitude of the submissive male, the potency of the ginger and the mental attitude you projected will give you a variety of reactions. Most submissive males report that the effects were far greater than they imagined.

To increase the effect, squeeze your submissive male’s buttocks together and hold them for a minute or two. This causes a big boost in burning sensation and if done every so often, keeps your submissive male in better agony. The effects of the ginger will last approximately twenty minutes or so, after which, the effects diminish rapidly.

The nice thing about ginger is that no matter how intense the effect on the submissive male, you won’t hurt him and it is short-lived. Once the sensation ceases, remove the ginger.

Apply ginger to the genitalia while the ginger plug is in place and watch to see if it brings him discomfort as well. I have experienced some of the most stunning results with submissive males using this technique. I don’t have a perfect scientific explanation as to why ginger cause such an effect but suffices to say it works. You can also just use ginger as a punishment or combined with any other punishments, just remember to secure your bitch as he will try to remove it once the burning gets rough.

"Ageing ginger" 

Using your ginger soon after you buy it will assure potency. Strong ginger, unprotected, for long periods of time will loose its “zip”. However, if you have any ginger fingers left after playtime, place it in a sealed, plastic bag and place it in the veggie bin in the refrigerator. Check on it daily until mold forms. The mold is harmless and does not penetrate the tough, fibrous skin of the root. Wash off, Peel and prepare the ginger as before and play as usual. But look out! The juice of the ginger has increased dramatically in potency. If you think you had a good time when the ginger was new, wait till you play now. Any unused ginger should be discarded after this time.

I have also heard of a cream or topping that does the opposite. When applied directly to the anus it quickly builds to a burning or stinging sensation that is eased with the clenching of the anus. I heard about it from a male Dom during a social event. He said that it is used when he fucks his male and female subs. It forces them to clench giving him a tighter, better feeling on his cock but also makes them focus on clenching which forces them to loses pleasure. I'll look into it further to find the name of this cream and post back here with the information.

ENJOY!! 

Mistress Story "The Start"

I read this blog from time to time as I find it very insightful and knowledgeable when it comes to the male submissive and mistakes women make when training them. Although I have never really ran into problems when it came to training my husband the way I wanted him to obey. Mostly because I knew what I wanted and I knew that I had to do what ever it took to make that happen. I didn't let anything stand in the way. I admit it was probably easier due to a few things, one being that we have no kids and I don't work. The other major difference was that I really believe I should be the one in control and I didn't let feelings or guilt stand in the way of taking that control. I treated him just like the bitch I wanted him to be and I was very demanding, strict, and relentless with punishments. I made sure he was very fearing of not obeying me because the severity of the punishment reinforced my control and he knows I follow through with every punishment I give. I would punish severely for every broken rule, and failure to obey me properly, but especially back talk!! That's just how it has to be, how it needs to be, and quite frankly how it should be. Trust me, showing weakness in anyway or not punishing when its needed, and not giving a proper punishments will have him doubting your power, and questioning your authority. This can and will cause problems and threaten your authority over him. Not that I don't love him, I do and I would never leave him, I just want things my way, and I love to see him on his knees serving me....But I also want the ability to fuck whom ever I want, when I want. Its not that he has a small penis, well tiny anyway (its average at 5 1/2 inches). Its just not the size that can give me the really good orgasms, the long and strong ones that make your toes curl and actually make you look forward to sex. Besides that he can only last 5-7 minutes.

We met at the town fair and our dating was normal, even the start of our marriage was mostly normal even though I did usually get my way. We didn't dabble in this lifestyle for months or years before we jumped into it for real. It only took one night before I was hooked and realized I had wanted something like this my whole life. It started with a Movie we were watching that has a girl dressed up in this black leather lingerie outfit and as described in the movie she was a dominatrix. I was immediately intrigued and aroused (this was before 50 shades of grey). Of course I didn't know what this was, but the next day I looked it up. Let me tell you, Google had plenty of resources on the matter and I found my self reading all I could over the next few days. I was fascinated with everything and really wanted to try it all, especially the cuckolding part. the only down fall was the free stuff didn't go into much detail, and most of it was paid sites and even those lacked detail , so be weary of that.

After giving it a little thought of how to bring my husband into this, which I really didn't care if he wanted to do it or not, SERIOUSLY we were doing it! I decided to do it slow, calculating and meticulously, by first withdrawing sex from him, and and changing my attitude and demeanor towards him. after the first week, I started to give orders and not ask for them to get done as I read on the net, I knew that the more strict and demanding I was the easier and quicker he would take to his new role. It said he would instinctively and subconsciously submit to my authority if I gave him no choice. I also started tying him down to the bed or chairs to tease him to the edge, and have him watch me get my self off with a dildo. I would also tease him and be seductive as much as possible during the day, using my body naked or not to turn him into jello (just like strippers do at strip clubs to get money from horny men) rub his dick through his jeans. Sometimes at night I would allow him to lick me to orgasm but rolled over when finished saying I was really tired. After 3 weeks of this I knew he started jerking off in the shower, but I also knew that would only satisfy him short term, and that this was about to change when I put the chastity on him. I watched porn with him, and even took him to strip clubs on occasion. My goal was to get him as horny as possible as much as possible, keep him on the egde as much as possible, and control his mind. You see they go hand in hand....You need to control his cock by taking away his ability to please himself (and trust me, all men do) and make it so that only you control his orgasms. But you also have to control his mind because that takes away any power he has, (resistance physically and mentally) and control his mind helps to control his cock.

After a month of no pussy, seducing him, and breaking him down mentally (as best as possible before the real training started) It really started to take its effect on him and he started becoming agitated so  I finally told him how it was going to be. I spoke to him very firmly, in my serious and demanding voice, telling him I was going to be in control and he was going to obey, PERIOD! I got out the chastity I ordered for him and put it on. I told him pussy was now a privilege and he would get it when he earned it. Until then I would be using my new thick and long dildo I bought when I got his chastity. Over the next few weeks I was very forceful in what I wanted, giving him new rules to be followed and having him clean the entire house by his self, including laundry. I spent time getting him very horny, bringing him to the edge but not allowing him to cum. I did not care of his feelings in the matter, in fact it only turned me on more when he would beg me not to take pussy from him, or beg to just lick it. I wanted him at my feet, I wanted him cleaning my house, I wanted him begging to knell and serve me, if only to be allowed the privilege of licking my pussy. And I really wanted better sex with bigger, thicker cock. Of course at the start he would break rules, and not follow orders correctly, even disobeying me at times...That is until he started being punished severely every time that happened and then those times rarely happened. He would also beg most nights to be allowed pussy or to lick it, which I refused and eventually punished him for asking, stating it was not his place to ask for a reward, I would give it if he deserved it....which in all honesty no matter how much he served me, obeyed me, and did his chores I didn't want to fuck him, especially since I was having way better sex and orgasms with real cock. So I started once a month milking him into a bowl and then had him lick it up with threat of sever punishment if he didn't.

Moving on though, It was into the fourth month that I was really craving dick, the dildo just didn't do it for me at this point. It also didn't help that I really wanted to try the cuckolding side out as well. So I placed an add on Ashley M. and right off got guys interested in fucking. Most were not that attractive but a word of advice though, and something I leaned back in high school, its the average looking guys that have the biggest cocks. Once I picked out a few guys with nice cocks I set things up. I started training my little submissive to accept this, and played the first 3 or 4 times away from home. I didn't want to give my bitch to much to handle, or create jealousy and made sure when I returned he got a little reward by smelling my pussy (blindfolded) or allowed to lick my ass hole. It wasn't just that theses guys had bigger cocks and could fuck me better and give me far better orgasms than the bitch could, it was the excitement of meeting and fucking them. The humiliation of my bitch, and the power I felt as he eventually would beg me to get fucked by these much larger endowed men just so he could smell or taste my pussy even if it was on/from my finger or my dildo. Anything to be as close to it as he could. Everything together just made sex better for me, from the orgasms to teasing and humiliating my bitch. The more I would be strict and humiliating towards him, the more submissive he would be. Cleaning the house, begging to serve me, buying me gifts, and begging me to get fucked.

Eventually I wanted more, I wanted to push him to complete submissiveness. I wanted to make him my true sissy bitch never questioning me, what I do, where I go, or who I fuck. I'm also talking wearing panties and other girl clothing like pantyhose, garter belts and heels, calling him bitch or submissive names (even in public) at all times, showing his submissiveness in public (there are plenty of ways for that), and even getting fucked by my dildo and by another male/bi-male. I started out by allowing him the privilege of licking clean my dildo after I fucked myself (he was always blind folded). That lead to me making him suck it as he licked it, and that eventually led to me wearing a dildo and harness during every training session and forcing him to knell tied up with a mouth spreader in to force him to take a mouth fucking, and that led to him knelling and sucking it on command (especially before I fucked him with it). I didn't ever want it to go back to the plain married life, and I didn't ever want him to ask for pussy again. Instead ,I wanted him humiliated, submissive, begging to serve me, and begging me to fuck him in the ass. I even wanted him kneeling and serving another male and I didn't even want him seeing or touching my pussy, let alone ever fucking it again. All of this really turned me on, and excited me beyond words, and I made it happen....All of it! Today, I make him watch me get fucked (only sometimes) for humiliation, he also obeys and serves me and my boyfriend or bulls, he also gets fucked once or twice a month by me or my bull, and he sucks cock when ordered to. For the most part, he is the best behaved submissive I know, and its all because I made him this way. I took what I wanted from him, faded out what I didn't, and I turned him into my bitch, my true submissive sissy, cock sucking, ass fucking, BITCH. I didn't back down, take no for an answer, let anything get in my way, or let feelings or guilt stop me from getting what I wanted. I forced and punished him every time he needed it, and now I can reap the rewards of being in control. This is how it should be, I'm not only happier, the sex is amazing, last longer and is way exciting. He is happier, more loving, really appreciates his rewards when I allow it, and even feels like he really belongs at my feet serving me, and that's all that matters.