Sunday, December 31, 2017

**Sissy-Bitch training

                                                        SISSY BITCH TRAINING
                                                                                                                          Updated 12/2017


**WARNING**This manual is for Dominatrix use only, not for submissive viewing or reading!! Failure to comply will be punishable by 250 lashes and 50 ball slaps by your mistress!!

What is a sissy bitch? A sissy bitch or "sissy" for short is a feminized male submissive that has been striped of his manhood, chastised, and trained to please and submit to cock. The very nature of being a sissy bitch is permanent chastity, and permanently denied sex with pussy (all pussy). His access to pussy has been extremely restrict to cum clean out, the occasional smell (very needed to keep the copulins in his system) and a rare glimpse (for teasing purposes) during worshiping time. His only pleasure comes from anal sex, via other men or pegging and he is required to orally please men several times a week. So you may ask, how do I train him to become a sissy? By being a strict, dominant, and cruel mistress who punishes for EVERY failure, disobedience, broken rule, and back talk (as a Dom should be anyway). But mainly by reconditioning and reprogramming his brain through the proper sissy training and humiliation, discipline, feminizing him, emasculating him, and taking away his manhood. Whats in it for me? Well, besides ultimate power, excitement, fun and being really turned on. Owning a male with little to no interest of other females and is completely dependent on you and cock for pleasure. Also ultimate power over everything and him, with having a completely submissive male devoted to your power and pleasure. Whats in it for him? like it matters HA, HA, HA!! He gets to be what he was made for and fulfill his purpose to you!!

Having a sissy is the ultimate kind of power for a mistress. Much like having a bitch but more so, it takes him to the extreme dedication and submission of your authority. However it requires very serious training and a commitment from you. You truly have to want your bitch to serve and obey you 24/7. This is not a part time training as it will fail if you don't put in 100% every day to its completion. **WARNING** This training is psychological, brain washing, and mind controlling, it will emasculate and strip away his manhood. As such, it is detrimental to his masculinity, there is no going back once he has been turned sissy. He will crave and desire cock, He will become a cock slut, he may loose the ability to maintain erection, if at all. ALSO depending on his dick size now (5 inches or less) his cock may shrink beyond any real ability to ever have conventional sex again. If you are not a mistress who would enjoy watching your sissy suck cock and then get fucked by that same cock while you masturbate or possibly join in, then sissy training is not for you because it is not reversible. NOTE** He will still be able to be aroused by the female body, sight and smell of pussy (Copulins), but he will loose his will to have sex with other females, and he will be terrified of the thought to do so.....He will be completely dependent on you for his pleasure and direction of said pleasure. While his desire for pussy will always be there (its in his DNA), it will be buried deep and hidden by his permitted pleasure, the cock! Ultimately you will be replacing the pussy desire, for cock, and he will submit to cock, crave it, and beg you for it. NONE of all this matters if you want total power, truly don't want his dicklet for sex, or him interested in other women. His submission to you will deepen greatly as the only provider of his pleasure, and as such will loose all interest in other women as they can't offer him what he desires, plus he has the fear and humiliation of not being able to satisfy them, fear they may find out he has a little dicklet.

Sissy training is real and the most rewarding training with endless possibilities, excitement and pleasure for the women who desire extreme power, permanent cuckolding, and the kinkier side of Femdom. It is an extreme turn on for many Doms to use a vibe and masturbate while their sissy sucks cock to rock hard performance and then screams and moans to it pounding them into submission. All of the women who pursue sissifying their bitch want the highest level of servitude and submission from him and believe in complete and total submission 24/7-365. They do not care about his feelings, thoughts, or watching him do any and all sexual acts on other men. They truly believe the bitch's only purpose is SERVING and OBEYING, with complete denial and near permanent loss of her pussy. These women continually date short and long term boyfriends to completely replace him sexually and intimately. They are also really pleased and aroused by the entertainment, excitement and power side of it as well. These women also believe there is no need or want to touch his tiny little clit dick thus permanently locking it in a chastity, keeping focus on serving her and craving cock.

You do not want your bitch to read this or know how your plans of turning him sissy will proceed. He needs to be clueless of the brainwashing so that it may root deeply. You may humiliate him about pleasing real cock and other things but do not discuss the process in anyway, just do and follow the steps. While it is a very erotic and thrilling pleasure for you to create and watch a cock loving sissy slut, and hold that power over him, it is very humiliating to kneel and beg another man to suck his cock and get fucked by him. Because of this he will resist and try to fight it causing a longer harder training process so follow the guide exactly and let the procedure do the work. The over production of hormones and chemicals in his brain along with the hormones you provide (copulins) will keep him oblivious to what is actually happening, soon he will be helplessly dependent and addicted to cock and you will be able to permanently cuckold him. During this time you need to train EVERY day, be very very dominant, and punish severely for rule braking, not obeying, disobedience, and back talk. YOU MUST FOLLOW THESE STEPS EXACTLY AND REREAD AS NECESSARY, keep this manual put up and refer to it often during the process. Wearing a chastity 24/7 is a must and only removed for training. I will also assume you have trained him in the past, and/or currently for at least the past 2-3 weeks and that he has not had an orgasm or pussy for at least 2-3 weeks, ideally a month or longer (the longer the better and easier and faster for this to take root). Past training or current training will help speed up the process, you will be the judge by his actions, desire and submission level to proceed to the next step.

FIRST STEPS - EMASCULATING AND FEMINIZING
Emasculating him is done in several steps;
1st step - If you haven't done so already, you will take pussy completely away ( that's is no seeing and no touching) even seeing you in panties should be rare if at all, unless you allow him to smell pussy through panties (so he can absorb your copulins). It is however OK for him to see your breast and actually more arousing to be topless during training. If your not already doing so, your going to make him lick all of his precum and cum if oozed or when milked, (do it in humiliating ways if possible) this is always his job and it is mandatory. You will also shave off all his pubic hair and hair you don't want, this could be nipple and/or chest hair, leg hair, what ever turns you on, but at least all pubic hair. This is the start of stripping away his manhood. You should do it the first time and then make him maintain it. Humiliate him about only a real man have hair, and get to see pussy. It is also important to wear Dom outfits during training as the symbolize power, enhance the atmosphere, and helps turn him on. You also need to read my pegging guide and start that at the same time as this.

2nd step - This is done with steps 1 to 5 and they require 10 days of training - During training your going to penetrate his ass with your fingers and toys, if you already do this great, but now you will do it every time and spend a lot of your arousal time doing so. However at this point it is important to start off with penis arousal first, then go to prostate arousal. Remember this play can force him to cum easily so watch closely and feel for penis spasms. If they start immediately stop all sensation and give time to recover (20 seconds).  To prevent orgasm, penis stimulation is very minimal during prostate arousal. *Remember to humiliate*

3rd step - After he is use to the pleasures of prostate arousal (usually a few days) you will peg him. again read my manual. Start off by penis arousal, then prostate arousal with a finger or toy, leading to fucking him. *note; If you have not been following my pegging guide, I highly recommend it as it will drastically help with sissy training. Also if following it or been pegged alot then step 2 would have him begging for your cock, either way, give it to him and fuck him good and hard for at least 45 minutes. This is important to give him long pleasure as you want him to love it and crave it. You want the pleasure to over ride the humiliation to the point he can't help but moan and want more of it. You want him to feel that the cock is forcing his pleasure and that he can't resist it. He needs to feel that helplessness to submit to the cock properly so give him a long, good and hard fucking *Humiliate and again read my pegging section for details and technique about pegging him correctly*

4th step - During training and through out steps 2 and 3 you should have humiliated him, and laughed at him about his tiny dick. This step is about emasculating him further and extreme humiliation. NOW you will rename his penis to Dicklet, Clitty, Tiny, little Pee-Pee, stubby, inch worm, dickless, or what ever you choose that sound appealing. From her on you will always refer to it as that and make him do the same or be severely punished, you must whip him till he is screaming and begging you to stop, a good sissy knows how to properly address his tiny thing. You will humiliate the fact that he is not a man, he is a bitch with a pathetic (your name for his dick), that you don't ever want sex with him, and want to lock it away for good. Its puny and he can't keep it hard or last. Let him know other women would laugh at his cock size, and they would never want to fuck anything that small. Tell him he will never have anything to do with pussy, and will never cum again (refer that bitches don't get to cum they get sissygasms) AT this point he should be watching or have watched you have sex in the past. Now you will make him clean up cum from your lover, by being blinded folded and tied down to lick it directly from your pussy (if your lover fucks you bare back), or from the panties you wore if away from the house, or from the condom he used. You would or should be fucking him with your dildo directly after he cleans up the mess to look at your pleasure and sex as his reward (which will help when you lock clitty away for good and stop fucking him for a week or long even though you may be fucking daily). You will laugh at him as he moans from being fingered and fucked, and then humiliating him that he is a bitch for it, remind him that its cock giving him that pleasure. Make him acknowledge it, and admit he loves it. Remind him to beg you for it and thank you. Humiliation is very important in breaking him and striping his manhood, as well as maintaining submission, so you need to be creative, cruel and relentless with it. Now is also the time you punish him for his small cock, use only canes and be serious about how selfish he was to get pussy and give nothing in return. Whip him hard and long, you want this felt and marks seen for at least a week, and you want him to believe you are dissatisfied with his pathetic dicklet. Remember to degrade him about not being a man, and never having anything to do with pussy. Laugh about him loving cock and wanting it for pleasure, tell him only SISSIES want cock. Remind him that his place is serving and obeying nothing else.

5th step - This is done on day 8 step 2 training time - During steps 2, 3, and 4 you will also humiliate him and degrade his man hood through out the day via texting or phone conversations, and more so in person, especially during training. This will be about him being a bitch with a tiny dicklet, that he can't keep it hard or last, that he will only get your big cock for pleasure from now on, that he sounds like a bitch when he moans, that he is not a man, that you don't even want to touch his tiny dicklet ever again, that he can't please women, any women and they would laugh at his tiny worm etc. This step is about feminizing him and deepening his desire for cock. You should have been having him kneel and beg to serve you multiple times a day, and also thank you for that privilege. Now you will make him grovel at your feet admitting and telling you he is your bitch, that he loves cock and will obey his mistress to have it. Make him recite your rules (punish if wrong after worshiping your feet) and then have him worship your feet. You will also humiliate him about you wanting bigger cock, a real man, and you will actively search for one letting him know you are. You should be cuckolding him regularly, but you will talk to men and flirt with them in his presence, telling him to go to the car or to a chair or corner (explain he is a friend from work or a brother). DURING this step you will also start feminizing him by forcing him to wear sissy panties 24/7 under his clothes. You will take all of his underwear away and box them up putting his panties in the drawers. You will pick them out, make them feminine and try to buy them with crotch-less or no ass as he will eventually wear them during training and when getting fucked by real cock. It is very important that through out the day and especially during training, you make him tell you and acknowledge he's your bitch, he has a pathetic dicklet, he loves cock, will serve cock, can't please women, that he wants you to to get big cock and replace him sexually, etc. This is also the step that you show him the difference in cock size and pleasure related to bigger cock, thus deepening his desire for big cock. You will buy a bigger, thicker cock (8.5 inches or more and thick) and after the proper steps as described above, fuck him long and hard making him acknowledge the bigger cock is giving him better pleasure. humiliate him, make him admit to only wanting that cock from now on and laugh about it, degrade him and bring out the sissy your creating. All of this is humiliation and very important for emasculating him and creating the sissy cock loving slut you want.

6th step -  5 training days long, done on the 10th day of step 2 - You will start putting on your strap-on prior to training and wear it during the entire time of training. You want him use to seeing your cock, not your pussy. You want his focus to be on cock not pussy and his sex to deal with cock only. You want him thinking about your cock the entire time your training and eventually through the entire day (he remembers the pleasure your big cock gives and he knows its the only pleasure he gets so he will be wondering if your going to allow him the privilege of getting it). You want him to crave it, to submit to it, to sincerely beg for it and do anything to have it. As such he will begin every training session sucking it for you, to please it, to be worthy of having it. You will humiliate him about learning to suck cock from now on and pleasing it. You may even humiliate him about finding him a real cock to suck or get fucked by. Laugh at him and remind him he is not a man, he is a bitch on his knee's pleasing cock, where he should be, and thats where you want him to be. Tell him you can't wait till he is pleasing the real thing and continue to humiliate him and laugh while he sucks it.  You will have him suck it for a minimal of 5-10 min. and humiliate him the whole time. Grab the back of his head and force it to the back of his throat. Make sure you let him know that begging for and sucking your cock is the only way he will get fucked by it from now on. This is the respectful way to be allowed that privilege. After he is finished to your liking you will continue with normal training as described in above steps. When your ready, and he has begged properly, For now you will fuck him with it for a few days longer. This step is about Feminizing him more by referring to his ass as a pussy, if you already do, great but from now on it will only be referred to as a pussy and make him address it as such. Also his mouth will now be called a cock pleaser, and referred to as such from now on (failure is a sever punishable offence). By now you should be actively making him admit he loves cock but don't be specific about your cock, just loving cock as you don't want him to only be at ease with wanting your cock, you want him craving all cock, what ever cock you force in his face. Remember to humiliate him as much as possible, make him grovel and worship your feet, and cane him on occasion for his small dicklet (not as bad as the first time but felt).

7th step - 12 days long - After following steps 1-6, today after working him up to begging for cock, you will not give him cock. You will reduce him from cock every day to every 3rd day for 12 days, and you will only fuck him after you put the chastity back on. Training will still be the same and you will still have him beg for it but telling him he won't get it until YOU decide (which is that 3rd day only). Tell him a sissy has to earn that privilege. This is when you will start having him suck your dildo several times during training in what ever way or position you desire. Remember to humiliate him and tell him "you like sucking and being fuck by that cock, don't you bitch", "that's a good little sissy pleasing that big cock for my pleasure", "your becoming a good little sissy bitch, sucking cock much better", "you want to please that cock don't you", "your pussy is probably soaking wet isn't it" Make him acknowledge it! You need to be creative on your own, these are the stages that he will submit and give ib to his desires to want cock, so be as cruel as you can with your own ideas as well. Also at this point you will further his feminizing and give him a girly name. You can turn his name girly like Tim to Tina, John to Janell, Tom to Tammy, Mike to Michelle, or just call him slut, sissy, or bitch...Your choice of course. This step, Step 7 also involves training his mind, and mind control with HYPNOSIS. You will begin HYPNOSIS training (This is the part you brain wash him to want what you want, and it really does work). For the first hypnosis session start after he is really aroused.  Bring an ipad, tablet, or computer in with you prior to training. Right before you start the hypnosis, it is crucial that you either put a used pair of panties over his head and nose to let him smell pussy and/or off your finger the whole time he watches the video. Your pussy contains various pheromones/hormones that are addicting and mind controlling, the most important one is called copulins. This one blocks his thought process allowing you (and the hypnotizing) to input your will as his own (look up pussy copulins on google for more info) and will help you brain wash him to what you want making the hypnosis very effective. Let him watch it for at least 10 minutes during training. You are already doing your part of brain training but hypnosis is a faster way, and the best way to use your copulins for full transformation to sissy bitch. All you need to do is make him watch it on video. You can pay this from various Dominatrix sites or get them for free from one of the popular free porn sites. I use Pornhub.com and type in the search bar " SISSY HYPNOSIS COCK SUCKING" for hypnotizing him to suck cock, and type "SISSY HYPNOTIC SHEMALE" for hypnotizing him to want fucked (alternate the video's during each training night). If possible, have him watch these videos several times a day(head phones on if needed) for 3 days or 5 days if only watching during training's. You need to keep arousing him with prostate stimulation during the entire time he watches, but do not talk to him during the video.

8th step - 15 days long - Removing the last of his masculinity, this step is focused on feminizing him further and keeping him in chastity during training. By now you've trained hard, been very strict and punished severely for not obey rules, unruliness or not doing chores as needed or to your liking. You have humiliated and degraded him to a very submissive state, and hypnotize him to be a good cock loving and cock submissive sissy. He loves your cock and will do anything you say to have it. By now you have been actively cuckolding him or better have a full time boyfriend. In the past or up till now you allowed him to watch you fuck, however from this point on, you will no longer allow him that privilege until after he has sucked a real cock and/or been fucked by a real cock. However you will still have him clean up every time. Even after he gets real cock, watching you get fucked will be a reward and only every now and then (once or twice a month at most). Instead he is only allowed to listen, either by being blindfolded in the corner of the same room (better if sucking on your dildo), on the phone, or from a different room. However you will wait till step 9 to find him cock. If you fuck away from him and he is not able to listen, then it is imperative to tell him all about it when you return, while he is sucking your cock or your fucking him. He is to always suck your cock after you get fucked, but fucking him will only be every 3 days (at least until he gets real cock).  Now its time to begin permanent chastity. Begin by only taking off his chastity for training 3 times the first week, 2 times the second week, and none the third week leading to the 15th day, from that point you will not remove his chastity for training until after he gets real cock in some manner. For now you will only arouse his balls, electrical play, and prostate play and fucking every 3rd day. Up till now you have only ordered him to wear panties 24/7, but now you will make him wear pantyhose, and training bra's 24/7 under his clothes along with the panties (of course only if this is of interest to you, but I recommend trying it). You will also make him shop with you for these things (stores away from the house) making sure the assistand has knowledge the garments are for him (great humiliation and loss of masculinity). If your turned on by the thought of him wearing wigs, lingerie, and shoes, now is the time to get those and have him wear them during training. To start step 9, prep by making him watch one hypnosis video a day, do it at first during training, do it for the last 7 days of the 15 day training for this step..

9th step - do this 3 or 4 times - You are now over a month into sissy training, again you have been strict, dominant and relentless with humiliation, as well as hypnosis training. Its time to take him to the gay bar (or on line hook up like Craig's list) for his first real cock encounter AGE AND LOOKS DO NOT MATTER, this is humiliation for him and it is the experience that deepens his sissy. When you find someone on line or at the gay bar, you will want to tell this guy you are his dom/mistress and that he is your bitch. Tell him that your bitch wears a chastity 24/7 and is not allowed pussy or to cum. Tell him that your bitch is a virgin and this is his first experience (that usually gets bi or gay men aroused) let them know he will be in bondage for your pleasure and the added fun, while he is being used.  Tell him anything goes but he must wear condoms and the chastity stays on. you will want to find out if the guy is ok with your bitch serving him or just wants the sex. When playtime is happening, your bitch will be naked except the chastity, have him serve you drinks and go in to get into position waiting for you to enter, let the guest no your going to tie him down and then do so. Start out with him kneeling on the floor legs and hands cuffed behind back with a mouth spreader in (the first time is very hard even with training and this says he has no choice. OR put him on the bed in doggie style position with an anal hook in and nose clamp forcing his head back to suck cock, again a mouth spreader is in. Then go out and explain what you want and let him know how he will be tied down. You will both enter the room and start out with the guy getting undressed and going straight for his cock getting sucked. You've already told him your bitch has a mouth spreader in so he knows to force his cock into his mouth and start pumping. You will have your cane ready to order him to lick his cock as the mouth spreader only holds his mouth open and he will want maximum pleasure of the tongue. Smack his ass hard about 3 times telling to to suck that cock. If the guys is only there for a cock sucking, and doesn't cum after the first 5-10 minutes you may remove the mouth spreader and order him to suck his cock until he cums. remember to humiliate him and smack his ass with your cane the whole time. If he is fucking then after the cock sucking part is done, remove the mouth spreader after the guy mounts him. Again humiliate him and have him beg for that cock and tell you how much he loves it and is a sissy for it. let the guy cum(with condom on in his ass or where he wants) and make the sub suck him clean afterwards. Walk him to the door after clean up and then proceed to humiliate and degrade your sub. This would be a good time to blind fold the sub and get yourself off as you WILL be extremely aroused and horny, you may even find you play with yourself during the intense thrill of watching your power come to life. Then have him lick the dildo clean and clean up. Remember to humiliate him and tell him good sissy, refer that he better learn to suck cock better.

10th Step -  You are now on the last step to complete sissy training, its time to explore your fantasies, or the guys fantasies. After 3 times of your sissy playing, you no longer need the mouth spreader, It is highly recommended that you use your cane to smack his ass if there is hesitation. It is still necessary to bound or tie him down to get fucked. At this point you will stop fucking him and instead instruct him to ask for (the guys name) cock, tell him he will no longer get your cock until he learns to please him and must rely on serving and obey you, as well as pleasing his cock in order to get that reward. This is where you want him begging to him and you, to suck his cock and get fucked by it. humiliate him and be cruel with it, make him by condoms for the event. After a full 10 days of getting cock, your bitch will now be a fully submissive, cock loving sissy slut. Its time to start having him used regularly, Find him 3,4,5,6 guys to pleasure on a regular basis. You may also elect to have him go to serve them on date nights or weekends you spend with your boyfriend. Be creative and remember its all about what turns you on and pleases you, not him....The power is from what you do with it and his excitement is watching you be ruthless about it. Your sissy bitch will also be better sexually satisfied as anal sex for little cocks is far better than regular sex, especially if the female is not into it and he doesn't have the humiliation to preform and fail.     

The reason and appealing nature for a mistress to starting this kind of training! There is no power stronger, fulfilling, or more intoxicating than watching your bitch turn sissy and submit to cock or suck cock and get fucked at your command or orders, especially if your sex is involved.

BELOW IS THE OLD GUIDE, READING IS NOT NECESSARY, YOU MAY READ FOR BULL DETAILS. FOLLOWING THE ABOVE STEPS ARE CRUCIAL, REREAD IF NECESSARY.

TRAINING
OK, depending on where you are in training and how strict you are in his servitude and punishments, this sissy training could cause him to rebel, especially if not done correctly. To be honest you might even have a bit of reluctance from him no matter how strict and dominant you've been towards him so its best not to mention your full intentions. If he rebels, just stay firm, strict and turn up the bitch mode then hand out the punishments! After all you are going to begin "Training your sissy bitch" to be just that, YOUR SISSY BITCH! This sort of training involves you really pushing his limits and submission to the point that he is truly submissive, obedient, and terrified of you and your ability to punishment him severly! As your BITCH, you should be/ have been training him to shave all pubic hair, take your strap-on in the ass, maybe lick your ass while you get fucked and do some kind of clean up duty on you after you get fucked.  HOWEVER as your sissy bitch he would loose all pussy privileges and be trained to; obey your lover (his Master/ Sir), fluff (orally get him hard) your lover for you and re-fluff after he cums for rounds 2, 3 so on, insert your lovers cock in your pussy for you, give your lover a blow job (fully cumming in his mouth) on the days in the month you can't play (or just because), Clean up duty on both of you, Fucked in the ass by your lover, or whom ever you choose (condoms always) just for the humiliation of it or on the days of the month you can't play, used in ways to help you and your lover achieve maximum pleasure during sex (not just licking your ass but licking your feet, sucking your lovers balls while you ride him, licking your clit as you mount him reverse style or your lover fucks you dogie style, your lover switches from fucking your pussy to fucking him in the mouth, or what ever humiliating ways you can come up with). He will also be made to pick up males from gay bars or internet sites, wear sissy clothes: panties, stockings, skirts, dresses or what ever you decide and turns you on (panties full time under his clothes), maybe even made to put a kotex in his ass on the days of the month you need one, and for some mistresses even made to wear makeup and/or a wig the nights he is to be used. It all comes down to what turns you on and if your unsure, I would experiment and try different things. You'll be surprised at the power you feel, the fun you have and just what does really turn you on, remember its also about his humiliation!

Where do you start? Well first you going to need to get him far enough along in training (horniness level maintained fairly high and disciplined good enough to not back talk or question your orders)
that he excepts this. This will not happen over night but with strict enforcement of rules, punishments daily training, and pegging, in a few weeks he will be ready to start sissy training. When you do start his sissy training, you must put in 100% until it is completed, especially punishing severely for broken rules and not obeying. At the end you want his will broken, him completely emasculated and feminized, loving, craving, and completely submissive to cock.  You start off by emasculating and feminizing him. Heavy use of humiliation will also help break him down to except the transformation. Make him shave any hair you don't want on him, (always pubic hair) and wear sissy panties 24/7 (sissy panties are specially made for chastity devices and can be purchased online). You will also start wearing a strap on but not using it when you do normal training and punishments, this gets him use to a cock being present but in a non-threatening way and its psychologically going to build his acceptance. If you have done some sort of pegging or bitch training before, you can immediately start having him suck cock every training day, and skip him getting use to the strap on. After 2 or three days of wearing the strap on during training, you will start to include the dildo in your training. This is done by having him knell (hands cuffed behind him) at your feet with it on, now he is submitting to your cock not your pussy in panties, thus now he is serving your cock and not your pussy (psychologically and physically you will be replacing everything to do with your pussy and him wanting it, to him now serving and wanting your cock) While he is knelling in front of you, start humiliating him about how much bigger it is than him and how this cock actually pleases women. Your also going to need to pick out a girly name for him, or just simply call him bitch, this will be the only thing you call him from now on. As you humiliate him your going to place a mouth spreader device on him and then your going to tell him in a firm demanding voice that he is going to start serving your cock and that from now on he is going to be your little sissy bitch. Furthermore he will suck your cock on demand or be severely punished, you will explain that he has no choice in the matter that for the next few days your going to prove that to him by making him wear the mouth spreader during training and force it in his mouth anyway (and during training you will from time to time put it in his mouth demanding he suck it like a good little bitch) . As you force your cock into his mouth (don't go to deep as you don't want to gag him) tell him he will obey and suck it willingly, and suck it like he loves it, like sucking it pleases his mouth....This is the way he will please you sexually from now on and that his ability to please you this way and show he really wants to please your cock will keep his ass from being welted and bruised, greatly helping him in the weeks to come. After fucking his mouth for a few minutes (make sure you treated him just like a sissy and grabbed his head/hair forcing it into his mouth) and he has slobbered all over his mouth and your cock, you will take it out. At this point take some time to do a few things you want to him, things you would normally do in a training session. After 15-20 min of that its time you tie him up doggy style, make sure he is good and tight. Get him hard and then use your finger on his prostate. When he is good and worked up( babbling like a good little bitch) your going to fuck him in the ass, and humiliate him that this is the only way he will receive pleasure from now on and only after he has been a good little sissy bitch and has begged properly for the privilege.(Soon he will always be in his chastity when you fuck him). Eventually by taking pussy away from him and switching the pleasure he gets from his cock to his ass, he will be begging you to be your little sissy bitch. *note Start off with a 7.5 inch dildo* you may already have him begging for cock through pegging if so skip the getting him use to cock part. Whats important is replacing pussy completely and having him submit to, suck, and fuck your dildo, and then real cock.

The first time or 2 of fucking him you probably won't see a significant change but by the 3rd or 4th time you should see a noticeable more submissive side to your cock fucking him. Especially after you've been fucking him for a few minutes. Eventually after going with out pussy or an orgasm for a while he will completely submit to your cock in his ass to the point he is moaning to your pumps in him, backing up on it, begging you not to stop and babbling many things that could range from how he wants you to fuck him from now on and be your little bitch, to how much he wants to serve your cock and loves it. WHEN he does this your going to want to lead him and make him really want this. To do this you will make him tell you he loves your cock, make him tell you he wants to be your little sissy bitch from now on and ask him who's bitch he is? Make him really open up and crave it, have him beg you not to stop, have him tell you that he will suck your lovers cock or who evers cock you tell him. Don't be shy about this, fuck him good and pull his hair and smack his ass hard enough to leave hand prints, and do it over and over to redden up his ass (remember this is his sissy bitch transformation and you want to treat him just like that). While he is in this state use your imagination and let loose on him. (eventually after a month or so of no pussy contact, strict discipline, and the occasional fucking from you, he really will crave and be cock whipped). After 2 weeks from the day you start fucking him and treating him like your little sissy bitch your going to go a full week (7 days) of not fucking him but still giving him prostate stimulation by hand or toy and still wearing your strap on in every training session with him sucking it on occasion. This way it's always on his mind. On the 7th day start off with your normal training then after he is all worked up your going to give him the chance to show just how much he wants to please your cock and maybe get to have your cock in his pussy. Have him knell and beg to suck you cock, after he does allow him to suck it, but no matter how good he does tell him "he must not want cock bad enough because he's not doing a very good job", then take your crop and smack his ass hard saying suck my cock like you want it and continue to whack him while he sucks it. After a few minutes pull it away from him telling him it's not good enough he can do better and he won't be getting cock today, but you will give him one more chance in a few days. In 2 days repeat, this time you want to use a bigger dildo 8.5 inches and thick, humiliate him and while fucking his mouth really smacking his ass hard with the crop (you will notice a difference in how much he really wants your cock). When you feel he has pleased you enough your going to tie him down doggy style telling him to beg you for your cock, again leading him to tell you who's bitch he is, that he will suck who's cock you tell him and that he serves your cock from now on to never bring up, ask for, or have anything to do with your pussy ever again or be severely punished. Once he agrees lube his ass and tell him he better show you how much he enjoys the privilege of getting your cock by moaning and screaming like the little sissy bitch he is. By now he should always be in his chastity when you fuck him....give it to him good, fast and hard, pulling hair, spreading his ass cheeks, spitting on his pussy, smacking his ass very hard. You want to treat him and make him feel like a submissive cock loving sissy, so  fuck him long and hard. Make sure you always have a dish beneath his chastity to catch the dripping precum and also when you milk him, then have him lick it off as you humiliate him and cane his ass. Remember earlier how I said his ability to show you that really he wants to please your cock will help him in weeks to come, we'll from this point on you will only give him cock after he has sucked your cock to your satisfaction, and even then only after you have been fucked several times. Later after months of not getting an orgasm, or released from his chastity, and nothing to do with pussy (except the rare tease with cum or smell) plus not getting your cock until after you have been fucked 2, 3, or 4, times, He will really become cock whipped and do practically anything to have it, he may even cry when you deny him the privilege of getting fuck by it. If he does, great don't let him have it...You are doing a great job!  Let's not waste this and really tease and humiliate him, letting him know as you smile and laugh that seeing him cry like a little sissy turns you on and he better get use to only getting cock when he really deserves it. Let him know what you really want from him from now on, to earn your cock....Be sure to let him know that nothing puts you in the mood to fuck him, like getting big cock from your lover or boyfriend and coming home to a spotless house. 

At this point its time to start looking for a suitable lover that can fit the bull position, or learn to be a 
bull. He should be open minded, or maybe even Bi/ bi-curious, so he is more willing or even excited
to be serviced by your Bitch. He should also be OK with/or even  turned on by being your bitches 
"MASTER" thus ordering him to serve you and or him in what ever ways the two of you see fit. At the same time there is no reason to waste his ultimate submission, start looking for Bi or gay men to use him. LOOKS don't matter, their purpose is to have him suck them and fuck him (condoms always), he needs the experience and humilliation of being fucked by real cock, forced to admit he loves it, wants it, needs it! They will not be there for your sexual needs (unless you want to join) but try to find an above average (more than 6.5 inches) cock if possible. Once you have the lover/'s and/or users picked out you would then discuss your plans/scenarios that you would like to take place, go over the do's and don'ts, answer and ask any questions you have. Let new master/Bull or user know his roll a head of time, as in, is he a lover for you to fuck as we'll or just a master for you sissy to service and serve, or just there to use your sissy. When it's time for play no matter the persons roll,  Don't be shy, or afraid to do what you want, what you want him to do or what you want done to him or sissy. This is about what turns you on as well as his humiliation. All men are turned on by a women in control, especially if she is firm, demanding and flaunts it. You could even ask the new guy for his ideas and/or maybe just let him take control the first few times or until you want it.

No matter if this new user, Master/Sir is just for your sissy bitch or he is someone you also want to play with (making him a lover) you'll want to start off by having your sissy waiting in another room while you greet his master and bring him to a place to sit with you or near you depending on his roll there. If he is not a lover then you should sit with a little distance between you. After a few minutes of talking and the user, or master is ready call for your sissy to come knell in his place. (he should be naked with his chastity on) You will introduce the man as his new master or user,  and if also a lover let sissy know that as well. Tell your bitch to fetch you both drinks and towels for later. Make sure he knells at your feet before giving you the drinks. Snap your fingers and be demanding! When you and the man are ready leash your bitch and walk him to the play room on his knees. When you get to the room place your sissy where he needs to be (start off blind folded and kneeling with hands cuffed behind him, and for the first time use your mouth spreader device as the real cock is much more humiliating and difficult to suck) from here the man's role of master, user, or lover plays a big part. If he is a lover you two would start making out and taking off each other's clothes before you get to the real point of the master/lover being there, if not a lover then the next step, directly to the point. The master removes  his cloths and you tell your sissy he is going to suck his cock hard for you. The master will put his cock into the sissy's forced open mouth and begin to fuck his mouth because the mouth spreader will keep sissy from truly sucking his cock, fucking his mouth is necessary this first time. You will have your crop smacking his ass hard telling him to suck his fucking cock like a good little bitch and use his tongue, use a firm loud voice. After 6/7 smacks your going to lube sissy's ass and slowly work in a butt plug or toy to get him worked up and loose. Once the guy is good and hard it's time to move on to the next step. Again the guys roll determines that. If he is a lover then you will remove the mouth spreader (it would be good to have the bitch wearing a butt plug strap to keep it from falling out), then proceed to the bed for a good fucking, doing the steps along the way to have sissy bitch in position to please both of you. Once you 2 are done fucking, its time to put sissy in his place to get fucked and remove the butt plug (make sure the master treats him like a sissy bitch smacking his ass and making sissy tell him he loves his cock along with any other humiliating things you discuss with him to say). If he is just a master then you would skip the having sex part and proceed to training him with the master, if he is a user then skip the training step and go to the user step. MASTER STEP* Start off by getting sissy good and horny, rub his cage and balls while you tell him how tiny and useless it is. Also use a prostate vibrator and suck on his nipples and ears to boost his horniness level. during this time you will use verbal humiliation, tie him down in humiliating positions, and have the master put his cock in sissy's mouth from time to time (the mouth spreader would have been left in) Next you will remove your clothes except for your panties (and bra if uncomfortable) put on your strap-on, then you will proceed to the corporal side of training. You will do everything from CBT (cock and ball torture) to spanking him with the crop, paddle, flogger and cane including nipple clamps, electro shock, and candle wax burning (if you have these). When doing all this make sure the master does his part (what ever you guys have discussed during the first meeting or conversations by texting or over the phone, and/or when he first arrives before you call sissy in). Sissy should still be blind folded and make sure the spankings are fairly hard and range from one hitters to fast multiple hits (10 in a row), and humiliate him during this time. Make sure you tell him he is going to take the masters cock deep and please it or be severely punished. Once you have had your fun and you feel sissy is ready then you would put sissy in his position to get fucked (your or masters choose of position not the sissy's) and tie him down. Remove the butt plug and harness and do as described above. Have the master start out with a slow insert (condom on and lots of lube), and a slow fuck gradually building speed and pounding. during this time be sure to give sissy humiliation and smacks to the ass, then proceed to have sissy suck on your strap-on cock and tell him to do a good job sucking it like a good little bitch. After the master is done or sissy cant take anymore cock, (which ever comes first but if sissy can't take it anymore then the lover should jack off and cum on his ass or face at your discretion) then sissy is untied and told to clean up then take his place again kneeling and serving both of you in what way you see fit. USER STEP* After the user is good and hard and ready to fuck, put sissy in his place to get fucked and tie him down. put on your strap on and grab your crop. User must always wear a condom and lube up, then start out slow and build to fucking hard and fast. During this entire time you will be humiliating him about his new role, being used from now on and eventually sucking cock on command. humiliate him about being a sissy bitch from now on and that he will eventually beg you for this privilege, tell him you want to hear him moan and scream like a good little bitch. Keep humiliating him as you force your cock through the mouth spreader and command him to suck your cock while he gets fucked by the user, smack his back with the crop from time to time. This would also be a good time to use your finger and let him smell how aroused and turned on you are by watching him being used, the smell of pussy will force him over the submission thresh hold, to complete sissy bitch especially since he can't help but start to love the feeling of that real cock building him to sissygasm. After about 10 minutes you will switch positions with the user, have him remove the condom and fuck his mouth while you fuck sissie's ass good and hard, then switch back with the user putting on a new condom. The user is going to cum inside the condom while he fucks the sissy, then discard it on the floor for sissy to clean up. Allow him to clean up and walk him out setting up another date or a time to call him for another date. When you come back you may begin again to fuck sissy or what ever fun you want.

No matter the role of the man use your own ideas, humiliation, and positions, and after 3 or 4 times of forced oral, you may choose to not use the mouth spreader. Remember, this as with anything is about your pleasure, excitement, entertainment and fun. He is only permitted this by you, even if he does't know he wants and needs this from now on. In time he will love the real cock fucking him and become cock whipped as it will be the only time he gets pleasure. You need to have several regular men (5,6,7) to use him, have him used at least 3-4 times per month. You should find at least male out of them you trust, so that you can drop the sissy off at, for chores, repairs, cleaning and/or sexual service while you go get fucked. This is especially useful on long day, or spending the nigh and/or weekend with your Boyfriend or Bull/lover. 

MASTER NOTE*When its time for the master to go, leave sissy on his knees in the play room and walk out the master. The blind fold should still be on sissy and not have been removed at all during the masters stay (you will have your sissy blind folded right before every play session with the master and most every time you get fucked). For the first few times 3 or 4 of the master coming over (after he leaves) you will tie sissy up laying down and remove his chastity. Then you will get his little dick hard and keep him on the edge until you feel like putting it back away. During this time make sure you humiliate him and tell him this is his new place from now on.Then you will lock it back away and release him to take his place kneeling at your feet where you will inform him that this is the only sex he will have from now on and humiliate him about it, making sure you have him thank you for that privilege, have him worship your feet and/or ass. After his break in period (the first 3 or 4 times) you will not be removing his chastity instead you will come through the door after walking out the master (and still have nothing on but your panties) and while he is kneeling in his place you tell him how good of a little bitch he was and again informing him this is the way it's going to be from now on. Tell him how well he has pleased you and tell him that he's going to get a reward for being a good little sissy bitch by allowing him to put his nose in your crotch to smell your pussy ( but only for a minute or two). This may be a reward for him as he has done good but it also serves another purpose, it allows him to smell your sweat freshly fucked pussy (if the master is also a lover) allowing the hormones you secrete to do their job and subconsciously deepen is submission and craving of you getting fucked which will also cause him to crave being fucked. Even if he was just a master not a lover, he would still smell the hormones from how horny you got just by watching him get used like a little sissy bitch. If the master is not a lover you may also want to take the time and relieve the sexual build up from watching sissy get used by having sissy hold a dildo in his mouth while you fuck it or have sissy wear a strap-on while you ride him.


Remember, you should be looking for men that are more open to your fun, bi or gay men are more likely to play or fuck him. You can find them at gay bars, gay or fetish web sites, or Craig's list. A lot of this has been gone over in other topics, please be sure to read all of them for more ideas as well as gaining more experience.... As always explore, have fun, and do what pleases you!

Sissy explained
Turning him sissy is not something that happens over night, it involves several weeks to months of hard, correct training. It is a specific and special kind of training that forces him mentally and physically to need and crave cock. It is much more fulfilling, intense and gratifying than just having a bitch and cuckolding him. It is done by psychologically and physically replacing his desire and need for pussy to cock but with a much more intensity. It is much more intense because with an orgasm in pussy the brain releases counter reacting chemicals that says he is finished, acheived the goal so to speak. When he cum's/ orgasms anally that is not released thus building the nee and desire for pleasure. ,  It involves mind control and brain washing. First by build up of his natural chemicals, a cocktail of hormones and proteins that in small amount create a drive to want sex, however in large amounts cause submissive behavior, which is used to make him submissive to pussy and crave cuckolding. These are created in his testicles and prostate, however the key chemicals for changing and replacing sexual desire are only secreted during repeated prostate sex, ideally through big cock penetration. But for these chemicals to work correctly and complete the transformation, the male must not have access to pussy, or an orgasm for 3-4 weeks. It also involves your pheromones called copulins to trick his brain into believing this is the only sex he needs and desires. The process is further helped and quickened by hypnotizing the male through subliminal messages, via picture and/or voice, on video that subconsciously forces him to want, need, believe he is a sissy and loves cock. The best video's are ones that talk or flash words to describe him wanting cock, loving cock, sucking it, being fucked by it, thinking about it, submitting to it etc. Also that his cock is tiny, can't please women, and was built to be a sissy. It is however only about the cock and not who's giving it, (why looks don't matter) meaning this doesn't make him gay as he would never want to date a man or be intimate with him, his DNA can't be over written. It can be focused on dildo cock, real cock or both or if wanting him to mainly crave or only crave real cock or sex with other men. FACTS; Most all sissies have small cocks, around 5 inches or less. During conversion, all sissies would prefer cock over sex with other females (not his mistress) as the humiliation of small cock, performance, and being unable to maintain erection is to much to handle. After conversion, they prefer cock over all pussy and loose interest in other females. They have accepted that they can't give any pleasure to anyone, and that the pleasure of the cock is more intense, powerful, longer lasting and they can have sex for as long as the penis is hard, enjoying pleasure far longer than the quick penis orgasm they were once permitted. They are still turned on by the sight of a naked female body, and make them feel weak and submissive to it, especially that of his mistress. however have no instinct or desire to act in normal sex as it would have a reverse action actually causing them to crave cock more (why strip clubs/lap dances help to depend his desire for cock).

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Saturday, November 11, 2017

The Black and White of cuckolding

             THE BLACK AND WHITE OF CUCKOLDING

Cuckolding for most women is the epitome of female domination. That is to say it is the focus or prime reason most Dominatrix or Mistresses live this lifestyle. There is an alluring, thrilling and intoxicating feeling you get, when you meet an attractive man and have erotic, passionate, mind blowing sex (even if he has an average cock), especially with the freedom to date him. It feels euphoric, completes you as a women, satisfies and fulfills that deep feminine desire, the same one that makes you wet every time you think about sex with him. It is the power of owning a submissive bitch to serve and obey you, while having an alpha male to please you sexually that gives you the feeling of being blissfully complete, sexually empowered, and with utter happiness. Sure its a real turn on, and extremely satisfying to be a Dom with a bitch kneeling at you feet, obeying and serving you. Doing all the chores, cleaning, picking up after you, running errands....What ever you command and all with out back talk, arguing, or even input. Not to mention the freedom to do what ever, when ever you want and spoil yourself with shopping, hair and nails, or what ever you desire. Then there is the added fun of humiliation, and inflicting pain or torment for your amusement. What could be better than owning a bitch, right? As fulfilling and exciting that all this is, and it truly is, this is just the prelude and benefits of CUCKOLDING, of course you have to train him to be that perfect little bitch first. But why have all this power, I mean whats the use of having a bitch if your not sexually satisfied, or even worse sexually frustrated from small cock and 5 minute sex. Forced with only big dildo toys, masturbation, or his oral service to have pleasure. Lets face it, getting yourself off will only get you by for so long and his tongue does very little for satisfaction when you need the feeling of deep penetration and thickness. That big dildo you love is OK for now, but it is nothing like having the real thing and will eventually lead you to wanting the real thing even more!

This is why you said, No more of his little dicklet, his selfishness of being the only one to have a great orgasm or enjoying sex, no more of you having to masturbate or use toys! There should be no reason your not enjoying your full power, the benefits of having a bitch at your feet, and getting fucked by those big cocks you crave and think about. Those cocks that have the ability to bring you multiple powerful orgasms, to please a women the way she deserves and was meant to be fucked. That's the beauty of it, by dating and fucking who you want when you want, your going to make your bitch even more submissive and want to serve you even more! You can have as many as you want as often as you want and you don't have to lie, cheat, or sneak around. Your going to do it openly and even in front of him and humiliate him about it. Your going to deny him sex, lock away his dicklet, and treat him like the pathetic little dicklet bitch he is and fuck who you want, when you want. Thus you will create that submissive cock loving bitch as a bonus to getting what you really want and deserve. He was meant to be a bitch, he was meant to serve and obey you, he built to take your cock. To bring out the bitch, your going to fuck him with the very same dildo you were forced to fuck for pleasure. Soon he will be begging for it and dependent on it for pleasure, talk about irony right! He will beg you to go get all the big cock you want, and be extremely turned on by you doing so. He will be the bitch you want and best of all, there is nothing he can do to stop it, change it, or resist it. Whats more is he will beg to serve you, obey, worship your feet and ass, plus feel and believe this is his place and what he's meant for. If you really want to see a submissive bitch, wait till you take a bull or even a boyfriend full time, fucking 4,5,6 nights a week and he is completely denied pussy and anything to do with it except clean up duty. That's when you will see your training him into a sissy bitch really come out. He will do absolutely anything to have that big cock of yours.     

Cuckolding is the ultimate power and completion to being a Mistress. This is having your cake and eating it too. Why wouldn't it be, women truly were built for sex and pleasure just as much as they were for ruling over their bitch. Women experience great pleasure from penetration and it builds to the climax/orgasm. We can have various types of pleasure and orgasms, and we are the only ones with a sex organ (clit) designated solely for pleasure. We can have multiple orgasms and experience greater longer pleasure and orgasms. Plus we are the only ones that experience sex solely for pleasure, as biologically we gain nothing form the experience except that said pleasure. While a mans purpose to have sex is the deposit of semen and he experiences the majority of pleasure at the end, from the orgasm that is meant to force muscle contractions to expel the semen. Meaning the only reason he even has an orgasm is to ejaculate and deposit semen.

Being a Dominatrix is not complete with out having the best erotic, most thrilling and passionate sex you deserve and need, to be a woman and feel complete. And nothing is better than coming home to a spotless house after a date night with your boyfriend, after which(like every sex night) you got the pounding of your life. Having trained your bitch to kneel at the door for you. Taking off your shoes, worshiping and licking your feet, and told to fetch you a drink, then meeting you in the bed room to knell at the bed. Where you've got undressed and put on a fresh pair of panties as the used ones have a greater purpose. You humiliate him, and tell him how pathetic he is, how he isn't a man, he's your bitch with a clitty and he should be grateful that you allow him the privilege of serving you. This is the third time this week you went to get fucked and its only Thursday, and you are extremely pleased and happy, but you are cruel to him and treat him just like the bitch he is. He has only one purpose to you, and that's all you want him for, being your bitch.....Serving, obey, and handing over his pay. You always speak in a firm demanding voice and punish him severely for ANY rule breaking, this keeps him very obedient. You love to be a cruel bitch, humiliating, and degrading him, it turns you on and you know it makes him weak, very submissive, and scared of you. You know he needs that, he needs you to be cruel, demanding, and aggressive with him to be the best bitch he can. He needs a strict, ruthless, punishing mistress to follow your rules and beg you to get the very cock that helps keep him in his place. This keeps him focused on his submission to you and is a constant reassurance that this is his place and he is grateful to be there. You order him to take his usual place lying on the floor (he is never allowed in your bed) hands under his back. You place the blind fold on him and then straddle him just inches from his face. He can already smell the copulins and sweetness of your sex and its very intoxicating to him as he instinctively tries to get closer to the smell and breath in as much as he can. You pull your panties aside to squeeze out the cum into his open mouth, you even reach in with your fingers to scoop out every last drop and force it into his mouth. The smell is hypnotizing but he is repulsed by the taste of cum and very humiliated of his place, he wants to stop licking it off your fingers but knows the punishment for resisting is far more sever than the humiliation of cleaning the cum left by your black boyfriend. You are turned on by the power you feel, and that he truly is your bitch, there to serve and do as he is told while you do as you please. You order him saying," lick every fucking drop off my fingers bitch" and then tell him to open wide as you move to spit in his mouth saying "you can wash it down with that you fucking pathetic bitch". Those are not just words, you mean them, you believe he is a pathetic bitch and you are completely happy about it. After your satisfied he took it all, you get up and fix your panties, then you remove the blind fold and sit on the edge of the bed as you say in a very firm voice "TAKE YOUR FUCKING PLACE BITCH" and he quickly gets up to his knees. You order him to rub your feet as you put the used panties over his head resting at his nose so that your pheromones (copulins) can do their job and help take control of his mind. You know that they are addicting and hypnotic, you tell him about how well you just got fucked by a real man, how much you truly love your boyfriends big black cock, how hard he makes you cum, how it reaches places he can't, and how it fills and stretches your pussy. You tell him the main details to arouse him but also to humiliate him, to make him week, and want to please you just as much by serving. As you explain how much better sex is with your black BF than him, that all of your orgasms with his pathetic little clitty couldn't even equal one of his, you notice his cock straining to get hard in his chastity. You laugh and say, "the poor little clitty is trying to get hard! The thought of your tiny dicklet getting hard is fucking hilarious". You then tell him how pathetic he is, how much of a bitch he is, that he can't please you and has to submit to you fucking another man to even be allowed the privilege of smelling your pussy. You tell him that you never want his pathetic clitty again and that you are locking it away for good. In your mind you think to yourself, he may not believe or realize it yet, but he will after a few months as you truly don't want it. For that matter, you don't even want to touch it or waste your time with it.... Mostly because it is worthless to you, but also because you know his locked up clitty is key to getting the cock you love and deserve. At the same time your voice and words are humiliating and degrading him, breaking him down, the aroma from your pussy, a cocktail of pheromones, copulins and cum is extremely intoxicating to him. Its hypnotizing to him and makes him even weaker, forcing him to submit and obey as it creates a vivid picture of the sex you had, the sex you loved, in his mind that is arousing yet so humiliating that he all he can do is knell and beg to be your bitch. He does just that, he begs you to allow him the privilege to serve you from there on, he thanks you for that privilege, and for locking his dicklet away. You reply in a firm voice, "that's right bitch, you know that's all I want from you and the way it's supposed to be, don't you?" YES mistress, thank you so much for getting the big black cock that pleases you like you deserve and allowing me the privilege to smell your sex! That's a good bitch, you should be grateful, you deserve nothing to do with pussy, NOTHING! If it wasn't for me getting that big black cock and needing the cum cleaned up you wouldn't even be allowed to smell it. Yes Mistress! Please Mistress, I'm begging you to get all the big cock you want, PLEASE! Oh I will, I love it, I'm going to get as much as I want and your going to be a good little bitch and serve me while I do! Yes mistress, thank you mistress! 

 At this point he is weak and completely submissive, he wants so bad to to serve you and be your bitch, he wants nothing more than to be your bitch from now on. He would lick up a gallon of cum just to be able to smell your pussy. But even worse and humiliating, he wants to feel your thick cock pounding him into submission, further stripping him of his manhood securing his place as your obedient bitch, your little sissy cock slut. Getting pussy isn't even a thought in his brain thanks to your training and punishments. He remembers the last time you fucked him for over an hour straight. Bringing him sissygasm after sissygasm which left him even more aroused than before you slid your thick black dildo into his tight pussy. He has become addicted to it, cock whipped you might say, and there is nothing he can do but accept it. Yet tonight he will get nothing, no cock, and no licking his balls or his pussy, not even a toy. Instead you spend the next 20 minutes using your lubed fingers to rub around the outside of his pussy, with an occasional finger penetration to get him extremely aroused and wanting your black cock even more. Only to deny him, and put him to bed....Like most nights, his reward for being a perfect little bitch and cleaning your house is the knowledge you were pleased very well, cleaning up the mess and smelling just how well you were fucked via your panties. That's right, his reward most of the time is humiliation of cleaning up the mess and the smell of your freshly fucked pussy or your used panties and he is happy to get even that. Every now and then you end the night with him licking and tongue fucking your asshole to orgasm while you use a vibrator on your clit. About 10 to12 times a month you give him that big cock he craves and if you have elected to turn him sissy, you have him fucked and used 1-2 times per week. But what ever you do, you never allow him to cum or out of his chastity, and your smart, you make it really humiliating for him. Also you tell him to go hand wash your panties so he can't sneak any unauthorized smelling. Then put him to bed in his spot on the floor where he will wake up and knell to serve again. 

This is how you want it, how it should be, how it's meant to be and this is how you should have it. You should not accept anything less than a complete obedient bitch, with no back talking or questioning you, who gets nothing but the little teases you allow. Why should we endure dull, pathetic sex however quick it is or suffer the lack of purely great sex because our Sub's inadequate ability to please, their pathetic dicklet size and stamina to please us as we truly deserve. Why should they ever be allowed the pleasure of pussy or an orgasm for that matter when they offer nothing in return and are more suited to serve and be a bitch, sissy even, to use for our purpose and amusement. We want better, we deserve better, and we deserve to fuck who we want when ever we want with out any input from him, in fact its really none of his business. He was meant to serve and make your life easier, an addition to the best sex, a bonus for doing and getting what we love, BIG COCK. He can't fuck, he can't last, he can't stay hard, he has a pathetic little dicklet and is not worthy of pussy. He is not a man he is a bitch and that's what he wants and deserve to be, even if he doesn't know it yet. He wants to be your bitch and serve you so that he may be allowed to take that big cock and receive the only pleasure he is permitted. Besides, nothing makes a bitch, more like a sissy bitch, submissive and eager to obey, than him watching or listening or even knowing for that matter that his Mistress is/was screaming and moaning to orgasm after mind blowing orgasm (which he can't do) as she freely gives her pussy to her alpha male while he is completely denied all access to pussy. Even more submissive if verbally told by the Mistress or Alpha/Bull who's pussy it is and that he is not allowed access to it, ever! Instead he is there for his true purpose, to hand over his pay, to kneel and serve, to obey with out question. Your sex life and whom you fuck is none of his business, you telling him the details about it (very important, especially if fucking away from him) is all he needs to know so he can be humiliated and even more submissive.

So with all of the excitement and thrill of cuckolding, when it comes to finding a sex partner, boyfriend, Bull or even a one time fuck, there is several things us women are prone to go after or look for. Number 1, Attraction or looks, 2 dress/clothes, 3 size of the cock,  HOWEVER, we need to realize that this order is flawed and understand that looks while they may be important, should not be the number one thing we consider when looking for a sex partner. Size and their ability to please us should always be the most important because it gives the best, most powerful orgasms and the the ability to have them one after another. Not to mention it is half our power and his submission. NEXT is stamina or the ability to preform for a longer time, FOLLOWED by his comfort level or willingness to fuck in front of the bitch or at least not care he exists. We need to focus on finding a sex partner, not the looks, instead you should try to look for an attraction of some kind Maybe his smile, perfect teeth, sense of humor, attitude, personality or even if its just the fact that he will fuck you in front of your bitch, as there is a lot to be said about a man with a big cock who will fuck you in front of him. There is always time to find that hot or attractive, well hung guy, but for now you need sex. You need to cuckold, you need orgasms, and you need to show your bitch that you can fuck when ever you want and his place is serving and obeying you. Having regular sex is also healthier for us, it slows aging, regulates hormones, helps prevent depression, boost our immune system, makes us more energetic, firms our breast, helps maintain happiness, helps with weight loss, and boost our confidence just to name a few. I'm not saying you should fuck just anyone, just that you should not have high expectations and average looking standards. Looks should never be the main or deciding factor of you fucking a guy. If you are only after looks, your sex life will suffer as there will be weeks or months even with out sex which is bad for you, and bad for his submission. His submission will suffer because of this as he will doubt or question your commitment and motives. The amount of time you spend searching and not fucking will be a waste and make him doubt your desire to have bigger cock, possibly even that your not serious about it or not wanting his. He needs this just as much as you because your sex is his sex and if your going to prove to him his place and bring out his true submission. You can always search for the perfect boyfriend, the hot, built guy that makes you wet every time you think about him. For now enjoy what you can get, sex with average looking well hung men is great sex and pleasure, Saying your looking or talking about looking is not, and wasting your abilities and power. Besides that I have meet some hot guys while out on dates or hooking up with the average ones. One more thing to consider, most hot guys will only have an average sized cock or less, very few will have that perfect 8 and thick cock you desire.

BLACK VS WHITE

This brings me to the Black and White of cuckolding. When it comes to males and size, as well as alpha and being freaky, your odds are far better with black males over any other.  However the myth that all black males have big cocks is NOT true, its not. But it is true that the average black male has a bigger cock at a thicker 7 inches then the average white male at thinner 6.5 and that there are far more black males with bigger cocks than white. This means you are extremely more likely to find a black male with an 8 inch or bigger cock than a white male. Statistically speaking use this guide;
                                                     In 100 black males you would find
1 man with 5.5 or less, 5 men with 6 inch to 6.5.......44 men with average cocks of 7 inches.....35 men with 8+ inches......15 men with 10+ size.....
                                                     In 100 white males you would find
7 men with 5.5 or less, 27 men with 6 inches.......45 men with average 6.5 inches........15 men with 7.5 inches.........5 men with 8+ inches......and 1 men with 10+.

Obviously the ratio is not put scientifically but it helps you understand just how much more likely you will get a bigger cock from a black male than a white male. Your far more likely to get bigger thicker cock of  7 to 8 + inches being 80% of black males. Opposed to white males range of 7.5 to 8 inches at 20%.

You know the saying "once you go black, you never go back" well there is a lot of truth in that, and the reason white women fucking black males has become so popular even to the point that they are leaving their mates to get it. There is a good reason you see so many white females and even white celebrity women with black males. Women who haven't had it are curious and want to feel how good it feels as they want to experience the hype, and the ones who have had it are talking and spreading the word about how good the sex is with black men. They are realizing that size really does matter and that a BBC can give them orgasms they've dreamed about. In fact its the highest searched request on porn sites, and surprisingly mostly searched by women. I know plenty of Doms or women in general who will only fuck black men, and I have to say I completely understand. I'm not saying that I only fuck black males, but the majority of the males I fuck are black. For one, black men on average are way better in bed, its true and I have never heard any woman, Dominatrix or not that has fucked both say any different, myself included, even well hung white males don't compare there. Then the obvious, they have bigger, thicker dicks and you are far more likely to find a big cock than with a white guy. Most can last as long as you want and at the very least long enough to make you cum several times. Plus with having a bigger, thicker cock the pleasure and sex feels way better, more intense, and is more satisfying. Most also have the stamina to fuck you again and again with just a little time in between. Now I'm not saying that all White guys can't fuck, I've had a couple that fucked me very good almost as good as some of the black guys I fucked, however they also had a thick 8 inch cock. What I am saying is that those white men are few and far in between, although any white cock over 6 inches that last for 20 minutes is far better than what my little bitch at 5.5 inches and 6-7 minutes can offer any day. What I'm talking about is the extreme pleasure of having your pussy filled and stretched, hitting that spot that makes your cum hard and long. Having long, powerful orgasms that you feel through your whole body, over and over as long as you can take it and want it. Orgasms that feel so good and are so strong that they make you squirt. YES, even if you have never squirted, it is possible to with the right black cock, and no white cock has ever made me or anyone I know squirt. That's another humiliating fact to use on your bitch, he has never made you squirt. Another way to humiliate him is if you only fuck black men, white dicks are not allowed or rarely allowed if big enough.

I remember the first time I had sex with a black guy, just sliding it in felt way better and I loved the feeling of being completely filled by his thickness. He hit places I had never felt pleasure from and it made me orgasm long and hard. His cock made me feel pleasure I didn't even know was possible and I was hooked after the first time. So obviously I gave him sex again and again until he relocated because of work. Every since then I've mostly fucked black men, and the sex has always been great. I still occasionally fuck hung or hot white guys from time to time, but honestly the sex isn't the same. What I love about sex with a black man (including what I said above) and why so many white women love it.  I like that most of them are built nice and in shape. They are more alpha and aggressive in bed and controlling of pussy. They don't mind a few extra pounds, in fact black men in general like a bigger girl and would rather have a thicker girl than a petite one. They try their best to please you, they want you screaming and moaning from their big cock because they know they'll be offered pussy again, and again. You know the song, "I have the magic stick" if I can hit it once , I can hit it twice.....Yeah, there is fact to that too. Most of them love dirty talk and sex, are way more freaky than white guys and down for pretty much anything. This even includes other males joining or watching, or having you fuck his friends (try asking a white guy for that). They are really not intimidated by you having a husband (unlike most white guys)and most don't mind fucking you in front of him. In fact most are freaky enough to be a bull and dom your bitch and some even do humiliating sex acts to him or force him to do to them. But mostly I love the sex, even with out the other great things, it is undoubtedly the best sex I've ever had, and the best orgasms I've ever had bar none, everything else they provide is just icing on the cake. In all, there have only been 2 white guys that have really fucked me good but not as good as the black cocks, and all of them had an 8 inch and thick cock. Most of the white cocks were just OK sex, I got off a few times, but some gave good sex. However every black guy I've fucked has fucked me at least good and most was great sex, as I said a few has even made me squirt. No matter the color, even the average cocks were far better than my bitch, as is anyone with a big enough cock and a little stamina. I guess the question is do you want good sex from white cock when you can find it, or great sex from black cock just about every time. Mind blowing orgasms or just good sex, again anything you choose will be better than your bitch and Its up to you what you choose. Personally I prefer black men over white men, but I really don't care what other people think. I could easily be a black cock only girl, especially with how much it humiliates my bitch, but I'll fuck whom ever i'm attracted to especially if they have a big cock and give me great sex, and long powerful orgasms. Its just that this happens far more often with black men over white, and they don't mind humiliating my bitch and some don't even mind using him. Everyone has their preference, but some women just don't know what they are missing because they have never tried it, or worried about what other people think, while some will only fuck black men. Most important is just cuckold no matter who its with, just do it!  Seriously, it is extremely important to cuckold, as long as your cuckolding getting bigger cock, having great sex and fun, and keeping your bitch in his place, That's all that matters. My bet is, once you have black cock you will always want black cock OR only black cock.

If you are looking for a black lover/bull or boyfriend, the best results are the local black clubs or bars. I have picked up one or more every time I went. Or try any dance club or night club, there are usually a good selection there. You could also try a swingers club, although its hit or miss there. If anything, try black dating or hook ups sites, Craig's list, or swingers sites. Happy hunting!!
Email me if you have questions about training, sissy training, punishments, or cuckolding. herdesire@live.com
                  

Monday, October 23, 2017

Importance of pain and punishment

I read this from another blog titled under another name. She is a very intelligent woman and It is her prospective on the difference of living a FLR (Female Led Relationship) or on occasion a Dom - slave scenario versus  jumping into a BDSM - Mistress and slave lifestyle. Living the BDSM lifestyle is much more rewarding and I think this is important for new Dom's in understanding why most Mistresses give harsh punishments and live this lifestyle 24/7/365 as opposed to just dabbling in it a week or so out of the month. It truely is a different, complete, and satisfying feeling for the Dom and a truer much more sincere submission from the slave/bitch (if done correctly). There are other reasons why it's more important to do it 24/7 like it keeps him focused, it changes his way of thinking, far less back talk and unruliness or bad behavior, easier life for you, and many other things. But this gives you a simple but true aspect of the reason to go 24/7 as most do.

It's been about 6 months since my last blog entry.  At the point when I stopped writing, my husband Karl and I were experimenting with slavery - his, of course.  For a few days each month, he became a total slave as opposed to his usual submissive self.  There's a big difference between being a submissive or a slave, and there's an equally big difference between being a dominant woman or a slave owner/driver.  I seriously doubt that many couples involved in a female led relationship (including marriage) could make such a transition on a semi-regular basis, if at all.  Most dominant wives draw a line at administering physical punishment at the level often "required" in the process of truly enslaving a husband, and I suspect that even if a couple weren't married, the same limiting factor would probably arise.  

Even if the dominant female makes the transition, there's a good chance that the newly minted slave would soon realize that he'd bitten off more than he can chew.  There's a big reality leap required between the fantasy of being a slave subject to serious physical pain and the moment when that lash actually strikes the skin.  Reality can be very painful indeed, and when a dominant woman views the reaction of her male experiencing his first real pain session, it's often more than she can bear.  The experiment quickly ends, and that's that for real corporal punishment.

Of course, I'm not "most women" and I've never had any trouble administering punishment, but being a slave driver is a new level even for me.  And Karl - who insists that he's not a "pain freak" - has gone through some serious changes in his ability to tolerate said punishment.  We're now a full year into this "experiment", and I feel I should write about what's happened so that the many people who follow this blog are not left up in the air.  I do remember some commenters predicting dire results if this slavery transition were to take place, and I certainly had no way to predict what would happen between Karl and me when we adjusted to this new reality.  I wanted to try it, he wanted to try it, and the results of one year of part-time slavery are in.  

As the title of this blog entry reveals, the first and foremost result was in the giving and taking of pain, both physical and mental.  Over the years, Karl had gotten used to taking orders from me and experiencing various forms of punishment, including corporal punishment, but at a much lower level than I was now prepared to dole out.  As our slave games progressed month after month, I found myself relishing the punishment I was subjecting him to.  There was a heady feeling of POWER involved in seeing a stripe appear on the body of my slave/husband as a result of my using a whip or cane on him.  I've never denied being a sadist, and I've written extensively on this subject in the past - even insisting that all dominant women are sadists at least to some extent -  but now I was a sadist unleashed, so to speak.  It was undoubtedly different, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't enjoying it.

What about Karl?  What was his reaction to seeing  - and very definitely feeling - the difference in me?  We talked about each session each month during the time in-between, and at first we were both somewhat afraid of what was happening.  He more than me, but that was understandable as he was the one feeling the pain, but I too was concerned about the difference in the way I now felt when administering the punishments.  Neither one of us wanted to go over the edge, but it was becoming increasingly clear that "the edge" was in a state of flux.  I seemed to be giving out more pain, and he seemed to be able to take it better than either one of us had expected.

For the first half year, each month had a three or four day period of slavery.  Month seven marked a vacation period at work for Karl, and we decided to spend a solid week as Master/slave (I don't like the word "Mistress").  I could probably write a book about that week, but suffice it to say that it was intense.  We had both agreed that there would be no turning back for that period of a week, no time-outs, no discussions, no safe words, etc.  A full immersion into this experiment to see where it took us.  Believe me, it took us to a new place, much more so mentally than physically.  We truly became Master/slave, and isolating ourselves from all friends or business connections, it was just Karl, the slave, and I, the Master, in every sense of the words.

Karl later said that he experienced his first real case of "slave space" as opposed to "sub space" and I certainly did the same on the opposite end of the spectrum.  By day five of that week, we were both somebody else, if that makes any sense, and at the end of day seven it was truly hard to go back to what we had always perceived as reality.  I was so much the Master and Karl was so much the slave by then, that pulling ourselves away from the entire thing was like yanking yourself out of a deep sleep dream.  Do I mean "nightmare"?  No, not at all, and I guess that's the point.  It was not a feeling of relief from something fearsome.  Much more like awakening from a dream that you wanted to continue if you could just go back to sleep again.

Strange?  Yes.  Unexpected?  Totally.  Neither of us had ever relly considered a "permanent" slavery situation, but now such thoughts found their way into our every day musings.  When Karl went back to work after that week, I found myself missing having my slave available at all times.  He admitted to lapses of concentration at work - which he could get away with as the "boss" - but there was no denying that something had changed.  That seven day immersion into total slavery had whetted our appetites for more of the same.  I had reached new heights of administering punishments and subjecting Karl to significant pain, and I had enjoyed it immensely.  For his part, Karl's slave space had  - as he put it - "brought me to a realization that the pain was warranted and bearable as a tool for making me a perfect slave".  He had made that leap of existing solely for my pleasure, and if that involved punishments that strenghtened my total control of him, then so be it.

Needless to say, this situation was a long way from what now seemed a "simple" female dominant way of life.  To be sure, our relationship was never "simple", and we'd already experienced far more of what could be called "extreme" moments than most female led relationships ever experienced, but this slave experiment had clearly brought us to a new paradigm. Whether this was a good or bad thing was debatable, but that had yet to be decided.  

I will continue this later.  As always, I welcome comments.

Saturday, September 23, 2017

Proper punishments

I had a Mistress send me this the other day...This is a good example of using a cane to punish your slave for breaking rules. Notice how these Doms are enjoying themselves, they are relentless with spanking him, and make sure at the end his ass is bruised and welted up. This is not just a enjoyment or teaching spanking during training, this is a punishment spanking and meant to deter rule breaking and it is meant to be remembered. I counted over 200 hits in the full Video, which makes this about an average punishment, had he broked a major rule this would have been way higher as I will show below in other clips. The only thing I would have done different is tie or bound him down better so he could not move and take every hit to its fullest impact.


A good Mistress doesn't care about how much pain she inflicts, he deserves every minute of his punishment and it will help him be a better slave to her. Watch how she uses different instruments for whipping to inflict a variety of pain on him. The cane (both ratted and nylon), the leather paddle strap, and the leather whip are best for give extreme pain that can be given for long hard whippings with out numbing the butt or causing long term damage...But must be used correctly. Wood or rubber paddles are not for long spankings they can do more damage and numb the skin making the punishment less effective but are effective in small amounts, about 3 or 4 every so often.


In this clip the Mistress is very serious about his rule breaking and back talking. This is a very good example of of how to punish for major rule breaking or any rule breaking you don't want him to repeat. A spanking like this on his ass will turn him into a very sincere and completely submissive bitch for the next couple of days, and its then that you will see the difference in a disciplined slave.  She doesn't care about his crying or scream out (he has on a muzzle under his mask to dampen the sound) and you shouldn't care, in fact if he is screaming or even crying them the spanking is doing its job. The only 2 things wrong here is that she did not tie him down (because he is a seasoned slave and taught moving will bring even worse punishment), ALWAYS TIE DOWN and she is not humiliating and reinforcing his place or scolding him for his bad actions. Something else which is not necessarily bad is I never whip my bitch on the back for punishment, only the butt. If I do whip his back or tops of his legs where they meet his ass, I don't leave marks, in other words the hits are lighter or not at all. Marks in this are can be seen by other people, family or kids and there is no way to explain this, so you should refrain from hitting him there.


OK I've shown you some good clips of punishments, this one is a bad one. She is correct in the seriousness of the violation and inflicting pain to discourage future rule breaking. For the most part she is also doing good in hitting him consecutively (whipping one after another). However, she is hitting him with extreme force and eventually starts hitting with all she has. Through out this she breaks several instruments which shows she is hitting to hard. Then she switches to a paddle and continues to hit him with all she has which completely tears up his ass and far beyond acceptable marks and an effective punishment. When you beat like this you kill skin, muscle and nerve fibers,  dead skin and nerves fibers don't yield pain so at that point your just hitting meat. Not to mention the time it will take to heel will be months and the possible infections being that close to his ass hole when wiping. A hit should be firm and hard, never with all your might especially with a paddle. 20 to 30 hard consecutive hits is great and needed, especially to correct bad behavior but after that give a minute or two before hitting his ass again. Take that time to smack his balls or his face even. In the full video he is hit over 400 times, which may be needed or warranted for continued rule breaking or back talk. This is acceptable but only with proper hitting impact, and the 1-2 minute breaks in between each instrument. And always reinforce his place, humiliate, and scold for his bad behavior, and tell him how he is to act from then on. Always monitor his bruising and marks and adjust hits accordingly.



There is a difference between a punishment spanking and a training spanking. 

When training, you spank to bring attention to your words so that he is listening to what you are saying. This is why you would tell him your rules, tell him his chores, state his place, or humiliate him during a training spanking. You would be more relaxed and maybe even laugh at how pleased you are that his ass is bright red. It should be hard and firm and leave welts and red marks on his ass for a few days. You would hit him 100 to 150 times with 10-15 times in a row and switch from instrument to instrument (if wanted) while continuing to shout demands or orders. This pain is done to help him soak in all that you say but also as a deterrent for future rule breaking.

When giving a punishment spanking it is meant to be remembered, this will help deter him from future infractions. It should be hard enough and long enough with the correct welts and bruising for him to feel it for a week or so.  You must be very serious and speak in a firm voice. During the entire whipping you will scold him about his rule breaking/disobeying and also remind him of his place, the rules and whats expected out of him. Towards the end of the spanking you will put a ball gag in to block the sound and whip for at least another 40-50 times but harder and even faster. Then remove the ball gag and allow him to beg for you to stop, but you will not, you will spank for at least another 20 to 30 hits or longer but you will stop when you feels he is ready not because he begs.