Humiliation is a necessary and vital tool for the Dom, and just as important as punishments. The level of, and sincerity of, his submission is dependent on your ability to punish and humiliate him. Humiliation is the key to breaking his will and emasculating him, which is needed to making him submissive and its also key to sissifying or feminizing him (which is in its self very humiliating). Humiliation can be done verbally through phrases and words that describe or express his lack of manhood, size of penis, stamina in bed, that he can't sexually satisfy pussy, or that he will never be allowed the pleasure of pussy. Describing his situation as a bitch or sissy, that he has a pussy, that he must be fucked like a bitch or sissy to get pleasure, that he loves cock, that he will or has pleased cock, that your boyfriends cock is much bigger, that you love your boyfriends cock, that your BF turns you on, that its his pussy or is allowed to cum in it, etc. Also anything else that relates his submission to you like, he will be a bitch or sissy forever, That he was born to be a bitch or sissy, That he was meant to please cock, that he will be on his knees serving you or who you say from now on, that his only purpose is serving and obeying, That the only way he can please you is by being a sissy bitch, that has to wear a chastity permanently or anything else you can think of.
Humiliation can also be done through physical acts such as putting him in humiliating positions (free or tied down), Spitting in his face or even better, his mouth, Pissing on his face or body, doing acts of or showing submission or sissification in public, being punished or scolded in public, doing sexual acts at home (like sucking or riding a dildo in front of you or someone else) made to serve or obey someone else, used for sexual pleasure by another male (sucking cock or fucked) and/or female (her getting off by pegging him or double headed dong), watching or listening to you have sex, or anything else you can think of. Humiliation should be done frequently, multiple times through out the day with some extended time given at some point prior to bedtime. Humiliation should be regular, ruthless and cruel. There are different levels of humiliation from mild to extreme, and many ways to use it. Humiliation affects subs in different ways, as some subs may find a particular humiliation very humiliating, while others only a little humiliating. For this reason it is your job as the mistress to find out what humiliates your sub, and what humiliates him the most. This is easy because when you do something humiliating or even threaten to do something humiliating, you sub will sometimes subconsciously tell you it was or it would be humiliating, he may even state how humiliating it was or would be. If not, or if you need more detail just ask like this, "that was/would be humiliating, wasn't it/wouldn't it be?" then you can simply ask "how humiliating?". Its also easier to ask questions during training while he is extremely aroused and under heavy influence of your pheromones (copulins) and his own chemical cocktail as he can not resist or lie about anything. In that state he is more less hypnotized and susceptible to brainwashing, mind control, and questioning with out any resistance.
All forms of, and levels of humiliation are effective in deepening his submission but humiliation that also turns him on or gets him aroused works better and faster. Its also the best kind because it requires little to no energy from you and your usually being please sexually. Turns on's that cut with humiliation are things that arouse your sub while at the same time smack him in the face with humiliation. These are typically things you would do with a boyfriend, bull, or lover. Things you've never said or done sexually with your sub, or things your sub would not expect you to do with your Boyfriend or Bull. However they can also be any form of humiliation that turns him on, like made to do acts of pleasure in ways that humiliate him, like riding your big cock (secured on the floor or device) and sucking your cock (on the wall or in your harness). They can even be things that show your dominance or power over him as a women who is dominant, aggressive, and cruel towards a submissive male turns him on. It is her sexual prowness and show of power that arouses him and makes him feel weak, especially if done while humiliating him or making him do humiliating things. If you want to be a successful Dom, you have to humiliate him, you have to be cruel and ruthless, 24/7/365.
A few weeks after I started seeing my BF, during training (after I got fucked that night) I was humiliating my sub about it and I learned from him that it really humiliated him to see me so excited and turned on to see my boyfriend and to wear lingerie to please him (Which I have rarely done for my sub). Also while I was getting fucked I would be completely into my BF and ignoring my sub altogether, like he wasn't even in the room. Most of the things I did and said were things I have never done with my sub, not even close. We undressed each other and I kissed him passionately, sliding my hands all over his body before I keeled to suck his enormous cock. I enjoyed sucking it and pleasing him, knowing he would fuck me way better than my bitch ever has. I sucked his dick passionately and showed I enjoyed it, deep throating it and moaning while I did. My sub rarely got his clitty sucked and if I did, it was usually just the head, mostly licking it till he cum (with was only about 5 min, lol..I just wasn't into giving his little dicky pleasure). When he licked my pussy, I grabbed his head and arched my back moaning passionately, I also rubbed my breast and played with my nipples. None of which I've done with my sub, even though he did eat pussy very good.
As I got fucked I actually moaned and screamed, loudly even (I couldn't help it, his cock felt amazing) and spread my legs as open as I could to take all of his cock. I loved going from position to position, and I grabbed his ass or back as he fucked me hard. Sometimes I would even dig my nails into his ass as he made me orgasm so hard. In between my moans and screams in the heat of passion I would babble off words, saying things like, " Oh my god, (paused)....Oh fuck, (pause)......, your cock, (paused).....Your cock feels so good" and that I loved his cock, and I really did. Sometimes my eyes rolled back into my head from the ecstasy and pleasure as he gave me powerful orgasms one right after another. I kissed him passionately during sex and sucked on his neck and nipples as I rode his cock. I would even back into his cock while fucking dogie style, even though most of the time he was pounding me hard, pulling me into it. Sometimes he would fucked me again after a short rest. My pathetic sissy couldn't even last more than 7 or 8 minutes, let alone have the ability to get hard again the same night....Not that I'd want it if he could. I have rarely kissed my sub passionately during sex as it just didn't last long enough to build that passion. I've hardly ever rode him (mostly because I didn't want to exert that much energy for such a weak orgasm). I've never backed up on his little dicklet, and his cock never gave me the pleasure to spread my legs wide or dig my nails into him.
Apparently I did all of this to some degree or another every time with my BF. I was so lost in the pleasure and passion that I didn't even realize I was doing or saying most of those things, but I did know that I really loved his cock and my BF fucked me far better than he ever did, honestly there was no comparison. I loved his cock and I loved how he fucked me, he fucked me against the wall, picked me up and fucked me with my legs over his arms, bent me over the bed while standing up, put one leg over his shoulder while standing and many other positions. I really only fucked my sissy in the missionary position, occasionally doggie and I have never babbled at all during sex with my sub or said that his cock even felt good. It did feel good, but that's about it, just feeling good. I would compare it to being fingered, but I'm sure you already know this or you would be here. He said that it was very humiliating to watch me fuck my BF but at the same time it was extremely arousing and made him feel weak and very submissive. Every time we fucked, the whole next day my bitch was very submissive and obedient, and all I had to do was what I loved to do and show how much I really enjoyed it. Which is what you should be doing anyway, especially since your trying to prove to him that your BF is bigger and better than him. The best thing is that this is very humiliating, humiliation for long periods, and I get to have fun while its done, plus I really didn't have to say or do anything directly to my sub. This is a prime example of turning him on with deep humiliation....And he couldn't get enough. As humiliating as it was, he begged me to do it more, and he was more obedient because I did it more. He couldn't help it, my sex was his sex and he was to submissive to resist. Of course the fact that his little dicky was locked away 24/7 after the first week of me dating my new BF helped that happen. Humiliation is so much sweeter when its done while your having fun, especially because you don't really have to do anything but enjoy yourself, and best of all it is some of the most powerful humiliation there is.
Obviously some of the best turn on's that sting with humiliation is your sex with a boyfriend.
These are more effective with the sub watching but can be done with him listening or told about after.
Some of these may also be great ways to turn on your Boyfriend or Bull if they are into BDSM.
1.The number one turn on that cuts with extreme humiliation for most subs, is you fucking your BF bareback and allowing him to cum inside you. Watching or bringing a cum filled pussy home is a visual proof of his loss, a sure sign whose pussy it belongs to and just how much its being pleased. While at the same time the sub is completely denied all access to pussy, even his own orgasms and possibly at this point forced into permanent chastity. Compounded humiliated by you telling your bitch its your Boyfriends pussy from now on. His humiliation being far worse if made to clean up the mess in some manner, (licking off sheet, ass, feet, cock, finger feed, dog bowl or squeezed into his mouth) especially in front of the Boyfriend or Bull.
2.The number two turn on with extreme humiliation is making your sub watch. Close up is key, but the closer the better. Also added humiliation is including him in the sex in some manner, like nose in your ass, licking your ass, sucking your feet/toes, putting BF's cock into your pussy, fluffing, licking balls as you ride, sucking your cum off the cock, holding the vibrator or fetching toys, towels, lube, and even worse forced to lick both of you clean after.
3. The number three thing is really liking the BF or Bull and showing it as described below; Saying it to your bitch, humiliating him about it and how it will be his pussy from now on, telling your bitch the BF really turns you on and showing it by getting fucked several times a week or several times in one day, going over to his house for late night or early morning sex, shopping for clothes or lingerie he likes and only wearing it for him, buying sex toys for you both to use on each other, trimming pussy hair to his liking (diamond, landing strip, clean shaven etc.) Going on dates, spending the night at his house, keeping clothes at his house, weekend get aways. Allowing the BF or Bull to stay the night or even move in. This type of humiliation really forces him to realize his place and purpose.
An extension of number 3, on the rare occasions he is permitted to watch; pay no attention to your bitch, pretend he is not there and show him you really love getting fucked by the BF or Bull. Show him its the best sex, way better than him by letting yourself go and really enjoy it, Spreading your legs wide or wrapping legs around him, grab his ass, and/or back, lots of kissing, telling BF or Bull you love his cock, lots of moaning and scream louder when you orgasm, fuck for long periods and repeat after a short rest. You want to show that you are very turned on by your BF and that you really love his cock. Starring into his eyes at times during sex, as you tell him its his pussy or whatever else.
4. Like number 3 above only with the added humiliation by Fucking in positions that show pussy penetration, like riding the BF or reverse cowgirl so he can see pussy stretch. Humiliate him about how you love his cock, how much bigger and better it is, how he could never fuck you like this, how his clitty is tiny and pathetic. If possible, have him up close to see and smell the sex.
5. Being somewhat submissive to your BF or Bulls cock by following his direction when getting fucked even outside the bedroom and telling him he can fuck you when ever he wants. Making constant remarks that indicate its his pussy, like "he doesn't want you seeing his pussy" or " he likes it when I wear thongs so i'm going to buy some new ones for him"
6. Show that you enjoy sucking his cock, moaning and deep throating it, grabbing his balls, licking his balls, grabbing his ass with both hands pulling him and his cock into your mouth. Grab it by the base to show its size or 2 handing it. Smiling and licking your top lip just before sucking it.
7. Buying and wearing sexy lingerie or bra's and panties for him, of course not letting the bitch see you in them most of the time. On the rare times you do, it will be after you return home from sex, then only briefly as you remove your clothes exposing the lingerie for him to see as you order him to turn around then take of the lingerie to put something comfortable on, make him put the lingerie up.
8. Wearing normal outfits/ street clothes the BF or Bull likes.
9. Sucking your BF or Bull off while your on your period
10. Sucking his dick while he drives, better if your sub is driving and you two are in the back.
11. Meeting him for lunch to fuck
12. Having the BF or Bull sleep in your bed while the sub is on the floor or in a spare bedroom.
13. Letting your bitch listen on the phone while you fuck at BF or Bulls house.
14. Having a three way (guy or girl)or multiple guys fuck you at BF or Bulls request or direction, maybe worse if you bitch is only allowed to watch or hear.
Almost as good as the turn on humiliation with your boyfriend or bull is turning him sissy, only more humiliating than a turn on....And for a lovely reason! Training a sissy means several things; first it means that you have decided to date your boyfriend full time (likely seriously) and replace your bitch totally. His forever roll and purpose to you will only be that of a servant/house slave, made to hand of his paychecks paying for pussy he will never have and the privilege to serve you. All while receiving little to no sexual contact, of which only regards to his anal play or pegging or cleaning your cum filled pussy in some manner. Second it means you have decided to lock his clitty away permanently. Third it means that your training him to accept cock as his new and only form of pleasure. It also means that your training him to pleasure cock, both orally and anally, in doing so his ass hole will chemically and physically be converted to his pussy and pleasure hole. It also means that you will give him a girly name or call him sissy or bitch. He will be made to wear sissy under garments 24/7, dress up in sissy attire several times a month, Fucked in sissy lingerie. You can imagine his extreme humiliation yet unable to do anything but accept it to be allowed the privilege of pleasure. Your fun could be endless with this training. If you interested, read my Sissy training story.
HUMILIATION
Humiliation effects the same brain regions that are associated with physical pain, the inference being that humans evolved to remember social/verbal rewards and punishments as strongly as they do physical reward or pain. This is why daily humiliation and episodes of extreme humiliation is very important and effective in making him submissive. In BDSM, humiliation is connected to sexual fetishism, in that non-sexual activities (exp;kneeling, obeying, chores) and certain types of humiliation (exp;cuckolding) may become sexualised or arousing. Meaning the male submissive will eventually be aroused via acts of servitude or sexual humiliation (verbal and physical) thus being excited or turned on by these acts. This is because they were linked subconsciously through sexual exposure or content and his submission to his mistress. His submission and humiliation is based on his sex, or better stated "his lack of sex and inability to sexually satisfy his mistress" mixed with his loss of sex via chastity. Humiliation is the linking tool that creates, deepens, and forces his submission and can sometimes be more effective than punishments. As stated by subs when asked, "Nothing makes me want to serve my mistress more than when she proves my place and purpose to her". Simply by by being a strict dominant bitch and regularly having sex with her boyfriend, he is humiliated and subconsciously being trained to want to serve and obey her.
Humiliation helps make him weak, maintains your authority, and keeps him in his place. You should through out the day and even in public humiliate him and make him acknowledge he is your bitch as well as other things, like he has a small pathetic dicklet (who's bitch are you?) Make him admit what he wants (to serve you, for your to get fucked, your big cock etc.) and then tell him he is a bitch for it. Making him admit this humiliation is more humiliation and more effective as it forces the realization that he is in fact your bitch, and meant to be your bitch. This act also helps him to believe this is his natural place, it even encourages him to be there. There are so many ways to humiliate your bitch, some so bad that the threat of using it on him is enough to correct unruliness (but remember every time he is disobedient, or breaks a rule he is to be punished severely). These are in no particular order but here are some, you can mix or combine them or do your own variation. I urge you to try them all and come up with your own, what ever pleases you or turns you on but let your imagination run wild!Made to start a blog (like this one) to humiliate himself as a sub, proclaim his submission to you as his mistress, telling about his servitude and submission, his humiliation, your boyfriends, his chores, showing video's of his humiliation (as described below) pics and captions, etc. *Use his girly name.
You make an ad or profile on a bi or gay singles site (with pics) as a couple with a virgin bi-curious male. Set up meetings and make him preform what ever they want.
You make an ad or profile for him on kink sites (with pics) explain he is a sissy and wants to please cock. State that you are his mistress and want to watch and possibly participate. Set up the fun!
Serving you in front of the BF or Bull
Made to serve the BF or Bull, could be made to clean their house while you fuck or play.
Made to fluff BF or Bull prior/after sex
Sucking a cock to orgasm, worse if cums in his mouth. (at first always tie down)
Getting fucked by BF, Bull or another male at your direction (at first always tie down)
Getting fucked and used by multiple men at the same time
Take him to gay bar to pick up men with punishment of 200 hits if he doesn't get at least a number, with NO excuses period, and see the punishment through if he fails.
Suction a dildo on the wall and have him suck it the entire time while you get fucked with a severe caning if he stops or looks at you during that time.
Suction dildo to wall for corner time punishment and made to suck it the whole time, cane if he stops.
Made to suck dildo before the start of every training session.
Suction dildo to wall and peg him doggie style inches away from it, as you fuck him tease and humiliate him about sucking the cock. Tell him all sissies suck cock, tell him its his place and that he was born to please cock. Ruthlessly humiliate him and make him suck it the entire time.
Made to lick clean his cum or precum, and lovers or BF cum.
Made to wear panties at all times
Made to wear female clothes, stockings, lingerie, bra, etc.
Made to shave all pubic hair ( also head, legs, chest, ass if that turns you on.)
Made to ride a dildo in separate bedroom while he listens to you get fucked, with instructions that he must keep the dildo in his ass and ride the entire time until you say he can stop. Record and watch it for proof and if he didn't, punish severely for not obeying. Worse if in front of BF or Bull, made to suck his cock during, or if the BF or Bull fucks him after.
Made to address you as mistress in public
Made to buy panties for him self while you acknowledge it in someway to the store clerk or cashier
Standing in a corner outside the store as you shop (great for buying lingerie for your BF or Bull)
Drinking and eating from dog dishes or directly on the floor (no utensils) AT ALL TIMES.
Sleeping on the floor
Made to worship (kiss and lick) your feet, worse in public (even while wearing Boots or shoes)
Made to suck cock in front of another female- dildo or real.
Made to serve another female.
Made to suck and lick feet/toes and ass of another female.
Made to lick her asshole to orgasm.8
Used to enhance sex/orgasms for both, while playing with another female.
Spit in his face or mouth also could be done by another female
Pegged by another female, or you and another female by double teaming him.
Humiliated by another female.
Punished or whipped by another female
Made to serve another male or female while you are spending the night or weekend with your BF.
Made to regularly service another male or men
Sleeping, eating/drinking, living in dog cage when he is not doing chores or you are out on dates etc.
Making him wear a collar or chain, and leash in public
Restricting him from talking or eating in public.
Restricting eye contact in public (no eye contact with you should always enforced)
Golden shower (pissing on him) on face, and/or body.
Slave tattoo of your choice, temporary or permanent
Branding him as show of ownership or submission to you.
Write on body (with lipstick, black marker etc.) cock slut, bitch, sissy, his pussy, loves cock, etc.
Male cums on his face or dumped from condom, not allowed to wipe it off, must dry and wear it for x amount of time or to bed, or the next day.
Wear a t-shirt in public that says, "I'm a sissy boy I serve my Mistress" or what you want it to say.
Verbally humiliate him in public (could be that he is your bitch- better obey- has little dick- etc.)
Wearing nipple clamps under see through or tight shirt.
Wearing butt plug or prostate massager in public.
Wearing a collar at all times possible *have a dog tag made (at pet store or Walmart) use humiliation caption like "Sissy Bitch" or "Cock Slut" or "your name's Bitch or just his sissy name.
Asking permissions in public and showing submission in public.
Make a mold of his penis (search “clone a willy” on Google). Once made, make him suck it for a while as you humiliate him about sucking his own small clitty. Then fuck his ass with it for a bit before fucking his ass with your biggest dildo. humiliate him and ask him if he feels the difference between his tiny clit and a real man’s cock. Make him admit he has a pathetic clitty and that the dildo fucking him is a real mans cock, then make him beg you to keep fucking him with the real mans cock. Do this several times a month, but sometimes your not going to fuck him with the bigger cock, your only going to fuck him with his clitty dildo, but make sure he begs you to, "have a real mans cock" and make him say it but you won't give it to him, instead humiliate him about you having to fuck the little tiny thing for so long, he can take it now and suffer, then make him suck the big one.
*2 ways* Its been a few days or more since you had sex, (for what ever reason) but a successful mistress doesn't go with out sex or an orgasm. So you will either ride a big dildo (secure underneath you in some manner) with him watching very close up (inches away) from behind or use a dildo harness for his mouth and ride it so he can see really close up and smell the cum. During this time humiliate him about it being x number of days since you had sex and you would rather ride a fake cock or finger your self then fuck his pathetic little dicklet. Either way make him suck your cum off the dildo. **Remember you may reduce the times he see's or smells your pussy but your not going to take pussy completely away until after you have been dating your full time BF for 2 weeks**
Made to ride a big dildo while he sucks your strap-on or lovers cock
Tell one of your girlfriends he has a small dick and he wears a chastity so you don't have to fuck him, but if your don't have friends that you trust like that then make new friends specifically for going out with to meet guys with the bonus that they know he is your bitch.
Blind fold him and tie up his clitty and balls, get him hard then put gloves on and rub numbing cream all over his cock. Continue to rub it in for several minutes to take effect, then put on 5 condoms and allow him to fuck a blow up doll or cyber pussy for 60 seconds as you humiliate him about how little his clitty is and how pathetic he fucks etc. Record him as he struggles to cum and post it on his blog.
Sissify and feminize him, call him bitch, sissy, or girly name at all times, made to wear wig, make up, and dress up in lingerie to be fucked by gay or bi-men, find him regulars. Do at least 3 times a month.
For hands free fun while your getting ready for a date night or upstairs fucking your boyfriend; Buy a sex machine with a stroker or a milking machine and use it on his clitty on low speeds. this will drive him crazy because its just like using your fingers on his clitty and very difficult for him to cum so he can be aroused for long periods even while your gone.
This sex machine can also be used for the mundane task of milking him while you do other things to him, use your dildo or toys on yourself, or other things you need to get done or simple just relaxing and reading a book. I like to pop in a porno and set up the sex machine on slow/low setting to either milk him (with milking vib) or stroke him keeping him on edge while I jump in the shower to get ready for a date, or sometimes just because I don't feel like training that night. There are so many ways to use a sex machine, you just need an imagination. For instances, you could have it peg him while you humiliate him and make his suck your cock in your strap-on.
For hands free fun while your getting ready for a date night or upstairs fucking your boyfriend; Buy a sex machine with a stroker or a milking machine and use it on his clitty on low speeds. this will drive him crazy because its just like using your fingers on his clitty and very difficult for him to cum so he can be aroused for long periods even while your gone.
This sex machine can also be used for the mundane task of milking him while you do other things to him, use your dildo or toys on yourself, or other things you need to get done or simple just relaxing and reading a book. I like to pop in a porno and set up the sex machine on slow/low setting to either milk him (with milking vib) or stroke him keeping him on edge while I jump in the shower to get ready for a date, or sometimes just because I don't feel like training that night. There are so many ways to use a sex machine, you just need an imagination. For instances, you could have it peg him while you humiliate him and make his suck your cock in your strap-on.
When doing acts in public, try to stay away from places you normally eat or shop at, you don't want your obvious lifestyle getting back to friends or family. A good idea is to take a day away or weekend away to another city where you will not know anyone. You could also visit the local gay bars there to find him a cock to please for the extra fun and humiliation.
