Tuesday, December 1, 2009

**ON THE "REAL" and serious side of the cuckolding lifestyle

OK, now for the TALK.... I know most of you girls are serious about this lifestyle, and just as excited to start it or take it to the next level of cuckolding or sissy training, as you should be because I know you will never be happier and neither will he! But let me discuss something serious about your relationship and you significant other. Let me start by saying that if YOU DO NOT TRULY LOVE YOUR PARTNER, THEN THIS PART OF THE LIFESTYLE SHOULD NOT BE AN OPTION FOR YOU! (This is unless your relationship was founded with the agreement that he would always be just a cuckold). If you can not tell the difference between good, hot, passionate, sex verses being in love OR if your one to fall in love with someone over something as simple as great sex, DON'T step through the cuckolding door!!

The cuckolding part of being a dominatrix is a serious step and door to open. It is meant for your pleasure, his humiliation, and a tool to get obedience and submission. You and your hubby have a life together and probably even children. You have a serious commitment to each other, this should always remain in your heart and your mind. Trust is involved, even though you have the power and he has no choice in the matter, he still trust that you can play sexually and still be his partner. You need to keep your heart separate from your sex, keep it as its meant to be, hot, mind blowing sex and only sex!

This part of playing should always be "PLAYING" never serious and never intimate! You should never treat the relationship with your boyfriend or lover for anymore than it is, he is just a person that you have sex with, even if you are dating him... its just SEX and you need to remember this and if you feel like the lover or boyfriend is mixing the lines then you need to make it clear or stop seeing him. If you choose to date this person, it should only be for the PASSION and AURA of it, with the added humiliation to help subjugate your bitch. Sure its OK to be interested or attracted to someone else, this is human nature and that's the beauty of cuckolding, you get to live out your desire/fantasy, you get to fuck the people/person that turns you on. You get to experience the best sex and orgasms you've ever had, plus have fun flirting with men and getting hit on. However it is possible to blur the lines of what is real and what was fantasy. Its easy to be mislead by other people, and its easy to think you love or may be falling for someone other than your partner. The true thing is, this is not love, its just great sex, even if its passionate or making love to your boyfriend, ITS JUST SEX!  The truth is, its cheating on your hubby if you want to see where it goes or if you start to see yourself in a real relationship with your boyfriend and you think its headed that. At this point its time to stop seeing him, period!

 It is YOUR responsibility to keep your sex life and your love life separate. It is you as the person in charge and with the power, to STOP any relationship that you feel is going past the point of "JUST SEX".

With all that said, Lets talk about what Cuckolding is really about and how it should be used.
First off, While sex and cuckolding is for you and your pleasure, its also a strong tool to use on him for humiliation and something that he may even eventually get pleasure from, especially on the occasion's that he is allowed to watch, even with humiliation playing a big part of the experience. Cuckolding should have you excited but when done the right way should also excite him, maybe not in the same way or as much as you, but as this may be the only time he gets to see your pussy, and/or get to lick it by cleaning it out, and just simply because sex of any kind is more than he's getting now. The correct way to include cuckolding into your life is to include your partner. There are several ways to do this you can even find ways on your own; one is when you will go on a  fuck date return with the PS in his proper place. He would then be tied down and his tiny cock would be brought hard, then you will tell your PS all about the night, not leaving out any part. Another way would be to allow him to watch or even participate in some manner (all discussed in other parts of my blog), He may even be made to get you dressed, take you out to buy a new outfit for your lover/boyfriend, and/or he could simply be allowed to listen blind folded or via phone while you get pleased by your lover/boyfriend.

However you choose to incorporate cuckolding in your new role as his mistress, remember sex is for your pleasure and you should only do what pleases you, but keep your love separate from your sex and involve your bitch in some way or another. Enjoy!!!