Friday, July 28, 2017

The Bull, The Boyfriend

I know there is mention of Bulls and boyfriends, and even lovers through out my blog but I wanted to write something specific and update the topic.

BOYFRIENDS 
Boyfriends just like bulls have a unique roll to to play in your fun and lifestyle. The main difference between the boyfriend is that he does not interact with your sub and the majority of the time doesn't even know he exist. Boyfriends can be kinky or even freaky, and all guys love a kinky girl in bed, but he may not be into cuckolding and BDSM. Plus he may not be able to handle the fact that you have a significant other, even though he is just your bitch. For those reasons you choose not to tell him of your current lifestyle, and this is best as it allows you to fuck that hot guy your attracted to for as long as you like with out fear of him running away scared. Never the less, boyfriends can be just as much fun as a Bull and are actually vital to a well rounded Fem Dom lifestyle. They add the element of unknowing, suspense, and even jealousy to the sub, and for you the passion, thrill, seduction, and chase that all women thrive for. Boyfriends are chosen as boyfriends for the above reasons but also these are the guys that you are attracted to, make you wet, and want to spend time with. That's not to say that you couldn't feel the same about a Bull or that a Bull couldn't also be a boyfriend, but typically Bulls are less attractive (sometimes barely fuckable, even if that) and are mainly there for the humiliation and deeper submission of your sub....But I'll discuss more on that later. Of course your Boyfriends doesn't have to be a total hunk, its just that you actually have an attraction of some kind to him or he may very well be hot. With that in mind, I wouldn't focus to much on looks or you may be searching for a long time. Instead, find an attraction and go with it because there is plenty of time down the road to find a better looking boyfriend. And you should always be looking!

As I said boyfriends are guys that you are attracted to and you want to spend time with them....Out to dinner, or a movie, or concert, or what ever and then back to his place for some hot passionate sex. Because you want to spend time with them for activities, dates, and sex, your boyfriends are also the guys that you will completely replace your sub with. After all, your subs only purpose to you is support, cleaning, and obeying. Replacing your sub for your boyfriend means you would buy lingerie for him, dress and look sexy for him (let your sub know your doing it all to turn on your boyfriend), go on dates with him, and he is the one you go to for sex as you are essentially dating him. This includes going over to his house for late night sex, early morning sex, lunch time sex, or on the way home from work sex. At some point you may even opt to spend the night, which can be exciting, especially for middle of the night sex or early morning pounding before you go home. With that said, typically, these are also the guys you would want to stop using a condom with early on, you are dating and it is his pussy now right? This gives you better feeling for sex, orgasm, and allows you greater humiliation of your sub. Telling your sub its your boyfriends pussy from now on and bring home a cum filled pussy for him to see as proof. Not using a condom is very humiliating, but being made to clean the mess fuels humiliation and submission (Even just the smell of your sex can bring powerful feelings of submission from him). After all your sex is his sex, even if its with a blind fold on cleaning the after math of your pleasure in how ever manner you choose.

Some Doms choose to date or even be a little serious with that one guy they can't get enough of, thus putting the relationship with the sub as strictly a service bitch. This may be your choice as well, but regardless you should try to include your sub as much as possible with your boyfriend, especially if he will only be your bitch. Do this by having him help you get ready/dressed but only when your not wearing lingerie for him as the lingerie is for your boyfriends eyes only. Also make your sub can take you and pay for(waiting outside the store as you shop) lingerie or sexy clothes for him, or you could show him when you get back what sexy clothes or lingerie you made him buy for your boyfriend. Even listening over the phone from time to time while you get fucked, which is both humiliating and arousing for the sub. Another humiliating thing to consider, and this helps with involving your sub, is that you need to tell him details about your fun night. Especially the sex part; positions, how loud you were screaming, how well and long he fucked you, how many and how strong your orgasms were, how much bigger his cock is (even if its not much bigger, tell him it is) etc. You must tell him about this stuff to keep him involved and jealousy in check. This also keeps him from thinking bad things, I can't tell you enough how much this helps. You will also want to peg him, this will help relate you going on dates and getting fucked to his reward/pleasure (but only peg every 3rd or 4th time you get fucked). Its better if you can peg him immediately when you get home as the effects are far stronger.  Plus you can tell him about the sex as you prepare him for pegging, but either way put your cum filled panties over his head to his nose and tell him about how they got that way. Be creative when including your sub, humiliation is key. Again, including your sub will help him deal with any anxiety or jealousy feelings and it also adds to the humiliation. Its good to have him feel a little bit jealous as it helps keep him submissive but keeping that in check will prevent problems down the road. This is also another reason to be really strict, making him follow all rules and punish for disobeying. Especially if you find that one guy that you want to date long term. Failing to do your part as the Dom will cause problems and I guarantee 100% this new relationship and lifestyle will crash.

You can find boyfriends just about anywhere, out at a bar or club, online dating sites, Tinder, or even Craigslist. There are also Swinger sites that host an assortment of single men who are already into seeing and dating married women. You could even meet one out at a store shopping or getting your oil changed. It doesn't matter where you meet a guy but you can't be shy or nervous to go talk to them. You don't want the guy that caught your attention to get away, so go talk to him....Who cares if he ended up having a girlfriend or what ever but you must try. You should always be looking, and for that reason you should also always look your best. It doesn't even matter if your out with your sub, for all the guy knows is that's your brother or a friend. This brings up another point, you should flirt and talk to guys all the time (unless with a boyfriend or Bull) in front of your sub, make comments about hot guys and the bulge in their pants to help humiliate him.

You can have as many boyfriends as you can handle, but I recommend at least 2 even if your dating. Even if you find that special boyfriend that you can't get enough of. This will help keep things from getting to serious as you could develop more feelings than you should if you had just 1 boyfriend. Its okay to really like a guy, but the L word should never be in the equation. You must remember, even though you are dating another man or men, this is just sex. Its great sex, but just sex and should always be about the sex. The extra stuff involved is just to make the sex better and more exciting but also to help humiliate and submit your sub. If you feel you may be developing feelings, it is your responsibility to end the relationship immediately. You should also never hide anything, no sneaking around or deleting text, you don't have to answer for it, so if you do hide it, it makes you look guilty. This includes not telling you met up with your boyfriend, (not telling is the same as hiding it, and its also not including your sub which you have to do) erasing messages, or phone calls. Besides if anything ever did happen you'll have them as proof. Again, you don't have to answer for anything you do so don't hide it. Also, you need to keep your boyfriend in check if he becomes to clingy. Be careful, you don't want to push him away, just explain that you don't want it to serious. Explain that you like it how it is. Just about any guy can deal with having a girlfriend who gives him sex (especially with out condoms) when ever he wants, goes out with him, and occasionally spends the night if told no more serious than that. Use your best judgment to decide if its time to move on.

BULLS
Bulls are where the real fun begins and are the epitome of humiliation for your sub. Bulls bring humiliation unmatched by anything else you could do (shy of another female), and every Dom should have at least one or two Bulls. Just by the very fact another man is present and knows of your situation can be very humiliating for your sub, let alone any participation he would have. Bulls are also more likely to have bigger cocks and while the sex usually lacks the passion you would get from a boyfriend, its has power and drive that can be erotic, which is the best sex you can have. Plus it has the added feature of humiliation and involvement of your sub. Of course sex and the type of sex varies from Bull to Bull and Boyfriend to Boyfriend, so if you find that one bull or boyfriend that fucks you really good, makes you wet and you can't quit thinking about the hot sex you have with him, don't let him go!

A Bulls role has multiple aspects in the BDSM/cuckolding lifestyle. First, he can be a sex partner or only for forced anal and oral sex on the sub if you choose that (called being used). Many Doms have bulls that only come to use the sub. Second, he will help humiliate your sub, both verbally and physically, and help you with idea's. Third, he can help with punishments and bondage/positions. Lastly, he gives visual aid and proof as nothing is better than hearing you say his cock is so much bigger than yours and he fucks me way better than you ever could then seeing that bigger cock make you moan and scream to every mind blowing orgasm. As I said above, Bulls are mainly used for the humiliation of your sub, the greater the humiliation, the deeper into submission he will be. There are few things that are on the level of humiliation and arousal at the same time as watching you get fucked while seeing and hearing you scream and moan to that bigger better cock, orgasm after orgasm. These examples also really turn on your Bull and boyfriend as all men find it hot when a girl is sexy; You should be loud when moaning and even louder when you climax (this lets every one know you did, which humiliates the sub and the guy know he is doing the right moves to make you orgasm. Your body actions should show that you love that bigger cock, really arching your back and grabbing the mattress or sheets when being fucked dogie style. Laying your legs out wide to allow him full and deep penetration when fucked missionary style. Also hands under his arms grabbing his back/slight nails in his back switching up with grabbing his ass. Making facial expressions that you never made with your sub that show pure ecstasy and pleasure (again the sub knows you never did that with him, and the guys is extremely turned on that he is rocking your world). You should not be shy to act dirty and talk dirty (all men love that and really love a sexually involved girl) enjoying yourself and show that you are! You also want to make it humiliating by saying comments to the Bull and to the sub about the sex and cock size. Things like, "I love your cock" , "his cock is so much bigger than yours", "he fucks me way better than you", "your cock feels so good", " He hits that spot you can't reach", think of your own as well. After your finished, there are fewer ways more humiliating than having to lick clean the mess, especially if made to do so in front of the bull. Depending on your training , you may have to adapt how its cleaned to suit your situation.

Probably the most humiliating and submissive act you could do to your sub is have him serve and obey your bull and adding forced oral and anal. Having to call him Master, Sir, Boss, or Sire and kneeling and obeying, leading to forced oral or anal, followed by watching or listening to you scream and moan to his bigger cock reinforces the subs only place as a submissive. This can be compounded by him watching up close and using him to pleasure you or the Bull by licking/sucking your ass, toes, nipples or sucking on his balls or cock. Its up to you on how you use the bull to help you, your only limited by your imagination and kink level. DO NOT BE SHY, do what ever ways turn you on and don't be afraid to tell the bull what you want done and what pleases you. That is his purpose there and he knows this, plus he is just as turned on as you by the fact he is in the presence of a dominant women and gets to join in the fun. Trust me, he is a Bull for a reason!

Do not be hung up (pun intended) on looks or dress when it comes to finding a Bull, the most important thing is his cock size and his willingness/experience to be a bull. Lets not forget this is about humiliation for your sub and your participation level is up to you, its also a good way to let your sub be involved even if its not the way he prefers. Some of the best sex I've had has come from guys I was not into at first. Also  a big, big, no no, NEVER say negative things about your boyfriend or bull to your sub, remember this is supposed to be great for you, best sex ever, bigger cock, a real man, thinking about his cock all the time, all the things that make this humiliating for your sub. So don't ruin it by comments or remarks that contradict the humiliation your trying to give. This means if problems arise between you and him, you don't like a certain way he does something, or what ever, keep it to yourself. Its hard to find a Bull and far harder to find a good looking Bull, so as I said before, looks are not important, focus on reason he is there. The best places to find one are; Craig's List - BDSM web sites, like Alt.com, BDSM.com, Passion.com, BDSMSingles.com AdultfriendFinder.com - joining BDSM forums and groups, like FetLife and Collar Space. Place an Ad with pics neck down for yourself, but also place one for him. This is very humiliating to him that you have pics of him waist down wearing a chastity as well as pics of him in bondage soliciting a male to use him . The AD should read" looking for a Bull or alpha male to Dom my bitch" or something along those lines. It must be you that sets it up and all meetings, and only you meet at first. Then once you have found one or several Bulls or Alpha's and figured out whats going to happen, its time to play with your sub. Do not explain anything to your sub, you don't need his approval (the humiliation is the surprise as well as the event) plus its none of his business what you plan, just do it.


When you find one, tell him what you want and how you want it done. Don't be afraid to explore and ask him his input. You need to pick a name that turns you on for your sub to address him, like Bull, Master, Sir, Boss, or Sire. Remember Training is important, you don't want to jump right into having your sub suck his cock (unless you have been training him from the start). You need to train him to do this, which includes you wearing a dildo harness and having your sub suck it, among other things like a long hard caning while explaining he will eventually suck cock or be severely punished. Your subs chastity should always be on when the Bull comes over. Starting out; Your sub will always be on his knees, and at first only serve you directly. When its time for sex the first time start with just humiliation and him watching (up close even) and some participation like sucking your toes. The second time; again have him kneeling at all times and only serve you directly. However this time when its time for sex, its time to do forced cock sucking. Have him in bondage and position of some sort and a mouth spreader in to show he has no choice. Begin by undressing the Bull and yourself, then foreplay (sucking tits, cock and pussy) for a few minutes. Then have the  bull go over and stick his cock into your subs mouth. Make sure he spends a few minutes fucking his mouth and at the same time you cane his ass and tell him to get use to it. Now its time for sex and humiliation, once finished the Bull should go the your sub and again fuck his mouth.  You will do this for the first 4 or 5 times of sex with the bull and remember to train as well. After that; you want your sub on his knees sucking your Bulls cock hard for you and sucking it in between your sex with him. If he refuses, you have not caned him long or hard enough and put your dildo in his mouth enough. But if it does happen, put the mouth spreader in and force him to, as you welt up his ass bright red and blue. When the Bull comes over, be creative and change things up from time to time. You want to make this extremely humiliating for him, so that he is compelled to be submissive and believes his place is serving you. Some things to do; one of you fucking the sub while the other gets cock sucking (remember to be humiliating and smack his ass), Making the sub suck your dildo stuck to a wall while you guys fuck, knell him in the corner after he has sucked your bull hard. Use him while you guys have sex. Come up with things that turn you on and use your toys, Blind fold, ball gag, mouth spreader, dildo's, bondage equipment, crop, cane, what ever you have. Again, experiment, explore, and have fun, you will find that this will turn you on immensely. Something else to consider is finding a Bull or alpha male (bi or gay even) who's only purpose is to dom and use your sub. Either with you there or while you spend the night at your boyfriends. Your choice, but remember its all about the humiliation! *note Strict training and punishments will need to be used for this.

Bull or Boyfriend, you should be having sex regularly, at least 3-4 times a week. You must show that you love the sex, that you want to have it, and can't wait to get it. That it last longer and is way better with them over your sub. On the same note, again once you've found the Bull or boyfriend with that awesome cock, and you really love the sex with him, don't let him go and keep your sub involved one way or another.  Enjoy!    
  
   

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