Wednesday, November 16, 2022

His new treat

                                                                        HIS NEW TREAT  


I have been a dominatrix for over 5 years, which has been most of my marriage (at 7 yrs) and it's definitely been the best part of my marriage as I'm sure all Dom's will tell you. I'm not just talking about cuckolding him and the sex part, even though that in itself has been unbelievably mind blowing and honestly the main reason I forced him into submission in the first place (I think why most Doms do it). But I'm also talking about the quality, tranquility, and lifestyle of our reformed relationship, which is not as husband and wife. No, our relationship is far better, natural, and how it should be with him on his knees serving and obey me 24/7/365. But not just serving in my home, he serves me at all times and everywhere we go including holidays, vacations, even on our anniversary, and yes in public as well. I demand this and so should you, as his Mistress it's what I deserve and the way it should be but also the way I want it. Since the day I started taking this serious (there was a short time I didn't) being a Dom and actually living the femdom relationship, I have never been happier and neither has he. By serious,  meaning; being an actual Dominatrix which is dominant to say the least, aggressive, controlling, cruel, and sadistic, but also extremely strict and taking full control forcing his submission. Now, there is never a fight or argument, there is no back talking, (he is severely punished for it), I don't put up with any male bullshit at all, or anything else that comes with normal marriage. I don't ask him to do things, I command it and I simply do what I want, when I want and I control everything including the money. We live a 24/7/365 femdom lifestyle as Mistress and Bitch (actually he is a sissy bitch) just like every other femdom relationship does, and I do truly believe this is the way it should be. The terms Husband and Wife are never used, mentioned or even thought of and he is never allowed to think of himself as an equal, or even a man, nothing but my cock whipped sissy bitch. This is what I want and I do everything I can to keep it that way, I make him tell me several times a week, that he is my sissy bitch, that I own him, and tell me his place. He must also accept his place and acknowledge it when ordered to say it then say"he is my bitch and my property". In fact he has no input and he isn't even allowed to speak unless he asks for permission to do so. He has no opinion, thoughts, or control on anything, not even himself, much less his chores, how I govern my house or his servitude to me. He's never to touch my property (phone and all) and never allowed to question me or ask anything about my pussy in any capacity, Its none of his business as he is simply here to serve, obey and pay (actually hand over his entire paycheck) for the privilege of being on his knees in front of me. 

I don't play around with him, I want him to know his place and understand he is my bitch and I'm very dominant, strict, and controlling of him at all times. I take rule violations and disrespect very serious, none is tolerated and all infractions are dealt with severe punishments immediately as it should be and must be! If I could give you words of advice to be successful and get to the next level of submission or even just finishing his training, is this; You must understand that you are changing him mentally and physically through training and chemical altering and conditioning (by denying him sex/orgasms and building up key hormones in his system that keep him horny and promote submissiveness) and this is exactly what you want. But, because of this transformation YOU must take this serious and be the Dom not a wife and friend in order to keep the training progressing to the next level. As he takes this journey he will need you to be his Dom, he must believe that this is truly what you want and he must fear you to let go of any notions that he has any power or worse that he could still have pussy if he throws a big enough fit or temper tantrum to get it. He will never be the submissive he should be and you will never get the devoted submissive bitch you deserve if he doesn't fear you and believes he can get pussy if he really wants it. You must break him through cruelty, humiliation, and punishments forcing his submission to you. You must maintain his submissive nature by forcing him to accept his natural place kneeling at your feet, being devoted, obedient, and very happy to be there. It truly is vital that you be aggressively dominant, very cruel, and sadistic, plus enforce rules and routines with severe punishments for rule breaking or disobedience. This means at the time of the infraction or as soon as possible, NOT days later if you even do it at all, punishments must be given! Lastly you must also understand that Femdom can't be a half the time or only when its a convenient lifestyle, it is a belief and a 24/7/365 choice and should always be in the forefront of your mind. Men's brains are not capable of switching on and off in that capacity, and even if they could the chemical change wouldn't allow them to go from submissive to normal especially very long without complications and remember it is their natural place to be submissive to you. So Being as mean, strict, ruthless and cruel as you can be, is the only way to success and what he really needs to be the best bitch he can be, FOR YOU! Beside it takes no more energy, or skill to be what you want to be anyway. You have to take the initiative and change things up, try doing scenero's you read about, (even this scenario) try new things like putting him in different positions, or new places (woods, hotel rooms, ect.) different types of humiliation and punishments, get new toys or devices (even have him make them if money is tight) and keep him guessing what's next! When you are very strict, dominant, and cruel he will have no choice but to serve and obey as you direct him, plus it makes the days when you are not able to (maybe your sick, etc.) carry through to the next day when you can. So ask yourself this, what do you truly want? Where do you want to be in 3-4 month from now? How can you make that happen? Maybe you want a serious relationship with a hottie you might be talking to? Do you want to be the Boss in the relationship and do what you want when you want to from here out? Do you want to come home to a clean house, laundry done, and meals cooked, no backtalk or question asked, with full body messages, feet rubs and a very submissive bitch waiting on you hand and foot, eager to serve and obey just for the privilege of being your bitch? If you said yes to any of this, take my words of advice and be proud, be the Dom you are meant to be!    

Obviously when it all started for me, I didn't have a guide so I had to learn (why I put my time posting thess how to's, and scenes to try). I wasn't sure exactly what I was doing and I wasn't one of those women that naturally took charge and control because I'm fairly shy, didn't want to embarrass myself or look stupid, and I didn't want to hurt him to bad or scare him away. Honey, let me tell you this, you could never do anything to make yourself look anything but perfect if your doing things as you should be, and he needs exactly that! You also couldn't hurt him anymore than he needs or deserves and trust me, if your the Dom you should be no other woman would matter, he would only want to kneel at your feet and serve you. While most Doms already know all of this and have no problem breaking their bitch, it took time for me to realize that I had to be very dominate, strict and cruel with him. I'm not talking about telling him no, making him kneel or just refusing him sex, no I mean down right cruel, ruthless, and sadistic not to mention pain and punishments. Doing things that I didn't even know I could do or had in me. I'm talking about locking him in a dog cage for hours and using a litter box instead of a toilet, eating and drinking from dog dishes (that he washes out by hand) walking him on a leash, keeping him on his knees, spitting on his face or in his mouth, and even pissing on his face and/or in his mouth, sometimes forcing him to swallow some of it. This was just the tip of things I now do, I also took him to woods, strip him naked and walked him on a leash to a tree that I tied him to, then used a whip and cane on him till he cried and walked him back to the car. I also have made him stand in the corner at the mall or in stores, and even kneel at my feet in the food court while I ate. As crazy as this all sounded to me, it also turned me on and I eventually found out these are all normal things all Dom's do. I also made him serve friends and even boyfriends wearing nothing but his chastity and his panties, and had him used (fucked and suck cock) regularly by gay or bi-sexual men. So to say the least I eventually let loose, let out the bitch and let go of whatever was holding me back from taking my true and natural place as his mistress plus having the best sex I've ever had. He must fear you, The truth is you have to be dominate, cruel, sadistic, and ruthless to be a proper Dom and you have to punish every time he deserves it. Not just for your benefit, or because he needs this from you to be the best bitch he can be, but because this is how its meant to be. As I said before you deserve this so don't let yourself hold you back from having a devoted sissy bitch and a hot boyfriend to fuck you like you need it. Wants you let go of feeling restricted and start treating him the way he should be treated it will feel natural and honestly it will start to turn you on. Now I absolutely love the power and control I have over him as well as being served and treated like a goddess. OH and I really, really loved the fact I could have his complete submission and devotion as my bitch as well as date and fuck whomever I wanted while cuckolding and denying him sex. 

"His new treat" I had been seeing my boyfriend for just under 2 months. He was attractive and we got along great, plus the sex was so amazing, as I saw him more and more I couldn't get enough. He felt the same and we both admitted we really liked each other, so the last time he was over (2 days prior) we decided to make it more than just fuck friends (FWB) and officially be exclusive with each other. So today, (Friday) we wanted to have a few drinks to celebrate the official "we're dating thing", plus have more intimate sex. Earlier that morning I planned how the day and night would unfold. First thing I went to the mall to get a new lingerie outfit to wear for my boyfriend (Carter) and obviously tanning and nails as well. From there I went to the local sex store to buy a sissy porn video, and a couples toy for Jarrad. I ended up getting a small anal/vag vibe for me called a We-Vibe Jive that is remotely controlled by a phone app. Carter had mentioned he wanted to get something he could remotely control when we were out at dinner or where ever to turn me on and watch the reaction in my face, plus I could wear it while we had sex. Next it was the liquor store for Jack and coke for him and premade margarita drinks for me. From there I ended up at the grocery store to get some large ginger for my cock slut and a small pack of condoms. It was now pretty late so I hurried home to get stuff ready before my sissy bitch got home from work. I peeled the ginger - ginger causes a bad burning sensation when inserted into the ass and left, which gets worse the longer its left in or when the butt is tensed up from a punishment spanking (google ginger punishment) and put it into a small bowl of cold water with 4 ice cubes and then took it down to my dungeon for later. While I was downstairs in my dungeon I put the sissy video into the disc player and pressed play (the dvd player starts over when the disc is finished) for later. This is humiliating for him to watch because it focuses his attention on him being a sissy and craving cock.

As I was coming up My bitch was coming through the door and I said (in a firm voice)go take your fucking place. He hurried up the steps to get undressed and into his place kneeling by the door and the bed. I came in and said," You are to straighten up the house and get back in your fucking place, also the dungeon looks like shit CLEAN IT UP! Yes Mistress, thank you mistress! and he crawled out (he is never allowed to walk in front of me, he must crawl in the house) I proceeded to look for something sexy to wear for Carter. I had decided to just wear the lingerie outfit with a sexy see through robe that was rested just above the bottoms of my ass cheeks. I jumped into the shower to wash and shave, Carter likes a landing strip so I trim it to please him (I showed sissy the first time I shaved it for humiliation).  I came out of the shower to find my cum slut kneeling in his place (my towel was rapped around me as sissy is never allowed to see me naked, unless for humiliation) I asked if the chores were all done including laundry, dishes, and vacuuming? Yes mistress, and your drink is setting on your nightstand (he keeps up on the chores daily so they are finished fairly quick). He has been trained to fetch me a drink if he see's I don't have one or its empty. I took a drink and told him to get in the fucking corner (you must speak firmly). Since he is never allowed to see me naked, he must either kneel in the corner or put his face on the floor hands out in front of him (called the submit position). He isn't allowed to ask me whats going on or question me in any way so at this point he has no clue what's going to happen tonight. I did my hair and makeup then carefully put on the lingerie outfit. My sissy bitch isn't allowed to see me in lingerie unless my boyfriends see's me first, and he is serving in some manner, so I put on a bathrobe over it until my boyfriend arrives. I told my sissy he could come take his place, as he crawled over very close, I'm sure he could smell that I was very aroused and excited to see Carter. I stuck my finger inside me and put it up close to his nose then said do you smell how excited I am to see Carter tonight? Yes mistress, thank you mistress for allowing the privilege to smell Carters pussy. Smelling pussy is also a rare treat for him and when I use this I can practically get him to do anything, and I do use it to make him do humiliating acts just to be allowed the privilege to smell it, even on my finger. What can I say I'm a cruel bitch, LoL. I was looking at him seductively as I was thinking how happy I was that I emasculated, chatized, and mentally castrated him. Thrilled that I broke him and striped him of everything it was to be a man and reprogramed him into the perfect devoted and cock whipped sissy bitch that I deserve. Not to mention how much it turns me on to be cruel and sadistic to him, so I spit in his face (he isn't allowed to clean it off unless I say) and shout worship my fucking feet bitch. While he is thanking me for the privilege and worshiping my feet my boyfriend text me and said he is taking the exit. Oh shit, I need to get moving 

I opened the drawer and grabbed his prostate massager put his leash on  (he always wears a collar in the house) and walk him down (he always crawls) the stairs and into the family room towards his corner to kneel. I said SUBMIT (the position where his ass is in the air, legs spread apart, his chin on the floor looking down and his arms out in front of him) and slid the toy inside his pussy and turned it on. Then I ordered him to kneel in the corner and not to move unless ordered to do so. Then hooked the hand part of the leash onto his collar with a carabiner (the carabiner is left on his collar for instances like this). I got into my purse and got the condoms out and took them up to my bedroom for later and hung up my bathrobe. As I came down Carter was coming through the door, and saw me in the lingerie I picked out for him. WOW! he said, you look very beautiful and sexy to girl! He grabbed me and started kissing me passionately (I love how he kisses me) and squeezing my ass cheeks. After a few more kisses he took my hand and walked me upstairs to the bed room to drop his duffle bag of cloths then began telling me about his day and asked me about mine while he was getting dressed into something comfortable, grey sweats and a tight black t-shirt with socks to be exact (It turns me on when he wears grey sweets because I can see the outline of his big cock). That reminds me, I picked up the condoms on the nightstand and explained my plans for my sissy bitch later. He obviously knows all about my bitch as I explained most everything to him on our second date and of course he had questions that were explained in more detail on the third date and so on. For the record, men are very turned on by taking control of and pleasing another mans pussy. I told him that it really wasn't even an open relationship that Zack was my bitch, sissy bitch to be exact. I also explained that his only purpose was to serve and obey me and pay the bills. But what really excited Carter was that my bitch wasn't allowed sex or anything at all to do with my pussy, no touching, not even allowed to see it. If that didn't excite him enough, I told him he wore a chastity 24/7/365 and showed him picks of him in his pink chastity with panties on. See he isn't even allowed to touch his clitty as I laughed. So he wears the chastity all the time, he said? YES, it's only removed to change between chastities and clean a few times a month. To which he said, I'm actually turned on and impressed! However, the first time we meet I told him I was in an open relationship and explained I do what I want (never tell a potential boyfriend your married). Here we are almost 2 months later and he's starting to command my bitch himself and help me use him for sexual activities as well because we talked about it really turning me on. 

After I told him about my plans for my sissy tonight, he said your ruthless and it's fucking hot! He was also pretty turned on so he picked me up and laid me on the bed as we kissed. He pulled down the bra and began sucking my breast at the same time his finger pulled my panties aside and entered me. I started to moan as he moved to sucking on my neck. He then slid down and started licking on my clit while he fingered me and I quickly got off, 2 times to be exact. By now I was wanting his cock so bad (I actually wanted it the day prior so I was really horny for it by now). I pulled him up to sit up and suck his cock which was already swollen and rock hard. I absolutely love his cock, it's not just long (8 1/2 inches) but very thing (the way I love it) and he really knows how to use it. He truly fucks me way better than my pathetic sissy bitch ever did. He grabs a condom off the nightstand and says should I wear it now or wait till I'm about to cum and just blow inside it? I said, you know I love to feel you bare back, so just blow in it when your close! He opened it up to have it ready and laid it next to me as he slid his beautiful cock inside me. Almost instantly I started moaning (men love hearing a woman moan). He got me off at least 5 times over the next 30 minutes and quickly grabbed the condom and slid it on and then his cock back inside me and pumped till he came (which caused me to orgasm yet again). He got up and I squeezed his cock as I carefully slid the condom off to make sure I got every last drop. I then Tied it into a knot and slid it inside me with the knot barley hanging out (easier to grab to pull out) to keep the cum wet and warm for later. He slid his sweats back on as I straightened my self up and put my panties back on. then we walked back downstairs to see my cock slut still kneeling in the corner like a good bitch.

We sat down on the couch and I laid on Carter's chest as he turned on the movie that he told me he wanted to see on the phone (he bought it on my sissies account). I ordered my sissy bitch to get ice and make our drinks, yes mistress he said as he crawled to the kitchen to stand up to full fill my order. Since he wasn't able to crawl with 2 drinks in his hand (he is allowed to walk but must kneel immediately after). He kneeled and looked at the floor (he is never allowed to make eye contact unless ordered) and handed us our drinks. Now get my phone, I left it up stairs on the nightstand. This was done on purpose for humiliation as I wanted him to go upstairs and see that the bed he made earlier was messed up from sex and so that he could smell sex in the air (the hormones make sissy's weak and submissive). But I also wanted him to see the condoms and the open wrapper the condom was in (mind fuck for later lol). He quickly returned crawling with my phone and kneeled in his place at our feet. Now go get back into the corner until your required again, yes mistress he said. I ordered chinese food (Carter loves it) on my bitches credit card. As we somewhat watched the movie we were making out fairly heavily and I know my bitch could hear as we messed around. After about 30 minutes into the movie the doorbell rang. GO GET OUR FOOD BITCH, I yelled. He quickly crawled out to go get on his tight pink spandex shorts and pink half shirt to answer the door in. He's made to wear them as part of his humiliation as they go up the crack of his ass and if you look, you can see his chastity outline, he looks very sissy like. He again walks back in and gets silverware for our food and comes to kneel back in his place repeating as he did earlier. I took our food out of the bag and told him to sit the bag (this was his food) on the counter and make us another drink. He returned with drinks and I said back to your fucking corner cock slut! After we ate he was ordered to clean up the mess and back to the corner. 

The movies was just about over (about 20 minutes or so left) and we started kissing as he rubbed my clit. I was so turned on, not that it mattered as I was already wanting his cock again. I made sure my bitch could hear us kissing and messing around throughout the movie but it was time for some more humiliation, so I stood up and said, "GET OVER HERE BITCH!" He quickly crawled over as his ass depended on it, literally. As he kneeled, I took off my see through gown so he could get a little glance of the lingerie outfit and I said hold this as I threw it over his shoulder. I turned around to face Carson and bent over so sissy could see my ass really good (about a foot away from his face) but more importantly Carter's big cock through the opening between my legs. I had it out playing with it towards the end of the movie and he was still hard, unlike my sissy, his pathetic clitty wouldn't be able to stay hard. It's good for submission, but I also love to humiliate my sissy about how much bigger Carson's cock is (if your cuckolding you need to humiliate about how much bigger, better, and last longer than your sissy), how he is a real man and he can actually please me. Humiliation helps put subs in there place but also keeps them there. I started to suck his big cock letting my sissy see how I could barely get it into my mouth, again more humiliation. I sucked for about a minute or two then turned to notice his clitty was dripping pre-cum out of the chastity. I then said, "GO THE FUCK AWAY!" This is a command I use that means "to go kneel in the corner of another room", which his place is the dining room so he can hear me give orders to obey. He's sometimes permitted to watch or just hear us mess around, but rarely allowed to watch us have sex unless for humiliation or when he is enhancing our pleasure by licking or sucking one of us or both of us. He crawls away to the dining room with a dripping clitty. When sissy's leak/drip pre-cum out of their chastity it is a sign of a high arousal state but more importantly its submission to the alpha male. This brings up another point between a real man and a pathetic sissy bitch, while I'm standing in front of my boyfriend (a real man) in lingerie he gets hard, grabs my ass, is excited and thinking about fucking the shit out of me. But I stand exactly the same in front of my sissy bitch and he gets weak, submits, and can only think about serving and worshiping my ass....Which is exactly what I want and why he was meant to be my bitch. Truthfully, He could never please me sexually with his pathetic small clitty, or last longer than a few minutes (not that I wanted him to with no pleasure) but he can please me or even turn me on (wanting Carson's big cock) by suffering for me, serving and obeying, or worshiping my feet and ass and last as long as I want him on his knees doing so. Not to mention the whole body massages, head and foot rubs, so he is where he was meant to be and exactly where I want him!

After my sissy left the room I kneeled down and sucked Carter's cock more, knowing he would lose whatever focus he had left on the movie and take me upstairs to fuck the shit out of me again. Needless to say a few minutes later he was saying lets go fuck (of course baby). We stood up and he kissed me, then he grabbed my hand walking me towards the steps. I yelled to my bitch to shut off everything, clean up and bring us up some fresh drinks. About 10 minutes later sissy came in with our drinks and kneeled next to us as I was straddled on Carter's lap facing him (both sitting up) with my arms around the top of his shoulder and neck, his holding my waist. We were both naked except my panties (as Carter undressed me and then threw off his clothes as soon as we got upstairs). I said sit the drinks down and put on your blindfold in the top draw. After it was on, I stood up checked the blindfold to make sure it was tight, then took off my panties and grabbed his leash pulling him over to my ass as I climbed back onto Carson. I said lick my fucking asshole bitch and you better do it right. As he licked the rim for a few minutes and then tongued deep into my asshole (which he knows I love), Carter laid back onto the bed and pulled me down on top of him so sissy could lick my ass better as we kissed. My bitch knows he is never to lick past my asshole to carters pussy (a severe punishment stopped that) After about 5 minutes I said enough and sissy thanked me for the privilege to worship my ass (he knows failing to thank me for privileges is a severe punishment). I took the leash off the carabiner and walked him through the door and told him to "submit" and stay. I then closed the door over the leash so that he was on the outside of the bedroom with the door closed and the leash went under the door and I pulled it up to hook on the door knob so he couldn't get up or move. All he could do is stay on his knees in the "submit position" and listen to Carson fuck the shit out of me as I moaned and screamed for over an hour (1 hour 15 minutes). The humiliation of hearing me moan and scream the entire time was not all the humiliation he received, he also heard me telling Carson that I loved his cock and Carson making me tell him its his pussy and that I wanted it to be his pussy from now on... How tight his pussy is and how good it feels, as well as other humiliating stuff. Humiliation is very important in his submission not just to me but also to Carson as it helps reprogram his mind and reinforce his position and purpose to me (as well as it will you). I really wanted him to know his place from now on, his true place and purpose for me which as I said is serving, obey, and paying me for the privilege to do so.      

After a hard fuck session with me moaning and groaning just about the entire time, we needed a break and Carter wanted some alone time for more intimate sex with me. Plus it was more humiliating for my bitch to only hear part of it (and why I love Carson's cock so much) then go to his cage not being permitted to hear the rest so his mind can run wild with humiliation. After I slid on some panties, I unhooked the leash from the door knob and opened the door and said in a firm voice up! I noticed that his clitty was leaking pre-cum so I bent down and wiped it with my finger saying open your fucking mouth and shoved it into his mouth. Then I ordered in a firm voice for him to lick clean the mess on the carpet. Then I walked sissy to the dungeon but instead of locking him in his cage as I normally do, I made him kneel at the foot of the bed/bench (its more of a tie down table) facing the door. I then cuffed his hinds behind his back and put in a mouth spreader so he would slobber all over himself and I could force him to suck my strap-on cock later. Then put the "wedge stool" under him to force him up on his knees (for torture knowing keeping him in his place, on his knees would be more painful with as long as he's been kneeling tonight). The "wedge" is a sharp triangle shaped kneeling stool made of wood (sometimes steel) that the sub kneels on to hold him in place. It causes pain in the area of the asshole and in between the balls if he lowers off his knees. So It basically keeps him on his knees, you can also strap various types of dildos onto it for added stretch pain as well. And you can attach shock pads from a shocking device and strap his balls to it, kind of forcing him to endure some pain from the wedge and shock at the same time. Finally I take some Tiger Balm and rub it all over his balls, then turned out the lights except the bright spot light which I have mounted on the wall facing his face. I shut the door and washed my hands (you don't want this in your eyes) before going back up to my bedroom. 

As I enter, Carson was still lying naked on the bed, only now he had some soft R&B music playing on my google nest hub (Mini screen device similar to Alexa) and was playing on his phone. As he quickly stood up, he asked if sissy was locked down, to which I replied painfully locked down whith a sadistic grin on my face. He grabbed my waist and pulled me to him and started kissing me very passionately then pushed me towards the bed. He gently pushed me back onto the bed and started licking me (which he is honestly very good at) for several minutes. After about three orgasms he slowly licks up my stomach to my breast and spent some time licking and sucking on my nipples until he left a sucker mark right next to my right nipple (so my sissy can see he's marking his property). He knows not to leave a hickey on my neck because I think its tacky but I'm fine anywhere else that shows sissy humiliation. He then starts kissing me again as I reach down to play with his cock that is already rock hard. He spreads my legs wide and slowly enters me and starts pumping in and out. I instantly feel pleasure and get very wet (something I've never done with sissy) as he again starts kissing me very slow and passionately. His cock is hitting that perfect spot that makes me build to a strong orgasm, only he's going slow and steady purposely to keep me building higher and higher to an orgasm. I'm already moaning softly from the pleasure of his cock, but now he starts sucking on my neck (which he knows I love), and I feel the orgasm build to the point I didn't think it could build anymore. But it did, higher and higher as he started picking up speed as his slow gentle strokes turned into harder steady strokes and there it was a mind blowing passionate orgasm that was far better than anything my sissy ever gave me (but then again they all were lol). But it wasn't over yet, as soon as I start moaning and screaming louder from the intense orgasm, he pulls my head up and we lock eyes as he starts pounding me harder and faster and I start scream out OMG, OMG as I completely explode to the best orgasm I've ever had.

We continue to have hot passionate sex like this in various positions for about another 1 1/2 hours,  It literally was some of the best sex I've ever had, if not the best. At the end he had cum at the same time I had another mind blowing orgasm and filled my pussy with his cum, I actually love it when he cums inside me and I feel his big cock get very hard as his warm load unleashes. We laid there for another few minutes kissing passionately as I felt his cock get soft (even soft he is still bigger then sissy hard) inside me. Carson rolled off me and laid next to me and we talked for a few minutes before I had to get up to go pee. I then grabbed the cum filled condom from earlier (I stuck in a heating pad on low setting to keep it warm and fresh). By now it was getting late so I put on my panties and told Carson I'd better get downstairs and punish sissy and give him his treat reminding him he was welcome to come watch. He said to leave the door cracked he might come down after he gets a shower. He has watched a few times before without my sissy knowing as he was wearing a blind fold. I kissed him then started to walk away and he pulled me back to kiss him again and said, "your so fucking hot when your cruel". I gave him an evil grin and walked down to the dungeon. 

As I walked in sissy had slobber running down his face and his clitty was still leaking a lot of pre-cum. I said firmly, your pathetic little clitty can't stop leaking (remember leaking pre-cum is a sign of submission to an alpha male), you can't help but submit to a real man fucking me like I deserve because you know your meant to be a cock whipped sissy slut, don't you! Yes mistress he replied. It must be fucking humiliating that there's nothing you can do about it and you can't even control your fucking mess, but that's all that will ever come out of that worthless tiny clit. That's what Sissie's are for, humiliation, torture, amusement, and fucking obeying his mistress, OH, and paying for the privilege to serve me. Well I bet your ready to get out of those cuffs and off the "wedge" aren't you. YES Mistress! he tried saying through the mouth spreader. That's to bad, I have plans for your fucking sissy mouth, I went over and put on my strap-on with the large cock then forced it into his mouth. I fucked his mouth and made him gag a little as I humiliated him that Carson cock was about this big (it really is) and that he fucked me way better than your pathetic clitty ever could, but I'm sure you could tell, couldn't you bitch? He tried to say yes mistress the best he could with a large cock in his mouth. I had one hand on his leash and the other grabbing a hand full of hair forcing my cock into his wet mouth telling him to suck my fucking cock like he loves it. As he is gaging on it, I explained that he better get use to sucking and pleasing cock a lot because he was about to start for real as I had listed him a profile with pics of him (he didn't know I had taken them as he was blind folded) some naked pics of his ass in various positions and some with panties on, plus one with his pink chastity on and one with it off and hard. I posted them on several gay and bi-sexual web sites including "Grindr". I told him that I'd been talking to several guys from there and explained our situation and that he could literally be used anytime they wanted (with in reason and a little advanced notice). So you already have a few cocks that can't wait to use you like you fucking deserve. But don't worry, eventually your going to love it and even beg to have your cock hole fucked. I could see the desperation and humiliation in his eyes as he said, are you serious mistress? Yes, and you will be trained to please cock the proper way, I said as I laugh at him.  

After a few more minutes of humiliation I said, well lets get this mouth spreader off so you can suck the pre-cum off my finger, then I'll let you up to lick the wedge board clean of your nasty mess. After he finished cleaning up his mess (yes I made him suck the pre-cum off my fingers like it was icing), I uncuffed him and told him to worship my fucking feet, which he quickly bent down and started kissing and licking my feet. As he worshiped them, I reached over to get a latex glove on and then continued to humiliate him about being a pathetic panty wearing cock slut as I reached down to play with his asshole and started fingering his pussy. I bet your craving my cock right now aren't you bitch? Yes mistress as he moaned and continued to kiss and lick my feet. That's a good cock slut, now KNEEL I said in a firm voice to which he quickly obeyed. Beg me just like the pathetic cock whipped slut you are, beg me to allow you the fucking privilege to have my big cock deep in your pussy. Immediately he started to beg for my cock as he looked down at the floor (he is never allowed to look up unless ordered to do so). He was begging sincerely as I shouted, LOOK AT ME AND BEG! then I spit on his face. He looked up and said yes mistress, please mistress, may I please be permitted the pleasure of your big cock? May I please be permitted to be a good cock slut for you and amuse you by moaning and screaming to your big cock forcing me to cum and submit to it? Please mistress I'm begging you? SHUT THE FUCK UP and get up on the bench I yelled! He climbed up and I proceeded to lock him down good and tight because I didn't want him to move at all for what was about to happen. I unlocked his chastity (it had been almost a week since it was off) and pulled his tiny package (balls and all) back and clamped them in the bench. This puts his clitty facing down towards the floor, and I started to edge him by licking and fingering his prostate. After about 10 minutes he was begging for cock again and I said beg louder, to which he did as I walked around to the front of him and said SUCK MY FUCKING COCK AND GET IT READY! He opened wide as I slid it into his mouth and again began fucking his mouth. I pulled it out and slapped him across the face with it then lubed it up and slowly slid it in saying thank your mistress for the privilege of my fucking cock. He thanked me as his words turned into moans and whimpering from my cock stretching his pussy and going deep. I said That's right bitch as I laughed, you can't help but moan from my cock can you bitch? No mistress he replied. After about 20 minutes of pounding his pussy and humiliating him I pulled out and again went around the front, grabbed him by the leash and made him suck and lick my cock clean of lube (Strep can happen but is rare if properly cleaned out, and there's antibiotics if it does) saying suck my fucking cock clean slut! This is very humiliating for sissies, and reinforces their place. After about 5 minutes, I pulled it out and said what should you say slut? He again thanked me for the privilege of pleasing my cock. I absolutely love seeing and hearing him beg to be my bitch and transform into a true sissy bitch willing to obey my every command, it is so intoxicating. 

It was time for his treat and training to accept his treat with any dirty humiliating way I want him to take it. For the record, he has been forced to lick clean his own messes and even did clean up duty a few times with my last boyfriend, but this time it was going to be different. From now on he would do clean up every time possible, and from here out he would not be allowed to lick it directly from my pussy (at least very rarely). Instead I would squat over him and squeeze it into his mouth then finger feed the rest of it to him or do it in whatever humiliating way I could think of like having Carson shoot it straight into his mouth. I took off the strap-on and hung it up, then I got the ginger off the table by the door, took it out of the cold water and shoved it into his ass hole so it could start to take its affect on him before his caning. Then I grabbed the ball gag and walked in front of him saying its time for your new treat. He looked puzzled as his mind went wild with curiosity of what I was talking about. I walked over and grabbed his dog dish (it says sissy bitch on it in all caps) and placed it in front of him and proceeded to squat over it and pull my panties aside just enough for him to see the cum dripping from my pussy lips. I squeezed and fingered my pussy to get every last drop into his dish then reached up to wipe what was on my finger across the bottom of his nose and lips. I knew the smell of sex would both drive him crazy inside and make him weak and submissive. I then took the condom full of cum and cut it open and squeezed it into his bowl. The whole time he looked very humiliated as by now he was understanding 2 things, first what his new treat was going to be and how much of it there was, and second that I had started letting Carson cum inside his pussy. At least that's what he thought, but he was about to get even more humiliation. I Then stood up and said you look humiliated and frustrated! Yes Mistress, That's good, you should be. Mistress may I please have permission to speak, he said in a humble tone. Yes bitch, what? Its very humiliating that your going to make me eat his cum especially since I can't even lick it from his pussy but its really humiliating that you let him cum inside his pussy tonight. I laughed and said, your going to be eating Carson's cum every time possible from now on, but tonight wasn't the first time he didn't use a condom and cum inside me. He then spoke without permission saying, its not mistress? Again I laughed and said no, he's been fucking me almost the whole time without one and cumming inside his pussy. He looked like he was about to cry, and I said AW-AW, is sissy going to cry for me as I started laughing at him, don't worry sissy's going to have plenty of time for that tonight especially since you spoke with out permission. The fear of punishment snapped him back into submission as he quickly said I'm sorry Mistress for my disobedience! Oh your going to be very sorry, I promise you that. Yes Mistress!

Your probably really humiliated that he's fucked me this whole time with out a condom and you didn't know, yes Mistress! Its none of your fucking business though is it BITCH! I said in a very strict tone. No Mistress! That's right, you deserve nothing at all to do with pussy, the only reason you know now is for the humiliation of it and as I said before so you can expect to clean up the fucking mess every time possible. I walk over to get the cane and the cat-0-nine tails whip and start using the cane on his ass first, hitting his ass 10 times slow and hard. Then I said, I'm sure knowing this your really realizing that its going to be his pussy from now on and there is nothing you can do about it, is there bitch? No mistress, that's fucking right, your place and purpose for me is nothing more than serving and obey and paying for that privilege. Yes mistress! Then I hit another 10 times slow and hard, followed by 20 fast and hard hits. Do I have your attention bitch? YES MISTRESS! he yelped out. GOOD, your training is about to begin I said in a firm voice. I want you to know I meant what I said, you will never have anything to do with pussy again much less feeling the pleasure of it. I hit him another 20 fast and hard while saying, You will be grateful and thank me for the rare times I even let you smell it, even if on my finger is that understood bitch! YES MISTRESS! he cried out. Another 10 slow, hard hits. Now he is really whimpering and flinching with every hit, but the ginger is keeping him from clenching his ass checks so he must endure every hit. I speak in a dominant and firm voice from here till I'm finished with him, saying Your going to lick every drop of his cum out of your bowl and your going to beg me to do it, but not yet, not till I'm finished with you. I want you ready to do it, then hit him another 10 fast and hard. I want you really wanting his cum in your mouth, I want you sexually excited to taste his warm cum in your mouth and please me that way. I want you to be a true cock whipped slut, ass I hit him another 20 fast and hard. Then I put the ballgag in and continued to hit him in series of 10 and 20 hits mixing them slow and hard. He eventually was screaming and yelling with muffled cries and pleads to stop, but I continued to hit, humiliate and scold him about his place and purpose. His muffled yelps, and screams eventually turned into crying and tears and I laughed at him and hit more until I felt he was ready to beg me to lick up Carson's cum (over 300 hits later).

I hit him as I said are you ready to beg me to clean up Carson's cum, he shook his head violently saying yes mistress may I please beg you to lick it up. It was muffled but it still really excited me and turned me on especially with the power I have over him. I took off the gag and slobber was all over the floor and gag, I laughed and said see your slobber tells me you want it in your mouth more than you know, joking of course it was the ball gag that did this. Yes mistress he said in a trembling voice. Well, what do you have to say as I hit him another 10 times hard and fast. As He starts saying PLEASE MISTRESS! PLEASE!PLEASE! may I lick up Carson's cum. I feel Carson reach around to my pussy and start rubbing my clit. Please mistress I'm begging you to allow me the privilege of cleaning up his cum. I hit him another 10 times fast and hard as best I can anyways with Carson telling me how much it turns him on to see sissy submit to me. I say you can do better than that in a loud voice. Yes mistress! As he again pleads to taste his cum and begs to be my cum licking cock slut, Carson spins me around and kisses me passionately and I feel his cock harden as he presses it against my pussy lips (thinking thank goodness for the V pill). He starts to rub my clit with his cock pumping it in and out before he spins me around and slides it in from behind. He pumps about 10 times then pulls it out saying hurry this up and get your ass upstairs, I want that again before bed. Then he smacks me on the ass and walks out. I zone back in and sissy is still begging me to lick his cum from the bowl, so I don't think he even heard Carson in the room or at least he was to scared to take his focus off begging me for his cum to prevent another beating. Now I switch to the cat-o-nine tails whip and say tell me who's bitch you are and start hitting him back hand and front hand with the whip. As he confesses he's my bitch he pleads to stop, but I continue saying what's you place and where do you belong from here out? My place is serving and obey you mistress and I belong kneeling at your feet from here out mistress! GOOD BITCH! You may now clean up his fucking mess but you better not disappoint me! He licks the bowl clean and says thank you mistress for allowing me the privilege of licking his cum. His ass is extremely welted up, purple and red (black and blue as they say) and I'm very pleased with my work and the submission it accomplished.

I tell him I'm going to let him up, he is not to touch his ass or the ginger until the mess is cleaned up. I untie him and he quickly drops to his knees and thanks me for the privilege of serving me and allowing him to lick Carson's cum up. He begs to serve me from now on and asks me to please allow him to be my cock slut from here out. I smiled and said in a firm voice, YES that's your fucking place, now clean up the fucking mess. He quickly started cleaning up and came back to kneel at my feet, but all I could think of was hurrying to get up stairs to Carson. I said GET IN YOUR FUCKING CAGE! Then locked the door, I said as I walked to the door that if he was lucky after Carson left in the morning I would bring down his cum breakfast from morning sex and allow him to sniff my cum filled panties a bit before doing Saturday chores, as I was going upstairs to get fucked again. Then looked at him with an evil grin as he said yes mistress, please mistress may I have that privilege then turned out the light and closed the door saying we'll see bitch! I went upstairs and climbed on top of Carson and we had slow passionate sex for about 20 minutes, my pussy was already swollen and sore and I wanted it to rest before morning sex. I fell asleep laying on his chest. 

You can and even should use this entire event as a scenario for you to follow. I did as this is an actual ceremonial event most Doms due for forced cum eating or just for humiliation as they stop using condoms with a boyfriend. Till next time...

Your success is on you!

Mistress 

      

                   

      

       

                         

Saturday, November 13, 2021

EDGING 101

                                                                    EDGING YOUR BITCH


EDGING
Like pegging and panties, edging goes hand in hand with forced chastity and sissy training, as it makes wearing the chastity more effective, deeper submission, helps with reprogramming and increases your control over your bitch. Most Dom's practice a form of edging in training without even knowing their doing so or what it is. However they are not properly doing it (technique), so its effects are not as strong as the technique below. So make sure you follow the technique below as close as possible. Edging is a very powerful tool for all Doms, as it forces submission, but it also forces cuckold desires. That's right, edging forces him to want to be cuckolded and he will even beg you to do so during this technique, as you will train him to want this during the edging process so it should be done daily throughout his entire training process and occasionally after (1-3 times a month) as well. 

How its done; First and important, tie him down (very securely) with his knees and legs spread far apart to have easy access and this makes him feel helpless, MAKE SURE you also secured his ankles far apart so as not to accidently kick you during the edging. If you are edging correctly as instructed here, after about 2 weeks of continuous edging he will start to move his legs around and may accidently kick you, so secure them tightly. Then properly lasso his balls up to help prevent an orgasm. Take a thin rope (1/8 to 3/16) fold it in half using the center as a starting point, wrap the center from under the ball sack upwards on the outside of the balls and around both balls downwards through the center separating the balls from each other.  At this point both balls should have one wrap around each of them, repeat this step wrapping each testicle this same way 2-3 times (depending on your length of rope) to separate them further from each other and to tighten the skin around them. Make sure both balls are equally wrapped with tightness (both look the same) and the skin should be tight on each ball with very little to no extra skin. On the last circle of ball wrap as your pulling the rope between the balls crisscross the rope at the bottom of the balls bringing the rope ends opposite of how you wrapped it prior. Then wrap the rope around the entire base 2 times and back on top to tie of the base of his clitty. Depending on how much you want to stretch his balls but also to draw them out away from the body you could also wrap the rope around both balls together prior to wrapping it around the base. NOTE* The rope needs to be fairly tight, but not to tight, as you barely want to restrict blood flow dulling the nerves that trigger orgasm. Judge by how tight the skin looks and the color, red and purplish is ok deep dark purple might be to tight but judge by his reaction.

Second,  NOTE* Always start out licking his clitty prior to inserting a finger or toy into his rear-end. Begin by using your tongue and fingers to lick and rub the underneath of his shaft just below the urethra opening (called the frenulum) and the small pea sized area below the frenulum. Make sure you humiliate and degrade him during the entire time of edging. This is the time to really humiliate and degrade him, but it's also training time for him because what you want him to be or how your want him to behave will be retained subconsciously during this process especially when putting your pussy in his face using copulins to reprogram him. After a few minutes (3-4) lick the head and rim of the clitty and switch it up during the edging process. The entire head is your playground even the back side. However spend the most amount of time on the frenulum, and entire rim of his head as this gives the most pleasure. The object is to work him up and build his arousal level so high that he becomes weak, disoriented and submissive. Note* NEVER put his clitty fully into your mouth to suck, only lick it (like a clit), as this could cause a sudden orgasm. Licking makes it difficult to orgasm because it doesn't stimulate enough nerve endings at the same time to force an orgasm. Keep in mind that this is only relative to how long he has been denied an orgasm or milked, the longer he goes without either the more sensitive his clitty becomes so watch closely as I said its difficult, not impossible to cum. But, the threat of a severe punishment for an orgasm helps to deter it. However, If you haven't given him a proper punishment yet, your not taking your place serious and being the Dom you need to be, its time to do so! Keep in mind, a sissy's clitty doesn't deserve penetration of any kind, clitty licking is the best she will ever receive, besides its very disrespectful and degrading to a mistress to suck a sissy's clitty and sends the completely wrong message.

Third, after about 5-10 minutes (or longer, NEVER SOONER) of licking its time to insert a finger (1 finger) and lick at the same time.*Never stimulate the prostate with a toy or finger until after the penis has been stimulated for at least 5-10 minutes first, even if your not edging him. Remember, you must build arousal, anticipation, and desire first for the edging technique to work properly. This also makes the nerve endings around the anus and prostate more sensitive creating the desire to be fucked. Plus this is key to sissy training as you want her ready to beg for cock through this technique. Continue to lick and work his prostate for another 5-10 minutes or more. After that, you may switch to a prostate toy if you choose to do so (a finger sometimes works best as it has better articulation and can hit the P-spot exactly right). In edging the length of time is key, as the longer you do it the better it works especially as the finger (or toy) works its magic on the prostate. This third step stimulates from the inside out and causes a surge in hormones and need for release (to cum), as it builds pressure in the epididymis (gland the sperm is stored in). The longer the stimulation the more the pressure and need for relief as the pressure starts to push the sperm through the vas deferens to the ampulla (located just above the prostate). If stimulated long enough without orgasm and ejaculation, the pleasure and pressure (the need to cum) can become so intense that it becomes almost intolerable. This is the point when you get true submission and begging, this is exactly how you want him. After several days and/or weeks of this, blue balls sets in and the male becomes very docile and accepting of his place and any training you give. It's also where cuckolding desires start to push to the surface. A sissy in training will start craving your cock as his P-spot is swollen, desiring the stroke and stretch of a cock, pleasure only a big cock can give. *Note Sporadic edging or edging done on occasion (not done daily) works to influence arousal level, but consecutive daily edging is far more effective and has the added submission effect, as I said before, a need for you to cuckold him. So start off every training session with edging him for at least 20 minutes, even if its punishment night, unless its a punishment only session.

Forth and lastly, by now you have spent at least 20 minutes hopefully more (again longer is far better) building arousal levels, its time to train him in various training scenarios like bring out his desire for you to cuckold him or date a boyfriend, sucking cock, taking cock, following rules, cleaning the house, wearing panties and other sissy aspects like heels, lingerie, and clothes and pretty much anything associated with dating your boyfriend full time. Remember to make sure you continue to lick and massage the prostate while you do it, and make him repeat, agree, and beg for everything your programing him to accept and do.     

EXTREME EDGING
Almost all Dom's deny sex and sexual relief of any kind to keep his energy, arousal, and hormone levels high so he is easily trained and reprogrammed, very submissive and eager to obey. Besides sex with a sissy bitch sucks anyway and he doesn't deserve to cum. However serious Dom's take it to a higher level and use 2 very effective edging methods for increasing dominance and control, with a deeper submission. The first is extreme edging, done just as edging described above, however extreme edging is where you edge continuously with prostate stimulation, (toy or finger inserted) for a minimum of 40 to 50 minutes or longer, again longer is key. During this time she is very dominant, speaking aggressively to him and being cruel, spitting in his face, smacking his balls, pissing on his face, clamping his balls or any other cruel treatment to take over his subconscious mind as she reprogramms him. The second method is even worse, extreme edging all day, off and on, which requires you to lock him down each time (4-5 times or more) throughout the course of the day for 40 to 50 minutes or so, while you repeat it each time. *Note the all day edging obviously requires more time but the reward is significant with submission and shorter training time. All day edging should be done at least once during the training period. The all day technique is also used for forced sissy's cock pleasing (real cock) the same night because of its extreme heightened arousal state and submission (Explained in the sissy section of my blog). Both extreme edging and all day edging will result in an deeper, more intense pain from blue balls with a desperate and extreme need for release. When this edging is done for days turning to weeks, I have watched many sub males, even my own sissy break from this type of edging, becoming an utterly submissive bitch, so extremely submissive they would do anything to cum. Eventually, sissy's will turn to begging and crying (real tears) for release, desperate to cum. This will eventually turn into begging and crying, pleading just stop the edging (which you won't do) because the need to cum is so intense. This is prime time to break his will and show him why your in control. This power is very intoxicating and arousing for Dom's, it is the only pleasure the sissy is capable of giving you and pretty much the only pleasure you want from him. This is the point you know the edging is working, you need to laugh and humiliate the sissy if he does cry, and keep edging and humiliate him as this time is one of the best influencers of extreme submission and training plus key to extracting the sissy you want. Remember to use this time for training to reprogram him to your desires. 

**NOTE**An added technique to extreme edging is the teasing technique called "PUSSY TEASING", which is also done in "COPULIN TRAINING". This is done by teasing him with pussy in some manner to increase his hypnotic state and natural desire to submit and obey you. This would be smelling pussy, seeing it up close while spreading your lips apart, and even sliding your finger or toy inside at the same time. You could also use the "power stance position" standing over him with legs spread on each side of his chest, facing his clitty as you humiliate and degrade him then squat to put pussy inches from his face. Or watching you use a dildo on yourself (or holding in his mouth). Any of these as well as your own ideas to tease him can be done during edging or anytime in training and they drastically bring out submission and cuckold desires. However, If you are currently dating a boyfriend or start in the future and forbid him anything to do with pussy, this can be done with panties on and still give near the same effect not to mention the effect the smell of pussy has on him.

At first his training will keep him from begging for pussy, but the intense edging will eventually break him and make him beg for it or at least beg to cum. The main thing that will keep this from happening is if you have been punishing him correctly for past disobedience or doing so prior, but he may still do so. This is because of the high levels of hormones, the intense feeling of blue balls, and extreme need to cum may cloud his thought process. This is why punishing correctly is so important but also why extreme edging is good for brainwashing and reprogramming him to become the bitch you want and deserve. Remember the higher the levels of hormones, the more submissive he is and the easier he is to control. Also, never under any circumstances at any time allow your sissy bitch to beg for pussy. This is insulting, and extremely disrespectful to a Mistress especially if she has a full time or serious boyfriend as pussy would belong to him, so this act should anger you, GREATLY so show it! If it does not, then you are not taking your position as his mistress serious and this will eventually cause difficulties with your submissive with regards to your boyfriend if it has not already done so. So it is very vital that you punish for disobedience and every rule not obeyed. For now, simply give his balls several smacks during edging and tell him he will be punished for it that he is never allowed to beg for pussy, DO NOT FORGET to punish him after training for this disrespect or at least the next day. Remember letting him get away with this will not only invite future invitations to beg for pussy and other disrespectful actions, but also make you look weak and have him questioning your authority. Also while edging him properly, your bitch may begin to do hump motions with his hips (might take a few days) while your licking his clitty. It's called dry humping (male dogs also do this) and he may not even be aware he is doing this, it's a natural sign that he is becoming extremely aroused and horny. While you want to see this happen as a sign your edging correctly, continued humping is very disrespectful, almost as much as asking for pussy. No self respecting Dom would ever allow a submissive bitch to hump her face. Again smack his balls as many times as needed to get him to stop and threaten punishment later. Remind him that even though he is a dog and should be treated like a dog, collared and caged....Humping will not be tolerated!   

During extreme edging, this is the time to use his high levels of hormones to reprogram him, especially if you used pussy teasing and the copulins. Simply change his desire for pussy to wanting your cock and craving it instead. Use your own words to refocus his need and pleasure to what you want, like how its a privilege to serve and obey you. Point out how good your cock feels and how he will love all of it, how he can't resist it and make him tell you this and admit to it. Tell him he will be cock whipped, and he shouldn't resist it, that its his natural place and he can't resist it and must submit to it. Again make him admit that he loves it and wants it always. This is where your words and humiliation transform him through brainwashing. Tell him he is a pathetic sissy bitch and that he was born to please cock, explain that he will never be allowed the pleasure of pussy again, that he will love cock instead. Tell him he never pleased pussy, and that his clitty is to pathetic and tiny. You have to let your inner Dom out, use your imagination, ideas, and words to reprogram him to want and crave your cock OR even real cock if he is a sissy. If you have been pegging him for a weeks prior, and doing the edging technique with prostate stimulation, he will naturally have a desire to want fucked. This desire will increase with every day you edge and by your reprogramming his mind during edging, soon he will be begging for and serving your cock. Best of all he will truly believe that his purpose is serving you and pleasing cock and want it badly.  *Note copulins are heavily built up during sex so it is necessary to use a dildo on yourself up close to his face or in a face harness as you ride it. because of this it is especially important to make him lick clean the mess after sex EVERY TIME!   

Extreme edging is very, very effective in speeding up training time (as much as 1 month if training and punishments are done properly and edging done everyday), inducing deeper submission, and promoting a long term cock whipped state of mind. Crucial and important, extreme edging like other training methods is hormone manipulation and its a very powerful feeling to the submissive male as he is at his most (chemically forced) aroused state, with intense desire and pressure to cum with a deep pain from blue balls, yet helpless to do anything about it. SO you must be very dominant, aggressive, strict, ruthless, and punish severely to keep him in check by female power and authority. This will help prevent any rebelling, temper tantrums, or unruly behavior. Also and because of this, REMEMBER it is necessarthat you always tie his legs down 1- at the ankles, 2 - at the knees (hips if possible), 3- and spread wide open to take the edging. This will prevent him from accidently kneeing you or kicking you as his legs start moving around from the intense desperation and need to cum. This may not happen in the first week or so of edging but, TRUST ME IF YOUR DOING IT CORECTLY IT WILL HAPPEN, so tie him down firmly and securely every time.  Remember as a Mistress and/or Dominatrix it is your job and your responsibility to be very dominant and strict, to be degrading, cruel and extremely sadistic towards your sissy bitch! You get out what you put in....  

Saturday, July 17, 2021

Rules Punishments (updated version)

                                                                   RULES AND PUNISHING
                                                                    (Updated version 7-17-21)

Before I discuss rules and punishments let me start by saying that your bitch, sissy or otherwise is an adult male. Meaning, he is highly capable of hearing, understanding, and obeying you and your rules with no excuses, PERIOD! He must obey every command at all times, DO NOT make excuses for him or give second chances. He is to follow your orders, rules and chores exactly as you commanded or trained him to do without hesitation, falling short or getting it close enough. Also do not make excuses for yourself, a Mistress holds all the power and needs no excuse of why something is or is not going to be. However, it is critical that you enforce every rule at all times and give punishments for disobedience as soon as possible. It is imperative that you always follow through with all punishments earned and that you do it ASAP,  definitely no more than a few hours of the infraction. I realize that this may be difficult sometimes, but you must find a way to make it happen because failure to give punishments weakens your authority and will erode your power and control over him. If he doesn't do his chores, doesn't obey, is disrespectful, or doesn't follow your rules YOU must verbally and physically show that your angry, and pissed off, (which you most certainly should be) otherwise he will continue to be unruly, disrespectful and disobedient. This means you will fail in training because failure to punish for any and all infractions, is teaching him that he can get away with it and do as he pleases. 

With that said, being an adult male also means he can handle the well deserved, severe punishment for his disobedience, so give him what he deserves! The bitch is highly capable of taking a long, hard, ass beating every time he is disobedient.  He deserve a beating every single time he back talks, is disrespectful, disobedient, doesn't follow rules, does his chores incorrectly, doesn't take his place, or questions you. He needs YOU to put him in his place in order to accept it and become the bitch you deserve. He needs you to be as mean and cruel to him as any other Dom would be. You need not worry about hurting him, that is the point of the punishment, to train him to obey and accept his place as your bitch and domestic servant. The point of a punishment is to deter future infractions, to make him fear you and respect your authority and rules. The only thing you need worry about is, are you being dominant and aggressive enough with your discipline, training, and punishments. Are you being mean and cruel enough to make him cower at the sound of your stern voice. Are you being the Mistress he needs you to be? The only thing you will break on him is what needs broken, his stubbornness and unruly behavior, not to mention emasculating him, breaking the moncho male attitude and selfishness Bullshit!!! Do what is required and punish him severely, because only you can correct bad behavior. You control the environment, the atmosphere, and situation, so only you control your success or failure of training. 

**NOTE** Training should start directly after your 2 to 3 week conditioning (locking on his chastity and building his arousal levels by edging him daily). Start day one training by reading him the rules. You will only read these rules to him once the first week to start the official training, that day is considered day one of training. During the reading of the rules you will spank with a cane, 10 to 20 times for each rule as you read it to him. After you have read all the rules, you will continue to cane him while you make him repeat the rules (making it a quiz type for him) to you. You will also give him his chores at this time and humiliate him the entire time as well. Cane him until he is pleading and promises to obey and be your bitch, (say it to him and make him repeat this several times) sincerely begs you to stop. You will stop only when you feel he is sincere enough. 
**You will repeat this step the first day of the second week of training; Read them once more and tell him this is the last time he will be told the rules, and instruct that he better listen carefully and learn them quickly or be severely punished for every infraction. You need to make sure you follow through with punishments as described below. Other than this you will only read the rules as you punish him for breaking that particular rule. This is the best way to focus his attention on following your rules, obeying you, and build his natural instinct to be submissive to you. 
  
Rules and chores are given for obvious reasons, as it is his place to clean, obey and cater to you. Each Mistress sets her own rules and chores depending on how she governs her bitch (EXP. Bitches must crawl on all four's to and away from the Mistress, or Sissy's must wear panties 24/7 etc.). Below is a standard and minimal list of rules, you are free to add more if you so choose, however I would at least adhere to these STANDARD rules. It is extremely imperative that you have these rules and enforce them with severe punishments. You must not, you can not, and I repeat, CAN NOT fail to enforce your rules and chores. His sole purpose is to serve, obey, and hand over his pay. Failure to enforce rules and punish will have catastrophic effects in training and submission, you will also have your submissive questioning your authority and doubting your ability to rule over him. Do you want a bitch that is disrespectful, or questions you in public, around friends or family when your not able to punish immediately? Do you want a bitch that makes you look weak or embarrasses you around other people? Definitely NOT!!! Your bitch must be in the proper atmosphere, have a submissive routine, be of servitude (submissive obedient, and serving), and disciplined. He must never have free will, free time, have an opinion, act as an equal, speak as an equal, or do as he pleases, and especially not follow your rules or chores. You must be very dominant, aggressive, and ruthless, and if he violates rules or fails to serve and obey, he must be punished severely!!! ALWAYS!!!! AGAIN, failure to do so will cause complication in training, obedience, and submission. He will not respect your authority. Your success depends on your ability to be dominant, controlling, cruel, and punish for disobedience!

1. Always address ME as mistress or your approved name.
2. Always ask for permission to do anything, and everything, including eating & using the restroom.
3. Always kneel at all times, but especially to ask for permissions or beg. *must be naked if possible.
4. Keep body hair and/or pubic hair completely shaved (to your specifications).
5. Always show submission at all times, even in front of other people. *must find a way to show it.
6. Never back talk, argue, disobey, or demand me. 
7. Never speak without permission or question the mistress. * It is not your concern or your business.
8. Never ask for pussy or anything about it. * ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS *Severe punishment*
9. Never question ME, including who I fuck, where I go, or what I do. * Its none of your business.
10. Obey all orders on command without hesitation, and never leave me waiting. *Including the phone.
11. Get daily chores done, and ask how you may serve me further. *Your place is serving and obeying
12. Respect and serve ME to the best of your ability. *Including MY lovers/boyfriends or friends.
13. Never touch ME improperly or my property. *This includes phone, computer, purse and my clitty.
14. Always refer yourself as MY bitch or sissy. *Including Clitty for penis, and asshole as pussy.
15. I'm your mistress, your superior, I will be treated as such and worshiped in that manner from here out. I will be thanked for the privilege of serving me, and groveled/worshiped- kissing and licking my feet and ass to show your appreciation and submission as my bitch (or sissy bitch), multiple times a day.

                                                                 PUNISHMENTS
A punishment spanking is very serious and meant to deter future disobedience, so make sure you inflict the proper amount of pain for a long time. During the spanking, your focus should be on correcting his disobedience, as in the humiliation, scalding, and the punishment/s given. Do not touch his clitty in anyway during the punishment (unless this is reminder spanking) you don't want him aroused during this phase, you want him focused on the pain and the rule/s he violated. You should be angry and extremely pissed off for disobedience, back talking, or rule breaking. You should feel insulted and disrespected for his acts of defiance or back talk and you should want to teach him a lesson and remind him of his place. A proper punishment should be felt for days after. When you are finished you should see many raised welts, red and/or deep blue bruising on his entire ass area that last at least 4-5 days. Be proud of your work, this is your chance to correct his behavior and produce art on his ass so have fun. It is also a great stress reliever! You should hear him yelping, screaming, pleading, and begging you to stop....But crying is the goal. If he is not pleading and begging you to stop, then your not hitting him correctly or hard enough, or long enough. He should fear you and you will see and hear a complete difference in submission from him after his punishment/s and for days after. If you are like most Dom's you may even be turned on by the power you feel from breaking him and forcing his submission to you. You may feel the urge to use your vibe or even go get fucked by your lover/Bull. 

You can not show weakness or mercy, and you can't be afraid to hurt him or cause marks and bruising, that is the point of the punishment. Remember this is to stop him from future back talking, rule breaking, and disobedience. You must let out your dominance and aggression, and show him your anger and dissatisfaction for disobedience. Keep in mind this is your bitch and you want him sincerely begging you to stop. Before you do you will have him sincerely begging and pleading you to stop (as you keep hitting his ass), but also to be your bitch and admit that this is the way it's meant to be, make him apologize for his infraction. Make him admit that he deserves to be punished and that he knows better, again make him apologize. Reinforce it through out the spanking by saying things like," Your my fucking pathetic bitch, your only purpose is to serve and obey and you will do what I fucking say", "you will fucking obey me".  Let out your sadistic side and anger, say whatever your feeling or whatever else comes to your mind. The point is you want to scold and humiliate him during the punishment to physiologically change his submission to you. **NOTE** You must also give reminder or reinforcement punishments at least 3 times a month. This is done to reinforce his place and following your rules continuously on his mind. This type of punishment is done every 8 to 10 days or more if you so chose, with 100 to 150 hits during this reminder caning. 

**NOTE Give firm hard hits that you can hear, and see each time the cane hits. Spread the hits out evenly across his ass, don't focus on one spot. You will first see redness that will then turn to welts as you continue to hit. The welts will eventually turn into deep red and blue marks and this is what you want to see (this is also the point he's begging properly). You don't really want major damage that breaks the skin causing bleeding, however if it happens don't worry just control the hits on a different part of the ass but do not lighten up. The correct spanking should be long, firm, and steady with bruising as described taking at least 45 min. to an hour or more if wanted. 

GINGER PUNISHMENT
Prepare several fingers (3 or 4) of ginger by cutting/peeling off just the skin and no more on each one. then place them in a small bowl of cold water and bring this to the punishment bench. Then you must tie him down tight so he can't get free or move around or tie him down first then go prepare the ginger! Use his balls pulled back and tied off to something to keep him from moving forward during the hits (just like doing normal punishments). After he is secured, then force the ginger one at a time into his ass to really stretch it to absorb the ginger juice but do not use lube as lube lessens the burning sensation (read the ginger punishment section in my blog for the how to use). Wait between 5-10 minutes to let the juice build the burning sensation. *Note Tying him tight and secured with his balls stretched, forces him to focus on his punishment, take full impact of the device, and keeps him from jerking around. Jerking around or flinching lessens the impacts, and/or causes other problems like breaking canes or hitting him in the wrong place. It also breaks your concentration (for number of hits or scolding/humiliation etc.) and interrupts your momentum. By now he should be verbally making noise because of the burning sensation, its time to start the punishments. Punishments are more effective in series of 10 or 20. after the initial break in hits, IT IS BEST TO USE VARIOUS TYPES OF DEVICES TO PUNISH; canes of various types and thickness, whips, bull whip, cot-o-nine tail, flogger, crops, leather belts or straps, paddles. Also Ginger is fun to do without punishments and to really get his attention during training. 

                                                                    TO BEGIN                                                                           

1st, Tie him down (bent over or ass in the air) very tight and secure, using whatever means so that its impossible to move or get free. You DO NOT want him able to move at all!!! Then tell him in a very aggressive speaking voice, "You have been a disobedient bitch, and this will not be tolerated, you will be punished severely for it. Then tell him what he is being punished for, and again that it will not be tolerated, that you will not accept anything but complete obedience and submission.

2nd, Place a ball gag into his mouth to keep his screams muffled, you don't care to hear him yet. At this point you may also put other devices on like nipple clamps, CBT toys, electrical, suction clamps ETC.

3rd,  THE BREAK IN,  Use a thin cane for the break in to redden his ass. This prepares the skin for punishment and puts the sub in the proper state of mind, FEAR! Hit his ass 25 times fast, in a row, with firm hits. By the end he should be yelling Ouch or something verbally to let you know it hurts, if not then hit 25 more times harder *Now take a 2 minute break to scold him about the rule he broke and reinforce disobedience will not be tolerated. Remind that his place is serving and obeying you.

4th,  After the scolding you will swat him firm and hard in a slow but steady series of 20 hits taking about a 1 second break in between each hit (count like this 1 thousand 1 then hit and repeat). keep track in your mind. Then repeat this with 10 hits this time, and remember to keep track in your mind. Scold him as you hit the next 10 hits.

5th,  Now take about 3 minutes (but no more) to scold and humiliate him so that he can focus on the scolding, then back to hitting. This time hit in series of 10 then 20 then 10 and so on, mixing each series of fast hits, then back to a slow series of steady hits with the 1 second break as stated above. ** Again keep track as these hits will continue for a minimal of 100 times or more if you think he needs them. By now he should really be screaming into the ball gag and trying to move around (usually kicking feet). However If not, **THEN HIT HARDER** and continue with another 100 hits or don't stop until he is screaming and frantically trying to move. **Note, you may now change to a thicker cane during the next phase.

6th, Now he is definitely yelling and trying to plead you to stop through his ball gag. However, the goal is you want to break him, and you need to break him, so you want to keep going till you see tears combined with major pleading through the ball gag. So continue to scold him and keep hit in sets of 10 or 20 until you reach 100 more hits bringing the total to at least 230 or more. * Now you can change to a belt, cat-o-nine tails, leather strap, or whatever you like, swapping each out periodically for best results or just keep the cane.

7th, Now you remove the ball gag so that he may give you a proper pleading and begging. You will tell him, "I will allow you to apologize for your disobedience so make it good!" Hit him with another 20 quick hits with the cane or whip, etc. (He should naturally start begging and apologizing) then 10 slow steady hits with the 1 second break. At this point he should of had a minimal of 260 hits From here the break in is over and you will start the actual punishments (below) while you humiliate him about his place and clitty and scold him for his disobedience. This is you time to show your anger and disapproval for his actions so let your inner cruel bitch out! Follow the number of punishment hits as its explained below. **Note, you may add more hits if you choose but no less. When using impact devices such as paddles and thick canes, slow down the speed and let the device do the work. you don't want his butt numb, you want him to feel every hit. It is the length of the punishment (how much time and the number of hits) that will break him, cause more pain, and force a true and sincere submission, not to mention the fear of your authority. It is far easier for him to take 5,10, or 20 very hard hits than it is to take 200, 300, or 400 hard/firm hits over an hour or so.   

Failure to do a chore; (each chore) 50 swats
Failure to ask permissions or address as mistress; (per event) 50 swats
Failure to keep pubic hair shaved, touch phone or other property; (per event) 50 swats
Failure to address himself as your bitch, speak without permission, show respect (per event) 100 swats
Below is a major infractions, and you will keep adding swats to the last number, EXAMPLE; Monday he back talks, he gets 100 swats, Thursday he back talks, he gets 150, Saturday he back talks, he gets 200. This prevents repeating further infractions, eventually he will obey all rules. *explain this to him.
Failure to obey an order; (per event) 100 swats, add 50 each other time
Back Talking or Questioning you; 100 swats per event add 50 each other time
Asking for, about, or anything that has to do with pussy; 200 swats, 100 each other time.
Touching Clitty and/or removing the chastity; 1st event 250 swats, add 250 each other time

Remember, you must do the break in period every time punishments are required, so thats a minimal of 260 hits (or more) before you proceed to punishment hits. Punishments ARE REQUIRED for EVERY RULE BREAKING or failure to obey. This with chastity will eventually create a very obedient and respectful submissive bitch, willing to obey and follow every command. But more importantly it will stop any disobedience and unruly behavior especially jealousy after you take a full time boyfriend. This will help prevent or stop any jealousy issues, outburst, temper tantrums, or anger issues. It is VERY important, do not stop punishments until he is screaming and begging you properly with desperation to stop YOU want him crying, if he is not then hit harder!   

SWATS/HITS are spanking his ass with you choice of device or any mixture of devices. Be it paddle, crop, cat-o-nine tails, bullwhip, leather strapping, flogger, whip, canes, belt, hand etc. but you must start and finish with a cane. These punishments should be and need to be given immediately at the time of the offense, and should be followed up by 10 min of corner or cage time for 1 hour. If not possible to do punishments immediately, do corner time for 10 min BUT DO NOT FORGET swats later that SAME day. Corner time can and should be done in public, this will also add humiliation to the punishment until you get him home for a proper punishment. You ask, What if we are on vacation, out in public, or around family? Well first if you are being the dominant cruel mistress your supposed to be there should be no problems. However if the need arises, take him away from people and put him into a corner or time out, and do punishments ASAP. Punishments should also include a mixture or all of these; loss of privileges, loss of dick, loss of allowance, loss of watching or hearing your sex, doing extra or longer versions of chores (example hand wash dishes, wipe floors on knees with rags, scrub toilets with toothbrush, etc. Also electric devices and toys, ball stretching ball smashing, ball rope confinement, ball slapping or cropping, ball creams/sprays that sting/burn, candle wax on balls and ass, urethra toys, nipple clamps, bondage positions, spitting in face, slapping face etc. You can and should add swats at your desecration for any violation or for whatever reason to give them, but DO NOT GIVE LESS THAN POSTED ABOVE and remember to scold and humiliate him while punishing him. **NOTE* * USING GINGER IS A VERY EFFECTIVE TOOL COMBINED WITH PUNISHMENTS.

Pay attention to his sounds and reactions to the hits, if he is not making sound or flinching at all then your not hitting hard enough, hit harder. Obviously you don't want to hit with all you have (that would cause lasting damage) but make sure you notice a change in sound or movement (flinching) as you hit him. He may not make a sound during the first few hits until the skin gets tender, but if your hitting correctly he soon will. The best way to tell if your hitting him long enough or hard enough is the markings on his ass and the sounds he makes. His ass should be swelled and welted up, but what you want to see is deep red or blue marks, impact marks from the devices you use as they are long lasting as is the soreness they bring with them. You should also hear him begging you to stop and promising to obey you. The best devices to use are canes and whips for both pain and marks, paddles are used just to change it up. His sounds will go from mild verbal yelps, to louder yelps, to screams, and then to crying and begging you to stop (make sure he tells you he is sorry and will obey from now on). If you still question yourself as to how hard to hit, then find some video's to watch on the net. 






Tuesday, June 1, 2021

Forced Chastity

                        Forced Chastity & Permanent Chastity  


This is a big topic in all lifestyles of BSDM but especially Femdom, in fact its a growing topic outside the lifestyle for vanilla women as well. For vanilla women it could be a kinky tool for sex games and to spice things up or a way to prevent unwanted sex from her small dick husband. Yes, believe it or not, alot vanilla women get on the forums stating so along with other reason to want a chastity and asking what is the best or most secure device. For Dom's however, it's much, much more, it's a tool to take control, prevent masturbation, and bring submission from her bitch. However its used, It is a powerful tool and statement for the women who yield it. Ironically, the chastity is also part of why many women seek out BDSM and eventually switch to a femdom relationship. Facts; Just over a million are sold each year which has been growing steadily since 2000. The majority sold at 83% is the small and micro cages, distantly followed by the regular at 16.%, and the large coming in last at 1%. Multiple Studies show women prefer girth over length but are saying they need at least the average length penis for satisfaction, which is roughly 6 1/2 inches in length. Studies also show women think the perfect penis size is 8 to 9 inches in length with 2 to 2 1/2 inches in girth. This is also substantiated/ proven by the sales of dildo's, with the vast majority be sold, matching this size. In these studies only 3 % picked a penis between 5 1/2 to 6 inches, no women in any study picked a penis size less than 5 1/2 inches. The numbers don't lie, no woman wants a small dick and most prefer bigger than average even though they state they would settle for for less with the right guy. Most all women who learn of this device get turned on by what it represents, and next to the cane, it is the most used tool no matter what side of the lifestyle your into. It is known as the dick slayer, bitch maker of even the toughest of men, and has a unique effect on the domesticated pussy whipped male....extreme submission when used correctly. However *USER BE WARNED* Studies indicate that prolonged wearing of a chastity device will result in shrinking of the penis and erection difficulty. Also long term or permanent chastity (many months or years) wearing can cause a loss of ability to fully ejaculate and orgasm, ranging from a weak ejaculation and orgasm to none at all depending on length of time in the chastity.  

This happens for 2 main reasons associated with confining his clitty. First, the erection and shrinkage issue is because the penis isn't able to get hard during normal and day to day arousal, which is 12-15 times a day on average. This results in the weakening, partial or sometimes full closure of the corpora cavernosa (the elastic spongy chambers that fill for erection), which effects the size and hardness for erection thus not being able to get very hard or stay hard. Second, the loss of ejaculation and orgasm is effected by 2 contributing factors. First, because the penis is confined in the chastity 24/7/365 and not used from denial of sex and loss of orgasms, the muscles responsible for ejaculation (the pelvic striated muscles, the bulbocavernosus muscle, and the ischiocavernosus muscles) loose their ability to stiffen and perform rhythmic contractions necessary for orgasm leading to ejaculation. Plus bypassing these same muscles through "Milking Your Male"  adds in the weakening of those muscles. Males do not have an orgasm for the pleasure of it like females do, the only reason males have an orgasm is to ejaculate, take the ejaculation part out and they can not orgasm or at least not suppose to. The orgasm causes muscle contractions that force the sperm out. So the rule of male orgasm is "no expulsion of sperm, no trigger to orgasm". Like all muscles (the popular term "use it or lose it") when not used will eventually lose the proper functionality. Second and lastly, the penis undergoes nightly erections (also known as a piss hard-on, night woody, or the morning glory) to keep the muscles and valves working properly. However the chastity restricts and enforces a flaccid penis further enforcing penis shrinkage, and loss of ability to orgasm. Depending on the length of time in the chastity and enforcement of conditions, the effects range from moderate to severe. However, evidence shows these issues have no effect on health (must milk regularly), submission, or arousal level, only the ability to achieve a full or proper erection and sexual satisfaction. For most Dom's this effect is more of a bonus as this promotes his impotence and submission, which more-less guarantees her control and sexual freedom. Not to mention using it as humiliation and a bit of payback for little to no sexual satisfaction they endured for years prior to Femdom. Needless to say, this is not a concern for most Dom's as they do not enjoyed the clitty anyway. Nevertheless use at your own risk or reward depending on how you look at it. Think of it sorta like sitting on your leg or ass for so long that your muscles lock up or fall asleep. Then you try to move but find its impossible, eventually after movement it goes back to normal. Except, the clitty doesn't actually lock up or fall asleep, it just stops working properly. As I said it only effects his sexual satisfaction, or better said his loss of sexual satisfaction HA HA HA!  

MASTURBATION
This device by its very nature is CONTROL and adds to your power and dominance over him. The truth no matter what your told or believe, ALL males masturbate, especially when denied pussy, and studies show the average male does it 2-3 times a week and believe me, a sexually denied bitch left unchecked and uncaged will do it when you least expect it. FACT, if you remove the cage and he is unsupervised, he will eventually masturbate no matter what he tells you, that means never leave it off unless you have the ability to keep tabs on him. Also, more than likely if he told you he didn't, then he is probably lying.** NOTE** If you want the truth if he has masturbated or if you want to know anything else out of him, use "THE COPULINS" technique to get it. Remember using copulins is also part of how you reprogram him to do and behave as you want....The simplest way is get him extremely horny through edging and then put your pussy in his face bare/naked (use a blindfold if you need to). Spread your lips open and use your fingers or a toy to get the copulins flowing so he can absorb as much through smell as possible. You can increase there effect by keeping his arousal level high by licking his clitty, playing with his balls or even prostate play. Then wait until you can tell he is under the influence of your copulins (usually about 6-8 min). How you can tell if he is under the influence of your copulins, he will be real quiet at first then mumble something like; he feels weak, submissive, feels funny, or your pussy makes him lose control, something along those lines. He may also start to repeat what you say, and even agree to anything you say even if it's something you know he wouldn't want, and finally he will be very submissive. The copulins will make him feel weak, unable to resist commands, sorta high and hazy so as they start effecting him and he tells you he feels week or funny don't worry it's natural. The effect usually last up to an hour or so, depending on how long you use the copulins and how long he has been denied sex and orgasm. Then, simply ask him what you want to know, or start the reprogramming you want him to follow. Copulins work sorta like going under at the dentist office so the best part is he wont even remember you asking him or anything you say/do to reprogram him as its all absorbed subconsciously. To him, he will just mysteriously (but actually subconsciously) start accepting or feeling at ease with things you want (even if he didn't want them) or put into his mind. Whatever you want, want him to feel, how to behave, or want him to accept, just speak it to him in a firm demanding voice and make him repeat it, do this over a few days time and he will mold to your input. *Note* His remembering is relative to how deep he is under your spell, so if you want him to be brainwashed quickly and it buried deep in his subconscious with absolutely no memory of any of it, make sure you spread your lips open, hold them open and finger your pussy to allow greater copulin absorption. Also remember to have your pussy 3 to 5 inches away from his face for at least 10 minutes. Then he is like clay, ready to be molded to your desires. Read the copulin training section of my blog for more a in-depth training and other stronger copulin training techniques. 

Masturbation is bad on many levels but especially for submission, as you want his arousal level high to keep him submissive, eager to obey, and a willing cuckold. The chastity's main purpose is to keep the chaste male from masturbating, from having sex, or even touching his clitty, but it also trains his penis not to get hard. Studies show what would normally arouse men to get hard like, porn, seeing a woman naked (strip club), rubbing his penis through his pants or even another women touching his penis has no effect on a chastity wearing submissive male. As I said, chastity's train the sub's penis not to get hard, but there is also a psychological effect as well, especially with a sissy bitch submissive. Through proper training with constant humiliation, emasculation, dominance, control and discipline, the male takes his natural place as a submissive bitch/sissy and servant to his mistress with no need for an erect penis as sex of any kind is not his purpose and strictly prohibited. His body will naturally recognize this and respond physically and chemically to your training of him and his true purpose. Don't believe me or need proof? Put in a porno and see if he gets hard, or if thats not enough for whatever reason or you want concrete proof....Take your bitch to a strip club, take off the chastity in the car, take him in and watch how aroused he becomes then check his clitty through his pants....Not hard, not even a little chubby, nothing but a soft tiny clitty, need more proof, get him a lap dance and check again. No real man would remain soft especially after a lap dance. This will also affect his ability to get hard or maintain an erection for sex with another woman, especially a trained sissy bitch.  How's that? A sissy has been humiliated, trained, conditioned, and reprogrammed to be turned on or aroused by other means. The number one, and one of the most effective in forcing his submission is cuckolding. YES, cuckolding him will not only humiliate him and make him submissive, it will turn him on and eventually next to a big thick cock be what turns him on more than anything. This is why your sex becomes his sex and why its so important to include him in some manner. Eventually this will be the only thing that turns him on along with other fetishes you have subjected him to like bondage, feet and ass worship, servitude to his mistress, but especially cock sucking and pegging as a sissy's purpose must include pleasuring cock. For this reason normal sex and vanilla women will do nothing to arouse him let alone get his clitty hard (I found that out during our short time as swingers which lead me to researching about it). When you are dominant and aggressive, control his ability to get hard and deny orgasm, you have ultimate control and power over his mind and his body. Your Mind is your power, your pussy is the tool to take control, use them!  

BLUE BALLS
Men have a biological driven need to ejaculate, they have no control over it, its strictly controlled by their hormones like testosterone and even your copulins. The higher the level of hormones which relates to arousal level (how horny they are) the more intense the need to cum. However, it takes time to build, about 2-5 days (depends on age) before the need to cum overwhelms them and they must get release. That time and the intensity of the need to cum can be shortened and compounded by arousal factors, like viewing sexual content, (strip clubs, porn video and magazines) seeing his wife or girlfriend naked, or something that turns them on like a fetish. Which is all controlled by you his mistress, just as you control his ability to orgasm or not. As it goes, if sex is not available or denied, men instinctively turn to masturbation. If males can not masturbate they get what's called "Blue Balls" which is a slight pain in their testicles with an intense need to cum. If enough time passes without an orgasm, the pain increases as does the intensity for the need to cum. At first the pain feels like the after effects of a light flick to the testicles, but if unresolved can increase to the after feeling of getting a firm smack to the balls. It is described as a dull aching pain, but don't worry its nothing they can't handle when forced to. There is only one thing that can alleviate blue balls and its effects entirely, and that is an orgasm. Unfortunately for him, that is not an option, EVER! Milking can reduce the intensity, but it doesn't fully cure the need for relief, only the hormone prolactin which is release directly after orgasm, alleviates it. When forced to wear a chastity, blue balls helps force their submission as they are unable to do anything to relieve it. This is one of the reasons why it is very important for the mistress to be so dominant, strict, demanding and especially cruel. As this builds it becomes very difficult for the male, not in a harmful way but more of a nuisance and aggravation and he can do nothing to stop it. Plus as the Testosterone builds it chemically forces anger and him to become disobedient and mouthy. This aggressive, strict, and cruel  demeanor towards him helps keep the male docile, so he can properly submit to your control and relinquish any thoughts or feelings he will ever be allowed the pleasure of pussy. This demeanor with punishments also keeps the submissive male in check with attitude, back talk and disobedience. This in turn makes him submit and accept his natural place of servitude which doesn't actually ease the effects of blue balls but more less forces his attention on serving and obeying his mistress. This can feel as though the effects of blue balls are less, thus making him feel like serving and obeying is a reward and proof that this along with denying him pussy, is natural. Not to mention that he really has no choice and there is nothing he can do but accept it and submit and that is they way you want to train him and make him believe. So it is vital that you not only treat him as your servant and bitch but be very mean, cruel and aggressive with it and punish as well.  A Vanilla wife and Mistress Bitch do not mix together, you can not be both you must pick one or the other and follow that path!!!!  

PEGGING and SISIFICATION
This brings up another aspect of chastity and humiliation; Pegging and wearing panties. Pegging and panties go hand in hand with forced chastity, but especially with permanent chastity as most Doms who do permanent chastity, also do sissy training and forced sissification. Sissification or sissifying is the transformation and reprogramming of the male mind and body (using hormones like copulins and estrogen, with emasculate training) to be feminine, but more importantly to the mistress, to desire/crave and serve cock. This allows Dom's to force the sissy's focus and desires from her pussy to her cock (or any cock), which reinforces her complete denial of pussy and this further forces sissy modification. Permanent chastity wearing causes the start of his natural sissy modification on its own because you are taking away his manhood (use of his cock and pleasure) plus prolonged wearing of a chastity causes an increase in sensitivity/nerve endings around the anus opening, canal and prostate making it very pleasurable for the male. Eventually it completely takes pussy out of the equation further enforcing permanent chastity so that the Dom can focus her energy and sexual satisfaction on a real cock, AKA her boyfriend. It also helps, (key word being helps) with jealousy once a mistress has found a full time boyfriend as her sissy would be submissive to getting cock (a pleasure she is allowed) as a reward for her obedience, to the point she would beg to be cuckolded. So Dom's use the addiction for cock to make the sissy beg her to fuck her boyfriend in hopes the sissy might be rewarded the privilege of the mistress's cock (or any cock) when she returns. It also teaches the bitch to serve and obey the mistress totally as her sissy bitch, wearing french maid outfits (from Amazon) and all. Once fully trained as a sissy, a sissy bitch is the most obedient and dedicated of all submissive's, especially to that Mistress as it is her hormones and pheromones that does the chemical changing part, and after all, she controls the sissy's pleasure. Most Doms pick this type of training for 3 reasons; first, she wants total control over everything without input and totally complete submission from her bitch. Second, she is aroused or extremely turned on by forcing and watching her sissy suck and take cock even forcing the serving of her boyfriend or Bull. Third and most important, she desires to have a permanent or full time boyfriend and she has that bonus effect of never having to deal with the tiny clitty after a night of great sex with her boyfriend or bull. A sissy will eventually, with the proper training and hormone replacement (copulins training) literally beg the mistress to fuck and date (even on a serious level) just to be allowed the privilege of her cock. This is actually a natural effect of sissy training, loss of penile orgasms, and forced chastity but also something known as the "alpha effect". The alpha effect is several things in depth but basically it's when your sub/bitch becomes docile and submissive to your boyfriend or bull and not just to the act of cuckolding (the alpha effect is a must read and can be found here in my blog). An intelligent Mistress will also involve another male (straight, bi, or totally gay) for her sissy to submit to and get fucked or used by to increase his submission and need for cock. This particular male is known as a Cock Master or bull and his job is to help force cock submission, switch the focus from pussy to cock, and complete the sissy transformation. His looks, education level, career, or height doesn't matter, only his willingness to use your sissy but cock size should be considered.  

A sissy bitch will be male only by her gender, but she is no longer a man and should never be treated as a man or male for that matter. You must teach her and she must know and understand her place, there can be no confusion and uncertainty, her place must be explicit and valid. She should be addressed as sissy, bitch, cum slut, or my favorite "cock slut". She is a sissy, trained for the sole and only purpose of serving, obeying and amusing her mistress (Master, Bull or BF) what other purpose could she have? She must give all income, funds, and assets to her mistress and forced to accept her natural place. She is forever completely denied penile sex, heavily restricted or in some cases completely denied access to pussy (except for clean up duty which is mandatory) with the sole sexual purpose of pleasing and serving cock as the mistress allows and directs. She has no free time, no TV, no video games, no sports, no night out with the boy's, nothing, only kneeling and serving her mistress for life. She is not permitted input of any kind (excluding kids/family) including the house, finances, decisions, and especially the mistress's affairs and sex. If she is not doing chores or serving her mistress in anyway, she is always on her knees in front of her mistress. Again, she should always be addressed and treated as such, never anything else as there will be no confusion of her place, purpose, and what she is. This treatment includes dress attire like panties, french maid outfits for cleaning the house and sissy lingerie for humiliation and sex with you or her Cock Master (shoes, wigs, and all can be purchased on amazon, aliexpress, alibaba, DHgate). The treatment also includes feminine practices like shaving ALL body hair (Cock Masters prefer sissies with no hair), with hair and nails done (clear fingernail polish), and especially sexual practices including pegging, sucking real cock and your strap-on dildo, also very important is cleaning up all cum messes, even his own pre-cum and milking mess. All cum has valuable hormones (like testosterone and estrogen) in it that help chemically transform him and keep him submissive, especially cum that is not his (remember to read my Alpha effect section of my blog for more info on this). Not to mention the humiliation and submissive factors, so make sure he cleans every mess every time, again even when milking her clitty. Eventually with the proper training and after being denied pussy long enough, the sissy will find clean up duty a turn on as its one of the rare times she is that close with smell and taste of pussy, even with a load of your boyfriends cum inside it.  A sissy must also maintain a clean shaven clitty at all times, this is a shaved landing strip, a shaved triangle, or completely shaved/bald pussy, whatever you find more humiliating and emasculating. Sissy training is the ultimate in submission, dedication and servitude from a submissive in the femdom lifestyle and it requires a very aggressive, strict, and dominant, but especially cruel and sadistic mistress to fully complete the training and transformation. Trust me, being as mean, cruel, and degrading as you can be will not only make you feel powerful but also free your mind, and body, plus it will get you the sissy bitch you deserve. Your sissy will not be happier, completely respect and worship you while loving her life as your sissy bitch.     

Femdom and submissive training usually involves some pegging, which is an allowed form of pleasure for the submissive male, but with sissy training, pegging is a forced daily practice. It is forced every day at least once a day or more. At first, the sissy in training is extremely humiliated, resist, fights it and pleads not to be taken (lose his virginity) especially by a much bigger cock then his. He is  uncomfortable and extremely humiliated by the practice of being forcefully penetrated. The loss of normal sex and orgasms wears on him, and the chastity adds to the frustration both with preventing masturbation and the ability to even get hard. Eventually the prolonged wearing of the chastity and loss of penile pleasure and orgasm causes an increases in sensitivity and pleasure around his anus and prostate. Just rubbing around the outside of his hole gives him heighten pleasure. He is losing part of his masculinity everytime he is fucked, Every time he is bent over he gets more submissive to it and with every deep thrust of your cock, he is emasculated and becomes more and more accepting of it and the undeniable pleasure it offers. Eventually the moaning starts, as he loses his will and the last bit of masculinity. He can't resist, he is to weak and submissive, he has given into the persuasion of pleasure. After days and weeks of force penetration, he has finally succumb to your cock, he can't help it or resist it as it is now his only source of pleasure and it is a pleasure that far exceeds what his tiny clitty gave him. Soon he is excited to have it, and even turned on and aroused by the sight of it. He eventually becomes addicted to its pleasure, he needs it, and will beg to have it. He will even beg you to cuckold him and fuck your boyfriend in hopes that you will grant him the privilege of your cock. He is what they call cock whipped, and ready to be trained to be your sissy bitch, dedicated to serving and obey you, HIS MISTRESS!

Pegging is used with verbal, chemical (copulins, semen ,etc.) and physical reprogramming of his mind to switch his desires and need from pussy to wanting, desiring and craving cock. Which is an irresistible, uncontrollable and natural urge for a sissy as you permanently lock her clitty away and force her to accept pleasure the way she was meant to have it. Your sissy was meant to be a cock slut, all the way from her tiny clitty to the way she enjoys that big cock stretching her pussy, but she needs to be trained and transformed to open up her natural desire for cock. Once you've forced her to let go of her masculine side and accept being your sissy, she will be grateful to you for the pleasure of your cock. As I said, she will beg you to date and fuck your boyfriend just for that special privilege of your cock (or real cock). However, it must be understood that she is still male in gender making it impossible to remove or abolish her biological craving or need of pussy. But don't be disappointed because you don't want that anyways, you still want her pussy whipped, weak, and surrendering to the mere sight and smell of pussy, which is why cuckolding is so powerful. Remember pussy is the tool or source of your power, limited only by your mind and ability to use it to get what you want and deserve from all men, not just your sissy. You are merely redirecting and refocusing his biological craving and need for pussy to a more natural pleasure for her place and purpose. You are granting her a pleasure she could never achieve through her pathetic clit dick. There is more on sissy training in the sissy section of my blog. If you are training your submissive to be a sissy, you must force her to wear sissy panties 24/7/365 for humiliation as this promotes submission and helps emasculates her. Sissy panties have a specially made pocket or open area for her chastity cage, and the best kind of sissy panties are the ones with the ass out (sorta like a jock strap or crotchless panties) so she can be made to wear them at all times possible. This will include during training, pegging, anal sex with a bull/boyfriend, anal play (prostate stimulation) and even some physical punishments (except spank/canings). You will need to purchase at least 7 or more of them for each day of the week and make her hand wash them same as she does your panties. As humiliation is the main point, they should be as girly as possible in style and color (with lace, pink, purple, etc.) and don't forget to add a few garters, stockings, and heels to your list for the added humiliation, emasculation, and times she must remove her panties (like spankings etc.)*NOTE* When you receive her panties, gather all of her normal underwear and lock them away in a chest so that she must/can only wear her panties, which further enforcing her submission.  

CLEANING
Chastity devices are usually worn 24/7/365 and are only removed for training, cleaning, or play time. This means they get very dirty from sweat and urine and must be washed daily for obvious reasons (smell, yeast, rashes, etc.) so you must make it a punishable rule for him to shower daily NO EXCUSSES! They also need a good scrubbing with antibacterial soap or alcohol (use a scrub brush) every 3-5 days to get the deep down dirt out and kill any bacteria and yeast. This can be done two ways; first is to unlock the chastity and remove it while the sub is in the shower, hand it to him ordering him to scrub it while you watch so that he doesn't play with his clitty as he washes it. While it is free you can inspect it for scrapes, cuts, bumps, etc. and address as needed. Use antifungal cream for yeast or fungus issues, and Neosporin or triple antibiotic cream for cuts, scrapes, and soars. Always Use petroleum jelly or baby oil to insert the clitty into the chastity. This time also allows him to properly shave his genitals to your liking. Once he is finished, simply lock it back on, even if you plan on training shortly after. The other and preferred method is during a training night when the chastity is removed, have a second chastity already cleaned ready to put on him after training, then he can clean the other chastity after training to reinstall on the next swap out. With this method, you will need to clean his clitty with a soapy rag or germ killing agent, and shave his pubic hair to your licking, so keep a razor handy. Again To reduce the chances of rash or yeast, NEVER use lube to install the chastity, always use a Vaseline, non-fragrance and hypoallergenic lotion, or baby oil as the lubricant to slide his clitty inside the chastity.       

CHASTITY DEVICES
There are 2 main types of chastity devices. The first is a chastity belt which is made of stainless steel so it won't rust, this is the most secure device and virtually escape proof. There are several different types and styles but usually they lock around his waist, around his testicles and/or through his legs to secure under his testicles and back to the rear of the belt. It is impossible to get his clitty out or get it off without the key. Because of this many Dom's prefer this type of device and definitely switch to this type of device when they start dating a boyfriend full time or when they initiate permanent chastity. The down sides to this device is that it can't be worn through metal detectors, it's not as concealable (not a big deal), it's sometimes uncomfortable, can't hide it under swim trunks, and harder to install on a regular basis. This is why this belt is used mostly for permanent chastity or extended nights away from your sissy. There is also a prince albert stainless steel device that doesn't use a belt as it locks through the piercing to secure it . The second device is called a cock cage and is made of different types of materials; stainless steel, polycarbonate, bio-resin, and plastic. This device locks his clitty inside a tube that also locks behind the base of his clitty and clamps his balls, keeping him from removing it. There are several types of these chastity's that are less secure than others potentially allowing him to pull out his clitty. Typically the smaller you sissy's clitty the easier it is, however chastities with a rear tongue, or anti-pull out makes it far more difficult. This is why the newer designs have a rear guard to prevent pull out. Cages with openings in the tube are also good as the skin (when dry) grasp the edges of each opening making it difficult to pull out. Longer tube type cages are also good (when dry) as there is more area for the skin to grasp preventing pull out. The earlier nub type devices known as the  V1 and V2 were horrible as there were no tongues or rear guards to prevent pull out, however the newer devices the V3 and newer V4 have since corrected this issue. Regardless to what type of device you use on him, never make it obvious or suggest that he could potentially pull out, Subs by nature are oblivious to this especially the well disciplined and punished bitches and tend to focus more on the humiliation and act of being confined then the ability to pull out. Besides a severely punished slave would be to afraid to risk pull out for fear you would find out (through copulins training). You should always keep a close eye on him anyway especially in the shower and check his device daily. These devices are more affordable and come in many styles and colors. Most all subs have a small or micro penis so you should purchase one that fits his size and the look your going for or your needs, but one that can be worn 24/7/365 without any real discomfort or problems. Some discomfort is acceptable and good for submission. These types of devices are also more hidden under clothing and go through metal detectors un-noticed. I practice permanent chastity and have a boyfriend so I personally use several stainless steel chastity belts for work and home, and several pink or purple (for sissy's) polycarbonate or bio-resin, for travel, events with friends, or play time (like pegging) with other males. *IMPORTANT * YOU also need to have several types and styles on hand to switch them out and change it up every 2-3 days for cleanliness, wear and tear on the device, and to prevent sores, scrapes, and cuts on the genitals as they all wear differently. I rotate them as they need cleaning and for different purposes like when i need the electro chastity for shock play or punishment. I buy mine from Amazon because they are usually shipped quickly and are priced reasonable, but Alibaba or Aliexpress has a bigger selection at the best price. There is always new designs and materials out so keep checking back for updated devices. YOU should be the one who purchases it as this is a sign of authority and he wears the chastity until you decide he takes it off! This is usually when your doing a training session, for a good cleaning of the device and his genitals, or some women even give free time as a reward. The length of time he wears it is always up to you but at the very least he should have it on anytime that he is out of your presence, like in travel, work, or at home alone. Almost all dominatrix prefer the 24/7 routine which means it only comes off for training, cleaning, play time etc.! Then permanent chastity is where it is rarely removed, but I'll get into that later. NOTE* ONLY YOU put it on and remove it, never allow him to touch it or the key. It is also a serious offense if he removes it for any reason and should always be dealt with harshly if he removes it, no matter the reason.

The longer he wears the device mixed with your proper control, denial of sex/orgasm, humiliation, and punishments, the more submissive he is. Because he is not able to relieve himself or the dull pain of blue balls he is forced to serve and obey you to earn the privilege of release, or other sexual activities like pegging. However, most all Dom's forbid any type of conventional sexual release or penis orgasm not only because he doesn't deserve to have pleasure this way but also due to its refractory time. Which is the release of prolactin in the male brain that causes loss of arousal level, ability to get hard and orgasm until the body has time to reproduce more sperm. Men can only cum once in a given period of time, usually once a day or longer depended on age (there are exceptions like pills) back to the rule of men's orgasm, no sperm to shoot, no reason to get hard or orgasm! Men are biologically programmed to get aroused from sight and smell and as I said before are driven to need to cum. So this is nature's way to prevent males from to much sex or meaningless sex. Remember men's only reason for orgasm is to cause muscle contraction to ejaculate sperm. So if there is no sperm to ejaculate, there is no reason for men to have an orgasm or to even get hard. This is why nature created the release of prolactin after sex for men, so they wouldn't over procreate. Which is another reason women are the superior sex as we were meant to have sex solely for the pleasure of it and we have the only organ made for pleasure and sex "the clit". Also more proof men were meant to only have one sex partner while women to have several. Women do produce prolactin but not after orgasms, it is for other functions in the body like the menstrual cycle. The refractory time also has his loss of his energy, loss of submission and the willingness to submit, serve and obey, which is very bad for Dom's. The refractory time is caused by a release of prolactin immediately after orgasm. Prolactin is a hormone released to reduce and dissipate the rise in dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and testosterone. These hormones in elevated or high levels (also mixed with female hormones like copulins) are what causes a males submission, the higher the levels the more submissive he is. So prolactin is bad for submission and energy and again why most Dom's don't allow sexual release or orgasm, not to mention he doesn't deserve to have an orgasm. It usually last for 1-5 days (depending on the male) until the hormones build back up. FYI, most of his hormones are produced by his testicles and some by other glands which are activated by the level of hormones in his testicles. Again the higher the level the more submissive he is. *NOTE Remember, you should be the one to purchase the chastity and also keep looking for newer styles and better designs of chastity devices.

PEGGING POWER
The second method used to give slight relief is "Pegging", which is a tool on its own for deepening his submission and creating a sissy slut, as I said before going hand in hand. Short periods of time pegging (15-20 min) will relieve blue balls for about an hour depending on how well you edged him the day prior. Long periods of pegging (30 min to an hour or longer) will cause an over flood of hormones oxytocin, dopamine, and testosterone in the brain. This flood of hormones will, for a short period of time (up to a few hours) transform your sub into a somewhat mindless, completely submissive bitch willing to do anything to be your sissy bitch (especially if copulins were used), just to keep getting the pleasure of your cock. This behavior and his commitment to the pleasure of your cock is retainable, and also trainable, meaning you will force him to want your cock and he will become dependent on your cock for his pleasure, thus earning the title and term "cock whipped". The more you fuck him the more he will become dependent on your cock for pleasure and the more cock whipped he becomes. Oxytocin is the hormone responsible for muscle contractions, specifically with pegging, anal muscles that contract around the prostate forcing pleasure waves which release dopamine resulting in what's called a sissygasm. Dopamine is the pleasure hormone released at peak sissygasm climax. Dopamine is very addictive thus the act of pegging becomes very addicting, again causing him to be dependent on your cock for pleasure and cock whipped. Loss of normal sex and orgasms mixed with prolonged pegging many weeks or months can transform your male into a sissy cock slut, especially with the proper training, humiliation, and punishments. The result is a very submissive, cock whipped sissy bitch programmed to serve your cock or whom ever's cock you choose. As long as occasional training, strict discipline, and severe punishments are maintained, he will beg to be there kneeling at your feet and be your sissy bitch for life. This is power and control and this will ensure you are free to date whoever you want as long as you want and he will sincerely beg you to do it.  Males do not experience high levels of dopamine release during normal sex, but with pegging the pleasure builds (just like when we have sex) releasing small amounts of dopamine until the sissygasm climax which releases 2 to 3 times his normal release. Again causing the addiction to pegging, more specifically your cock! Since the majority of Dom's completely deny their bitch pussy (mostly for cuckolding reasons) they use his cock whipped addiction as his reward for serving and obeying, which has to be worked into his training. They term it "serving my cock" and use it as a humiliation factor as well. For more info on pegging like technique and the how to, read the pegging section in my blog.

CHASTITY DESIGN
Each type of chastity devices are designed specifically, and for different purposes. Some allow teasing through spaced out bars, some apply mild but painful pressure on the balls, some cause pain as his clitty struggles to get hard, while others force his clitty to recess inside its own shaft making the clitty disappear. Size is an important factor as well, you want the proper fit for the size of his clitty so it doesn't fall off and its kept secure. Although escape proof is usually not to much of a worry as the submissive males are actually ignorant to its security or lack of. Chastity weak points you see like maybe easy to break, wiggle out of, or take off is not the same thing he see's or feels for that matter. He is simply to submissive and oblivious to how secure the device really is and is more focused on the effects of wearing it. However don't take any chance, you should still try to purchase one that fits correctly, is secure, and if starting permanent chastity or start dating a boyfriend, buy a stainless steel chastity belt for a true escape proof chastity. Chastity's also have another feature/purpose, all chastity's are designed to keep his testicles/balls away from his body. This has two effects, first it makes it very difficult for him to be able to orgasm while wearing it, and second it prevents the testicles/balls from warming up to body temperature. Testicles/balls only have 1 purposes, to produce sperm and hormones (testosterone) and there is a reason his balls hang in a sack away from his body instead of just being inside it. His ball sack has its own movement not controlled or changeable by the male. It literally has a mind of its own, who's job is to regulate the testicles/ball temperature. Normally they are constantly moving to 1. keep the balls out of harms way, and 2. keep hormones and sperm under control, and 3. to help aid in ejaculation. But when wearing a chastity, ball movement is restricted and forced to do your bidding. 

How it works; The closer to the body the warmer the balls, the further they hang the cooler the balls. Lets talk about the ejaculation part first; As a man builds to ejaculate, his balls draw up into his body, this shortens the ducts and preps the muscles that contract to discharge sperm. This is why Doms use rope or other contracting tools during training/edging to keep his balls securely away from his body to help prevent orgasm.  Note* While this helps prevent him from ejaculation/orgasm, this is not full proof, over stimulation can force the muscles to bypass regulatory control and expel sperm thus giving him an orgasm. So pay attention and edge him properly, if your feel his clitty pulsing, stop the edging for a few seconds. If you edge your male you should work your tongue and fingers slow, avoid putting the clitty fully into your mouth and only use lip or licking contact (fingers are ok) Now lets talk about damage; His balls are very sensitive so the balls sack can thicken or draw up. Once they feel trauma they naturally draw up tighter to thicken the skin (scrotum) to help protect them. This is also why Dom's use restriction tools or rope to keep the balls from drawing up and hanging outside the body during ball torture, so that he feels the full effect of pain. Note* Some men can have a forced milking from to much trauma to the testicles through prolonged, fast, and steady hitting of them (even with the use of restricting tools). This is done by standing over the male, one leg on each side of his hips, your ass facing him, and then hitting them with a crop directly and evenly as possible on the bottom of his ball (the side that would be facing the wall towards his feet. In fact, some Dom's use this as a quicker and less effort method to milking their sub male. But this is usually midway through training or after training is completed as this method while very painful does sometimes grant a quick but very mild orgasm sensation. This sensation is not an actual orgasm feeling but usually gives the effects as fulfillment because the trauma forces the muscles to ejaculate and tricks the balls to feeling like they would have been through normal orgasm. This does release some levels of prolactin (varies by male) which may take a day or two to get out of his system. All said, this is a very good method for sadistic Dom's who prefer the pain aspect of forced milking as opposed to the pleasure he would receive from the normal milking method or she doesn't want to spend the 20 to 40 minutes with conventual milking. The mild climax/fulfillment can even be eliminated for the most part by stopping the smacking of his balls at the first sign of discharge, waiting a couple minutes and then repeating the process until the balls are fully emptied. This also has a more sadistic side as when the milking is over you can keep beating the balls. Now lets discuss the temperature part, the balls must regulate temperature (about 94 deg.) to keep production of hormones and sperm in balance. The warmer the balls the less they create sperm and testosterone, the cooler the balls the more they produce. All Chastity's by design keep his balls hanging and prevents drawing up to warm the testicles. This causes a slow over production of sperm and hormones which in turn increases the males need for orgasm, which also makes him more submissive. So by its very nature, a chastity forces submission through chemical control, not just physical control. So permanent chastity is not just about never having to touch his pathetic dicklet again, or allowing him an orgasm, it also ensures that as long as you are strict maintain discipline and severe punishments you will always be able to be in control, do what you want, have sex with whom you want, even without using pussy. *Note, you can do all types of punishments without removing the chastity, spankings, electric play, urethra play, ball slapping or stretching and most all other CBT play so there is no need to remove the chastity unless wanting to.                

PERMANENT CHASTITY
Permanent chastity also called "PC" is when you force your sissy bitch to wear (with a few exceptions) the chastity 24/7/365. When training is nearly completed doms start practicing permanent chastity, however PC is mostly started much earlier through cuckolding when the mistress decides to date a boyfriend or Bull full time. This is also the same time she will permanently restrict his access to her pussy. Doing this prevents her from having to deal with her subs clitty when she doesn't feel like it, like after she is exhausted from a late night out or a long night of great sex. It also separates his rewards and focuses his true purpose for her, which will always be handing over his pay check and serving and obeying her. Nothing says submissive sissy bitch like having to serve and obey a Mistress while permanently chastised and completely denied pussy, all for the pleasure of her strap-on cock or cock of her choosing. Either way, permanent chastity is done as a plateau to get free of handling or touching his clitty (except as needed) and to force her submissive further into the sissy role for full dependency on cock for pleasure. This dependency can and most often, eventually leads to real cock and the finial stages of sissy training if you choose that route. *Note when doing permanent chastity, it is extremely important that you are very dominant, cruel, strict, and punish, but also include you bitch in the cuckolding as much as possible described below.   

Know that permanent chastity does not mean you put it on and throw away the key, although you want it to be as close to that as possible. Because the penis needs washed for good health and hygiene as described above, it is near impossible to lock it on and throw away the key. Plus, even though you are done with training OR started dating seriously, you still need to give his clitty some stimulation from time to time (at least once or twice a week) to maintain high levels of hormones, ESPECIALLY if you are not keeping them up by having sex frequently enough (3 or more times a week) and allowing him to participate in some manner. His participation at a minimum is watching or listening, but can occasionally be just hearing about all the details when you return home. Telling him the details gives him a mental picture and shows your excitement for dating your boyfriend, but you must be explicit. Participation can and should if at all possible be sexual related like fluffing your boyfriend, pegging him, licking your ass and feet during sex, even kneeling naked with panties on in the room (corner or foot of the bed) or serving your both before-during-after sex. Regardless to how you include him, he should always be made to clean up the after mess in some manner, again because the copulins are very valuable to keeping him horny, submissive, and begging to be cuckolded. 

Remember, permanent chastity means you will force him to wear his Chasity 24/7/365, you never take it off except for 2 reasons; First, the few times a month for clitty edging to build and maintain arousal and second, for a good deep cleaning and inspection of his genitals on the same days as edging to reduce time out of the chastity. You remove it, wash his clitty or allow him to, shave it, inspect for problems, preform the edging during training, then put it back on immediately. Other reasons can be for training or when doing Cock & Ball Toucher (CBT). Note,*It is possible with most chastity cages to do ball torture without removing his chastity. You can do ball stretching with a ball stretcher or various rope stretching, ball squeezing, ball smacking or using a crop, electric play/ pads or lassos on balls (some chastity's have built in electric play), ice or hot wax play, suction cup play, and Wartenberg pinwheel/needle pinwheel.   

Again permanent chastity is enacted for a couple of reasons, First is once you get him trained to be the sissy bitch you want him to be and he has completely submitted and accepted his place as your sissy bitch. Basically he is fulfilling his purpose to you as your servant and sissy bitch and he does it for the privilege of serving his mistress and the reward of cock. Second but mostly sooner, is after you have found a full time boyfriend and given him full access or control of your pussy to him (like you would normally to your boyfriend). Which is also the time you would completely deny your sissy bitch any access to his pussy. Rightfully so, you don't want to ever touch his pathetic clitty unnecessarily if at all and you certainly wouldn't allow a sissy bitch to have any access to your boyfriends pussy. Plus its very demeaning for a mistress to interact with a servants clitty. With PC there is no clitty touching or stimulation before or after you get fucked by your boyfriend or bull (unless you want to), he simply serves and obeys yet expects nothing. Again, his reward is the privilege of serving you and when you allow it the pleasure of cock. Also to do PC you want him to the point where he gets his sexual fulfillment by watching or hearing you get your pleasure by fucking your boyfriend or lovers, again at the very least he is told in detail about the events and how much you enjoyed the much bigger cock, positions he fucked you in, how many times you had an orgasm and how strong they were. For the extra humiliation you can compare sex with your boyfriends big cock to his pathetic clitty. He must act and behave as you have trained him (the way he should act) and he needs to fear you. He will also still need  occasional training, strict discipline, and extreme punishments for rule breaking. Any additional or on going training is done with the chastity on, you don't need to remove it for pegging, most CBT as described above, including punishments.

TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS, you MUST do the following or have already completed the following; Taken a boyfriend that you have had sex with for a few weeks and made the relationship full time or serious but also allowed your sissy bitch interaction with your sex (seeing, hearing, etc.) as I described above. Or if doing PC because your finished with training; Have made him so horny and weak that he would do anything you say, NOT for a night or two, but on an every day submission level. Also MADE him terrified of you and your punishments that he is to scared not to obey. But also broken his will so that he has become completely and totally submissive to your will and authority. Emasculated him so that he wants to serve you 24/7/365 and truly believes it is his purpose and gets horny and excited about doing it. Plus make him weak from your power and sexuality, that he gets very aroused and horny by your pleasures (the fact that you are having sex with your boyfriend or other men on a regular basis and generally flirting with and fucking whom ever you want and all while gloating and humiliating him about it). He must be pushed to his limits, and have things done to him he wouldn't believe you could or would do! Keep him wondering what's next, how far you will go, how hard you will punish him or how extreme you will humiliate him! 

IMPORTANT!! THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND; The penis is his highest sense of pleasure and directly linked (via his testicles) to keeping his chemicals and hormones elevated to keep him in a horny/aroused and controlled state. But its now locked up through PC so it is very, very, important that you keep him horny through other means like licking/sucking his balls and watching you have sex. He must remain extremely horny for this PC-365 to work properly. These means are as I described above, you having your pleasure regularly but also giving him anal play and sissygasms, ball play (licking, sucking, rubbing) and even nipple play (licking, sucking, rubbing). Then there is always making him watch porn, talking dirty to him (about past or future fucking with your Boyfriend/s, how good it was, how big, how much you can't wait to feel it again etc.). Also you should use your sexual power just like strippers do, like I've talked about in other sections of my blog, by moving, touching and displaying your body in sexy ways, wearing sexy outfits (lingerie or Dom outfits) Letting him see pussy (up very close and spread open) on rare occasions 2 or 3 times a month in you have a BF, normally (2 times a week) just an outline through your panties. *MOST IMPORTANT* Bend over and make him worship your ass (make him tongue your hole while you use a vibe or dildo on yourself) and feet by kissing and licking them. Blind fold him and let him smell your lovers pussy. One thing I found that's almost as good as him watching me get fucked is, I record (hide the recorder) a fuck session with my boyfriend (or have him record it) from time to time and make him watch it on the TV while I humiliate him about how much better, bigger, and last longer than him...that I can't wait to get it again. Come up with your own ways to keep him aroused, use his hypnoses state (the point where he is really weak and begging to serve you from being so aroused during a training session) to extract info from him like what turns him on the most (and do it) or implant what you want to start turning him on (just like you did when you got him to get very turned on by watching you fuck your lovers) Also remember to keep up on your humiliation, discipline, and punishments. I recommend that once you start PC, that you switch to a full metal chastity belt of some kind, make sure it locks around his balls in some manner. They are are sold all over the internet on BDSM sites, but they are reasonably priced on Amazon, Alibaba, Aliexpress, and eBay. As his mistress only you will be the one to place it on him and the one to take it off and this must be done while he is tied down or in the shower for cleaning. He is never allowed to touch his clitty much less install the chastity. You should install it on day 1 of training, even if he tells you he won't masturbate, trust me he will and not tell you. Remember ALWAYS put his chastity back on him no exceptions, no mater what he tells you!!!!!!!

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