The Black and White of cuckolding

             THE BLACK AND WHITE OF CUCKOLDING

Cuckolding for most women is the epitome of female domination. That is to say it is the focus or prime reason most Dominatrix or Mistresses live this lifestyle. There is an alluring, thrilling and intoxicating feeling you get, when you meet an attractive man and have erotic, passionate, mind blowing sex (even if he has an average cock), especially with the freedom to date him. It feels euphoric, completes you as a women, satisfies and fulfills that deep feminine desire, the same one that makes you wet every time you think about sex with him. It is the power of owning a submissive bitch to serve and obey you, while having an alpha male to please you sexually that gives you the feeling of being blissfully complete, sexually empowered, and with utter happiness. Sure its a real turn on, and extremely satisfying to be a Dom with a bitch kneeling at you feet, obeying and serving you. Doing all the chores, cleaning, picking up after you, running errands....What ever you command and all with out back talk, arguing, or even input. Not to mention the freedom to do what ever, when ever you want and spoil yourself with shopping, hair and nails, or what ever you desire. Then there is the added fun of humiliation, and inflicting pain or torment for your amusement. What could be better than owning a bitch, right? As fulfilling and exciting that all this is, and it truly is, this is just the prelude and benefits of CUCKOLDING, of course you have to train him to be that perfect little bitch first. But why have all this power, I mean whats the use of having a bitch if your not sexually satisfied, or even worse sexually frustrated from small cock and 5 minute sex. Forced with only big dildo toys, masturbation, or his oral service to have pleasure. Lets face it, getting yourself off will only get you by for so long and his tongue does very little for satisfaction when you need the feeling of deep penetration and thickness. That big dildo you love is OK for now, but it is nothing like having the real thing and will eventually lead you to wanting the real thing even more!

This is why you said, No more of his little dicklet, his selfishness of being the only one to have a great orgasm or enjoying sex, no more of you having to masturbate or use toys! There should be no reason your not enjoying your full power, the benefits of having a bitch at your feet, and getting fucked by those big cocks you crave and think about. Those cocks that have the ability to bring you multiple powerful orgasms, to please a women the way she deserves and was meant to be fucked. That's the beauty of it, by dating and fucking who you want when you want, your going to make your bitch even more submissive and want to serve you even more! You can have as many as you want as often as you want and you don't have to lie, cheat, or sneak around. Your going to do it openly and even in front of him and humiliate him about it. Your going to deny him sex, lock away his dicklet, and treat him like the pathetic little dicklet bitch he is and fuck who you want, when you want. Thus you will create that submissive cock loving bitch as a bonus to getting what you really want and deserve. He was meant to be a bitch, he was meant to serve and obey you, he built to take your cock. To bring out the bitch, your going to fuck him with the very same dildo you were forced to fuck for pleasure. Soon he will be begging for it and dependent on it for pleasure, talk about irony right! He will beg you to go get all the big cock you want, and be extremely turned on by you doing so. He will be the bitch you want and best of all, there is nothing he can do to stop it, change it, or resist it. Whats more is he will beg to serve you, obey, worship your feet and ass, plus feel and believe this is his place and what he's meant for. If you really want to see a submissive bitch, wait till you take a bull or even a boyfriend full time, fucking 4,5,6 nights a week and he is completely denied pussy and anything to do with it except clean up duty. That's when you will see your training him into a sissy bitch really come out. He will do absolutely anything to have that big cock of yours.     

Cuckolding is the ultimate power and completion to being a Mistress. This is having your cake and eating it too. Why wouldn't it be, women truly were built for sex and pleasure just as much as they were for ruling over their bitch. Women experience great pleasure from penetration and it builds to the climax/orgasm. We can have various types of pleasure and orgasms, and we are the only ones with a sex organ (clit) designated solely for pleasure. We can have multiple orgasms and experience greater longer pleasure and orgasms. Plus we are the only ones that experience sex solely for pleasure, as biologically we gain nothing form the experience except that said pleasure. While a mans purpose to have sex is the deposit of semen and he experiences the majority of pleasure at the end, from the orgasm that is meant to force muscle contractions to expel the semen. Meaning the only reason he even has an orgasm is to ejaculate and deposit semen.

Being a Dominatrix is not complete with out having the best erotic, most thrilling and passionate sex you deserve and need, to be a woman and feel complete. And nothing is better than coming home to a spotless house after a date night with your boyfriend, after which(like every sex night) you got the pounding of your life. Having trained your bitch to kneel at the door for you. Taking off your shoes, worshiping and licking your feet, and told to fetch you a drink, then meeting you in the bed room to knell at the bed. Where you've got undressed and put on a fresh pair of panties as the used ones have a greater purpose. You humiliate him, and tell him how pathetic he is, how he isn't a man, he's your bitch with a clitty and he should be grateful that you allow him the privilege of serving you. This is the third time this week you went to get fucked and its only Thursday, and you are extremely pleased and happy, but you are cruel to him and treat him just like the bitch he is. He has only one purpose to you, and that's all you want him for, being your bitch.....Serving, obey, and handing over his pay. You always speak in a firm demanding voice and punish him severely for ANY rule breaking, this keeps him very obedient. You love to be a cruel bitch, humiliating, and degrading him, it turns you on and you know it makes him weak, very submissive, and scared of you. You know he needs that, he needs you to be cruel, demanding, and aggressive with him to be the best bitch he can. He needs a strict, ruthless, punishing mistress to follow your rules and beg you to get the very cock that helps keep him in his place. This keeps him focused on his submission to you and is a constant reassurance that this is his place and he is grateful to be there. You order him to take his usual place lying on the floor (he is never allowed in your bed) hands under his back. You place the blind fold on him and then straddle him just inches from his face. He can already smell the copulins and sweetness of your sex and its very intoxicating to him as he instinctively tries to get closer to the smell and breath in as much as he can. You pull your panties aside to squeeze out the cum into his open mouth, you even reach in with your fingers to scoop out every last drop and force it into his mouth. The smell is hypnotizing but he is repulsed by the taste of cum and very humiliated of his place, he wants to stop licking it off your fingers but knows the punishment for resisting is far more sever than the humiliation of cleaning the cum left by your black boyfriend. You are turned on by the power you feel, and that he truly is your bitch, there to serve and do as he is told while you do as you please. You order him saying," lick every fucking drop off my fingers bitch" and then tell him to open wide as you move to spit in his mouth saying "you can wash it down with that you fucking pathetic bitch". Those are not just words, you mean them, you believe he is a pathetic bitch and you are completely happy about it. After your satisfied he took it all, you get up and fix your panties, then you remove the blind fold and sit on the edge of the bed as you say in a very firm voice "TAKE YOUR FUCKING PLACE BITCH" and he quickly gets up to his knees. You order him to rub your feet as you put the used panties over his head resting at his nose so that your pheromones (copulins) can do their job and help take control of his mind. You know that they are addicting and hypnotic, you tell him about how well you just got fucked by a real man, how much you truly love your boyfriends big black cock, how hard he makes you cum, how it reaches places he can't, and how it fills and stretches your pussy. You tell him the main details to arouse him but also to humiliate him, to make him week, and want to please you just as much by serving. As you explain how much better sex is with your black BF than him, that all of your orgasms with his pathetic little clitty couldn't even equal one of his, you notice his cock straining to get hard in his chastity. You laugh and say, "the poor little clitty is trying to get hard! The thought of your tiny dicklet getting hard is fucking hilarious". You then tell him how pathetic he is, how much of a bitch he is, that he can't please you and has to submit to you fucking another man to even be allowed the privilege of smelling your pussy. You tell him that you never want his pathetic clitty again and that you are locking it away for good. In your mind you think to yourself, he may not believe or realize it yet, but he will after a few months as you truly don't want it. For that matter, you don't even want to touch it or waste your time with it.... Mostly because it is worthless to you, but also because you know his locked up clitty is key to getting the cock you love and deserve. At the same time your voice and words are humiliating and degrading him, breaking him down, the aroma from your pussy, a cocktail of pheromones, copulins and cum is extremely intoxicating to him. Its hypnotizing to him and makes him even weaker, forcing him to submit and obey as it creates a vivid picture of the sex you had, the sex you loved, in his mind that is arousing yet so humiliating that he all he can do is knell and beg to be your bitch. He does just that, he begs you to allow him the privilege to serve you from there on, he thanks you for that privilege, and for locking his dicklet away. You reply in a firm voice, "that's right bitch, you know that's all I want from you and the way it's supposed to be, don't you?" YES mistress, thank you so much for getting the big black cock that pleases you like you deserve and allowing me the privilege to smell your sex! That's a good bitch, you should be grateful, you deserve nothing to do with pussy, NOTHING! If it wasn't for me getting that big black cock and needing the cum cleaned up you wouldn't even be allowed to smell it. Yes Mistress! Please Mistress, I'm begging you to get all the big cock you want, PLEASE! Oh I will, I love it, I'm going to get as much as I want and your going to be a good little bitch and serve me while I do! Yes mistress, thank you mistress! 

 At this point he is weak and completely submissive, he wants so bad to to serve you and be your bitch, he wants nothing more than to be your bitch from now on. He would lick up a gallon of cum just to be able to smell your pussy. But even worse and humiliating, he wants to feel your thick cock pounding him into submission, further stripping him of his manhood securing his place as your obedient bitch, your little sissy cock slut. Getting pussy isn't even a thought in his brain thanks to your training and punishments. He remembers the last time you fucked him for over an hour straight. Bringing him sissygasm after sissygasm which left him even more aroused than before you slid your thick black dildo into his tight pussy. He has become addicted to it, cock whipped you might say, and there is nothing he can do but accept it. Yet tonight he will get nothing, no cock, and no licking his balls or his pussy, not even a toy. Instead you spend the next 20 minutes using your lubed fingers to rub around the outside of his pussy, with an occasional finger penetration to get him extremely aroused and wanting your black cock even more. Only to deny him, and put him to bed....Like most nights, his reward for being a perfect little bitch and cleaning your house is the knowledge you were pleased very well, cleaning up the mess and smelling just how well you were fucked via your panties. That's right, his reward most of the time is humiliation of cleaning up the mess and the smell of your freshly fucked pussy or your used panties and he is happy to get even that. Every now and then you end the night with him licking and tongue fucking your asshole to orgasm while you use a vibrator on your clit. About 10 to12 times a month you give him that big cock he craves and if you have elected to turn him sissy, you have him fucked and used 1-2 times per week. But what ever you do, you never allow him to cum or out of his chastity, and your smart, you make it really humiliating for him. Also you tell him to go hand wash your panties so he can't sneak any unauthorized smelling. Then put him to bed in his spot on the floor where he will wake up and knell to serve again. 

This is how you want it, how it should be, how it's meant to be and this is how you should have it. You should not accept anything less than a complete obedient bitch, with no back talking or questioning you, who gets nothing but the little teases you allow. Why should we endure dull, pathetic sex however quick it is or suffer the lack of purely great sex because our Sub's inadequate ability to please, their pathetic dicklet size and stamina to please us as we truly deserve. Why should they ever be allowed the pleasure of pussy or an orgasm for that matter when they offer nothing in return and are more suited to serve and be a bitch, sissy even, to use for our purpose and amusement. We want better, we deserve better, and we deserve to fuck who we want when ever we want with out any input from him, in fact its really none of his business. He was meant to serve and make your life easier, an addition to the best sex, a bonus for doing and getting what we love, BIG COCK. He can't fuck, he can't last, he can't stay hard, he has a pathetic little dicklet and is not worthy of pussy. He is not a man he is a bitch and that's what he wants and deserve to be, even if he doesn't know it yet. He wants to be your bitch and serve you so that he may be allowed to take that big cock and receive the only pleasure he is permitted. Besides, nothing makes a bitch, more like a sissy bitch, submissive and eager to obey, than him watching or listening or even knowing for that matter that his Mistress is/was screaming and moaning to orgasm after mind blowing orgasm (which he can't do) as she freely gives her pussy to her alpha male while he is completely denied all access to pussy. Even more submissive if verbally told by the Mistress or Alpha/Bull who's pussy it is and that he is not allowed access to it, ever! Instead he is there for his true purpose, to hand over his pay, to kneel and serve, to obey with out question. Your sex life and whom you fuck is none of his business, you telling him the details about it (very important, especially if fucking away from him) is all he needs to know so he can be humiliated and even more submissive.

So with all of the excitement and thrill of cuckolding, when it comes to finding a sex partner, boyfriend, Bull or even a one time fuck, there is several things us women are prone to go after or look for. Number 1, Attraction or looks, 2 dress/clothes, 3 size of the cock,  HOWEVER, we need to realize that this order is flawed and understand that looks while they may be important, should not be the number one thing we consider when looking for a sex partner. Size and their ability to please us should always be the most important because it gives the best, most powerful orgasms and the the ability to have them one after another. Not to mention it is half our power and his submission. NEXT is stamina or the ability to preform for a longer time, FOLLOWED by his comfort level or willingness to fuck in front of the bitch or at least not care he exists. We need to focus on finding a sex partner, not the looks, instead you should try to look for an attraction of some kind Maybe his smile, perfect teeth, sense of humor, attitude, personality or even if its just the fact that he will fuck you in front of your bitch, as there is a lot to be said about a man with a big cock who will fuck you in front of him. There is always time to find that hot or attractive, well hung guy, but for now you need sex. You need to cuckold, you need orgasms, and you need to show your bitch that you can fuck when ever you want and his place is serving and obeying you. Having regular sex is also healthier for us, it slows aging, regulates hormones, helps prevent depression, boost our immune system, makes us more energetic, firms our breast, helps maintain happiness, helps with weight loss, and boost our confidence just to name a few. I'm not saying you should fuck just anyone, just that you should not have high expectations and average looking standards. Looks should never be the main or deciding factor of you fucking a guy. If you are only after looks, your sex life will suffer as there will be weeks or months even with out sex which is bad for you, and bad for his submission. His submission will suffer because of this as he will doubt or question your commitment and motives. The amount of time you spend searching and not fucking will be a waste and make him doubt your desire to have bigger cock, possibly even that your not serious about it or not wanting his. He needs this just as much as you because your sex is his sex and if your going to prove to him his place and bring out his true submission. You can always search for the perfect boyfriend, the hot, built guy that makes you wet every time you think about him. For now enjoy what you can get, sex with average looking well hung men is great sex and pleasure, Saying your looking or talking about looking is not, and wasting your abilities and power. Besides that I have meet some hot guys while out on dates or hooking up with the average ones. One more thing to consider, most hot guys will only have an average sized cock or less, very few will have that perfect 8 and thick cock you desire.

BLACK VS WHITE

This brings me to the Black and White of cuckolding. When it comes to males and size, as well as alpha and being freaky, your odds are far better with black males over any other.  However the myth that all black males have big cocks is NOT true, its not. But it is true that the average black male has a bigger cock at a thicker 7 inches then the average white male at thinner 6.5 and that there are far more black males with bigger cocks than white. This means you are extremely more likely to find a black male with an 8 inch or bigger cock than a white male. Statistically speaking use this guide;
                                                     In 100 black males you would find
1 man with 5.5 or less, 5 men with 6 inch to 6.5.......44 men with average cocks of 7 inches.....35 men with 8+ inches......15 men with 10+ size.....
                                                     In 100 white males you would find
7 men with 5.5 or less, 27 men with 6 inches.......45 men with average 6.5 inches........15 men with 7.5 inches.........5 men with 8+ inches......and 1 men with 10+.

Obviously the ratio is not put scientifically but it helps you understand just how much more likely you will get a bigger cock from a black male than a white male. Your far more likely to get bigger thicker cock of  7 to 8 + inches being 80% of black males. Opposed to white males range of 7.5 to 8 inches at 20%.

You know the saying "once you go black, you never go back" well there is a lot of truth in that, and the reason white women fucking black males has become so popular even to the point that they are leaving their mates to get it. There is a good reason you see so many white females and even white celebrity women with black males. Women who haven't had it are curious and want to feel how good it feels as they want to experience the hype, and the ones who have had it are talking and spreading the word about how good the sex is with black men. They are realizing that size really does matter and that a BBC can give them orgasms they've dreamed about. In fact its the highest searched request on porn sites, and surprisingly mostly searched by women. I know plenty of Doms or women in general who will only fuck black men, and I have to say I completely understand. I'm not saying that I only fuck black males, but the majority of the males I fuck are black. For one, black men on average are way better in bed, its true and I have never heard any woman, Dominatrix or not that has fucked both say any different, myself included, even well hung white males don't compare there. Then the obvious, they have bigger, thicker dicks and you are far more likely to find a big cock than with a white guy. Most can last as long as you want and at the very least long enough to make you cum several times. Plus with having a bigger, thicker cock the pleasure and sex feels way better, more intense, and is more satisfying. Most also have the stamina to fuck you again and again with just a little time in between. Now I'm not saying that all White guys can't fuck, I've had a couple that fucked me very good almost as good as some of the black guys I fucked, however they also had a thick 8 inch cock. What I am saying is that those white men are few and far in between, although any white cock over 6 inches that last for 20 minutes is far better than what my little bitch at 5.5 inches and 6-7 minutes can offer any day. What I'm talking about is the extreme pleasure of having your pussy filled and stretched, hitting that spot that makes your cum hard and long. Having long, powerful orgasms that you feel through your whole body, over and over as long as you can take it and want it. Orgasms that feel so good and are so strong that they make you squirt. YES, even if you have never squirted, it is possible to with the right black cock, and no white cock has ever made me or anyone I know squirt. That's another humiliating fact to use on your bitch, he has never made you squirt. Another way to humiliate him is if you only fuck black men, white dicks are not allowed or rarely allowed if big enough.

I remember the first time I had sex with a black guy, just sliding it in felt way better and I loved the feeling of being completely filled by his thickness. He hit places I had never felt pleasure from and it made me orgasm long and hard. His cock made me feel pleasure I didn't even know was possible and I was hooked after the first time. So obviously I gave him sex again and again until he relocated because of work. Every since then I've mostly fucked black men, and the sex has always been great. I still occasionally fuck hung or hot white guys from time to time, but honestly the sex isn't the same. What I love about sex with a black man (including what I said above) and why so many white women love it.  I like that most of them are built nice and in shape. They are more alpha and aggressive in bed and controlling of pussy. They don't mind a few extra pounds, in fact black men in general like a bigger girl and would rather have a thicker girl than a petite one. They try their best to please you, they want you screaming and moaning from their big cock because they know they'll be offered pussy again, and again. You know the song, "I have the magic stick" if I can hit it once , I can hit it twice.....Yeah, there is fact to that too. Most of them love dirty talk and sex, are way more freaky than white guys and down for pretty much anything. This even includes other males joining or watching, or having you fuck his friends (try asking a white guy for that). They are really not intimidated by you having a husband (unlike most white guys)and most don't mind fucking you in front of him. In fact most are freaky enough to be a bull and dom your bitch and some even do humiliating sex acts to him or force him to do to them. But mostly I love the sex, even with out the other great things, it is undoubtedly the best sex I've ever had, and the best orgasms I've ever had bar none, everything else they provide is just icing on the cake. In all, there have only been 2 white guys that have really fucked me good but not as good as the black cocks, and all of them had an 8 inch and thick cock. Most of the white cocks were just OK sex, I got off a few times, but some gave good sex. However every black guy I've fucked has fucked me at least good and most was great sex, as I said a few has even made me squirt. No matter the color, even the average cocks were far better than my bitch, as is anyone with a big enough cock and a little stamina. I guess the question is do you want good sex from white cock when you can find it, or great sex from black cock just about every time. Mind blowing orgasms or just good sex, again anything you choose will be better than your bitch and Its up to you what you choose. Personally I prefer black men over white men, but I really don't care what other people think. I could easily be a black cock only girl, especially with how much it humiliates my bitch, but I'll fuck whom ever i'm attracted to especially if they have a big cock and give me great sex, and long powerful orgasms. Its just that this happens far more often with black men over white, and they don't mind humiliating my bitch and some don't even mind using him. Everyone has their preference, but some women just don't know what they are missing because they have never tried it, or worried about what other people think, while some will only fuck black men. Most important is just cuckold no matter who its with, just do it!  Seriously, it is extremely important to cuckold, as long as your cuckolding getting bigger cock, having great sex and fun, and keeping your bitch in his place, That's all that matters. My bet is, once you have black cock you will always want black cock OR only black cock.

If you are looking for a black lover/bull or boyfriend, the best results are the local black clubs or bars. I have picked up one or more every time I went. Or try any dance club or night club, there are usually a good selection there. You could also try a swingers club, although its hit or miss there. If anything, try black dating or hook ups sites, Craig's list, or swingers sites. Happy hunting!!
Email me if you have questions about training, sissy training, punishments, or cuckolding. herdesire@live.com
                  

Importance of pain and punishment

I read this from another blog titled under another name. She is a very intelligent woman and It is her prospective on the difference of living a FLR (Female Led Relationship) or on occasion a Dom - slave scenario versus  jumping into a BDSM - Mistress and slave lifestyle. Living the BDSM lifestyle is much more rewarding and I think this is important for new Dom's in understanding why most Mistresses give harsh punishments and live this lifestyle 24/7/365 as opposed to just dabbling in it a week or so out of the month. It truely is a different, complete, and satisfying feeling for the Dom and a truer much more sincere submission from the slave/bitch (if done correctly). There are other reasons why it's more important to do it 24/7 like it keeps him focused, it changes his way of thinking, far less back talk and unruliness or bad behavior, easier life for you, and many other things. But this gives you a simple but true aspect of the reason to go 24/7 as most do.

It's been about 6 months since my last blog entry.  At the point when I stopped writing, my husband Karl and I were experimenting with slavery - his, of course.  For a few days each month, he became a total slave as opposed to his usual submissive self.  There's a big difference between being a submissive or a slave, and there's an equally big difference between being a dominant woman or a slave owner/driver.  I seriously doubt that many couples involved in a female led relationship (including marriage) could make such a transition on a semi-regular basis, if at all.  Most dominant wives draw a line at administering physical punishment at the level often "required" in the process of truly enslaving a husband, and I suspect that even if a couple weren't married, the same limiting factor would probably arise.  

Even if the dominant female makes the transition, there's a good chance that the newly minted slave would soon realize that he'd bitten off more than he can chew.  There's a big reality leap required between the fantasy of being a slave subject to serious physical pain and the moment when that lash actually strikes the skin.  Reality can be very painful indeed, and when a dominant woman views the reaction of her male experiencing his first real pain session, it's often more than she can bear.  The experiment quickly ends, and that's that for real corporal punishment.

Of course, I'm not "most women" and I've never had any trouble administering punishment, but being a slave driver is a new level even for me.  And Karl - who insists that he's not a "pain freak" - has gone through some serious changes in his ability to tolerate said punishment.  We're now a full year into this "experiment", and I feel I should write about what's happened so that the many people who follow this blog are not left up in the air.  I do remember some commenters predicting dire results if this slavery transition were to take place, and I certainly had no way to predict what would happen between Karl and me when we adjusted to this new reality.  I wanted to try it, he wanted to try it, and the results of one year of part-time slavery are in.  

As the title of this blog entry reveals, the first and foremost result was in the giving and taking of pain, both physical and mental.  Over the years, Karl had gotten used to taking orders from me and experiencing various forms of punishment, including corporal punishment, but at a much lower level than I was now prepared to dole out.  As our slave games progressed month after month, I found myself relishing the punishment I was subjecting him to.  There was a heady feeling of POWER involved in seeing a stripe appear on the body of my slave/husband as a result of my using a whip or cane on him.  I've never denied being a sadist, and I've written extensively on this subject in the past - even insisting that all dominant women are sadists at least to some extent -  but now I was a sadist unleashed, so to speak.  It was undoubtedly different, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't enjoying it.

What about Karl?  What was his reaction to seeing  - and very definitely feeling - the difference in me?  We talked about each session each month during the time in-between, and at first we were both somewhat afraid of what was happening.  He more than me, but that was understandable as he was the one feeling the pain, but I too was concerned about the difference in the way I now felt when administering the punishments.  Neither one of us wanted to go over the edge, but it was becoming increasingly clear that "the edge" was in a state of flux.  I seemed to be giving out more pain, and he seemed to be able to take it better than either one of us had expected.

For the first half year, each month had a three or four day period of slavery.  Month seven marked a vacation period at work for Karl, and we decided to spend a solid week as Master/slave (I don't like the word "Mistress").  I could probably write a book about that week, but suffice it to say that it was intense.  We had both agreed that there would be no turning back for that period of a week, no time-outs, no discussions, no safe words, etc.  A full immersion into this experiment to see where it took us.  Believe me, it took us to a new place, much more so mentally than physically.  We truly became Master/slave, and isolating ourselves from all friends or business connections, it was just Karl, the slave, and I, the Master, in every sense of the words.

Karl later said that he experienced his first real case of "slave space" as opposed to "sub space" and I certainly did the same on the opposite end of the spectrum.  By day five of that week, we were both somebody else, if that makes any sense, and at the end of day seven it was truly hard to go back to what we had always perceived as reality.  I was so much the Master and Karl was so much the slave by then, that pulling ourselves away from the entire thing was like yanking yourself out of a deep sleep dream.  Do I mean "nightmare"?  No, not at all, and I guess that's the point.  It was not a feeling of relief from something fearsome.  Much more like awakening from a dream that you wanted to continue if you could just go back to sleep again.

Strange?  Yes.  Unexpected?  Totally.  Neither of us had ever relly considered a "permanent" slavery situation, but now such thoughts found their way into our every day musings.  When Karl went back to work after that week, I found myself missing having my slave available at all times.  He admitted to lapses of concentration at work - which he could get away with as the "boss" - but there was no denying that something had changed.  That seven day immersion into total slavery had whetted our appetites for more of the same.  I had reached new heights of administering punishments and subjecting Karl to significant pain, and I had enjoyed it immensely.  For his part, Karl's slave space had  - as he put it - "brought me to a realization that the pain was warranted and bearable as a tool for making me a perfect slave".  He had made that leap of existing solely for my pleasure, and if that involved punishments that strenghtened my total control of him, then so be it.

Needless to say, this situation was a long way from what now seemed a "simple" female dominant way of life.  To be sure, our relationship was never "simple", and we'd already experienced far more of what could be called "extreme" moments than most female led relationships ever experienced, but this slave experiment had clearly brought us to a new paradigm. Whether this was a good or bad thing was debatable, but that had yet to be decided.  

I will continue this later.  As always, I welcome comments.

Proper punishments

I had a Mistress send me this the other day...This is a good example of using a cane to punish your slave for breaking rules. Notice how these Doms are enjoying themselves, they are relentless with spanking him, and make sure at the end his ass is bruised and welted up. This is not just a enjoyment or teaching spanking during training, this is a punishment spanking and meant to deter rule breaking and it is meant to be remembered. I counted over 200 hits in the full Video, which makes this about an average punishment, had he broked a major rule this would have been way higher as I will show below in other clips. The only thing I would have done different is tie or bound him down better so he could not move and take every hit to its fullest impact.


A good Mistress doesn't care about how much pain she inflicts, he deserves every minute of his punishment and it will help him be a better slave to her. Watch how she uses different instruments for whipping to inflict a variety of pain on him. The cane (both ratted and nylon), the leather paddle strap, and the leather whip are best for give extreme pain that can be given for long hard whippings with out numbing the butt or causing long term damage...But must be used correctly. Wood or rubber paddles are not for long spankings they can do more damage and numb the skin making the punishment less effective but are effective in small amounts, about 3 or 4 every so often.


In this clip the Mistress is very serious about his rule breaking and back talking. This is a very good example of of how to punish for major rule breaking or any rule breaking you don't want him to repeat. A spanking like this on his ass will turn him into a very sincere and completely submissive bitch for the next couple of days, and its then that you will see the difference in a disciplined slave.  She doesn't care about his crying or scream out (he has on a muzzle under his mask to dampen the sound) and you shouldn't care, in fact if he is screaming or even crying them the spanking is doing its job. The only 2 things wrong here is that she did not tie him down (because he is a seasoned slave and taught moving will bring even worse punishment), ALWAYS TIE DOWN and she is not humiliating and reinforcing his place or scolding him for his bad actions. Something else which is not necessarily bad is I never whip my bitch on the back for punishment, only the butt. If I do whip his back or tops of his legs where they meet his ass, I don't leave marks, in other words the hits are lighter or not at all. Marks in this are can be seen by other people, family or kids and there is no way to explain this, so you should refrain from hitting him there.


OK I've shown you some good clips of punishments, this one is a bad one. She is correct in the seriousness of the violation and inflicting pain to discourage future rule breaking. For the most part she is also doing good in hitting him consecutively (whipping one after another). However, she is hitting him with extreme force and eventually starts hitting with all she has. Through out this she breaks several instruments which shows she is hitting to hard. Then she switches to a paddle and continues to hit him with all she has which completely tears up his ass and far beyond acceptable marks and an effective punishment. When you beat like this you kill skin, muscle and nerve fibers,  dead skin and nerves fibers don't yield pain so at that point your just hitting meat. Not to mention the time it will take to heel will be months and the possible infections being that close to his ass hole when wiping. A hit should be firm and hard, never with all your might especially with a paddle. 20 to 30 hard consecutive hits is great and needed, especially to correct bad behavior but after that give a minute or two before hitting his ass again. Take that time to smack his balls or his face even. In the full video he is hit over 400 times, which may be needed or warranted for continued rule breaking or back talk. This is acceptable but only with proper hitting impact, and the 1-2 minute breaks in between each instrument. And always reinforce his place, humiliate, and scold for his bad behavior, and tell him how he is to act from then on. Always monitor his bruising and marks and adjust hits accordingly.



There is a difference between a punishment spanking and a training spanking. 

When training, you spank to bring attention to your words so that he is listening to what you are saying. This is why you would tell him your rules, tell him his chores, state his place, or humiliate him during a training spanking. You would be more relaxed and maybe even laugh at how pleased you are that his ass is bright red. It should be hard and firm and leave welts and red marks on his ass for a few days. You would hit him 100 to 150 times with 10-15 times in a row and switch from instrument to instrument (if wanted) while continuing to shout demands or orders. This pain is done to help him soak in all that you say but also as a deterrent for future rule breaking.

When giving a punishment spanking it is meant to be remembered, this will help deter him from future infractions. It should be hard enough and long enough with the correct welts and bruising for him to feel it for a week or so.  You must be very serious and speak in a firm voice. During the entire whipping you will scold him about his rule breaking/disobeying and also remind him of his place, the rules and whats expected out of him. Towards the end of the spanking you will put a ball gag in to block the sound and whip for at least another 40-50 times but harder and even faster. Then remove the ball gag and allow him to beg for you to stop, but you will not, you will spank for at least another 20 to 30 hits or longer but you will stop when you feels he is ready not because he begs. 

The Atmosphere of BDSM

                           The Atmosphere

          The atmosphere is a reference to the total environment your sub lives in everyday, how he lives and experiences being your submissive bitch. It is a combination of your attitude, your demeanor, your actions and communication as you interact with your sub. Along with enforcement's (chores, routines, rules etc.) dress and attire (chastity, panties, sissy maid outfit, etc.), his position and placement for serving and submission (naked on his knees, eating from the floor or dog dish, etc.) events and actions (made to serve friends or service your bull, etc.), training, humiliation, and severe punishments for disobedience and rule breaking. Everything you do, say, and act towards him should always be done as his Mistress, his VERY CRUEL, STRICT, and SADISTIC DOM to exhibit your power and control over him and get his complete obedience and submission to you.  

          You are here because you are a Dom, do not doubt this is your natural place, so be the Dom you need to be in order to get what you deserve. Force him into his natural place and train him to be the bitch you want and deserve. Do not put up with any BS or accept anything but his obedience and submission. Living the part and actually being a Dom is extremely important as you are mentally and physically conditioning your bitch to submit, to serve and to obey....To do as he is told with no back talk. Make no mistake, the atmosphere is vital as it is a very heavy influence on his submission, obedience, and his continued submission (after training) with eagerness to obey at all times. Submission, obedience, and servitude is his new reality and its fully expressed and defined by the atmosphere he trains and serves in 24/7/365. Meaning if you are not a proper dom, soft on him, or allow rule breaking and back talk, then that is exactly what you will get and then some. If you are strict, dominant, cruel and sadistic then you will get a very submissive and obedient bitch. You will get out of him exactly what you train him for, and there is no such thing as to harsh, to extreme, to mean, or to cruel....Truth be told he needs this from you just as much as you need to be this way towards him. His atmosphere needs to be cruel, aggressive, demanding, very strict, and backed by rules and severe punishments in order to accept his natural place as your submissive bitch. Your demeanor must be as a ruthless, sadistic, Dom to affirm your control and his submission. You create the atmosphere and the atmosphere you create is just as important as training and punishments because it's what helps keep his mind submissive and on task before, during, and after training. It also keeps ongoing training to a minimal after he has been broken, emasculated, and turned into your submissive bitch.

            Being a cruel Dom, and after he is trained very hard, broken, emasculated, chastised, and exposed to the proper atmosphere everyday, he will become more and more submissive. He will get weaker and weaker as his true submissive side become exposed, losing his defiance, his false manhood, and his will, giving up all control, and his feeble attempts to resist his natural place, completely submitting to your control, and power over him. He will be your completely submissive bitch, accepting his place to serve and obey you, but more importantly he will understand this is how its meant to be, he will desire to serve and beg you to be there on his knees. He will embrace it, get excited and derive pleasure from serving and obey you, and all you have to do is take your natural place being a cruel sadistic bitch to him. This will give you the pampered life you deserve. The proper atmosphere will keep him focused on the behavior and chores you have trained him for and eventually serving and obeying will be normal for him, feel natural, safe and make him very happy. 

I want to explain the proper atmosphere as it relates to normal everyday life for most people, so you can relate to the importance of his atmosphere; Some people go to nightclubs because of the atmosphere. The atmosphere is the people, the place, and the surroundings. There is music that sets the mood for dancing, a bartender that will get your drinks made, people to socialize and dance with, and of course the possible hook up....It is a party and booty call atmosphere and everyone knows why they are at the bar because it has that specific atmosphere that says just that. Work also has its own atmosphere, you have a known time you start and get off, you have tasks to preform, you know what your job is and you know your there to do that job. There are other people there including a boss that interact with you for or about your job, and you know you have to be professional about your job, your there for only one reason, to do your job. Both these atmospheres are uniquely different but both set your mind frame for that particular environment. You wouldn't party and drink at work because you know there would be consequences, you would get fired, and you wouldn't even be able to do your work at a bar atmosphere. The female domination (FEMDOM) atmosphere is exactly the same, you can not mix your wife and Mistress lives, it cannot be both it has to be one or the other! Femdom atmosphere will have the same effect and relay the message to your bitch that you are in control, that he is only there to serve you, that he will obey and that he will have consequences and be punished for disobedience. In short, if you want to be a successful Mistress and Dominatrix, with cuckolding, and have an obedient submissive bitch, YOU HAVE TO BE HIS DOM and keep him in the proper Femdom atmosphere everyday. 

          The proper Femdom atmosphere doesn't just enforce his place as your submissive and force his willingness to obey, it defines you! It strengthens your dominance and makes you superior to him. It also liberates you and makes you feel powerful, builds your character, helps you transition into a position of power, keeps you on task and in the mindset of a Dom. Its natural and it also feels good, makes you happy, builds self esteem, turns you on and makes you horny, plus makes cuckolding or dating a boyfriend more erotic and pleasurable. But it also stops normal vanilla stuff (like stress, arguments, or fights, etc.) from happening and/or destroying your progress especially if dating a boyfriend. When you act as a Dom, dress as a Dom, speak like a Dom, punish like a Dom, and most importantly think like a dom, you become the Dom you need to be, and he will instinctively submit and obey you like you deserve. There is no grey area, there can be NO EXCUSE from you, you must be the DOM and live this atmosphere 24/7/365. Find a way to work around kids, work, friends or family. You are in control, you give the orders, you create and dictate the atmosphere, just as you dictate the training, chores, and the rules you want him to obey. So it is your responsibility to give him the atmosphere that he can transform in, that he can thrive in as a proper submissive and again, you must keep him in that proper atmosphere 24/7/365 to capitalize on his submission and obedience! You are physically, mentally, and chemically changing him to be the bitch you want and deserve. You are emasculating, degrading, punishing and breaking his will to bring out the submission you deserve. This is a lot of change for his mind and body, especially the chemical changes he must endure to truly become your bitch, especially if training to be a sissy. Being an aggressive, cruel and ruthless dominant while creating a strict atmosphere will force his transition into submissive bitch or sissy bitch and force him to want to serve and obey you. The proper atmosphere with severe punishments will help keep him in the submissive state and from rebelling or fighting the change. The atmosphere your sub lives in every day will help keep his mindset on the training and behavior you expect and want out of him. So its in your best interest to Be a strict, ruthless, cruel, dominating, humiliating and sadistic Dom, plus keep him very horny, submissive, and in the atmosphere that dictates he is only there to serve and obey you. You do not want him confused about his place and purpose to you, especially if your dating a full time boyfriend. You want him in complete understanding that he is your bitch and his only purpose is to serve and obey you, he is not an equal, he has no rights, no input or say so, only serving! 

          The atmosphere you want him in is that of a submissive bitch or sissy, and it should include all faucets of Femdom, cruelty, bondage, torture, and especially heavy cuckolding. Yes, you getting fucked regularly and often with cuckolding or taking a full time boyfriend is part of the correct atmosphere. In fact, cuckolding him is vital for his humiliation, emasculation, and transformation to a submissive bitch, plus key for developing a sissy as it is forced physical submission to an alpha male. The atmosphere should also consist of a very strict routine for, cleaning the house and chores, a routine for when he gets home, how and when he eats (dog bowel), how and when he sleeps, When and how he serves guest (or boyfriend). Also a specific place for kneeling (at your feet, beside the bed, etc.), how he knells, where he looks or what he does while he is kneeling, and how he shows submission. NOTE* it is vital and extremely important that the atmosphere must include lots of humiliation (physical and mental), physical torture (CBT, fun whipping, electrical play etc.) mind or mental fucking, forced bi-play (being used by another male) for sissy's, foot and ass worship time, groveling and begging to serve. You must be forceful, and dominating at all times and give severe punishments for every violation. Make him acknowledge, agree, answer and repeat your verbal humiliation and training. But just as important and also the key to the proper atmosphere and his true submission is your attitude and demeanor towards him, and the way that you speak to him. Remember, you are a Dom not his wife or equal and he is there for only one purpose, to serve and obey! You  should always (even in public) be strict, demanding, degrading, very aggressive and cruel towards him. SPEAK TO HIM AS A SUB BITCH. You must understand and accept that he is your bitch, that his purpose is to serve and obey you, nothing more than a tool to service you and make your life better. think of him as your bitch THERE IS NO MORE HUBBY AND WIFE, NO MORE EQUALS! You must treat him as such showing no mercy, and careless of his feelings or thoughts to anything. You must be very strict and ruthless with a demanding demeanor, and an aggressive speaking voice. The way you dress, (both dom wear and street cloths) as well as the sex appeal you give off is also important to keeping him submissive. A successful Mistress never fights, argues, or shows weakness and uses her slave to the best of his ability. She uses her imagination and experiments with new ways to have fun, humiliate or punish him. She thinks outside the box, uses all her tools, props, and toys for training and play. She keeps him guessing what's next, how much humiliation will he suffer, how much pain will he be in, and pushes his boundaries which will push him to the ultimate submission. A bitch can not resist a strict, dominant female, it is his nature to submit and serve her and he will never be happier then being on his knees at your feet.

          Another important factor or tool to keep the proper atmosphere is to always call him "bitch" or "sissy" or penis slurs that pops in your mind like, "cum slut, cock slut, or cock whore" or anything else humiliating you can think of. You always have him in the proper attire for the occasion, be it panties, maid outfit, lingerie, heals, etc. You should have him kneeling at all times, even in public if possible or if your a die-hard Dom bitch and don't care, then especially do it in public. After all nothing shows power like a bitch who submits to his mistress in public or around her friends but especially her boyfriend. Also he must be naked or in sissy panties as much as possible to keep him in the submissive role. Your goal and mindset is to be a cruel, ruthless, and a sadistic bitch, to control him, to make him fear you, your not there to please him or care of his thoughts and feelings. He is your property, he has no thoughts, no input, no say so at all, just serving and obeying. Another very good tool for the proper atmosphere is restricting his movement (while kneeling, chores, or in public), walking him on a leash, wearing a collar at all times possible or even buying him a chain necklace that represents his submission (you can find then at the mall, on ebay, amazon, or temu, aliexpress) and its a replacement for his wedding ring. Your interactions with him will always be as his mistress and it should never include small talk, normal communication, play time, or anything else that would give him the impression he is an equal, has input, or has value for anything other than service.  You understand why right?  You have to decide what is it that you truly want out of him or from him, a husband and equal someone that has say so or something much better, a bitch that belongs to you, to serve and obey you! As a bitch, he is only there to serve and obey, his purpose is to make your life easier by serving and obeying, suffering humiliation, handing over his paycheck, paying for pussy he will never have, paying for the privilege of being on his knees serving you. UNDERSTANDABLY due to kids, work, etc. some normal interaction may be necessary at times, however your demeanor should always be as the authority, keep it as minimal as possible, and at times when it is less distracting to him (like in bed or at the end of the night). Female Domination (Femdom) is a belief that as a woman you should be in control of your bitch, it is a 24/7/365 lifestyle and only successful if you put in the time and effort, and do as described above.

          Through the atmosphere, you want to convey that his place is kneeling and serving you, his Mistress. You want him to show him that this is his natural place, his purpose, and that this is where he belongs AND you want him there from now on. He must take you serious and you must make him believe that his only purpose to you, is serving and obeying. How can he take you serious if you don't take it serious by keeping him in the proper atmosphere, in his place, and enforce rules and punishments. You want him to know this is real, this is what you want and believe it should be, this is his reality from now on, SO MAKE HIM BELIEVE YOU ARE SERIOUS!! How can you do this, well for starters you need to make a list of rules and chores and then make sure he follows them exactly every day. He must always address you as Mistress and you call him his sub name you choose. You must not show weakness and you need to train hard to have him focus on your rules and chores as well as the type of behavior you want from him. That doesn't mean you have to put in long hours of training although the more each day you can the better. My normal is 1 1/2 hours and I can make 1 1/2 hours of hard serious training seem like 3 hours. It's all in your attitude, demeanor, dominance, cruelty, the way you talk, dress, punish and humiliate him while your in training. Making him beg, repeat or answer humiliating comments, and admit he is your bitch and will obey any orders you demand. Tell him what you want, what you expect from him, explain his role for cuckolding, his chores, and his place. Remember the goal is to develop the type of submissive you want and you will get out of him what you put into him, so be precise with exactly what you want from him and by him. Remember to be dominate, strict and punish severely for disobedience. Once you create a routine, and force him to live and be that desired slave, with time it will become his routine, natural, and normal for him. It will become what he wants to be, to please you, his mistress (the one who controls his pleasures). Again he will never be happier then when he is on his knees serving and obey you.

          When it comes to cuckolding and your sex, this is for your enjoyment and pleasure, not his. It is not a show put on for your bitch (other than humiliating him) or an act you do to please him. As such when, where and how or how often you have sex is completely up to you, it is simply none of his business especially if you have a serious relationship with a boyfriend!!! He should never ask question or question you about your sex and this is a major rule breaking. It is however part of the atmosphere, and most of his sexual humiliation, so IT IS A MUST to involve your bitch in some way, but how he is involved is up to you. He could (on his knees watch), he could listen kneeling in a corner or outside the door (or from his cage or on the phone), he could participate in some sexual way (loose or tied down). If on occasions for some reason none of these are possible (you are away or staying at your boyfriends house) then you could just put your cum filled panties over his head with the spot to his nose when you get home and describe the sex in detail as you tease his clitty and humiliate him. If he is completely denied pussy, you may choose on most occasions**** Anyway you can think of is fine as long as it involves him, however it is vital that he always clean up all (even his) cum mess in some manner humiliating or otherwise. It is very common practice for a Mistress to date or have a boyfriend that has no knowledge of her bitch, or even knowing of her lifestyle. So the bitch may only be allowed to listen, sneak peaks for weeks or months to that particular BF until something changes it. However, most Doms choose to have a sex partner that knows about the situation or has more than one sex partners for back up sex and to give the added humiliation of watching. In any case, as I said he must always do clean up duty, this includes his mess from precum or milking. Your sex gives the much needed extreme humiliation, but its always about your pleasure and you enjoying it, so if he is permitted to watch then he must be on his knees, or in a corner, or a place that you say he must remain until you allow him to move to clean up the mess. Also, it is very very important (especially if your bitch is watching) for you to show your sex partner that your enjoying sex and sound like your enjoying it so that he knows he is pleasing you. EXAMPLE: Moan when sucking his cock, like you really enjoy it - moan very loudly when getting fucked, even louder when cumming  - grab the sheets in your hands and pull tight when fucked doggie style -  do positions you wouldn't do with the bitch - tell him several times how much you love his cock and how big it is - play with his cock through his pants - suck his cock in public where possible to do so - treat pussy and sex as its his, when ever he wants it - dress sexy for him including lingerie and don't let the bitch see you wear it until after your boyfriend has (or not at all) - shave pussy hair the way that turns on your boyfriend (ask him) and let the bitch know and show him  - let him come over for late night sex - do make-up, hair, nails, or wear clothes the way he likes it - talk dirty or get talked to dirty and let the bitch over hear you - have a 3 or 4-some with your boyfriend, male and/or female - have him leave sucker marks on your breast or inner thighs or other places that you can expose for the bitch to see that shows you were naked and having hot foreplay prior to sex - get excited when getting ready or planning to go see your boyfriend -  anything you can think of that shows you love and prefer sex with the boyfriend. If possible and with the right boyfriend/bull the bitch should serve in ways to show submission like holding your cloths, giving condoms as needed, fetching towels or water, providing lube, and doing cleaning up after, don't forget to make him clean up from sex as well (like throwing away used condoms/ rappers or garbage away, making bed or picking up sheets etc.

          Afterwards, you need to give extreme humiliation about how much bigger and better the guy was, (rather he was watching or listening) how much you love the sex and prefer it, how the bitch could never make you cum like that, and how much of a bitch he is. Next, you need to be the Dominatrix and live it everyday, it is your place and he will respect you and accept intimacy or a serious involvement  with your boyfriend for being the proper Dom. He will also behave and react better about your boyfriend with you being the strict Dom you should be. You also must treat him as the slave or bitch he is and never give him a reason to think he is anything else but your bitch. AGAIN, this means no socializing or small talk with the submissive, his purpose is cleaning and serving you, not discussing work, your plans, or about your best girlfriend. Talking with him normally or socially creates false objectives and will give him the impression that he has a different place or role....He does not. You need to be very dominate and strict, being vocal and speaking with a firm demanding voice when dealing with your submissive. Again, this is how it must be to convey his place and his purpose. This is not an event for him, this is not play time, fun, or make believe, IT IS HIS PLACE, and his purpose from now on. It must be real, it must be serious, and it must be lived exactly like that or as I said, its just a game to him which will give him the false pretense that he has a say or can stop when he chooses. He does not, and he will not react this way or negatively if you show him otherwise. Again adding to the atmosphere you must keep him naked and kneeling at all times possible, you must make him worship your ass and feet, he must grovel at your feet and you must continuously make him state his place and purpose to you as well as you tell him this. Forcing him to live as a your sub, preform sub duties, treated as your sub, talked to as your sub, punished as your sub, and he will be your sub, but more importantly he will believe he is your sub and know its real, that this is what you want from him.  

          Have you ever wondered what make other Doms so successful, or how Pro-doms are so good at it, how all these women do as they please, get what they want and even flaunt it in public and to the world. Because they are not shy or embarrassed about who they are, they have realized and embraced their power. They know and believe they are the superior sex and demand submission from their males. They don't make excuses or think they will do better tomorrow, they think like Doms, understand and do what they need to in order to control their men. NOTHING is to extreme nothing is to humiliating, nothing is going to far, and they are very aggressive, dominant, cruel, kinky, ruthless and punish severely. There really is no grey area about this because you either live the lifestyle or you don't. Anything else and its just for fun or spicing up the dull sex, so you can't be upset when things don't go the way you want or you find yourself in a confrontation with him about your boyfriend or him wanting sex or disobeying an order. You can't claim to be a Dominatrix and have a true submissive if you don't live that every minute of every day and force him to be the submissive you want every minute of every day. Now don't get me wrong, that's not saying that you have to go around the house wearing your black leather outfit with your cane in your hand beating your sub, although that does sound fun and may be needed at times, its not piratical all the time. What it means is that 99% of your actions, decisions, and interactions with your sub should be done as a Dominatrix, never a wife, and you treating him as the bitch you want him to be. Sub's don't sit next to their Doms, they don't play games on phones or consoles, they don't go out with the boy's, they don't watch TV, and they don't do as they want. They do as they are told, they ask for permissions, they knell, they clean, they don't speak, they serve and obey! AS I SAID, if you train him correctly, treat him correctly, and punish him correctly, you won't have to do much more than speak in a firm voice to make him obey any order you give. You may be married, but it is no longer as husband and wife, you are married as Mistress and bitch. You are not equals, and you don't answer to him or ask for anything, you demand. You make the rules and he is the submissive, he begs for permissions, he obeys you, he cleans the house, and he hands over the paycheck. You need to realize that you can't treat him as an equal partner or even a man, he is not and if you wanted that from him you wouldn't be here reading this. You must create the atmosphere of a Dom and slave relationship, you must live it and it must be 24/7/365. It is you that must make the commitment to be what you want, have what you want, and get what you want. You are the boss, you are in control, you do as you want, you make the rules, you are the women, the mistress and the complete and only authority in the house. You must be exactly this, be aggressive to create this, be strict to control this, humiliating and punish to enforce this. You are no loner his wife, his care taker, or anything else other than his Mistress or Dom and he should fear you and what happens when he doesn't obey you or follow rules. You have the power, be smart and live life the way that turns you on!! With all this said, you do still love him but you can love him as your bitch, your intimacy should be at proper times (like around friends and family and at night in bed) Some Doms still choose to have intimate sex (make love) but most do not, in that case I recommend strap-on sex to fulfill the much needed intimacy between you and your submissive. When, where and how is always your choosing but on average its done once a month (unless more is needed). Remember you get out what you put in, so train exactly the way you want him to be. I heavily advise you to read this several times and keep it handy for reference. 

The Bull, The Boyfriend

I know there is mention of Bulls and boyfriends, and even lovers through out my blog but I wanted to write something specific and update the topic.

BOYFRIENDS 
Boyfriends just like bulls have a unique roll to to play in your fun and lifestyle. The main difference between the boyfriend is that he does not interact with your sub and the majority of the time doesn't even know he exist. Boyfriends can be kinky or even freaky, and all guys love a kinky girl in bed, but he may not be into cuckolding and BDSM. Plus he may not be able to handle the fact that you have a significant other, even though he is just your bitch. For those reasons you choose not to tell him of your current lifestyle, and this is best as it allows you to fuck that hot guy your attracted to for as long as you like with out fear of him running away scared. Never the less, boyfriends can be just as much fun as a Bull and are actually vital to a well rounded Fem Dom lifestyle. They add the element of unknowing, suspense, and even jealousy to the sub, and for you the passion, thrill, seduction, and chase that all women thrive for. Boyfriends are chosen as boyfriends for the above reasons but also these are the guys that you are attracted to, make you wet, and want to spend time with. That's not to say that you couldn't feel the same about a Bull or that a Bull couldn't also be a boyfriend, but typically Bulls are less attractive (sometimes barely fuckable, even if that) and are mainly there for the humiliation and deeper submission of your sub....But I'll discuss more on that later. Of course your Boyfriends doesn't have to be a total hunk, its just that you actually have an attraction of some kind to him or he may very well be hot. With that in mind, I wouldn't focus to much on looks or you may be searching for a long time. Instead, find an attraction and go with it because there is plenty of time down the road to find a better looking boyfriend. And you should always be looking!

As I said boyfriends are guys that you are attracted to and you want to spend time with them....Out to dinner, or a movie, or concert, or what ever and then back to his place for some hot passionate sex. Because you want to spend time with them for activities, dates, and sex, your boyfriends are also the guys that you will completely replace your sub with. After all, your subs only purpose to you is support, cleaning, and obeying. Replacing your sub for your boyfriend means you would buy lingerie for him, dress and look sexy for him (let your sub know your doing it all to turn on your boyfriend), go on dates with him, and he is the one you go to for sex as you are essentially dating him. This includes going over to his house for late night sex, early morning sex, lunch time sex, or on the way home from work sex. At some point you may even opt to spend the night, which can be exciting, especially for middle of the night sex or early morning pounding before you go home. With that said, typically, these are also the guys you would want to stop using a condom with early on, you are dating and it is his pussy now right? This gives you better feeling for sex, orgasm, and allows you greater humiliation of your sub. Telling your sub its your boyfriends pussy from now on and bring home a cum filled pussy for him to see as proof. Not using a condom is very humiliating, but being made to clean the mess fuels humiliation and submission (Even just the smell of your sex can bring powerful feelings of submission from him). After all your sex is his sex, even if its with a blind fold on cleaning the after math of your pleasure in how ever manner you choose.

Some Doms choose to date or even be a little serious with that one guy they can't get enough of, thus putting the relationship with the sub as strictly a service bitch. This may be your choice as well, but regardless you should try to include your sub as much as possible with your boyfriend, especially if he will only be your bitch. Do this by having him help you get ready/dressed but only when your not wearing lingerie for him as the lingerie is for your boyfriends eyes only. Also make your sub can take you and pay for(waiting outside the store as you shop) lingerie or sexy clothes for him, or you could show him when you get back what sexy clothes or lingerie you made him buy for your boyfriend. Even listening over the phone from time to time while you get fucked, which is both humiliating and arousing for the sub. Another humiliating thing to consider, and this helps with involving your sub, is that you need to tell him details about your fun night. Especially the sex part; positions, how loud you were screaming, how well and long he fucked you, how many and how strong your orgasms were, how much bigger his cock is (even if its not much bigger, tell him it is) etc. You must tell him about this stuff to keep him involved and jealousy in check. This also keeps him from thinking bad things, I can't tell you enough how much this helps. You will also want to peg him, this will help relate you going on dates and getting fucked to his reward/pleasure (but only peg every 3rd or 4th time you get fucked). Its better if you can peg him immediately when you get home as the effects are far stronger.  Plus you can tell him about the sex as you prepare him for pegging, but either way put your cum filled panties over his head to his nose and tell him about how they got that way. Be creative when including your sub, humiliation is key. Again, including your sub will help him deal with any anxiety or jealousy feelings and it also adds to the humiliation. Its good to have him feel a little bit jealous as it helps keep him submissive but keeping that in check will prevent problems down the road. This is also another reason to be really strict, making him follow all rules and punish for disobeying. Especially if you find that one guy that you want to date long term. Failing to do your part as the Dom will cause problems and I guarantee 100% this new relationship and lifestyle will crash.

You can find boyfriends just about anywhere, out at a bar or club, online dating sites, Tinder, or even Craigslist. There are also Swinger sites that host an assortment of single men who are already into seeing and dating married women. You could even meet one out at a store shopping or getting your oil changed. It doesn't matter where you meet a guy but you can't be shy or nervous to go talk to them. You don't want the guy that caught your attention to get away, so go talk to him....Who cares if he ended up having a girlfriend or what ever but you must try. You should always be looking, and for that reason you should also always look your best. It doesn't even matter if your out with your sub, for all the guy knows is that's your brother or a friend. This brings up another point, you should flirt and talk to guys all the time (unless with a boyfriend or Bull) in front of your sub, make comments about hot guys and the bulge in their pants to help humiliate him.

You can have as many boyfriends as you can handle, but I recommend at least 2 even if your dating. Even if you find that special boyfriend that you can't get enough of. This will help keep things from getting to serious as you could develop more feelings than you should if you had just 1 boyfriend. Its okay to really like a guy, but the L word should never be in the equation. You must remember, even though you are dating another man or men, this is just sex. Its great sex, but just sex and should always be about the sex. The extra stuff involved is just to make the sex better and more exciting but also to help humiliate and submit your sub. If you feel you may be developing feelings, it is your responsibility to end the relationship immediately. You should also never hide anything, no sneaking around or deleting text, you don't have to answer for it, so if you do hide it, it makes you look guilty. This includes not telling you met up with your boyfriend, (not telling is the same as hiding it, and its also not including your sub which you have to do) erasing messages, or phone calls. Besides if anything ever did happen you'll have them as proof. Again, you don't have to answer for anything you do so don't hide it. Also, you need to keep your boyfriend in check if he becomes to clingy. Be careful, you don't want to push him away, just explain that you don't want it to serious. Explain that you like it how it is. Just about any guy can deal with having a girlfriend who gives him sex (especially with out condoms) when ever he wants, goes out with him, and occasionally spends the night if told no more serious than that. Use your best judgment to decide if its time to move on.

BULLS
Bulls are where the real fun begins and are the epitome of humiliation for your sub. Bulls bring humiliation unmatched by anything else you could do (shy of another female), and every Dom should have at least one or two Bulls. Just by the very fact another man is present and knows of your situation can be very humiliating for your sub, let alone any participation he would have. Bulls are also more likely to have bigger cocks and while the sex usually lacks the passion you would get from a boyfriend, its has power and drive that can be erotic, which is the best sex you can have. Plus it has the added feature of humiliation and involvement of your sub. Of course sex and the type of sex varies from Bull to Bull and Boyfriend to Boyfriend, so if you find that one bull or boyfriend that fucks you really good, makes you wet and you can't quit thinking about the hot sex you have with him, don't let him go!

A Bulls role has multiple aspects in the BDSM/cuckolding lifestyle. First, he can be a sex partner or only for forced anal and oral sex on the sub if you choose that (called being used). Many Doms have bulls that only come to use the sub. Second, he will help humiliate your sub, both verbally and physically, and help you with idea's. Third, he can help with punishments and bondage/positions. Lastly, he gives visual aid and proof as nothing is better than hearing you say his cock is so much bigger than yours and he fucks me way better than you ever could then seeing that bigger cock make you moan and scream to every mind blowing orgasm. As I said above, Bulls are mainly used for the humiliation of your sub, the greater the humiliation, the deeper into submission he will be. There are few things that are on the level of humiliation and arousal at the same time as watching you get fucked while seeing and hearing you scream and moan to that bigger better cock, orgasm after orgasm. These examples also really turn on your Bull and boyfriend as all men find it hot when a girl is sexy; You should be loud when moaning and even louder when you climax (this lets every one know you did, which humiliates the sub and the guy know he is doing the right moves to make you orgasm. Your body actions should show that you love that bigger cock, really arching your back and grabbing the mattress or sheets when being fucked dogie style. Laying your legs out wide to allow him full and deep penetration when fucked missionary style. Also hands under his arms grabbing his back/slight nails in his back switching up with grabbing his ass. Making facial expressions that you never made with your sub that show pure ecstasy and pleasure (again the sub knows you never did that with him, and the guys is extremely turned on that he is rocking your world). You should not be shy to act dirty and talk dirty (all men love that and really love a sexually involved girl) enjoying yourself and show that you are! You also want to make it humiliating by saying comments to the Bull and to the sub about the sex and cock size. Things like, "I love your cock" , "his cock is so much bigger than yours", "he fucks me way better than you", "your cock feels so good", " He hits that spot you can't reach", think of your own as well. After your finished, there are fewer ways more humiliating than having to lick clean the mess, especially if made to do so in front of the bull. Depending on your training , you may have to adapt how its cleaned to suit your situation.

Probably the most humiliating and submissive act you could do to your sub is have him serve and obey your bull and adding forced oral and anal. Having to call him Master, Sir, Boss, or Sire and kneeling and obeying, leading to forced oral or anal, followed by watching or listening to you scream and moan to his bigger cock reinforces the subs only place as a submissive. This can be compounded by him watching up close and using him to pleasure you or the Bull by licking/sucking your ass, toes, nipples or sucking on his balls or cock. Its up to you on how you use the bull to help you, your only limited by your imagination and kink level. DO NOT BE SHY, do what ever ways turn you on and don't be afraid to tell the bull what you want done and what pleases you. That is his purpose there and he knows this, plus he is just as turned on as you by the fact he is in the presence of a dominant women and gets to join in the fun. Trust me, he is a Bull for a reason!

Do not be hung up (pun intended) on looks or dress when it comes to finding a Bull, the most important thing is his cock size and his willingness/experience to be a bull. Lets not forget this is about humiliation for your sub and your participation level is up to you, its also a good way to let your sub be involved even if its not the way he prefers. Some of the best sex I've had has come from guys I was not into at first. Also  a big, big, no no, NEVER say negative things about your boyfriend or bull to your sub, remember this is supposed to be great for you, best sex ever, bigger cock, a real man, thinking about his cock all the time, all the things that make this humiliating for your sub. So don't ruin it by comments or remarks that contradict the humiliation your trying to give. This means if problems arise between you and him, you don't like a certain way he does something, or what ever, keep it to yourself. Its hard to find a Bull and far harder to find a good looking Bull, so as I said before, looks are not important, focus on reason he is there. The best places to find one are; Craig's List - BDSM web sites, like Alt.com, BDSM.com, Passion.com, BDSMSingles.com AdultfriendFinder.com - joining BDSM forums and groups, like FetLife and Collar Space. Place an Ad with pics neck down for yourself, but also place one for him. This is very humiliating to him that you have pics of him waist down wearing a chastity as well as pics of him in bondage soliciting a male to use him . The AD should read" looking for a Bull or alpha male to Dom my bitch" or something along those lines. It must be you that sets it up and all meetings, and only you meet at first. Then once you have found one or several Bulls or Alpha's and figured out whats going to happen, its time to play with your sub. Do not explain anything to your sub, you don't need his approval (the humiliation is the surprise as well as the event) plus its none of his business what you plan, just do it.


When you find one, tell him what you want and how you want it done. Don't be afraid to explore and ask him his input. You need to pick a name that turns you on for your sub to address him, like Bull, Master, Sir, Boss, or Sire. Remember Training is important, you don't want to jump right into having your sub suck his cock (unless you have been training him from the start). You need to train him to do this, which includes you wearing a dildo harness and having your sub suck it, among other things like a long hard caning while explaining he will eventually suck cock or be severely punished. Your subs chastity should always be on when the Bull comes over. Starting out; Your sub will always be on his knees, and at first only serve you directly. When its time for sex the first time start with just humiliation and him watching (up close even) and some participation like sucking your toes. The second time; again have him kneeling at all times and only serve you directly. However this time when its time for sex, its time to do forced cock sucking. Have him in bondage and position of some sort and a mouth spreader in to show he has no choice. Begin by undressing the Bull and yourself, then foreplay (sucking tits, cock and pussy) for a few minutes. Then have the  bull go over and stick his cock into your subs mouth. Make sure he spends a few minutes fucking his mouth and at the same time you cane his ass and tell him to get use to it. Now its time for sex and humiliation, once finished the Bull should go the your sub and again fuck his mouth.  You will do this for the first 4 or 5 times of sex with the bull and remember to train as well. After that; you want your sub on his knees sucking your Bulls cock hard for you and sucking it in between your sex with him. If he refuses, you have not caned him long or hard enough and put your dildo in his mouth enough. But if it does happen, put the mouth spreader in and force him to, as you welt up his ass bright red and blue. When the Bull comes over, be creative and change things up from time to time. You want to make this extremely humiliating for him, so that he is compelled to be submissive and believes his place is serving you. Some things to do; one of you fucking the sub while the other gets cock sucking (remember to be humiliating and smack his ass), Making the sub suck your dildo stuck to a wall while you guys fuck, knell him in the corner after he has sucked your bull hard. Use him while you guys have sex. Come up with things that turn you on and use your toys, Blind fold, ball gag, mouth spreader, dildo's, bondage equipment, crop, cane, what ever you have. Again, experiment, explore, and have fun, you will find that this will turn you on immensely. Something else to consider is finding a Bull or alpha male (bi or gay even) who's only purpose is to dom and use your sub. Either with you there or while you spend the night at your boyfriends. Your choice, but remember its all about the humiliation! *note Strict training and punishments will need to be used for this.

Bull or Boyfriend, you should be having sex regularly, at least 3-4 times a week. You must show that you love the sex, that you want to have it, and can't wait to get it. That it last longer and is way better with them over your sub. On the same note, again once you've found the Bull or boyfriend with that awesome cock, and you really love the sex with him, don't let him go and keep your sub involved one way or another.  Enjoy!    
  
   

Serving Two Dom's,

                                SERVING TWO DOM'S

STORY BY MISTRESS TORI


My story is probably not unlike yours, as I think every dominant woman has to find the power inside to take her natural place as the authority in the household. For me it took about a year to realize to get what I wanted from him I had accept that I needed to change my whole demeanor and outlook on what our relationship use to be, to how its supposed to be and how I really wanted it. This was just as important as training, if not more, in order to help bring out the submission in him and keep him submissive. All the training in the world doesn't help if you don't keep him in his place outside of training, make rules and enforce them with punishments.  I had to stop looking at our relationship as a married couple with equality and treat it as a matriarch, me as the Dominant and him as the submissive. I had to envision that I wanted him on his knees serving me, but also serving me properly, and there is a major difference in being properly served. To get that I had to become the ruthless sadistic bitch I read about from so many other Blogs by Dominatrix. I had to do things to him that he didn't believe I had the power or ability to do, I had to be ruthless. I wanted him to show his submission to me every minute of the day, open doors, pulling out my chair, calling me Mistress, bowing his head as I spoke or stood up in his presence, rubbing and worshiping my feet and ass etc. I didn't want any back talk, or him questing me, and I certainly didn't want to have him interfere with who I fucked. Yes just like many thousands of other women in this lifestyle, I got a taste of power and great sex and I never wanted to give that up. But as much as I love the bigger dicks and far better sex, and I mean I do love it, I love him serving and obeying me just as much, well almost! I want to be in charge, and do as I please and fuck whom I want when I want. I don't want to ask him or get an ok from him to do anything, that's not how it supposed to be, plus I love to hear him beg to serve me and watch him obey my every command. I also love to see him kneeling naked in front of me with his tiny worm penis locked in his pink chastity and I love hearing him scream in pain from the punishments he gets for not obeying me properly. So to get what I wanted I was going to have to be mean and strict, sadistic, controlling and dominant. I was also going to need enforce the rules I laid out and punish him severely for every rule he broke with out going easy on him, and I did. I was very strict, and spoke to him with a strong forceful tone of voice. I made him follow every rule 24/7 and made him scream and beg me to stop from punishments for not following orders or rules. He had welts and bruises on his ass for days and if he failed in submission the second or third day, he got another round harder and longer than before.  After I made those adjustments and really enforced the rules and chores, I noticed a big change in his attitude and willingness to submit. I followed all the Dominatrix guides of training, no pussy, no orgasms, chastity, etc. and changed the cuckolding theme by adding a Bull to the list of guys I would fuck on a regular basis.

I don't know why, maybe its the alpha male thing but there was always a difference in his submission when I fucked other men, especially if he was able to see or hear it. But by increasing the number of times I got fucked a week and adding a Bull to the mix, it made a significant difference. That's when I really noticed a major change in in how submissive he would be, not to mention how powerful it made me feel and how much it really turned me on. You see, the fear of punishments forced him to obey with out question or backtalk, but it was him seeing and knowing that I really loved being fucked by more endowed men and preferred sex with them over him that made his submission more sincere. Especially if able to watch, or hear me moan and scream from all the orgasms I'd have, because he would really know just how much I enjoyed their dicks over his. After all he could never make me moan or scream, especially not the way the a much bigger dick did. That's why a Bull is perfect, because he doesn't care if the bitch is watching or listening from the corner or another room. He actually is turned on by putting the bitch in his place and rubbing his nose in the fact I prefer sex with him over my bitch, especially the fact he is in chastity and completely denied pussy. There is no real way to describe the impact of being able in inflict humiliation on that level that only a bull can bring. I'm talking everything from verbal and watching us fucking up close so he can smell the sex, to forced oral and pegging, to even punishments. Of course we had to build up to the serious humiliation aspects of it, especially the first time he was made to lick another mans cum up. At first John (my Bull) and I took it slow by doing basic stuff like me humiliating him about how small his dick was, especially compared to Johns, and telling him how much I loved John's dick over his (done with John present or while fucking him). I always tied him down one way or another, sometimes allowed to watch and sometimes being blind folded or cornered, only able to listen. He would also fetch us drinks and towels for after sex, and even made to buy lingerie for me to wear for John and Condoms for John to fuck me with (that helped add to the humiliation). After the forth play date John and I both started humiliating him, and I would put my sub in one bondage position (so he couldn't move or resist) or another with a mouth spreader in and John would fuck his mouth for a bit prior to sex with me (its called fluffing, and its very humiliating). After 4 or 5 more dates of forced oral and hard training which included him sucking my dildo added with a mixture of hard leather strap and caning lashes while shouting orders to suck that big dick and please it like a good little sissy bitch, as well as other humiliation. I explained how to do it and If he didn't do a good job, I hit him more, at first few times he was getting 200 or more hits. Lets just say he learned real quick how to properly suck a dick. It was also explained and drilled into his mind that he would be sucking Johns dick promptly when ordered. Then I explained that resisting an order to suck john would result in the mouth spreader being inserted and forced to do it anyway followed by 300 leather and caning lashes and loss of free time, privileges, and his allowance for a month. He realized there was nothing he could do but accept sucking Johns dick especially after repeating this the next 5 days. Now we started forcing him to suck John hard prior to our fucking. I would of course have the cane in hand and swat his ass 4 or 5 times hard to get him motivated as he was ordered to suck Johns dick. I even hit his ass hard a few times while he sucked it, telling him to suck it better, like a good sissy slut. Shortly there after, we occasionally made him service us before, during or after sex especially for clean up duty. After a month or so, John was ordering him around as much as me, and I must say it really turned me on. John would have me wear my strap-on and have him suck it while he smacked his ass and we both humiliated him about being a bitch and becoming a sissy. He would then have him suck his cock as I caned him, and then order me to fuck him. Hearing my Sub moan while gagging trying to suck Johns cock turned us both on immensely, which lead to me leaving my dildo shoved in his ass and some hot passionate sex with me and John! 

As one month turned into two months, John and I started fucking with out condoms and by now my Sub was very submissive and quite the little sissy bitch. It was John's pussy and he was no longer allowed to see or touch Johns pussy, which really took the humiliation up to a new level. We had started making him wear panties and he served John with equal amounts of submissiveness as he would me. I would even take him to Johns house to clean or wash his car as we fucked with the bedroom door open so he could hear me scream with every mind blowing orgasm, and I had many of those every time we fucked! Regardless who's house we were fucking at, after we would finish, John or I would call him in to first kneel at our feet and thank John for pleasing me the way he never could and for taking pussy away from him so that he could focus on serving us better. Then he was ordered to smell the cum spot on the sheet, then lick the sheets clean as we both humiliated him and degraded him about how much of a pathetic sissy bitch he was and that this would be his place from now on. Then John would have him suck the pussy juice and cum off his dick as I would kiss John and use my fingers to scoop out as much cum as I could and finger feed it to him. This was in lieu of him licking my pussy clean since John forbid him to touch or see it, unless it was for humiliation during sex. Even then that was only a few times a month. We would use him every way we could think of to enhance our sex, humiliate and degrade him, and punish him. He would be kneeling naked with his little chastity on, at our feet while we watched a movie, or ate dinner (he would cook or pay for it and serve it) or just had foreplay before sex. All of this turned me on so much, I never knew I could get so hot and wet, especially when John started fucking my sub (at my prompt and request that it would turn me on).

John knew it humiliated my sub to be treated as a bitch by us, but to be fucked by him when ever he wanted, (especially if I was on my period) really made him feel humiliation on a different level.  But then he was informed that his tiny pecker would be permanently lock away and treated like a sissy slut from now on. We both knew this was the no turning back point for my Sub, to take his submission to the highest level, and I really wanted it. I wanted him serving me for life. I wanted to fuck whom ever I wanted, when ever I wanted with him being the perfect little sissy bitch, cleaning and serving me the whole time. John made sure he knew we owned him and his anal pussy. And sissy knew it from the first time John fucked him with out a condom, and told him why. Cause we owed his pussy ass, and his pussy was there to give his big dick pleasure, no different from his mouth. The first time my sub was not very vocal, and I don't think he enjoy it. He was very humiliated at being taken by a much larger dick than his and knowing this would be his fate on a regular basis. But I didn't care if he liked it, or wanted it, he was going to become a full time sissy bitch! Now he is a true sissy bitch, and his only purpose is to serve and obey me, which is exactly what I wanted. John did not wait for his tight ass to accept his dick, he slid it in slowly and immediately started fucking. He would however start off slow before he starting pounding him. It really turned me on watching him get taken for the first time, but even more so in the days to come as my sub eventually started accepting Johns cock. He would moan and scream as John fucked his ass into submission. Having my sub scream out when he said, who's bitch are you?, "Your bitch Master!!", You want me to own that pussy, don't you? "yes master, please own my pussy!!". It really, really turned me on to hear him scream and moan into submission by John while listening to the lock on his chastity smack back and forth from the intensity of John pounding him. I have never been so turned on as when I watch my sissy bitch scream and moan from taking big dick. It is certainly the only way my sissy bitch has ever pleased me, or turned me on for that matter. I sometimes watch and get myself off while John pounds his pussy.

John would smack his ass hard as he pounded him, telling him to squeeze his pussy muscles tight on his dick, sometimes he would stop fucking him, grab him by the hair of the head and tell him, "this isn't for your pleasure bitch, its mine, now squeeze those fucking pussy muscles harder and hold it tight for me", followed by a series of hard ass smacks and my sub saying "yes master". I could tell he was squeezing johns cock with all he had because his face was squinting and he wasn't moaning as loud. John would pull out and cum on his ass, my feet, or my tits for him to lick off. Eventually it became the norm that my Sub would obey John and routinely suck and get fucked by John. This was great because as I said I had stopped touching his tiny member and locked it away permanently, so getting fucked by me or John, or whom ever I said, was his reward for becoming my lifetime sissy bitch. This was the best kind of reward because fucking him would build his need for release as it teased him because anal fucking does not give orgasm only pleasure that builds and goes no where. I also started dating a another female that I met online (I didn't mix her with John), and believe it or not, she was more strict and humiliating than me and John. She wasn't real attractive, slightly butch as they say, but she was kinky and had an open mind (which is what I really wanted because of the femdom thing). She was especially cruel and degrading, finding was to humiliate and make him suffer, like; fucking him with a ice dildo - icy hot on his balls - a ball stretcher with small needle/pins in it- spitting or pissing on his face- making him run ads on bi/gay web sites and then made to service these guys - instead of milking him she would tie him all four limbs to bed post and smack his balls with a crop steadily and firmly until they released cum(I didn't even know that was possible) - use ice on his balls until they were numb then drip hot candle wax on them to burn back the sensation - make him shave all pubic and under arm hair - She would use ginger root in his ass while she mercilessly used a cane on his ass until his bottom was black and blue (4 or 5 hundred hits) - and even doming him in public when the three of us were out. Of course he was also never allowed to touch her pussy, but he did give her oral and lots of asshole licking, especially as she rode my strap on. She used a strap on dildo to fuck him while I used one on her or in his mouth. This ended up with us girls tying him down on all four's with a butt plug in, a blind fold on and made to suck a dildo while we fucked each other and played. We almost always finished by making him lick the dildo's clean, as we took turns fucking him. She just took it to another level of fun with my sissy, and I still play with other men, and John. I could never go back to a husband and wife life because I couldn't be more happier or sexually satisfied than I am now. Besides, even though it took some time to show him his natural place, my bitch is just as happy and sexually fulfilled participating in my sexual pleasure, as it should be. Who knew welting his ass up severely and being a cruel, dominant slut would make me this happy and give me the best life with the best sex I ever had. Looking back my only regret is that I should have done this sooner, and wish I would have realized it was my own fault that I didn't use my power properly or be the dominant I should have been. With that said, if you don't have your bitch obeying you properly or find him rebelling or resisting your control, its YOUR fault not his because your the one with the power to make it happen! Hopefully my story helps you make the changes you need to in order to get what you want.