Proper punishments

I had a Mistress send me this the other day...This is a good example of using a cane to punish your slave for breaking rules. Notice how these Doms are enjoying themselves, they are relentless with spanking him, and make sure at the end his ass is bruised and welted up. This is not just a enjoyment or teaching spanking during training, this is a punishment spanking and meant to deter rule breaking and it is meant to be remembered. I counted over 200 hits in the full Video, which makes this about an average punishment, had he broked a major rule this would have been way higher as I will show below in other clips. The only thing I would have done different is tie or bound him down better so he could not move and take every hit to its fullest impact.


A good Mistress doesn't care about how much pain she inflicts, he deserves every minute of his punishment and it will help him be a better slave to her. Watch how she uses different instruments for whipping to inflict a variety of pain on him. The cane (both ratted and nylon), the leather paddle strap, and the leather whip are best for give extreme pain that can be given for long hard whippings with out numbing the butt or causing long term damage...But must be used correctly. Wood or rubber paddles are not for long spankings they can do more damage and numb the skin making the punishment less effective but are effective in small amounts, about 3 or 4 every so often.


In this clip the Mistress is very serious about his rule breaking and back talking. This is a very good example of of how to punish for major rule breaking or any rule breaking you don't want him to repeat. A spanking like this on his ass will turn him into a very sincere and completely submissive bitch for the next couple of days, and its then that you will see the difference in a disciplined slave.  She doesn't care about his crying or scream out (he has on a muzzle under his mask to dampen the sound) and you shouldn't care, in fact if he is screaming or even crying them the spanking is doing its job. The only 2 things wrong here is that she did not tie him down (because he is a seasoned slave and taught moving will bring even worse punishment), ALWAYS TIE DOWN and she is not humiliating and reinforcing his place or scolding him for his bad actions. Something else which is not necessarily bad is I never whip my bitch on the back for punishment, only the butt. If I do whip his back or tops of his legs where they meet his ass, I don't leave marks, in other words the hits are lighter or not at all. Marks in this are can be seen by other people, family or kids and there is no way to explain this, so you should refrain from hitting him there.


OK I've shown you some good clips of punishments, this one is a bad one. She is correct in the seriousness of the violation and inflicting pain to discourage future rule breaking. For the most part she is also doing good in hitting him consecutively (whipping one after another). However, she is hitting him with extreme force and eventually starts hitting with all she has. Through out this she breaks several instruments which shows she is hitting to hard. Then she switches to a paddle and continues to hit him with all she has which completely tears up his ass and far beyond acceptable marks and an effective punishment. When you beat like this you kill skin, muscle and nerve fibers,  dead skin and nerves fibers don't yield pain so at that point your just hitting meat. Not to mention the time it will take to heel will be months and the possible infections being that close to his ass hole when wiping. A hit should be firm and hard, never with all your might especially with a paddle. 20 to 30 hard consecutive hits is great and needed, especially to correct bad behavior but after that give a minute or two before hitting his ass again. Take that time to smack his balls or his face even. In the full video he is hit over 400 times, which may be needed or warranted for continued rule breaking or back talk. This is acceptable but only with proper hitting impact, and the 1-2 minute breaks in between each instrument. And always reinforce his place, humiliate, and scold for his bad behavior, and tell him how he is to act from then on. Always monitor his bruising and marks and adjust hits accordingly.



There is a difference between a punishment spanking and a training spanking. 

When training, you spank to bring attention to your words so that he is listening to what you are saying. This is why you would tell him your rules, tell him his chores, state his place, or humiliate him during a training spanking. You would be more relaxed and maybe even laugh at how pleased you are that his ass is bright red. It should be hard and firm and leave welts and red marks on his ass for a few days. You would hit him 100 to 150 times with 10-15 times in a row and switch from instrument to instrument (if wanted) while continuing to shout demands or orders. This pain is done to help him soak in all that you say but also as a deterrent for future rule breaking.

When giving a punishment spanking it is meant to be remembered, this will help deter him from future infractions. It should be hard enough and long enough with the correct welts and bruising for him to feel it for a week or so.  You must be very serious and speak in a firm voice. During the entire whipping you will scold him about his rule breaking/disobeying and also remind him of his place, the rules and whats expected out of him. Towards the end of the spanking you will put a ball gag in to block the sound and whip for at least another 40-50 times but harder and even faster. Then remove the ball gag and allow him to beg for you to stop, but you will not, you will spank for at least another 20 to 30 hits or longer but you will stop when you feels he is ready not because he begs. 

The Atmosphere of BDSM

                           The Atmosphere

          The atmosphere is a reference to the total environment your sub lives in everyday, how he lives and experiences being your submissive bitch. It is a combination of your attitude, your demeanor, your actions and communication as you interact with your sub. Along with enforcement's (chores, routines, rules etc.) dress and attire (chastity, panties, sissy maid outfit, etc.), his position and placement for serving and submission (naked on his knees, eating from the floor or dog dish, etc.) events and actions (made to serve friends or service your bull, etc.), training, humiliation, and severe punishments for disobedience and rule breaking. Everything you do, say, and act towards him should always be done as his Mistress, his VERY CRUEL, STRICT, and SADISTIC DOM to exhibit your power and control over him and get his complete obedience and submission to you.  

          You are here because you are a Dom, do not doubt this is your natural place, so be the Dom you need to be in order to get what you deserve. Force him into his natural place and train him to be the bitch you want and deserve. Do not put up with any BS or accept anything but his obedience and submission. Living the part and actually being a Dom is extremely important as you are mentally and physically conditioning your bitch to submit, to serve and to obey....To do as he is told with no back talk. Make no mistake, the atmosphere is vital as it is a very heavy influence on his submission, obedience, and his continued submission (after training) with eagerness to obey at all times. Submission, obedience, and servitude is his new reality and its fully expressed and defined by the atmosphere he trains and serves in 24/7/365. Meaning if you are not a proper dom, soft on him, or allow rule breaking and back talk, then that is exactly what you will get and then some. If you are strict, dominant, cruel and sadistic then you will get a very submissive and obedient bitch. You will get out of him exactly what you train him for, and there is no such thing as to harsh, to extreme, to mean, or to cruel....Truth be told he needs this from you just as much as you need to be this way towards him. His atmosphere needs to be cruel, aggressive, demanding, very strict, and backed by rules and severe punishments in order to accept his natural place as your submissive bitch. Your demeanor must be as a ruthless, sadistic, Dom to affirm your control and his submission. You create the atmosphere and the atmosphere you create is just as important as training and punishments because it's what helps keep his mind submissive and on task before, during, and after training. It also keeps ongoing training to a minimal after he has been broken, emasculated, and turned into your submissive bitch.

            Being a cruel Dom, and after he is trained very hard, broken, emasculated, chastised, and exposed to the proper atmosphere everyday, he will become more and more submissive. He will get weaker and weaker as his true submissive side become exposed, losing his defiance, his false manhood, and his will, giving up all control, and his feeble attempts to resist his natural place, completely submitting to your control, and power over him. He will be your completely submissive bitch, accepting his place to serve and obey you, but more importantly he will understand this is how its meant to be, he will desire to serve and beg you to be there on his knees. He will embrace it, get excited and derive pleasure from serving and obey you, and all you have to do is take your natural place being a cruel sadistic bitch to him. This will give you the pampered life you deserve. The proper atmosphere will keep him focused on the behavior and chores you have trained him for and eventually serving and obeying will be normal for him, feel natural, safe and make him very happy. 

I want to explain the proper atmosphere as it relates to normal everyday life for most people, so you can relate to the importance of his atmosphere; Some people go to nightclubs because of the atmosphere. The atmosphere is the people, the place, and the surroundings. There is music that sets the mood for dancing, a bartender that will get your drinks made, people to socialize and dance with, and of course the possible hook up....It is a party and booty call atmosphere and everyone knows why they are at the bar because it has that specific atmosphere that says just that. Work also has its own atmosphere, you have a known time you start and get off, you have tasks to preform, you know what your job is and you know your there to do that job. There are other people there including a boss that interact with you for or about your job, and you know you have to be professional about your job, your there for only one reason, to do your job. Both these atmospheres are uniquely different but both set your mind frame for that particular environment. You wouldn't party and drink at work because you know there would be consequences, you would get fired, and you wouldn't even be able to do your work at a bar atmosphere. The female domination (FEMDOM) atmosphere is exactly the same, you can not mix your wife and Mistress lives, it cannot be both it has to be one or the other! Femdom atmosphere will have the same effect and relay the message to your bitch that you are in control, that he is only there to serve you, that he will obey and that he will have consequences and be punished for disobedience. In short, if you want to be a successful Mistress and Dominatrix, with cuckolding, and have an obedient submissive bitch, YOU HAVE TO BE HIS DOM and keep him in the proper Femdom atmosphere everyday. 

          The proper Femdom atmosphere doesn't just enforce his place as your submissive and force his willingness to obey, it defines you! It strengthens your dominance and makes you superior to him. It also liberates you and makes you feel powerful, builds your character, helps you transition into a position of power, keeps you on task and in the mindset of a Dom. Its natural and it also feels good, makes you happy, builds self esteem, turns you on and makes you horny, plus makes cuckolding or dating a boyfriend more erotic and pleasurable. But it also stops normal vanilla stuff (like stress, arguments, or fights, etc.) from happening and/or destroying your progress especially if dating a boyfriend. When you act as a Dom, dress as a Dom, speak like a Dom, punish like a Dom, and most importantly think like a dom, you become the Dom you need to be, and he will instinctively submit and obey you like you deserve. There is no grey area, there can be NO EXCUSE from you, you must be the DOM and live this atmosphere 24/7/365. Find a way to work around kids, work, friends or family. You are in control, you give the orders, you create and dictate the atmosphere, just as you dictate the training, chores, and the rules you want him to obey. So it is your responsibility to give him the atmosphere that he can transform in, that he can thrive in as a proper submissive and again, you must keep him in that proper atmosphere 24/7/365 to capitalize on his submission and obedience! You are physically, mentally, and chemically changing him to be the bitch you want and deserve. You are emasculating, degrading, punishing and breaking his will to bring out the submission you deserve. This is a lot of change for his mind and body, especially the chemical changes he must endure to truly become your bitch, especially if training to be a sissy. Being an aggressive, cruel and ruthless dominant while creating a strict atmosphere will force his transition into submissive bitch or sissy bitch and force him to want to serve and obey you. The proper atmosphere with severe punishments will help keep him in the submissive state and from rebelling or fighting the change. The atmosphere your sub lives in every day will help keep his mindset on the training and behavior you expect and want out of him. So its in your best interest to Be a strict, ruthless, cruel, dominating, humiliating and sadistic Dom, plus keep him very horny, submissive, and in the atmosphere that dictates he is only there to serve and obey you. You do not want him confused about his place and purpose to you, especially if your dating a full time boyfriend. You want him in complete understanding that he is your bitch and his only purpose is to serve and obey you, he is not an equal, he has no rights, no input or say so, only serving! 

          The atmosphere you want him in is that of a submissive bitch or sissy, and it should include all faucets of Femdom, cruelty, bondage, torture, and especially heavy cuckolding. Yes, you getting fucked regularly and often with cuckolding or taking a full time boyfriend is part of the correct atmosphere. In fact, cuckolding him is vital for his humiliation, emasculation, and transformation to a submissive bitch, plus key for developing a sissy as it is forced physical submission to an alpha male. The atmosphere should also consist of a very strict routine for, cleaning the house and chores, a routine for when he gets home, how and when he eats (dog bowel), how and when he sleeps, When and how he serves guest (or boyfriend). Also a specific place for kneeling (at your feet, beside the bed, etc.), how he knells, where he looks or what he does while he is kneeling, and how he shows submission. NOTE* it is vital and extremely important that the atmosphere must include lots of humiliation (physical and mental), physical torture (CBT, fun whipping, electrical play etc.) mind or mental fucking, forced bi-play (being used by another male) for sissy's, foot and ass worship time, groveling and begging to serve. You must be forceful, and dominating at all times and give severe punishments for every violation. Make him acknowledge, agree, answer and repeat your verbal humiliation and training. But just as important and also the key to the proper atmosphere and his true submission is your attitude and demeanor towards him, and the way that you speak to him. Remember, you are a Dom not his wife or equal and he is there for only one purpose, to serve and obey! You  should always (even in public) be strict, demanding, degrading, very aggressive and cruel towards him. SPEAK TO HIM AS A SUB BITCH. You must understand and accept that he is your bitch, that his purpose is to serve and obey you, nothing more than a tool to service you and make your life better. think of him as your bitch THERE IS NO MORE HUBBY AND WIFE, NO MORE EQUALS! You must treat him as such showing no mercy, and careless of his feelings or thoughts to anything. You must be very strict and ruthless with a demanding demeanor, and an aggressive speaking voice. The way you dress, (both dom wear and street cloths) as well as the sex appeal you give off is also important to keeping him submissive. A successful Mistress never fights, argues, or shows weakness and uses her slave to the best of his ability. She uses her imagination and experiments with new ways to have fun, humiliate or punish him. She thinks outside the box, uses all her tools, props, and toys for training and play. She keeps him guessing what's next, how much humiliation will he suffer, how much pain will he be in, and pushes his boundaries which will push him to the ultimate submission. A bitch can not resist a strict, dominant female, it is his nature to submit and serve her and he will never be happier then being on his knees at your feet.

          Another important factor or tool to keep the proper atmosphere is to always call him "bitch" or "sissy" or penis slurs that pops in your mind like, "cum slut, cock slut, or cock whore" or anything else humiliating you can think of. You always have him in the proper attire for the occasion, be it panties, maid outfit, lingerie, heals, etc. You should have him kneeling at all times, even in public if possible or if your a die-hard Dom bitch and don't care, then especially do it in public. After all nothing shows power like a bitch who submits to his mistress in public or around her friends but especially her boyfriend. Also he must be naked or in sissy panties as much as possible to keep him in the submissive role. Your goal and mindset is to be a cruel, ruthless, and a sadistic bitch, to control him, to make him fear you, your not there to please him or care of his thoughts and feelings. He is your property, he has no thoughts, no input, no say so at all, just serving and obeying. Another very good tool for the proper atmosphere is restricting his movement (while kneeling, chores, or in public), walking him on a leash, wearing a collar at all times possible or even buying him a chain necklace that represents his submission (you can find then at the mall, on ebay, amazon, or temu, aliexpress) and its a replacement for his wedding ring. Your interactions with him will always be as his mistress and it should never include small talk, normal communication, play time, or anything else that would give him the impression he is an equal, has input, or has value for anything other than service.  You understand why right?  You have to decide what is it that you truly want out of him or from him, a husband and equal someone that has say so or something much better, a bitch that belongs to you, to serve and obey you! As a bitch, he is only there to serve and obey, his purpose is to make your life easier by serving and obeying, suffering humiliation, handing over his paycheck, paying for pussy he will never have, paying for the privilege of being on his knees serving you. UNDERSTANDABLY due to kids, work, etc. some normal interaction may be necessary at times, however your demeanor should always be as the authority, keep it as minimal as possible, and at times when it is less distracting to him (like in bed or at the end of the night). Female Domination (Femdom) is a belief that as a woman you should be in control of your bitch, it is a 24/7/365 lifestyle and only successful if you put in the time and effort, and do as described above.

          Through the atmosphere, you want to convey that his place is kneeling and serving you, his Mistress. You want him to show him that this is his natural place, his purpose, and that this is where he belongs AND you want him there from now on. He must take you serious and you must make him believe that his only purpose to you, is serving and obeying. How can he take you serious if you don't take it serious by keeping him in the proper atmosphere, in his place, and enforce rules and punishments. You want him to know this is real, this is what you want and believe it should be, this is his reality from now on, SO MAKE HIM BELIEVE YOU ARE SERIOUS!! How can you do this, well for starters you need to make a list of rules and chores and then make sure he follows them exactly every day. He must always address you as Mistress and you call him his sub name you choose. You must not show weakness and you need to train hard to have him focus on your rules and chores as well as the type of behavior you want from him. That doesn't mean you have to put in long hours of training although the more each day you can the better. My normal is 1 1/2 hours and I can make 1 1/2 hours of hard serious training seem like 3 hours. It's all in your attitude, demeanor, dominance, cruelty, the way you talk, dress, punish and humiliate him while your in training. Making him beg, repeat or answer humiliating comments, and admit he is your bitch and will obey any orders you demand. Tell him what you want, what you expect from him, explain his role for cuckolding, his chores, and his place. Remember the goal is to develop the type of submissive you want and you will get out of him what you put into him, so be precise with exactly what you want from him and by him. Remember to be dominate, strict and punish severely for disobedience. Once you create a routine, and force him to live and be that desired slave, with time it will become his routine, natural, and normal for him. It will become what he wants to be, to please you, his mistress (the one who controls his pleasures). Again he will never be happier then when he is on his knees serving and obey you.

          When it comes to cuckolding and your sex, this is for your enjoyment and pleasure, not his. It is not a show put on for your bitch (other than humiliating him) or an act you do to please him. As such when, where and how or how often you have sex is completely up to you, it is simply none of his business especially if you have a serious relationship with a boyfriend!!! He should never ask question or question you about your sex and this is a major rule breaking. It is however part of the atmosphere, and most of his sexual humiliation, so IT IS A MUST to involve your bitch in some way, but how he is involved is up to you. He could (on his knees watch), he could listen kneeling in a corner or outside the door (or from his cage or on the phone), he could participate in some sexual way (loose or tied down). If on occasions for some reason none of these are possible (you are away or staying at your boyfriends house) then you could just put your cum filled panties over his head with the spot to his nose when you get home and describe the sex in detail as you tease his clitty and humiliate him. If he is completely denied pussy, you may choose on most occasions**** Anyway you can think of is fine as long as it involves him, however it is vital that he always clean up all (even his) cum mess in some manner humiliating or otherwise. It is very common practice for a Mistress to date or have a boyfriend that has no knowledge of her bitch, or even knowing of her lifestyle. So the bitch may only be allowed to listen, sneak peaks for weeks or months to that particular BF until something changes it. However, most Doms choose to have a sex partner that knows about the situation or has more than one sex partners for back up sex and to give the added humiliation of watching. In any case, as I said he must always do clean up duty, this includes his mess from precum or milking. Your sex gives the much needed extreme humiliation, but its always about your pleasure and you enjoying it, so if he is permitted to watch then he must be on his knees, or in a corner, or a place that you say he must remain until you allow him to move to clean up the mess. Also, it is very very important (especially if your bitch is watching) for you to show your sex partner that your enjoying sex and sound like your enjoying it so that he knows he is pleasing you. EXAMPLE: Moan when sucking his cock, like you really enjoy it - moan very loudly when getting fucked, even louder when cumming  - grab the sheets in your hands and pull tight when fucked doggie style -  do positions you wouldn't do with the bitch - tell him several times how much you love his cock and how big it is - play with his cock through his pants - suck his cock in public where possible to do so - treat pussy and sex as its his, when ever he wants it - dress sexy for him including lingerie and don't let the bitch see you wear it until after your boyfriend has (or not at all) - shave pussy hair the way that turns on your boyfriend (ask him) and let the bitch know and show him  - let him come over for late night sex - do make-up, hair, nails, or wear clothes the way he likes it - talk dirty or get talked to dirty and let the bitch over hear you - have a 3 or 4-some with your boyfriend, male and/or female - have him leave sucker marks on your breast or inner thighs or other places that you can expose for the bitch to see that shows you were naked and having hot foreplay prior to sex - get excited when getting ready or planning to go see your boyfriend -  anything you can think of that shows you love and prefer sex with the boyfriend. If possible and with the right boyfriend/bull the bitch should serve in ways to show submission like holding your cloths, giving condoms as needed, fetching towels or water, providing lube, and doing cleaning up after, don't forget to make him clean up from sex as well (like throwing away used condoms/ rappers or garbage away, making bed or picking up sheets etc.

          Afterwards, you need to give extreme humiliation about how much bigger and better the guy was, (rather he was watching or listening) how much you love the sex and prefer it, how the bitch could never make you cum like that, and how much of a bitch he is. Next, you need to be the Dominatrix and live it everyday, it is your place and he will respect you and accept intimacy or a serious involvement  with your boyfriend for being the proper Dom. He will also behave and react better about your boyfriend with you being the strict Dom you should be. You also must treat him as the slave or bitch he is and never give him a reason to think he is anything else but your bitch. AGAIN, this means no socializing or small talk with the submissive, his purpose is cleaning and serving you, not discussing work, your plans, or about your best girlfriend. Talking with him normally or socially creates false objectives and will give him the impression that he has a different place or role....He does not. You need to be very dominate and strict, being vocal and speaking with a firm demanding voice when dealing with your submissive. Again, this is how it must be to convey his place and his purpose. This is not an event for him, this is not play time, fun, or make believe, IT IS HIS PLACE, and his purpose from now on. It must be real, it must be serious, and it must be lived exactly like that or as I said, its just a game to him which will give him the false pretense that he has a say or can stop when he chooses. He does not, and he will not react this way or negatively if you show him otherwise. Again adding to the atmosphere you must keep him naked and kneeling at all times possible, you must make him worship your ass and feet, he must grovel at your feet and you must continuously make him state his place and purpose to you as well as you tell him this. Forcing him to live as a your sub, preform sub duties, treated as your sub, talked to as your sub, punished as your sub, and he will be your sub, but more importantly he will believe he is your sub and know its real, that this is what you want from him.  

          Have you ever wondered what make other Doms so successful, or how Pro-doms are so good at it, how all these women do as they please, get what they want and even flaunt it in public and to the world. Because they are not shy or embarrassed about who they are, they have realized and embraced their power. They know and believe they are the superior sex and demand submission from their males. They don't make excuses or think they will do better tomorrow, they think like Doms, understand and do what they need to in order to control their men. NOTHING is to extreme nothing is to humiliating, nothing is going to far, and they are very aggressive, dominant, cruel, kinky, ruthless and punish severely. There really is no grey area about this because you either live the lifestyle or you don't. Anything else and its just for fun or spicing up the dull sex, so you can't be upset when things don't go the way you want or you find yourself in a confrontation with him about your boyfriend or him wanting sex or disobeying an order. You can't claim to be a Dominatrix and have a true submissive if you don't live that every minute of every day and force him to be the submissive you want every minute of every day. Now don't get me wrong, that's not saying that you have to go around the house wearing your black leather outfit with your cane in your hand beating your sub, although that does sound fun and may be needed at times, its not piratical all the time. What it means is that 99% of your actions, decisions, and interactions with your sub should be done as a Dominatrix, never a wife, and you treating him as the bitch you want him to be. Sub's don't sit next to their Doms, they don't play games on phones or consoles, they don't go out with the boy's, they don't watch TV, and they don't do as they want. They do as they are told, they ask for permissions, they knell, they clean, they don't speak, they serve and obey! AS I SAID, if you train him correctly, treat him correctly, and punish him correctly, you won't have to do much more than speak in a firm voice to make him obey any order you give. You may be married, but it is no longer as husband and wife, you are married as Mistress and bitch. You are not equals, and you don't answer to him or ask for anything, you demand. You make the rules and he is the submissive, he begs for permissions, he obeys you, he cleans the house, and he hands over the paycheck. You need to realize that you can't treat him as an equal partner or even a man, he is not and if you wanted that from him you wouldn't be here reading this. You must create the atmosphere of a Dom and slave relationship, you must live it and it must be 24/7/365. It is you that must make the commitment to be what you want, have what you want, and get what you want. You are the boss, you are in control, you do as you want, you make the rules, you are the women, the mistress and the complete and only authority in the house. You must be exactly this, be aggressive to create this, be strict to control this, humiliating and punish to enforce this. You are no loner his wife, his care taker, or anything else other than his Mistress or Dom and he should fear you and what happens when he doesn't obey you or follow rules. You have the power, be smart and live life the way that turns you on!! With all this said, you do still love him but you can love him as your bitch, your intimacy should be at proper times (like around friends and family and at night in bed) Some Doms still choose to have intimate sex (make love) but most do not, in that case I recommend strap-on sex to fulfill the much needed intimacy between you and your submissive. When, where and how is always your choosing but on average its done once a month (unless more is needed). Remember you get out what you put in, so train exactly the way you want him to be. I heavily advise you to read this several times and keep it handy for reference. 

The Bull, The Boyfriend

I know there is mention of Bulls and boyfriends, and even lovers through out my blog but I wanted to write something specific and update the topic.

BOYFRIENDS 
Boyfriends just like bulls have a unique roll to to play in your fun and lifestyle. The main difference between the boyfriend is that he does not interact with your sub and the majority of the time doesn't even know he exist. Boyfriends can be kinky or even freaky, and all guys love a kinky girl in bed, but he may not be into cuckolding and BDSM. Plus he may not be able to handle the fact that you have a significant other, even though he is just your bitch. For those reasons you choose not to tell him of your current lifestyle, and this is best as it allows you to fuck that hot guy your attracted to for as long as you like with out fear of him running away scared. Never the less, boyfriends can be just as much fun as a Bull and are actually vital to a well rounded Fem Dom lifestyle. They add the element of unknowing, suspense, and even jealousy to the sub, and for you the passion, thrill, seduction, and chase that all women thrive for. Boyfriends are chosen as boyfriends for the above reasons but also these are the guys that you are attracted to, make you wet, and want to spend time with. That's not to say that you couldn't feel the same about a Bull or that a Bull couldn't also be a boyfriend, but typically Bulls are less attractive (sometimes barely fuckable, even if that) and are mainly there for the humiliation and deeper submission of your sub....But I'll discuss more on that later. Of course your Boyfriends doesn't have to be a total hunk, its just that you actually have an attraction of some kind to him or he may very well be hot. With that in mind, I wouldn't focus to much on looks or you may be searching for a long time. Instead, find an attraction and go with it because there is plenty of time down the road to find a better looking boyfriend. And you should always be looking!

As I said boyfriends are guys that you are attracted to and you want to spend time with them....Out to dinner, or a movie, or concert, or what ever and then back to his place for some hot passionate sex. Because you want to spend time with them for activities, dates, and sex, your boyfriends are also the guys that you will completely replace your sub with. After all, your subs only purpose to you is support, cleaning, and obeying. Replacing your sub for your boyfriend means you would buy lingerie for him, dress and look sexy for him (let your sub know your doing it all to turn on your boyfriend), go on dates with him, and he is the one you go to for sex as you are essentially dating him. This includes going over to his house for late night sex, early morning sex, lunch time sex, or on the way home from work sex. At some point you may even opt to spend the night, which can be exciting, especially for middle of the night sex or early morning pounding before you go home. With that said, typically, these are also the guys you would want to stop using a condom with early on, you are dating and it is his pussy now right? This gives you better feeling for sex, orgasm, and allows you greater humiliation of your sub. Telling your sub its your boyfriends pussy from now on and bring home a cum filled pussy for him to see as proof. Not using a condom is very humiliating, but being made to clean the mess fuels humiliation and submission (Even just the smell of your sex can bring powerful feelings of submission from him). After all your sex is his sex, even if its with a blind fold on cleaning the after math of your pleasure in how ever manner you choose.

Some Doms choose to date or even be a little serious with that one guy they can't get enough of, thus putting the relationship with the sub as strictly a service bitch. This may be your choice as well, but regardless you should try to include your sub as much as possible with your boyfriend, especially if he will only be your bitch. Do this by having him help you get ready/dressed but only when your not wearing lingerie for him as the lingerie is for your boyfriends eyes only. Also make your sub can take you and pay for(waiting outside the store as you shop) lingerie or sexy clothes for him, or you could show him when you get back what sexy clothes or lingerie you made him buy for your boyfriend. Even listening over the phone from time to time while you get fucked, which is both humiliating and arousing for the sub. Another humiliating thing to consider, and this helps with involving your sub, is that you need to tell him details about your fun night. Especially the sex part; positions, how loud you were screaming, how well and long he fucked you, how many and how strong your orgasms were, how much bigger his cock is (even if its not much bigger, tell him it is) etc. You must tell him about this stuff to keep him involved and jealousy in check. This also keeps him from thinking bad things, I can't tell you enough how much this helps. You will also want to peg him, this will help relate you going on dates and getting fucked to his reward/pleasure (but only peg every 3rd or 4th time you get fucked). Its better if you can peg him immediately when you get home as the effects are far stronger.  Plus you can tell him about the sex as you prepare him for pegging, but either way put your cum filled panties over his head to his nose and tell him about how they got that way. Be creative when including your sub, humiliation is key. Again, including your sub will help him deal with any anxiety or jealousy feelings and it also adds to the humiliation. Its good to have him feel a little bit jealous as it helps keep him submissive but keeping that in check will prevent problems down the road. This is also another reason to be really strict, making him follow all rules and punish for disobeying. Especially if you find that one guy that you want to date long term. Failing to do your part as the Dom will cause problems and I guarantee 100% this new relationship and lifestyle will crash.

You can find boyfriends just about anywhere, out at a bar or club, online dating sites, Tinder, or even Craigslist. There are also Swinger sites that host an assortment of single men who are already into seeing and dating married women. You could even meet one out at a store shopping or getting your oil changed. It doesn't matter where you meet a guy but you can't be shy or nervous to go talk to them. You don't want the guy that caught your attention to get away, so go talk to him....Who cares if he ended up having a girlfriend or what ever but you must try. You should always be looking, and for that reason you should also always look your best. It doesn't even matter if your out with your sub, for all the guy knows is that's your brother or a friend. This brings up another point, you should flirt and talk to guys all the time (unless with a boyfriend or Bull) in front of your sub, make comments about hot guys and the bulge in their pants to help humiliate him.

You can have as many boyfriends as you can handle, but I recommend at least 2 even if your dating. Even if you find that special boyfriend that you can't get enough of. This will help keep things from getting to serious as you could develop more feelings than you should if you had just 1 boyfriend. Its okay to really like a guy, but the L word should never be in the equation. You must remember, even though you are dating another man or men, this is just sex. Its great sex, but just sex and should always be about the sex. The extra stuff involved is just to make the sex better and more exciting but also to help humiliate and submit your sub. If you feel you may be developing feelings, it is your responsibility to end the relationship immediately. You should also never hide anything, no sneaking around or deleting text, you don't have to answer for it, so if you do hide it, it makes you look guilty. This includes not telling you met up with your boyfriend, (not telling is the same as hiding it, and its also not including your sub which you have to do) erasing messages, or phone calls. Besides if anything ever did happen you'll have them as proof. Again, you don't have to answer for anything you do so don't hide it. Also, you need to keep your boyfriend in check if he becomes to clingy. Be careful, you don't want to push him away, just explain that you don't want it to serious. Explain that you like it how it is. Just about any guy can deal with having a girlfriend who gives him sex (especially with out condoms) when ever he wants, goes out with him, and occasionally spends the night if told no more serious than that. Use your best judgment to decide if its time to move on.

BULLS
Bulls are where the real fun begins and are the epitome of humiliation for your sub. Bulls bring humiliation unmatched by anything else you could do (shy of another female), and every Dom should have at least one or two Bulls. Just by the very fact another man is present and knows of your situation can be very humiliating for your sub, let alone any participation he would have. Bulls are also more likely to have bigger cocks and while the sex usually lacks the passion you would get from a boyfriend, its has power and drive that can be erotic, which is the best sex you can have. Plus it has the added feature of humiliation and involvement of your sub. Of course sex and the type of sex varies from Bull to Bull and Boyfriend to Boyfriend, so if you find that one bull or boyfriend that fucks you really good, makes you wet and you can't quit thinking about the hot sex you have with him, don't let him go!

A Bulls role has multiple aspects in the BDSM/cuckolding lifestyle. First, he can be a sex partner or only for forced anal and oral sex on the sub if you choose that (called being used). Many Doms have bulls that only come to use the sub. Second, he will help humiliate your sub, both verbally and physically, and help you with idea's. Third, he can help with punishments and bondage/positions. Lastly, he gives visual aid and proof as nothing is better than hearing you say his cock is so much bigger than yours and he fucks me way better than you ever could then seeing that bigger cock make you moan and scream to every mind blowing orgasm. As I said above, Bulls are mainly used for the humiliation of your sub, the greater the humiliation, the deeper into submission he will be. There are few things that are on the level of humiliation and arousal at the same time as watching you get fucked while seeing and hearing you scream and moan to that bigger better cock, orgasm after orgasm. These examples also really turn on your Bull and boyfriend as all men find it hot when a girl is sexy; You should be loud when moaning and even louder when you climax (this lets every one know you did, which humiliates the sub and the guy know he is doing the right moves to make you orgasm. Your body actions should show that you love that bigger cock, really arching your back and grabbing the mattress or sheets when being fucked dogie style. Laying your legs out wide to allow him full and deep penetration when fucked missionary style. Also hands under his arms grabbing his back/slight nails in his back switching up with grabbing his ass. Making facial expressions that you never made with your sub that show pure ecstasy and pleasure (again the sub knows you never did that with him, and the guys is extremely turned on that he is rocking your world). You should not be shy to act dirty and talk dirty (all men love that and really love a sexually involved girl) enjoying yourself and show that you are! You also want to make it humiliating by saying comments to the Bull and to the sub about the sex and cock size. Things like, "I love your cock" , "his cock is so much bigger than yours", "he fucks me way better than you", "your cock feels so good", " He hits that spot you can't reach", think of your own as well. After your finished, there are fewer ways more humiliating than having to lick clean the mess, especially if made to do so in front of the bull. Depending on your training , you may have to adapt how its cleaned to suit your situation.

Probably the most humiliating and submissive act you could do to your sub is have him serve and obey your bull and adding forced oral and anal. Having to call him Master, Sir, Boss, or Sire and kneeling and obeying, leading to forced oral or anal, followed by watching or listening to you scream and moan to his bigger cock reinforces the subs only place as a submissive. This can be compounded by him watching up close and using him to pleasure you or the Bull by licking/sucking your ass, toes, nipples or sucking on his balls or cock. Its up to you on how you use the bull to help you, your only limited by your imagination and kink level. DO NOT BE SHY, do what ever ways turn you on and don't be afraid to tell the bull what you want done and what pleases you. That is his purpose there and he knows this, plus he is just as turned on as you by the fact he is in the presence of a dominant women and gets to join in the fun. Trust me, he is a Bull for a reason!

Do not be hung up (pun intended) on looks or dress when it comes to finding a Bull, the most important thing is his cock size and his willingness/experience to be a bull. Lets not forget this is about humiliation for your sub and your participation level is up to you, its also a good way to let your sub be involved even if its not the way he prefers. Some of the best sex I've had has come from guys I was not into at first. Also  a big, big, no no, NEVER say negative things about your boyfriend or bull to your sub, remember this is supposed to be great for you, best sex ever, bigger cock, a real man, thinking about his cock all the time, all the things that make this humiliating for your sub. So don't ruin it by comments or remarks that contradict the humiliation your trying to give. This means if problems arise between you and him, you don't like a certain way he does something, or what ever, keep it to yourself. Its hard to find a Bull and far harder to find a good looking Bull, so as I said before, looks are not important, focus on reason he is there. The best places to find one are; Craig's List - BDSM web sites, like Alt.com, BDSM.com, Passion.com, BDSMSingles.com AdultfriendFinder.com - joining BDSM forums and groups, like FetLife and Collar Space. Place an Ad with pics neck down for yourself, but also place one for him. This is very humiliating to him that you have pics of him waist down wearing a chastity as well as pics of him in bondage soliciting a male to use him . The AD should read" looking for a Bull or alpha male to Dom my bitch" or something along those lines. It must be you that sets it up and all meetings, and only you meet at first. Then once you have found one or several Bulls or Alpha's and figured out whats going to happen, its time to play with your sub. Do not explain anything to your sub, you don't need his approval (the humiliation is the surprise as well as the event) plus its none of his business what you plan, just do it.


When you find one, tell him what you want and how you want it done. Don't be afraid to explore and ask him his input. You need to pick a name that turns you on for your sub to address him, like Bull, Master, Sir, Boss, or Sire. Remember Training is important, you don't want to jump right into having your sub suck his cock (unless you have been training him from the start). You need to train him to do this, which includes you wearing a dildo harness and having your sub suck it, among other things like a long hard caning while explaining he will eventually suck cock or be severely punished. Your subs chastity should always be on when the Bull comes over. Starting out; Your sub will always be on his knees, and at first only serve you directly. When its time for sex the first time start with just humiliation and him watching (up close even) and some participation like sucking your toes. The second time; again have him kneeling at all times and only serve you directly. However this time when its time for sex, its time to do forced cock sucking. Have him in bondage and position of some sort and a mouth spreader in to show he has no choice. Begin by undressing the Bull and yourself, then foreplay (sucking tits, cock and pussy) for a few minutes. Then have the  bull go over and stick his cock into your subs mouth. Make sure he spends a few minutes fucking his mouth and at the same time you cane his ass and tell him to get use to it. Now its time for sex and humiliation, once finished the Bull should go the your sub and again fuck his mouth.  You will do this for the first 4 or 5 times of sex with the bull and remember to train as well. After that; you want your sub on his knees sucking your Bulls cock hard for you and sucking it in between your sex with him. If he refuses, you have not caned him long or hard enough and put your dildo in his mouth enough. But if it does happen, put the mouth spreader in and force him to, as you welt up his ass bright red and blue. When the Bull comes over, be creative and change things up from time to time. You want to make this extremely humiliating for him, so that he is compelled to be submissive and believes his place is serving you. Some things to do; one of you fucking the sub while the other gets cock sucking (remember to be humiliating and smack his ass), Making the sub suck your dildo stuck to a wall while you guys fuck, knell him in the corner after he has sucked your bull hard. Use him while you guys have sex. Come up with things that turn you on and use your toys, Blind fold, ball gag, mouth spreader, dildo's, bondage equipment, crop, cane, what ever you have. Again, experiment, explore, and have fun, you will find that this will turn you on immensely. Something else to consider is finding a Bull or alpha male (bi or gay even) who's only purpose is to dom and use your sub. Either with you there or while you spend the night at your boyfriends. Your choice, but remember its all about the humiliation! *note Strict training and punishments will need to be used for this.

Bull or Boyfriend, you should be having sex regularly, at least 3-4 times a week. You must show that you love the sex, that you want to have it, and can't wait to get it. That it last longer and is way better with them over your sub. On the same note, again once you've found the Bull or boyfriend with that awesome cock, and you really love the sex with him, don't let him go and keep your sub involved one way or another.  Enjoy!    
  
   

Serving Two Dom's,

                                SERVING TWO DOM'S

STORY BY MISTRESS TORI


My story is probably not unlike yours, as I think every dominant woman has to find the power inside to take her natural place as the authority in the household. For me it took about a year to realize to get what I wanted from him I had accept that I needed to change my whole demeanor and outlook on what our relationship use to be, to how its supposed to be and how I really wanted it. This was just as important as training, if not more, in order to help bring out the submission in him and keep him submissive. All the training in the world doesn't help if you don't keep him in his place outside of training, make rules and enforce them with punishments.  I had to stop looking at our relationship as a married couple with equality and treat it as a matriarch, me as the Dominant and him as the submissive. I had to envision that I wanted him on his knees serving me, but also serving me properly, and there is a major difference in being properly served. To get that I had to become the ruthless sadistic bitch I read about from so many other Blogs by Dominatrix. I had to do things to him that he didn't believe I had the power or ability to do, I had to be ruthless. I wanted him to show his submission to me every minute of the day, open doors, pulling out my chair, calling me Mistress, bowing his head as I spoke or stood up in his presence, rubbing and worshiping my feet and ass etc. I didn't want any back talk, or him questing me, and I certainly didn't want to have him interfere with who I fucked. Yes just like many thousands of other women in this lifestyle, I got a taste of power and great sex and I never wanted to give that up. But as much as I love the bigger dicks and far better sex, and I mean I do love it, I love him serving and obeying me just as much, well almost! I want to be in charge, and do as I please and fuck whom I want when I want. I don't want to ask him or get an ok from him to do anything, that's not how it supposed to be, plus I love to hear him beg to serve me and watch him obey my every command. I also love to see him kneeling naked in front of me with his tiny worm penis locked in his pink chastity and I love hearing him scream in pain from the punishments he gets for not obeying me properly. So to get what I wanted I was going to have to be mean and strict, sadistic, controlling and dominant. I was also going to need enforce the rules I laid out and punish him severely for every rule he broke with out going easy on him, and I did. I was very strict, and spoke to him with a strong forceful tone of voice. I made him follow every rule 24/7 and made him scream and beg me to stop from punishments for not following orders or rules. He had welts and bruises on his ass for days and if he failed in submission the second or third day, he got another round harder and longer than before.  After I made those adjustments and really enforced the rules and chores, I noticed a big change in his attitude and willingness to submit. I followed all the Dominatrix guides of training, no pussy, no orgasms, chastity, etc. and changed the cuckolding theme by adding a Bull to the list of guys I would fuck on a regular basis.

I don't know why, maybe its the alpha male thing but there was always a difference in his submission when I fucked other men, especially if he was able to see or hear it. But by increasing the number of times I got fucked a week and adding a Bull to the mix, it made a significant difference. That's when I really noticed a major change in in how submissive he would be, not to mention how powerful it made me feel and how much it really turned me on. You see, the fear of punishments forced him to obey with out question or backtalk, but it was him seeing and knowing that I really loved being fucked by more endowed men and preferred sex with them over him that made his submission more sincere. Especially if able to watch, or hear me moan and scream from all the orgasms I'd have, because he would really know just how much I enjoyed their dicks over his. After all he could never make me moan or scream, especially not the way the a much bigger dick did. That's why a Bull is perfect, because he doesn't care if the bitch is watching or listening from the corner or another room. He actually is turned on by putting the bitch in his place and rubbing his nose in the fact I prefer sex with him over my bitch, especially the fact he is in chastity and completely denied pussy. There is no real way to describe the impact of being able in inflict humiliation on that level that only a bull can bring. I'm talking everything from verbal and watching us fucking up close so he can smell the sex, to forced oral and pegging, to even punishments. Of course we had to build up to the serious humiliation aspects of it, especially the first time he was made to lick another mans cum up. At first John (my Bull) and I took it slow by doing basic stuff like me humiliating him about how small his dick was, especially compared to Johns, and telling him how much I loved John's dick over his (done with John present or while fucking him). I always tied him down one way or another, sometimes allowed to watch and sometimes being blind folded or cornered, only able to listen. He would also fetch us drinks and towels for after sex, and even made to buy lingerie for me to wear for John and Condoms for John to fuck me with (that helped add to the humiliation). After the forth play date John and I both started humiliating him, and I would put my sub in one bondage position (so he couldn't move or resist) or another with a mouth spreader in and John would fuck his mouth for a bit prior to sex with me (its called fluffing, and its very humiliating). After 4 or 5 more dates of forced oral and hard training which included him sucking my dildo added with a mixture of hard leather strap and caning lashes while shouting orders to suck that big dick and please it like a good little sissy bitch, as well as other humiliation. I explained how to do it and If he didn't do a good job, I hit him more, at first few times he was getting 200 or more hits. Lets just say he learned real quick how to properly suck a dick. It was also explained and drilled into his mind that he would be sucking Johns dick promptly when ordered. Then I explained that resisting an order to suck john would result in the mouth spreader being inserted and forced to do it anyway followed by 300 leather and caning lashes and loss of free time, privileges, and his allowance for a month. He realized there was nothing he could do but accept sucking Johns dick especially after repeating this the next 5 days. Now we started forcing him to suck John hard prior to our fucking. I would of course have the cane in hand and swat his ass 4 or 5 times hard to get him motivated as he was ordered to suck Johns dick. I even hit his ass hard a few times while he sucked it, telling him to suck it better, like a good sissy slut. Shortly there after, we occasionally made him service us before, during or after sex especially for clean up duty. After a month or so, John was ordering him around as much as me, and I must say it really turned me on. John would have me wear my strap-on and have him suck it while he smacked his ass and we both humiliated him about being a bitch and becoming a sissy. He would then have him suck his cock as I caned him, and then order me to fuck him. Hearing my Sub moan while gagging trying to suck Johns cock turned us both on immensely, which lead to me leaving my dildo shoved in his ass and some hot passionate sex with me and John! 

As one month turned into two months, John and I started fucking with out condoms and by now my Sub was very submissive and quite the little sissy bitch. It was John's pussy and he was no longer allowed to see or touch Johns pussy, which really took the humiliation up to a new level. We had started making him wear panties and he served John with equal amounts of submissiveness as he would me. I would even take him to Johns house to clean or wash his car as we fucked with the bedroom door open so he could hear me scream with every mind blowing orgasm, and I had many of those every time we fucked! Regardless who's house we were fucking at, after we would finish, John or I would call him in to first kneel at our feet and thank John for pleasing me the way he never could and for taking pussy away from him so that he could focus on serving us better. Then he was ordered to smell the cum spot on the sheet, then lick the sheets clean as we both humiliated him and degraded him about how much of a pathetic sissy bitch he was and that this would be his place from now on. Then John would have him suck the pussy juice and cum off his dick as I would kiss John and use my fingers to scoop out as much cum as I could and finger feed it to him. This was in lieu of him licking my pussy clean since John forbid him to touch or see it, unless it was for humiliation during sex. Even then that was only a few times a month. We would use him every way we could think of to enhance our sex, humiliate and degrade him, and punish him. He would be kneeling naked with his little chastity on, at our feet while we watched a movie, or ate dinner (he would cook or pay for it and serve it) or just had foreplay before sex. All of this turned me on so much, I never knew I could get so hot and wet, especially when John started fucking my sub (at my prompt and request that it would turn me on).

John knew it humiliated my sub to be treated as a bitch by us, but to be fucked by him when ever he wanted, (especially if I was on my period) really made him feel humiliation on a different level.  But then he was informed that his tiny pecker would be permanently lock away and treated like a sissy slut from now on. We both knew this was the no turning back point for my Sub, to take his submission to the highest level, and I really wanted it. I wanted him serving me for life. I wanted to fuck whom ever I wanted, when ever I wanted with him being the perfect little sissy bitch, cleaning and serving me the whole time. John made sure he knew we owned him and his anal pussy. And sissy knew it from the first time John fucked him with out a condom, and told him why. Cause we owed his pussy ass, and his pussy was there to give his big dick pleasure, no different from his mouth. The first time my sub was not very vocal, and I don't think he enjoy it. He was very humiliated at being taken by a much larger dick than his and knowing this would be his fate on a regular basis. But I didn't care if he liked it, or wanted it, he was going to become a full time sissy bitch! Now he is a true sissy bitch, and his only purpose is to serve and obey me, which is exactly what I wanted. John did not wait for his tight ass to accept his dick, he slid it in slowly and immediately started fucking. He would however start off slow before he starting pounding him. It really turned me on watching him get taken for the first time, but even more so in the days to come as my sub eventually started accepting Johns cock. He would moan and scream as John fucked his ass into submission. Having my sub scream out when he said, who's bitch are you?, "Your bitch Master!!", You want me to own that pussy, don't you? "yes master, please own my pussy!!". It really, really turned me on to hear him scream and moan into submission by John while listening to the lock on his chastity smack back and forth from the intensity of John pounding him. I have never been so turned on as when I watch my sissy bitch scream and moan from taking big dick. It is certainly the only way my sissy bitch has ever pleased me, or turned me on for that matter. I sometimes watch and get myself off while John pounds his pussy.

John would smack his ass hard as he pounded him, telling him to squeeze his pussy muscles tight on his dick, sometimes he would stop fucking him, grab him by the hair of the head and tell him, "this isn't for your pleasure bitch, its mine, now squeeze those fucking pussy muscles harder and hold it tight for me", followed by a series of hard ass smacks and my sub saying "yes master". I could tell he was squeezing johns cock with all he had because his face was squinting and he wasn't moaning as loud. John would pull out and cum on his ass, my feet, or my tits for him to lick off. Eventually it became the norm that my Sub would obey John and routinely suck and get fucked by John. This was great because as I said I had stopped touching his tiny member and locked it away permanently, so getting fucked by me or John, or whom ever I said, was his reward for becoming my lifetime sissy bitch. This was the best kind of reward because fucking him would build his need for release as it teased him because anal fucking does not give orgasm only pleasure that builds and goes no where. I also started dating a another female that I met online (I didn't mix her with John), and believe it or not, she was more strict and humiliating than me and John. She wasn't real attractive, slightly butch as they say, but she was kinky and had an open mind (which is what I really wanted because of the femdom thing). She was especially cruel and degrading, finding was to humiliate and make him suffer, like; fucking him with a ice dildo - icy hot on his balls - a ball stretcher with small needle/pins in it- spitting or pissing on his face- making him run ads on bi/gay web sites and then made to service these guys - instead of milking him she would tie him all four limbs to bed post and smack his balls with a crop steadily and firmly until they released cum(I didn't even know that was possible) - use ice on his balls until they were numb then drip hot candle wax on them to burn back the sensation - make him shave all pubic and under arm hair - She would use ginger root in his ass while she mercilessly used a cane on his ass until his bottom was black and blue (4 or 5 hundred hits) - and even doming him in public when the three of us were out. Of course he was also never allowed to touch her pussy, but he did give her oral and lots of asshole licking, especially as she rode my strap on. She used a strap on dildo to fuck him while I used one on her or in his mouth. This ended up with us girls tying him down on all four's with a butt plug in, a blind fold on and made to suck a dildo while we fucked each other and played. We almost always finished by making him lick the dildo's clean, as we took turns fucking him. She just took it to another level of fun with my sissy, and I still play with other men, and John. I could never go back to a husband and wife life because I couldn't be more happier or sexually satisfied than I am now. Besides, even though it took some time to show him his natural place, my bitch is just as happy and sexually fulfilled participating in my sexual pleasure, as it should be. Who knew welting his ass up severely and being a cruel, dominant slut would make me this happy and give me the best life with the best sex I ever had. Looking back my only regret is that I should have done this sooner, and wish I would have realized it was my own fault that I didn't use my power properly or be the dominant I should have been. With that said, if you don't have your bitch obeying you properly or find him rebelling or resisting your control, its YOUR fault not his because your the one with the power to make it happen! Hopefully my story helps you make the changes you need to in order to get what you want.

The Science Behind the Power

A special thanks to Susan Anderson for sharing this with us. Susan works for one of the worlds leading private research facilities and specializes in sexual behavior and psychology. she has a PhD in psychology and a masters in neuroscience and biomedical research.  

Sexual Control is using the brain's own chemicals to take control and modify actions, behavior, feelings, and thoughts of the male. This process is called mental subjugation and is achieved by building and maintaining a high arousal state for a repeated, extensive amount of time causing the over production of testosterone and neurochemicals through out the brain. This forces the break down of specific brain functions associated with thought, behavior, and reasoning as well as other parts of the brain that control emotions and muscle control. This action puts the male into a submissive, trance or hypnotic state which makes him amenable and susceptible to reconditioning and control. In this state he's unable to reason, think for himself, and resist commands or training making him submissive. There are several levels of this trance like state ranging from low to completely hypnotic depending on the amount of time spent and the level of build up in the brain. The Neurochemicals produced also control and activate key parts of the brain like the pleasure circuit. This circuit is activated by stimulating erogenous zones/nerve endings on the head of the penis, anus and prostate. When active the pleasure circuit releases dopamine, another neurochemical. Dopamine is the brains own erotic feel good drug, it is addictive and most of the reason he will repeat submissive acts and find pleasure in yours. Dopamine activates the pleasure center of the brain called the nucleus accumbens which rewards you for having sex. The increased production of Dopamine puts the circuit into over drive effecting reasoning and thought, boosting the submissive state.  Through normal sex or the continued stimulation of the correct erogenous zone, orgasm is achieved giving the release of Endorphin's, Oxycontin, Dopamine, Adrenaline, and other chemicals that are associated with climax which dissolve and eliminate the build up of key neurochemicales. For this reason it is highly recommended that he never obtain orgasm. Only the head of the penis and anal/prostate stimulation is given. The nucleus accumbens is also responsible for addictive things like cigarettes and drugs. This is also the section of the brain which remembers pleasure and causes you to repeat pleasurable things (like having sex). This is a key part of the brain used in reconditioning of the male and why strict disciplined training is so important as you will chemically imprint on his brain that serving and obey you, is sexually satisfying to him thus changing what he use to derive his pleasure from to what pleases you. So even though he won't be rewarded with actual sex acts his brain will be tricked into thinking that obeying and serving you is a sexual reward. Which is why you may see his penis get a full or partial erection watching you have sex, being humiliated, by doing chores or obeying you.

 During this process and at the same time as building the arousal state, the Dominatrix will refocus his attention and desires of sex towards obeying and serving her as well as how he perceives pleasure (This is the actual ongoing training part). This gives the Dom the ability to implement her rules, control and commands, making her will his own and her pleasure his only priority. This entire process involves *edging* (testosterone build up) the repeated prolonged genital, anal, and prostate stimulation. The stimulation is done by building and keeping him *on edge* to just before the point the orgasm occurs, this is the state when arousal and neurochemicales are highest and when he is most susceptible to control and reprogramming. This edging procedure, is done daily over weeks and months, is what builds up and maintains the build up of neurochemicals and testosterone. The excessive testosterone levels boost his energy and are what drive the desperate need for orgasm. The use of a chastity device is needed to prevent definite masturbation. Elevated amounts of testosterone can causes an aggressive like sexual behavior (especially in single males) but when excessive amounts are produced without orgasm, it actually does the opposite causing the male to become submissive. When denied, the inability to orgasm forces the brain to over react and release more neurochemicls that control the emotional part of the brain which only deepens his submissiveness. After approximately a month or so (varies by male) of this daily process along with strict training and discipline, the male may lose emotional control. He may act out, BEG or even cry with tears for release. This means the process is working,  DO NOT GIVE IN or feel sorry for him. Now is the most important time to be dominant, mean, and aggressive towards him, strongly humiliate and enforce your rule over him. This is another reason why strict discipline training is so important because at this point he can become an emotional fire ball causing problems with your training. The longer the stimulation of the male gentiles and the longer the time at which its done, the more the buildup and retention of the neurochemicals. This build up combined with verbal and physical reconditioning and enforcement of desirable behavior, ( also called training) forces the male to be at a submissive and controllable state. Training is reinforced with severe punishments to the point where the entire process has completely reconditioned and reprogrammed the male to your desired submissive state which leads to the finial phase of sexual control. This phase is called the acceptance phase, and is where the male has accepted his place as her submissive. He wants to serve and obey the mistress and now truly believes that it is his place and purpose. He now understands his place and his only purpose to you. He has been chemically, mentally, and physically emasculated to the point he has been broke, his male ego, will, and resistance to your authority is gone. He now gets sexual pleasure from serving and obeying his mistress and accepts she is being pleased sexually by a better more endowed man. He understands that he cannot in no way satisfy pussy and that the pleasure of pussy is only gifted to a better longer lasting, more endowed man and he looks to please pussy in other ways. He no longer thinks of pussy as an equal or pleasure he can ever attain but a power that is completely off limits, and meant to serve. He is now truly your SLAVE! At this point training is far less often but still required (once or twice a week) but rule enforcement and severe punishments are especially continued to keep control. You may choose to permanently chastise him and take a lover or boyfriend to completely replace him in bed. What ever you choose its your way from now on!  

Sexual Control is actually a natural event unknowingly exercised by women on a smaller scale every day and by all aspects and ages of women. It is effective only with men, predominately married men. The Sexual control procedure described above is exploiting and taking advantages of the natural chemical submission process mainly found and undergone by married men although some single males are effected the same way. This procedure requires uninterrupted and consecutive training days/weeks/months and strict guidelines which include complete loss of orgasm, restricted penis stimulation (head only), cuckolding, pegging/strap-on, bondage, and the use of a chastity device. The requirements call for a dedicated, demanding, strict woman (referred as a Mistress or Dominatrix) and the use of severe punishment and reward system to distinguish between acceptable and non-acceptable behavior and actions. Feeling sorry, pity, or going easy on the male will have adverse effects towards training and desired attitude of the male. Rewards never include sex and vary by Dom depending on her type of training, but can include seeing, licking or smelling pussy, watching the Dom have sex, and free time. Any deterring from the course including Drama, fights or arguments will cause the release of counter acting neurochemicls greatly diminishing the submissive state. this will cause undesired effects and delays in training time and could ultimately cause failure of the process. This is why daily training, being a very strict dom, and extreme punishments are so vital for mental and physical change of the male.

After about 5 days of *edging* the male begins to be chemically hypnotized by the prolonged build up and surge of neurochemicals. After a few weeks to a month of correct stimulation and training the male will begin to experience mental loss of control or helplessness and a deeper hypnotic state. This is greatly expedited by verbal (small penis and his bigger penis) and physical (watching you have sex) humiliation. This is mostly because the orbito frontal cortex section of the brain is shutting down. This is the front section of the brain that controls thought, behavior, and reasoning. This section of the brain can be clouded because of extreme libido/horniness making him easily manipulated or even controlled, this is how trained sexually seductive women (like strippers) procure money from men. However it normally only completely shuts down during orgasm. It is the prolonged, extreme build up of the right neurochemicales that force the cortex to shut down, with out orgasm. This is the highest level of trance like- hypnotic state he will achieve. At this point he will have feelings that he is week, unable to control himself or the situation, submissive and unable to resist anything you say or command. He simply can't at this point, and he will agree to anything you say or submit to anything commanded of him, This is the time the dominatrix will implement forced bi-sex acts if she is pursuing sissy training. At this point you will create his new purpose to you and tell him what he is and how he will be, you will tell him whats expected of him and his proper place. This is the point you want to build him to daily and keep him there for as long as possible. At least an hour after build up and for a minimum of 2 or 3 months or until you see he has completely been broken and submitted fully to anything and every thing you say or command. Everything you train him for is eventually what he will want, he will believe that his natural place is serving and obeying you. He will want nothing else as it will feel natural and pleasing to him. He will remain sexually loyal to you, with out the ability to cheat, in fact he will have trouble getting/keeping an erection with out your participation or interaction. His sexual fantasies and pleasure will revolve around you having sex and what pleases you....His happiness will rely on serving and obey you.

As mentioned, it is the flood and build up of neurochemicals that force parts of the brain to over load and stop functioning or go into over drive giving you the ability to train him. This however is not long term and only happens after the build up occurs daily and only after the build up period has reached around 5 days. The chemicals will steadily build as long as the above mentioned process is done (min one hour) daily or at least within 24 hours of the last training time. Any longer than that, the build up will steadily decline. When done properly, with time, and with strict training, the level of build up will continue till he is unable to handle the euphoric feeling and lack of release, causing him to completely accept his submission and your authority over him. Like any drug it will wear off in time so it is vital that you remain strict, demanding, and always punish severely to reinforce the training from now on. It is also highly recommended that before, during, and after daily training, you keep him focused on his submission, purpose, rules, and chores with out interference (like unneeded communication, arguments, or stress). Keeping the levels high as possible day in and day out for months will make him submissive and chemically rewire his thoughts and reasoning process to the way you train him. With proper training and punishments he will get aroused by doing his chores and obeying you and it is this that will help keep the cycle going after training is over. During and especially after training you must keep his sexual energy and libido high to maintain a certain level of neurochemicls. This is easily achieved by simply being sexy, acting your part, enforcing rules, humiliating, and being sexually promiscuous or cuckolding.

*Caution* at no point do you want to allow your male release through his penis. Release/orgasm with his penis releases another neurochemical called Prolactin, which relieves sexual arousal and loss of interest and libido. This greatly diminishes submissiveness and the build up of the key chemicals that control his thoughts and behavior. Thus you should watch closely for any signs of ejaculating leading to orgasm. It is near impossible for an orgasm to come from anal/prostate play or pegging alone with out penis stimulation. It is also harder but not impossible to reach orgasm through the stimulation of the penis head alone. However if stimulated together, the chance of orgasm is more likely. To be safe watch closely and limit stimulating both at the same time. The male actually reaches higher levels of pleasure through anal and prostate play which is possible because the the greater number of nerve endings and nerve transmitters to the brain. This makes it possible for increased submissiveness and quicker build up time.  Prostate milking the male is recommended 2-3 times per month to reduce the back up of seminal fluid into the bladder and other heath risks. This does lower the testosterone level for a short period of time lowering the libido mildly, but it is quickly recovered during the next training session. However it does prevent the loss of neurochemicls which is longer and harder to recover and greatly reduces the possibility of orgasm during stimulation of the penis. Many Dominatrix use the milking in a humiliating way and sexually humiliate the male during the process. This is further accomplished by demanding he lick and consume the discharged fluid.

This process has been studied and documented by myself and a small group of 7 female colleagues for over 3 years using a selected group of 220 males and 40 females. The males came from various work back grounds, education levels and varied in age from 25 to 45. The females were not asked, and varied in age from 21 to 41. The group consisted of married couples, dating couples, and singles. Our purpose was to see if there would be any difference with age or education of the males when studied. We used structural magnetic resonance imaging, various MRI's, electroencephalography, and various techniques including ATLUM, and Brainbow combined with constant supervision and documented everything. 

The results were conclusive and varied slightly from male to male with each controlled group, but the facts and findings were the same across the groups; Men can be, under the right circumstances and process, be sexually and physically controlled and reprogrammed. During these tests we found a few unexpected results as follows; The men in the sexual control groups were more sexually content or satisfied, even when denied sex altogether versus men not assigned to control groups and allowed sex twice a week. This was especially the case with men in groups where the women and submissive were married or long term dating plus were very strict and controlling, with harsh punishments. We believe that this is because even though men allowed access to sex are satisfied after orgasm, its short lived because the urge for release builds back after a short time. However, men in the control groups without orgasm were physically and chemically reprogrammed and trained that serving, obeying and watching their mate have sex was their pleasure. Thus being rewarded "sexually" multiple times through out a day, but the biggest gain of sexual reward being had while allowed to watch his mate have sex. These same submissive men were also more and in some cases only sexually aroused by their female Dominants versus being allowed to interact sexually with other non dominating women. This was evident to the point most could not even achieve or maintain an erection with out involvement from their Dominant partner. We found all evidence was more supportive with married men as apposed to single men as a whole. This evidence also supports the "domesticated theory" of men in long term marriage of 5+ years I posted last year. *a must read* 

We also noticed that at the same time the women in these control groups were more blissful and lively with a higher libido than women who were not in the control groups and had only one sex partner, married or not. They were also much more sexually euphoric, and eager to have sex more often when pared with multiple sex partners while denying their mate. This in particular was not a surprise to us because of prior research done by another university, summarized as follows; Women with multiple sex partners were more sexually satisfied having a higher quality of orgasms and experienced them more frequently and multiple times during intercourse versus women with only one mate. They found that women experience pleasure/orgasms on many levels, (far surpassing that of men) each from different erogenous zones on their body and that larger penis size does play a role in the higher level of orgasms they experience.....Specifically thickness over length. They also found that women enjoyed and preferred the quality and variation of sex as well as the level of orgasm its self, using both to judge their overall sexual satisfaction. Where as men (especially married men) were more focused on the climax and judged their overall sexual satisfaction based on how many they achieved per week. Meaning men in general were sexually happy with only one women giving them sex regularly or as wanted and women in general were sexually happier with multiple sex partners which attributed to higher quality of sex itself. The study also found single men or men with out regular access to sex, instinctively had more tendency to sexually please women (more/longer forplay, lasting longer etc.) than married men. Which suggest that men with out regular access to vaginal sex try to please the women in hopes he may be offered return visits. It also found that married men on average, especially 5+ years drastically lacked the ability to sexually satisfy his mate with problems ranging from Impotence, pre-mature ejaculation, stamina, to even size. All of this in conclusion means several things; That men experience and relate to sex/pleasure mostly (not entirely) through the simple act of climax/orgasm and not the act of sex its self,  regardless of how its achieved or who its with and all men are limited to the level of pleasure that climax gives. They experience sex about the same every time no matter the sex partner and it is the frequency of the orgasm that matters most to them. So contrary to earlier biased male publications and lies, its not the number of women men need to have sex with to be sexually fulfilled or happy, its the number of orgasms a male has in a given period reguardless if its one women or several. This by design means men were meant to have only one sex partner were as women derive pleasure from the sex acts, sexual experience, and variation as well as the climax for full sexual satisfaction.....all only provided by multiple sex partners. This also is supported by the ability for most women to have multiple orgasms and men have only one, among other things.

Over the past 40 years the study and publication of sexual behavior between men and women has been biased. Its been favorably altered to suit male interest or believes and fears despite actual scientific findings. This was done because of fear for loss of power or authority in the household leading to the natural place of married men as servants to their wives....but also sexual control of women for easy access to unearned sex. Female interest and desires have been suppressed or lied about to persuade public belief and more specifically the women them selves, that women are more monogamous preferring one sex partner to be sexually happy and are sexually passive while men are more dominant and wanting multiple sex partners to be happy when it comes to sex. While that may be somewhat true in some cases or small percent, evidence supports the opposite for the mass majority of men and women. Research shows that women are the more powerful sex, the drive and sexual energy when it comes to sex, this is why so many ads depict women sexually to sell product. It also shows that women (if not sexually suppressed) have a higher sex drive then men, its just used and focused differently. True men may have the drive to have sex more frequently, but that's not the same as sexual power and that can be accomplished by one woman with any size or shape vagina. Its also true that women desire being pursued, variation, and quality of sex which only multiple partners can give, and they also desire fulfillment that only larger penis size can give and most often that's not with their mate/husband. Studies also show we were also built for pleasure via having the only organ built specifically for sex (the clit), over triple the amount of nerve endings over men, ability to experience orgasms in all three erogenous zones and on multiple levels delivered through multiple pathways. Its been in recent years that researchers and scientist have actually began to study and publicize unbiased findings and its our goal to do the same. This practice of male sexual control has been around for thousands of years to some degree or another and its been the very skilled women who have used this art to get what they want in life. Women have used this skill to control some of the most powerful men in history, like Cleopatra. I have been in this lifestyle myself for years and wanted to know the reason why men verses women were so easily controlled. This is why I started this study, to see how deep the male could go and be controlled and why. Be warned this is real, the practice described above does work and the effects if done correctly are long term and can be irreversible if done for long periods of time. So if your not truly wanting a servant, slave, submissive, bitch, or what ever your training for DO NOT CONTINUE THIS PRACTICE FOR LONGER THAN 6 MONTHS. 

                    

How to be a Strict and Demanding Mistress

Words of wisdom from a good friend
"It is very crucial and vital that you are an aggressive Dominant. That you are demanding, strict, and unyielding when training, punishing and treating your slave as you should be 24/7."  

"That's your main job making sure he stays submissive and in his place. His complete submission and commitment to serve you, depends on you treating him like the bitch you want him to be. Constant, strict discipline and punished severely for any rule breaking. That's the key to getting the begging submissive that waits on you hand and foot, never back talks and begs you to get fucked."
                                                                                                               -Miss Quinn 2015-

Being strict and demanding is easy, you just need to have the right attitude and mindset for it. Its finding ways to do it in public or around friends and relatives that can be a challenge. There should be no excuse on your part for not being a proper dominant and taking your role serious. He isn't just going to start out as the perfect bitch or simply obey all your commands. You need to work at it and your going to have to force him, control him and break him. It is your responsibility to keep him in the proper atmosphere, make him follow the rules and punish if he doesn't you will have to train him to be the perfect little bitch you envision through training nights. This means you make time, you plan, you make it happen, you see it through. He needs to see the dominant, take charge side of you to open up and start submitting. Not the "I'm to tired, your in trouble tomorrow", or other excuses you have used, Its lame, and it will never work! A good Dominatrix knows this and plans for everything. She knows what she wants and she does everything to make it happen. So what do you really want? A true submissive bitch that never back talks, asks questions, obeys every command and begs you to get big cock OR a mouthy, semi submissive when he wants, who ask questions, and forces his input husband.....Because you will get out of this what you put into it and you will only have yourself to blame 3 months down the road when he wants no part of it! So why is it so important and vital to always be strict and demanding, and to punish severely for unruliness? Well for one it sets his place so that he knows exactly where his place is, whats expected of him, and the consequences for disobedience. It will make him fear you and shorten the training time. Plus when you do find that hot guy you really like, whom fucks the shit out of you, it will keep and jealousy problems from happening (and trust me even if he is not the jealous type, he will be when your fucking this guys 3-5 days a week and he gets nothing). Also, so there is never any doubt of where his place is and he never confuses his place as an equal to you or that he has any say so. That's what this is all about, him being in his place, serving his mistress and focusing on your desires. This is what you want, Right? So make it happen and don't waste your time. This is not a part time lifestyle, or an on again, off again commitment, this is 24/7/365 and anything else will result in failure. Being a strict, demanding dominant also sends a clear message to him that you are and will be in charge, the boss, and only authority. This shows you are serious and will take no bullshit or excuses from him which will further your control over him and bring out the submissive you need making it easier to train him.

But the main reason to be a strict and demanding bitch is thats what works to get results and it will also pay off in the long run. You see the first few weeks, the urge to orgasm is low but building with intensity, this is the beginning phase and the easy part. After a month or so of training, no pussy, and no orgasms, the elevated hormones will put him in a sex craved frenzy and cause him to rebel or possibly explode with a temper tantrum to find a reason to have sex. If you haven't done your job and put him in his proper place this whole time he will respond in negative ways and say he doesn't want to be the submissive anymore. He will pick fights or argue to ruin the work you did do, to get you to give in and have sex with him. This is not his fault, its the surge of elevated chemicals in his brain that makes him lash out and become emotionally disruptive. But if PROPER, strict, and demanding training has been done, those same surge of chemicals will have a reverse affect causing the fall to a submissive state, feeling helpless to do anything about his situation, but surrender and submit to your authority. That's the power of punishment yielded by a smart Dominatrix and thus why being so strict and demanding at all times is so vital. Reinforcing back talk, unruly behavior, or disobedience with severe punishment is the way to get the obedient submissive you desire, and it works. There is absolutely nothing that will change an attitude and bring out submissiveness in a disobedient slave like a severe round of 100 spankings with a mix of canes and whips across his ass. I'm talking beating to tears type of spanking that will leave welts and bruises that he will feel for a week every time he kneels. It will reinforce that he has no power, no say so or choice in all matters, rules, chores and especially sex, and more importantly your sex and when, how, and who you have it with. It will help maintain your power and authority on days when training has lapsed for what ever reason and it will shorten the training time for him. Plus it forces him to be submissive to you because he will fear you, thinking back to the beating he felt the last time he got mouthy. It also helps in reinforcing that his place is serving you, all of which will keep him from back talk or questioning you or your motives (especially if he is punished severely for those acts, which he definitely should be).

There are many ways and practices used in the lifestyle to dominate or rule your slave, but they all use  punishments and the proper tone and aggressiveness when speaking to and training the male slave in order to be successful. If you want to be successful, regardless of the rules and training path you choose, you must take your role as his Mistress serious and enforce your rules as well as punish for disobedience. You must change your old roles and old lifestyle of "husband/wife" to what you really want as the Dominatrix/slave lifestyle. When I speak to give an order I say it in a firm voice, "get me a soda" I sometimes say "NOW" at the end of orders to help motivate him faster. With that same mind set, you should never ask him to do anything and if he is slow moving obeying orders, then speak in a louder tone and repeat the order or say "do it now". Being strict means you make him follow every rule, always and he should always be on his knees, naked! You have no excuse, and there is no excuse for not being the dominant you need to be and forcing him to be the slave you want him to be and your success depends on it. If you are in public or places that would prohibit normal submission, come up with other ways that would allow him to show his place as your submissive, like opening all doors for you or you ordering his food. Either way, ALWAYS make him follow the rules and be the bitch you want him to be.

One girl told me she treats her Sub like a dog. She always speaks in a firm, demanding voice and uses simple phrases or one word orders like knell or shut up. She snaps her fingers and points to the floor and he knows what to do. She makes him eat on the floor out of a dog dish or plate designated as his dish. He sleeps on the floor and is treated like a bitch at all times, of course he had to be trained this way. She also uses words like good boy, with a little rub on his chastity area when he has done whats expected. This is on track as the slave term "BITCH" actually originates from that sort of practice. However you need to be more than this, more aggressive and take no shit stance. You need to be a ruthless mean bitch, and your attitude and demeanor needs to reflect that your in control. Another girl told me that she treats her bitch like an unruly child, calling him bitch or a girly name, and having him dress like a sissy. She uses corporal punishments and corner time just because she can and its 10 fold worse with disobedience. Again this is in line with how things should be, but the best way I've heard is from a dominatrix that said she treats her sub hubby like a stranger with no emotional ties. She has completely deferred his status and purpose as her husband to his more suited status as her bitch and his only purpose is serving her. She doesn't let feelings or emotions get in the way of how she treats him or punishes him, in fact she is down right ruthless towards him especially with regards to punishing him for disobedience. She said that while she loves him dearly, it doesn't change his place as her bitch and how he should be treated. He is after all her bitch, which is exactly what she wants him to be and is in the place she wants him to be. His begging and tears from brutal spankings do not cause her to go easy on him, it helps her to know she's on the right track, especially by how truly submissive and eager he is to please her the next few days after a good hard beating, I completely agree....

I look at it like this, and you should too, my relationship has changed to the way I want it, I'm the boss and he obeys me period. I dont care about his thoughts and feelings on the matter, it wouldn't change my choice anyway. I don't want an equal, I don't want his input, I don't want sex from him, and I really don't want to hear anything out of him but yes or no mistress or begging to please me. Actually, I don't even want our relationship to consist of husband and wife, I want it to be more of how it should be, "Mistress and bitch". I mean that's what he is here for, to serve and obey me, to be my bitch. That aside from his money is the only thing I want out him and when it comes to sex I want a real man, not a bitch with a little penis who can't last more than 4-5 minutes. Don't get me wrong, I love him deeply, and would never choose anyone over him but I don't let that get in the way of his purpose to me, his training, and punishments. I want him to know his place and beg to be there. I want him to accept being my bitch and his submission to me. I want him to accept that his little clit doesn't please me the way I deserve and is locked away 24/7 to focus on his real purpose, serving me they way he should, and I deserve. His only purpose for me is serving, following commands, and obeying with out back talk or question. He is here for the sole purpose to please me in any way I see fit and make my life better. He is never to ask or question me about whom I'm fucking, where I'll be, or when I'll come home or anything else. To do so would be a punishment so severe he wouldn't ever forget it. And because I'm so strict and control him like that he is always happily submissive and eager to obey but more importantly, turned on by it. I do what I want, when I want to and that is how it should be.

My sex life is none of his business, but I do tell him the juicy parts to humiliate him, more detailed when training. I want him to be humiliated about his little clit and inability to please me. I want him to be humiliated about me thinking about and fucking real men with bigger cocks that can last longer. I also want him humiliated that he isn't allowed anything to do with pussy, and that I truly prefer fucking other men over him. I also want him humiliated that he has to wear panties and get fucked like a sissy bitch to get pleasure. Notice I said PLEASURE, because when I allow it, that's all he gets as he is never allowed to cum or feel an orgasm. Fucking him with my strap-on will only give pleasure as its impossible to orgasm from just fucking him with out penis stimulation. Humiliation is the second strongest tool and form of control, that brings out his submissiveness and forces him to take his place. It actually makes slaves more submissive and eager to please being thought of and treated just like the bitch he is. The more you are cruel, humiliating, strict, and demanding, the more they are submissive and eager to obey, especially when punished severely for not doing so. The more I get fucked, the more submissive he is and willing to serve and obey me. Being this way towards him and fucking other men several times a week makes him very submissive and willing to do anything I say or want. He understands he must do what he can to please me because I am definitely being pleased sexually by other men which further reinforces his only reason and place. Its an erotic, blissful cycle, one I never want to give up or go back to the way it was!

He will never have an orgasm with his penis again or put his tiny worthless worm in pussy again. In fact he isn't allowed anything to do with pussy and I mean nothing except for the rare times he watches me get fucked, allowed to smell pussy through my panties, or when he's licking my clit as i'm getting pounded by big cock....All of which I do in humiliating ways. That's how I want it, that's how it is, that's how its going to be. I keep it this way because its a form of control, it works best, and it really turns me on. Being strict keeps him submissive, and keeps him under control. Being strict is keeping him on his knees and making him do things to serve and obey you. When you demand his submission and punish for all his failures or rule breaking he will fear not obeying you, he will fear you and always do as he is told. Making him follow the rules full time keeps him in check and keeps him submissive. He is happy serving me and even happier that I treat him this way and so am I. All slaves and bitches feel this way, Trust me, even yours. They would rather serve and watch us have sex then have sex them self. In fact, after trained properly they are almost not even capable of getting an erection with out our devious input or interactions. They really don't look at other women and will not desire sex with another women. They only desire their the pleasure the way we give it. They have come to realize that its better for them this way and that they reach levels of satisfaction they never knew possible.  

 Being strict and demanding is a must, but it means nothing if you don't back it up with punishments or make him follow the rules and obey orders.  Punish harshly for rule breaking, back talking, asking inappropriate questions, speaking with out permission, or even failure to show his submission. Do not take any bull shit from him and punish if he gives it. If you want things different and you want them your way, follow my advice above and you will never regret it. Once you do it for a few days to a week you will see a change in his attitude and submission, and you will see a bitch that longs to serve and obey his mistress.