Mistress Story "The Start"

I read this blog from time to time as I find it very insightful and knowledgeable when it comes to the male submissive and mistakes women make when training them. Although I have never really ran into problems when it came to training my husband the way I wanted him to obey. Mostly because I knew what I wanted and I knew that I had to do what ever it took to make that happen. I didn't let anything stand in the way. I admit it was probably easier due to a few things, one being that we have no kids and I don't work. The other major difference was that I really believe I should be the one in control and I didn't let feelings or guilt stand in the way of taking that control. I treated him just like the bitch I wanted him to be and I was very demanding, strict, and relentless with punishments. I made sure he was very fearing of not obeying me because the severity of the punishment reinforced my control and he knows I follow through with every punishment I give. I would punish severely for every broken rule, and failure to obey me properly, but especially back talk!! That's just how it has to be, how it needs to be, and quite frankly how it should be. Trust me, showing weakness in anyway or not punishing when its needed, and not giving a proper punishments will have him doubting your power, and questioning your authority. This can and will cause problems and threaten your authority over him. Not that I don't love him, I do and I would never leave him, I just want things my way, and I love to see him on his knees serving me....But I also want the ability to fuck whom ever I want, when I want. Its not that he has a small penis, well tiny anyway (its average at 5 1/2 inches). Its just not the size that can give me the really good orgasms, the long and strong ones that make your toes curl and actually make you look forward to sex. Besides that he can only last 5-7 minutes.

We met at the town fair and our dating was normal, even the start of our marriage was mostly normal even though I did usually get my way. We didn't dabble in this lifestyle for months or years before we jumped into it for real. It only took one night before I was hooked and realized I had wanted something like this my whole life. It started with a Movie we were watching that has a girl dressed up in this black leather lingerie outfit and as described in the movie she was a dominatrix. I was immediately intrigued and aroused (this was before 50 shades of grey). Of course I didn't know what this was, but the next day I looked it up. Let me tell you, Google had plenty of resources on the matter and I found my self reading all I could over the next few days. I was fascinated with everything and really wanted to try it all, especially the cuckolding part. the only down fall was the free stuff didn't go into much detail, and most of it was paid sites and even those lacked detail , so be weary of that.

After giving it a little thought of how to bring my husband into this, which I really didn't care if he wanted to do it or not, SERIOUSLY we were doing it! I decided to do it slow, calculating and meticulously, by first withdrawing sex from him, and and changing my attitude and demeanor towards him. after the first week, I started to give orders and not ask for them to get done as I read on the net, I knew that the more strict and demanding I was the easier and quicker he would take to his new role. It said he would instinctively and subconsciously submit to my authority if I gave him no choice. I also started tying him down to the bed or chairs to tease him to the edge, and have him watch me get my self off with a dildo. I would also tease him and be seductive as much as possible during the day, using my body naked or not to turn him into jello (just like strippers do at strip clubs to get money from horny men) rub his dick through his jeans. Sometimes at night I would allow him to lick me to orgasm but rolled over when finished saying I was really tired. After 3 weeks of this I knew he started jerking off in the shower, but I also knew that would only satisfy him short term, and that this was about to change when I put the chastity on him. I watched porn with him, and even took him to strip clubs on occasion. My goal was to get him as horny as possible as much as possible, keep him on the egde as much as possible, and control his mind. You see they go hand in hand....You need to control his cock by taking away his ability to please himself (and trust me, all men do) and make it so that only you control his orgasms. But you also have to control his mind because that takes away any power he has, (resistance physically and mentally) and control his mind helps to control his cock.

After a month of no pussy, seducing him, and breaking him down mentally (as best as possible before the real training started) It really started to take its effect on him and he started becoming agitated so  I finally told him how it was going to be. I spoke to him very firmly, in my serious and demanding voice, telling him I was going to be in control and he was going to obey, PERIOD! I got out the chastity I ordered for him and put it on. I told him pussy was now a privilege and he would get it when he earned it. Until then I would be using my new thick and long dildo I bought when I got his chastity. Over the next few weeks I was very forceful in what I wanted, giving him new rules to be followed and having him clean the entire house by his self, including laundry. I spent time getting him very horny, bringing him to the edge but not allowing him to cum. I did not care of his feelings in the matter, in fact it only turned me on more when he would beg me not to take pussy from him, or beg to just lick it. I wanted him at my feet, I wanted him cleaning my house, I wanted him begging to knell and serve me, if only to be allowed the privilege of licking my pussy. And I really wanted better sex with bigger, thicker cock. Of course at the start he would break rules, and not follow orders correctly, even disobeying me at times...That is until he started being punished severely every time that happened and then those times rarely happened. He would also beg most nights to be allowed pussy or to lick it, which I refused and eventually punished him for asking, stating it was not his place to ask for a reward, I would give it if he deserved it....which in all honesty no matter how much he served me, obeyed me, and did his chores I didn't want to fuck him, especially since I was having way better sex and orgasms with real cock. So I started once a month milking him into a bowl and then had him lick it up with threat of sever punishment if he didn't.

Moving on though, It was into the fourth month that I was really craving dick, the dildo just didn't do it for me at this point. It also didn't help that I really wanted to try the cuckolding side out as well. So I placed an add on Ashley M. and right off got guys interested in fucking. Most were not that attractive but a word of advice though, and something I leaned back in high school, its the average looking guys that have the biggest cocks. Once I picked out a few guys with nice cocks I set things up. I started training my little submissive to accept this, and played the first 3 or 4 times away from home. I didn't want to give my bitch to much to handle, or create jealousy and made sure when I returned he got a little reward by smelling my pussy (blindfolded) or allowed to lick my ass hole. It wasn't just that theses guys had bigger cocks and could fuck me better and give me far better orgasms than the bitch could, it was the excitement of meeting and fucking them. The humiliation of my bitch, and the power I felt as he eventually would beg me to get fucked by these much larger endowed men just so he could smell or taste my pussy even if it was on/from my finger or my dildo. Anything to be as close to it as he could. Everything together just made sex better for me, from the orgasms to teasing and humiliating my bitch. The more I would be strict and humiliating towards him, the more submissive he would be. Cleaning the house, begging to serve me, buying me gifts, and begging me to get fucked.

Eventually I wanted more, I wanted to push him to complete submissiveness. I wanted to make him my true sissy bitch never questioning me, what I do, where I go, or who I fuck. I'm also talking wearing panties and other girl clothing like pantyhose, garter belts and heels, calling him bitch or submissive names (even in public) at all times, showing his submissiveness in public (there are plenty of ways for that), and even getting fucked by my dildo and by another male/bi-male. I started out by allowing him the privilege of licking clean my dildo after I fucked myself (he was always blind folded). That lead to me making him suck it as he licked it, and that eventually led to me wearing a dildo and harness during every training session and forcing him to knell tied up with a mouth spreader in to force him to take a mouth fucking, and that led to him knelling and sucking it on command (especially before I fucked him with it). I didn't ever want it to go back to the plain married life, and I didn't ever want him to ask for pussy again. Instead ,I wanted him humiliated, submissive, begging to serve me, and begging me to fuck him in the ass. I even wanted him kneeling and serving another male and I didn't even want him seeing or touching my pussy, let alone ever fucking it again. All of this really turned me on, and excited me beyond words, and I made it happen....All of it! Today, I make him watch me get fucked (only sometimes) for humiliation, he also obeys and serves me and my boyfriend or bulls, he also gets fucked once or twice a month by me or my bull, and he sucks cock when ordered to. For the most part, he is the best behaved submissive I know, and its all because I made him this way. I took what I wanted from him, faded out what I didn't, and I turned him into my bitch, my true submissive sissy, cock sucking, ass fucking, BITCH. I didn't back down, take no for an answer, let anything get in my way, or let feelings or guilt stop me from getting what I wanted. I forced and punished him every time he needed it, and now I can reap the rewards of being in control. This is how it should be, I'm not only happier, the sex is amazing, last longer and is way exciting. He is happier, more loving, really appreciates his rewards when I allow it, and even feels like he really belongs at my feet serving me, and that's all that matters.          

Bondage Ideas

       Bondage is probably one of the hardest things for some women, at least when it comes to using more imagination and getting away from the standard legs apart and arms above the head (arms and legs to the four corners of the bed). The idea is to have him put in awkward positions, humiliating positions, and even uncomfortable position while being able to utilize this position to tease him, peg him, milk him, force oral on him with your bull or his master, administering punishments on him, or what ever you want. This is also a great way to show your power over him and bring out his submission as he has no choice in the position, or how long he is kept in it and loss of movement is a great way to put him in his place. Make sure you humiliate him about the position he is in, and remind him this is the bitches place. Ideally you want him bound tight, so there is little room for movement and there for he is forced physically and mentally to take what ever you do to him. Spread arms and legs far, make them tight....A must do for training, discipline, and punishments.

       The possibilities are endless, the tools and toys are endless, and the fun is just as endless. All you need is the gear and an imagination, or at least ideas. You need to switch it up from time to time, and try new things. you can and should involve things like hand cuffs, rope, spreader bars, blindfolds, nipple clamps, gags or hoods, anal hook, nose hook, mouth forceps, cages, slings, and of course any punishment device. I make it a practice that he is always tied down in some way or another if we are doing training or anything where he is not serving me or doing chores. Its also a good idea to have him tied in a good position for forced oral on your bull or forced pegging from you or your bull.

      Below are some examples of bondage.

This position you can do anything from behind from like pegging, milking, spanking, CBT etc.

This position is the same as above but just a different technique, and is mostly used for time out and or punishments...notice the butt plug

This position shows someone who used imagination and an anal hook, its perfect for milking or CBT, and can also be used for forced oral (cock sucking your bull) and spankings.

This pic shows a standard type position but notice that she used other gear like the blindfold, gag, and a little CBT.

All fours, another classic position with the humbler device which forces the slave to stay kneeling or on all fours. It also gives the ability for pegging, CBT, milking, spankings etc.

The classic standing position, but of course CBT is being used as well as ball gag and blindfold.

this pic shows good imagination....His arms are secured above and his legs are spread using a securing method to his arms. His waist is secured by the sides of the bed and his balls are tied down to the bottom. He can't move and this allows for CBT, teasing, among other fun things.

Here is a spin on the all four position, only arms behind the back. this could also have been done with arms between the legs and secured to his ankles or spreader bar, then attached to his balls. great for anything anal, punishments, spankings, CBT, or just to keep him on his knees for a while.

This pic shows display bondage, its only or main purpose it just bondage, placed to display the bitch, her property. In this case that would be his caged dick, but could easily have been his ass or what ever.

This pic shows a bitch still in his panties, tied to a luggage cart, using bungie ties for some CBT. He was left this way while her lover fucked her in that very bed. Great example!

This pic shows bondage that will focus on spankings, a twist to just bent over.

This is great use of a standard dog cage. The bitch has his but plug in and is secure to all corners of the cage. This is also his time out place, and his place when her lover or boyfriend comes over, he is not let out until he leaves.

This pic shows a bitch in an awkward and uncomfortable position. Great for spankings, anal play or pegging, and milking directly into his mouth.

This is the anal hook, used to hold position in bondage. Great for holding your bitches head back for forced oral, or just cum shooting into his mouth. remember to use the mouth spreader.

Another uncomfortable position, also great for anything from behind

This pic shows good use of gear and force oral.

This Dom is milking her bitch. She is draining his balls directly into a dog bowl and will make him lick up the mess.

















 

Cock & Ball Torture Ideas and examples

        So I have received a several emails over the past few weeks regarding Cock and Ball Torture, also known as CBT. So I was thinking that I would gather some pics of real examples and give a little info on them to prevent me from going over this again and again. Besides that I have received great feed back from my past post using this method.

Well to start, CBT must be done correctly to avoid any long term or permanent damage. this is not to say that you cant be a little rough, and make him scream as that's the point, lots of screaming and if he's not then your not doing it right!This is an art and one that takes time to learn. A little pain goes a long way when it comes to torturing them. Ideally you want him moaning or screaming when administering CBT, if he is not then you should use more force till he is. Technique is key, and there are many was to punish and abuse them, from squeezing, smacking, flicking, clamping, bonding, roping, shocking, wax, ice, spikes, and chemical (icy hot). There are just as many toys and devices as there are ways to use them and your only limited by your imagination. My suggestion is try everything, don't hold back and experiment. Always make sure when doing any kind of play rather it be CBT, pegging, spankings, and even at times humiliation, he must be tied or locked down, try to tie him down in a way that he has very little or no room to move any body parts. This will keep him from hurting himself and you during the inflection of pain, again the point is to cause pain. It is not just the helpless feeling he gets, and your show of power/force, or loss of privilege of movement, it is also to keep him from dampening the pain through movement and forcing him to take the pain. As a must do rule when training, or punishing he should be locked down at all times anyway. CBT can and should be used as a training tool, as well as discipline, but it should also be given as a punishment. this can be done in conjunction with, prior to, or after spankings. It can also just be done just for your amusement. Make sure you shake things up and try new ways to do CBT from time to time. Also make sure he shaves his entire pubic area.

WHAT A PUNISHMENT SPANKING LOOKS LIKE

Here are various pics that were either sent to me, I was apart of, or I found in other Dom blogs. I posted these to give you examples and show you the end result and examples of a good punishment spanking and also to help give you your own ideas. In this section pay close attention to the pics. Look at how they are all tied down and being humiliated while being spanked. Notice that while some are naked, some are still in their panties or stockings(always spank a bare ass though). Also notice that these doms are enjoying them selves, they are really getting into this and they may be having a good time but they are serious about his spanking, showing no remorse or care less to bring tears, screams, and begging from him. They are talking to him in a firm aggressive voice and while doing this they are humiliating him, making him beg to please and submit to her, and apologize for his disobedience, as well as other ways to show his submissiveness and willingness to obey. He is made repeatedly to state his status as her bitch, and his place. Keep in mind that he is made to wear a ball gag for the first half of punishment spankings so as to show she cares not to hear his screaming and begging for her to stop but also to bring out the true submissive side that a good spanking always brings out. After that it is briefly removed for begging during following spankings. It's then reapplied for more spankings and then removed again at the end to allow more begging as spankings are administered for a last set. its the last set of spankings that you will see the true and utmost transformation of his submission to you as the boss. He must be scared of you and your power, and the best way to show your power is to give him sever punishments for rule breaking or disobedience.

Look at how red, marked up, and swelled up, their asses are during and after a well earned punishment spanking. This is how it should be, and if there was sound you could even hear them begging, screaming out, and crying like a bad little bitch deserves when they have violated a rule, failed to please their mistress, disobedience,  or back talked. The spanking should last for a while, a good 20 min, and again be one he never forgets! Keep in mind though, they should not tear or split skin open, thus why crops, paddles, and cat-o-9 whips, or floggers are best. Rotate the spanking tools and remember that taking time in between spanking is best to avoid numbing of his ass.

If you want to succeed in breaking him and getting the truly submissive bitch you want, you need to start doing this type of firm, strict, dominant punishment. You have to be aggressive, serious, demanding and unyielding. Let out the side of you that wants this, that loves this, and is turned on by the sight and sound of hearing him cry out and beg to please you like you deserve. Again punishment spankings should be ones that he never forgets and one that takes away any hesitation he has when he is ordered to obey. For example; suck a cock for you or to reluctantly knell naked with a chastity on at your feet and serve while you have your lover or company over, to even obeying your lover or guest orders. After one, two, or even sometimes, three and four punishment spankings for failure to follow command and obey, trust me he will gladly follow any orders you have. Keep in mind that no matter how well behaved he is and submissive, he will still need spankings once or twice a week to keep him in his place. You just don't hit as hard, shorten the time and number of spanking to achieve this.

Paddles, crops, and whips are best when doing spankings, however canes, switches etc. will work for tools in short moderation. remember to switch it up here and there. For a better detailed explanation of how, when and where to punish your bitch read my punishment section in this blog.

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