I started this blog to inform, teach, and explain the Dominatrix/Cuckold lifestyle to women. Even if your just curious I encourage to read and take charge of your relationship. You have no idea of how great your sex life and relationship can be when you take your rightful and natural place as a dominatrix. Rather your new or veteran to the lifestyle, you can learn things from my blog. I'll teach you my trials and errors, helpful hints, solutions, attitude, aggression, and punishments. You can also communicate with me via email at herdesire@live.com for any questions or thoughts. By following my blog you will learn to be the best Dominatrix you can, and you will teach him to be the best and most submissive he can.
The cuckold dominatrix is not the way for every women, some are just to closed minded or tied to the old ways, the "social norm" as its called. They have let society or family practice dictate their life and may be fearful of someone finding out, they may be to brain washed, or they may just enjoy what little power they have if any at all and prefer to keep it that way. However for those of you who want to break the cycle, who want more power and pleasure than you ever thought possible, then you have come to the right place. You just need to excepted your calling, demand and take your natural place at the top!
All my chapters are important and helpful, but some of them you must read and follow in order to achieve your goals. I will mark the must read chapters with these stars **. You will need to let go of your fears, embrace your new role and let out your female sexuality. Be the bitch he needs you to be. You must be aggressive, firm and controlling but above all, humiliate and degrade him down to his level, his place of servitude. This will bring out his natural submissive trait and he will be yours to command. He needs you to be his DOM, he needs you to control him and break his will, he needs you to make him fear you and make him serve you the way you desidre, he needs you to force him, humiliate him, be degrading and strict on him, he needs you to talk and treat him like the pussy whipped slave he really is inside, he needs you to be the best DOM you can in every aspect, even if he doesn't know that he needs it, even if he doesn't know he wants it, even if he doesn't know its his natural place....He eventually will! All men are trainable, and all straight men want what you have, so start using this to your advantage.
As you read through this blog, take notes or what ever you need to do to learn this. Make the step in the right direction to not only better your life but his as well. You will reap the rewards for it and he will be happy serving you.
Also, as you read to the end of a topic you may find that it just ends or lacks an ending, this is because I'm constantly updating my blog, refining it and making it better for you women who want to be the best mistress you can be, or its a blog I started when I had free time and are yet to finish it (just bare with me). Dates and times on here are days and times that I started that particular topic but as I said I'm constantly updating things and moving things around so you may read a date of start from 2 yrs ago but I could have just changed it 2 weeks ago...Check back constantly to remain up to date on events, post and news.
If you have questions, comments, or want to discuss things more in depth about a particular topic, again please feel free to email me at herdesire@live.com.
Remember you hold the key to your success, you dictate your future, and you have the power! Except nothing but his complete obedience, his submission to your will. What you put into it, you get out...So if you want 110 percent from him put 110 percent into training him the way you want him!
Enjoy....
Monday, December 31, 2012
Wednesday, March 7, 2012
How to manipulate his penis with out orgasm
EDGING THE CLITTY
Penis stimulation
The most important physical erogenous zones and maximum stimulation areas of the penis are the sensations from the frenulum band, (marked and yellow in the picture below) and the head with greater emphasis on the entire rim of the head. These spots are very sensitive and contain most of the nerve endings of the penis. For this reason you will focus most of your time stimulating these areas not just useful for building arousal with your pussy slave but also good to use during foreplay with your lover or boyfriend. These structures each have their own feeling, and each contributes in its own way to the man's total sensitisation of pleasure and/or sexual build up. When training or building arousal of your PS It must be emphasized that emotional and mental excitement is an extremely important component of sexual control, and intensifies the man's perception of physical sensations from his penis...... Thus the importance of verbal humiliation and describing in vivid detail about your long nights of fucking with your boyfriend or lover. While you are stroking and licking his over grown clit, you should be telling him all details so as to paint a picture in his mind of how much you enjoyed sex with your boyfriend and exactly how he pleased you. This does also serve another function, it helps to persuade his mind and thoughts to help prove that his tiny prick does not please you and that you really do prefer a real cock. When you pleasure your boyfriend or lover the same special attention should be given to his cock with the difference being that you will also mix this technique in while giving him a normal blow job.About the cock;
- The rim of the head contains sensory receptors called Meissner corpuscles. research shows that these nerves, similar to nerve endings in the fingertips, are there to provide pleasure, as well as fine sensory perception. This seems to help a man to enjoy sex longer without ejaculating prematurely, because he can more easily tell when he is approaching the threshold of orgasm.
- The male cock has 4000 nerve endings mostly located in the yellow and red areas of the picture below, while the clitoris alone has over 8000. The vagina also contains around 4000 nerve endings and they are mainly located at the vaginal opening to a depth of 1/3 of its total depth, thus the reason woman prefer bigger thickness/girth over length.
- Thus the importance of pleasuring the rim from time to time during foreplay.
- Stimulation of the frenulum and ridged band results in intense pleasurable feelings during arousal. The ridged band consists of a number of "ridges", described by Dr. John Taylor in his recent article. Sensations from these structures during oral, intercourse, or masturbation are thought to be the primary trigger of orgasm in the intact male.
- We believe that stimulation of the Frenulum, head, and ridge/rim is most significant in the later stages of sexual intercourse, when penetration is deepest and the nerve endings in the shaft come into play bringing sensation at its highest. Sensations from the all the glans contribute to the quality of the sensual experience and more easily triggers orgasm. This is why its very important that only the head can be inserted into the mouth or licking of the head is practiced when building or maintaining arousal of your PS.
To start get his cock hard (remember that if it is your PS not to stick more than the head into your mouth and even keep that to a minimum). Once his cock is hard you will begin to lick his Frenulum bottom to top and vise versa. You should start to notice his cock harden even harder after a few minutes. Now its time to expand the licking from the bottom of his urinary opening to the bottom of the Frenulum and the rim from the side of his cock to where it meets the Frenulum left and right. After a few minutes and some serious signs of enjoyment from him its time to expand and add using your fingers. Do this by taking your pointer and middle finger(you can also use your index finger and thumb if it feels more comfortable to you) in a V shape then straddle your fingers over his cock in a position that both the left and right sides of his rim are between your fingers and then move them up and down while licking the bottom of the frenulum to the bottom of the urinary opening. After a few minutes of this he should be melting in your hands! Once you see he is good and worked up, use your finger to rub these area's especially the underside of the rim and rim also the Frenulum. Remember that if you are doing this to your lover or boyfriend you will also want to mix inserting his cock into your mouth
Penis Shaft
The shaft of the penis is the part that extends out of the body to the rim of the head. When flaccid (no erect) the skin on the shaft of the penis will be loose and stretchy. It also contains nerve endings that help males feels penetration. These nerve endings help trigger a satisfaction feeling in the brain when the stimulation of the shaft is combined with frenulum and rim stimulation. Again the reason why we only stimulate the head and frenulum of our PS. However, using the same techniques with shaft sensation on your Boyfriend/lover will drive him crazy.Glans Penis
The head of the penis is called the glans, just below the tip of the urethral opening (where both urine and semen come out). The glans is a highly sensitive area, with many nerve endings. The glans is considered to be fairly similar in function to the clitoris with far fewer nerve endings.Frenulum
The frenulum is the indentation on the underside of the penis where the glans meets the shaft and run up to the urethral opening. The frenulum is an area of great sensitivity, and when stimulated correctly can have a man on the edge for hours begging to be released, especially when using the rim and head stimulation jointly. While it has far less nerves than that of a womans clit and does not give as great of a sensation, it does trigger the part of a mans brain to release chemicals to put him in a trans like state.Sunday, December 25, 2011
**From a Bulls/Lovers point of view
My point of view.... Well let me be clear here, I take my position in a cuckold relationship serious. I'm there for a reason, and that reason is very clear to all involved. My job is to make sure that the mistress is pleased sexually but also to use, help humiliate, and put her pussy slave in his proper place. My involvement really helps in his submission to his mistress, it helps break his will and ego. Once he sees his mistress is getting bigger, better cock, having far better orgasms and realizes that she prefers to fuck me not his little cock....Its a shock to his manhood. But also that she is willing to let me use him like a sissy bitch shows that she is a true dominatrix and demands his submission. I enjoy using her pussy slave, and i really enjoy how much it turns her on watching me use him. I believe that women are, and should be very powerful and sexually active creatures. I know she is capable of great pleasure, pleasure that far exceeds that of mine or any other male. I know how to please her and bring out her inner power, the true dominatrix she needs to be. No I'm not huge in the cock department but I'm above average, 7 inches and fairly thick. Plenty big enough to please her pussy the proper way and far bigger than her pussy slave, and I know how to use it. I also know how to talk to her, I know how to take control of her body and I know what turns her on. I know how she wants me to treat her pussy slave and I know how to use him properly to get both her and I excited and pleased.
I expect him to submit to me just as he does his mistress. He may find it hard at first, and he will definitely find it hard to take my cock into his mouth, but he will eventually submit to his place as my bitch. I want him to know I'm his master and while I don't own him, I will control him while I'm there. He is to knell at my feet and obey me just as he would her. He is to address me as master (some bulls go by SIR) and when he is ordered to suck my cock by his mistress or myself he is to submit to that command fully and show his submission by sucking my cock to his best ability. He is to deep throat it and suck it hard, I want to hear him gag and I want to see slobber dripping from his mouth. When His mistress wants me to fuck him in the ass (I always wear protection) He is to be tied down bent over across the bed or dogie style with his hands between his legs and cuffed to his ankles. When I know I'm going to fuck him after I'm done pleasing his mistress, I tell him that he is to show his submission while I'm fucking her by kneeling facing away from the bed, bend over with his face to the floor, reach back with his arms and spread his pussy (ass cheeks) open and stay that way till I'm done fucking his mistress. Before or after he gets tied down in his place to get fucked, he is ordered to suck my cock hard. As I'm behind him putting on my condom, I tell him to beg me to fuck him like the bitch he is. While I fuck him I take the time to slap his ass and also tell him I want to hear him scream and moan like the bitch he is. I also find it amusing to have him suck his mistresses dildo while I fuck his tight little pussy. Then after I've come but before he is let up, I pull the condom off and have him suck me clean. In case your wondering, "no" he does not get off and he always wears his chastity while he's taking my cock deep inside his pussy. Another humiliating act that really turns on his mistress is having him suck my cock while she fucks him with her strap on or smacking/paddling his ass and balls while he sucks me just prior to her fucking him.
OUR FIRST PLAY
From the first meeting I lean what she wants, and her expectations. I learn what turns her on and what pleases her, as well as the limits of both her and her pussy slave. Then on our first secession I meet the pussy slave, I go a little easy on him but not to easy. I give her what she needs, what she wants and craves.....Real orgasms, orgasms her pussy slave could never give and the thrill of watching her bitch serve me. I'm greeted at the door by a very seductive and sexy dressed mistress, she is eager to fuck and watch her bitch serve me. I come through the door and as we walk to the family room she yells for her bitch. No sooner than we sit down her naked(except for his chastity) bitch is kneeling at her feet. In a firm and strict voice she says, "Go get us a drink!". He quickly retrieves us a beer and again is kneeling in his place. She begins to humiliate him by telling him shes going to get pleased by a real mans cock and that he knows whats expected of him. I begin to rub her breast and humiliate him myself, telling him I'm going to please her the way she deserves, and that from now on he's going to serve me when I'm over. With in seconds I'm making out with her and fingering her pussy and on my way down on her.
After a few minutes she's good and wet, and shouting out to her bitch to go take his place in the bedroom. We move up to the bed room and she puts his blindfold on and cuffs his hand behind his back. She then humiliates him as I start undressing her and myself. With him on his knees, he is perfect height to suck my cock, and she doesn't hesitate to grab his chain and pull him over to my cock while saying, "Suck his fucking cock and make sure you get it really hard and ready to fuck me since your tiny cock can't please me"! Then she grabs the back of his head and guides it to my cock and pushes his mouth onto my cock. As he is sucking my cock we are kissing and I'm rubbing her breast and fingering her pussy. After a few minutes she starts pushing the back of his head hard on my cock and shouts," Suck that fucking cock and let me hear you gag!" then she takes a crop off the wall and starts smacking his ass. Now he's really sucking my cock and its super hard! She pulls his chain and tells him to listen to how a real cock can make her scream. I go to town sucking her pussy, slide on my condom and have him put my cock into her pussy. She starts moaning as I slide it in, and with in a few minutes she is screaming from her first orgasm. After she has cum a few times I move from missionary position to her riding me and she pulls his chain over to have the bitch insert my cock and orders him to lick her ass. After a few orgasms I move him to the bed laying on his back head hanging over the bed. I slide my cock into his mouth and begin to fuck it and she rubs his balls. Then I grab her and pull her over him 69 position and tell him to put my cock in. As I start to fuck her dogie she tells him to lick her clit. Her orgasms build fast, and I can tell she is really turned on by all this. After several orgasms I cum deep inside her. She pulls her pussy just over his face and humiliate him about how well she was pleased, tells him its my pussy from now on and orders him to clean out the mess.
After she feels that he's properly cleaned up the mess, she gets a robe on, removes is blindfold, cuffs, and tells him to get us drinks. He promptly returns with drinks and takes his place. She spends the next 10 to 15 minutes humiliating him and tells him to get use to this because this is the way its going to be from now on. She then puts back on his blindfold but no cuffs and removes the robe. By now I'm on my back on the bed and she orders him to suck me hard again, at the same time she climbs on my face 69 position so I can lick her pussy and she can watch her bitch suck my cock. once she sees that I'm rock hard again she spins around and starts riding my cock push him out of the way and ordering him to the corner to knell. After another 40 minutes of fucking I cum and again he is order over for clean up duty. After he's done his job we get dressed and head down stairs and he is ordered to clean up the room and take his place by the bed to wait for her return. We go to talk a bit in the family room and discuss the next nights events. I tell her I'm eager to take the roll of his master and her bull/lover and she agrees to give me ownership of her pussy (when she's not fucking another lover) and control of her bitch.
From then on when I come over, I'm not easy about using him or ordering him around. I put him in his place and she loves every bit of it!
I expect him to submit to me just as he does his mistress. He may find it hard at first, and he will definitely find it hard to take my cock into his mouth, but he will eventually submit to his place as my bitch. I want him to know I'm his master and while I don't own him, I will control him while I'm there. He is to knell at my feet and obey me just as he would her. He is to address me as master (some bulls go by SIR) and when he is ordered to suck my cock by his mistress or myself he is to submit to that command fully and show his submission by sucking my cock to his best ability. He is to deep throat it and suck it hard, I want to hear him gag and I want to see slobber dripping from his mouth. When His mistress wants me to fuck him in the ass (I always wear protection) He is to be tied down bent over across the bed or dogie style with his hands between his legs and cuffed to his ankles. When I know I'm going to fuck him after I'm done pleasing his mistress, I tell him that he is to show his submission while I'm fucking her by kneeling facing away from the bed, bend over with his face to the floor, reach back with his arms and spread his pussy (ass cheeks) open and stay that way till I'm done fucking his mistress. Before or after he gets tied down in his place to get fucked, he is ordered to suck my cock hard. As I'm behind him putting on my condom, I tell him to beg me to fuck him like the bitch he is. While I fuck him I take the time to slap his ass and also tell him I want to hear him scream and moan like the bitch he is. I also find it amusing to have him suck his mistresses dildo while I fuck his tight little pussy. Then after I've come but before he is let up, I pull the condom off and have him suck me clean. In case your wondering, "no" he does not get off and he always wears his chastity while he's taking my cock deep inside his pussy. Another humiliating act that really turns on his mistress is having him suck my cock while she fucks him with her strap on or smacking/paddling his ass and balls while he sucks me just prior to her fucking him.
OUR FIRST PLAY
From the first meeting I lean what she wants, and her expectations. I learn what turns her on and what pleases her, as well as the limits of both her and her pussy slave. Then on our first secession I meet the pussy slave, I go a little easy on him but not to easy. I give her what she needs, what she wants and craves.....Real orgasms, orgasms her pussy slave could never give and the thrill of watching her bitch serve me. I'm greeted at the door by a very seductive and sexy dressed mistress, she is eager to fuck and watch her bitch serve me. I come through the door and as we walk to the family room she yells for her bitch. No sooner than we sit down her naked(except for his chastity) bitch is kneeling at her feet. In a firm and strict voice she says, "Go get us a drink!". He quickly retrieves us a beer and again is kneeling in his place. She begins to humiliate him by telling him shes going to get pleased by a real mans cock and that he knows whats expected of him. I begin to rub her breast and humiliate him myself, telling him I'm going to please her the way she deserves, and that from now on he's going to serve me when I'm over. With in seconds I'm making out with her and fingering her pussy and on my way down on her.
After a few minutes she's good and wet, and shouting out to her bitch to go take his place in the bedroom. We move up to the bed room and she puts his blindfold on and cuffs his hand behind his back. She then humiliates him as I start undressing her and myself. With him on his knees, he is perfect height to suck my cock, and she doesn't hesitate to grab his chain and pull him over to my cock while saying, "Suck his fucking cock and make sure you get it really hard and ready to fuck me since your tiny cock can't please me"! Then she grabs the back of his head and guides it to my cock and pushes his mouth onto my cock. As he is sucking my cock we are kissing and I'm rubbing her breast and fingering her pussy. After a few minutes she starts pushing the back of his head hard on my cock and shouts," Suck that fucking cock and let me hear you gag!" then she takes a crop off the wall and starts smacking his ass. Now he's really sucking my cock and its super hard! She pulls his chain and tells him to listen to how a real cock can make her scream. I go to town sucking her pussy, slide on my condom and have him put my cock into her pussy. She starts moaning as I slide it in, and with in a few minutes she is screaming from her first orgasm. After she has cum a few times I move from missionary position to her riding me and she pulls his chain over to have the bitch insert my cock and orders him to lick her ass. After a few orgasms I move him to the bed laying on his back head hanging over the bed. I slide my cock into his mouth and begin to fuck it and she rubs his balls. Then I grab her and pull her over him 69 position and tell him to put my cock in. As I start to fuck her dogie she tells him to lick her clit. Her orgasms build fast, and I can tell she is really turned on by all this. After several orgasms I cum deep inside her. She pulls her pussy just over his face and humiliate him about how well she was pleased, tells him its my pussy from now on and orders him to clean out the mess.
After she feels that he's properly cleaned up the mess, she gets a robe on, removes is blindfold, cuffs, and tells him to get us drinks. He promptly returns with drinks and takes his place. She spends the next 10 to 15 minutes humiliating him and tells him to get use to this because this is the way its going to be from now on. She then puts back on his blindfold but no cuffs and removes the robe. By now I'm on my back on the bed and she orders him to suck me hard again, at the same time she climbs on my face 69 position so I can lick her pussy and she can watch her bitch suck my cock. once she sees that I'm rock hard again she spins around and starts riding my cock push him out of the way and ordering him to the corner to knell. After another 40 minutes of fucking I cum and again he is order over for clean up duty. After he's done his job we get dressed and head down stairs and he is ordered to clean up the room and take his place by the bed to wait for her return. We go to talk a bit in the family room and discuss the next nights events. I tell her I'm eager to take the roll of his master and her bull/lover and she agrees to give me ownership of her pussy (when she's not fucking another lover) and control of her bitch.
From then on when I come over, I'm not easy about using him or ordering him around. I put him in his place and she loves every bit of it!
Monday, March 7, 2011
**The New You "The Sexy Bitch" "The Dominatrix"
As you train him, you should also train yourself. Your training is done differently but just like his training it will better and deepen his submission to you. Your going to be sexy, your going to get manicures and pedicures done, your going to get your hair done, your going to do tanning, your going to buy sexy revealing clothes and heels. Your going to flirt with cute guys and make it known that you are available, and yes you are going to get fucked as much and as long as you want by these cute guys. Your going to flaunt your sexiness in front of your bitch. do this by doing what you know turns on men, just like strippers do it....Your going to spread your legs in front of him if you have a skirt on, bend over in front of him. Make him get you dressed (only after you have panties on) If it doesn't already, it will start to turn you on to treat him the way he deserves and needs to be treated. Especially when you see how much more submissive he is....And he really wants and needs you to take your place as you force him to take his.
OK so what does this mean? Well you will need to take your place just as he takes his place, your now the boss, his mistress, THE DOMINATRIX. As such you have responsibilities to be dominating and aggressive to him, to be a bitch, to humiliate and degrade him, and to simply use him to do what ever you want if for no other reason just because you can. No longer are you to ask or be polite, TELL him what to do and do it in a FIRM demanding voice. You need to be firm speaking and strict at all times possible....Always enforce your rules and punish for disobedience or rule breaking and do it ASAP! This role you take as a Dominatrix is and should always be about your pleasure and what turns you on. You should not only dress sexy but when doing training or punishments, you should dress in black or red typical dominatrix outfits. You will take his money and make him glad your taking it, make him feel it is a privilege to serve you and clean your house. Make him fear you and your ability to give pain and humiliation. Keep him wondering what's next and how much further will you push into submission. Surprise him with new twist of ideas in training sessions and also when fucking your lover.
Its very important to be the new sexy you, I can't stress how much the difference is in his attitude and submission when your strict, demanding, and aggressive when talking to him and equally as much when in using humiliation, hard training and punishments when needed! It is equally as important that you keep him guessing whats next, and change training sessions around from time to time. The tone of your voice, and aggressive way you speak to him is very important, as is the words you choose. Words like GO, GET, KNEEL, BEG, SHUT UP, NOW, DO, are very effective, just remember to use your voice, and the demeanor of the way you speak. The tone should be firm , and aggressive. Be serious and look serious, he must know that you will not take any back talk, or rule breaking and that you expect his full attention and total submission! He is trainable to do any and everything you want him to do, and exactly how you want it done, you just have to train him correctly just as described above. You need to collar him when doing training, and when ever possible out of training walk him around on his knees or hands and knees( what ever turns you on). When tying him down the ropes and chains should be tight with very little room for movement. He should never be allowed to touch the locks and keys, or allowed to remove /put on his chastity. Remember you get out of it what you put in it, so don't be lazy or laxed When showing him his place and keeping him in it. A submissive and well trained bitch is an obedient bitch, always eager to please and obey his mistress.
Some of you may be wondering how to be strict and demanding, while some of you have an idea of what it entails or are just plain ruthless about it. Well being ruthless is a perfect demeanor and attitude to have, and you should start by thinking along those lines. You need to enjoy your power, and embrace it, never feel bad about it or the way you use it. You should make him do things just because you can, you should never give in or let him lax on chores, punishments, rules and general acts of submission. MEANING/example, he is on his knees as he should be and he asks for permission to sit or get in bed, "NO! You know your place is kneeling at my feet, now shut up!" When you speak to him, it should not be in the gentle voice that you use to speak to him, it should be firm, loud, and have some bit of humiliation in it if possible. MEANING/example, "Tic Tac Dick get me something to drink and make it fast!!" or (as he is kneeling at your feet waiting for chores or orders after getting off work) " Your going to do your normal chores today, but I'm feeling like being a BITCH, so instead of loading the dish washer, your going to wash them by hand and hand wash my panties while your at it, and the whole time Your doing it I want yo to think about how pathetically small your dicklet is and what you can do to better serve me since its barely the only way you please me!! You see, it not just what you say, its how you say it. Think about the times you use to get mad at him, how you were short, most likely being a bitch, and mean and aggressive with talking to him. Now up that scale to the dominatrix level and you should be on the right path. You need to control, demand, humiliate, degrade and treat him for what he is, YOUR SUBMISSIVE PUSSY WHIPPED BITCH! You can not go lightly on him if you wish to gain complete control and submission from him. A very horny male will do anything you command, a scared male will be quicker to do it and get it done, but a well trained male will be both and feel privileged and horny doing it!
Even though your attitude, demeanor, and tone in which you speak and shout orders is very important, so is the way you use your power. You should always think of ways to humiliate him as well as where and when to do them. EXAMPLES of using your power, Your in bed at night watching TV or reading a book; you should (only have panties on) spread your legs so he can get aroused for a few minutes and then make him rub your feet. at least once a day while he is in his place, walk up to him and make him lick/worship your feet...remember to humiliate him while he's doing it (That's a good bitch, suck my fucking toes and tell me who's the boss) or (My little bitch knows his place doesn't he, now tell me you have a fucking worthless nub for a dick and thank me for allowing you the privilege of serving me). Have him worship your ass, again while he's doing it humiliate him. If you are capable of having an orgasm(lock his hands behind his back) let him lick your ass till you cum(rub your pussy, and maybe let him smell and/or lick your a finger after he begs). HUMILIATING WAYS to use your power, while your out shopping and he is with you stand him in the corner somewhere just outside the store(really works good when shopping for lingerie for your lover). make him get in humiliating poses like submission pose or begging to get fucked pose. Make him ask for permission to do anything, and his place should always be kneeling at your feet. He should always be kneeling when he hands you something, if not snap your fingers point to the floor and in a stern firm voice say kneel. Use your power and make him do things just because you can.
Make him repeat to you that your the boss, or that he has a tiny pathetic nub of a dick, he's your bitch, along with other humiliating things you say to him. remind him daily that he has a useless tiny clit of a dick, and make sure you laugh at his tiny dick. Here is something you can say to him that I say to my PS to humiliate him; Your tiny pathetic little dicklet will never feel pussy again, for that matter it will never even have an orgasm.its useless and doesn't even deserve to be called a cock, and that's why your my little cock sucking bitch! That's right, I said cock sucking....Your going to suck my lovers cock hard for me from now on and if you do a good enough job I might let you lick my ass while he fucks me, with the blind fold on of course (laugh). You don't deserve anything at all to do with pussy, and not just because your little nub is so fucking tiny but you cant even keep it hard or know how to use it. I don't care how horny you get, and I don't care how much it humiliates you to know I'm getting bigger better cock, and it's going to be none of your fucking business. Your not even going to ask me a fucking thing about who I'm fucking, where I'm going,or when i'll be home, and on the occasion I allow you the privilege to hear or watch your going to pay for it later with my amusement of torturing your ass and balls (laugh)Your going to do as your told when your told to do it or you will be punished and you will never feel the pleasure of my big cock in your tight little pussy. You're going to learn your fucking place, And you're going to beg me to allow you to serve me, aren't you? (YES MISTRESS) let me hear you beg, let me hear my little bitch beg to serve me and beg to be on your knees worshiping my ass and feet like a good little bitch should be. You're going to be my little bitch and you're going to suck my cock and whoever's cock I tell you to, In fact I'm going to have you used like the little bitch you are. You're going to beg me to go fuck my boyfriend especially if you ever want to feel my cock in your tight little pussy, And you're going to beg me for that privilege to. Tell me who's the boss? (You mistress) that's right, and who's my bitch? ( I am mistress) Good boy! From now on you only refer to me as mistress, and your name is bitch, and you will refer to me as such from now on. If you Forget you're going to get punished. You will kneel at my feet from now on and you will beg to serve me. I will not touch anything this house is your job to clean my house and do the chores. Now let me hear my little bitch beg!** This conversation is one of the normal conversations I have with my PS, I say things like this in and out of the dungeon. He knows his place and he's very happy being in it.
Remember it is you that has the control, it is you that has the power, USE IT!
OK so what does this mean? Well you will need to take your place just as he takes his place, your now the boss, his mistress, THE DOMINATRIX. As such you have responsibilities to be dominating and aggressive to him, to be a bitch, to humiliate and degrade him, and to simply use him to do what ever you want if for no other reason just because you can. No longer are you to ask or be polite, TELL him what to do and do it in a FIRM demanding voice. You need to be firm speaking and strict at all times possible....Always enforce your rules and punish for disobedience or rule breaking and do it ASAP! This role you take as a Dominatrix is and should always be about your pleasure and what turns you on. You should not only dress sexy but when doing training or punishments, you should dress in black or red typical dominatrix outfits. You will take his money and make him glad your taking it, make him feel it is a privilege to serve you and clean your house. Make him fear you and your ability to give pain and humiliation. Keep him wondering what's next and how much further will you push into submission. Surprise him with new twist of ideas in training sessions and also when fucking your lover.
Its very important to be the new sexy you, I can't stress how much the difference is in his attitude and submission when your strict, demanding, and aggressive when talking to him and equally as much when in using humiliation, hard training and punishments when needed! It is equally as important that you keep him guessing whats next, and change training sessions around from time to time. The tone of your voice, and aggressive way you speak to him is very important, as is the words you choose. Words like GO, GET, KNEEL, BEG, SHUT UP, NOW, DO, are very effective, just remember to use your voice, and the demeanor of the way you speak. The tone should be firm , and aggressive. Be serious and look serious, he must know that you will not take any back talk, or rule breaking and that you expect his full attention and total submission! He is trainable to do any and everything you want him to do, and exactly how you want it done, you just have to train him correctly just as described above. You need to collar him when doing training, and when ever possible out of training walk him around on his knees or hands and knees( what ever turns you on). When tying him down the ropes and chains should be tight with very little room for movement. He should never be allowed to touch the locks and keys, or allowed to remove /put on his chastity. Remember you get out of it what you put in it, so don't be lazy or laxed When showing him his place and keeping him in it. A submissive and well trained bitch is an obedient bitch, always eager to please and obey his mistress.
Some of you may be wondering how to be strict and demanding, while some of you have an idea of what it entails or are just plain ruthless about it. Well being ruthless is a perfect demeanor and attitude to have, and you should start by thinking along those lines. You need to enjoy your power, and embrace it, never feel bad about it or the way you use it. You should make him do things just because you can, you should never give in or let him lax on chores, punishments, rules and general acts of submission. MEANING/example, he is on his knees as he should be and he asks for permission to sit or get in bed, "NO! You know your place is kneeling at my feet, now shut up!" When you speak to him, it should not be in the gentle voice that you use to speak to him, it should be firm, loud, and have some bit of humiliation in it if possible. MEANING/example, "Tic Tac Dick get me something to drink and make it fast!!" or (as he is kneeling at your feet waiting for chores or orders after getting off work) " Your going to do your normal chores today, but I'm feeling like being a BITCH, so instead of loading the dish washer, your going to wash them by hand and hand wash my panties while your at it, and the whole time Your doing it I want yo to think about how pathetically small your dicklet is and what you can do to better serve me since its barely the only way you please me!! You see, it not just what you say, its how you say it. Think about the times you use to get mad at him, how you were short, most likely being a bitch, and mean and aggressive with talking to him. Now up that scale to the dominatrix level and you should be on the right path. You need to control, demand, humiliate, degrade and treat him for what he is, YOUR SUBMISSIVE PUSSY WHIPPED BITCH! You can not go lightly on him if you wish to gain complete control and submission from him. A very horny male will do anything you command, a scared male will be quicker to do it and get it done, but a well trained male will be both and feel privileged and horny doing it!
Even though your attitude, demeanor, and tone in which you speak and shout orders is very important, so is the way you use your power. You should always think of ways to humiliate him as well as where and when to do them. EXAMPLES of using your power, Your in bed at night watching TV or reading a book; you should (only have panties on) spread your legs so he can get aroused for a few minutes and then make him rub your feet. at least once a day while he is in his place, walk up to him and make him lick/worship your feet...remember to humiliate him while he's doing it (That's a good bitch, suck my fucking toes and tell me who's the boss) or (My little bitch knows his place doesn't he, now tell me you have a fucking worthless nub for a dick and thank me for allowing you the privilege of serving me). Have him worship your ass, again while he's doing it humiliate him. If you are capable of having an orgasm(lock his hands behind his back) let him lick your ass till you cum(rub your pussy, and maybe let him smell and/or lick your a finger after he begs). HUMILIATING WAYS to use your power, while your out shopping and he is with you stand him in the corner somewhere just outside the store(really works good when shopping for lingerie for your lover). make him get in humiliating poses like submission pose or begging to get fucked pose. Make him ask for permission to do anything, and his place should always be kneeling at your feet. He should always be kneeling when he hands you something, if not snap your fingers point to the floor and in a stern firm voice say kneel. Use your power and make him do things just because you can.
Make him repeat to you that your the boss, or that he has a tiny pathetic nub of a dick, he's your bitch, along with other humiliating things you say to him. remind him daily that he has a useless tiny clit of a dick, and make sure you laugh at his tiny dick. Here is something you can say to him that I say to my PS to humiliate him; Your tiny pathetic little dicklet will never feel pussy again, for that matter it will never even have an orgasm.its useless and doesn't even deserve to be called a cock, and that's why your my little cock sucking bitch! That's right, I said cock sucking....Your going to suck my lovers cock hard for me from now on and if you do a good enough job I might let you lick my ass while he fucks me, with the blind fold on of course (laugh). You don't deserve anything at all to do with pussy, and not just because your little nub is so fucking tiny but you cant even keep it hard or know how to use it. I don't care how horny you get, and I don't care how much it humiliates you to know I'm getting bigger better cock, and it's going to be none of your fucking business. Your not even going to ask me a fucking thing about who I'm fucking, where I'm going,or when i'll be home, and on the occasion I allow you the privilege to hear or watch your going to pay for it later with my amusement of torturing your ass and balls (laugh)Your going to do as your told when your told to do it or you will be punished and you will never feel the pleasure of my big cock in your tight little pussy. You're going to learn your fucking place, And you're going to beg me to allow you to serve me, aren't you? (YES MISTRESS) let me hear you beg, let me hear my little bitch beg to serve me and beg to be on your knees worshiping my ass and feet like a good little bitch should be. You're going to be my little bitch and you're going to suck my cock and whoever's cock I tell you to, In fact I'm going to have you used like the little bitch you are. You're going to beg me to go fuck my boyfriend especially if you ever want to feel my cock in your tight little pussy, And you're going to beg me for that privilege to. Tell me who's the boss? (You mistress) that's right, and who's my bitch? ( I am mistress) Good boy! From now on you only refer to me as mistress, and your name is bitch, and you will refer to me as such from now on. If you Forget you're going to get punished. You will kneel at my feet from now on and you will beg to serve me. I will not touch anything this house is your job to clean my house and do the chores. Now let me hear my little bitch beg!** This conversation is one of the normal conversations I have with my PS, I say things like this in and out of the dungeon. He knows his place and he's very happy being in it.
Remember it is you that has the control, it is you that has the power, USE IT!
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Cock Size/ Pussy Technique
Cock size is very important and can even out weigh physical looks of a possible lover. More often then not, your average looking male will have a larger and or thicker cock than that of the better looking male (nature had to find some way of passing on his genes). Cocks comes in all shapes, bends, and sizes and each can give its own feeling and intensity of orgasm, and every male has a different technique/style of fucking. So a male with an average size cock could please you just as good as one with a larger cock. However the general rule is the thicker the better, thicker even being better than length. The best cocks are the ones with thickness and length, and once you have fucked just one big-thick cock, you will never feel the same way about a smaller less than average size cock. The orgasms you get from fucking one are so intense and long that you will never forget fucking that cock and most likely lose all interest in the smaller undersized ones. Fact is, once you have fucked a lover with a big and thick cock a few times, you'll find yourself thinking about his cock several times a day and with great anticipation of the next time you'll get to fuck him again. I have said it before in other post, its better to have a lover with less attractive looks but with a thick cock then it is to have a hot looking lover with an average or less cock size. I know attraction is important for some women but your not fucking his face and your just using him for his cock anyway. There is plenty of time to find a hot well hung lover down the road, the key now is to find 3 or 4 well endowed males to fuck you then look to move up.
I get questions all the time "how do you know if a man has a big thick cock?" or "Do black guys have bigger cocks?" Well the truth is there is no sure way to tell, but usually guys with big hands or big feet have thicker cocks than average. While I have fucked more than my share of guys, I've really not found that black guys have bigger cocks, (the biggest and thickest cock I've fucked was that of a white guy) but what I have found is that its more common for black guys to have bigger cocks then white guys, so your more likely to find a big cock on a black guy then a white one....which is why the majority of the guys I fuck are black (the odds are better i'm getting a larger than averge cock) and once I find a lover with a thick cock (black or white), I keep on to him. I never cancel a date/fuck night, I go more out of my way to please him, and I make sure he knows my pussy belongs to him in front of my PS as I found that it really turns on my lovers.
The benefit to cuckolding your PS is that you get experience new cocks, orgasms, and pure excitement. You get to fuck who you want, when you want, where you want. You get to experience the best and most erotic sex that you'll ever have, orgasms that you could never believe you could have, ones that you PS could never give you and when your start getting them, will never want to give them up. With this said, enjoy yourself....Don't focus on looks by them self, take the whole package into consideration. Yeah he's average looking, but he has a great personality, a thick cock, and he really knows how to help me put my PS in his proper place! Like I said you can always find better looking to add to your list of lovers.
PUSSY TECHNIQUE
Your pussy is also capable of giving your lovers intense feeling and orgasms. Just the very feeling of sliding your pussy down on mosts cock can be enough to get him off (yet another reason you probably don't want to fuck your PS) Your lover will have staying power and size to give you the orgasms you deserve and your pussy will give him a hormone rush that will be addicting as some of the most addictive drugs. Any average or above average sized cock will find your pussy very tight and smooth (all pussy are normally the size of a pencil and stretches to accommodate the cock size, the bigger the cock the more your pussy stretches and tightens around his cock) But there are ways to tighten your pussy naturally. One of the best and less active ways is simply to have sex, just by having sex your pussy shrinks and stretches by the in and out motion of getting fucked (by at least an average size cock) and this promotes elastic virginal walls, also when you get off your pussy mussels contract this over time of frequent fucking your pussy tightens. A more physical way and to use in conjunction with getting fucked often, is to use Ben wall balls or Kegals Just insert them and walk around with them for an hour or so. But probably the most physical and most effective is the weighted bar bell, designed to slide in the vagina (while a portion, the weighting part is still exposed) and you use your pussy muscle to hold it inside your pussy while gravity tries to pull it out which builds your pussy muscle and promotes a tighter pussy. Keeping your pussy tight, and working it out regularly will also benifit you as well because it will help make orgasms stronger.
A good technique to give an extra tight feeling to your lover (even driving him crazy) and to even increase your orgasm intensity is to tighten your pussy muscles as he is sliding his cock in and re-tighten it on every in stroke of him fucking you, but if this is difficult or uncomfortable because of his size try squeezing your pussy muscles on every out stroke of him fucking you. So on either (one or the other) in-stroke or out-strok tighten your pussy muscles as your getting fucked and watch the sparks fly!
Remember as I said before, having sex is healthy, it helps your body create natural hormones and vitamins, builds and strengthens your bodies cardio system, firms your breast and tightens your pussy, and help regulate hormones and chemicals that cause depression, insomnia, fatigue (lack of energy), and several other things. Enjoy it and use it to the fullest!
I get questions all the time "how do you know if a man has a big thick cock?" or "Do black guys have bigger cocks?" Well the truth is there is no sure way to tell, but usually guys with big hands or big feet have thicker cocks than average. While I have fucked more than my share of guys, I've really not found that black guys have bigger cocks, (the biggest and thickest cock I've fucked was that of a white guy) but what I have found is that its more common for black guys to have bigger cocks then white guys, so your more likely to find a big cock on a black guy then a white one....which is why the majority of the guys I fuck are black (the odds are better i'm getting a larger than averge cock) and once I find a lover with a thick cock (black or white), I keep on to him. I never cancel a date/fuck night, I go more out of my way to please him, and I make sure he knows my pussy belongs to him in front of my PS as I found that it really turns on my lovers.
The benefit to cuckolding your PS is that you get experience new cocks, orgasms, and pure excitement. You get to fuck who you want, when you want, where you want. You get to experience the best and most erotic sex that you'll ever have, orgasms that you could never believe you could have, ones that you PS could never give you and when your start getting them, will never want to give them up. With this said, enjoy yourself....Don't focus on looks by them self, take the whole package into consideration. Yeah he's average looking, but he has a great personality, a thick cock, and he really knows how to help me put my PS in his proper place! Like I said you can always find better looking to add to your list of lovers.
PUSSY TECHNIQUE
Your pussy is also capable of giving your lovers intense feeling and orgasms. Just the very feeling of sliding your pussy down on mosts cock can be enough to get him off (yet another reason you probably don't want to fuck your PS) Your lover will have staying power and size to give you the orgasms you deserve and your pussy will give him a hormone rush that will be addicting as some of the most addictive drugs. Any average or above average sized cock will find your pussy very tight and smooth (all pussy are normally the size of a pencil and stretches to accommodate the cock size, the bigger the cock the more your pussy stretches and tightens around his cock) But there are ways to tighten your pussy naturally. One of the best and less active ways is simply to have sex, just by having sex your pussy shrinks and stretches by the in and out motion of getting fucked (by at least an average size cock) and this promotes elastic virginal walls, also when you get off your pussy mussels contract this over time of frequent fucking your pussy tightens. A more physical way and to use in conjunction with getting fucked often, is to use Ben wall balls or Kegals Just insert them and walk around with them for an hour or so. But probably the most physical and most effective is the weighted bar bell, designed to slide in the vagina (while a portion, the weighting part is still exposed) and you use your pussy muscle to hold it inside your pussy while gravity tries to pull it out which builds your pussy muscle and promotes a tighter pussy. Keeping your pussy tight, and working it out regularly will also benifit you as well because it will help make orgasms stronger.
A good technique to give an extra tight feeling to your lover (even driving him crazy) and to even increase your orgasm intensity is to tighten your pussy muscles as he is sliding his cock in and re-tighten it on every in stroke of him fucking you, but if this is difficult or uncomfortable because of his size try squeezing your pussy muscles on every out stroke of him fucking you. So on either (one or the other) in-stroke or out-strok tighten your pussy muscles as your getting fucked and watch the sparks fly!
Remember as I said before, having sex is healthy, it helps your body create natural hormones and vitamins, builds and strengthens your bodies cardio system, firms your breast and tightens your pussy, and help regulate hormones and chemicals that cause depression, insomnia, fatigue (lack of energy), and several other things. Enjoy it and use it to the fullest!
Saturday, September 18, 2010
**punishment
I wanted to write a little bit about punishments. After talking with some girlfriends in the life style I wanted to share some things with my readers that i shared with them.
So some of you may be wondering what is the limit of punishment, whats to much? When should I punish and for how long? Well as with anything i say in this lifestyle, EXPLORE find his breaking point and push past that! For best results you should punish him at the time of his disobedience if at all possible, or at the next possible time. Really there should be no limit on how long or how often you punish your pussy slave, however the severity (how hard you hit) should be enough that he is yelping or moaning fairly loud with each hit. It should be hard enough to push his limits, and he should after a few miniutes of punishment be yelping and moaning loudly and begging for you to stop. I will say that you should always keep his physical safety in mind when giving out punishments. Meaning and only limited to making sure it will not cause permanent damage but be aggressive and demanding, be humiliating towards him. I also want to stress the fact that how strict you are and how hard you push the boundaries or severity of his punishments will determine his fearfulness of you, respect, obedience and the speed at which he trains. If he is not yelping or even begging you to stop, your not pushing hard enough or gone long enough with his punishment. It is the dominatrix who are ruthless, humiliating, and strict that are feared and Obed the most! And as I've said before, you know what you want, you know what pleases you, shouldn't you be willing to do what it takes to get what you deserve and to get the servitude of a very submissive PS, how far are you willing to go? If you have been the strict, demanding, and humiliating bitch at any time prior to reading this, then you have seen the difference in his obedience to you then from when you not how you should be. How far are you willing to go?
His ass is fairly resilient and can handle any type of tool and punishment using aggressive swings and force. If in a training session you should mix up the swats to his ass from mild when talking to him then hard when getting a point understood. His cock and balls, are more sensitive and require less harshness to get the point across. When slapping or squeezing his balls don't do it hard enough to rupture one of them. Keep in mind that cat tails or crops, even if used firmly (as they are suppose to be) will not do any long lasting damage, hit his balls with firm but short strokes. Also the position of his balls when hitting them can cause different kinds of pain. If smacking them while he is on his back, its a variance of pain and combine with you standing up straddling his chest so he can see the out line of your pussy and ass(with thongs on) its also a mental submission. But best result is when he is bent over, legs spread allowing his balls to hang away from his body(you may have to pull on them a bit to get them to drop or get a chainless ball stretcher). bending him over is a much more pin point pain that is sharper and intense. Regardless of how you punish his balls, remember to switch it up so that he doesn't know what to expect and feels the wide range of pain you are capable of giving if he doesn't obey. On his ass; welts, redness and even bruising are what to strive for, light abrasions are even tolerated......They may even be needed or warranted for getting the point across. Its not easy to damage his ass and you can't be to scared to welt it up or hurt it. If he complains that your hitting to hard or getting mouthy, put the ball gag in and smack his ass into submission only stopping if he is begging you to and you feel like it. Make sure before you stop that he understands you are the boss and he will obey and he repeats this to you, but you decide when he has had enough. On his cock and balls; redness and light welts are what to strive for. Also as I've stated before when training or giving out punishments, make sure his ropes and chains are pulled tight. Give him as little room as possible to squirm or move, this creates a helpless feeling, setting his mood for submission and keeps him from getting out or moving to block or lighten punishments.
Punishments should be given out for every infraction, and should always be given out the same day and if at all possible at the time the infraction occurred. Punishments can range from loss of privileges or simple corner time (naked with the full get up, on just like in the photo, just actually knelling in the corner. 10 minutes is enough and the required length of time but no less) all the way to corporal punishments like spankings, nipple and ball touchier or ball stretching.
Basically when giving out corporal or touchier punishments judge how much he can possibly take (do this by how much and how loud he is yelping, if its light or no sounds, your not even close) then push it 25 percent or more past that. Example; He is told to shut his mouth and does not. Then you should spank his ass until he is begging you to stop then put the ball gag in to cover his yelping and spank another 5 or 10 times. Same with smacking his balls. This should be enough to get his attention, letting him know your the boss, your rules are to be obeyed and you are serious. And if the same rule is broken 2 times in the same day there should be a set punishment. Example; Spanking as described above, knell in the corner (with full props) for 10 min, and a loss of privilege for the rest of the night.
Also learn to use all of your tools in his punishments, as in the blind fold, ball stretcher, ball gag, clamps, whips and crops....everything you have. Meaning there is no such thing as to much. You should also combine punishments for multiple infractions. If he brakes 2 or 3 rules, give him 2 or 3 punishments.
Use your mind to come up with punishments to use and be creative, but be harsh and strict while doing them. Don't forget to scold or humiliate him when doing them as well! Take a look at the pictures below on ways to use your creativeness and if anything search the INTERNET for ideas. If your PS is handy with tools he could make furniture or devices for you to use, maybe even help you come up with some of his own.
Change things up a bit and remember you can also use things he now derives pleasure from against him. One of the things i do on occasion (just to change things up a bit) even if not being punished is place him in the corner (either knelling or sitting in a special chair that the back folds down) with his full get up on, when my lover comes over. He is only permitted to hear us fucking We fuck until my lover cums the first time and i lay down his chair back or lay him back squatting over his face making him clean up the mess while i suck my lovers cock hard again. Of course I take off the blind fold so as he is doing his duty he can watch me suck my loves cock. Note; It is the sound of your moans and screams that get him excited and turned on, it is the sight of watching your loves bigger cock fuck you while you moan and scream that humiliates him. So keep this in mind and keep this scene to a minimum, putting him in the corner is a sensory change and a way to enforce that he never knows what could happen to him next.
Another thing I like to do is put my PS in a GATES OF HELL device, that way as he is watching my lover fuck me and he is getting hard, the gates device restricts his hard on causing a pain full pressure where the steel rings are. here is a link to a pic of one; http://www.lockeduplove.net/otherchastity
All three on this page are gates of hell, the top is described as a Chastity but it is just a locking gates device, of the other 2 one is also a locking (better locking one) and one is just a normal one. there are several types of these and they can be found in most sex store or on line store.
This idea is more of a training idea than a punishment but its fun for you and humiliating for him.
Buy yourself a double ended dildo (if you don't have one) and the next time you train him, tie him down to the bed, get him really excited/horny. pull his legs up to or by his hands and tie them there. (His ass should be in the air) Now lube up one end of the dildo and slid it in his ass, then turn around facing away from him (on your hands and knees) reach between your legs and slide the other end of the dildo in your pussy or ass and start fucking! You get to get orgasm and he gets to squeeze his ass mussels to hold the dildo in place for you with a sever punishment if he fails. Adding to his humiliation, if he is a PS allowed to see your pussy, put a blind fold on him.
What ever punishments you give him or when ever you train him. always remember to keep his ropes/chains tight, he yelps with ever hit, push him to break and be fearful of you, be DOMINATING- harsh, strict, bitchfull, aggressive, demanding, degrading and above all, be as humiliating as you can.
He needs this from you just as much as you need and should give it to him.
Other ideals and punishments coming soon......
So some of you may be wondering what is the limit of punishment, whats to much? When should I punish and for how long? Well as with anything i say in this lifestyle, EXPLORE find his breaking point and push past that! For best results you should punish him at the time of his disobedience if at all possible, or at the next possible time. Really there should be no limit on how long or how often you punish your pussy slave, however the severity (how hard you hit) should be enough that he is yelping or moaning fairly loud with each hit. It should be hard enough to push his limits, and he should after a few miniutes of punishment be yelping and moaning loudly and begging for you to stop. I will say that you should always keep his physical safety in mind when giving out punishments. Meaning and only limited to making sure it will not cause permanent damage but be aggressive and demanding, be humiliating towards him. I also want to stress the fact that how strict you are and how hard you push the boundaries or severity of his punishments will determine his fearfulness of you, respect, obedience and the speed at which he trains. If he is not yelping or even begging you to stop, your not pushing hard enough or gone long enough with his punishment. It is the dominatrix who are ruthless, humiliating, and strict that are feared and Obed the most! And as I've said before, you know what you want, you know what pleases you, shouldn't you be willing to do what it takes to get what you deserve and to get the servitude of a very submissive PS, how far are you willing to go? If you have been the strict, demanding, and humiliating bitch at any time prior to reading this, then you have seen the difference in his obedience to you then from when you not how you should be. How far are you willing to go?
His ass is fairly resilient and can handle any type of tool and punishment using aggressive swings and force. If in a training session you should mix up the swats to his ass from mild when talking to him then hard when getting a point understood. His cock and balls, are more sensitive and require less harshness to get the point across. When slapping or squeezing his balls don't do it hard enough to rupture one of them. Keep in mind that cat tails or crops, even if used firmly (as they are suppose to be) will not do any long lasting damage, hit his balls with firm but short strokes. Also the position of his balls when hitting them can cause different kinds of pain. If smacking them while he is on his back, its a variance of pain and combine with you standing up straddling his chest so he can see the out line of your pussy and ass(with thongs on) its also a mental submission. But best result is when he is bent over, legs spread allowing his balls to hang away from his body(you may have to pull on them a bit to get them to drop or get a chainless ball stretcher). bending him over is a much more pin point pain that is sharper and intense. Regardless of how you punish his balls, remember to switch it up so that he doesn't know what to expect and feels the wide range of pain you are capable of giving if he doesn't obey. On his ass; welts, redness and even bruising are what to strive for, light abrasions are even tolerated......They may even be needed or warranted for getting the point across. Its not easy to damage his ass and you can't be to scared to welt it up or hurt it. If he complains that your hitting to hard or getting mouthy, put the ball gag in and smack his ass into submission only stopping if he is begging you to and you feel like it. Make sure before you stop that he understands you are the boss and he will obey and he repeats this to you, but you decide when he has had enough. On his cock and balls; redness and light welts are what to strive for. Also as I've stated before when training or giving out punishments, make sure his ropes and chains are pulled tight. Give him as little room as possible to squirm or move, this creates a helpless feeling, setting his mood for submission and keeps him from getting out or moving to block or lighten punishments.
Punishments should be given out for every infraction, and should always be given out the same day and if at all possible at the time the infraction occurred. Punishments can range from loss of privileges or simple corner time (naked with the full get up, on just like in the photo, just actually knelling in the corner. 10 minutes is enough and the required length of time but no less) all the way to corporal punishments like spankings, nipple and ball touchier or ball stretching.
Basically when giving out corporal or touchier punishments judge how much he can possibly take (do this by how much and how loud he is yelping, if its light or no sounds, your not even close) then push it 25 percent or more past that. Example; He is told to shut his mouth and does not. Then you should spank his ass until he is begging you to stop then put the ball gag in to cover his yelping and spank another 5 or 10 times. Same with smacking his balls. This should be enough to get his attention, letting him know your the boss, your rules are to be obeyed and you are serious. And if the same rule is broken 2 times in the same day there should be a set punishment. Example; Spanking as described above, knell in the corner (with full props) for 10 min, and a loss of privilege for the rest of the night.
Also learn to use all of your tools in his punishments, as in the blind fold, ball stretcher, ball gag, clamps, whips and crops....everything you have. Meaning there is no such thing as to much. You should also combine punishments for multiple infractions. If he brakes 2 or 3 rules, give him 2 or 3 punishments.
Use your mind to come up with punishments to use and be creative, but be harsh and strict while doing them. Don't forget to scold or humiliate him when doing them as well! Take a look at the pictures below on ways to use your creativeness and if anything search the INTERNET for ideas. If your PS is handy with tools he could make furniture or devices for you to use, maybe even help you come up with some of his own.
Change things up a bit and remember you can also use things he now derives pleasure from against him. One of the things i do on occasion (just to change things up a bit) even if not being punished is place him in the corner (either knelling or sitting in a special chair that the back folds down) with his full get up on, when my lover comes over. He is only permitted to hear us fucking We fuck until my lover cums the first time and i lay down his chair back or lay him back squatting over his face making him clean up the mess while i suck my lovers cock hard again. Of course I take off the blind fold so as he is doing his duty he can watch me suck my loves cock. Note; It is the sound of your moans and screams that get him excited and turned on, it is the sight of watching your loves bigger cock fuck you while you moan and scream that humiliates him. So keep this in mind and keep this scene to a minimum, putting him in the corner is a sensory change and a way to enforce that he never knows what could happen to him next.
Another thing I like to do is put my PS in a GATES OF HELL device, that way as he is watching my lover fuck me and he is getting hard, the gates device restricts his hard on causing a pain full pressure where the steel rings are. here is a link to a pic of one; http://www.lockeduplove.net/otherchastity
All three on this page are gates of hell, the top is described as a Chastity but it is just a locking gates device, of the other 2 one is also a locking (better locking one) and one is just a normal one. there are several types of these and they can be found in most sex store or on line store.
This idea is more of a training idea than a punishment but its fun for you and humiliating for him.
Buy yourself a double ended dildo (if you don't have one) and the next time you train him, tie him down to the bed, get him really excited/horny. pull his legs up to or by his hands and tie them there. (His ass should be in the air) Now lube up one end of the dildo and slid it in his ass, then turn around facing away from him (on your hands and knees) reach between your legs and slide the other end of the dildo in your pussy or ass and start fucking! You get to get orgasm and he gets to squeeze his ass mussels to hold the dildo in place for you with a sever punishment if he fails. Adding to his humiliation, if he is a PS allowed to see your pussy, put a blind fold on him.
What ever punishments you give him or when ever you train him. always remember to keep his ropes/chains tight, he yelps with ever hit, push him to break and be fearful of you, be DOMINATING- harsh, strict, bitchfull, aggressive, demanding, degrading and above all, be as humiliating as you can.
He needs this from you just as much as you need and should give it to him.
Other ideals and punishments coming soon......
Friday, September 17, 2010
**Position, rules, and Servitude/Chores
Position is very important for both the mistress and the Sub as it sets the place of both. Position is also a physical tool to use on the Sub and will aid in the training process and continued submission of the male after training. Keeping him in his proper place reinforces her control over him and is a constant reminder that he is there only to pay for and serve, and nothing else, especially with regards to sex.
The Female/Mistress is the hierarchy, meaning she is in complete control, she is the boss and the only authority in the relationship. For that reason her position is always on top of the submissive. She should be standing or sitting on a higher ground than that of her PS. She should at several times through the day make her sub acknowledge his place, beg for it, and show his gratitude for allowing him that privilege by making him lick, suck, kiss and worship her feet, toes and ass. Her word and rules are law, and should always be obeyed with great humbleness and submission from her sub. She will not accept anything less, nor will she accept anything less than complete respect from her sub, and punish severely for any disrespect, rule breaking, failing to complete orders promptly and as directed, back talk and in appropriate questioning. She should never ask for something to be done, only order it in a firm demanding voice. She never accepts back talk or input from her sub, and does not allow herself to be questioned. She is always addressed as mistress, ma'am, madam, boss, or any name she gives the male to address her by, and she should come and go as she pleases. She always views her sub as only her sub, never her equal or a man, and she does not communicate with her sub like she would her man or an equal. This means limited or no conversation, only commands or orders. He is and does exactly what her purpose for him is, and his only purpose is to pay, serve, and please his Mistress to the best of his ability. She will deny him sex and all access to her body saving it only for her lovers or boyfriends. She will work towards permanent chastity and sissyfing of her sub if that turns her on. She will not be shy or timid about her rules,demands, what she wants from him, or expects him to do, including sex or sexual interactions with other lifestyle males. If it turns her on, she is amused, for humiliation purposes or just because she wants it done, she will give the orders to make it happen and then see that it does, again punish severely for failure to obey (even in front of other lifestyle male or people who know of the situation). She will train him to forget about his clit dick, and focus all his energy on pleasing her. She will also train him to derive pleasure from his pussy/anus and tease and humiliate him about that fact. She will be ruthless, domineering, aggressive, demanding and especially humiliating at all times to keep him in his proper place and enforce her rule over him. She will not care of his thoughts or feelings on matters, or care about how much pain and agony he is in when training and especially when being punished. She will carry herself as a Dom/Mistress, getting hair and nails done, shopping, flirting with real men, including fucking and dating. She will also keep her body in good physical shape by going to the gym regularly, and tanning.
The Submissive is just that, he is the server of the mistress and he obeys all orders, rules, and commands. He realizes and is taught that she is inferior to him in every way and that this is the natural way, and the only way of the relationship. She does not want him as a man or for sex, she wants and deserves real men for that purpose. Her only use for him is serving and pleasing her in any manner she chooses. For that reason he is always on the bottom of the mistress and her bulls/lovers. He must ask for permission to do anything except chores or obey orders and take his place at the bottom by kneeling naked at her feet at all times. He must especially be there when asking permissions, serving drinks or food. Proper kneeling is where he is up on his knee's, legs slightly spread, and hands behind his back and his eyes either facing down toward the floor or at his mistresses crotch level. This position is called "Knell or Place" and he will be taught that when you say that one word he immediately gets undressed if not already and takes that position. He should be in the "knell" position and naked, at all times or as much as possible and only allowed to sit- his ass on his legs/heels (like a kneeling sitting position legs spread apart) when you say the word "ease" or if you give permission when he asks to "Ease". Ease is the word you will teach him and use that means he can relax to a semi-relaxed submissive state. But his proper place to ask his mistress for permissions, address his mistress, beg, or to worship his mistresses ass is in the "Knell" position. Another position is on all four's like a dog, legs spread apart head down towards the floor. This position is called "Heel" and you could use this position to scold him or to let him relax (he is never to sit on his ass) for a change of positions, or to use him as a foot rest or stool, or just before your make him worship your feet. the other position is called the "Submit" This is a favorite among Mistresses, used on him for when he is begging, humiliation, worshiping your feet, a quick spanking or just because you want to see him humbled and in place and its basicly the same as Heel/ dog position only his face is on the floor and arms are in front of him like he is diving into water, palms flat on the floor but close to his face. The sub must be taught/trained that his only purpose is to serve and please his mistress and never to expect anything in return. His reward is privilege of serving his Mistress or what ever else she may deem fit (never allow pussy or orgasms through his penis). The sub should ALWAYS be treated as the sub and never allowed input of any kind. He should be talked to like a bitch, treated like a bitch, and addressed as a bitch, or another sub name you give. He will be punished severely for any rule breaking, back talking, or failure to please his mistress. He will always wear a chastity device and keep it cleaned daily as well as all pubic hair removed/shaved. Conversation with him will be limited to only necessary replies, and command words will be used as much as possible. The Mistress should design her own words as well.
The mistress should either be standing (best is possible) or sitting with the submissive full kneeling at her feet and his head/eyes focused on the floor, hands behind his back when she gives him a command/order to follow. She will teach him that this is his full time place when not doing chores or obeying his mistress.
He should spend all of his time that he is not doing chores, kneeling at his mistresses feet or beside the bed/chair and just because he asks for permission to ease, heel, or enter the bed does not mean that she should grant it, permission should be when she is ready to grant it. This is the perfect time to use her female powers of seduction, and body display.
If he is to ask permission to serve his mistress or worship her ass/feet it should be done while he is in his proper position "knell" or "submit" and he must ask/beg for that privilege.
CHORES
He should be given chores that are simple enough for him to do successfully, or taught how to do the hard ones. Load the dish washer, carry down laundry, vacuum, wipe off counters, walls, sweep the floors, clean up dinner, clean up after his mistress, open the doors for her, clean the bathroom, or anything else you need that he can do simple enough. Cooking is always a hard task for men.
You should make a chore list and break it down to things done daily, weekly and monthly, and you should never do any of his chores unless he is ill, or for some work/family reason unable to fulfill his duty. Also if you chose the option to fuck your lovers out of sight or away (at your lovers house) from your PS, you should give him chores (Typically washing panties) to do while you are gone.
Remember, his place is to serve you and yours is to command. Try to keep talking casually with him to a minimum, especially after a training sessions or punishments. Make sure he asks for permission to do every thing, even speak. Never argue or fight, this will kill built up horniness and submission.
Rules
1. Always address mistress as mistress or her approved name
2. Always ask for permission to do anything, including bathroom.
3. Always kneeling at all times, NAKED if possible. especially to ask for permissions or beg.
4. Keep pubic hair trimmed or shaved to mistress's specifications
5. Always show submission, at all times; example opening all doors, letting the mistress order food.
6. Never back talk or ask questions to the mistress, it is not your concern or your business.
7. Never ask for pussy or anything to do with it.
8. Obey all orders on command with out hesitation.
9. Get all daily chores done.
10. Respect and serve your mistress to the best of your ability, including lovers/boyfriends or friends.
11. Never touch the mistress or her property (tiny clit dick included)
12. Always address your self as the mistress property or her bitch
Remember your place, KEEP him in his!
The Female/Mistress is the hierarchy, meaning she is in complete control, she is the boss and the only authority in the relationship. For that reason her position is always on top of the submissive. She should be standing or sitting on a higher ground than that of her PS. She should at several times through the day make her sub acknowledge his place, beg for it, and show his gratitude for allowing him that privilege by making him lick, suck, kiss and worship her feet, toes and ass. Her word and rules are law, and should always be obeyed with great humbleness and submission from her sub. She will not accept anything less, nor will she accept anything less than complete respect from her sub, and punish severely for any disrespect, rule breaking, failing to complete orders promptly and as directed, back talk and in appropriate questioning. She should never ask for something to be done, only order it in a firm demanding voice. She never accepts back talk or input from her sub, and does not allow herself to be questioned. She is always addressed as mistress, ma'am, madam, boss, or any name she gives the male to address her by, and she should come and go as she pleases. She always views her sub as only her sub, never her equal or a man, and she does not communicate with her sub like she would her man or an equal. This means limited or no conversation, only commands or orders. He is and does exactly what her purpose for him is, and his only purpose is to pay, serve, and please his Mistress to the best of his ability. She will deny him sex and all access to her body saving it only for her lovers or boyfriends. She will work towards permanent chastity and sissyfing of her sub if that turns her on. She will not be shy or timid about her rules,demands, what she wants from him, or expects him to do, including sex or sexual interactions with other lifestyle males. If it turns her on, she is amused, for humiliation purposes or just because she wants it done, she will give the orders to make it happen and then see that it does, again punish severely for failure to obey (even in front of other lifestyle male or people who know of the situation). She will train him to forget about his clit dick, and focus all his energy on pleasing her. She will also train him to derive pleasure from his pussy/anus and tease and humiliate him about that fact. She will be ruthless, domineering, aggressive, demanding and especially humiliating at all times to keep him in his proper place and enforce her rule over him. She will not care of his thoughts or feelings on matters, or care about how much pain and agony he is in when training and especially when being punished. She will carry herself as a Dom/Mistress, getting hair and nails done, shopping, flirting with real men, including fucking and dating. She will also keep her body in good physical shape by going to the gym regularly, and tanning.
The Submissive is just that, he is the server of the mistress and he obeys all orders, rules, and commands. He realizes and is taught that she is inferior to him in every way and that this is the natural way, and the only way of the relationship. She does not want him as a man or for sex, she wants and deserves real men for that purpose. Her only use for him is serving and pleasing her in any manner she chooses. For that reason he is always on the bottom of the mistress and her bulls/lovers. He must ask for permission to do anything except chores or obey orders and take his place at the bottom by kneeling naked at her feet at all times. He must especially be there when asking permissions, serving drinks or food. Proper kneeling is where he is up on his knee's, legs slightly spread, and hands behind his back and his eyes either facing down toward the floor or at his mistresses crotch level. This position is called "Knell or Place" and he will be taught that when you say that one word he immediately gets undressed if not already and takes that position. He should be in the "knell" position and naked, at all times or as much as possible and only allowed to sit- his ass on his legs/heels (like a kneeling sitting position legs spread apart) when you say the word "ease" or if you give permission when he asks to "Ease". Ease is the word you will teach him and use that means he can relax to a semi-relaxed submissive state. But his proper place to ask his mistress for permissions, address his mistress, beg, or to worship his mistresses ass is in the "Knell" position. Another position is on all four's like a dog, legs spread apart head down towards the floor. This position is called "Heel" and you could use this position to scold him or to let him relax (he is never to sit on his ass) for a change of positions, or to use him as a foot rest or stool, or just before your make him worship your feet. the other position is called the "Submit" This is a favorite among Mistresses, used on him for when he is begging, humiliation, worshiping your feet, a quick spanking or just because you want to see him humbled and in place and its basicly the same as Heel/ dog position only his face is on the floor and arms are in front of him like he is diving into water, palms flat on the floor but close to his face. The sub must be taught/trained that his only purpose is to serve and please his mistress and never to expect anything in return. His reward is privilege of serving his Mistress or what ever else she may deem fit (never allow pussy or orgasms through his penis). The sub should ALWAYS be treated as the sub and never allowed input of any kind. He should be talked to like a bitch, treated like a bitch, and addressed as a bitch, or another sub name you give. He will be punished severely for any rule breaking, back talking, or failure to please his mistress. He will always wear a chastity device and keep it cleaned daily as well as all pubic hair removed/shaved. Conversation with him will be limited to only necessary replies, and command words will be used as much as possible. The Mistress should design her own words as well.
The mistress should either be standing (best is possible) or sitting with the submissive full kneeling at her feet and his head/eyes focused on the floor, hands behind his back when she gives him a command/order to follow. She will teach him that this is his full time place when not doing chores or obeying his mistress.
He should spend all of his time that he is not doing chores, kneeling at his mistresses feet or beside the bed/chair and just because he asks for permission to ease, heel, or enter the bed does not mean that she should grant it, permission should be when she is ready to grant it. This is the perfect time to use her female powers of seduction, and body display.
If he is to ask permission to serve his mistress or worship her ass/feet it should be done while he is in his proper position "knell" or "submit" and he must ask/beg for that privilege.
CHORES
He should be given chores that are simple enough for him to do successfully, or taught how to do the hard ones. Load the dish washer, carry down laundry, vacuum, wipe off counters, walls, sweep the floors, clean up dinner, clean up after his mistress, open the doors for her, clean the bathroom, or anything else you need that he can do simple enough. Cooking is always a hard task for men.
You should make a chore list and break it down to things done daily, weekly and monthly, and you should never do any of his chores unless he is ill, or for some work/family reason unable to fulfill his duty. Also if you chose the option to fuck your lovers out of sight or away (at your lovers house) from your PS, you should give him chores (Typically washing panties) to do while you are gone.
Remember, his place is to serve you and yours is to command. Try to keep talking casually with him to a minimum, especially after a training sessions or punishments. Make sure he asks for permission to do every thing, even speak. Never argue or fight, this will kill built up horniness and submission.
Rules
1. Always address mistress as mistress or her approved name
2. Always ask for permission to do anything, including bathroom.
3. Always kneeling at all times, NAKED if possible. especially to ask for permissions or beg.
4. Keep pubic hair trimmed or shaved to mistress's specifications
5. Always show submission, at all times; example opening all doors, letting the mistress order food.
6. Never back talk or ask questions to the mistress, it is not your concern or your business.
7. Never ask for pussy or anything to do with it.
8. Obey all orders on command with out hesitation.
9. Get all daily chores done.
10. Respect and serve your mistress to the best of your ability, including lovers/boyfriends or friends.
11. Never touch the mistress or her property (tiny clit dick included)
12. Always address your self as the mistress property or her bitch
Remember your place, KEEP him in his!
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