Relationships and Marriage,

                                            RELATIONSHIPS, DATING, & MARRIAGE

I've had A series of questions asked of me over the years on this topic, by both single men and my fellow Dom's. In the past, the single men these women and my self were seeking to hook up with or date have on occasion asked, "Are you in a relationship?" This was expected from time to time, but it didn't happen that often so it wasn't really a need to address. Back then things were different and most guys were just looking for the sex, if a relationship started, so be it! If the question ever arose most women said NO, or I'm in an open relationship and most of the time all was good. Over the years it appears that more guys are asking this question. My guess is that it has to do with the tremendous increase of women seeking sex outside their relationship, be it dating or marriage. But not just from this lifestyle, Swingers and vanilla women as well are seeking sex from single males. While the number of Dominatrix/Mistresses have increased drastically, its not just this that has impacted the increased rise in questions from single men. These days, a lot of involved women are cuckolding, seeking "BIGGER" better and longer sex from single men, while they enjoy the love, comfort, support, and security, of their relationship. Of course who could blame them, women are intelligent no matter what lifestyle they live. So why wouldn't women who know nothing about this lifestyle (or just to scared about social conviction from friends, family, or co-workers) want to enjoy cuckolding, taking his paycheck and having the best sex they can. With all in consideration, a single guy looking to find a relationship or hook up is far more likely find that she is already in some sort of commitment with someone else than find a true single female. So a single male in the field has over time discovered that the majority of the women he has talked to or hooked up with is in fact spoken for in some manner, especially if she is attractive or fit. Thus the rise in questions from these single men if "YOU" are in a relationship or married. Most Women that have been in this lifestyle for years can deal with this easily enough as we always have. However with the rise of new women joining our ranks so quickly with out proper training or information on how to deal with being a women of power, she is unsure what to say, or how to react. Also the question has arose from time to time here lately, "Do I have a moral obligation to answer truthfully?"

Well here is the truth, if he asked you if your in a relationship or married, he is meaning in the conventional sense, husband and wife like vanilla's do. Meaning having regular, normal sex, day to day intimacy, living as equals with equal power and say. Which in his mind says that he has no hopes for anything other than a one time hook up or a few casual encounters at best. Even worse a husband or boyfriend that would beat him up or damage his property. But that's not you, you don't have that type of marriage or relationship, and you don't want that type. If you are in this lifestyle, you do not have a conventional relationship.....Especially if you are married. Sex and intimacy is not even in your vocabulary with your sub and it shouldn't be. You don't want your bitch for sex, and frankly you don't want him to have anything to do with your pussy, or any pussy. You want him as a bitch, your submissive, cock loving bitch. You surely don't want him as an equal, and honestly his only purpose is to serve and obey you, to make your life better. So in reality, you are looking for a boyfriend or lover to date, to give you the better sex you want, spend time with and even more with the right guy. Just because you are married does not mean you can't be a Mistress/dominatrix and have things your way or that you have to suffer sexually because of this commitment. In fact, the fact that you are married gives you even more of the power and your only commitment to your partner is to love only him, to stand by him, and care for his well being until death due you part. It has nothing to do with sex or who you have sex with and it surely doesn't mean he is granted sex or that you ever have to give sex to him at all. On the contrary, being married means you say when sex happens and how or what type of sex happens. Sex can be anything you allow, like him in a chastity licking you off for hours, allowing him to jerk off once a month, him sucking on a big cock (real or not) or him getting pounded by a big cock (real or not).  So if a single guy asks, the answer to his question should truthfully and always be NO, you are not married or your in an open relationship.

You at some point were oblivious to this lifestyle, you didn't realize the power, and the pleasure you could have. But you knew and even saw in other relationships that women gave orders and the men would obey, especially with the threat of no sex. Deep down inside, the longer you were married you knew you were the boss, that you made the rules, and that he would do what you said or be refused sex. So you obviously didn't marry him for the sex, even if it was OK or good sex, you married him for everything else as I said above. Let me ask you this, purely talking sex and no thought of a relationship or marriage; knowing what you know now about cock size, sex, pleasure, and orgasms, would you have even had sex with your husband or would you laughed turning him down for sex? My bet is that you would have denied him from the start, just like your denying him now. At first sex with him was new, probably good (before you knew what good sex was) and maybe even passionate, it was an emotional bonding time. But eventually (even though you might of had OK orgasms) it was just to make him happy. But the sex is dull and quick, or he can't keep it hard. By now you really don't ever think about sex with him, but you do think about having sex with other well endowed men. Am I right? Now that you have had great sex and long powerful orgasms, there is no way you want to to give that up. You probably aren't even sexually attracted to him, and are more turned on by the thought of him being your bitch and serving you then having that tiny, pathetic excuse for a dick inside you. So, you know you didn't marry him for the sex, you married him for the same instinctive reason 95% of women marry the men they do, because you can control him, because he is good to you, because he is a good father and a good supporter for you, and because you love him. None of these has to do with sex or your pleasure and thus why you have chosen to take your natural place as the boss and authority. To have him take his natural place serving at your feet, to date and get the sex you love and deserve.

You see, your husband has been domesticated, it happens naturally as it is his natural biological place to follow orders from his dominant wife when she takes control of her pussy and his will. It happens to 99 % of married men. This happens out of this lifestyle, on a much milder level, but often leads to women joining the lifestyle when she feels the power and control she has. He can't help it, pussy is very powerful as are the urges he has, to get it. Over time, or in the hands of a very dominant woman, his will to a mild degree has become yours and he finds himself doing things to please you, obeying, and buying you what you want. This is to get your approvals and possibly the graces of sex. The more this becomes routine, and pleasing you is his only access to sex, the more submissive he becomes. The so called marriage papers and the act of doing so were nothing more than the signing and proof of ownership, to you the WIFE. This is all great for the vanilla woman (like you use to be) but the problem with a domesticated male is he becomes lazy, the sex is dull and quick (but quick is probably a good thing though) he still has the ability to argue or become unruly and your sex life suffers greatly. However, being a Mistress or Dominatrix has taken his domestication to a whole new level. The Mistress/Dominatrix women uses this power and defines it, making it stronger and him weaker. She is dominant, aggressive, and ruthless towards him. She doesn't just take control of his will, she breaks it to destroy the male part and create a submissive, a slave, a bitch. She doesn't suffer from lack of sex, she makes him suffer from continual tease and denial and never an orgasm. She embraces her sexuality and the ability to have hot, erotic sex and mind blowing orgasms with whoever she wants, when ever she wants. She gives him strict rules, chores, and enforces them with severe punishments, especially for back talk, questioning, or disobeying. It is her commitment to getting what she wants that gets her what she wants. Her actions, demeanor,  attitude, punishments, humiliation and extremely active cuckolding dictate his submission level and willingness to obey.   

 Domestication doesn't happen to single males, you have to be owned via marriage (or long term relationship) having regular access to pussy. A dominant woman and the threat of loss of that pussy brings it out. They can be submissive, especially ones that were in a previous relationship where the female was very dominant. However,  in general single males are more less wild, and thus better sex partners or lovers. Not so much in the relationship sense though, there is a reason they are single. Men are very simple creatures, as you would expect from something meant to serve females. They really only require SEX, food and sleep to keep them happy, with sex being the majority part of that. It is a proven fact, through study after study; Males think about sex  most of the day and a males main goal is to deposit his semen, he has a biological urge to do so. While he may get some weak pleasure from the act of sex, it is the climax of ejaculating sperm into a pussy that yields 95% of his pleasure. This climax is relatively felt the same no matter the pussy.  So any pussy will do, thus why a male is turned on visually. It is very different for a woman, as you know. We enjoy the act of sex and the building of the orgasm as well as the intensity of the orgasm. We enjoy sex as a whole and as such the difference in size and shape gives of various types of pleasure, with regards to the bigger and thicker the cock the better the sex and the orgasm. So by definition not just any cock will do. We were meant to have a variety to have the best sexual experiences, not just one small or less than average cock. This is why they make so many types and sizes of dildo's for women and why most of the sex toys are for women. There may be several manufactures of pocket pussy's but the hole is all the same with the only factor of being which one feels more real. Pussy toys only try to mimic the feel and sensation of the real thing, while some cock toys try to mimic the same, most (even life like cocks) are made to pleasure a woman by SIZE, THICKNESS, including, TEXTURE, HUMPS, GROVES, RIDGES, or what ever. We were meant to experience different kinds of sex. This is the best part and the main reason women choose to be a Dom and take their rightful place as the authority and queen, to fuck whom ever you want when ever you want. You should always be actively searching, flirting, dating, and fucking.....Every thing else with the lifestyle is just a bonus!   

His new treat

                                                                        HIS NEW TREAT  

I have been a dominatrix for over 5 years, which has been most of my marriage (at 7 yrs) and it's definitely been the best part of my marriage as I'm sure all Dom's will tell you. I'm not just talking about cuckolding him and the sex part, even though that in itself has been unbelievably mind blowing and honestly the main reason I forced him into submission in the first place (I think why most Doms do it). But I'm also talking about the quality, tranquility, and lifestyle of our reformed relationship, which is not as husband and wife. No, our relationship is far better, natural, and how it should be with him on his knees serving and obey me 24/7/365. But not just serving in my home, he serves me at all times and everywhere we go including holidays, vacations, even on our anniversary, and yes in public as well. I demand this and so should you, as his Mistress it's what I deserve and the way it should be but also the way I want it. Since the day I started taking this serious (there was a short time I didn't) being a Dom and actually living the femdom relationship, I have never been happier and neither has he. By serious,  meaning; being an actual Dominatrix which is dominant to say the least, aggressive, controlling, cruel, and sadistic, but also extremely strict and taking full control forcing his submission. Now, there is never a fight or argument, there is no back talking, (he is severely punished for it), I don't put up with any male bullshit at all, or anything else that comes with normal marriage. I don't ask him to do things, I command it and I simply do what I want, when I want and I control everything including the money. We live a 24/7/365 femdom lifestyle as Mistress and Bitch (actually he is a sissy bitch) just like every other femdom relationship does, and I do truly believe this is the way it should be. The terms Husband and Wife are never used, mentioned or even thought of and he is never allowed to think of himself as an equal, or even a man, nothing but my cock whipped sissy bitch. This is what I want and I do everything I can to keep it that way, I make him tell me several times a week, that he is my sissy bitch, that I own him, and tell me his place. He must also accept his place and acknowledge it when ordered to say it then say"he is my bitch and my property". In fact he has no input and he isn't even allowed to speak unless he asks for permission to do so. He has no opinion, thoughts, or control on anything, not even himself, much less his chores, how I govern my house or his servitude to me. He's never to touch my property (phone and all) and never allowed to question me or ask anything about my pussy in any capacity, Its none of his business as he is simply here to serve, obey and pay (actually hand over his entire paycheck) for the privilege of being on his knees in front of me. 

I don't play around with him, I want him to know his place and understand he is my bitch and I'm very dominant, strict, and controlling of him at all times. I take rule violations and disrespect very serious, none is tolerated and all infractions are dealt with severe punishments immediately as it should be and must be! If I could give you words of advice to be successful and get to the next level of submission or even just finishing his training, is this; You must understand that you are changing him mentally and physically through training and chemical altering and conditioning (by denying him sex/orgasms and building up key hormones in his system that keep him horny and promote submissiveness) and this is exactly what you want. But, because of this transformation YOU must take this serious and be the Dom not a wife and friend in order to keep the training progressing to the next level. As he takes this journey he will need you to be his Dom, he must believe that this is truly what you want and he must fear you to let go of any notions that he has any power or worse that he could still have pussy if he throws a big enough fit or temper tantrum to get it. He will never be the submissive he should be and you will never get the devoted submissive bitch you deserve if he doesn't fear you and believes he can get pussy if he really wants it. You must break him through cruelty, humiliation, and punishments forcing his submission to you. You must maintain his submissive nature by forcing him to accept his natural place kneeling at your feet, being devoted, obedient, and very happy to be there. It truly is vital that you be aggressively dominant, very cruel, and sadistic, plus enforce rules and routines with severe punishments for rule breaking or disobedience. This means at the time of the infraction or as soon as possible, NOT days later if you even do it at all, punishments must be given! Lastly you must also understand that Femdom can't be a half the time or only when its a convenient lifestyle, it is a belief and a 24/7/365 choice and should always be in the forefront of your mind. Men's brains are not capable of switching on and off in that capacity, and even if they could the chemical change wouldn't allow them to go from submissive to normal especially very long without complications and remember it is their natural place to be submissive to you. So Being as mean, strict, ruthless and cruel as you can be, is the only way to success and what he really needs to be the best bitch he can be, FOR YOU! Beside it takes no more energy, or skill to be what you want to be anyway. You have to take the initiative and change things up, try doing scenero's you read about, (even this scenario) try new things like putting him in different positions, or new places (woods, hotel rooms, ect.) different types of humiliation and punishments, get new toys or devices (even have him make them if money is tight) and keep him guessing what's next! When you are very strict, dominant, and cruel he will have no choice but to serve and obey as you direct him, plus it makes the days when you are not able to (maybe your sick, etc.) carry through to the next day when you can. So ask yourself this, what do you truly want? Where do you want to be in 3-4 month from now? How can you make that happen? Maybe you want a serious relationship with a hottie you might be talking to? Do you want to be the Boss in the relationship and do what you want when you want to from here out? Do you want to come home to a clean house, laundry done, and meals cooked, no backtalk or question asked, with full body messages, feet rubs and a very submissive bitch waiting on you hand and foot, eager to serve and obey just for the privilege of being your bitch? If you said yes to any of this, take my words of advice and be proud, be the Dom you are meant to be!    

Obviously when it all started for me, I didn't have a guide so I had to learn (why I put my time posting thess how to's, and scenes to try). I wasn't sure exactly what I was doing and I wasn't one of those women that naturally took charge and control because I'm fairly shy, didn't want to embarrass myself or look stupid, and I didn't want to hurt him to bad or scare him away. Honey, let me tell you this, you could never do anything to make yourself look anything but perfect if your doing things as you should be, and he needs exactly that! You also couldn't hurt him anymore than he needs or deserves and trust me, if your the Dom you should be no other woman would matter, he would only want to kneel at your feet and serve you. While most Doms already know all of this and have no problem breaking their bitch, it took time for me to realize that I had to be very dominate, strict and cruel with him. I'm not talking about telling him no, making him kneel or just refusing him sex, no I mean down right cruel, ruthless, and sadistic not to mention pain and punishments. Doing things that I didn't even know I could do or had in me. I'm talking about locking him in a dog cage for hours and using a litter box instead of a toilet, eating and drinking from dog dishes (that he washes out by hand) walking him on a leash, keeping him on his knees, spitting on his face or in his mouth, and even pissing on his face and/or in his mouth, sometimes forcing him to swallow some of it. This was just the tip of things I now do, I also took him to woods, strip him naked and walked him on a leash to a tree that I tied him to, then used a whip and cane on him till he cried and walked him back to the car. I also have made him stand in the corner at the mall or in stores, and even kneel at my feet in the food court while I ate. As crazy as this all sounded to me, it also turned me on and I eventually found out these are all normal things all Dom's do. I also made him serve friends and even boyfriends wearing nothing but his chastity and his panties, and had him used (fucked and suck cock) regularly by gay or bi-sexual men. So to say the least I eventually let loose, let out the bitch and let go of whatever was holding me back from taking my true and natural place as his mistress plus having the best sex I've ever had. He must fear you, The truth is you have to be dominate, cruel, sadistic, and ruthless to be a proper Dom and you have to punish every time he deserves it. Not just for your benefit, or because he needs this from you to be the best bitch he can be, but because this is how its meant to be. As I said before you deserve this so don't let yourself hold you back from having a devoted sissy bitch and a hot boyfriend to fuck you like you need it. Wants you let go of feeling restricted and start treating him the way he should be treated it will feel natural and honestly it will start to turn you on. Now I absolutely love the power and control I have over him as well as being served and treated like a goddess. OH and I really, really loved the fact I could have his complete submission and devotion as my bitch as well as date and fuck whomever I wanted while cuckolding and denying him sex. 

"His new treat" I had been seeing my boyfriend for just under 2 months. He was attractive and we got along great, plus the sex was so amazing, as I saw him more and more I couldn't get enough. He felt the same and we both admitted we really liked each other, so the last time he was over (2 days prior) we decided to make it more than just fuck friends (FWB) and officially be exclusive with each other. So today, (Friday) we wanted to have a few drinks to celebrate the official "we're dating thing", plus have more intimate sex. Earlier that morning I planned how the day and night would unfold. First thing I went to the mall to get a new lingerie outfit to wear for my boyfriend (Carter) and obviously tanning and nails as well. From there I went to the local sex store to buy a sissy porn video, and a couples toy for Jarrad. I ended up getting a small anal/vag vibe for me called a We-Vibe Jive that is remotely controlled by a phone app. Carter had mentioned he wanted to get something he could remotely control when we were out at dinner or where ever to turn me on and watch the reaction in my face, plus I could wear it while we had sex. Next it was the liquor store for Jack and coke for him and premade margarita drinks for me. From there I ended up at the grocery store to get some large ginger for my cock slut and a small pack of condoms. It was now pretty late so I hurried home to get stuff ready before my sissy bitch got home from work. I peeled the ginger - ginger causes a bad burning sensation when inserted into the ass and left, which gets worse the longer its left in or when the butt is tensed up from a punishment spanking (google ginger punishment) and put it into a small bowl of cold water with 4 ice cubes and then took it down to my dungeon for later. While I was downstairs in my dungeon I put the sissy video into the disc player and pressed play (the dvd player starts over when the disc is finished) for later. This is humiliating for him to watch because it focuses his attention on him being a sissy and craving cock.

As I was coming up My bitch was coming through the door and I said (in a firm voice)go take your fucking place. He hurried up the steps to get undressed and into his place kneeling by the door and the bed. I came in and said," You are to straighten up the house and get back in your fucking place, also the dungeon looks like shit CLEAN IT UP! Yes Mistress, thank you mistress! and he crawled out (he is never allowed to walk in front of me, he must crawl in the house) I proceeded to look for something sexy to wear for Carter. I had decided to just wear the lingerie outfit with a sexy see through robe that was rested just above the bottoms of my ass cheeks. I jumped into the shower to wash and shave, Carter likes a landing strip so I trim it to please him (I showed sissy the first time I shaved it for humiliation).  I came out of the shower to find my cum slut kneeling in his place (my towel was rapped around me as sissy is never allowed to see me naked, unless for humiliation) I asked if the chores were all done including laundry, dishes, and vacuuming? Yes mistress, and your drink is setting on your nightstand (he keeps up on the chores daily so they are finished fairly quick). He has been trained to fetch me a drink if he see's I don't have one or its empty. I took a drink and told him to get in the fucking corner (you must speak firmly). Since he is never allowed to see me naked, he must either kneel in the corner or put his face on the floor hands out in front of him (called the submit position). He isn't allowed to ask me whats going on or question me in any way so at this point he has no clue what's going to happen tonight. I did my hair and makeup then carefully put on the lingerie outfit. My sissy bitch isn't allowed to see me in lingerie unless my boyfriends see's me first, and he is serving in some manner, so I put on a bathrobe over it until my boyfriend arrives. I told my sissy he could come take his place, as he crawled over very close, I'm sure he could smell that I was very aroused and excited to see Carter. I stuck my finger inside me and put it up close to his nose then said do you smell how excited I am to see Carter tonight? Yes mistress, thank you mistress for allowing the privilege to smell Carters pussy. Smelling pussy is also a rare treat for him and when I use this I can practically get him to do anything, and I do use it to make him do humiliating acts just to be allowed the privilege to smell it, even on my finger. What can I say I'm a cruel bitch, LoL. I was looking at him seductively as I was thinking how happy I was that I emasculated, chatized, and mentally castrated him. Thrilled that I broke him and striped him of everything it was to be a man and reprogramed him into the perfect devoted and cock whipped sissy bitch that I deserve. Not to mention how much it turns me on to be cruel and sadistic to him, so I spit in his face (he isn't allowed to clean it off unless I say) and shout worship my fucking feet bitch. While he is thanking me for the privilege and worshiping my feet my boyfriend text me and said he is taking the exit. Oh shit, I need to get moving 

I opened the drawer and grabbed his prostate massager put his leash on  (he always wears a collar in the house) and walk him down (he always crawls) the stairs and into the family room towards his corner to kneel. I said SUBMIT (the position where his ass is in the air, legs spread apart, his chin on the floor looking down and his arms out in front of him) and slid the toy inside his pussy and turned it on. Then I ordered him to kneel in the corner and not to move unless ordered to do so. Then hooked the hand part of the leash onto his collar with a carabiner (the carabiner is left on his collar for instances like this). I got into my purse and got the condoms out and took them up to my bedroom for later and hung up my bathrobe. As I came down Carter was coming through the door, and saw me in the lingerie I picked out for him. WOW! he said, you look very beautiful and sexy to girl! He grabbed me and started kissing me passionately (I love how he kisses me) and squeezing my ass cheeks. After a few more kisses he took my hand and walked me upstairs to the bed room to drop his duffle bag of cloths then began telling me about his day and asked me about mine while he was getting dressed into something comfortable, grey sweats and a tight black t-shirt with socks to be exact (It turns me on when he wears grey sweets because I can see the outline of his big cock). That reminds me, I picked up the condoms on the nightstand and explained my plans for my sissy bitch later. He obviously knows all about my bitch as I explained most everything to him on our second date and of course he had questions that were explained in more detail on the third date and so on. For the record, men are very turned on by taking control of and pleasing another mans pussy. I told him that it really wasn't even an open relationship that Zack was my bitch, sissy bitch to be exact. I also explained that his only purpose was to serve and obey me and pay the bills. But what really excited Carter was that my bitch wasn't allowed sex or anything at all to do with my pussy, no touching, not even allowed to see it. If that didn't excite him enough, I told him he wore a chastity 24/7/365 and showed him picks of him in his pink chastity with panties on. See he isn't even allowed to touch his clitty as I laughed. So he wears the chastity all the time, he said? YES, it's only removed to change between chastities and clean a few times a month. To which he said, I'm actually turned on and impressed! However, the first time we meet I told him I was in an open relationship and explained I do what I want (never tell a potential boyfriend your married). Here we are almost 2 months later and he's starting to command my bitch himself and help me use him for sexual activities as well because we talked about it really turning me on. 

After I told him about my plans for my sissy tonight, he said your ruthless and it's fucking hot! He was also pretty turned on so he picked me up and laid me on the bed as we kissed. He pulled down the bra and began sucking my breast at the same time his finger pulled my panties aside and entered me. I started to moan as he moved to sucking on my neck. He then slid down and started licking on my clit while he fingered me and I quickly got off, 2 times to be exact. By now I was wanting his cock so bad (I actually wanted it the day prior so I was really horny for it by now). I pulled him up to sit up and suck his cock which was already swollen and rock hard. I absolutely love his cock, it's not just long (8 1/2 inches) but very thing (the way I love it) and he really knows how to use it. He truly fucks me way better than my pathetic sissy bitch ever did. He grabs a condom off the nightstand and says should I wear it now or wait till I'm about to cum and just blow inside it? I said, you know I love to feel you bare back, so just blow in it when your close! He opened it up to have it ready and laid it next to me as he slid his beautiful cock inside me. Almost instantly I started moaning (men love hearing a woman moan). He got me off at least 5 times over the next 30 minutes and quickly grabbed the condom and slid it on and then his cock back inside me and pumped till he came (which caused me to orgasm yet again). He got up and I squeezed his cock as I carefully slid the condom off to make sure I got every last drop. I then Tied it into a knot and slid it inside me with the knot barley hanging out (easier to grab to pull out) to keep the cum wet and warm for later. He slid his sweats back on as I straightened my self up and put my panties back on. then we walked back downstairs to see my cock slut still kneeling in the corner like a good bitch.

We sat down on the couch and I laid on Carter's chest as he turned on the movie that he told me he wanted to see on the phone (he bought it on my sissies account). I ordered my sissy bitch to get ice and make our drinks, yes mistress he said as he crawled to the kitchen to stand up to full fill my order. Since he wasn't able to crawl with 2 drinks in his hand (he is allowed to walk but must kneel immediately after). He kneeled and looked at the floor (he is never allowed to make eye contact unless ordered) and handed us our drinks. Now get my phone, I left it up stairs on the nightstand. This was done on purpose for humiliation as I wanted him to go upstairs and see that the bed he made earlier was messed up from sex and so that he could smell sex in the air (the hormones make sissy's weak and submissive). But I also wanted him to see the condoms and the open wrapper the condom was in (mind fuck for later lol). He quickly returned crawling with my phone and kneeled in his place at our feet. Now go get back into the corner until your required again, yes mistress he said. I ordered chinese food (Carter loves it) on my bitches credit card. As we somewhat watched the movie we were making out fairly heavily and I know my bitch could hear as we messed around. After about 30 minutes into the movie the doorbell rang. GO GET OUR FOOD BITCH, I yelled. He quickly crawled out to go get on his tight pink spandex shorts and pink half shirt to answer the door in. He's made to wear them as part of his humiliation as they go up the crack of his ass and if you look, you can see his chastity outline, he looks very sissy like. He again walks back in and gets silverware for our food and comes to kneel back in his place repeating as he did earlier. I took our food out of the bag and told him to sit the bag (this was his food) on the counter and make us another drink. He returned with drinks and I said back to your fucking corner cock slut! After we ate he was ordered to clean up the mess and back to the corner. 

The movies was just about over (about 20 minutes or so left) and we started kissing as he rubbed my clit. I was so turned on, not that it mattered as I was already wanting his cock again. I made sure my bitch could hear us kissing and messing around throughout the movie but it was time for some more humiliation, so I stood up and said, "GET OVER HERE BITCH!" He quickly crawled over as his ass depended on it, literally. As he kneeled, I took off my see through gown so he could get a little glance of the lingerie outfit and I said hold this as I threw it over his shoulder. I turned around to face Carson and bent over so sissy could see my ass really good (about a foot away from his face) but more importantly Carter's big cock through the opening between my legs. I had it out playing with it towards the end of the movie and he was still hard, unlike my sissy, his pathetic clitty wouldn't be able to stay hard. It's good for submission, but I also love to humiliate my sissy about how much bigger Carson's cock is (if your cuckolding you need to humiliate about how much bigger, better, and last longer than your sissy), how he is a real man and he can actually please me. Humiliation helps put subs in there place but also keeps them there. I started to suck his big cock letting my sissy see how I could barely get it into my mouth, again more humiliation. I sucked for about a minute or two then turned to notice his clitty was dripping pre-cum out of the chastity. I then said, "GO THE FUCK AWAY!" This is a command I use that means "to go kneel in the corner of another room", which his place is the dining room so he can hear me give orders to obey. He's sometimes permitted to watch or just hear us mess around, but rarely allowed to watch us have sex unless for humiliation or when he is enhancing our pleasure by licking or sucking one of us or both of us. He crawls away to the dining room with a dripping clitty. When sissy's leak/drip pre-cum out of their chastity it is a sign of a high arousal state but more importantly its submission to the alpha male. This brings up another point between a real man and a pathetic sissy bitch, while I'm standing in front of my boyfriend (a real man) in lingerie he gets hard, grabs my ass, is excited and thinking about fucking the shit out of me. But I stand exactly the same in front of my sissy bitch and he gets weak, submits, and can only think about serving and worshiping my ass....Which is exactly what I want and why he was meant to be my bitch. Truthfully, He could never please me sexually with his pathetic small clitty, or last longer than a few minutes (not that I wanted him to with no pleasure) but he can please me or even turn me on (wanting Carson's big cock) by suffering for me, serving and obeying, or worshiping my feet and ass and last as long as I want him on his knees doing so. Not to mention the whole body massages, head and foot rubs, so he is where he was meant to be and exactly where I want him!

After my sissy left the room I kneeled down and sucked Carter's cock more, knowing he would lose whatever focus he had left on the movie and take me upstairs to fuck the shit out of me again. Needless to say a few minutes later he was saying lets go fuck (of course baby). We stood up and he kissed me, then he grabbed my hand walking me towards the steps. I yelled to my bitch to shut off everything, clean up and bring us up some fresh drinks. About 10 minutes later sissy came in with our drinks and kneeled next to us as I was straddled on Carter's lap facing him (both sitting up) with my arms around the top of his shoulder and neck, his holding my waist. We were both naked except my panties (as Carter undressed me and then threw off his clothes as soon as we got upstairs). I said sit the drinks down and put on your blindfold in the top draw. After it was on, I stood up checked the blindfold to make sure it was tight, then took off my panties and grabbed his leash pulling him over to my ass as I climbed back onto Carson. I said lick my fucking asshole bitch and you better do it right. As he licked the rim for a few minutes and then tongued deep into my asshole (which he knows I love), Carter laid back onto the bed and pulled me down on top of him so sissy could lick my ass better as we kissed. My bitch knows he is never to lick past my asshole to carters pussy (a severe punishment stopped that) After about 5 minutes I said enough and sissy thanked me for the privilege to worship my ass (he knows failing to thank me for privileges is a severe punishment). I took the leash off the carabiner and walked him through the door and told him to "submit" and stay. I then closed the door over the leash so that he was on the outside of the bedroom with the door closed and the leash went under the door and I pulled it up to hook on the door knob so he couldn't get up or move. All he could do is stay on his knees in the "submit position" and listen to Carson fuck the shit out of me as I moaned and screamed for over an hour (1 hour 15 minutes). The humiliation of hearing me moan and scream the entire time was not all the humiliation he received, he also heard me telling Carson that I loved his cock and Carson making me tell him its his pussy and that I wanted it to be his pussy from now on... How tight his pussy is and how good it feels, as well as other humiliating stuff. Humiliation is very important in his submission not just to me but also to Carson as it helps reprogram his mind and reinforce his position and purpose to me (as well as it will you). I really wanted him to know his place from now on, his true place and purpose for me which as I said is serving, obey, and paying me for the privilege to do so.      

After a hard fuck session with me moaning and groaning just about the entire time, we needed a break and Carter wanted some alone time for more intimate sex with me. Plus it was more humiliating for my bitch to only hear part of it (and why I love Carson's cock so much) then go to his cage not being permitted to hear the rest so his mind can run wild with humiliation. After I slid on some panties, I unhooked the leash from the door knob and opened the door and said in a firm voice up! I noticed that his clitty was leaking pre-cum so I bent down and wiped it with my finger saying open your fucking mouth and shoved it into his mouth. Then I ordered in a firm voice for him to lick clean the mess on the carpet. Then I walked sissy to the dungeon but instead of locking him in his cage as I normally do, I made him kneel at the foot of the bed/bench (its more of a tie down table) facing the door. I then cuffed his hinds behind his back and put in a mouth spreader so he would slobber all over himself and I could force him to suck my strap-on cock later. Then put the "wedge stool" under him to force him up on his knees (for torture knowing keeping him in his place, on his knees would be more painful with as long as he's been kneeling tonight). The "wedge" is a sharp triangle shaped kneeling stool made of wood (sometimes steel) that the sub kneels on to hold him in place. It causes pain in the area of the asshole and in between the balls if he lowers off his knees. So It basically keeps him on his knees, you can also strap various types of dildos onto it for added stretch pain as well. And you can attach shock pads from a shocking device and strap his balls to it, kind of forcing him to endure some pain from the wedge and shock at the same time. Finally I take some Tiger Balm and rub it all over his balls, then turned out the lights except the bright spot light which I have mounted on the wall facing his face. I shut the door and washed my hands (you don't want this in your eyes) before going back up to my bedroom. 

As I enter, Carson was still lying naked on the bed, only now he had some soft R&B music playing on my google nest hub (Mini screen device similar to Alexa) and was playing on his phone. As he quickly stood up, he asked if sissy was locked down, to which I replied painfully locked down whith a sadistic grin on my face. He grabbed my waist and pulled me to him and started kissing me very passionately then pushed me towards the bed. He gently pushed me back onto the bed and started licking me (which he is honestly very good at) for several minutes. After about three orgasms he slowly licks up my stomach to my breast and spent some time licking and sucking on my nipples until he left a sucker mark right next to my right nipple (so my sissy can see he's marking his property). He knows not to leave a hickey on my neck because I think its tacky but I'm fine anywhere else that shows sissy humiliation. He then starts kissing me again as I reach down to play with his cock that is already rock hard. He spreads my legs wide and slowly enters me and starts pumping in and out. I instantly feel pleasure and get very wet (something I've never done with sissy) as he again starts kissing me very slow and passionately. His cock is hitting that perfect spot that makes me build to a strong orgasm, only he's going slow and steady purposely to keep me building higher and higher to an orgasm. I'm already moaning softly from the pleasure of his cock, but now he starts sucking on my neck (which he knows I love), and I feel the orgasm build to the point I didn't think it could build anymore. But it did, higher and higher as he started picking up speed as his slow gentle strokes turned into harder steady strokes and there it was a mind blowing passionate orgasm that was far better than anything my sissy ever gave me (but then again they all were lol). But it wasn't over yet, as soon as I start moaning and screaming louder from the intense orgasm, he pulls my head up and we lock eyes as he starts pounding me harder and faster and I start scream out OMG, OMG as I completely explode to the best orgasm I've ever had.

We continue to have hot passionate sex like this in various positions for about another 1 1/2 hours,  It literally was some of the best sex I've ever had, if not the best. At the end he had cum at the same time I had another mind blowing orgasm and filled my pussy with his cum, I actually love it when he cums inside me and I feel his big cock get very hard as his warm load unleashes. We laid there for another few minutes kissing passionately as I felt his cock get soft (even soft he is still bigger then sissy hard) inside me. Carson rolled off me and laid next to me and we talked for a few minutes before I had to get up to go pee. I then grabbed the cum filled condom from earlier (I stuck in a heating pad on low setting to keep it warm and fresh). By now it was getting late so I put on my panties and told Carson I'd better get downstairs and punish sissy and give him his treat reminding him he was welcome to come watch. He said to leave the door cracked he might come down after he gets a shower. He has watched a few times before without my sissy knowing as he was wearing a blind fold. I kissed him then started to walk away and he pulled me back to kiss him again and said, "your so fucking hot when your cruel". I gave him an evil grin and walked down to the dungeon. 

As I walked in sissy had slobber running down his face and his clitty was still leaking a lot of pre-cum. I said firmly, your pathetic little clitty can't stop leaking (remember leaking pre-cum is a sign of submission to an alpha male), you can't help but submit to a real man fucking me like I deserve because you know your meant to be a cock whipped sissy slut, don't you! Yes mistress he replied. It must be fucking humiliating that there's nothing you can do about it and you can't even control your fucking mess, but that's all that will ever come out of that worthless tiny clit. That's what Sissie's are for, humiliation, torture, amusement, and fucking obeying his mistress, OH, and paying for the privilege to serve me. Well I bet your ready to get out of those cuffs and off the "wedge" aren't you. YES Mistress! he tried saying through the mouth spreader. That's to bad, I have plans for your fucking sissy mouth, I went over and put on my strap-on with the large cock then forced it into his mouth. I fucked his mouth and made him gag a little as I humiliated him that Carson cock was about this big (it really is) and that he fucked me way better than your pathetic clitty ever could, but I'm sure you could tell, couldn't you bitch? He tried to say yes mistress the best he could with a large cock in his mouth. I had one hand on his leash and the other grabbing a hand full of hair forcing my cock into his wet mouth telling him to suck my fucking cock like he loves it. As he is gaging on it, I explained that he better get use to sucking and pleasing cock a lot because he was about to start for real as I had listed him a profile with pics of him (he didn't know I had taken them as he was blind folded) some naked pics of his ass in various positions and some with panties on, plus one with his pink chastity on and one with it off and hard. I posted them on several gay and bi-sexual web sites including "Grindr". I told him that I'd been talking to several guys from there and explained our situation and that he could literally be used anytime they wanted (with in reason and a little advanced notice). So you already have a few cocks that can't wait to use you like you fucking deserve. But don't worry, eventually your going to love it and even beg to have your cock hole fucked. I could see the desperation and humiliation in his eyes as he said, are you serious mistress? Yes, and you will be trained to please cock the proper way, I said as I laugh at him.  

After a few more minutes of humiliation I said, well lets get this mouth spreader off so you can suck the pre-cum off my finger, then I'll let you up to lick the wedge board clean of your nasty mess. After he finished cleaning up his mess (yes I made him suck the pre-cum off my fingers like it was icing), I uncuffed him and told him to worship my fucking feet, which he quickly bent down and started kissing and licking my feet. As he worshiped them, I reached over to get a latex glove on and then continued to humiliate him about being a pathetic panty wearing cock slut as I reached down to play with his asshole and started fingering his pussy. I bet your craving my cock right now aren't you bitch? Yes mistress as he moaned and continued to kiss and lick my feet. That's a good cock slut, now KNEEL I said in a firm voice to which he quickly obeyed. Beg me just like the pathetic cock whipped slut you are, beg me to allow you the fucking privilege to have my big cock deep in your pussy. Immediately he started to beg for my cock as he looked down at the floor (he is never allowed to look up unless ordered to do so). He was begging sincerely as I shouted, LOOK AT ME AND BEG! then I spit on his face. He looked up and said yes mistress, please mistress, may I please be permitted the pleasure of your big cock? May I please be permitted to be a good cock slut for you and amuse you by moaning and screaming to your big cock forcing me to cum and submit to it? Please mistress I'm begging you? SHUT THE FUCK UP and get up on the bench I yelled! He climbed up and I proceeded to lock him down good and tight because I didn't want him to move at all for what was about to happen. I unlocked his chastity (it had been almost a week since it was off) and pulled his tiny package (balls and all) back and clamped them in the bench. This puts his clitty facing down towards the floor, and I started to edge him by licking and fingering his prostate. After about 10 minutes he was begging for cock again and I said beg louder, to which he did as I walked around to the front of him and said SUCK MY FUCKING COCK AND GET IT READY! He opened wide as I slid it into his mouth and again began fucking his mouth. I pulled it out and slapped him across the face with it then lubed it up and slowly slid it in saying thank your mistress for the privilege of my fucking cock. He thanked me as his words turned into moans and whimpering from my cock stretching his pussy and going deep. I said That's right bitch as I laughed, you can't help but moan from my cock can you bitch? No mistress he replied. After about 20 minutes of pounding his pussy and humiliating him I pulled out and again went around the front, grabbed him by the leash and made him suck and lick my cock clean of lube (Strep can happen but is rare if properly cleaned out, and there's antibiotics if it does) saying suck my fucking cock clean slut! This is very humiliating for sissies, and reinforces their place. After about 5 minutes, I pulled it out and said what should you say slut? He again thanked me for the privilege of pleasing my cock. I absolutely love seeing and hearing him beg to be my bitch and transform into a true sissy bitch willing to obey my every command, it is so intoxicating. 

It was time for his treat and training to accept his treat with any dirty humiliating way I want him to take it. For the record, he has been forced to lick clean his own messes and even did clean up duty a few times with my last boyfriend, but this time it was going to be different. From now on he would do clean up every time possible, and from here out he would not be allowed to lick it directly from my pussy (at least very rarely). Instead I would squat over him and squeeze it into his mouth then finger feed the rest of it to him or do it in whatever humiliating way I could think of like having Carson shoot it straight into his mouth. I took off the strap-on and hung it up, then I got the ginger off the table by the door, took it out of the cold water and shoved it into his ass hole so it could start to take its affect on him before his caning. Then I grabbed the ball gag and walked in front of him saying its time for your new treat. He looked puzzled as his mind went wild with curiosity of what I was talking about. I walked over and grabbed his dog dish (it says sissy bitch on it in all caps) and placed it in front of him and proceeded to squat over it and pull my panties aside just enough for him to see the cum dripping from my pussy lips. I squeezed and fingered my pussy to get every last drop into his dish then reached up to wipe what was on my finger across the bottom of his nose and lips. I knew the smell of sex would both drive him crazy inside and make him weak and submissive. I then took the condom full of cum and cut it open and squeezed it into his bowl. The whole time he looked very humiliated as by now he was understanding 2 things, first what his new treat was going to be and how much of it there was, and second that I had started letting Carson cum inside his pussy. At least that's what he thought, but he was about to get even more humiliation. I Then stood up and said you look humiliated and frustrated! Yes Mistress, That's good, you should be. Mistress may I please have permission to speak, he said in a humble tone. Yes bitch, what? Its very humiliating that your going to make me eat his cum especially since I can't even lick it from his pussy but its really humiliating that you let him cum inside his pussy tonight. I laughed and said, your going to be eating Carson's cum every time possible from now on, but tonight wasn't the first time he didn't use a condom and cum inside me. He then spoke without permission saying, its not mistress? Again I laughed and said no, he's been fucking me almost the whole time without one and cumming inside his pussy. He looked like he was about to cry, and I said AW-AW, is sissy going to cry for me as I started laughing at him, don't worry sissy's going to have plenty of time for that tonight especially since you spoke with out permission. The fear of punishment snapped him back into submission as he quickly said I'm sorry Mistress for my disobedience! Oh your going to be very sorry, I promise you that. Yes Mistress!

Your probably really humiliated that he's fucked me this whole time with out a condom and you didn't know, yes Mistress! Its none of your fucking business though is it BITCH! I said in a very strict tone. No Mistress! That's right, you deserve nothing at all to do with pussy, the only reason you know now is for the humiliation of it and as I said before so you can expect to clean up the fucking mess every time possible. I walk over to get the cane and the cat-0-nine tails whip and start using the cane on his ass first, hitting his ass 10 times slow and hard. Then I said, I'm sure knowing this your really realizing that its going to be his pussy from now on and there is nothing you can do about it, is there bitch? No mistress, that's fucking right, your place and purpose for me is nothing more than serving and obey and paying for that privilege. Yes mistress! Then I hit another 10 times slow and hard, followed by 20 fast and hard hits. Do I have your attention bitch? YES MISTRESS! he yelped out. GOOD, your training is about to begin I said in a firm voice. I want you to know I meant what I said, you will never have anything to do with pussy again much less feeling the pleasure of it. I hit him another 20 fast and hard while saying, You will be grateful and thank me for the rare times I even let you smell it, even if on my finger is that understood bitch! YES MISTRESS! he cried out. Another 10 slow, hard hits. Now he is really whimpering and flinching with every hit, but the ginger is keeping him from clenching his ass checks so he must endure every hit. I speak in a dominant and firm voice from here till I'm finished with him, saying Your going to lick every drop of his cum out of your bowl and your going to beg me to do it, but not yet, not till I'm finished with you. I want you ready to do it, then hit him another 10 fast and hard. I want you really wanting his cum in your mouth, I want you sexually excited to taste his warm cum in your mouth and please me that way. I want you to be a true cock whipped slut, ass I hit him another 20 fast and hard. Then I put the ballgag in and continued to hit him in series of 10 and 20 hits mixing them slow and hard. He eventually was screaming and yelling with muffled cries and pleads to stop, but I continued to hit, humiliate and scold him about his place and purpose. His muffled yelps, and screams eventually turned into crying and tears and I laughed at him and hit more until I felt he was ready to beg me to lick up Carson's cum (over 300 hits later).

I hit him as I said are you ready to beg me to clean up Carson's cum, he shook his head violently saying yes mistress may I please beg you to lick it up. It was muffled but it still really excited me and turned me on especially with the power I have over him. I took off the gag and slobber was all over the floor and gag, I laughed and said see your slobber tells me you want it in your mouth more than you know, joking of course it was the ball gag that did this. Yes mistress he said in a trembling voice. Well, what do you have to say as I hit him another 10 times hard and fast. As He starts saying PLEASE MISTRESS! PLEASE!PLEASE! may I lick up Carson's cum. I feel Carson reach around to my pussy and start rubbing my clit. Please mistress I'm begging you to allow me the privilege of cleaning up his cum. I hit him another 10 times fast and hard as best I can anyways with Carson telling me how much it turns him on to see sissy submit to me. I say you can do better than that in a loud voice. Yes mistress! As he again pleads to taste his cum and begs to be my cum licking cock slut, Carson spins me around and kisses me passionately and I feel his cock harden as he presses it against my pussy lips (thinking thank goodness for the V pill). He starts to rub my clit with his cock pumping it in and out before he spins me around and slides it in from behind. He pumps about 10 times then pulls it out saying hurry this up and get your ass upstairs, I want that again before bed. Then he smacks me on the ass and walks out. I zone back in and sissy is still begging me to lick his cum from the bowl, so I don't think he even heard Carson in the room or at least he was to scared to take his focus off begging me for his cum to prevent another beating. Now I switch to the cat-o-nine tails whip and say tell me who's bitch you are and start hitting him back hand and front hand with the whip. As he confesses he's my bitch he pleads to stop, but I continue saying what's you place and where do you belong from here out? My place is serving and obey you mistress and I belong kneeling at your feet from here out mistress! GOOD BITCH! You may now clean up his fucking mess but you better not disappoint me! He licks the bowl clean and says thank you mistress for allowing me the privilege of licking his cum. His ass is extremely welted up, purple and red (black and blue as they say) and I'm very pleased with my work and the submission it accomplished.

I tell him I'm going to let him up, he is not to touch his ass or the ginger until the mess is cleaned up. I untie him and he quickly drops to his knees and thanks me for the privilege of serving me and allowing him to lick Carson's cum up. He begs to serve me from now on and asks me to please allow him to be my cock slut from here out. I smiled and said in a firm voice, YES that's your fucking place, now clean up the fucking mess. He quickly started cleaning up and came back to kneel at my feet, but all I could think of was hurrying to get up stairs to Carson. I said GET IN YOUR FUCKING CAGE! Then locked the door, I said as I walked to the door that if he was lucky after Carson left in the morning I would bring down his cum breakfast from morning sex and allow him to sniff my cum filled panties a bit before doing Saturday chores, as I was going upstairs to get fucked again. Then looked at him with an evil grin as he said yes mistress, please mistress may I have that privilege then turned out the light and closed the door saying we'll see bitch! I went upstairs and climbed on top of Carson and we had slow passionate sex for about 20 minutes, my pussy was already swollen and sore and I wanted it to rest before morning sex. I fell asleep laying on his chest. 

You can and even should use this entire event as a scenario for you to follow. I did as this is an actual ceremonial event most Doms due for forced cum eating or just for humiliation as they stop using condoms with a boyfriend. Till next time...

Your success is on you!

Mistress 

      

                   

      

       

                         

EDGING 101

                                                                    EDGING YOUR BITCH

EDGING

Like pegging and panties, edging goes hand in hand with forced chastity and sissy training, as it makes wearing the chastity more effective, deeper submission, helps with reprogramming and increases your control over your bitch. Most Dom's practice a form of edging in training without even knowing their doing so or what it is. However they are not properly doing it (technique), so its effects are not as strong as the technique below. So make sure you follow the technique below as close as possible. Edging is a very powerful tool for all Doms, as it forces submission, but it also forces cuckold desires. That's right, edging forces him to want to be cuckolded and he will even beg you to do so during this technique, as you will train him to want this during the edging process so it should be done daily throughout his entire training process and occasionally after (1-3 times a month) as well. 

How its done; First and important, tie him down (very securely) with his knees and legs spread far apart to have easy access and this makes him feel helpless, MAKE SURE you also secured his ankles far apart so as not to accidently kick you during the edging. If you are edging correctly as instructed here, after about 2 weeks of continuous edging he will start to move his legs around and may accidently kick you, so secure them tightly. Then properly lasso his balls up to help prevent an orgasm. Take a thin rope (1/8 to 3/16) fold it in half using the center as a starting point, wrap the center from under the ball sack upwards on the outside of the balls and around both balls downwards through the center separating the balls from each other.  At this point both balls should have one wrap around each of them, repeat this step wrapping each testicle this same way 2-3 times (depending on your length of rope) to separate them further from each other and to tighten the skin around them. Make sure both balls are equally wrapped with tightness (both look the same) and the skin should be tight on each ball with very little to no extra skin. On the last circle of ball wrap as your pulling the rope between the balls crisscross the rope at the bottom of the balls bringing the rope ends opposite of how you wrapped it prior. Then wrap the rope around the entire base 2 times and back on top to tie of the base of his clitty. Depending on how much you want to stretch his balls but also to draw them out away from the body you could also wrap the rope around both balls together prior to wrapping it around the base. NOTE* The rope needs to be fairly tight, but not to tight, as you barely want to restrict blood flow dulling the nerves that trigger orgasm. Judge by how tight the skin looks and the color, red and purplish is ok deep dark purple might be to tight but judge by his reaction.

Second,  NOTE* Always start out licking his clitty prior to inserting a finger or toy into his rear-end. Begin by using your tongue and fingers to lick and rub the underneath of his shaft just below the urethra opening (called the frenulum) and the small pea sized area below the frenulum. Make sure you humiliate and degrade him during the entire time of edging. This is the time to really humiliate and degrade him, but it's also training time for him because what you want him to be or how your want him to behave will be retained subconsciously during this process especially when putting your pussy in his face using copulins to reprogram him. After a few minutes (3-4) lick the head and rim of the clitty and switch it up during the edging process. The entire head is your playground even the back side. However spend the most amount of time on the frenulum, and entire rim of his head as this gives the most pleasure. The object is to work him up and build his arousal level so high that he becomes weak, disoriented and submissive. Note* NEVER put his clitty fully into your mouth to suck, only lick it (like a clit), as this could cause a sudden orgasm. Licking makes it difficult to orgasm because it doesn't stimulate enough nerve endings at the same time to force an orgasm. Keep in mind that this is only relative to how long he has been denied an orgasm or milked, the longer he goes without either the more sensitive his clitty becomes so watch closely as I said its difficult, not impossible to cum. But, the threat of a severe punishment for an orgasm helps to deter it. However, If you haven't given him a proper punishment yet, your not taking your place serious and being the Dom you need to be, its time to do so! Keep in mind, a sissy's clitty doesn't deserve penetration of any kind, clitty licking is the best she will ever receive, besides its very disrespectful and degrading to a mistress to suck a sissy's clitty and sends the completely wrong message.

Third, after about 5-10 minutes (or longer, NEVER SOONER) of licking its time to insert a finger (1 finger) and lick at the same time.*Never stimulate the prostate with a toy or finger until after the penis has been stimulated for at least 5-10 minutes first, even if your not edging him. Remember, you must build arousal, anticipation, and desire first for the edging technique to work properly. This also makes the nerve endings around the anus and prostate more sensitive creating the desire to be fucked. Plus this is key to sissy training as you want her ready to beg for cock through this technique. Continue to lick and work his prostate for another 5-10 minutes or more. After that, you may switch to a prostate toy if you choose to do so (a finger sometimes works best as it has better articulation and can hit the P-spot exactly right). In edging the length of time is key, as the longer you do it the better it works especially as the finger (or toy) works its magic on the prostate. This third step stimulates from the inside out and causes a surge in hormones and need for release (to cum), as it builds pressure in the epididymis (gland the sperm is stored in). The longer the stimulation the more the pressure and need for relief as the pressure starts to push the sperm through the vas deferens to the ampulla (located just above the prostate). If stimulated long enough without orgasm and ejaculation, the pleasure and pressure (the need to cum) can become so intense that it becomes almost intolerable. This is the point when you get true submission and begging, this is exactly how you want him. After several days and/or weeks of this, blue balls sets in and the male becomes very docile and accepting of his place and any training you give. It's also where cuckolding desires start to push to the surface. A sissy in training will start craving your cock as his P-spot is swollen, desiring the stroke and stretch of a cock, pleasure only a big cock can give. *Note Sporadic edging or edging done on occasion (not done daily) works to influence arousal level, but consecutive daily edging is far more effective and has the added submission effect, as I said before, a need for you to cuckold him. So start off every training session with edging him for at least 20 minutes, even if its punishment night, unless its a punishment only session.

Forth and lastly, by now you have spent at least 20 minutes hopefully more (again longer is far better) building arousal levels, its time to train him in various training scenarios like bring out his desire for you to cuckold him or date a boyfriend, sucking cock, taking cock, following rules, cleaning the house, wearing panties and other sissy aspects like heels, lingerie, and clothes and pretty much anything associated with dating your boyfriend full time. Remember to make sure you continue to lick and massage the prostate while you do it, and make him repeat, agree, and beg for everything your programing him to accept and do.     

EXTREME EDGING

Almost all Dom's deny sex and sexual relief of any kind to keep his energy, arousal, and hormone levels high so he is easily trained and reprogrammed, very submissive and eager to obey. Besides sex with a sissy bitch sucks anyway and he doesn't deserve to cum. However serious Dom's take it to a higher level and use 2 very effective edging methods for increasing dominance and control, with a deeper submission. The first is extreme edging, done just as edging described above, however extreme edging is where you edge continuously with prostate stimulation, (toy or finger inserted) for a minimum of 40 to 50 minutes or longer, again longer is key. During this time she is very dominant, speaking aggressively to him and being cruel, spitting in his face, smacking his balls, pissing on his face, clamping his balls or any other cruel treatment to take over his subconscious mind as she reprogramms him. The second method is even worse, extreme edging all day, off and on, which requires you to lock him down each time (4-5 times or more) throughout the course of the day for 40 to 50 minutes or so, while you repeat it each time. *Note the all day edging obviously requires more time but the reward is significant with submission and shorter training time. All day edging should be done at least once during the training period. The all day technique is also used for forced sissy's cock pleasing (real cock) the same night because of its extreme heightened arousal state and submission (Explained in the sissy section of my blog). Both extreme edging and all day edging will result in an deeper, more intense pain from blue balls with a desperate and extreme need for release. When this edging is done for days turning to weeks, I have watched many sub males, even my own sissy break from this type of edging, becoming an utterly submissive bitch, so extremely submissive they would do anything to cum. Eventually, sissy's will turn to begging and crying (real tears) for release, desperate to cum. This will eventually turn into begging and crying, pleading just stop the edging (which you won't do) because the need to cum is so intense. This is prime time to break his will and show him why your in control. This power is very intoxicating and arousing for Dom's, it is the only pleasure the sissy is capable of giving you and pretty much the only pleasure you want from him. This is the point you know the edging is working, you need to laugh and humiliate the sissy if he does cry, and keep edging and humiliate him as this time is one of the best influencers of extreme submission and training plus key to extracting the sissy you want. Remember to use this time for training to reprogram him to your desires. 

**NOTE**An added technique to extreme edging is the teasing technique called "PUSSY TEASING", which is also done in "COPULIN TRAINING". This is done by teasing him with pussy in some manner to increase his hypnotic state and natural desire to submit and obey you. This would be smelling pussy, seeing it up close while spreading your lips apart, and even sliding your finger or toy inside at the same time. You could also use the "power stance position" standing over him with legs spread on each side of his chest, facing his clitty as you humiliate and degrade him then squat to put pussy inches from his face. Or watching you use a dildo on yourself (or holding in his mouth). Any of these as well as your own ideas to tease him can be done during edging or anytime in training and they drastically bring out submission and cuckold desires. However, If you are currently dating a boyfriend or start in the future and forbid him anything to do with pussy, this can be done with panties on and still give near the same effect not to mention the effect the smell of pussy has on him.

At first his training will keep him from begging for pussy, but the intense edging will eventually break him and make him beg for it or at least beg to cum. The main thing that will keep this from happening is if you have been punishing him correctly for past disobedience or doing so prior, but he may still do so. This is because of the high levels of hormones, the intense feeling of blue balls, and extreme need to cum may cloud his thought process. This is why punishing correctly is so important but also why extreme edging is good for brainwashing and reprogramming him to become the bitch you want and deserve. Remember the higher the levels of hormones, the more submissive he is and the easier he is to control. Also, never under any circumstances at any time allow your sissy bitch to beg for pussy. This is insulting, and extremely disrespectful to a Mistress especially if she has a full time or serious boyfriend as pussy would belong to him, so this act should anger you, GREATLY so show it! If it does not, then you are not taking your position as his mistress serious and this will eventually cause difficulties with your submissive with regards to your boyfriend if it has not already done so. So it is very vital that you punish for disobedience and every rule not obeyed. For now, simply give his balls several smacks during edging and tell him he will be punished for it that he is never allowed to beg for pussy, DO NOT FORGET to punish him after training for this disrespect or at least the next day. Remember letting him get away with this will not only invite future invitations to beg for pussy and other disrespectful actions, but also make you look weak and have him questioning your authority. Also while edging him properly, your bitch may begin to do hump motions with his hips (might take a few days) while your licking his clitty. It's called dry humping (male dogs also do this) and he may not even be aware he is doing this, it's a natural sign that he is becoming extremely aroused and horny. While you want to see this happen as a sign your edging correctly, continued humping is very disrespectful, almost as much as asking for pussy. No self respecting Dom would ever allow a submissive bitch to hump her face. Again smack his balls as many times as needed to get him to stop and threaten punishment later. Remind him that even though he is a dog and should be treated like a dog, collared and caged....Humping will not be tolerated!   

During extreme edging, this is the time to use his high levels of hormones to reprogram him, especially if you used pussy teasing and the copulins. Simply change his desire for pussy to wanting your cock and craving it instead. Use your own words to refocus his need and pleasure to what you want, like how its a privilege to serve and obey you. Point out how good your cock feels and how he will love all of it, how he can't resist it and make him tell you this and admit to it. Tell him he will be cock whipped, and he shouldn't resist it, that its his natural place and he can't resist it and must submit to it. Again make him admit that he loves it and wants it always. This is where your words and humiliation transform him through brainwashing. Tell him he is a pathetic sissy bitch and that he was born to please cock, explain that he will never be allowed the pleasure of pussy again, that he will love cock instead. Tell him he never pleased pussy, and that his clitty is to pathetic and tiny. You have to let your inner Dom out, use your imagination, ideas, and words to reprogram him to want and crave your cock OR even real cock if he is a sissy. If you have been pegging him for a weeks prior, and doing the edging technique with prostate stimulation, he will naturally have a desire to want fucked. This desire will increase with every day you edge and by your reprogramming his mind during edging, soon he will be begging for and serving your cock. Best of all he will truly believe that his purpose is serving you and pleasing cock and want it badly.  *Note copulins are heavily built up during sex so it is necessary to use a dildo on yourself up close to his face or in a face harness as you ride it. because of this it is especially important to make him lick clean the mess after sex EVERY TIME!   

Extreme edging is very, very effective in speeding up training time (as much as 1 month if training and punishments are done properly and edging done everyday), inducing deeper submission, and promoting a long term cock whipped state of mind. Crucial and important, extreme edging like other training methods is hormone manipulation and its a very powerful feeling to the submissive male as he is at his most (chemically forced) aroused state, with intense desire and pressure to cum with a deep pain from blue balls, yet helpless to do anything about it. SO you must be very dominant, aggressive, strict, ruthless, and punish severely to keep him in check by female power and authority. This will help prevent any rebelling, temper tantrums, or unruly behavior. Also and because of this, REMEMBER it is necessary that you always tie his legs down 1- at the ankles, 2 - at the knees (hips if possible), 3- and spread wide open to take the edging. This will prevent him from accidently kneeing you or kicking you as his legs start moving around from the intense desperation and need to cum. This may not happen in the first week or so of edging but, TRUST ME IF YOUR DOING IT CORECTLY IT WILL HAPPEN, so tie him down firmly and securely every time.  Remember as a Mistress and/or Dominatrix it is your job and your responsibility to be very dominant and strict, to be degrading, cruel and extremely sadistic towards your sissy bitch! You get out what you put in....  

Rules Punishments (updated version)

                                                                   RULES AND PUNISHING
                                                                    (Updated version 7-17-21)

Before I discuss rules and punishments let me start by saying that your bitch, sissy or otherwise is an adult male. Meaning, he is highly capable of hearing, understanding, and obeying you and your rules with no excuses, PERIOD! You should not be making excuses for him or for yourself, If he doesn't obey or follow your rules and you do not show you are angry, and pissed off, which you most certainly should be, then he will continue to be unruly, disrespectful and disobedient. This means you are wasting your time training because failure to punish for any infraction, even a little one, is doing nothing but teaching him he can get away with it and do as he pleases.  It also shows him that you are weak, lazy, or not a dominant at all and that you can be controlled. With that said, being an adult male also means he can handle the well deserved, severe punishment for his disobedience. The bitch is highly capable of taking a long, hard, ass beating every time he is disobedient. In fact not only does he deserve a beating every single time, he really needs it. He needs YOU to put him in his place in order to accept it and become the submissive you deserve. He needs you to be as mean and cruel to him as any other Dom would be or more. You need not worry about hurting him, that is the point of the punishment, to train him to obey and accept his place as your sissy bitch and house servant. The point of a punishment is to make him fear you and respect your authority and rules to prevent further disobedience or back talking. The only thing you need worry about is, are you being dominant and aggressive enough with your discipline, training, and punishments, are you being mean and cruel enough to make him cower at the sound of your stern voice. The only thing you will break on him is what needs broken, his stubbornness and unruly behavior, not to mention emasculating him, breaking the moncho male attitude and selfishness Bullshit!!! So do what is required and punish him severely, because only you can correct bad behavior. You control the situation, so only you control your success or failure of training. 

**NOTE** You will only read these rules to him once the first week of training, and once more in the second week. You will tell him this, and instruct that he better learn them quickly or be severely punished and you need to make sure you follow through with punishments as described below. Other than that you will only read the rule or rules he broke as you punish him for breaking that particular rule/s . This is the best way to focus his attention on following your rules, obeying you, and build his natural instinct to be your bitch. 
  
Rules and chores are given for obvious reasons, and each Mistress sets her own rules and chores depending on how she governs her bitch (EXP. Bitches must crawl on all four's to and away from the Mistress, or Sissy's must wear panties 24/7 etc.). Below is a standard and minimal list of rules, you are free to add more if you so choose, however I would at least adhere to these STANDARD rules. It is extremely imperative that you have these rules and enforce them with severe punishments. You must not, you can not, and I repeat, CAN NOT fail to enforce your rules and chores. Failure to enforce rules and punish will have catastrophic effects in training and submission, you will also have your submissive questioning your authority and doubting your ability to rule over him. Your bitch must be in the proper atmosphere, have a submissive routine, be of servitude (submissive obedient, and serving), and disciplined. He must never have free will, have an opinion, act as an equal, speak as an equal, or do as he pleases, and especially not follow your rules. You must be very dominant, aggressive, and ruthless, and if he violates rules or fails to serve and obey, he must be punished severely!!! ALWAYS!!!! AGAIN, failure to do so will cause complication in training, obedience, and submission. He will see you as weak and not respect your authority. Your success depends on your ability to be dominant, controlling, cruel, and punish for disobedience!

1. Always address ME as mistress or your approved name.
2. Always ask for permission to do anything, and everything, including eating & using the restroom.
3. Always kneel at all times, but especially to ask for permissions or beg. *must be naked if possible.
4. Keep body hair and pubic hair trimmed or shaved to mistress's specifications.
5. Always show submission at all times, even in front of other people. *must find a way to show it.
6. Never back talk, argue, or demand me. 
7. Never speak without permission or question the mistress. * It is not your concern or your business.
8. Never ask for pussy or anything about it. * ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS *Severe punishment*
9. Never question ME, including who I fuck, where I go, or what I do. * Its none of your business.
10. Obey all orders on command without hesitation, and never leave me waiting. *Including the phone.
11. Get daily chores done, and ask how you may serve me further. *Your place is serving and obeying
12. Respect and serve ME to the best of your ability. *Including MY lovers/boyfriends or friends.
13. Never touch ME improperly or my property. *This includes phone, computer, purse and my clitty.
14. Always refer yourself as the MY bitch. *Including Clitty for penis, and asshole as pussy.
15. I'm your mistress, your superior, I will be treated as such and worshiped in that manner from here out. I will be thanked for the privilege of serving me, and groveled/worshiped- kissing and licking my feet and ass to show your appreciation and submission as my bitch (or sissy bitch), multiple times a day.

                                                                 PUNISHMENTS
A punishment spanking is very serious and meant to deter future disobedience, so make sure you inflict the proper amount of pain. During the spanking, your focus should be on correcting his disobedience, as in the humiliation, scalding, and the punishment/s given. Do not touch his clitty in anyway during the punishment (unless this is reminder spanking) you don't want him aroused during this phase, you want him focused on the pain and the rule/s he violated. You should be angry and extremely pissed off for disobedience, back talking, or rule breaking. You should feel insulted and disrespected for his acts of defiance or back talk and you should want to teach him a lesson and remind him of his place. A proper punishment should be felt for days after. When you are finished you should see many raised welts with red and/or deep blue bruising on his entire ass area that last at least 4-5 days. You should hear him yelping, screaming, pleading, and begging you to stop....But crying is the goal. If he is not, then your not hitting him correctly or hard enough. He should fear you and you will see and hear a complete difference in submission from him after his punishment/s and for days after. If you are like most Dom's you may even be turned on by the power you feel from breaking him and forcing his submission to you. You can not show weakness or mercy, and you can't be afraid to hurt him or cause marks and bruising, that is the point of the punishment. Remember this is to stop him from future back talking, rule breaking, and disobedience. You must let out your dominance and aggression, and show him your anger and dissatisfaction for disobedience. Keep in mind this is your bitch and you want him sincerely begging you to stop. Before you do you will have him sincerely begging and pleading you to (as you keep hitting his ass), but also to be your bitch and admit that this is the way it's meant to be. Make him admit that he deserves to be punished and that he knows better. Reinforce it through out the spanking by saying things like," Your my fucking pathetic bitch, your only here to serve and obey and you will do what I fucking say".  Let out your sadistic side and anger, say whatever your feeling or whatever else comes to your mind. The point is you want to scold and humiliate him during the punishment to physiologically change his submission to you. **NOTE** You must also give reminder or reinforcement punishments 1-2 times a week. This is done to reinforce his place and following your rules continuously on his mind. This type of punishment is done once a week or more if you so chose, with 100 to 150 hits. 

GINGER PUNISHMENT

Prepare several fingers (3 or 4) of ginger by cutting/peeling off just the skin and no more on each one. then place them in a small bowl of cold water and bring this to the punishment bench. Then you must tie him down tight so he can't get free or move around or tie him down first then go prepare the ginger! Use his balls pulled back and tied off to something to keep him from moving forward during the hits (just like doing normal punishments). After he is secured, then force the ginger one at a time into his ass to really stretch it to absorb the ginger juice but do not use lube as lube lessens the burning sensation (read the ginger punishment section in my blog for the how to use). Wait between 5-10 minutes to let the juice build the burning sensation. *Note Tying him tight and secured with his balls stretched, forces him to focus on his punishment, take full impact of the device, and keeps him from jerking around. Jerking around or flinching lessens the impacts, and/or causes other problems like breaking canes or hitting him in the wrong place. It also breaks your concentration (for number of hits or scolding/humiliation etc.) and interrupts your momentum. By now he should be verbally making noise because of the burning sensation, its time to start the punishments. Punishments are more effective in series of 10 or 20. after the initial break in hits, IT IS BEST TO USE VARIOUS TYPES OF DEVICES TO PUNISH; canes of various types and thickness, whips, bull whip, cot-o-nine tail, flogger, crops, leather belts or straps, paddles. Also Ginger is fun to do without punishments and to really get his attention during training. 

                                                                    TO BEGIN                                                                           

1st, Tie him down (bent over or ass in the air) very tight and secure, using whatever means so that its impossible to move or get free. Then tell him in a very aggressive speaking voice, "You have been a disobedient bitch, and this will not be tolerated, you will be punished severely for it. Then tell him what he is being punished for, and again that it will not be tolerated, that you will not accept anything but complete submission.

2nd, Place a ball gag into his mouth to keep his screams muffled, you don't care to hear him yet. At this point you may also put other devices on like nipple clamps, CBT toys, electrical, suction clamps ETC.

3rd,  THE BREAK IN,  Use a thin cane for the break in to warm his ass up. This prepares the skin for punishment and puts the sub in the proper state of mind, FEAR! Hit his ass 25 times fast, in a row, with firm hits. By the end he should be yelling OW or something verbally to let you know it hurts, if not then hit 25 more times harder *Now take about a 2 or 3 minute break to scold him about the rule he broke and reinforce that his disobedience will not be tolerated. Remind him that his place is serving and obeying you or whomever you so choose*

4th,  After the scolding you will swat him firm and hard in a slow but steady series of 20 hits taking about a 1 second break in between each hit (count like this 1 thousand 1 then hit and repeat). Then repeat this but with 10 hits this time. Scold him as you hit the next 10 hits.

5th,  Now take about 3 or 4 minutes (but no more) to scold and humiliate him and then back to hitting. This time hit in series of 10 or 20 (you choose) mixing each series of fast hits, then back to a slow series of steady hits with the 1 second break as stated above. ** These hits will continue for a minimal of 100 times or more if you think he needs them. By now he should really be screaming into the ball gag and trying to move around (usually kicking feet). However If not, **THEN HIT HARDER** and continue with another 100 hits or don't stop until he is screaming and frantically trying to move. **Note, you may now change up devices during this phase.

6th, Now he is definitely yelling and trying to plead you to stop through his ball gag. However, the goal is you want to break him, and you need to break him, so you want to see tears combined with pleading and remorse/sincerity. So continue to scold him and keep hit in sets of 10 or 20 until you see tears OR hear a definite crying/pleading tone . *NOTE By now you should of hit at least 150 times* 

7th, Now you remove the ball gag so that he may give you a proper pleading and begging.  Hit him with another 20 quick hits with the cane or whip, (He should be still begging) then 10 slow steady hits with the 1 second break. At this point he should of had a minimal of 180 hits From here the break in is over and you will start the actual punishments (below) while you humiliate him about his place and clitty and scold him for his disobedience. This is you time to show your anger and disapproval for his actions so let your inner cruel bitch out! Follow the number of punishment hits as its explained below. **Note, you may add more hits if you choose but no less. When using impact devices such as paddles and thick canes, slow down the speed and let the device do the work. you don't want his butt numb, you want him to feel every hit. It is the length of the punishment (how much time and the number of hits) that will break him, cause more pain, and force a true and sincere submission, not to mention the fear of your authority. It is far easier for him to take 5,10, or 20 very hard hits than it is to take 200, 300, or 400 hard/firm hits over an hour or so.   

Failure to do a chore; (each chore) 50 swats
Failure to ask permissions or address as mistress; (per event) 25 swats
Failure to keep pubic hair shaved, touch phone or other property; (per event) 50 swats
Failure to address himself as your bitch, speak without permission, show respect (per event) 75 swats
Below is a major infractions, and you will keep adding swats to the last number, EXAMPLE; Monday he back talks, he gets 100 swats, Thursday he back talks, he gets 150, Saturday he back talks, he gets 200. This prevents repeating further infractions, eventually he will obey all rules. *explain this to him.
Failure to obey an order; (per event) 100 swats, add 50 each other time
Back Talking or Questioning you; 100 swats per event add 50 each other time
Asking for, about, or anything that has to do with pussy; 200 swats, 100 each other time.
Touching Clitty and/or removing the chastity; 1st event 250 swats, add 200 each other time

Remember, you must do the break in period every time punishments are required, so thats a minimal of 180 hits (or more) before you proceed to punishment hits. Punishments ARE REQUIRED for EVERY RULE BREAKING or failure to obey. This with chastity will eventually create a very obedient and respectful submissive bitch, willing to obey and follow every command. But more importantly it will stop any disobedience and unruly behavior especially jealousy after you take a full time boyfriend. This will help prevent or stop any jealousy issues, outburst, temper tantrums, or anger issues. Very important, do not stop punishments until he is screaming and begging you properly to stop!    

SWATS/HITS are spanking his ass with you choice of device or any mixture of devices. Be it paddle, crop, cat-o-nine tails, bullwhip, leather strapping, flogger, whip, canes, belt, hand etc. These punishments should be and need to be given immediately at the time of the offense, and should be followed up by 5 min of corner or cage time for 20 min. If not possible to do punishments immediately, do corner time for 10 min BUT DO NOT FORGET swats later that SAME day. What if we are on vacation, out in public, or around family? Well first if you are being the dominant cruel mistress your supposed to be there should be no problems. However if the need arises, take him away from people and put him into a corner or time out, and do punishments ASAP. Punishments should also include a mixture or all of these; loss of privileges, loss of free time, loss of allowance, loss of watching or hearing your sex, doing extra or longer versions of chores (example hand wash dishes, wipe floors on knees with rags, scrub toilets with toothbrush, etc. Also electric devices and toys, ball stretching ball smashing, ball rope confinement, ball slapping or cropping, ball creams/sprays that burn, candle wax on balls and ass, urethra toys, nipple clamps, bondage positions, spitting in face, slapping face etc.  You can and should add swats at your desecration for any violation or for whatever reason to give them, but DO NOT GIVE LESS THAN POSTED ABOVE and remember to scold and humiliate him while punishing him. **NOTE* * USING GINGER IS A VERY EFFECTIVE TOOL COMBINED WITH PUNISHMENTS.

Pay attention to his sounds and reactions to the hits, if he is not making sound or flinching at all then your not hitting hard enough, hit harder. Obviously you don't want to hit with all you have (that would cause lasting damage) but make sure you notice a change in sound or movement (flinching) as you hit him. He may not make a sound during the first few hits until the skin gets tender, but if your hitting correctly he soon will. The best way to tell if your hitting him long enough or hard enough is the markings on his ass and the sounds he makes. His ass should be swelled and welted up, but what you want to see is deep red or blue marks, impact marks from the devices you use as they are long lasting as is the soreness they bring with them. You should also hear him begging you to stop and promising to obey you. The best devices to use are canes and whips for both pain and marks, paddles are used just to change it up. His sounds will go from mild verbal yelps, to louder yelps, to screams, and then to crying and begging you to stop (make sure he tells you he is sorry and will obey from now on). If you still question yourself as to how hard to hit, then find some video's to watch on the net. Your rules should be followed 24/7/365, you can not be lazy, make excuses, and he is not allowed any excuses either. You should be very strict, very demanding, and serious with daily training. After about 2-3 months of training the way you want him to be and being a proper Dominatrix, he will be the submissive you want. Remember to take pictures to post on his profile online and compare markings for past or future punishments. You deserve an obedient submissive bitch, so make it happen. Your success depends on you!!!!