Forced Chastity

                        Forced Chastity & Permanent Chastity  

This is a big topic in all lifestyles of BSDM but especially Femdom, in fact its a growing topic outside the lifestyle for vanilla women as well. For vanilla women it could be a kinky tool for sex games and to spice things up or a way to prevent unwanted sex from her small dick husband. Yes, believe it or not, alot vanilla women get on the forums stating so along with other reason to want a chastity and asking what is the best or most secure device. For Dom's however, it's much, much more, it's a tool to take control, prevent masturbation, and bring submission from her bitch. However its used, It is a powerful tool and statement for the women who yield it. Ironically, the chastity is also part of why many women seek out BDSM and eventually switch to a femdom relationship. Facts; Just over a million are sold each year which has been growing steadily since 2000. The majority sold at 83% is the small and micro cages, distantly followed by the regular at 16.%, and the large coming in last at 1%. Multiple Studies show women prefer girth over length but are saying they need at least the average length penis for satisfaction, which is roughly 6 1/2 inches in length. Studies also show women think the perfect penis size is 8 to 9 inches in length with 2 to 2 1/2 inches in girth. This is also substantiated/ proven by the sales of dildo's, with the vast majority be sold, matching this size. In these studies only 3 % picked a penis between 5 1/2 to 6 inches, no women in any study picked a penis size less than 5 1/2 inches. The numbers don't lie, no woman wants a small dick and most prefer bigger than average even though they state they would settle for for less with the right guy. Most all women who learn of this device get turned on by what it represents, and next to the cane, it is the most used tool no matter what side of the lifestyle your into. It is known as the dick slayer, bitch maker of even the toughest of men, and has a unique effect on the domesticated pussy whipped male....extreme submission when used correctly. However *USER BE WARNED* Studies indicate that prolonged wearing of a chastity device will result in shrinking of the penis and erection difficulty. Also long term or permanent chastity (many months or years) wearing can cause a loss of ability to fully ejaculate and orgasm, ranging from a weak ejaculation and orgasm to none at all depending on length of time in the chastity.  

This happens for 2 main reasons associated with confining his clitty. First, the erection and shrinkage issue is because the penis isn't able to get hard during normal and day to day arousal, which is 12-15 times a day on average. This results in the weakening, partial or sometimes full closure of the corpora cavernosa (the elastic spongy chambers that fill for erection), which effects the size and hardness for erection thus not being able to get very hard or stay hard. Second, the loss of ejaculation and orgasm is effected by 2 contributing factors. First, because the penis is confined in the chastity 24/7/365 and not used from denial of sex and loss of orgasms, the muscles responsible for ejaculation (the pelvic striated muscles, the bulbocavernosus muscle, and the ischiocavernosus muscles) loose their ability to stiffen and perform rhythmic contractions necessary for orgasm leading to ejaculation. Plus bypassing these same muscles through "Milking Your Male"  adds in the weakening of those muscles. Males do not have an orgasm for the pleasure of it like females do, the only reason males have an orgasm is to ejaculate, take the ejaculation part out and they can not orgasm or at least not suppose to. The orgasm causes muscle contractions that force the sperm out. So the rule of male orgasm is "no expulsion of sperm, no trigger to orgasm". Like all muscles (the popular term "use it or lose it") when not used will eventually lose the proper functionality. Second and lastly, the penis undergoes nightly erections (also known as a piss hard-on, night woody, or the morning glory) to keep the muscles and valves working properly. However the chastity restricts and enforces a flaccid penis further enforcing penis shrinkage, and loss of ability to orgasm. Depending on the length of time in the chastity and enforcement of conditions, the effects range from moderate to severe. However, evidence shows these issues have no effect on health (must milk regularly), submission, or arousal level, only the ability to achieve a full or proper erection and sexual satisfaction. For most Dom's this effect is more of a bonus as this promotes his impotence and submission, which more-less guarantees her control and sexual freedom. Not to mention using it as humiliation and a bit of payback for little to no sexual satisfaction they endured for years prior to Femdom. Needless to say, this is not a concern for most Dom's as they do not enjoyed the clitty anyway. Nevertheless use at your own risk or reward depending on how you look at it. Think of it sorta like sitting on your leg or ass for so long that your muscles lock up or fall asleep. Then you try to move but find its impossible, eventually after movement it goes back to normal. Except, the clitty doesn't actually lock up or fall asleep, it just stops working properly. As I said it only effects his sexual satisfaction, or better said his loss of sexual satisfaction HA HA HA!  

MASTURBATION

This device by its very nature is CONTROL and adds to your power and dominance over him. The truth no matter what your told or believe, ALL males masturbate, especially when denied pussy, and studies show the average male does it 2-3 times a week and believe me, a sexually denied bitch left unchecked and uncaged will do it when you least expect it. FACT, if you remove the cage and he is unsupervised, he will eventually masturbate no matter what he tells you, that means never leave it off unless you have the ability to keep tabs on him. Also, more than likely if he told you he didn't, then he is probably lying.** NOTE** If you want the truth if he has masturbated or if you want to know anything else out of him, use "THE COPULINS" technique to get it. Remember using copulins is also part of how you reprogram him to do and behave as you want....The simplest way is get him extremely horny through edging and then put your pussy in his face bare/naked (use a blindfold if you need to). Spread your lips open and use your fingers or a toy to get the copulins flowing so he can absorb as much through smell as possible. You can increase there effect by keeping his arousal level high by licking his clitty, playing with his balls or even prostate play. Then wait until you can tell he is under the influence of your copulins (usually about 6-8 min). How you can tell if he is under the influence of your copulins, he will be real quiet at first then mumble something like; he feels weak, submissive, feels funny, or your pussy makes him lose control, something along those lines. He may also start to repeat what you say, and even agree to anything you say even if it's something you know he wouldn't want, and finally he will be very submissive. The copulins will make him feel weak, unable to resist commands, sorta high and hazy so as they start effecting him and he tells you he feels week or funny don't worry it's natural. The effect usually last up to an hour or so, depending on how long you use the copulins and how long he has been denied sex and orgasm. Then, simply ask him what you want to know, or start the reprogramming you want him to follow. Copulins work sorta like going under at the dentist office so the best part is he wont even remember you asking him or anything you say/do to reprogram him as its all absorbed subconsciously. To him, he will just mysteriously (but actually subconsciously) start accepting or feeling at ease with things you want (even if he didn't want them) or put into his mind. Whatever you want, want him to feel, how to behave, or want him to accept, just speak it to him in a firm demanding voice and make him repeat it, do this over a few days time and he will mold to your input. *Note* His remembering is relative to how deep he is under your spell, so if you want him to be brainwashed quickly and it buried deep in his subconscious with absolutely no memory of any of it, make sure you spread your lips open, hold them open and finger your pussy to allow greater copulin absorption. Also remember to have your pussy 3 to 5 inches away from his face for at least 10 minutes. Then he is like clay, ready to be molded to your desires. Read the copulin training section of my blog for more a in-depth training and other stronger copulin training techniques. 

Masturbation is bad on many levels but especially for submission, as you want his arousal level high to keep him submissive, eager to obey, and a willing cuckold. The chastity's main purpose is to keep the chaste male from masturbating, from having sex, or even touching his clitty, but it also trains his penis not to get hard. Studies show what would normally arouse men to get hard like, porn, seeing a woman naked (strip club), rubbing his penis through his pants or even another women touching his penis has no effect on a chastity wearing submissive male. As I said, chastity's train the sub's penis not to get hard, but there is also a psychological effect as well, especially with a sissy bitch submissive. Through proper training with constant humiliation, emasculation, dominance, control and discipline, the male takes his natural place as a submissive bitch/sissy and servant to his mistress with no need for an erect penis as sex of any kind is not his purpose and strictly prohibited. His body will naturally recognize this and respond physically and chemically to your training of him and his true purpose. Don't believe me or need proof? Put in a porno and see if he gets hard, or if thats not enough for whatever reason or you want concrete proof....Take your bitch to a strip club, take off the chastity in the car, take him in and watch how aroused he becomes then check his clitty through his pants....Not hard, not even a little chubby, nothing but a soft tiny clitty, need more proof, get him a lap dance and check again. No real man would remain soft especially after a lap dance. This will also affect his ability to get hard or maintain an erection for sex with another woman, especially a trained sissy bitch.  How's that? A sissy has been humiliated, trained, conditioned, and reprogrammed to be turned on or aroused by other means. The number one, and one of the most effective in forcing his submission is cuckolding. YES, cuckolding him will not only humiliate him and make him submissive, it will turn him on and eventually next to a big thick cock be what turns him on more than anything. This is why your sex becomes his sex and why its so important to include him in some manner. Eventually this will be the only thing that turns him on along with other fetishes you have subjected him to like bondage, feet and ass worship, servitude to his mistress, but especially cock sucking and pegging as a sissy's purpose must include pleasuring cock. For this reason normal sex and vanilla women will do nothing to arouse him let alone get his clitty hard (I found that out during our short time as swingers which lead me to researching about it). When you are dominant and aggressive, control his ability to get hard and deny orgasm, you have ultimate control and power over his mind and his body. Your Mind is your power, your pussy is the tool to take control, use them!  

BLUE BALLS

Men have a biological driven need to ejaculate, they have no control over it, its strictly controlled by their hormones like testosterone and even your copulins. The higher the level of hormones which relates to arousal level (how horny they are) the more intense the need to cum. However, it takes time to build, about 2-5 days (depends on age) before the need to cum overwhelms them and they must get release. That time and the intensity of the need to cum can be shortened and compounded by arousal factors, like viewing sexual content, (strip clubs, porn video and magazines) seeing his wife or girlfriend naked, or something that turns them on like a fetish. Which is all controlled by you his mistress, just as you control his ability to orgasm or not. As it goes, if sex is not available or denied, men instinctively turn to masturbation. If males can not masturbate they get what's called "Blue Balls" which is a slight pain in their testicles with an intense need to cum. If enough time passes without an orgasm, the pain increases as does the intensity for the need to cum. At first the pain feels like the after effects of a light flick to the testicles, but if unresolved can increase to the after feeling of getting a firm smack to the balls. It is described as a dull aching pain, but don't worry its nothing they can't handle when forced to. There is only one thing that can alleviate blue balls and its effects entirely, and that is an orgasm. Unfortunately for him, that is not an option, EVER! Milking can reduce the intensity, but it doesn't fully cure the need for relief, only the hormone prolactin which is release directly after orgasm, alleviates it. When forced to wear a chastity, blue balls helps force their submission as they are unable to do anything to relieve it. This is one of the reasons why it is very important for the mistress to be so dominant, strict, demanding and especially cruel. As this builds it becomes very difficult for the male, not in a harmful way but more of a nuisance and aggravation and he can do nothing to stop it. Plus as the Testosterone builds it chemically forces anger and him to become disobedient and mouthy. This aggressive, strict, and cruel  demeanor towards him helps keep the male docile, so he can properly submit to your control and relinquish any thoughts or feelings he will ever be allowed the pleasure of pussy. This demeanor with punishments also keeps the submissive male in check with attitude, back talk and disobedience. This in turn makes him submit and accept his natural place of servitude which doesn't actually ease the effects of blue balls but more less forces his attention on serving and obeying his mistress. This can feel as though the effects of blue balls are less, thus making him feel like serving and obeying is a reward and proof that this along with denying him pussy, is natural. Not to mention that he really has no choice and there is nothing he can do but accept it and submit and that is they way you want to train him and make him believe. So it is vital that you not only treat him as your servant and bitch but be very mean, cruel and aggressive with it and punish as well.  A Vanilla wife and Mistress Bitch do not mix together, you can not be both you must pick one or the other and follow that path!!!!  

PEGGING and SISIFICATION

This brings up another aspect of chastity and humiliation; Pegging and wearing panties. Pegging and panties go hand in hand with forced chastity, but especially with permanent chastity as most Doms who do permanent chastity, also do sissy training and forced sissification. Sissification or sissifying is the transformation and reprogramming of the male mind and body (using hormones like copulins and estrogen, with emasculate training) to be feminine, but more importantly to the mistress, to desire/crave and serve cock. This allows Dom's to force the sissy's focus and desires from her pussy to her cock (or any cock), which reinforces her complete denial of pussy and this further forces sissy modification. Permanent chastity wearing causes the start of his natural sissy modification on its own because you are taking away his manhood (use of his cock and pleasure) plus prolonged wearing of a chastity causes an increase in sensitivity/nerve endings around the anus opening, canal and prostate making it very pleasurable for the male. Eventually it completely takes pussy out of the equation further enforcing permanent chastity so that the Dom can focus her energy and sexual satisfaction on a real cock, AKA her boyfriend. It also helps, (key word being helps) with jealousy once a mistress has found a full time boyfriend as her sissy would be submissive to getting cock (a pleasure she is allowed) as a reward for her obedience, to the point she would beg to be cuckolded. So Dom's use the addiction for cock to make the sissy beg her to fuck her boyfriend in hopes the sissy might be rewarded the privilege of the mistress's cock (or any cock) when she returns. It also teaches the bitch to serve and obey the mistress totally as her sissy bitch, wearing french maid outfits (from Amazon) and all. Once fully trained as a sissy, a sissy bitch is the most obedient and dedicated of all submissive's, especially to that Mistress as it is her hormones and pheromones that does the chemical changing part, and after all, she controls the sissy's pleasure. Most Doms pick this type of training for 3 reasons; first, she wants total control over everything without input and totally complete submission from her bitch. Second, she is aroused or extremely turned on by forcing and watching her sissy suck and take cock even forcing the serving of her boyfriend or Bull. Third and most important, she desires to have a permanent or full time boyfriend and she has that bonus effect of never having to deal with the tiny clitty after a night of great sex with her boyfriend or bull. A sissy will eventually, with the proper training and hormone replacement (copulins training) literally beg the mistress to fuck and date (even on a serious level) just to be allowed the privilege of her cock. This is actually a natural effect of sissy training, loss of penile orgasms, and forced chastity but also something known as the "alpha effect". The alpha effect is several things in depth but basically it's when your sub/bitch becomes docile and submissive to your boyfriend or bull and not just to the act of cuckolding (the alpha effect is a must read and can be found here in my blog). An intelligent Mistress will also involve another male (straight, bi, or totally gay) for her sissy to submit to and get fucked or used by to increase his submission and need for cock. This particular male is known as a Cock Master or bull and his job is to help force cock submission, switch the focus from pussy to cock, and complete the sissy transformation. His looks, education level, career, or height doesn't matter, only his willingness to use your sissy but cock size should be considered.  

A sissy bitch will be male only by her gender, but she is no longer a man and should never be treated as a man or male for that matter. You must teach her and she must know and understand her place, there can be no confusion and uncertainty, her place must be explicit and valid. She should be addressed as sissy, bitch, cum slut, or my favorite "cock slut". She is a sissy, trained for the sole and only purpose of serving, obeying and amusing her mistress (Master, Bull or BF) what other purpose could she have? She must give all income, funds, and assets to her mistress and forced to accept her natural place. She is forever completely denied penile sex, heavily restricted or in some cases completely denied access to pussy (except for clean up duty which is mandatory) with the sole sexual purpose of pleasing and serving cock as the mistress allows and directs. She has no free time, no TV, no video games, no sports, no night out with the boy's, nothing, only kneeling and serving her mistress for life. She is not permitted input of any kind (excluding kids/family) including the house, finances, decisions, and especially the mistress's affairs and sex. If she is not doing chores or serving her mistress in anyway, she is always on her knees in front of her mistress. Again, she should always be addressed and treated as such, never anything else as there will be no confusion of her place, purpose, and what she is. This treatment includes dress attire like panties, french maid outfits for cleaning the house and sissy lingerie for humiliation and sex with you or her Cock Master (shoes, wigs, and all can be purchased on amazon, aliexpress, alibaba, DHgate). The treatment also includes feminine practices like shaving ALL body hair (Cock Masters prefer sissies with no hair), with hair and nails done (clear fingernail polish), and especially sexual practices including pegging, sucking real cock and your strap-on dildo, also very important is cleaning up all cum messes, even his own pre-cum and milking mess. All cum has valuable hormones (like testosterone and estrogen) in it that help chemically transform him and keep him submissive, especially cum that is not his (remember to read my Alpha effect section of my blog for more info on this). Not to mention the humiliation and submissive factors, so make sure he cleans every mess every time, again even when milking her clitty. Eventually with the proper training and after being denied pussy long enough, the sissy will find clean up duty a turn on as its one of the rare times she is that close with smell and taste of pussy, even with a load of your boyfriends cum inside it.  A sissy must also maintain a clean shaven clitty at all times, this is a shaved landing strip, a shaved triangle, or completely shaved/bald pussy, whatever you find more humiliating and emasculating. Sissy training is the ultimate in submission, dedication and servitude from a submissive in the femdom lifestyle and it requires a very aggressive, strict, and dominant, but especially cruel and sadistic mistress to fully complete the training and transformation. Trust me, being as mean, cruel, and degrading as you can be will not only make you feel powerful but also free your mind, and body, plus it will get you the sissy bitch you deserve. Your sissy will not be happier, completely respect and worship you while loving her life as your sissy bitch.     

Femdom and submissive training usually involves some pegging, which is an allowed form of pleasure for the submissive male, but with sissy training, pegging is a forced daily practice. It is forced every day at least once a day or more. At first, the sissy in training is extremely humiliated, resist, fights it and pleads not to be taken (lose his virginity) especially by a much bigger cock then his. He is  uncomfortable and extremely humiliated by the practice of being forcefully penetrated. The loss of normal sex and orgasms wears on him, and the chastity adds to the frustration both with preventing masturbation and the ability to even get hard. Eventually the prolonged wearing of the chastity and loss of penile pleasure and orgasm causes an increases in sensitivity and pleasure around his anus and prostate. Just rubbing around the outside of his hole gives him heighten pleasure. He is losing part of his masculinity everytime he is fucked, Every time he is bent over he gets more submissive to it and with every deep thrust of your cock, he is emasculated and becomes more and more accepting of it and the undeniable pleasure it offers. Eventually the moaning starts, as he loses his will and the last bit of masculinity. He can't resist, he is to weak and submissive, he has given into the persuasion of pleasure. After days and weeks of force penetration, he has finally succumb to your cock, he can't help it or resist it as it is now his only source of pleasure and it is a pleasure that far exceeds what his tiny clitty gave him. Soon he is excited to have it, and even turned on and aroused by the sight of it. He eventually becomes addicted to its pleasure, he needs it, and will beg to have it. He will even beg you to cuckold him and fuck your boyfriend in hopes that you will grant him the privilege of your cock. He is what they call cock whipped, and ready to be trained to be your sissy bitch, dedicated to serving and obey you, HIS MISTRESS!

Pegging is used with verbal, chemical (copulins, semen ,etc.) and physical reprogramming of his mind to switch his desires and need from pussy to wanting, desiring and craving cock. Which is an irresistible, uncontrollable and natural urge for a sissy as you permanently lock her clitty away and force her to accept pleasure the way she was meant to have it. Your sissy was meant to be a cock slut, all the way from her tiny clitty to the way she enjoys that big cock stretching her pussy, but she needs to be trained and transformed to open up her natural desire for cock. Once you've forced her to let go of her masculine side and accept being your sissy, she will be grateful to you for the pleasure of your cock. As I said, she will beg you to date and fuck your boyfriend just for that special privilege of your cock (or real cock). However, it must be understood that she is still male in gender making it impossible to remove or abolish her biological craving or need of pussy. But don't be disappointed because you don't want that anyways, you still want her pussy whipped, weak, and surrendering to the mere sight and smell of pussy, which is why cuckolding is so powerful. Remember pussy is the tool or source of your power, limited only by your mind and ability to use it to get what you want and deserve from all men, not just your sissy. You are merely redirecting and refocusing his biological craving and need for pussy to a more natural pleasure for her place and purpose. You are granting her a pleasure she could never achieve through her pathetic clit dick. There is more on sissy training in the sissy section of my blog. If you are training your submissive to be a sissy, you must force her to wear sissy panties 24/7/365 for humiliation as this promotes submission and helps emasculates her. Sissy panties have a specially made pocket or open area for her chastity cage, and the best kind of sissy panties are the ones with the ass out (sorta like a jock strap or crotchless panties) so she can be made to wear them at all times possible. This will include during training, pegging, anal sex with a bull/boyfriend, anal play (prostate stimulation) and even some physical punishments (except spank/canings). You will need to purchase at least 7 or more of them for each day of the week and make her hand wash them same as she does your panties. As humiliation is the main point, they should be as girly as possible in style and color (with lace, pink, purple, etc.) and don't forget to add a few garters, stockings, and heels to your list for the added humiliation, emasculation, and times she must remove her panties (like spankings etc.)*NOTE* When you receive her panties, gather all of her normal underwear and lock them away in a chest so that she must/can only wear her panties, which further enforcing her submission.  

CLEANING
Chastity devices are usually worn 24/7/365 and are only removed for training, cleaning, or play time. This means they get very dirty from sweat and urine and must be washed daily for obvious reasons (smell, yeast, rashes, etc.) so you must make it a punishable rule for him to shower daily NO EXCUSSES! They also need a good scrubbing with antibacterial soap or alcohol (use a scrub brush) every 3-5 days to get the deep down dirt out and kill any bacteria and yeast. This can be done two ways; first is to unlock the chastity and remove it while the sub is in the shower, hand it to him ordering him to scrub it while you watch so that he doesn't play with his clitty as he washes it. While it is free you can inspect it for scrapes, cuts, bumps, etc. and address as needed. Use antifungal cream for yeast or fungus issues, and Neosporin or triple antibiotic cream for cuts, scrapes, and soars. Always Use petroleum jelly or baby oil to insert the clitty into the chastity. This time also allows him to properly shave his genitals to your liking. Once he is finished, simply lock it back on, even if you plan on training shortly after. The other and preferred method is during a training night when the chastity is removed, have a second chastity already cleaned ready to put on him after training, then he can clean the other chastity after training to reinstall on the next swap out. With this method, you will need to clean his clitty with a soapy rag or germ killing agent, and shave his pubic hair to your licking, so keep a razor handy. Again To reduce the chances of rash or yeast, NEVER use lube to install the chastity, always use a Vaseline, non-fragrance and hypoallergenic lotion, or baby oil as the lubricant to slide his clitty inside the chastity.       

CHASTITY DEVICES

There are 2 main types of chastity devices. The first is a chastity belt which is made of stainless steel so it won't rust, this is the most secure device and virtually escape proof. There are several different types and styles but usually they lock around his waist, around his testicles and/or through his legs to secure under his testicles and back to the rear of the belt. It is impossible to get his clitty out or get it off without the key. Because of this many Dom's prefer this type of device and definitely switch to this type of device when they start dating a boyfriend full time or when they initiate permanent chastity. The down sides to this device is that it can't be worn through metal detectors, it's not as concealable (not a big deal), it's sometimes uncomfortable, can't hide it under swim trunks, and harder to install on a regular basis. This is why this belt is used mostly for permanent chastity or extended nights away from your sissy. There is also a prince albert stainless steel device that doesn't use a belt as it locks through the piercing to secure it . The second device is called a cock cage and is made of different types of materials; stainless steel, polycarbonate, bio-resin, and plastic. This device locks his clitty inside a tube that also locks behind the base of his clitty and clamps his balls, keeping him from removing it. There are several types of these chastity's that are less secure than others potentially allowing him to pull out his clitty. Typically the smaller you sissy's clitty the easier it is, however chastities with a rear tongue, or anti-pull out makes it far more difficult. This is why the newer designs have a rear guard to prevent pull out. Cages with openings in the tube are also good as the skin (when dry) grasp the edges of each opening making it difficult to pull out. Longer tube type cages are also good (when dry) as there is more area for the skin to grasp preventing pull out. The earlier nub type devices known as the  V1 and V2 were horrible as there were no tongues or rear guards to prevent pull out, however the newer devices the V3 and newer V4 have since corrected this issue. Regardless to what type of device you use on him, never make it obvious or suggest that he could potentially pull out, Subs by nature are oblivious to this especially the well disciplined and punished bitches and tend to focus more on the humiliation and act of being confined then the ability to pull out. Besides a severely punished slave would be to afraid to risk pull out for fear you would find out (through copulins training). You should always keep a close eye on him anyway especially in the shower and check his device daily. These devices are more affordable and come in many styles and colors. Most all subs have a small or micro penis so you should purchase one that fits his size and the look your going for or your needs, but one that can be worn 24/7/365 without any real discomfort or problems. Some discomfort is acceptable and good for submission. These types of devices are also more hidden under clothing and go through metal detectors un-noticed. I practice permanent chastity and have a boyfriend so I personally use several stainless steel chastity belts for work and home, and several pink or purple (for sissy's) polycarbonate or bio-resin, for travel, events with friends, or play time (like pegging) with other males. *IMPORTANT * YOU also need to have several types and styles on hand to switch them out and change it up every 2-3 days for cleanliness, wear and tear on the device, and to prevent sores, scrapes, and cuts on the genitals as they all wear differently. I rotate them as they need cleaning and for different purposes like when i need the electro chastity for shock play or punishment. I buy mine from Amazon because they are usually shipped quickly and are priced reasonable, but Alibaba or Aliexpress has a bigger selection at the best price. There is always new designs and materials out so keep checking back for updated devices. YOU should be the one who purchases it as this is a sign of authority and he wears the chastity until you decide he takes it off! This is usually when your doing a training session, for a good cleaning of the device and his genitals, or some women even give free time as a reward. The length of time he wears it is always up to you but at the very least he should have it on anytime that he is out of your presence, like in travel, work, or at home alone. Almost all dominatrix prefer the 24/7 routine which means it only comes off for training, cleaning, play time etc.! Then permanent chastity is where it is rarely removed, but I'll get into that later. NOTE* ONLY YOU put it on and remove it, never allow him to touch it or the key. It is also a serious offense if he removes it for any reason and should always be dealt with harshly if he removes it, no matter the reason.

The longer he wears the device mixed with your proper control, denial of sex/orgasm, humiliation, and punishments, the more submissive he is. Because he is not able to relieve himself or the dull pain of blue balls he is forced to serve and obey you to earn the privilege of release, or other sexual activities like pegging. However, most all Dom's forbid any type of conventional sexual release or penis orgasm not only because he doesn't deserve to have pleasure this way but also due to its refractory time. Which is the release of prolactin in the male brain that causes loss of arousal level, ability to get hard and orgasm until the body has time to reproduce more sperm. Men can only cum once in a given period of time, usually once a day or longer depended on age (there are exceptions like pills) back to the rule of men's orgasm, no sperm to shoot, no reason to get hard or orgasm! Men are biologically programmed to get aroused from sight and smell and as I said before are driven to need to cum. So this is nature's way to prevent males from to much sex or meaningless sex. Remember men's only reason for orgasm is to cause muscle contraction to ejaculate sperm. So if there is no sperm to ejaculate, there is no reason for men to have an orgasm or to even get hard. This is why nature created the release of prolactin after sex for men, so they wouldn't over procreate. Which is another reason women are the superior sex as we were meant to have sex solely for the pleasure of it and we have the only organ made for pleasure and sex "the clit". Also more proof men were meant to only have one sex partner while women to have several. Women do produce prolactin but not after orgasms, it is for other functions in the body like the menstrual cycle. The refractory time also has his loss of his energy, loss of submission and the willingness to submit, serve and obey, which is very bad for Dom's. The refractory time is caused by a release of prolactin immediately after orgasm. Prolactin is a hormone released to reduce and dissipate the rise in dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and testosterone. These hormones in elevated or high levels (also mixed with female hormones like copulins) are what causes a males submission, the higher the levels the more submissive he is. So prolactin is bad for submission and energy and again why most Dom's don't allow sexual release or orgasm, not to mention he doesn't deserve to have an orgasm. It usually last for 1-5 days (depending on the male) until the hormones build back up. FYI, most of his hormones are produced by his testicles and some by other glands which are activated by the level of hormones in his testicles. Again the higher the level the more submissive he is. *NOTE Remember, you should be the one to purchase the chastity and also keep looking for newer styles and better designs of chastity devices.

PEGGING POWER

The second method used to give slight relief is "Pegging", which is a tool on its own for deepening his submission and creating a sissy slut, as I said before going hand in hand. Short periods of time pegging (15-20 min) will relieve blue balls for about an hour depending on how well you edged him the day prior. Long periods of pegging (30 min to an hour or longer) will cause an over flood of hormones oxytocin, dopamine, and testosterone in the brain. This flood of hormones will, for a short period of time (up to a few hours) transform your sub into a somewhat mindless, completely submissive bitch willing to do anything to be your sissy bitch (especially if copulins were used), just to keep getting the pleasure of your cock. This behavior and his commitment to the pleasure of your cock is retainable, and also trainable, meaning you will force him to want your cock and he will become dependent on your cock for his pleasure, thus earning the title and term "cock whipped". The more you fuck him the more he will become dependent on your cock for pleasure and the more cock whipped he becomes. Oxytocin is the hormone responsible for muscle contractions, specifically with pegging, anal muscles that contract around the prostate forcing pleasure waves which release dopamine resulting in what's called a sissygasm. Dopamine is the pleasure hormone released at peak sissygasm climax. Dopamine is very addictive thus the act of pegging becomes very addicting, again causing him to be dependent on your cock for pleasure and cock whipped. Loss of normal sex and orgasms mixed with prolonged pegging many weeks or months can transform your male into a sissy cock slut, especially with the proper training, humiliation, and punishments. The result is a very submissive, cock whipped sissy bitch programmed to serve your cock or whom ever's cock you choose. As long as occasional training, strict discipline, and severe punishments are maintained, he will beg to be there kneeling at your feet and be your sissy bitch for life. This is power and control and this will ensure you are free to date whoever you want as long as you want and he will sincerely beg you to do it.  Males do not experience high levels of dopamine release during normal sex, but with pegging the pleasure builds (just like when we have sex) releasing small amounts of dopamine until the sissygasm climax which releases 2 to 3 times his normal release. Again causing the addiction to pegging, more specifically your cock! Since the majority of Dom's completely deny their bitch pussy (mostly for cuckolding reasons) they use his cock whipped addiction as his reward for serving and obeying, which has to be worked into his training. They term it "serving my cock" and use it as a humiliation factor as well. For more info on pegging like technique and the how to, read the pegging section in my blog.

CHASTITY DESIGN

Each type of chastity devices are designed specifically, and for different purposes. Some allow teasing through spaced out bars, some apply mild but painful pressure on the balls, some cause pain as his clitty struggles to get hard, while others force his clitty to recess inside its own shaft making the clitty disappear. Size is an important factor as well, you want the proper fit for the size of his clitty so it doesn't fall off and its kept secure. Although escape proof is usually not to much of a worry as the submissive males are actually ignorant to its security or lack of. Chastity weak points you see like maybe easy to break, wiggle out of, or take off is not the same thing he see's or feels for that matter. He is simply to submissive and oblivious to how secure the device really is and is more focused on the effects of wearing it. However don't take any chance, you should still try to purchase one that fits correctly, is secure, and if starting permanent chastity or start dating a boyfriend, buy a stainless steel chastity belt for a true escape proof chastity. Chastity's also have another feature/purpose, all chastity's are designed to keep his testicles/balls away from his body. This has two effects, first it makes it very difficult for him to be able to orgasm while wearing it, and second it prevents the testicles/balls from warming up to body temperature. Testicles/balls only have 1 purposes, to produce sperm and hormones (testosterone) and there is a reason his balls hang in a sack away from his body instead of just being inside it. His ball sack has its own movement not controlled or changeable by the male. It literally has a mind of its own, who's job is to regulate the testicles/ball temperature. Normally they are constantly moving to 1. keep the balls out of harms way, and 2. keep hormones and sperm under control, and 3. to help aid in ejaculation. But when wearing a chastity, ball movement is restricted and forced to do your bidding. 

How it works; The closer to the body the warmer the balls, the further they hang the cooler the balls. Lets talk about the ejaculation part first; As a man builds to ejaculate, his balls draw up into his body, this shortens the ducts and preps the muscles that contract to discharge sperm. This is why Doms use rope or other contracting tools during training/edging to keep his balls securely away from his body to help prevent orgasm.  Note* While this helps prevent him from ejaculation/orgasm, this is not full proof, over stimulation can force the muscles to bypass regulatory control and expel sperm thus giving him an orgasm. So pay attention and edge him properly, if your feel his clitty pulsing, stop the edging for a few seconds. If you edge your male you should work your tongue and fingers slow, avoid putting the clitty fully into your mouth and only use lip or licking contact (fingers are ok) Now lets talk about damage; His balls are very sensitive so the balls sack can thicken or draw up. Once they feel trauma they naturally draw up tighter to thicken the skin (scrotum) to help protect them. This is also why Dom's use restriction tools or rope to keep the balls from drawing up and hanging outside the body during ball torture, so that he feels the full effect of pain. Note* Some men can have a forced milking from to much trauma to the testicles through prolonged, fast, and steady hitting of them (even with the use of restricting tools). This is done by standing over the male, one leg on each side of his hips, your ass facing him, and then hitting them with a crop directly and evenly as possible on the bottom of his ball (the side that would be facing the wall towards his feet. In fact, some Dom's use this as a quicker and less effort method to milking their sub male. But this is usually midway through training or after training is completed as this method while very painful does sometimes grant a quick but very mild orgasm sensation. This sensation is not an actual orgasm feeling but usually gives the effects as fulfillment because the trauma forces the muscles to ejaculate and tricks the balls to feeling like they would have been through normal orgasm. This does release some levels of prolactin (varies by male) which may take a day or two to get out of his system. All said, this is a very good method for sadistic Dom's who prefer the pain aspect of forced milking as opposed to the pleasure he would receive from the normal milking method or she doesn't want to spend the 20 to 40 minutes with conventual milking. The mild climax/fulfillment can even be eliminated for the most part by stopping the smacking of his balls at the first sign of discharge, waiting a couple minutes and then repeating the process until the balls are fully emptied. This also has a more sadistic side as when the milking is over you can keep beating the balls. Now lets discuss the temperature part, the balls must regulate temperature (about 94 deg.) to keep production of hormones and sperm in balance. The warmer the balls the less they create sperm and testosterone, the cooler the balls the more they produce. All Chastity's by design keep his balls hanging and prevents drawing up to warm the testicles. This causes a slow over production of sperm and hormones which in turn increases the males need for orgasm, which also makes him more submissive. So by its very nature, a chastity forces submission through chemical control, not just physical control. So permanent chastity is not just about never having to touch his pathetic dicklet again, or allowing him an orgasm, it also ensures that as long as you are strict maintain discipline and severe punishments you will always be able to be in control, do what you want, have sex with whom you want, even without using pussy. *Note, you can do all types of punishments without removing the chastity, spankings, electric play, urethra play, ball slapping or stretching and most all other CBT play so there is no need to remove the chastity unless wanting to.                

PERMANENT CHASTITY
Permanent chastity also called "PC" is when you force your sissy bitch to wear (with a few exceptions) the chastity 24/7/365. When training is nearly completed doms start practicing permanent chastity, however PC is mostly started much earlier through cuckolding when the mistress decides to date a boyfriend or Bull full time. This is also the same time she will permanently restrict his access to her pussy. Doing this prevents her from having to deal with her subs clitty when she doesn't feel like it, like after she is exhausted from a late night out or a long night of great sex. It also separates his rewards and focuses his true purpose for her, which will always be handing over his pay check and serving and obeying her. Nothing says submissive sissy bitch like having to serve and obey a Mistress while permanently chastised and completely denied pussy, all for the pleasure of her strap-on cock or cock of her choosing. Either way, permanent chastity is done as a plateau to get free of handling or touching his clitty (except as needed) and to force her submissive further into the sissy role for full dependency on cock for pleasure. This dependency can and most often, eventually leads to real cock and the finial stages of sissy training if you choose that route. *Note when doing permanent chastity, it is extremely important that you are very dominant, cruel, strict, and punish, but also include you bitch in the cuckolding as much as possible described below.   

Know that permanent chastity does not mean you put it on and throw away the key, although you want it to be as close to that as possible. Because the penis needs washed for good health and hygiene as described above, it is near impossible to lock it on and throw away the key. Plus, even though you are done with training OR started dating seriously, you still need to give his clitty some stimulation from time to time (at least once or twice a week) to maintain high levels of hormones, ESPECIALLY if you are not keeping them up by having sex frequently enough (3 or more times a week) and allowing him to participate in some manner. His participation at a minimum is watching or listening, but can occasionally be just hearing about all the details when you return home. Telling him the details gives him a mental picture and shows your excitement for dating your boyfriend, but you must be explicit. Participation can and should if at all possible be sexual related like fluffing your boyfriend, pegging him, licking your ass and feet during sex, even kneeling naked with panties on in the room (corner or foot of the bed) or serving your both before-during-after sex. Regardless to how you include him, he should always be made to clean up the after mess in some manner, again because the copulins are very valuable to keeping him horny, submissive, and begging to be cuckolded. 

Remember, permanent chastity means you will force him to wear his Chasity 24/7/365, you never take it off except for 2 reasons; First, the few times a month for clitty edging to build and maintain arousal and second, for a good deep cleaning and inspection of his genitals on the same days as edging to reduce time out of the chastity. You remove it, wash his clitty or allow him to, shave it, inspect for problems, preform the edging during training, then put it back on immediately. Other reasons can be for training or when doing Cock & Ball Toucher (CBT). Note,*It is possible with most chastity cages to do ball torture without removing his chastity. You can do ball stretching with a ball stretcher or various rope stretching, ball squeezing, ball smacking or using a crop, electric play/ pads or lassos on balls (some chastity's have built in electric play), ice or hot wax play, suction cup play, and Wartenberg pinwheel/needle pinwheel.   

Again permanent chastity is enacted for a couple of reasons, First is once you get him trained to be the sissy bitch you want him to be and he has completely submitted and accepted his place as your sissy bitch. Basically he is fulfilling his purpose to you as your servant and sissy bitch and he does it for the privilege of serving his mistress and the reward of cock. Second but mostly sooner, is after you have found a full time boyfriend and given him full access or control of your pussy to him (like you would normally to your boyfriend). Which is also the time you would completely deny your sissy bitch any access to his pussy. Rightfully so, you don't want to ever touch his pathetic clitty unnecessarily if at all and you certainly wouldn't allow a sissy bitch to have any access to your boyfriends pussy. Plus its very demeaning for a mistress to interact with a servants clitty. With PC there is no clitty touching or stimulation before or after you get fucked by your boyfriend or bull (unless you want to), he simply serves and obeys yet expects nothing. Again, his reward is the privilege of serving you and when you allow it the pleasure of cock. Also to do PC you want him to the point where he gets his sexual fulfillment by watching or hearing you get your pleasure by fucking your boyfriend or lovers, again at the very least he is told in detail about the events and how much you enjoyed the much bigger cock, positions he fucked you in, how many times you had an orgasm and how strong they were. For the extra humiliation you can compare sex with your boyfriends big cock to his pathetic clitty. He must act and behave as you have trained him (the way he should act) and he needs to fear you. He will also still need  occasional training, strict discipline, and extreme punishments for rule breaking. Any additional or on going training is done with the chastity on, you don't need to remove it for pegging, most CBT as described above, including punishments.

TO ACHIEVE SUCCESS, you MUST do the following or have already completed the following; Taken a boyfriend that you have had sex with for a few weeks and made the relationship full time or serious but also allowed your sissy bitch interaction with your sex (seeing, hearing, etc.) as I described above. Or if doing PC because your finished with training; Have made him so horny and weak that he would do anything you say, NOT for a night or two, but on an every day submission level. Also MADE him terrified of you and your punishments that he is to scared not to obey. But also broken his will so that he has become completely and totally submissive to your will and authority. Emasculated him so that he wants to serve you 24/7/365 and truly believes it is his purpose and gets horny and excited about doing it. Plus make him weak from your power and sexuality, that he gets very aroused and horny by your pleasures (the fact that you are having sex with your boyfriend or other men on a regular basis and generally flirting with and fucking whom ever you want and all while gloating and humiliating him about it). He must be pushed to his limits, and have things done to him he wouldn't believe you could or would do! Keep him wondering what's next, how far you will go, how hard you will punish him or how extreme you will humiliate him! 

IMPORTANT!! THINGS TO KEEP IN MIND; The penis is his highest sense of pleasure and directly linked (via his testicles) to keeping his chemicals and hormones elevated to keep him in a horny/aroused and controlled state. But its now locked up through PC so it is very, very, important that you keep him horny through other means like licking/sucking his balls and watching you have sex. He must remain extremely horny for this PC-365 to work properly. These means are as I described above, you having your pleasure regularly but also giving him anal play and sissygasms, ball play (licking, sucking, rubbing) and even nipple play (licking, sucking, rubbing). Then there is always making him watch porn, talking dirty to him (about past or future fucking with your Boyfriend/s, how good it was, how big, how much you can't wait to feel it again etc.). Also you should use your sexual power just like strippers do, like I've talked about in other sections of my blog, by moving, touching and displaying your body in sexy ways, wearing sexy outfits (lingerie or Dom outfits) Letting him see pussy (up very close and spread open) on rare occasions 2 or 3 times a month in you have a BF, normally (2 times a week) just an outline through your panties. *MOST IMPORTANT* Bend over and make him worship your ass (make him tongue your hole while you use a vibe or dildo on yourself) and feet by kissing and licking them. Blind fold him and let him smell your lovers pussy. One thing I found that's almost as good as him watching me get fucked is, I record (hide the recorder) a fuck session with my boyfriend (or have him record it) from time to time and make him watch it on the TV while I humiliate him about how much better, bigger, and last longer than him...that I can't wait to get it again. Come up with your own ways to keep him aroused, use his hypnoses state (the point where he is really weak and begging to serve you from being so aroused during a training session) to extract info from him like what turns him on the most (and do it) or implant what you want to start turning him on (just like you did when you got him to get very turned on by watching you fuck your lovers) Also remember to keep up on your humiliation, discipline, and punishments. I recommend that once you start PC, that you switch to a full metal chastity belt of some kind, make sure it locks around his balls in some manner. They are are sold all over the internet on BDSM sites, but they are reasonably priced on Amazon, Alibaba, Aliexpress, and eBay. As his mistress only you will be the one to place it on him and the one to take it off and this must be done while he is tied down or in the shower for cleaning. He is never allowed to touch his clitty much less install the chastity. You should install it on day 1 of training, even if he tells you he won't masturbate, trust me he will and not tell you. Remember ALWAYS put his chastity back on him no exceptions, no mater what he tells you!!!!!!!

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BDSM - the sadist within the femdom lifestyle part 2

                                           Female Sadist 

                                                               Part 2 

As a Dom, being a female Sadist is very important, it is your highest quality as a Dom, the internal compass that focuses your power and is the source of pleasure which drives you to be dominant, ruthless, and aggressive. It is also key to being a successful Dominatrix and maximizing his submission to the fullest you deserve, and you deserve to be served and obeyed!!! Because of this, it is extremely important that you let out that side of you and embrace it, be the woman you were meant to be, the women you need to be, his mistress. You will need to change your whole demeanor and attitude towards him, for it is your interactions with him that emphasizes your place and authority. It is the way you speak to him, and how you treat him that reinforces your power and authority over him. A strict, aggressive, and dominant Mistress will get much further with a submissive than an innocent, quiet speaking, and polite, wife will ever get and that is fact.  

A Mistress is not nice or polite to her bitch and she definitely is not reasonable, accepting, or respectful towards him. She is a strict, demanding, cruel and ruthless, bitch and she doesn't care about what he wants, what he likes, his thoughts or feelings on anything. Why should she, It will be her way always, she does not request, ask, or negotiate, she demands and commands, she gives orders and expects complete submission. I can not stress it enough, YOU are the only key to your success and to be successful you need to demand respect, obedience, and submission. NEVER accept back talk, unruly behavior, or disobedience, doing so reduces your control and gives him power. You must be dominant, cruel, and very strict, extremely hard core, as they say, so you don't look feeble and weak. Never give the impression he can control anything as there should be no question who the boss is and he should fear displeasing you. Your going to need to be aggressive, relentless, very cruel, and do things you may never thought you could.....Things he never thought you would or could do. Things that are very humiliating and emasculating to him, like licking clean all cum messes, peeing on his face (if you really want to show dominance, piss in his mouth, maybe even drink a little of it), spitting in his face, or better in his mouth (which is actually no different than kissing except you don't get any of his saliva), posting ads on bi-sexual and gay sites to have him used sexually (always chastity on), Make him knell in public, address you as mistress in public, admit that he obeys you in public, even make him stand in a corner at the mall, etc. Things that are cruel and degrading like keeping him in a dog cage and only allow him to eat from dog bowels on the floor, making him (actually forbid him the privilege of using the toilet), use the restroom in kitty litter box in his cage (even if he is allowed the privilege to be out of the cage he must go in and use the kitty litter box), make him worshiping your feet and ass hole with his tongue, make him wear a collar at all times possible and even walk him around on a leash. Forbid him from getting off his knees while in your presence. Clean the bathroom with a toothbrush, make him wear his sissy panties 24/7 or lingerie and fuck a dildo, then break out the camera and record it and  post it on a gay or bi website to have him used sexually. Use your mind and do every thing you can think of to humiliate, degrade, and emasculate him, no mater how bad or terrible you think it is, that is the point!!!!! 

You will need stop thinking like a wife and equal partner, let go of being a wife with a vanilla life and conventional marriage, this is not how you want it, not how its supposed to be, and its not your natural place. You cannot be his friend, or allow him to be your equal, make any decisions (and I do mean any at all) have an opinion, give input, or speak with out permission for that matter. You must realize his true purpose is to kneel at your feet, to to please you, make your life better, to serve and obey you, to simply be your bitch! You need to take your rightful and natural place, be the Dominant and strict authority, the Boss, the Mistress! You don't need a husband, and deep inside you don't want a husband, you will have something far more valuable, much better and more satisfying. A submissive sissy bitch that will worship the ground you walk on, give you all the securities of a husband (with out all the bullshit that comes with it), hand over his pay, do all the chores, run errands, clean up after you, serve and obey you. Plus as I said, you get none of the negative issues of having a husband, like him questioning you, bitching at you, having to answer to him, cleaning up after him, chores, made to have unsatisfying sex, and do things he wants. Instead you will come and go as you please, do as you want with no questions, no compromising, spoil yourself, and best of all have the best sex of your life while you date and fuck whom ever you want when you want.

A Dominatrix is an intelligent woman and she knows very well how to get what she wants. Her mind is her strongest tool, it is built to control, to rule over her bitch, and it is the strength to keeping control. Her body is her weapon, she will use her body and her hormones (copulins) to seduce and hypnotize her bitch and keep him happily in his place. A Dominatrix is proud of what she is, and takes pride in her position, she is the superior sex. She is exalted, she is privileged, she is female and she will be served, obeyed, and worshiped as a mistress. She should never be shy, timid or embarrassed, about her position and authority. She will flaunt her power and position over him, she will demand complete submission and respect. She should be extremely pissed off for (the three D's) disobedience, disrespect, and dissatisfaction. A sexy dominant and sadistic women could have anything she wants, she could even rule the world or at least rule the most powerful men in the world and many women do. A sadistic Dom is especially important with the more extreme sides of femdom like cuckolding and sissifying. I'll explain; When cuckolding you don't want sex with your bitch, you probably don't even want to touch his clitty and you really don't care that he will never feel the pleasure of pussy or have an orgasm again. that is part of your sadistic side,  and that side will also want to humiliate him about those facts and how his little clitty is pathetic.  You are sadistic and think its funny that *****  will also humiliate him by telling your girlfriends and boyfriends )ones that know of your lifestyle) As a sadistic Dom, you also don't care about his feelings on anything or how often, when and where you have sex with other men or your BF, its truly is none of his business. Why should it be, its your pussy, your sex, your pleasure and that is exactly how its supposed to be. Your the Dom and he's the bitch, the only thing he should be focused on is serving and obeying you, right? Absolutely! That is also your sadistic side enjoying your power and freedom, and loving his obedience and humiliation of being cuckolded. However the real sadist fun starts when you date a boyfriend full time, and your bitch truly becomes a cuckold. That's when you really get pleasure and the extreme humiliation starts. This is the time the extreme sadist needs to come out, extreme humiliation needs an extreme sadistic Dom. Your going to train for and permanently lock away his clitty, you will also take pussy completely away from him as it now rightfully belongs to your BF. Of course your going to verbally humiliate him from the start but that's not good enough for a sadistic Dom. Your going to rub his fucking face in your much better sex life. not only will you tell him all about how much better the sex is, positions, how many orgasms, how you love his much bigger cock and how he reaches places the bitch never could. But you will also force him to aid in your and your BF's pleasure. You might hive him worship your feet or ass while your getting fucked (accommodating positions to make that possible) or maybe you want to put him beneath you so he can see up front and personal as that big cock spreads you wide open, only to have him clean the mess as your BF's cum drips from your freshly fucked pussy directly into his mouth. While the both of you humiliate him and you finger feed the rest to him (warning this will need training and a mouth spreader the first 2 or 3 times) If at all possible you might make him watch and serve your BF as well, sucking that big cock hard for you or having your BF cum directly into his mouth as you bitch is locked kneeling (also requires training and a mouth spreader the first 2 or 3 times). Regardless to rather this is a show and tell BF or not, you will make him smell your sex through your used panties or directly when you make him do clean up duty and then humiliate him about how pathetic he is and how he could never make you cum and will never feel pussy again. The humiliation can never be extreme enough...

But you want more, you want to satisfy that deep desire with in you...His penetration! His sissification! You want to feminize him and make him your cock loving sissy bitch. You love the power you feel when you fuck him with that big strap-on cock making him moan and scream turning him into a sissy. You love making him suck your dildo's and beg for your big cock, but the sadist inside you say's that's not good enough, your deep desire is the power to transform him into a real cock slut. You want him craving and begging to be fucked, but you want it done by real cock! You want to watch him kneel and suck a real mans cock, then get fucked by it while you masturbate, maybe even joining in the fun with your strap-on. You probably even want him submitting to a real man, any man for that matter, any man that will use him good, especially men that loves it or knows how to make him submit. You not alone, sissy training is the most popular among Femdom women, and they use it to make their bitches completely submissive so they never disobey or interfere with their ability to date real men.

You don't ever want to stop fucking your boyfriend or go back to a vanilla life, and you really don't want to fuck that little clit of his. So your going to do what ever it takes to keep him submissive and humiliated, your going to make sure he knows his place. Your future and success greatly depends on your ability to take your place to its fullest, because eventually he will rebel to some degree or another. The chastity, lack of sex, and you enjoying all the great sex you want, will get the best of him, it will cause him to question you, to argue, to fight, in order to destroy his place or your power over him. You will not let that happen, you will be the Mistress he needs you to be in order to accept his place, you will be the sadistic Dom.

You want to extremely humiliate him, make him weak and submissive, the kind of submission that only comes from you fucking other men on a regular basis. Your going to go out and meet guys, and get all the cock you want. Your going to humiliate him about it while you make him lick clean the mess and your going to love how submissive it makes him. Eventually you will find a hot guy that really turns you on, one with a big cock that you love to fuck, a lot. You will want to take your pussy completely away from the bitch as you make a more serious relationship with the new BF. So your going to need your sadistic bitch to ensure you get what you want. After about 2 weeks of dating your new BF, your going to whip your bitch into a cuckolding submission of your new BF, your going to make sure he knows he has no choice or input of you dating. Again your going to love how submissive he becomes because of it. Your going to welt up and bruise his ass while you make him beg you to get fucked. As you whip his ass red and swollen, your going to tell him that your going to start dating full time, that your new boyfriend owns your pussy. You will continue to whip as you tell him its none of his fucking business who you fuck or how often your BF gets pussy, that he is never permitted to ask questions. You will make him acknowledge this and then tell him he is never to ask what time you will be home, or expect anything when you do get home. you will reinforce that he is to never touch your phone. You will whip him for at least 30 minutes, making sure that he is begging and pleading for mercy and drive it into his head that he has no say so and that his only place is serving and obeying.

Now your sadist side is shining but the fun has just begun, the first time you make him clean up the mess (you will always make him clean up the mess), tie him down, positioned and ready to be whipped, then use your fingers to scoop out the cum or empty the condom into a dog dish or a small plate and place it in front of him. As he is looking at it, tell him about the sex, how many times he made you cum, how he fucked you long and hard, how much you enjoyed his bigger cock. Tell him to smell it as you put the fingers you used to scoop out the cum in front of his nose, then tell him to smell the cum in the dog dish as you force his nose into it! Tell him he is going to lick it up, but not until he begs you to do it. This is the fun part, he is really humiliated thinking about having to lick it clean especially from a dog bowl and not from your pussy. He won't beg to do it, at least not yet but that will change shortly. Now your going to start whipping his ass with out a break and tell him you will stop when he begs you to lick it up. When he does, your not going to allow him to lick it until you whip his ass good and welt it up, you see the key is, you want him truly begging and pleading to lick it up. During which time you going to tell him you will stop whipping him when you feel he truly wants to lick the cum up to please you, when he has sincerely begged you good enough and when you allow him that PRIVILAGE he had better lick it up like he loves it, like his ass depends on it or you will whip him even longer. Once you have whipped him good enough and he is really begging to lick it up (remember he must be saying, "Mistress may I please have the privilege of cleaning up the mess!!") then you will command him to lick it and be aggressive saying "lick every fucking drop you pathetic bitch and thank me for that privilege (make sure he thanks you that way). As he is licking it up hit his ass a few times and say, "that's a good bitch, lick it all up, soon you'll be getting it straight from the cock!" Now, the next time he will be eager to clean up the mess but if not to your pleasure then repeat this. He will eventually find pleasure in pleasing you this way, but as I said you may need to whip him a second or third time if he is not doing it eagerly enough for you or if you just love the excitement (he should be licking it like a runny ice creme cone getting every last drop). From there you will do your regular training but remember after you return from fucking not to remove his chastity, he is only allowed his pussy play (fucking him), and remember to be cruel and very dominant.

During your entire relationship with your BF, you need to make it extremely humiliating for him, you need to constantly tell him how much you enjoy the cock, how the BF gets it often, and how he will never feel pussy again or cum through his clitty. It is important to keep your bitch in the mix, tell him all the details of how many times he made you cum, how he took a 20 minute break and fucked you again, how he woke you up in the middle of the night and fucked you, how you gave him a BJ in the morning, or how he fucked you in the break room at work or you left work early to meet him for sex, those are the things that will really humiliate him. Your also going to need to come up with ways to humiliate him physically like forcing him to suck on the used condom (if you fuck at your house). Eventually you will want stop using condoms and then you'll have to blind fold him and drip it into his mouth finger feeding it to him. Allow him to smell the sex first to really build his arousal and your pheromones (copulins). You will have to let out your sadistic side, see him as a bitch, and force him to do sissy things like sucking other cock, fucked by other men, find a Master or Bull for him to serve and service on a regular basis (possibly when you stay the night or weekend at the BF house). Keep this in mind though, when it first starts off its going to be new for him, humiliation that also turns him on is a very powerful submission tool. It will be exciting and arousing, forcing him deeper into submission than ever before. BUT as weeks turn into months and he is denied sex, orgasm, and all access to pussy while you flaunt your sex, fucking this much larger cock on a regular basis, the cuckolding angst may get the best of him. Excitement may turn into jealousy, and the humiliation that also turns him on will be more humiliation than a turn on. Not of the BF, but because he is getting pussy (if your doing it right, very often), and your bitch is not getting anything. Obviously being a true sadistic Dom, you don't give a fuck how humiliating it is, what he wants or how he feels about it, and you shouldn't, your going to keep fucking your BF and your going to do what ever it takes to keep it that way! He will never have anything to do with pussy, his dicklet will not get touched and you have no sympathy for him, even if he cries about it. He is your bitch, that's his purpose to you and what you want him to be, in fact, its turning you on more now that he realizes he can do nothing about it, that he must submit and his place is serving you from now on, especially since he is at his most submissive state and very eager to obey you because of it! However, he may start to rebel...While you should do things to keep it exciting for him as much as possible like pegging him every 3 or 4 times you get fucked, letting him hear on the phone, watch (close up) if that's possible or even included in to enhance your sexual pleasure, used sexually by other men to change up the humiliation, or what ever works. However, sooner or later there is a chance he will become very unruly, induce fighting, cause an argument, or any other excuse to end his submission or or worse simply not want to do it anymore.

First off, if your being the proper strict and aggressive Dom, utilizing your sadistic side with discipline and punishments from the start, then the temper tantrum (or any temper tantrum for that matter) will be Far, FAR less likely to happen and a lot easier to deal with if it did!!!! You need to always handle the outburst or fit correctly (meaning don't fall for it and maintain your control). A smart Dom knows she has the power, thus she doesn't need to yell or scream at him causing the fight or argument to spin out of control. A smart Dom doesn't fight or argue, she knows fighting is bad and makes her look weak, that ANGER is the enemy and the only chemical release that will kill his submission. Its all about how you handle the situation and bring your bitch under control, try to punish him immediately for it if possible, if not then punish him for it later. Be calm but speak in a firm voice saying, "shut your fucking mouth now and get in your place!" snap your finger and point to the floor in front of you. If he tries to speak again, immediately  repeat the step, If he doesn't listen and continues then say "we will talk about it after you take your fucking place" Note* 90% of all arguments, fights, or outburst happen when he is standing or sitting and rarely if he is in his place, thus the reason he needs to be in his place as much as possible when he is not serving or doing chores.* If he is still trying to speak or is not in his place say, "you already have a sever punishment, do you want to make it worse?" As I said if you have been doing your job from the start, he will fear those words and get in his place, if not then you have not been doing your job and you will have to calmly work through the outburst but try to get him back into his roll and on his knees as soon as possible.

Again if you would have been the proper Dom and using your sadist side during training and punishments the temper tantrum probably wouldn't happen in the first place as he would fear the severe punishment from it. No its not the same and would have no effect if you suddenly decide to punish him correctly after he wants to stop the lifestyle or you to stop having sex with other men or your boyfriend, or what ever the reason. Because at that point the angst or anger has already built out of control and you won't even get him into the dungeon let alone the position to be tied down to take his punishment. It is the discipline you follow, the type of control you yield, the fear he has, and the severe punishments he endures through out training and 24/7 that will keep him in check, keep him from having a temper tantrum, and returning to the bench for his punishment when he does get mouthy or rebels. Trust me nothing is worse in femdom then having to stop fucking a hot guy that you really like, with an awesome cock, that fucks you really good because you didn't do what you were suppose to this whole time. Because you were lazy, not dominant, and aggressive enough, and did not punish every time he disobeyed or broke a rule. Ask yourself, what do you really want, picture it in your mind, and then do everything you need to make it happen.

As a Dom you you want to be successful, you need to embrace your sadist side, you need to let it out and let it consume you. Feel its power, enjoy it, feed off it and let it give you pleasure as you use it to break him and force him to be the perfect submissive bitch. Let it guide and evolve you into the  powerful women you are meant to be. Use it to make him fear you, use it to give him extreme humiliation, use it to force his submission. Enjoy his torment, and make him suffer for you, break his will and force him to do things for your pleasure and laugh at him because of it. Use it to emasculate him, to feminize him, to make him feel weak and submissive. Feel the rush of power, excitement, and ecstasy as you whip his ass bright red, extremely welted, that last for days. Listen to him scream out, pleading for you to stop, telling you he will be a good little bitch and beg to serve you...You get wet from hearing how submissive he is, you want more, you want to see him crying like a big sissy baby, you want him to suffer and know you have the power and he will never disobey you again. Take it slow and make it lengthy as you want this to be remembered, you don't care of the pain he endures, his screams or begs you to stop. No, on the contrary you love it, it so turns you on, gets you wet, and has you thinking about sex with your boyfriend because you know you will have his cock as long and often as you want because you are letting out your sadistic side. Because you have whipped him and humiliated him into submission. You love that you hold the power to stop when you see fit and it makes you even wetter to hear him scream begging you to stop, knowing he will be your bitch for it, that he will be completely submissive and do what ever you say when you finally stop. That he'll suck that cock when you command or drop to his knees in public...You will break him and create a submissive bitch forever serving and obey you. 

Being sadistic is not only about making him suffer pain and punishments, its also about his humiliation. In fact 90 % of being a sadist is about how you humiliate him and make him suffer through out the day and nights when he isn't being punished or tortured for you amusement. This is through the use of your voice by humiliating him, and the use of physical acts by forcing him to do things that humiliate him. This can be anything from having him knell in a corner sucking a dildo, having him do clean up duty every time you fuck, to making him serve another person or pleasure another male. You should make him eat and drink from a dog dish, ask permission to do anything, spit in his face and mouth (spit is the same thing as french kissing so its the act that is humiliating) cage him at your desecration, stand him in the corner at the mall while you shop, walk him around your house on a leash, don't allow him to speak in public (you will order his food). Remember, he is your bitch, you should not care of his thoughts, feelings, or desires as he is there to serve you, to obey you, and suffer for you. It is your way always, you are the female, his dominatrix, the only authority and he has no say so, at all!  No real Dom would ever put up with with attitude, backtalk, disobedience, demands, lectures, interrogations or questions. Let your sadist side show him you will not put up with it, make him regret is unruliness and make sure he is less likely repeat it. Make him suffer extreme humiliation, turn him sissy, have him used, suck cock, shave hair off his body, wear panties bra's, stockings, wigs, heels, service other men while your out, swallow cum, serve in public, serve in front of your select friends, what ever humiliates him do it, break him and put him in his place. What ever turns you on, what ever excites you, for him to be what you want him to be and how you want him to behave, always push him deeper and think of new ways to humiliate him.

Some questions and remarks I get all the time from women; Is there a limit to how you treat you sub, if there is anything to humiliating, or out of reason for punishments? or How hard is to hard for whipping, are the whippings online real? My husband is to manly, there is no way he will submit to me! My man would never admit he was wrong let alone submit to a beating for it! My husband would leave me if I tried to fuck another man! Let me start with the easy one, Yes I assure you those are real beatings by real Doms, on their subs. Every thing you see on websites, porn hub or where ever is real, you can't fake that type of stuff and trust me I've been involved with some of it, selling vid's for cash. Some are women who are punishing their domestic sub (husband) and some are women punishing owned subs. Owned subs are men that the Dom has no prior relationship ties with, and used for his services or they can be men (usually single men) who pay or support Doms to be used and owned. Most of these video's show women releasing their sadistic side and punishing for what ever the reason or just for fun. It is the norm and reality of punishments for subs who disobey or have a mistress fond of breaking her male slave down to nothing but serving. These are very common, even the extreme ones. I personally use crops, canes, and whips/leather straps for punishments. I use a slapper crop, a flat end crop, a 3/8 cane, a 1/4 cane, a cat of nine leather tails, leather strap, and a leather whip. I use firm strokes that are fairly hard, but not to hard (I judge by his yelps) so that I can whip for long periods of time with out major skin damage as I want his punishment to be long and remembered. The marks and damage will come in time and will hurt longer the more time you spend whipping. I spend at least 20 to 40 minutes of time whipping him (depending on his punishments). I start out with 100 to 150 hits before I give the actual punishment whippings and I whip him in a series of 10-20 consecutive strokes, take a few seconds break and repeat, after a few series of whippings I hit one at a time for 10 or 20 strikes (harder than normal to really bring out the stinging pain), then I go right back to my series of 11-20 strokes, mixing it up during the entire punishment. During this time I scold him, humiliate him, spit in his face, crop hit his balls, slap his balls, squeeze his balls, pull his hair. When I'm done I leave him there for a few minutes before release, then command him to knell in the corner to reflect his punishment, then I make him thank me for it. Punishments can also be acts, positions (such as put into the corner) extra chores, loss of free time, lost of allowance/money, loss of pleasure, what ever you want especially if it is humiliating. You may also do with whipping him, before or after whipping him, use CBT, bondage, candle wax, electric tens unit, toppings (icy hot) or roots in the anus like ginger or radish. The only limit is nothing that involves minors, family, or friends (unless they are lifestyle friends)

Now, Is there anything to humiliating or out of reason, NO, unless against the rule above. Many women use sissy training, to turn him into a sissy and that is one of the most humiliating types of subs. Its so humiliating because it involves transforming your male into a sissy, he is not a man or a girl but a male that has been feminized and trained to serve both. This is humiliation on two fronts as ONE, it is extremely humiliating to serve and obey a man, pleasing real cock by sucking or being fucked, (Bull, boyfriend, a gay or bi-male). TWO its also very humiliating to serve and obey another female, as she now has knowledge that the sub is a sissy bitch, has a little clitty, wears a chastity, is completely denied sex and takes cock and cock whipped....Not to mention if she humiliates him because of it or he is used to enhance their sex via licking ass, sucking on toes, tits or what ever. I use mostly gay or Bi-men as they really get into using him for their pleasure. Note* the first few times should be with your bitch tied down with necessary toys to carry out the scene) your imagination is your only limitation. I've seen women who are very talented and imaginative to humiliate their subs, some using tattoo's or branding, chemical castration, feminizing with forced cross dressing, forced transvestite (extreme sissy) public humiliation, being receiver of gay male orgy/train, and just about every use of submission you can think of.

Is there a limit to how you treat your sub, NO, what you do to him and how you want him to behave is up to you and only limited by your imagination, amount of training, and your ability to commit and make it happen. If it excites you or turns you on then go for it as long as it doesn't break the above rule. I'll tell you about mine; My slave is always to kneel in his place when he comes home and await orders (unless done via text) he must always kneel at my feet when he approaches, and must always ask for permission to speak. He must ask for permission to do anything, including the bathroom. I treat him 100% as a sissy bitch, he must wear panties 24-7-365 (I have removed all but 5 of his undies for just in case moments). He must shave his ass, his balls, his pussy and clit area every other day. When we eat, I eat first, then he is allowed to eat on the floor from the dog bowl, and drink from a dog bowl. if we go out to eat, I order for him he is not permitted to speak or look at te server. Again I eat and then box his up to return home and put into the dog bowl. He must shave and shower every day and scrub his chastity (he wears the chastity 24-7-365 only removed for extra cleaning) At night he is to sleep on the floor with a small blanket and a pillow (unless being punished) He must always address me as mistress or "M" around other people. He is given chores to do every day, when I go out I lock him in a dog cage, when I have males or my BF over he is also locked in the dog cage (the dog cage is in basement) he is allowed to hear me fuck most times (unless being punished) and the cage is brought up to the spare BR at those times. He is given a bowl of water and a container to urinate in, until his release (if it is an emergency he may break the plastic dish to get the key to release himself with a sever punishment on that chance) He must open all doors and slide my seat if possible.

The point is to embrace your sadist side, to train him how you want him trained, and to enjoy the pleasures of having sexual freedom and a bitch to serve!

BDSM - The sadist within the femdom lifestyle part 1

                              FEMDOM SADIST 

                                                                    Part 1

BDSM stands for; Bondage - Discipline - Sadist - Masochist. In the female domination lifestyle (Femdom for short) BDSM is an aspect of the lifestyle, just as cuckolding, sissification, and various other fetishes are. MAKE NO MISTAKE, this is a 24/7 lifestyle and the natural way of order.  

Bondage is not just about physically tying him down or binding him in certain positions or places. It is also a metaphor that means much more as it represents the entirety of Femdom as a whole, and a lifestyle. Bondage is a display and use of your power, it is forcing him to kneel and obey, to follow rules, orders, and a routine of service and chores. It is a belief that you are the superior sex and should always be in control, the authority, the Mistress. Its your power-his weakness, your authority-his submission, your freedom-his servitude. You controlling his actions, his body and even his mind. Bondage is forcing him and changing him to become what you want, training his body and mind to submit and obey with out question, thoughts, or balk talk. It is you replacing his wants, needs and sexual desires to yours, making him know and believe his place is serving and obeying you, the Mistress. Bondage is physical restraint and more importantly strict mental control......Breaking his will, emasculating him, feminizing him, making him weak and forcing him to submit, to serve and obey. But it is also about your pleasure, your desires, your sexual freedom, doing what you want, whenever you want. It is taking your place as his mistress and forcing him into his, using your power over him and creating the type of submissive you desire and deserve! 

Discipline is not the same as punishments although the two go hand in hand. Discipline is a strict act or practice of training your male to follow a routine of service, to submit and obey, to follow rules and orders, using severe punishments to correct and deter disobedience. Discipline is breaking him down, emasculating him, feminizing him, forcing him into his natural place and bringing out his submission and desire to serve you. It requires you doing your part, being strict, aggressive, controlling, cruel, dominant and doing whatever it takes to get the submission you want and deserve. You must be serious, and extremely committed, put in the time and effort to get what you truly want and deserve. Discipline has no morals, no discrepancy, no bottom line, no point to far, and is unyielding to extract the perfect submissive....You simply do what you must in order to achieve a perfectly trained sissy bitch servant. Discipline and the use of punishments have no mercy, no sympathy, no regret and should always be aggressive, relentless, ruthless, humiliating, and demanding. Discipline with punishments is to be feared, to be dominant, to be sexy, to be idolized, and to be worshiped as a Mistress and superior. It is using control, humiliation and severe punishments with a forceful aggressive like demeanor and attitude to achieve the desired submission.    

Sadist is a female who gets sexual pleasure or excitement from the humiliation, pain, and punishments of her male submissive. She loves the power, the control, and servitude of her male while she has the freedom to have sex with whoever she wants and do as she pleases. She loves to use humiliation to deepen his submission and control him. She enjoys teasing him with her sexuality, her body, her voice, while denying him any access to her body, especially pussy, and sexual relief. She loves to destroy his masculinity, forcing him to surrender and accept his submissive place....Bowing his head in humiliation because of it, as he begs to serve her. More so, it pleases her to inflict pain to force his submission and obedience to her. She loves to flaunt her sexual freedom and affairs in his face, humiliating him about his inadequate size, performance, and how pathetic he is. She gets excited and even wet when she hears him screaming and begging her to stop as she inflicts pain from punishments, especially after his ass is severely welted, marked up, and bruised, insuring he won't soon forget he is there to serve and obey.  She loves to hear the begging turn into screaming out, crying, and pleading for her to stop, because she knows this is true power and he will be extremely submissive because of it. She loves seeing him on his knees, obeying her and it greatly excites her to turn him into a sissy cock loving slut and hear him moan from her cock, submitting to it, craving it, transforming him into a cock whipped bitch. She loves and enjoys the power and control over her submissive with no regard or care of his thoughts, feelings, wants or needs. He is not her equal, he is not a man, he is her sissy bitch who's only purpose is to pay for pussy and serve and obey. He is not her mate, or husband, he is simply there to serve, to obey, and to worship her as his superior, his Mistress.

Masochist is a male who has been broken or near broken and emasculated, disciplined and converted to derive pleasure and even sexual gratification from his submission to his Mistress. You forcing his loss of masculinity, freedom, pleasure, sex, orgasms, and sexual enslavement has changed how he achieves pleasure. He has lost all normal means of pleasure, been placed in chastity, dominated, controlled and exposed to heavy humiliation through cuckolding, pegging and/or sissified. Usually he is cuckolded because of his small penis size and poor sexual performance, which ironically leads most Mistresses into the lifestyle. The cuckolding inflects extreme humiliation, especially when done properly, which furthers and deepens his submission, a cycle that creates mental enslavement and forced submission.  As a cuckold, he has complete loss of orgasms, is permanently denied sex, and usually denied anything at all to do with or associated with pussy. This means he is denied any real physical pleasure that would grant him a penis orgasm, thus keeping him dependent on her sexual affairs/cuckolding, pegging, and cruel acts for pleasure. He cannot resist being turned on by a cruel dominant, aggressive female, in fact he is naturally submissive to this demeanor. Some of her strongest power and control over him is being cruel, humiliating and degrading him and treating him like a bitch, forcing him to be just that. To show she does not care about what's done to get his submission, or the extremes she does to keep him submissive. He is now simply "a sissy bitch", whose only purpose to to pay her bills, serve and obey!   

       🅰️mistress truly believes that she is the authority, and was meant to rule over her bitch and control everything. She knows his natural place is kneeling at her feet with the sole purpose to hand over his paycheck, serve and obey her. He is owned and her property, existing only to amuse and please her. She will do anything and everything in her power to make that happen, there is no other way of life, and nothing more important than keeping her sissy bitch in his place. She will never let anything get in the way of her belief, her desires, and the femdom lifestyle. She will never return to the social norm of mutual respect, and equality of conventional marriage. This is not the natural way, it is an illusion conspired by small dick men trying to control sex with women and keep them powerless. She will never go back to the short, dull, chore of unsatisfying sex, as she knows SEX is for women's pleasure, given only to endowed males, worthy of her pleasure. Her sissy bitch is not meant for sex, he doesn't even deserve sexual pleasure of any kind, in fact he wasn't meant to have anything to do with her pussy, and deserves to be locked in chastity permanently. Her marriage is that of a Mistress/Dominatrix and a submissive sissy bitch, a marriage of female dominance and superiority, and her devoted obedient sissy bitch. She desires and wants nothing more than a real man to fulfill her sexually and a sexless submissive sissy bitch to serve and obey her. 

She wants a marriage that better suits her, one of her making, her choices, and her decisions. One that sets the natural order of the domesticated male and superior female, that has no concern for his feelings, thoughts, wants, or needs. She makes the rules and enforces them with strict discipline and harsh punishments. She must be dominant, aggressive, sadistic, cruel, and ruthless, she must be feared! She will not be questioned or disrespected and she will not allow disobedience. She will not accept anything less than complete submission. She has had a taste of  power, how life is meant to be, with the natural placement of Female dominance and authority, and a sissy bitch on his knees worshiping her, cleaning up after her, serving and obeying her. She has experienced excitement, passion, with the thrill of unbelievable sex, and powerful orgasms from real men with the servitude and obedience of her devoted submissive sissy bitch. She indulges the freedom to go and do as she pleases with no questioning or explaining. She is the Dominatrix, a woman that loves the power, embraces it, and uses it to make her life better. She is not shy, timid, or embarrassed about who she is, what she wants, or what she does to achieve it. She is proud to be a Dominatrix, a women of dominance and power, a mistress ! She has all the power as she is the essence of sex and pleasure and knows sex was meant for her pleasure. She has the power of her mind and body to control and command her sissy bitch. She will be relentless, take complete control over her submissive, his body but especially his mind. She wants him to know he is powerless to resist, that he was meant to serve and obey her. He has no choice as this is his natural place, this is a gift from her, a privilege to be on his knees serving and obeying his mistress. She is divine, erotic, captivating, sexy and the beauty that is female, his Mistress.  

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                                                                                                                     -Mistress Annabelle-
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 As a Mistress, you must fully live the femdom lifestyle IT CAN NOT BE PART TIME. It has to be second nature to you, constantly think about it and always in the back of your mind with every decision made to reflect it. You have to think and act like a mistress, it is the way you carry yourself that shows your power, this includes your attitude, dress, actions, and especially how you speak to your bitch. A mistress demands, she speaks with authority in a firm voice. She dresses sexy at all times and most of the time she wears a DOMINATRIX outfit when training. You must embrace your power and It must be lived 24/7/365, this is not a suggestion, it is vital, a must and the only way to succeed, anything less and it will fail. As a Mistress you are no longer a wife and equal partner, you must be the the Mistress at all times, there will be no question or doubt that you rule, no confusion that you are the authority and in complete control. You don't have a husband, you have a submissive sissy bitch, so start treating him the way you should be. You must be very strict and aggressively dominant to rule and force his respect and obedience of your authority. You must be sadistic, mean, and cruel to force his submission. You must emasculate, degrade, and humiliate him constantly and punish severely for his disobedience. He must  respect you as his mistress and fear you, he must fear repercussions of disobedience. 

As a Mistress, it is your rightful place and your responsibility to do what you want, to spoil yourself, to date and fuck whomever, and to be worshiped as a Mistress by your sissy bitch. If you are not doing all of these things, then you are not doing what you need to do, and you are not indulging in the euphoric and blissful life of a dominatrix. You are not being the Dominant that you must be in order to succeed. It is also your responsibility to be very aggressive, ruthless, and humiliating as well as make the rules, and enforce them with severe punishments. It's your responsibility to keep your sissy bitch in the correct atmosphere, to always treat him as a sissy bitch and keep him in his place no matter whos around. You deserve to have the hottest, erotic sex and mind blowing pleasure and orgasms, plus have a devoted, obedient sissy bitch to serve and obey you, to clean up after you, do the chores of the house, and to hand over his pay for the privilege of serving you his mistress. This is how it should be, how its meant to be, and how you want it. You will teach him this, and teach him it is a privilege to serve and obey you, that his true and proper place is serving, obeying and worshiping you always. You must do what ever it takes to make it happen, I mean anything! Be the Mistress you should be, use the power and let out the cruel, sadistic, Dominatrix inside you out! 

A Mistress will not accept anything less than complete submission and obedience. However its not just going to happen because you put on a leather Dominatrix outfit and shout orders. This type of commitment takes a very strict Dominatrix, strict training, extreme humiliation, strict discipline and severe punishments on your part. PLEASE read that again, and again if you need to because if you believe nothing else,believe that!!!! You are training your pussy whipped male to be your bitch, but not just any bitch, your perfect sissy bitch, to serve and obey you properly and follow your rules, beg to be on his knees and worship you properly. You must understand that he has been biologically and socially programmed to want, need, and get pussy. You probably even gave it up anytime he demanded it, you gave him pleasure he did not earn and definitely didn't deserve, and got nothing or very little pleasure out of it. Not to mention everything else that is the flawed married male, like laziness, selfish, thinks he is king of the castle and makes the rules, or that he wasn't meant to do house work. Meaning you have been married for however many years prior to taking control? This is all wrong and bad mental conditioning, so you must correct his thinking of the male monch bullshit that he gets pussy anytime he needs it, or that he even deserves pussy at all. As well as his thinking that he's the boss and doesn't have to do house work. It's already deeply rooted in his simple mind that he owns your pussy and it's his right to have it when he wants it, rather your pleased sexually or not. So it's not as simple as denying him pussy, getting him horny, saying a few humiliating comments, and fucking his asshole then calling it a day. It requires you to take total and full control and not just during training, it must be 100 percent of the time, even in public and you will reprogram his mind to the proper way of thinking. As i've said, this requires you to be very strict, aggressive, cruel and dominant at all times, again not just in the bedroom!!!! You will have to be sadistic and very cruel and do things that you never thought you could do or probably never even thought about doing. You absolutely must treat him as a sissy bitch full time, and again, not just when you have the time, or it suits you, ALWAYS 24/7.  You will need to put in the time to train him the correct way to extract the sissy bitch you want him to be and that you deserve. Think about that for a minute, what is it that you really want, what do you really desire? Don't you think you deserve to be pampered and obeyed, worshiped as his mistress, and paid for that privilege including the most erotic pleasurable sex you've ever had???  You should not just know that you truly deserve a submissive sissy bitch to obey you, you should believe it and make it happen. It is your right and your natural place to rule over your sissy bitch and be as mean and cruel to him as you can be. He will not only love you for it, he will be happier than he ever knew he could be, all you have to do is train him and re-programme him to the way you want him to be. You are female, superior in every way, you deserve a sissy bitch to cater to you, to clean up after you, to pay your bills, to serve and obey you without hesitation or back talk and he should beg for the privilege to do so. He should get nothing and never expect anything for the privilege of taking his rightful place kneeling at your feet. The amount of time you put in depends on how hard you train, how strict and cruel you are, how much you humiliate, and how well you discipline and punish. Obviously, the more strict and harder you are on him as described through out this post, the faster the training time (2-3 months). Think about what you want, what you deserve, how bad you want it, then make it happen with no excuses, because it really is as easy as being a cruel sadistic and dominant bitch 24/7, training him to be a sissy bitch, and giving sever punishments for disobedience. His natural place is serving and obeying you, but you have to make him realize this and bring it out of him. You need to train him, YOU WILL NEED TO FORCE him into his place and this will require you to do mean and cruel things, as i've said thing you never thought you could do, didn't think about doing or maybe even embarrassed to do them. Trust me, you could never be to strict, to controlling, and especially never to sadistic, do whatever it takes to break him and train him to get what you want. You must use your mind and your body to control him. You must be cunning, ruthless, sadistic and very cruel....Experiment, try new things, and definitely try everything at least twice to put him in his place, especially if it turns you on. AGAIN being a successful Dom requires you to be sadistic, ruthless and extremely cruel, and you must punish severely and mercilessly. You must drastically humiliate him... break his will.... crush his ego... destroy his manhood... emasculate and feminize him to strip him of his masculinity. He is your sissy bitch with a fucking puny pathetic clitty and his only purpose for you is to hand over his pay, (pay for pussy and the privilege of serving) serve and obey you, PERIOD!!!! He is there for your pleasure, and your amusement, so use him to relieve stress and anger (humiliate, beat and torture him) it really does work. You must put him in his place physically and mentally, take away all his free time and privileges, strip him of everything, even what it is to be a man, and replace all these with chores, service, routines, commands and all that it is to be your submissive sissy bitch. Transform him into the perfect sissy bitch you deserve and want serving you.

You are in a Femdom relationship as mistress, and like any relationship, the success of it depends on the commitment to it and how you live it. You must be dominant AT ALL TIMES!! You can not skip on training (its a must, at least once day for at least 1 hour is acceptable), you can not be lazy or make excuses for you not doing and living as it should be. You can't lax on rules, chores, submissive positions, and you cannot threaten punishment and not follow through, it makes you look weak. You must punish severely for every rule breaking, back talking or disobedience. He needs discipline, punishments, strict domination and submissive reinforcement, he needs to fear you, see and feel your power and for you to take it very serious. Because things done to him through training like humiliation, edging, taking away his ability to masturbate via chastity, denying him pussy and orgasms, will cause chemical changes in his brain. This is natural and necessary to bring out his true submission and chemically change his thinking process to what you want. This is very powerful to him as he is unable to control it or do anything about it, he is essentially powerless, making him feel weak and submissive as the chemicals build. This is because nature has programmed him to need to ejaculate into pussy, and to need release. After a certain point of being locked in chastity without sex or an orgasm, and his hormones are building up, he will not be able to deal with it, he will eventually become mouthy, disobedient, and rebel against you. He will try everything and anything to get pussy or at least an orgasm, including fighting, crying, or down right refusing to be your bitch (DO NOT GIVE IN, DO NOT GIVE HIM EITHER!!). This will happen UNLESS you are the strict, dominant, cruel, and sadistic bitch you need to be, with extreme humiliation and severe punishments from the start. He needs forced submission, strict training, strict discipline, and extreme unyielding punishments. I promise he will rebel at some point, he will try anything to get pussy or release if you are not the strict Mistress you need to be. It must be on your mind constantly, you must live the lifestyle, be the dominatrix, become it 24/7/365! 

So let's recap, you must become Mistress and sissy bitch from here out. This means you are not a couple anymore, not husband and wife, not friends and especially not equals. You have your place as his mistress and he has his as your sissy bitch servant. The love and commitment will always be there, but it will be there as its supposed to be, as Mistress and sissy bitch and it does not affect what you want, what you deserve, or your belief that you should rule and control him. It does not affect how things are meant to be and It will not affect your training of him, your punishments, or the way you live. You will not live as a couple, act as a couple, or talk and function as a couple, this is beneath you. Every thought you have, every action and decision you make, everything you do will be as HIS MISTRESS. His thoughts and actions will be of those that please you, to serve and obey you, to be your sissy bitch and you will train him that way. You must live it and keep him in the correct atmosphere so that he can thrive as the submissive sissy bitch you want and deserve. It is vital and imperative that you do not care about his feelings, his thoughts, or the pain he must endure to accept his permanent place. You will not care of his preference, his pleas, his misery or his tears. This is the way he needs it, how it must be, and what will make it easier for him to submit to you. You will not care that he is cuckolded, sexless, orgasmless, and permanently lock into chastity. You will not allow him input or questions. You will not care if he is uncomfortable, horny, bruised, angry, aggravated, upset or crying! In fact, you want it to be as hard on him as you can make it, you want it forced and for him to feel despair, but especially helpless to do anything about it, welted, bruised, and crying in order to break his will, accept his natural place and transform him into the sissy bitch you want and deserve. You want him helpless to resist, helpless to do anything about it, you want to break him and destroy his will, make him fear you, break him down to build the perfect obedient sissy bitch. When he does cry from lack of sex, edging, pain and torment, or from punishments, be more aggressive, strict and humiliating, show no mercy and explain that it will be this way from now on and he has no choice but to accept his place. He will start to accept it when he realizes he has no choice, but you must make him believe he has no choice. Once he does you will reprogram him to be the sissy bitch you want and deserve and you will see that not only will you be happier and have the best life and sex ever, he will also be extremely happy and never want to stop serving you. You will deeply satisfy him sexually in ways he never thought possible, through your sex (as it should be) through his submission to you and through the pleasure of your big cock and any cock that uses him. Soon you will shift his pussy whipped submission into a cock whipped submission. This has a greater advantage as a cuckolding Mistress with special perks.   

Start using your sadistic side, embrace it, and use it to unlock your power and his deep submission. You will find that once you free your mind and body, you will get turned on, excitement, and even pleasure from punishments and making him suffer for your enjoyment. This is how a SADISTIC mistress should be; A sadistic Mistress will always wear Dominatrix outfits during training and sometimes in the house when not training for full effect. She will wear a strap-on in the same manner, and force him to suck it periodically but especially prior to fucking him with it. She will always make him beg to get the privilege of her big cock. Always make him beg for the privilege to serve his mistress and force him to acknowledge it and accept it. She will humiliate him constantly about his puny clitty and make him acknowledge he doesn't deserve sex ever. She will humiliate him about how pathetic he is to be turned on by being her sissy and begging to sever her just to get her cock. She will make him ask for permission to speak, to move, to use the restroom, to eat or drink, make him him ask permission to do anything! She will make him eat and drink on all fours, out of dog dishes in his cage (labeled BITCH) or on the floor. She will walk him with a leash around the house and make him crawl on his hands and knees at all times, but especially to fetch things. She will keep him in a dog cage as necessary, but especially when out on dates, and on times he is not permitted to see or hear sex with her boyfriend or bull, and sometimes when the boyfriend or bull sleeps over night. She will make him use kitty litter in place of the restroom (kept inside his cage) and clean it out when needed. She will stand him in the corner of every store she shops in at the mall and make him do humiliating things in public like kneeling at her feet in rest areas or food courts at the mall. She will scold or humiliate him in public, make him wear a collar in public. She will return from dates with doggie bags or take home boxes of food that wasn't ate and dump it in his dog bowl for his dinner or make him go till morning to eat. On nights he is allowed to accompany her to dinner, she will order his food and drink for him and make him wait till he is home to eat it out of the dog bowls. He will walk behind her (and boyfriend) in public with his hands behind his back, he will also open all doors for her. She will take all free time away from him, no games, no nights out with the guys, no sports, nothing but serving her. She will keep him on his knees at all times possible, even in front of her boyfriend, until she is ready to put him to bed. Sometimes she will force him to sleep on the floor. He will always sleep on the floor when her boyfriend is staying over or sleep in his cage on nights she wants privacy. She will kneel him in the corner when she wants rid of him or his wandering eyes. he must knell in the corner or on all fours - face on the floor, when she will be undressed or naked. He is never allowed to look at her face unless ordered to do so. She will force him to worship her feet legs and ass, sometimes licking her asshole to orgasm as she uses a toy OR while being fucked by her boyfriend. 

She will force him to accept her boyfriend as the alpha male and serve her boyfriend on his knees. She will force him to call her boyfriend "Master or SIR" (whatever is approved by the BF). She will force him to orally pleasure the BF's cock to get it hard and ready while they make out or sometimes give a full blow job to please her boyfriend. She will cuckold him often and because the boyfriend is the alpha male (if he is into pegging your sissy) he will be forced to accept being used by the boyfriend and even finished inside of, then made to kneel over a plate and then clean up the cum after it runs out. She will use him in whatever way sexually to enhance their sex with no limits or rules to his use. She will punish him in front of her boyfriend (if the BF is okay with watching you bruise and welt his ass) then leave him tied up while they go make hot passionate love and return to force him to lick the cum in a humiliating manner. She will make him shave off all pubic hair (body hair if she desires it) make him wear panties 24/7/365, and make him wear lingerie and force him to wear maid outfits to clean. She will turn him completely sissy and force him to be used sexually. She will find him a bull or master to serve in front of her while she watches or send him off by himself while she stays the night with her boyfriend. She will find a girlfriend that will help humiliate him or help in training and use him for cleaning or whatever is needed. She will spit in his face and refuse him to clean it off or spit in his mouth. She will force him to do clean up duty in whatever way pleases her and make him clean up his own cum messes. She will smack his balls, smack his face and pull his hair at home or in public. She will make him suck dildos often, even in front of friends or her boyfriend. She will piss on his face or in his mouth and even occasionally force him to drink some of it. She will use him to lick her clean after she pisses in the bathroom, even at friends house. If he is not permitted anything to do with pussy, he must close his eyes during the entire time of cleaning up. She will place him in humiliating positions for her amusement: example-face on the floor ass in the air hold his ass spread to expose his pussy, or holding a dildo or butt plug inside his pussy. She will have a crop and cane handy at all times so she can spank his balls or ass solely for her amusement and to hear him yell or cry.  This is about you using your power, being cruel and sadistic to him, to emasculate him to destroy his ego, and his masculinity. You don't want a man, you want an obedient sissy bitch to serve and obey you. You must be dominant, strict, ruthless, and cruel to your submissive bitch at all times even after he breaks, and especially after training is completed. This is a must, a requirement, this is absolute and not a request or a preference, it is the way and the life of a true Dominatrix. To be successful you will have to take your place, and forcefully put him in his. To be successful you must punish and be unyielding with it. Your rules and orders must be followed and obeyed exactly the way you want them and you must punish severely for rule breaking, disobedience and back talking. You should be feared, worshiped, and obeyed! It is the only way to get what you want, what you deserve!

I know I've gone over things again and again and there is a lot of redundancy in this post, but I need you to understand just how crucial this is and I want this to soak into your mind to help you. You must treat him as you should 24/7, keep him in the proper atmosphere, and train him properly. You must break him, be sadistic, cruel, strict and dominating as this is what works and what forces him to realize his natural place as well as yours! You must punish for disobedience, rule breaking, and back talking every time! You must not care of his thought, feeling or allow him input or say so! You can not appear weak, uncertain, or forgiving. You must train him hard as often as possible! You must flirt and go out and meet new guys at least once a week until you have a full time BF or a few sex partners or both! You must have sex at least 3 to 4 times a week and take care of yourself, do what turns you on! You can not be shy, embarrassed, or hold back what you want, what you need to say, how you need to act, or what needs done!!! A submissive male will be truly submissive to a female that takes control and is extremely dominant to him, he will be helpless and can't resist her power or authority  especially if she is strict, cruel, and sadistic!!! Until part two....
 
                    

Simple facts for women who want to know

This is a list of facts and information from various scientist, analyst, sexual study organisations, and college research departments. The information is gathered on behalf of and from condom makers and designers, sex toy makers and designers, pharmaceutical companies, various colleges, sex therapy, government, independent research and studies for human sexual behavior.

The sex industry from toys to pornography has a combined annual revenue of over 20 billion in the US alone and is one of the most profitable industries in the world.

Female porn stars make an average salary of double or more than their male counterparts do.
 
Fact, women control sex....When, where and how much, if at all and men know this. As such most men work hard to improve their value, worth, or importance to females by a show of wealth or possessions, display of power, or simply by attraction/looks and sexual pleasure through being well endowed. Most men (the smart ones) also know that pleasing a women sexually and/or mentally means she is far more likely to grant them access to her pussy, most especially a returning visit. The smart women will use this to their advantage.

Women's bodies are genetically designed to attract males and influence their sexual needs and arousal level. We secrete various pheromones and hormones to achieve this goal. The main pheromone responsible for this and other controlling powers is called copulins. Copulins are very powerful and once absorbed by the male will chemically change his brain and thought process. These pheromones create a type of mind control effect, and puts the male brain and thinking process in a hazy state. This makes him susceptible to reconditioning and brainwashing. 
Here is legitimate research on how copulins infiltrate the male’s mind and body.
Fact, 87 % of heterosexual males who have had vaginal sex are addicted to it. That is to scientifically say,  they are addicted to the chemicals secreted by the vagina and absorbed through sexual contact as well as the chemicals released during orgasm. It is believed this number is not 100% because some gay men hide their sexual identity by heterosexual relationships or by being with women. These chemicals don't entirely effect gay men the same way as heterosexual males. However 100 % of these effected men state pussy is divine and mesmerizing, that there is nothing else like it, and nothing can compare to it. They explain that just seeing it or watching it is intoxicating (thanks to copulins) but while they are having sex nothing else in the world matters, and they can't live with out it. *Pussy chemicals are naturally designed to be addicting and research shows its one of the most addicting substances known.*

Some women produce more copulins then others, especially if she is ovulating or other conditions apply as follows. Generally the levels are higher in women that are sexually aroused and/or sexually active, especially in women with multiple sex partners.....Even if one of the partners is not granted direct access to sex (The husband or in our case the bitch). Copulins are at their highest level and work best during foreplay, sex, or even just sex acts.  *which is why they work so well on your bitch as he is restricted on pussy with no sexual relief *

Copulins are absorbed through the penis during sex, but are most commonly absorbed through smell. Generally the closer the male is to the pussy, the stronger the effect of the copulins, and the quicker the response. Compounded by the pussy being exposed or by thin coverings such as panties or yoga pants. 

More and more women are becoming sexually aware of their abilities to have better more thrilling sex, control their sex life (married or not), and use that power to better their life.
66% of Men fear women's sexual power and their ability to have greater pleasure. They fear women's sexual empowerment and liberation. As such they try to control women's sexual appetite, needs, desires, and interactions. They are against and intimidated by women experiencing better sexual satisfaction, through use of sex toys, better sexual partners, or same sex (girl on girl) play, as they fear loss of interest in them by the female, rejection, or replacement. *And they should fear it*

The number one selling dildo's are realistic 8 inches cocks with a girth of 6.5 inches.
Fact, Cock size and girth do matter to the vast majority of women, as high as 86 % and research shows most prefer a cock from 7.5 to 8.5 inches. 67 % of these women say that even though size matters, stamina and performance is important, the remaining 33 % says just size is enough to give great sex. While there are some women, few as they may be that like a smaller cock, even they have a minimal preference and the studies show that to be between 6 to 6.5 inches with less that 2 %  of females at 5.5 to 6 inches. 100% of all women state anything under 5.5 inches wouldn't please them sexually. 100 % of those females that prefer smaller cock, state stamina and performance greatly matters. Nearly all women, 97 % prefer a thicker cock over length.

Fact, 24 % of women have ended a relation ship due to inadequate penis size.

41 % of married women wish their mate had a larger penis and was better in bed. They stated that their mates penis size and ability to perform was insufficient to obtain a vaginal orgasm. They were only able to achieve orgasm through oral (clit licking) or sex toys.
33 % of women stated their mate had an acceptable penis size, but wish their mate was better in bed and had better stamina (lasted longer). These women stated they were able to orgasm at least half the time but the quality was not good. When they did orgasm it was very weak and they were the ones doing all the work to get it by grinding their clit against the mates pelvic bone to achieve it. They felt sex was more a chore than pleasure.
26 % of married women had mates with acceptable penis size or bigger with adequate performance and stamina. They stated sex was at least satisfying and some stated sex was very satisfying.

 61 % of women state the idea duration of sex to be between 30 to 40 minutes, 22 % state 40 minutes to one hour, 15 % state 20 to 30 minutes, 3 % state 10 to 20 minutes. 100 % of women said 1-9 minutes was inadequate and not worth the effort.

52 % of women state the idea amount of sex per week was 4-5 times, 11 % state over 5 times, 24 % stated 2-3 times per week, 7 % state 1-2 times, 6 % state as much as they can. 67 % of females state that if sex was better they would want it more often, 92 % of females state if sex was worse they would want it less often.

63 % of women wish their sex life could improve 24 % state their sex life is okay or acceptable, 13 % state they are having the best sex.

Fact, promiscuous women, are 26 times more likely to be sexually satisfied and have better sex. They also tend to have stronger and multiple orgasms, healthier, happier lives and report less stress. More so for the women who cuckold their mate.

64 % of all married women have at least one sex toy compared to 37 % of single women. This corresponds to single women having a better more fulfilled sex life through multiple partners and or alpha males. Large dildo's and g-spot style vibrators are the most popular sex toys among women with 8 inch cocks being top sellers.
35 % of married women hide their sex toys from the husband and/or use them away from him.

While there is no debate that a larger cock gives more orgasms and they are longer and more powerful than those of smaller or average sized cocks, however a 7 inch cock on the right sexually skilled alpha male can be extremely satisfying.

Fact, cock size also matters to men, almost more than it does women as they know women prefer larger over smaller. Cock size to them can be a status symbol, and confidence tool, or cause low selfesteem or perception of low worth to women, again because it matters to women. As such, studies and polls conducted in the past 20 years by men for average cock size (their conclusion is 5.3 inches) have been diminished or published falsely and inaccurately showing less than actual numbers and percentages. While the blame has been place on faulty studies groups, questioners, and different standards, women in today's research believe this is thought to keep those under average sized men from social, and emotional difficulties with women and peers. But worse, to make women believe that not being able to reach orgasm was their fault. They made it so that smaller cocks are acceptable by lowering average size from 6.5 inches. These same types of men use social or public shamming to suggest that women who enjoy sex, want better sex, or prefer bigger cocks are whores, sluts, size queens, or nymphos. To the contrary, uncorrupted or unbiased studies show that women were made for sex and enjoy sex even more than men. This concerns most men because it means that its harder to control women's appetite, desire for sex, or capacity for partners. Although in today's world more and more women are finding out they don't have to settle for dull or worthless sex, they don't have to choose between marriage and security or great sex, and they don't have to sacrifice their pleasure for a mans pleasure, ego, or confidence. Especially when paired with facts and evidence that prove women have the ability and sexual power to be married, loved, and even worshiped, yet still have the best sex with whom ever she wants as often as she wants through cuckolding and the small dick husband will be just as excited and sexually fulfilled through her sexual endeavors.

Studies show that under endowed men and/or domesticated men not only lack the necessary penis size and sexual prowess to actually pleasure a women in a way she needs to be fulfilled and sexually satisfied, but they also produce less testosterone then alpha men with larger cocks. Testosterone is the key hormone used for sex, sex drive, and penis functions. It also controls behavior like aggression and dominance, but insufficient production causes submissive behavior especially when paired to women with a dominant demeanor. Men with small penises also have fewer androgen receptors which process the testosterone, thus making him submissive by nature for lack of absorbing the hormone. When the lack of testosterone is paired with other key chemicals like over production of estrogen (estrogen also causes ED and penis shrinkage) among other hormones it drastically increases his submission. Although these mixtures of hormones, acids, and other brain chemicals can make a male feel submissive to aggressive or dominant females and some alpha males, it is small in comparison to when these hormones are mixed with the female pheromones like copulins which do control his brain and raise addiction levels.

Most males with smaller penises are more likely to be or have been at some point okay with their mate having sex with other men. Even with cheating or affair relationships that are ongoing where the husband accidentally finds out but finds himself submissive to the act and powerless to do anything but accept it, to the point he doesn't even confront her about it....As long as the wife loves him and stays committed to the relationship he will accept his role as the unwilling cuckold. Some access to pussy in what ever manner or rarity its granted is better than having no access.

Fact, Women are sexually drawn to and fantasize about alpha males but are more bonded to beta males. Most alpha males have a cock size of at least 6.5 inches but average around 7 or bigger and they are considered better lovers and sex partners by women. Not just because of their larger cock size but also because of there sex drive, stamina, attitude/confidence, and skills with regard to pleasuring women. While some can be great mates and partners, most are not ideal for long term or marriage because of their attributes such as being more self centered, arrogant, and controlling. They are also far more likely to cheat and tend to treat women as a possession to show off to their friends. They do however make great secondary partners such as lovers or boyfriends for cuckolding as the Dom already has vested love, security, and a reliable faithful commitment with her sub. The best of both worlds or having your cake and eating it too, as its often said.

Fact, most beta (beta means subservient) men have a cock size of average or less and are considered better long term partners and providers. They are preferred because they are more considerate and caring nature, plus stable, reliable, and faithful. They are also easier to domesticate, control, and mold into the perfect partner (which is subconsciously the number one thing women look for). They also have a strong commitment to family, and are naturally submissive to women. Beta males are also far more likely to forgive an affair and if cuckolded naturally become more submissive to the female and even the alpha male. Under the right circumstances he can be trained to obey the alpha male and more.
Note; while the beta male may be more likely to forgive cheating or an affair, he may not and in any case it would cause emotional instability.

The true average cock size is 6.5 inches, 6.47 to be exact, and  5.5 inches in girth. Nearly all cuckolds have a dick size under average. The average dick size of a cuckold is 5.75 inches inches.
4 % of all cuckolds have a dick the size of 6.5 to 7 inches, that's 4 out of every 100.

8 % of all cuckolds have a dick the size of 6 to 6.5 inches, that's 8 out of every 100. 
81 % of all cuckolds have a dicklet size of 5.5 to 6 inches, That's 81 out of every 100.

6 % of all cuckolds have a clitty size between 4.5 to 5.5, yes rare at 6 men of every 100.
.5 % of cuckolds have a clitty under 4.5 inches, very rare at 1 for every 200.
.5 % of cuckolds have a dick over 7 inches, also very rare at the same.
There is less than 1 out of every 20,000 cuckold/submissives with a cock 8 inches or more.
These cuckolds are beta males (usually unattractive) dominated by women who want the power and love sex with a variety of men.

90% of Dom's/Mistress cuckold their male slave or bitch, it is the main reason most do this lifestyle, the submission, obeying, service, and freedom to do as they please is just the bonus and effect of cuckolding. Although to do it correctly and yield long term cuckolding, you have to start with the submission and training.
83 % of Dom's and 100 % of Dom's who cuckold use a chastity device to prevent masturbation, and deepen submission, eventually most cuckolding Dom's will insist on long term chastity or permanently chastise the sub.
88 % of those Dom's completely stop having sex with their sub's and restrict or completely deny access to her pussy.
100 % or all of these Dom's use pegging as a replacement to sex with her and focus his pleasure and attention on craving cock to be sexually satisfied. While this is very humiliating and emasculating, he is helpless to resist it as the female hormones, chastity, lack of orgasm, and pleasure is more than enough to convert him.

Fact, brain washing and hypnotizing is real and it does work. 
Fact, punishments and humiliation are the best most effective way to train a male to obey, follow rules, and prevent future disobedience.

68 % of Dom's who peg eventually train him to become a sissy and 49 % of those eventually force the male to orally and anally please real cock.
100 % or all male bitches that are cuckolded become severely submissive the day of and the day after the dom's sex night. The more she fucks, the more submissive he becomes, the more submissive he becomes the more he begs her to cuckold him...A perfect cycle.
The number one turn on and humiliation for a cuckold is watching the dom have sex, even more so if made to participate or involved in the pleasure of the dom and her lover. With maximum humiliation if made to clean up the mess, especially in front of the lover.

39 % of all Dom's who cuckold eventually decide to keep a lover or boyfriend permanently to replace the bitch sexually, physically, and even intimately. This may take time for a particular lover to build to that point or the dom may be so turned on or attracted to the male that she elect him as her boyfriend after the first night of sex. Some doms start out dating with the intention to find a permanent replacement for their bitch. For all intensive purposes the boyfriends roll is that of any normal man-women relationship as it pertains to dating and sex and he has exclusive rights to her body and pussy. The boyfriend is also free to fuck the dom when ever he has the need or want for sex and with out condom (females are on birth control) . On average these doms have sex with their boyfriend 4 to 6 times a week, sometimes several times in one day. It is not uncommon for the dom to spend the night with the boyfriend a few times a month. Some Doms even do a weekend getaways a few times a year (with or with out the sub).
100 % of all cuckolds who have a Dom/Mistress with a full time or permanent boyfriend are very submissive, humiliated and feel helpless to resist serving her. They state they are not a man but a bitch who's purpose is serving their mistress. Almost all Dom's at a month or so of dating take pussy completely away and he is forbidden any access to it permanently. Listening to her have sex is a privilege and done a few times a month to humiliate the bitch. At the point she takes a permanent boyfriend he is completely reduced to a bitch, a sissy maid for chores and services, serving and obeying his mistress (and master if chosen).   

Fact, after 3-5 years of marriage, most men become domesticated because of the female pheromones, natural dominance of women, and submissiveness of men. A domesticated male looses stamina for sex, and the ability to maintain erection. A domesticated male eventually becomes non-sexually attractive to the female mate. She loves and wants a submissive male partner, but there is a difference between love and desire. She desires the passion, thrill, and excitement of being chased by single alpha males. She longs for the stimulating and erotic sexual pleasure of a bigger foreign cock thrusting into her, forcing her to orgasm over and over. She is absorbed by the arousing sexual tension that builds in between sexual encounters. She wishes she cold have both the love and support of her mate, and the sexual satisfaction of her lover from here out.   

Cheating usually refers to having sex with someone other than your mate for a one time or twice act and never again, although it can also reference having sex with several/many different partners at various times through out the relationship with your mate.
Having an affair refers to having an ongoing or committed sexual relationship with one partner, that is not your mate. Affairs are long term and usually last 6 month to a few years.
It is estimated that one in three men don't know they are raising at least one child from a cuckolding or cheating mate and 91 % of those men are not even aware of the mates infidelity.
Fact, 90 % of all cuckolding Dom's have cheated or had an affair at some point in their relationships, 76 % of those were with an ex-boyfriend, college friend, or lover.
50 % of all women in current marriages have or will cheat or have an affair .
90 % of Women who cheat do it for 2 reasons, one and most common is for better sexual experience, to experience the bigger cock size, passion, chase, and thrill of an alpha male and two because they like the person they become (free spirited, kinkier, outgoing, lively) when they are around the other man. The other 10 % of women that cheat, do it because of a failed, bad, or abusive marriage.
88 % of all women who cheat are in a functional, loving and caring marriage, with men they adore or have strong friendship ties with.

Mistress means Female master, the Latin equivalent to Domina. Mistress is also based on the french word Maistresse which means lover in one context but master in the other. Its the female name of Maistre which is the male word for master.

37 % of all married men have cheated or will cheat. 78 % of those men cheat with women that are kinkier, more controlling, or dominant than their wives especially in bed. The other 22 % cheated because of lack of sex at home or easy access to cheating sex. No man has ever cheated for tighter pussy, better pussy, or better sex as it relates to the pleasure of pussy, as opposed to most women who cheat for better sex, longer sex, and bigger cocks. These women that men cheated with are called mistresses and they were women who use the dominant side of sex to get what they want out of men. The term Mistress is coined because of the power or control these women had over men, the master of the heart or more properly stated, cock.

Studies and research show, men are chemically controlled to need release of built up sperm/semen. The higher the build up the more intense need for release. The number of partners and quality of partners makes no difference on the release or the quality of the release/orgasm. All men orgasm easily through vaginal sensation (unless of other factors like health or drugs and alcohol) and all men relatively orgasm the same and in the same manner through vaginal stimulation. Unlike women who require adequate size, performance and stamina which impact the quality of their orgasm. Studies also show the only reason men orgasm is to expel the semen through muscle contractions via the orgasm. They also show that while men experience pleasure through the sex act itself, the majority of pleasure comes from said orgasm, this is to ensure the maximum release of semen.

All men masturbate, especially with out the ability to have sex. They must in order to relieve the intense urge to have sex, which at some point becomes painful or achy, also known as blue balls.

Fact, 87 % of men would be happier, and content with regular or frequent sex, it is the consistency or frequency that matters, not the number of partners it comes from. In fact, most men report they prefer sex with the same female because the "burden or responsibility" of having to preform and please the female is so great.

Fact, Other than bad smell, 99 % of men state they have never felt or had, bad or loose pussy. The majority of men state that for the most part all pussy feels the same with the only difference being tightness or wetness, some tighter or wetter than others. None stated that was factor in orgasm quality. 

Fact, Women have the only organ made for specifically for sex and pleasure, called the clitoris. Research shows that women have as many as 4 times the amount of nerve endings through out the genital and 4 pleasure zones compared to one with a male. Women also processed pleasure differently in the brain with higher brain activity then men. This shows that women were designed for sex and pleasure. Women also experience intense pleasure during the entire time of sex with the greatest pleasure coming from the orgasm which studies show they are capable of feeling/have whole body orgasms compared to men with a focus around the pelvic region to produce greater thrusting and ejaculate. They also found that women experience sex on a higher level than men and that the size of the penis and quality of the sex relates to the amount of pleasure they feel with the intensity and length of the orgasm. Unlike men, women do not orgasm for procreation or breeding purpose, they do so to feel pleasure, their reward for having sex and this is why it is in the best interest for women to have the best sex partner they can. Women are biologically programmed to need different and multiple partner to achieve the best pleasure and thus the better chance for more sperm to produce more offspring/babies.   
Fact,  82 % of women are happier or would be happier with a variety of sex and sexual experiences. They are more aroused or turned on by the thrill of the chase and having multiple men want them. Women want/prefer multiple partners to experience different techniques/styles, shapes and sizes to achieve the best and most intense sex. In fact most women report that they would have an affair with a better looking more endowed man if they knew their husband or mate would not be hurt or possibly if there was no way he would ever find out.     

Fact, No sub, bitch, sissy or any other type submissive has ever cheated on his Dom, master, or mistress. Most submissive males fear pussy, respect it, and idolize it. They long to worship it and consider it to be sacred, they are the true definition of pussy whipped.   

Fact, Women produce pheromones in her pussy called "copulins". These pheromones are used to control and brainwash men. Most women don't know they exist, the ones who do or at least know the power of the "pussy" use them to their advantage (examples; Dom's, and dominant wives, strippers, some women CEO's) They can be absorbed through the urethra opening during sex or inhaled when in close proximity, the amount absorbed is greater the longer the male is still (with out motion) inside the vagina. The amount inhaled is greater the closer the male is to the vagina, with the most during oral or face contact. They are highly addictive and when males are exposed to them they cause his arousal state to heighten drastically depending on the amount absorbed. The effect they have and duration they last on males depends on the amount the male absorbs, and the length of time since his last orgasm, the longer its been the more effect they have. Prolonged and repeater contact has the longest effect time and this exposure over the course of months and years (varies with each male) causes a state called Domesticated male (a submissive and controllable male who looses his manhood and fears repercussions from his mate, also termed pussy whipped). The pheromones are strongest and last longer with males not permitted to orgasm, especially long term denial. With the use of and under the control of copulins women can;
1. Change or remove memories, and even insert false memories
2. Alter the males reality of what he see's, hear's, feel's, taste's, to what she wants him to believe.
3. Insert subconscious thoughts and behavior that will he will believe is his own and normal.
4. plant trigger words or actions that can cause thoughts, actions, or sensations in the male at later dates. (day, weeks, and even months later) 


All men can be controlled through their penis to some degree or another, especially with the right female, 68 % of these men can become very submissive under the correct training. 51 % of those men can become very submissive, and trained to obey without question.