Cock Size/ Pussy Technique

Cock size is very important and can even out weigh physical looks of a possible lover. More often then not, your average looking male will have a larger and or thicker cock than that of the better looking male (nature had to find some way of passing on his genes). Cocks comes in all shapes, bends, and sizes and each can give its own feeling and intensity of orgasm, and every male has a different technique/style of fucking. So a male with an average size cock could please you just as good as one with a larger cock. However the general rule is the thicker the better, thicker even being better than length. The best cocks are the ones with thickness and length, and once you have fucked just one big-thick cock, you will never feel the same way about a smaller less than average size cock. The orgasms you get from fucking one are so intense and long that you will never forget fucking that cock and most likely lose all interest in the smaller undersized ones. Fact is, once you have fucked a lover with a big and thick cock a few times, you'll find yourself thinking about his cock several times a day and with great anticipation of the next time you'll get to fuck him again. I have said it before in other post, its better to have a lover with less attractive looks but with a thick cock then it is to have a hot looking lover with an average or less cock size. I know attraction is important for some women but your not fucking his face and your just using him for his cock anyway. There is plenty of time to find a hot well hung lover down the road, the key now is to find 3 or 4 well endowed males to fuck you then look to move up.

I get questions  all the time  "how do you know if a man has a big thick cock?" or "Do black guys have bigger cocks?" Well the truth is there is no sure way to tell, but usually guys with big hands or big feet have thicker cocks than average. While I have fucked more than my share of guys, I've really not found that black guys have bigger cocks, (the biggest and thickest cock I've fucked was that of a white guy) but what I have found is that its more common for black guys to have bigger cocks then white guys, so your more likely to find a big cock on a black guy then a white one....which is why the majority of the guys I fuck are black (the odds are better i'm getting a larger than averge cock) and once I find a lover with a thick cock (black or white), I keep on to him. I never cancel a date/fuck night, I go more out of my way to please him, and I make sure he knows my pussy belongs to him in front of my PS as I found that it really turns on my lovers.

The benefit to cuckolding your PS is that you get experience new cocks, orgasms, and pure excitement. You get to fuck who you want, when you want, where you want. You get to experience the best and most erotic sex that you'll ever have, orgasms that you could never believe you could have, ones that you PS could never give you and when your start getting them, will never want to give them up. With this said, enjoy yourself....Don't focus on looks by them self, take the whole package into consideration. Yeah he's average looking, but he has a great personality, a thick cock, and he really knows how to help me put my PS in his proper place! Like I said you can always find better looking to add to your list of lovers.



PUSSY TECHNIQUE

Your pussy is also capable of giving your lovers intense feeling and orgasms. Just the very feeling of sliding your pussy down on mosts cock can be enough to get him off (yet another reason you probably don't want to fuck your PS) Your lover will have staying power and size to give you the orgasms you deserve and your pussy will give him a hormone rush that will be addicting as some of the most addictive drugs. Any average or above average sized cock will find your pussy very tight and smooth (all pussy are normally the size of a pencil and stretches to accommodate the cock size, the bigger the cock the more your pussy stretches and tightens around his cock) But there are ways to tighten your pussy naturally. One of the best and less active ways is simply to have sex, just by having sex your pussy shrinks and stretches by the in and out motion of getting fucked (by at least an average size cock) and this promotes elastic virginal walls, also when you get off your pussy mussels contract this over time of frequent fucking your pussy tightens. A more physical way and to use in conjunction with getting fucked often, is to use Ben wall balls or Kegals Just insert them and walk around with them for an hour or so. But probably the most physical and most effective is the weighted bar bell, designed to slide in the vagina (while a portion, the weighting part is still exposed) and you use your pussy muscle to hold it inside your pussy while gravity tries to pull it out which builds your pussy muscle and promotes a tighter pussy. Keeping your pussy tight, and working it out regularly will also benifit you as well because it will help make orgasms stronger.
A good technique to give an extra tight feeling to your lover (even driving him crazy) and to even increase your orgasm intensity is to tighten your pussy muscles as he is sliding his cock in and re-tighten it on every in stroke of him fucking you, but if this is difficult or uncomfortable because of his size try squeezing your pussy muscles on every out stroke of him fucking you. So on either (one or the other) in-stroke or out-strok tighten your pussy muscles as your getting fucked and watch the sparks fly!

Remember as I said before, having sex is healthy, it helps your body create natural hormones and vitamins, builds and strengthens your bodies cardio system, firms your breast and tightens your pussy, and help regulate hormones and chemicals that cause depression, insomnia, fatigue (lack of energy), and several other things. Enjoy it and use it to the fullest!

**punishment

I wanted to write a little bit about punishments. After talking with some girlfriends in the life style I wanted to share some things with my readers that i shared with them.

So some of you may be wondering what is the limit of punishment, whats to much? When should I punish and for how long? Well as with anything i say in this lifestyle, EXPLORE find his breaking point and push past that! For best results you should punish him at the time of his disobedience if at all possible, or at the next possible time. Really there should be no limit on how long or how often you punish your pussy slave, however the severity (how hard you hit) should be enough that he is yelping or moaning fairly loud with each hit. It should be hard enough to push his limits, and he should after a few miniutes of punishment be yelping and moaning loudly and begging for you to stop. I will say that you should always keep his physical safety in mind when giving out punishments. Meaning and only limited to making sure it will not cause permanent damage but be aggressive and demanding, be humiliating towards him.  I also want to stress the fact that how strict you are and how hard you push the boundaries or severity of his punishments will determine his fearfulness of you, respect, obedience and the speed at which he trains. If he is not yelping or even begging you to stop, your not pushing hard enough or gone long enough with his punishment. It is the dominatrix who are ruthless, humiliating, and strict that are feared and Obed the most! And as I've said before, you know what you want, you know what pleases you, shouldn't you be willing to do what it takes to get what you deserve and to get the servitude of a very submissive PS, how far are you willing to go? If you have been the strict, demanding, and humiliating bitch at any time prior to reading this, then you have seen the difference in his obedience to you then from when you not how you should be. How far are you willing to go?

His ass is fairly resilient and can handle any type of tool and punishment using aggressive swings and force. If in a training session you should mix up the swats to his ass from mild when talking to him then hard when getting a point understood. His cock and balls, are more sensitive and require less harshness to get the point across. When slapping or squeezing his balls don't do it hard enough to rupture one of them. Keep in mind that cat tails or crops, even if used firmly (as they are suppose to be) will not do any long lasting damage, hit his balls with firm but short strokes. Also the position of his balls when hitting them can cause different kinds of pain. If smacking them while he is on his back, its a variance of pain and combine with you standing up straddling his chest so he can see the out line of your pussy and ass(with thongs on) its also a mental submission. But best result is when he is bent over, legs spread allowing his balls to hang away from his body(you may have to pull on them a bit to get them to drop or get a chainless ball stretcher). bending him over is a much more pin point pain that is sharper and intense. Regardless of how you punish his balls, remember to switch it up so that he doesn't know what to expect and feels the wide range of pain you are capable of giving if he doesn't obey. On his ass; welts, redness and even bruising are what to strive for, light abrasions are even tolerated......They may even be needed or warranted for getting the point across. Its not easy to damage his ass and you can't be to scared to welt it up or hurt it. If he complains that your hitting to hard or getting mouthy, put the ball gag in and smack his ass into submission only stopping if he is begging you to and you feel like it. Make sure before you stop that he understands you are the boss and he will obey and he repeats this to you, but you decide when he has had enough. On his cock and balls; redness and light welts are what to strive for. Also as I've stated before when training or giving out punishments, make sure his ropes and chains are pulled tight. Give him as little room as possible to squirm or move, this creates a helpless feeling, setting his mood for submission and keeps him from getting out or moving to block or lighten punishments.




Punishments should be given out for every infraction, and should always be given out the same day and if at all possible at the time the infraction occurred. Punishments can range from loss of privileges or simple corner time (naked with the full get up, on just like in the photo,  just actually knelling in the corner. 10 minutes is enough and the required length of time but no less) all the way to corporal punishments like spankings, nipple and ball touchier or ball stretching.


Basically when giving out corporal or touchier punishments judge how much he can possibly take (do this by how much and how loud he is yelping, if its light or no sounds, your not even close) then push it 25 percent or more past that. Example; He is told to shut his mouth and does not. Then you should spank his ass until he is begging you to stop then put the ball gag in to cover his yelping and spank another 5 or 10 times. Same with smacking his balls. This should be enough to get his attention, letting him know your the boss, your rules are to be obeyed and you are serious.  And if the same rule is broken 2 times in the same day there should be a set punishment. Example; Spanking as described above, knell in the corner (with full props) for 10 min, and a loss of privilege for the rest of the night.

Also learn to use all of your tools in his punishments, as in the blind fold, ball stretcher, ball gag, clamps, whips and crops....everything you have. Meaning there is no such thing as to much. You should also combine punishments for multiple infractions. If he brakes 2 or 3 rules, give him 2 or 3 punishments.

Use your mind to come up with punishments to use and be creative, but be harsh and strict while doing them. Don't forget to scold or humiliate him when doing them as well! Take a look at the pictures below on ways to use your creativeness and if anything search the INTERNET for ideas. If your PS is handy with tools he could make furniture or devices for you to use, maybe even help you come up with some of his own.

















Change things up a bit and remember you can also use things he now derives pleasure from against him. One of the things i do on occasion (just to change things up a bit) even if not being punished is place him in the corner (either knelling or sitting in a special chair that the back folds down) with his full get up on, when my lover comes over. He is only permitted to hear us fucking We fuck until my lover cums the first time and i lay down his chair back or lay him back squatting over his face making him clean up the mess while i suck my lovers cock hard again. Of course I take off the blind fold so as he is doing his duty he can watch me suck my loves cock. Note; It is the sound of your moans and screams that get him excited and turned on, it is the sight of watching your loves bigger cock fuck you while you moan and scream that humiliates him. So keep this in mind and keep this scene to a minimum, putting him in the corner is a sensory change and a way to enforce that he never knows what could happen to him next.

Another thing I like to do is put my PS in a GATES OF HELL device, that way as he is watching my lover fuck me and he is getting hard, the gates device restricts his hard on causing a pain full pressure where the steel rings are. here is a link to a pic of one; http://www.lockeduplove.net/otherchastity
All three on this page are gates of hell, the top is described as a Chastity but it is just a locking gates device, of the other 2 one is also a locking (better locking one) and one is just a normal one. there are several types of these and they can be found in most sex store or on line store.

This idea is more of a training idea than a punishment but its fun for you and humiliating for him.
Buy yourself a double ended dildo (if you don't have one) and the next time you train him, tie him down to the bed, get him really excited/horny. pull his legs up to or by his hands and tie them there. (His ass should be in the air) Now lube up one end of the dildo and slid it in his ass, then turn around facing away from him (on your hands and knees) reach between your legs and slide the other end of the dildo in your pussy or ass and start fucking! You get to get orgasm and he gets to squeeze his ass mussels to hold the dildo in place for you with a sever punishment if he fails. Adding to his humiliation, if he is a PS allowed to see your pussy, put a blind fold on him.

What ever punishments you give him or when ever you train him. always remember to keep his ropes/chains tight, he yelps with ever hit, push him to break and be fearful of you, be DOMINATING- harsh, strict, bitchfull, aggressive, demanding, degrading and above all, be as humiliating as you can.
He needs this from you just as much as you need and should give it to him.

Other ideals and punishments coming soon......

**Position, rules, and Servitude/Chores

                                                                  RULES & CHORES

Position is very important for both the mistress and the Sub as it sets the place of both. Position is also a physical tool to use on the Sub and will aid in the training process and continued submission of the male after training. Keeping him in his proper place reinforces her control over him and is a constant reminder that his place is to serve and obey his mistress, without question.

The Mistress is the hierarchy, meaning she is in complete control, she is the boss and the only authority in the relationship. For that reason her position is always on top of the submissive. She should be standing or sitting while the submissive male is always kneeling. She should at several times through the day make her sub acknowledge his place, beg for it, and show his gratitude for allowing him that privilege by making him lick, suck, kiss and worship her feet, toes and ass. Her word and rules are law, and should always be obeyed with great humbleness and submission from her sub. She will not accept anything less, nor will she accept anything less than complete respect from her sub. She will always punish severely for any disobedience including disrespect, rule breaking, failing to complete orders/chores, back talk and questioning his mistress.  She should never ask for something to be done, She give commands and orders, in a firm demanding voice. She never accepts back talk or input from her sub, and does not allow herself to be questioned. She is always addressed as mistress, ma'am, madam, or master. She should come and go as she pleases. She is the owner of her sub, he is her property, he is and will always be her bitch. Her bitch is not a man, let aloner her equal, and she does not communicate with her bitch like she would a man. This means limited conversation, only need to and must have communications for needed purposes. He is and does exactly what her purpose for him is, and his only purpose is to hand over pay, serve, obey, and please his Mistress to the best of his ability. She will deny him sex and all access to her body saving it only for her lovers or boyfriends. She will work towards permanent chastity and sissifying her sub. She will not be shy or timid about her rules, demands, what she wants from him, or expects him to do, including sex or sexual interactions with her and other males. She does what she pleases, if it turns her on, she is amused, for humiliation purposes or just because she wants it done, she will give the orders to make it happen and then see that it does. She will again, punish severely for failure to obey (even in front of other males or females who know of the situation). She will train him to be a sissy, to forget about his clitty dick, and focus all his energy on pleasing her and others she demands. She will also train him to derive pleasure from his pussy/anus and tease and humiliate him about that fact. She will be ruthless, domineering, aggressive, demanding and especially humiliating at all times to keep him in his proper place and enforce her rule over him. She will not care of his thoughts or feelings on matters, or care about how much pain and agony he is in. She will carry herself as a Mistress, getting hair and nails done, shopping, flirting with real men, including fucking and dating. She will also keep her body in good physical shape by going to the gym regularly, and tanning.

The Submissive is just that, he is the server of the mistress and he obeys all orders, rules, and commands. He will be taught that she is inferior to him in every way, that she is the authority and he is the bitch, that this is the natural way, and his true purpose. She does not want him as a man, or for sex, she wants and deserves real men for that purpose. Her only use for him is serving and pleasing her in any manner she chooses. For that reason he is always on the bottom of the mistress and her bulls/lovers. He must ask for permission to do everything including except chores, and take his place at the bottom by kneeling naked at her feet at all times. He must especially be there when asking permissions, serving drinks or food. Proper kneeling is where he is up on his knee's, legs slightly spread, and hands behind his back and his eyes either facing down toward the floor or at his mistresses crotch level. This position is called "Knell or Place" and he will be taught that when you say that one word he immediately gets undressed if not already and takes that position. He should be in the "knell" position and naked, at all times or as much as possible and only allowed to sit- his ass on his legs/heels (like a kneeling sitting position legs spread apart) when you say the word "ease" or if you give permission when he asks to "Ease". Ease is the word you will teach him and use that means he can relax to a semi-relaxed submissive state. But his proper place to ask his mistress for permissions, address his mistress, beg, or to worship his mistresses ass is in the "Knell" position.  Another position is on all four's like a dog, legs spread apart head down towards the floor. This position is called "Heel" and you could use this position to scold him or to let him relax (he is never to sit on his ass) for a change of positions, or to use him as a foot rest or stool, or just before your make him worship your feet. the other position is called the "Submit" This is a favorite among Mistresses, used on him for when he is begging, humiliation, worshiping your feet, a quick spanking or just because you want to see him humbled and in place and its basicly the same as  Heel/ dog position only his face is on the floor and arms are in front of him like he is diving into water, palms flat on the floor but close to his face. The sub must be taught/trained that his only purpose is to serve and please his mistress and never to expect anything in return. His reward is privilege of serving his Mistress or what ever else she may deem fit (never allow pussy or orgasms through his penis). The sub should ALWAYS be treated as the sub and never allowed input of any kind. He should be talked to like a bitch, treated like a bitch, and addressed as a bitch, or another sub name you give. He will be punished severely for any rule breaking, back talking, or failure to please his mistress. He will always wear a chastity device and keep it cleaned daily as well as all pubic hair removed/shaved. Conversation with him will be limited to only necessary replies, and command words will be used as much as possible. The Mistress should design her own words as well.

The mistress should either be standing (best is possible) or sitting with the submissive full kneeling at her feet and his head/eyes focused on the floor, hands behind his back when she gives him a command/order to follow. She will teach him that this is his full time place when not doing chores or obeying his mistress.

He should spend all of his time that he is not doing chores, kneeling at his mistresses feet or beside the bed/chair and just because he asks for permission to ease, heel, or enter the bed does not mean that she should grant it, permission should be when she is ready to grant it. This is the perfect time to use her female powers of seduction, and body display.

If he is to ask permission to serve his mistress or worship her ass/feet it should be done while he is in his proper position "knell" or "submit" and he must ask/beg for that privilege.

CHORES
He should be given chores that are simple enough for him to do successfully, or taught how to do the hard ones. Load the dish washer, carry down laundry, vacuum, wipe off counters, walls, sweep the floors, clean up dinner, clean up after his mistress, open the doors for her, clean the bathroom, or anything else you need that he can do simple enough. Cooking is always a hard task for men.

You should make a chore list and break it down to things done daily, weekly and monthly, and you should never do any of his chores unless he is ill, or for some work/family reason unable to fulfill his duty. Also if you chose the option to fuck your lovers out of sight or away (at your lovers house) from your PS, you should give him chores (Typically washing panties) to do while you are gone.

Remember, his place is to serve you and yours is to command. Try to keep talking casually with him to a minimum, especially after a training sessions or punishments. Make sure he asks for permission to do every thing, even speak. Never argue or fight, this will kill built up horniness and submission.

Rules
1. Always address me as mistress (or whatever you prefer) 
2. Always ask for permission to do anything and everything, including chores and bathroom.
3. Always kneel at all times, NAKED if possible. especially to ask for permissions or beg.
4. Keep pubic hair shaved to mistress's specifications (most do completely bald)
5. Always show submission, at all times. (example opening all doors, letting the mistress order food)
6. Never back talk or ask me any questions, it is not your concern or your business.
7. Never ask for pussy or anything to do with it.
8. Obey all orders on command without hesitation.
9. Get all daily chores done.
10. Respect and serve me to the best of your ability, including lovers/boyfriends or friends.
11. Never touch me or my property (tiny clit dick included)
12. Always address yourself as bitch, sissy, or the mistress property (your choice)

Remember your place, KEEP him in his!

**Milking**

Because forced chastity has become so popular I wanted to post on the proper way to milk your PS.

“Prostate milking” is a term commonly used to refer to the erotic, recreational (i.e. not for medical purposes), non-orgasmic variant of prostate massage, especially between people of the BDSM-ish persuasion who incorporate elements of orgasm control and/or chastity into their partnerships.

Strong pulsating muscle contractions during ejaculation are a primary source of male pleasure during orgasm. Using prostate massage to drain the build up of fluids from his prostate, but without triggering forceful orgasmic muscle contractions, is what is called “prostate milking”, or simply “milking”.

If you are one of the lucky girls that force your PS to wear a chastity, its a must to do a cleaning of his ducts once every 10 days. This cleans out the build up that can cause problems with his prostate and duct work. By its very nature, forced chastity is related to and in conjunction with orgasm denial and this causes the build up of seminal fluids that really needs to be discharged to keep him from having urinary tract infections or other possible complications. The best way to do this and promote a healthy system for him is prostate milking.

The procedure is not complicated and really requires little effort from you. It should be worked into a training session as the sexual energy is already at its highest at that point. Milking with your index and/or middle finger (both fingers) works better than with a milking tool however some dominants use milking tools, (you will have to see what works best for your PS and gets the job done) Fingers can give a better feel and control plus a more direct feel, but a device may work faster. In all the process could take anywhere from 15 minutes to 45 minutes depending on your experience and his build up.

First;  After you have obtained a high level horniness you need to put him into position for milking (or have him in this position at the start of raising his horniness level).The best position for most men is with his ass in the air and legs spread or bent over a bed, table or other prop letting his balls hang and giving you the best access to his arias, however some men its easier with him on his back and feet in stirrups/chains. REGARDLESS OF THE POSITION HE MUST BE TIED DOWN!

Second;  Start stroking and sucking his cock to get it good and hard, then lube up a milking tool/finger and insert it slowly into his ass while still stroking his cock. Work it in and out slowly giving his sphincter mussel time to adapt to the toys size (especially if he does not receive dildo play). Once you have reached the point that his sphincter has relaxed you may pick up a bit of speed sliding the massager in and out, not to fast just a steady comfortable pace.

Third;  Up till now you have been stroking and sucking his cock at the same time you are working the massager in and out, but its time to give his cock a break and only work the tool/finger in and out for a bit. By now he should have pre-cum dripping pretty well (and begging for sex). Now go back to stroking and sucking his cock while working the tool/finger in and out. Keep doing this off and on till you notice his semen discharge has increased. The point will eventually (time varies with every PS) come where semen is seeping out fairly steadily.

Fourth;  Now the sensation has increased so that fluid is flowing and his prostate is ready for drainage. Keep working both his cock and prostate together, once you feel his muscles start to clench and spasm (you will want to make him inform you to let you know when he is about to orgasm) STOP STROKING HIS COCK, and keep stroking his prostate. The orgasm will not happen but the prostate will open letting out mild spurts of semen/cum. ORGASM FREE! Keep in mind that even though he didn't reach climax/orgasm he will not be quite as horny because the release will alter the chemicals built up in his brain . However, with a little secession by the next day he will back to misery.

The milking is now complete. All you need to do now is make him lick up the mess.
As I said your fingers might work better than a tool/toy but if its not for you or you and your PS prefers toys then try out a few.

Milking devices are sold at most sex stores or on line sites. I have found that Mens sex toys/ Gay men toy sites carry a wider range of product and usually at cheaper prices. I recommend these;  Silicone P. E. vibe royal ( any P. E vibe), Mens pleasure wand, P rock prostate message, Dr Joel 5 function prostate stimulator (any Dr Joel massager), and the nexus 3.15 G play-collection.

**ON THE "REAL" and serious side of the cuckolding lifestyle

OK, now for the TALK.... I know most of you girls are serious about this lifestyle, and just as excited to start it or take it to the next level of cuckolding or sissy training, as you should be because I know you will never be happier and neither will he! But let me discuss something serious about your relationship and you significant other. Let me start by saying that if YOU DO NOT TRULY LOVE YOUR PARTNER, THEN THIS PART OF THE LIFESTYLE SHOULD NOT BE AN OPTION FOR YOU! (This is unless your relationship was founded with the agreement that he would always be just a cuckold). If you can not tell the difference between good, hot, passionate, sex verses being in love OR if your one to fall in love with someone over something as simple as great sex, DON'T step through the cuckolding door!!

The cuckolding part of being a dominatrix is a serious step and door to open. It is meant for your pleasure, his humiliation, and a tool to get obedience and submission. You and your hubby have a life together and probably even children. You have a serious commitment to each other, this should always remain in your heart and your mind. Trust is involved, even though you have the power and he has no choice in the matter, he still trust that you can play sexually and still be his partner. You need to keep your heart separate from your sex, keep it as its meant to be, hot, mind blowing sex and only sex!

This part of playing should always be "PLAYING" never serious and never intimate! You should never treat the relationship with your boyfriend or lover for anymore than it is, he is just a person that you have sex with, even if you are dating him... its just SEX and you need to remember this and if you feel like the lover or boyfriend is mixing the lines then you need to make it clear or stop seeing him. If you choose to date this person, it should only be for the PASSION and AURA of it, with the added humiliation to help subjugate your bitch. Sure its OK to be interested or attracted to someone else, this is human nature and that's the beauty of cuckolding, you get to live out your desire/fantasy, you get to fuck the people/person that turns you on. You get to experience the best sex and orgasms you've ever had, plus have fun flirting with men and getting hit on. However it is possible to blur the lines of what is real and what was fantasy. Its easy to be mislead by other people, and its easy to think you love or may be falling for someone other than your partner. The true thing is, this is not love, its just great sex, even if its passionate or making love to your boyfriend, ITS JUST SEX!  The truth is, its cheating on your hubby if you want to see where it goes or if you start to see yourself in a real relationship with your boyfriend and you think its headed that. At this point its time to stop seeing him, period!

 It is YOUR responsibility to keep your sex life and your love life separate. It is you as the person in charge and with the power, to STOP any relationship that you feel is going past the point of "JUST SEX".

With all that said, Lets talk about what Cuckolding is really about and how it should be used.
First off, While sex and cuckolding is for you and your pleasure, its also a strong tool to use on him for humiliation and something that he may even eventually get pleasure from, especially on the occasion's that he is allowed to watch, even with humiliation playing a big part of the experience. Cuckolding should have you excited but when done the right way should also excite him, maybe not in the same way or as much as you, but as this may be the only time he gets to see your pussy, and/or get to lick it by cleaning it out, and just simply because sex of any kind is more than he's getting now. The correct way to include cuckolding into your life is to include your partner. There are several ways to do this you can even find ways on your own; one is when you will go on a  fuck date return with the PS in his proper place. He would then be tied down and his tiny cock would be brought hard, then you will tell your PS all about the night, not leaving out any part. Another way would be to allow him to watch or even participate in some manner (all discussed in other parts of my blog), He may even be made to get you dressed, take you out to buy a new outfit for your lover/boyfriend, and/or he could simply be allowed to listen blind folded or via phone while you get pleased by your lover/boyfriend.

However you choose to incorporate cuckolding in your new role as his mistress, remember sex is for your pleasure and you should only do what pleases you, but keep your love separate from your sex and involve your bitch in some way or another. Enjoy!!!

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Appearance and attitude

Appearance is important all around, it has great benefit for you to look your best and dress sexy. It helps on building your self esteem, personality, happiness, and your attitude. It helps you get attraction from men and /or your lover/s, they can't resist a sexy women and it turns them on knowing your looking hot for them. Wear sexy panties/bra sets and lingerie for your boyfriends and lovers. It helps with the humiliation of your PS because he's the one paying for it all, he knows its not done for him, and he also can't resist a sexy mistress. He also can't help but submit to a confident, demanding, sexually charged mistress. Its also a good idea to dress the part for your submissive, find out what dress attire turns him on and use that against him.

You should always dress sexy when going out of the house, you never know what hot guy you will meet or checking you out and just might become one of your lovers. Get your nails done, your hair done, eye brows done, buy hot and sexy outfits, make up, and tan yourself....Its your job to be sexy, so look and dress the part!

Have fun and use your sexiness- flaunt you hot ass, flirt with hot guys and enjoy yourself!

Cuckolding and Your lover/Bull's role

Cuckolding is very EROTIC and HOT Topic that many women have asked me about. Both experienced and non-experienced women have questions of all sorts. I want to share this with all of you here on my Blog.

What's all the rave? Well, its no wonder why cuckolding is one of the fastest growing lifestyles both in the BDSM community and even in vanilla relationships. Most often in the vanilla life the female is fucking other men behind his back or he may even know about the extramarital sex but his natural submissiveness makes him powerless to do anything about it. The other way women have been taking advantage of better sex is the swinging lifestyle. There she has a little more freedom to fuck other men without the problems of cheating. Most of the time the female is the only one who plays and this gives the husband a taste of humility and a dip into cuckolding. However the dominatrix has all the benefits and the best sex as she will fuck her lover right in front of her PS while degrading him about his small penis size. This act builds her power and she uses this power and sexual freedom to deepen his submission, humiliate him, and drive his horniness level off the chart. Unlike the vanilla female who has an affair because of his lack of manhood, ability to use it, or premature ejaculation and hides it, or hotwife (swinging lifestyle) that may get the occasional fuck by whom ever is at the meet that night, the cuckholdress has no problem flaunting the relationship with her Boyfriend/ lovers/bull. She makes the rules and fucks who she wants when she wants and she is begged to do it. She humiliates her hubby about how much bigger cocks they have than his, and how their ability to please her is far better than he ever could. Fact of the matter, she is turned on by all of it and his humiliation and submission only fuels her hunger for power, and the more she does it the more submissive he becomes, and the more he begs her to do it....Its the perfect cycle!

Still, Cuckolding offers things to all the types of women, however for the cuckoldress it offers far more!  For the vanilla female it offers a better sex life, more excitement, an increased sex drive, and higher self esteem. The draw backs are she could get caught, and endanger the relationship, the sex is sporadic, and she may even end up having sex with both partners the same night, her lover and Husband. Which may or may not be a problem, but when you've been fucked really good by your lover you really don't want sex with your husband, but you probably already know this. This could lead to a chance of getting caught through smell (sex has a certain smell) of course you could turn him down if he would be ok with that but to many times of turning him down for sex, will cause arguments and he may start to question you and your away activities. This can also eventually create problems in the marriage and may even lead to him having an affair. 

The Hotwife gets a little better but she is limited by who shows up for the meets, plus most Hotwifes are reluctant to really let go in front of their husband and enjoy the better sex for fear of hurting feelings. She is also having sex for his pleasure, which is not so much of a bad thing but this puts her as more of a performer playing a role in the act. The other downsides is the husband is an active participant that limits how much sex she has and/or the types of guys she fucks because of jealousy (unfortunately the opposite race is out most of the time). Which only compounds as the wife naturally prefers sex with the lover and the husbands finds himself getting less sex.

Now for the dominatrix, the rewards are huge and there are no draw backs. Adding cuckholdress to your title as dominatrix opens all doors and the possibilities never stop. First, the husband or more suited name "Bitch" is not an active party, as in he has no say so of who you fuck or how much you fuck. You are also free to date on a regular basis (most often a serious relationship). You get the pleasure of enjoying the best and most erotic sex life and not care of his feelings with the point to humiliate him and rub his fucking nose in the fact you have better sex with a more endowed man. Also you are having sex solely for your pleasure not his, like it should be. So your not playing a role or need to act a certain way, in fact you are free to have sex away from your bitch and not in his presence. You never have to worry about fucking your bitch after sex with your Boyfriend as most Dom's completely deny the bitch sex after taking a full time boyfriend, to the point he is forced to wear a chastity permanently. Did I mention you never have to explain yourself or get questioned about your business, that's right what you do with your Boyfriend, when you do it, or how you do it, especially with regards to sex, is none of his business. This includes but not limited to inviting another girl or guy for threesome's with your boyfriend, having sex without a condom which is a form of ownership and very humiliating to your bitch (although Your bitch is always made to lick clean the mess, he is not allowed to question you about it), or allowing or performing sexual activities with your boyfriend that you have never, would never allow your bitch to do....Like anal sex, fucking you at work, Blow jobs in the car, swallowing his cum after blow jobs (this really excites boyfriends especially if he knows you don't do it for your bitch) and even submitting to him in some manner.  

You will get horny and excited just off the power alone, let alone the excitement of having a hot well endowed boyfriend and have the best sex ever. As far as your boyfriends that are aware of your bitch (stated as an open relationship) they are extremely aroused by the fact you completely deny your bitch anything to do with the "boyfriends pussy". After a date night and a good hard fucking by your boyfriend, your bitch gets nothing but cleaning up the mess, unless you decide to allow him a privilege of looking at your swollen pussy, or possibly smelling your boyfriends freshly fucked pussy, or maybe you may opt to fuck your bitch (especially if he is a sissy) with his favorite cock, then again you may want to prove to him that this is the way it will be and cane his ass into submission followed by him worshiping your feet and ass (licking them both) leading to a full body message before you put him back into his cage (or on the floor if no cage) for the night. 

Most of the time a bitch is never allowed anything to do with pussy, he has been or is being trained to be a sissy and his only orgasms are through anal penetration. Even if he hates this or finds it humiliating, he will eventually be begging you to fuck him with your strap on. After some time of begging and going with out, and ONLY if he has been a good bitch, he has begged you properly, and only after you have been pleased by your lover, will you give him that privilege! And the whole time he is begging you to fuck him harder, your going to humiliate him about how your lovers cock feels and pleases you even better than your larger dildo he's getting fucked with and tell him to take your cock like the little bitch he is, and telling him to beg to be your little slut or your going to stop! Not to mention that he is so pussy whipped by you, and trained to please you that he will go with out sex indefinitely. He would be happy to just smell your pussy.

WITH PROPER TRAINING and Just by doing what pleases you, meeting and fucking other men, your bitch will be begging you to get fucked, begging to please you while you get fucked, and begging you to lock his little cock away for good. Plus you will greatly raise your confidence level, build self esteem, and increase your sex drive. Also frequent sex strengthens your immune system, boost your metabolism and burns more calories per minute than working out. It also tightens your pussy, levels your body's hormones which can decreases depression, and it can firm up your breast. Think about it, you get to experience the best most fulfilling sex you ever had, the freedom to do it with whom you want, as often as you want, and he must remain celibate/sexless and orgasm free till you decide, obey your every command, and serve you.....Plus he is extremely happy, turned on and begs you to do it. What could be better!

Some regular Questions I get; How many lovers should I have? Does sex really feel better with a bigger dick?  How often should I fuck my lover? Do black guys have bigger dicks? Should my lover spend the night and should I be intimate with my lover? Should I let my lover Dom my Sub? Should I or is it OK to leave my Sub hubby at home and go fuck my lover at his house or a hotel?

First off, You are women, sex is for your pleasure and your pleasure is to be the first priority of your lover, boyfriend, or bull and your PS. Men can not have the types of orgasms, or as long of an orgasm as women. they also can't have as intense of orgasms or number of orgasms women can and it is your sexual freedom and sexual power that will drive both your lover and your PS wanting to please your pussy anyway you allow them. With that in mind, from your pleasure both your lover and you PS will get pleasure, from your moans and screams your lover will know he is pleasing you causing him to fuck better, harder and deeper. From your moans and screams, your PS will know that you are being please "better" and he will want to please you his way, by submitting to and obeying you. Rather he's fucking you for the first time or the 20th time, your lover/boyfriend knows its his job to please your pussy to the best of his ability because if he doesn't more than likely he will not be getting anymore pussy from you. 95% of males can only orgasm once, and most of the pleasure a man feels from sex is from when he climaxes...That is his reward for pleasing you sexually and the energy built to that point will be spent making sure you are pleased enough to want sex with him again. It is a studied fact that when a man hears a female moan or scream during sex that he has a biological drive to please her more and is more turned on.

As you know both have different roles in giving you pleasure but the outcome is the same; your pleasure, your way. The only difference between your lover and your bitch is that your lover will also get pleased sexually while your PS only gets pleasure you grant him from watching and/or hearing.

 Your lover, boyfriend, or bull can give you the pleasure you deserve. And any women that has had the pleasure and experience of a thick cock knows that there is no better, longer, or stronger orgasm especially in comparison between your bitches little tiny dick and your lovers thick cock. There is no going back to a small, puny dick. Simply put there is no stronger or better orgasm than that of a man who has a thick cock and can use it. Fact is, even if your PS can give you an orgasm (maybe even pleasing you), he can't do or compare to the pleasure you get from a bigger, thinker cock. But not only can he offer you a bigger, thicker more fulfilling cock, he can last longer, he can pound harder and faster. He can give the excitement of a new cock (new feeling, new texture, new style of fucking) the thrill of another man wanting your pussy. The excitement and passion especially if you have already fucked his bigger cock and know just how much better it really is, will excite you! You will actually get horny, and yes even WET thinking about fucking him and you may even find yourself thinking about fucking him often. Most of all fucking your lover combines the best pleasure you'll ever have with power. You get as much cock as you want while your PS gets locked into his chastity rarely or never allowed to have pussy. SO AGAIN, What could be better?

Finding a sex partner; There are several kinds of sex partners to play with and there are many ways to find a them. First there is the kinky or dominate Stud type, known as a bull.  This is the guy that you fuck in front of your bitch, he may also help humiliate your bitch and you might even have your bitch serve him in what ever ways you see fit but I'll go into that later in the topic. Another type is called a boyfriend, he is the dating type, usually better looking. He is not aware of your bitch and you never play in front of your bitch with him. At best, your bitch is only allowed to listen via a muted phone. He is the guy used to create mystery. Your bitch wonders if your fucking him or not, how loud your screaming, what position your in, and how much bigger his cock is than his. Then when you get home from your date you fill him in on all the steamy details and sit your cum filled pussy on his face to clean out. Then there is a lover type. He is the guy that fucks you with or with out your bitch watching. He usually doesn't get involved with your situation and may not even know he is your bitch.

Some dominatrix find lovers on Internet sites specializing in sexual encounters. These vary from BDSM to swinging sites and clubs to hook up sites like Ashly Madison. There are some who meet men at vanilla dance clubs, bars, or dating sites, letting that lucky guy know early on(after a few dates) he is only there for sex. ( I have never heard of any man turning this down). Regardless of what type of male your looking for, where or how your looking for him, keep in mind that looks should not be that important....But most women including my self need some sort of attraction to have sex. However you will find that conversation will open up those doors and try not to judge before you get to know them. I have been greatly pleased by some of the normal/ average looking men, even over the better looking ones and its all about the cock. Also when picking up a lover, regardless of where you meet them, always be safe! If going out by yourself, stay in contact with your PS, let him know where you are at all times, and if you leave with a guy, never drive with them. Always follow them and also let your PS know the year, make, model, and plate number. When you get to your lovers house or hotel, let your PS know the street and address.  Remember once you have found a lover, you need to let him know early on (with in 2 or 3 times of fucking) that he is only there for sex. It is possible to have one boyfriend unaware of your situation (saying your single) as long as you can play without complications of emotional attachment from him or you for that matter.
To help prevent that YOU should be involved with several guys 3 or 4, and you should let him know your not wanting anything more than a friends with benefits type thing.

When you have a guy, you should come up with new ways to use your lover to humiliate you bitch. The best typer to have (at least one or two) is the bull who acts his part in it, fucking you good and hard in front of your PS and helps you humiliate your PS. Making your PS server both of you, and even participate in pleasing you while your getting fucked by him, like sucking your feet while your getting fucked missionary style, licking your ass while your being fucked on top of your lover riding style, or licking your clit while you laying back on your lover your back to his chest....Or come up with your own ways. Eventually you may even take pussy completely away (only allowing him to watch you get fucked once a week or so- when he's been a good little bitch) and blind fold your bitch while your getting fucked so he can only hear you getting fucked or not even allow him the privilege of hearing and make him do chores while your getting fucked or kneeling in the corner of another room. You could even go out on a fuck date and bring home your cum filled pussy and make him do clean out while you tell him all about the sexual encounter. Also try to remember that your description and details will help him visualize and paint a picture in his mind, be pretty graphic, use words like Fuck, suck, and other words to describe your night of sex with your lover/boyfriend. Don't be shy about it, and don't leave out detail!! On the same note, remember to not say things to bring him down of his edge, if you didn't enjoy yourself or the sex was not up to par, then try no to focus on this part of it. Always try to make it look like you had a good time and no matter what your lovers/boyfriends cock is bigger than your PS. The most important thing is to try new things and do what turns you on! Remember what ever your doing, to be strict, humiliating, and degrading! Come up with your own ways to humiliate him and combine not being able to watch you get fucked. A for good idea of how to act and be you should watch one of my favorite video's here; http://www.romanvideo.net/cuckold17.html  Also below is a few videos of how you can humiliate him, notice how she talks to him and how she degrades and humiliates him.

PUSHING THE BOUNDARIES

There are many ways to push the boundaries and break his will, they range from having your bull present during a training session or punishment, maybe even joining in....All the way up to having your bitch serve your bull/lover and even perform oral on your bull/lover or allowing your bull to fuck your bitch (condom on of course) while he is tied down. It can be very erotic for a mistress to get oral from her lover while her bitch is sucking his cock hard and getting it ready to fuck her.He may even be forced to clean the cum out of her pussy then go right to sucking her loves cock to get him hard and ready to go again (especially if the mistress is not in the mood for sucking much cock).  Her bitch may then even be forced to put the lovers cock inside her pussy while she humiliates him. She may also enjoy having her bitch fucked doggie style while he sucks on her strap on dildo, maybe even switching it up by her fucking her bitch while her lover pulls off the condom and the bitch sucks his cock. This is especially something the mistress will want to explore if she is sissy/maid training  or bitch training, as his ass is now his pussy and treated in that aspect in every way all the way from getting fucked by dildos and real cocks to being made to wear a Koetex or Tampon for a few days in a row while she is on her period. His pussy is her property and she is free to have done with it as she pleases, especially having it fucked.

The question is, what turns you on or how much humiliation are you willing to give to your bitch?
First, a true Dominatrix will insist on extreme humiliation and complete submission and there is pretty much nothing more submissive and humiliating than have to suck your lovers cock hard and get it ready to fuck you or getting fucked in the ass. (as long as it doesn't get her bitch hurt or let know to friends and family of their lifestyle) She knows that just because her bitch is sucking her lovers cock or taking his cock in the ass does NOT make him gay or look bad in anyway....Its not really even a sexual act for him, its just humiliation, submission and him taking his true place. It simply shows her power, his obedience, and that he is a true little bitch. However this will not happen over night and may take a few months to achieve. These acts are humiliating, very much, so start slow by bringing it up during a training session. Make sure he is good and horny before you start, and make sure you've not missed a training day. Talk dirty and humiliating to him, bring up by saying hes your bitch and tell him to agree. Make him say it, then repeat it louder. Tell him his cock is nothing more than an over grown clit and his ass is now your pussy. Tell him you just might make him wear panties( your choice if you do or not) Then tell him you might even start looking for a lover for him to serve and fuck him in his pussy. Eventually with no sex or orgasm, and really good training he will be begging for his mistress to fuck him and willing to do anything for it, this is the time you will train him to get fucked by and suck your lovers cock, this is the time you will bring him to one of his ultimate humiliation, and break his will. put on the strap on and tease him with it, rub it against his ass. Make him start begging you to fuck him, at the same time you should be stroking his little clit. once he is good and begging, slide it in and slowly work it. Start humiliating him about getting fucked by your lover, speed up and fuck him harder, tell him you want him begging to have your lover fuck him or your going to stop(if he won't stop and start to pull it out slowly) once he is begging start fucking him again, grab the base of his cock and balls tight and start taking long and slightly hard stroke of fucking him. Ask him how bad he wants you to get him fucked by your lover and make him tell you. Stop fucking him but leave the dildo in his ass, get out your huge dildo and tell him to open up make him suck it like it was your lover, tell him to get it real fucking hard and ready to fuck you. tell him to do his best or he's in trouble and you will stop fucking him. As he starts sucking tell him the better he tries and harded he sucks then you'll start fucking him again. Make him suck it for a bit, and start fucking his mouth with it.
By now he is sucking hard and you are back to pounding his ass, but don't let him get off!
Now its time to put it away and pull your cock out, humiliate him about things and continue training.
A few weeks of this and he will be ready! Now keep in mind that saying he'll suck your lover and fuck your lover while in the heat of the moment is one thing but reality is different. When its all set up but before you get going, you'll need to raise his horniness level just like in training, then you will need to make sure he is tied down in some manner on his knees next to the bed (if he has the ability have him make you a device to do this) Have your lover come over and put his cock close to his face, with one hand reach between your bitch's legs and play with his cock, with the other hand grab your lovers cock and start stroking it after a few seconds let go of your bitch's cock and grab his balls fairly tight and in a firm strict voice say,"its time for you to take your place and suck his cock! You better get it good and hard, and ready for me to fuck! Now open your mouth and start sucking the way you were trained".
Now push his head onto your lovers cock and start stroking his cock again. After a few seconds let go and get up on the bed laying back so your lover can lick your pussy. When your ready for cock sit up grab your bitch's hair and pull him off your lovers cock. undo his locks for one arm and tell him to put it in. Once he has finished fucking you, start all over to get his cock hard again! Use your own set up, plan it the way you want, just have fun with it!! Now when it comes to your lover fucking your bitch, again you'll have to tie him down and again if possible have him make you a device to accommodate as you will need the bed for you and your lover. If not possible try to tie him in a manner that he can be fucked with out taking up room you need on the bed for a good fucking. Then start stroking and playing with his cock, get him worked up a bit and lube his ass at the same time. Now start sucking your lovers cock and then have him put on a condom. Again lube his ass and have your lover slowly slide it in and start fucking. While he is getting fucked make sure you humiliate him and make him beg to keep getting fucked! Remember to not let him get off, leave him horny and wanting more, so make sure your lover knows ahead of time. Again make up your own events, use your imagination and make sure its degrading and humiliating for him but fun and exciting and a turn on for you!!




More to come....