What do you do? Well first, you need to understand how and why this has happened. You don't want to keep repeating this and end up time and time again, every few months back at this point. And trust me the last thing you want to do is repeat this to the point that there is no recovery from it, at least not very easily anyway. The truth is, its more than likely your actions or lack of actions that got him to this point. I have found that 9 out of 10 times the Mistress has not exactly fulfilled her part of the new life style/relationship.....That's not to say that this happens a lot as most women get a taste of the perfect life and ultimate sex and take to it like fish to water, but it does happen. So what's the problem? Maybe he just needs a break or that he is just not wanting to submit anymore. Maybe If you gave him pussy that might reset things. Maybe he has just been having a hard time at work or stress is to much right now. Hopefully none of this or any other thought along these lines has crossed your mind because you would be wrong, VERY WRONG!! Fact is, if anything other than what I'm about to say has crossed your mind, your not only wrong, you've not been paying attention to or reading my blog, for that matter and I'm only being honest here "you probably wouldn't even be in this situation if you did".
Now if your thinking that maybe you have slacked off quite a bit lately, not been dominate, humiliating or aggressive enough and maybe he's not taking you serious because you haven't been serious and/or not been doing the things you need to do as a mistress.....Well you would be right. I'd even put money on it that you have even taken breaks from the lifestyle 3, 4, or more times over the past year. Then even gone as far as given him pussy at least once during the breaks, didn't you? You see the pattern? This is not the way of a mistress, especially if you really want this lifestyle and all the wonderful perks that go with it. I say it all the time, "a strict, aggressive Mistress always gets what she wants and deserves!" I'm not saying that there can't be a slight chance that there is a different issue causing this. The other things it could be is fighting or arguing, and even once is enough to derail your progress, especially if its a bad one. And the other problem could be you crossed the intimacy line at some point with a boyfriend/lover, or at least your bitch might feel very uncomfortable about it. I'm referring to cuddling, spooning, holding hands or what ever he may feel is to much. Both of these can also lead to trust issues and ultimately complete shutdown of this lifestyle for both of you. This is why its so important to fulfill your part as the mistress because it drastically lessens the chance of problems. In fact if your doing what you should be doing, its almost impossible to be in this predicament.
YOU SEE, it is very hard for him to go back and forth, serious and not serious, and to stay focused with all the elevated hormones and chemicals in his brain from training and lack of getting pussy. You know what its like that time of the month for you, your hormones are crazy from one minute to the next and this is the same with him only much worse. Subconsciously, the very thing that makes him submissive and naturally want to serve is also the thing that rebels when its not focused properly. You have to divert and focus his energy and his will, to pleasing and serving you. This same energy left unchecked will compound issues that normally wouldn't be an issue and find fault that would normally be over looked. This is what leads to him becoming angry or upset, back talking, argumenitive, and combative and ultimately loose the focus and desire to submit. He needs desperately for you to give him consistency, strict guidance and reinforcement to truly be the sissy bitch you want and need him to be. He needs you to be the boss, and he needs you to be serious about it and give him the aggressive, strict and yes even cruel, ruthless dominate side that he longs to serve and obey. You have got to put him in his place forcefully, you have to make him serve you properly and you can't be shy about it and what you want, or what you want to do. Furthermore you definately can't be shy about degrading and humiliating him! The more you do this and the deeper into submission he will be. The more you are serious and show this is his new place and the lifestyle you want, the less likely he will rebel, the easier it is for him to stay focused.
This is the way back, and depending on how many times you have repeated this will determine how hard and long it will be to get things back on track to where they should be, and hopefully for both your sake its not past the point of no return. I have talked about all of this in detail through out my blog, PLEASE take the time to read it. Truth is, you cant just turn him on and off like a switch and if you have the mentality of not taking it serious or maybe you thought it was no big deal, you would get around to it the next time or do better the next time, this just wont cut it. Sure something comes up, or sometimes you don't have time to do a training session or at least as long as it should be, OK that's life, but there is no excuse for you not doing your best during the alloted time or to treat him like the bitch he is before, during, and after (constantly) 24/7. There is always a way to work around issues, and family. You just need to do it and stop making excuses, and if you want this, you will do it. I know the submissive male and he subconsciously and naturally desires his place, needing to be put in it and kept there. I know what he needs and wants, even if he doesn't! You doing what he needs and must have in order to properly submit (even if he necessarily doesn't want it) is what its going to take to get things right again, and get him begging to be back on his knees. He's not going to do it on his own, and a chastity and no sex only goes so far.
To the point; Here is the problem, How can you expect him to take you serious if you don't treat this serious. How can you expect him to be let down time after time, but then be into it when its ok or convenient for you. That may be able to happen for a short period of time but eventually the things that turn him on, or make him submissive will loose its potency. You also can't contradict your rules, and his actions by allowing him to break them with out punishment, this includes but not limited to back talk. Don't contradict what you want and what you say by allowing him to be your equal, or do what he wants, or go with out punishment, and especially giving him pussy!! This not only confuses him and sends the wrong signal to what you actually want, and it messes with the way he conceives things and his sub consciousness! Plus he will get to the point that he can't even focus when you are doing what your supposed to be doing. If your bitching at him, complaining, fighting, or anything other than focusing on keeping him submissive and in his place then this makes things completely worse and lifestyle that you love and enjoy is in jeopardy of ending for good. Isn't it worth it????
At this point you know what I'm saying and where I'm headed with this. Hopefully you have read through my blog and you know how to do things, if anything you will re-read back through it.
To address the problem: There are no breaks, this is 24/7 period and your going to make it that way and keep it that way! Do not go easy on him, and if need be put him in tears. More than likely your not punishing him enough, hard enough or even at all for his rule breaking, or failure to sincerely submit and be submissive. Not to mention punishing him for falling short of commands or chores done the way you want them. You Also punish him lighter on training days just because he needs reminders, but make sure the real punishments are ones to remember! You are also probably lacking in the humiliation side of things as well, and this is just as important as giving him punishment. You should also be emasculating him and turning him into a true bitch by making him wear panties, calling him by his proper bitch name. This means treating him exactly like a bitch all the way to pegging him and having him fucked by someone. Humiliation is also a vital key for breaking his will, emasculating him, and controlling his mind. If you control his mind, you control his body!
Your also not going out, or not out enough. Your not flirting enough or getting enough numbers. My guess is your also not taking care of your self like you should be (gym, hair, nails, make up, shopping etc.) And your definitely not treating him like you should be; not strict enough, not demanding enough, not forceful enough. Not controlling enough, not dominating or ruthless enough. Your not forcing him to take his place or calling him by your preferred name for him. Your not looking for and/or getting enough COCK as you should be. Your demeanor isn't that of a dominatrix and mistress, it is always your way, and only your way. You make the rules, he obeys. He cleans the house, and wash. He begs and asks for permission. Always, always, always!! Don't make excuses, do it and make these happen period! If there is a trust issue related to over stepping lines or something that makes him feel uncomfortable, talk about it with him. Its important to reassure him that he may be your bitch but your love is always for him, that you never want to do anything to hurt his heart. Make sure he knows you will always be his and that you love him. The best thing is not to do the things he feels uncomfortable with. But a big no, no is never argue with him over it, or anything else and never get an attitude. AGAIN don't argue with him! Not over anything or anyone!! this is one of the WORST things you can do to ruin the hormones built up or alter the chemical balance for the submissive drive you have spent all that time on creating. Plus, arguing with him removes all your power, as it suggest that he has input, or a decision, or a choice.....None of which he has because he is the "BITCH" and you are the boss, so don't do it. Besides that it creates anger, animosity, and resentment. None of which are positive towards or helping in maintaining the lifestyle you want.
Also, don't bitch at him! Again Bitching at him gives him the impression that he has a choice, that he is able to control something or anything at all. It also kills what you have just built up so, don't do it at all. Arguing, fighting, or Bitching at him is the fastest way to create distrust from him and can take days to get over or work through. It also makes him doubt your time out with your lover/boyfriend. This can lead to the trust issues described earlier. Besides that, it's not DOM LIKE or needed.... If he has done something that's pissed you off or upset you, then be smart and punish him for it. If you ordered something and he didn't do it or what ever the reason is, give him a severe punishment that will deter him from doing it again. JUST DON'T argue,fight, or bitch at him!!!
This is what you want, RIGHT? SO MAKE IT HAPPEN, make it happen 24/7. Don't let things like work, kids, school, extended family or friends get in the way of it. Find away to exert your power over him and for him to show his obedience and submission to you. Lastly, don't make excuses for why you didn't do something, and never ask him for permission. Plus don't give the impression that things are any other way than exactly how you want them to be! Especially when it comes to sex with your boyfriend or lover. Remember all the sex you have is far better than anything he could ever do or give, including cock comparison. And don't make small talk or discussion of any kind other than orders through out the day, especially prior, during, or after training. Try to keep it until bed time or at least wait for a better more suitable time if it is important. The object is to keep him in the trance as long as possible and focused on serving and obey you, which eventually leads to his complete submission. Keep him focused on training and keep him in his place when not training. And remember it's never worth throwing away your hard word and his submissiveness to bitch,fight or argue for any reason, as there is always better ways to show or give your dissatisfaction.
Are you willing to put forth the effort it takes to give you the most rewarding, and exciting life with the best sex you have ever had, getting pampered and pleased by your bitch while at the same time he is happier than ever doing it? Does this sound familiar? Its practically what I said somewhere at the start of this blog, and its still true! But its not just going to happen, you have to work at it, and make him work at it. You CAN NOT be bashful, shy, or hesitant about what you want, what to say, how to act, or what to do. You will need to be dirty thinking, ruthless in punishments, and as strict in rules as you can be and always think of ways to push his boundaries and to show his submission to you. Think of ways to punish if the norm is out of the question because of a certain situation or place. When you punish, be serious about it. When doing spankings or physical punishment, don't be afraid to make him cry, leave marks, or bruising. Don't let it bother you and make sure he knows your enjoying it and willing to keep going. Have fun with it, and make him show his submission often by licking your feet and sucking your toes, kissing and licking your ass cheeks. You must take your place and force him into his, this is how you get what you want and make him want to beg to please and obey you.
This is about you being the Mistress, and him being your bitch. Its what you want, how you want it. You need to do what you want and make him do what you want. Your rules should be what you want them to be. Not what you see here or any other blog, they are only meant for guidance and example of others rules. Do not do something because you think he wants it, and don't let him give input or boss from the bottom (on his knees) and punish him severely if he tries. He may think something should be a certain way because of what he has read, but its going to be your way and your rules. KEEP IN MIND though, if he feels or seems to feel something your doing with a lover or boyfriend is over the line you have to take the proper steps to resolve his uneasiness about it and /or simply don't do it. This does not mean that you can be laxed on them, not make him follow them if it suits you when it suits you, or that you shouldn't put your due diligents into making this 24/7. Only that if you feel a rule or doing what turns you on should be different than the norm, then change it to what you want. Trust me its going to turn him on more and make him more submissive if you do what pleases you over what he thinks pleases you. With all this said, YOU have to be the boss, the mistress at all times and you have to maintain that composure regardless of energy level, feelings of anger, rage, hurtfulness, input or interference from friends, family or life in general, regardless you are the boss. You must do your duty to order him, control him, make him follow rules and knell at all times possible, regardless to any situation. Punish at the time of infraction if at all possible, and never not punish for rule breaking, back talk, or not obeying!! Your going to have to treat him like he needs and deserves to be treated, like your little bitch! Remember he is no longer your married husband (or boyfriend), he is your little cock, BITCH! Make sure you tell him and the more you treat him like that the more he will be submissive, take his place, beg to serve you and be turned on by that fact.
I know this is a lot to read, but this will get you back on track in no time, just don't repeat your mistakes as the best advice I can give is to not end up here in the first place!!
