**punishment

I wanted to write a little bit about punishments. After talking with some girlfriends in the life style I wanted to share some things with my readers that i shared with them.

So some of you may be wondering what is the limit of punishment, whats to much? When should I punish and for how long? Well as with anything i say in this lifestyle, EXPLORE find his breaking point and push past that! For best results you should punish him at the time of his disobedience if at all possible, or at the next possible time. Really there should be no limit on how long or how often you punish your pussy slave, however the severity (how hard you hit) should be enough that he is yelping or moaning fairly loud with each hit. It should be hard enough to push his limits, and he should after a few miniutes of punishment be yelping and moaning loudly and begging for you to stop. I will say that you should always keep his physical safety in mind when giving out punishments. Meaning and only limited to making sure it will not cause permanent damage but be aggressive and demanding, be humiliating towards him.  I also want to stress the fact that how strict you are and how hard you push the boundaries or severity of his punishments will determine his fearfulness of you, respect, obedience and the speed at which he trains. If he is not yelping or even begging you to stop, your not pushing hard enough or gone long enough with his punishment. It is the dominatrix who are ruthless, humiliating, and strict that are feared and Obed the most! And as I've said before, you know what you want, you know what pleases you, shouldn't you be willing to do what it takes to get what you deserve and to get the servitude of a very submissive PS, how far are you willing to go? If you have been the strict, demanding, and humiliating bitch at any time prior to reading this, then you have seen the difference in his obedience to you then from when you not how you should be. How far are you willing to go?

His ass is fairly resilient and can handle any type of tool and punishment using aggressive swings and force. If in a training session you should mix up the swats to his ass from mild when talking to him then hard when getting a point understood. His cock and balls, are more sensitive and require less harshness to get the point across. When slapping or squeezing his balls don't do it hard enough to rupture one of them. Keep in mind that cat tails or crops, even if used firmly (as they are suppose to be) will not do any long lasting damage, hit his balls with firm but short strokes. Also the position of his balls when hitting them can cause different kinds of pain. If smacking them while he is on his back, its a variance of pain and combine with you standing up straddling his chest so he can see the out line of your pussy and ass(with thongs on) its also a mental submission. But best result is when he is bent over, legs spread allowing his balls to hang away from his body(you may have to pull on them a bit to get them to drop or get a chainless ball stretcher). bending him over is a much more pin point pain that is sharper and intense. Regardless of how you punish his balls, remember to switch it up so that he doesn't know what to expect and feels the wide range of pain you are capable of giving if he doesn't obey. On his ass; welts, redness and even bruising are what to strive for, light abrasions are even tolerated......They may even be needed or warranted for getting the point across. Its not easy to damage his ass and you can't be to scared to welt it up or hurt it. If he complains that your hitting to hard or getting mouthy, put the ball gag in and smack his ass into submission only stopping if he is begging you to and you feel like it. Make sure before you stop that he understands you are the boss and he will obey and he repeats this to you, but you decide when he has had enough. On his cock and balls; redness and light welts are what to strive for. Also as I've stated before when training or giving out punishments, make sure his ropes and chains are pulled tight. Give him as little room as possible to squirm or move, this creates a helpless feeling, setting his mood for submission and keeps him from getting out or moving to block or lighten punishments.




Punishments should be given out for every infraction, and should always be given out the same day and if at all possible at the time the infraction occurred. Punishments can range from loss of privileges or simple corner time (naked with the full get up, on just like in the photo,  just actually knelling in the corner. 10 minutes is enough and the required length of time but no less) all the way to corporal punishments like spankings, nipple and ball touchier or ball stretching.


Basically when giving out corporal or touchier punishments judge how much he can possibly take (do this by how much and how loud he is yelping, if its light or no sounds, your not even close) then push it 25 percent or more past that. Example; He is told to shut his mouth and does not. Then you should spank his ass until he is begging you to stop then put the ball gag in to cover his yelping and spank another 5 or 10 times. Same with smacking his balls. This should be enough to get his attention, letting him know your the boss, your rules are to be obeyed and you are serious.  And if the same rule is broken 2 times in the same day there should be a set punishment. Example; Spanking as described above, knell in the corner (with full props) for 10 min, and a loss of privilege for the rest of the night.

Also learn to use all of your tools in his punishments, as in the blind fold, ball stretcher, ball gag, clamps, whips and crops....everything you have. Meaning there is no such thing as to much. You should also combine punishments for multiple infractions. If he brakes 2 or 3 rules, give him 2 or 3 punishments.

Use your mind to come up with punishments to use and be creative, but be harsh and strict while doing them. Don't forget to scold or humiliate him when doing them as well! Take a look at the pictures below on ways to use your creativeness and if anything search the INTERNET for ideas. If your PS is handy with tools he could make furniture or devices for you to use, maybe even help you come up with some of his own.

















Change things up a bit and remember you can also use things he now derives pleasure from against him. One of the things i do on occasion (just to change things up a bit) even if not being punished is place him in the corner (either knelling or sitting in a special chair that the back folds down) with his full get up on, when my lover comes over. He is only permitted to hear us fucking We fuck until my lover cums the first time and i lay down his chair back or lay him back squatting over his face making him clean up the mess while i suck my lovers cock hard again. Of course I take off the blind fold so as he is doing his duty he can watch me suck my loves cock. Note; It is the sound of your moans and screams that get him excited and turned on, it is the sight of watching your loves bigger cock fuck you while you moan and scream that humiliates him. So keep this in mind and keep this scene to a minimum, putting him in the corner is a sensory change and a way to enforce that he never knows what could happen to him next.

Another thing I like to do is put my PS in a GATES OF HELL device, that way as he is watching my lover fuck me and he is getting hard, the gates device restricts his hard on causing a pain full pressure where the steel rings are. here is a link to a pic of one; http://www.lockeduplove.net/otherchastity
All three on this page are gates of hell, the top is described as a Chastity but it is just a locking gates device, of the other 2 one is also a locking (better locking one) and one is just a normal one. there are several types of these and they can be found in most sex store or on line store.

This idea is more of a training idea than a punishment but its fun for you and humiliating for him.
Buy yourself a double ended dildo (if you don't have one) and the next time you train him, tie him down to the bed, get him really excited/horny. pull his legs up to or by his hands and tie them there. (His ass should be in the air) Now lube up one end of the dildo and slid it in his ass, then turn around facing away from him (on your hands and knees) reach between your legs and slide the other end of the dildo in your pussy or ass and start fucking! You get to get orgasm and he gets to squeeze his ass mussels to hold the dildo in place for you with a sever punishment if he fails. Adding to his humiliation, if he is a PS allowed to see your pussy, put a blind fold on him.

What ever punishments you give him or when ever you train him. always remember to keep his ropes/chains tight, he yelps with ever hit, push him to break and be fearful of you, be DOMINATING- harsh, strict, bitchfull, aggressive, demanding, degrading and above all, be as humiliating as you can.
He needs this from you just as much as you need and should give it to him.

Other ideals and punishments coming soon......

**Position, rules, and Servitude/Chores

Position is very important for both the mistress and the Sub as it sets the place of both. Position is also a physical tool to use on the Sub and will aid in the training process and continued submission of the male after training. Keeping him in his proper place reinforces her control over him and is a constant reminder that he is there only to pay for and serve, and nothing else, especially with regards to sex.

The Female/Mistress is the hierarchy, meaning she is in complete control, she is the boss and the only authority in the relationship. For that reason her position is always on top of the submissive. She should be standing or sitting on a higher ground than that of her PS. She should at several times through the day make her sub acknowledge his place, beg for it, and show his gratitude for allowing him that privilege by making him lick, suck, kiss and worship her feet, toes and ass. Her word and rules are law, and should always be obeyed with great humbleness and submission from her sub. She will not accept anything less, nor will she accept anything less than complete respect from her sub, and punish severely for any disrespect, rule breaking, failing to complete orders promptly and as directed, back talk and in appropriate questioning.  She should never ask for something to be done, only order it in a firm demanding voice. She never accepts back talk or input from her sub, and does not allow herself to be questioned. She is always addressed as mistress, ma'am, madam, boss, or any name she gives the male to address her by, and she should come and go as she pleases. She always views her sub as only her sub, never her equal or a man, and she does not communicate with her sub like she would her man or an equal. This means limited or no conversation, only commands or orders. He is and does exactly what her purpose for him is, and his only purpose is to pay, serve, and please his Mistress to the best of his ability. She will deny him sex and all access to her body saving it only for her lovers or boyfriends. She will work towards permanent chastity and sissyfing of her sub if that turns her on. She will not be shy or timid about her rules,demands, what she wants from him, or expects him to do, including sex or sexual interactions with other lifestyle males. If it turns her on, she is amused, for humiliation purposes or just because she wants it done, she will give the orders to make it happen and then see that it does, again punish severely for failure to obey (even in front of other lifestyle male or people who know of the situation). She will train him to forget about his clit dick, and focus all his energy on pleasing her. She will also train him to derive pleasure from his pussy/anus and tease and humiliate him about that fact. She will be ruthless, domineering, aggressive, demanding and especially humiliating at all times to keep him in his proper place and enforce her rule over him. She will not care of his thoughts or feelings on matters, or care about how much pain and agony he is in when training and especially when being punished. She will carry herself as a Dom/Mistress, getting hair and nails done, shopping, flirting with real men, including fucking and dating. She will also keep her body in good physical shape by going to the gym regularly, and tanning.

The Submissive is just that, he is the server of the mistress and he obeys all orders, rules, and commands. He realizes and is taught that she is inferior to him in every way and that this is the natural way, and the only way of the relationship. She does not want him as a man or for sex, she wants and deserves real men for that purpose. Her only use for him is serving and pleasing her in any manner she chooses. For that reason he is always on the bottom of the mistress and her bulls/lovers. He must ask for permission to do anything except chores or obey orders and take his place at the bottom by kneeling naked at her feet at all times. He must especially be there when asking permissions, serving drinks or food. Proper kneeling is where he is up on his knee's, legs slightly spread, and hands behind his back and his eyes either facing down toward the floor or at his mistresses crotch level. This position is called "Knell or Place" and he will be taught that when you say that one word he immediately gets undressed if not already and takes that position. He should be in the "knell" position and naked, at all times or as much as possible and only allowed to sit- his ass on his legs/heels (like a kneeling sitting position legs spread apart) when you say the word "ease" or if you give permission when he asks to "Ease". Ease is the word you will teach him and use that means he can relax to a semi-relaxed submissive state. But his proper place to ask his mistress for permissions, address his mistress, beg, or to worship his mistresses ass is in the "Knell" position.  Another position is on all four's like a dog, legs spread apart head down towards the floor. This position is called "Heel" and you could use this position to scold him or to let him relax (he is never to sit on his ass) for a change of positions, or to use him as a foot rest or stool, or just before your make him worship your feet. the other position is called the "Submit" This is a favorite among Mistresses, used on him for when he is begging, humiliation, worshiping your feet, a quick spanking or just because you want to see him humbled and in place and its basicly the same as  Heel/ dog position only his face is on the floor and arms are in front of him like he is diving into water, palms flat on the floor but close to his face. The sub must be taught/trained that his only purpose is to serve and please his mistress and never to expect anything in return. His reward is privilege of serving his Mistress or what ever else she may deem fit (never allow pussy or orgasms through his penis). The sub should ALWAYS be treated as the sub and never allowed input of any kind. He should be talked to like a bitch, treated like a bitch, and addressed as a bitch, or another sub name you give. He will be punished severely for any rule breaking, back talking, or failure to please his mistress. He will always wear a chastity device and keep it cleaned daily as well as all pubic hair removed/shaved. Conversation with him will be limited to only necessary replies, and command words will be used as much as possible. The Mistress should design her own words as well.

The mistress should either be standing (best is possible) or sitting with the submissive full kneeling at her feet and his head/eyes focused on the floor, hands behind his back when she gives him a command/order to follow. She will teach him that this is his full time place when not doing chores or obeying his mistress.

He should spend all of his time that he is not doing chores, kneeling at his mistresses feet or beside the bed/chair and just because he asks for permission to ease, heel, or enter the bed does not mean that she should grant it, permission should be when she is ready to grant it. This is the perfect time to use her female powers of seduction, and body display.

If he is to ask permission to serve his mistress or worship her ass/feet it should be done while he is in his proper position "knell" or "submit" and he must ask/beg for that privilege.

CHORES
He should be given chores that are simple enough for him to do successfully, or taught how to do the hard ones. Load the dish washer, carry down laundry, vacuum, wipe off counters, walls, sweep the floors, clean up dinner, clean up after his mistress, open the doors for her, clean the bathroom, or anything else you need that he can do simple enough. Cooking is always a hard task for men.

You should make a chore list and break it down to things done daily, weekly and monthly, and you should never do any of his chores unless he is ill, or for some work/family reason unable to fulfill his duty. Also if you chose the option to fuck your lovers out of sight or away (at your lovers house) from your PS, you should give him chores (Typically washing panties) to do while you are gone.

Remember, his place is to serve you and yours is to command. Try to keep talking casually with him to a minimum, especially after a training sessions or punishments. Make sure he asks for permission to do every thing, even speak. Never argue or fight, this will kill built up horniness and submission.

Rules
1. Always address mistress as mistress or her approved name
2. Always ask for permission to do anything, including bathroom.
3. Always kneeling at all times, NAKED if possible. especially to ask for permissions or beg.
4. Keep pubic hair trimmed or shaved to mistress's specifications
5. Always show submission, at all times; example opening all doors, letting the mistress order food.
6. Never back talk or ask questions to the mistress, it is not your concern or your business.
7. Never ask for pussy or anything to do with it.
8. Obey all orders on command with out hesitation.
9. Get all daily chores done.
10. Respect and serve your mistress to the best of your ability, including lovers/boyfriends or friends.
11. Never touch the mistress or her property (tiny clit dick included)
12. Always address your self as the mistress property or her bitch

Remember your place, KEEP him in his!