Monday, July 6, 2009

Cuckolding and Your lover/Bull's role

Cuckolding is very EROTIC and HOT Topic that many women have asked me about. Both experienced and non-experienced women have questions of all sorts. I want to share this with all of you here on my Blog.

What's all the rave? Well, its no wonder why cuckolding is one of the fastest growing lifestyles both in the BDSM community and even in vanilla relationships. Most often in the vanilla life the female is fucking other men behind his back or he may even know about the extramarital sex but his natural submissiveness makes him powerless to do anything about it. The other way women have been taking advantage of better sex is the swinging lifestyle. There she has a little more freedom to fuck other men without the problems of cheating. Most of the time the female is the only one who plays and this gives the husband a taste of humility and a dip into cuckolding. However the dominatrix has all the benefits and the best sex as she will fuck her lover right in front of her PS while degrading him about his small penis size. This act builds her power and she uses this power and sexual freedom to deepen his submission, humiliate him, and drive his horniness level off the chart. Unlike the vanilla female who has an affair because of his lack of manhood, ability to use it, or premature ejaculation and hides it, or hotwife (swinging lifestyle) that may get the occasional fuck by whom ever is at the meet that night, the cuckholdress has no problem flaunting the relationship with her Boyfriend/ lovers/bull. She makes the rules and fucks who she wants when she wants and she is begged to do it. She humiliates her hubby about how much bigger cocks they have than his, and how their ability to please her is far better than he ever could. Fact of the matter, she is turned on by all of it and his humiliation and submission only fuels her hunger for power, and the more she does it the more submissive he becomes, and the more he begs her to do it....Its the perfect cycle!

Still, Cuckolding offers things to all the types of women, however for the cuckoldress it offers far more!  For the vanilla female it offers a better sex life, more excitement, an increased sex drive, and higher self esteem. The draw backs are she could get caught, and endanger the relationship, the sex is sporadic, and she may even end up having sex with both partners the same night, her lover and Husband. Which may or may not be a problem, but when you've been fucked really good by your lover you really don't want sex with your husband, but you probably already know this. This could lead to a chance of getting caught through smell (sex has a certain smell) of course you could turn him down if he would be ok with that but to many times of turning him down for sex, will cause arguments and he may start to question you and your away activities. This can also eventually create problems in the marriage and may even lead to him having an affair. 

The Hotwife gets a little better but she is limited by who shows up for the meets, plus most Hotwifes are reluctant to really let go in front of their husband and enjoy the better sex for fear of hurting feelings. She is also having sex for his pleasure, which is not so much of a bad thing but this puts her as more of a performer playing a role in the act. The other downsides is the husband is an active participant that limits how much sex she has and/or the types of guys she fucks because of jealousy (unfortunately the opposite race is out most of the time). Which only compounds as the wife naturally prefers sex with the lover and the husbands finds himself getting less sex.

Now for the dominatrix, the rewards are huge and there are no draw backs. Adding cuckholdress to your title as dominatrix opens all doors and the possibilities never stop. First, the husband or more suited name "Bitch" is not an active party, as in he has no say so of who you fuck or how much you fuck. You are also free to date on a regular basis (most often a serious relationship). You get the pleasure of enjoying the best and most erotic sex life and not care of his feelings with the point to humiliate him and rub his fucking nose in the fact you have better sex with a more endowed man. Also you are having sex solely for your pleasure not his, like it should be. So your not playing a role or need to act a certain way, in fact you are free to have sex away from your bitch and not in his presence. You never have to worry about fucking your bitch after sex with your Boyfriend as most Dom's completely deny the bitch sex after taking a full time boyfriend, to the point he is forced to wear a chastity permanently. Did I mention you never have to explain yourself or get questioned about your business, that's right what you do with your Boyfriend, when you do it, or how you do it, especially with regards to sex, is none of his business. This includes but not limited to inviting another girl or guy for threesome's with your boyfriend, having sex without a condom which is a form of ownership and very humiliating to your bitch (although Your bitch is always made to lick clean the mess, he is not allowed to question you about it), or allowing or performing sexual activities with your boyfriend that you have never, would never allow your bitch to do....Like anal sex, fucking you at work, Blow jobs in the car, swallowing his cum after blow jobs (this really excites boyfriends especially if he knows you don't do it for your bitch) and even submitting to him in some manner.  

You will get horny and excited just off the power alone, let alone the excitement of having a hot well endowed boyfriend and have the best sex ever. As far as your boyfriends that are aware of your bitch (stated as an open relationship) they are extremely aroused by the fact you completely deny your bitch anything to do with the "boyfriends pussy". After a date night and a good hard fucking by your boyfriend, your bitch gets nothing but cleaning up the mess, unless you decide to allow him a privilege of looking at your swollen pussy, or possibly smelling your boyfriends freshly fucked pussy, or maybe you may opt to fuck your bitch (especially if he is a sissy) with his favorite cock, then again you may want to prove to him that this is the way it will be and cane his ass into submission followed by him worshiping your feet and ass (licking them both) leading to a full body message before you put him back into his cage (or on the floor if no cage) for the night. 

Most of the time a bitch is never allowed anything to do with pussy, he has been or is being trained to be a sissy and his only orgasms are through anal penetration. Even if he hates this or finds it humiliating, he will eventually be begging you to fuck him with your strap on. After some time of begging and going with out, and ONLY if he has been a good bitch, he has begged you properly, and only after you have been pleased by your lover, will you give him that privilege! And the whole time he is begging you to fuck him harder, your going to humiliate him about how your lovers cock feels and pleases you even better than your larger dildo he's getting fucked with and tell him to take your cock like the little bitch he is, and telling him to beg to be your little slut or your going to stop! Not to mention that he is so pussy whipped by you, and trained to please you that he will go with out sex indefinitely. He would be happy to just smell your pussy.

WITH PROPER TRAINING and Just by doing what pleases you, meeting and fucking other men, your bitch will be begging you to get fucked, begging to please you while you get fucked, and begging you to lock his little cock away for good. Plus you will greatly raise your confidence level, build self esteem, and increase your sex drive. Also frequent sex strengthens your immune system, boost your metabolism and burns more calories per minute than working out. It also tightens your pussy, levels your body's hormones which can decreases depression, and it can firm up your breast. Think about it, you get to experience the best most fulfilling sex you ever had, the freedom to do it with whom you want, as often as you want, and he must remain celibate/sexless and orgasm free till you decide, obey your every command, and serve you.....Plus he is extremely happy, turned on and begs you to do it. What could be better!

Some regular Questions I get; How many lovers should I have? Does sex really feel better with a bigger dick?  How often should I fuck my lover? Do black guys have bigger dicks? Should my lover spend the night and should I be intimate with my lover? Should I let my lover Dom my Sub? Should I or is it OK to leave my Sub hubby at home and go fuck my lover at his house or a hotel?

First off, You are women, sex is for your pleasure and your pleasure is to be the first priority of your lover, boyfriend, or bull and your PS. Men can not have the types of orgasms, or as long of an orgasm as women. they also can't have as intense of orgasms or number of orgasms women can and it is your sexual freedom and sexual power that will drive both your lover and your PS wanting to please your pussy anyway you allow them. With that in mind, from your pleasure both your lover and you PS will get pleasure, from your moans and screams your lover will know he is pleasing you causing him to fuck better, harder and deeper. From your moans and screams, your PS will know that you are being please "better" and he will want to please you his way, by submitting to and obeying you. Rather he's fucking you for the first time or the 20th time, your lover/boyfriend knows its his job to please your pussy to the best of his ability because if he doesn't more than likely he will not be getting anymore pussy from you. 95% of males can only orgasm once, and most of the pleasure a man feels from sex is from when he climaxes...That is his reward for pleasing you sexually and the energy built to that point will be spent making sure you are pleased enough to want sex with him again. It is a studied fact that when a man hears a female moan or scream during sex that he has a biological drive to please her more and is more turned on.

As you know both have different roles in giving you pleasure but the outcome is the same; your pleasure, your way. The only difference between your lover and your bitch is that your lover will also get pleased sexually while your PS only gets pleasure you grant him from watching and/or hearing.

 Your lover, boyfriend, or bull can give you the pleasure you deserve. And any women that has had the pleasure and experience of a thick cock knows that there is no better, longer, or stronger orgasm especially in comparison between your bitches little tiny dick and your lovers thick cock. There is no going back to a small, puny dick. Simply put there is no stronger or better orgasm than that of a man who has a thick cock and can use it. Fact is, even if your PS can give you an orgasm (maybe even pleasing you), he can't do or compare to the pleasure you get from a bigger, thinker cock. But not only can he offer you a bigger, thicker more fulfilling cock, he can last longer, he can pound harder and faster. He can give the excitement of a new cock (new feeling, new texture, new style of fucking) the thrill of another man wanting your pussy. The excitement and passion especially if you have already fucked his bigger cock and know just how much better it really is, will excite you! You will actually get horny, and yes even WET thinking about fucking him and you may even find yourself thinking about fucking him often. Most of all fucking your lover combines the best pleasure you'll ever have with power. You get as much cock as you want while your PS gets locked into his chastity rarely or never allowed to have pussy. SO AGAIN, What could be better?

Finding a sex partner; There are several kinds of sex partners to play with and there are many ways to find a them. First there is the kinky or dominate Stud type, known as a bull.  This is the guy that you fuck in front of your bitch, he may also help humiliate your bitch and you might even have your bitch serve him in what ever ways you see fit but I'll go into that later in the topic. Another type is called a boyfriend, he is the dating type, usually better looking. He is not aware of your bitch and you never play in front of your bitch with him. At best, your bitch is only allowed to listen via a muted phone. He is the guy used to create mystery. Your bitch wonders if your fucking him or not, how loud your screaming, what position your in, and how much bigger his cock is than his. Then when you get home from your date you fill him in on all the steamy details and sit your cum filled pussy on his face to clean out. Then there is a lover type. He is the guy that fucks you with or with out your bitch watching. He usually doesn't get involved with your situation and may not even know he is your bitch.

Some dominatrix find lovers on Internet sites specializing in sexual encounters. These vary from BDSM to swinging sites and clubs to hook up sites like Ashly Madison. There are some who meet men at vanilla dance clubs, bars, or dating sites, letting that lucky guy know early on(after a few dates) he is only there for sex. ( I have never heard of any man turning this down). Regardless of what type of male your looking for, where or how your looking for him, keep in mind that looks should not be that important....But most women including my self need some sort of attraction to have sex. However you will find that conversation will open up those doors and try not to judge before you get to know them. I have been greatly pleased by some of the normal/ average looking men, even over the better looking ones and its all about the cock. Also when picking up a lover, regardless of where you meet them, always be safe! If going out by yourself, stay in contact with your PS, let him know where you are at all times, and if you leave with a guy, never drive with them. Always follow them and also let your PS know the year, make, model, and plate number. When you get to your lovers house or hotel, let your PS know the street and address.  Remember once you have found a lover, you need to let him know early on (with in 2 or 3 times of fucking) that he is only there for sex. It is possible to have one boyfriend unaware of your situation (saying your single) as long as you can play without complications of emotional attachment from him or you for that matter.
To help prevent that YOU should be involved with several guys 3 or 4, and you should let him know your not wanting anything more than a friends with benefits type thing.

When you have a guy, you should come up with new ways to use your lover to humiliate you bitch. The best typer to have (at least one or two) is the bull who acts his part in it, fucking you good and hard in front of your PS and helps you humiliate your PS. Making your PS server both of you, and even participate in pleasing you while your getting fucked by him, like sucking your feet while your getting fucked missionary style, licking your ass while your being fucked on top of your lover riding style, or licking your clit while you laying back on your lover your back to his chest....Or come up with your own ways. Eventually you may even take pussy completely away (only allowing him to watch you get fucked once a week or so- when he's been a good little bitch) and blind fold your bitch while your getting fucked so he can only hear you getting fucked or not even allow him the privilege of hearing and make him do chores while your getting fucked or kneeling in the corner of another room. You could even go out on a fuck date and bring home your cum filled pussy and make him do clean out while you tell him all about the sexual encounter. Also try to remember that your description and details will help him visualize and paint a picture in his mind, be pretty graphic, use words like Fuck, suck, and other words to describe your night of sex with your lover/boyfriend. Don't be shy about it, and don't leave out detail!! On the same note, remember to not say things to bring him down of his edge, if you didn't enjoy yourself or the sex was not up to par, then try no to focus on this part of it. Always try to make it look like you had a good time and no matter what your lovers/boyfriends cock is bigger than your PS. The most important thing is to try new things and do what turns you on! Remember what ever your doing, to be strict, humiliating, and degrading! Come up with your own ways to humiliate him and combine not being able to watch you get fucked. A for good idea of how to act and be you should watch one of my favorite video's here; http://www.romanvideo.net/cuckold17.html  Also below is a few videos of how you can humiliate him, notice how she talks to him and how she degrades and humiliates him.

PUSHING THE BOUNDARIES

There are many ways to push the boundaries and break his will, they range from having your bull present during a training session or punishment, maybe even joining in....All the way up to having your bitch serve your bull/lover and even perform oral on your bull/lover or allowing your bull to fuck your bitch (condom on of course) while he is tied down. It can be very erotic for a mistress to get oral from her lover while her bitch is sucking his cock hard and getting it ready to fuck her.He may even be forced to clean the cum out of her pussy then go right to sucking her loves cock to get him hard and ready to go again (especially if the mistress is not in the mood for sucking much cock).  Her bitch may then even be forced to put the lovers cock inside her pussy while she humiliates him. She may also enjoy having her bitch fucked doggie style while he sucks on her strap on dildo, maybe even switching it up by her fucking her bitch while her lover pulls off the condom and the bitch sucks his cock. This is especially something the mistress will want to explore if she is sissy/maid training  or bitch training, as his ass is now his pussy and treated in that aspect in every way all the way from getting fucked by dildos and real cocks to being made to wear a Koetex or Tampon for a few days in a row while she is on her period. His pussy is her property and she is free to have done with it as she pleases, especially having it fucked.

The question is, what turns you on or how much humiliation are you willing to give to your bitch?
First, a true Dominatrix will insist on extreme humiliation and complete submission and there is pretty much nothing more submissive and humiliating than have to suck your lovers cock hard and get it ready to fuck you or getting fucked in the ass. (as long as it doesn't get her bitch hurt or let know to friends and family of their lifestyle) She knows that just because her bitch is sucking her lovers cock or taking his cock in the ass does NOT make him gay or look bad in anyway....Its not really even a sexual act for him, its just humiliation, submission and him taking his true place. It simply shows her power, his obedience, and that he is a true little bitch. However this will not happen over night and may take a few months to achieve. These acts are humiliating, very much, so start slow by bringing it up during a training session. Make sure he is good and horny before you start, and make sure you've not missed a training day. Talk dirty and humiliating to him, bring up by saying hes your bitch and tell him to agree. Make him say it, then repeat it louder. Tell him his cock is nothing more than an over grown clit and his ass is now your pussy. Tell him you just might make him wear panties( your choice if you do or not) Then tell him you might even start looking for a lover for him to serve and fuck him in his pussy. Eventually with no sex or orgasm, and really good training he will be begging for his mistress to fuck him and willing to do anything for it, this is the time you will train him to get fucked by and suck your lovers cock, this is the time you will bring him to one of his ultimate humiliation, and break his will. put on the strap on and tease him with it, rub it against his ass. Make him start begging you to fuck him, at the same time you should be stroking his little clit. once he is good and begging, slide it in and slowly work it. Start humiliating him about getting fucked by your lover, speed up and fuck him harder, tell him you want him begging to have your lover fuck him or your going to stop(if he won't stop and start to pull it out slowly) once he is begging start fucking him again, grab the base of his cock and balls tight and start taking long and slightly hard stroke of fucking him. Ask him how bad he wants you to get him fucked by your lover and make him tell you. Stop fucking him but leave the dildo in his ass, get out your huge dildo and tell him to open up make him suck it like it was your lover, tell him to get it real fucking hard and ready to fuck you. tell him to do his best or he's in trouble and you will stop fucking him. As he starts sucking tell him the better he tries and harded he sucks then you'll start fucking him again. Make him suck it for a bit, and start fucking his mouth with it.
By now he is sucking hard and you are back to pounding his ass, but don't let him get off!
Now its time to put it away and pull your cock out, humiliate him about things and continue training.
A few weeks of this and he will be ready! Now keep in mind that saying he'll suck your lover and fuck your lover while in the heat of the moment is one thing but reality is different. When its all set up but before you get going, you'll need to raise his horniness level just like in training, then you will need to make sure he is tied down in some manner on his knees next to the bed (if he has the ability have him make you a device to do this) Have your lover come over and put his cock close to his face, with one hand reach between your bitch's legs and play with his cock, with the other hand grab your lovers cock and start stroking it after a few seconds let go of your bitch's cock and grab his balls fairly tight and in a firm strict voice say,"its time for you to take your place and suck his cock! You better get it good and hard, and ready for me to fuck! Now open your mouth and start sucking the way you were trained".
Now push his head onto your lovers cock and start stroking his cock again. After a few seconds let go and get up on the bed laying back so your lover can lick your pussy. When your ready for cock sit up grab your bitch's hair and pull him off your lovers cock. undo his locks for one arm and tell him to put it in. Once he has finished fucking you, start all over to get his cock hard again! Use your own set up, plan it the way you want, just have fun with it!! Now when it comes to your lover fucking your bitch, again you'll have to tie him down and again if possible have him make you a device to accommodate as you will need the bed for you and your lover. If not possible try to tie him in a manner that he can be fucked with out taking up room you need on the bed for a good fucking. Then start stroking and playing with his cock, get him worked up a bit and lube his ass at the same time. Now start sucking your lovers cock and then have him put on a condom. Again lube his ass and have your lover slowly slide it in and start fucking. While he is getting fucked make sure you humiliate him and make him beg to keep getting fucked! Remember to not let him get off, leave him horny and wanting more, so make sure your lover knows ahead of time. Again make up your own events, use your imagination and make sure its degrading and humiliating for him but fun and exciting and a turn on for you!!




More to come....